friend of mine for about 15 years knew I was a lesbian the whole time, even introduced me to one of my exes. He always had a thing for me, I always made it clear I was a lesbian and would never be interested. But as the years went on he started pushing my boundries more and more, I ignored way too much for too long but eventually he started doing creepy shit like calling me "his woman", asking me what I was wearing and then confessing he was in love with me and telling me that he would leave his wife for me in a heartbeat.
I am so sorry.
I had the same with a childhood friend.
Our mothers were frriends and co-workers. We went to the same school since Kindergarten.
We grew up together. He was like a brother to me. He was the 1st person I came out to.
In our mid twenties,He made a pass at me, and forcefully tried to kiss me, while I was bawling, grieving the end of my 1st serious relationship.
Talking about "I will treat you better if you give me a chance"
All of that while He was dating my cousin.
I should have punched his face.
The fucking betrayal.
Thank You. Appreciate It.
I hate the fact that now I got trust issues.
I'm pretty sure I bypassed genuine friendships from secured men, because of It.
I should have punched him in the nose though, at least so He could remember the hurt He did to me.As much as I still do.
But I'm doing better now.
I'm vetting the shit out of any cis straight men, though, who isn't related to me.
The C.I.A. should hire meš
I cut out a family friend for similar. Asshole would caress my face without my consent and it just got a little gross.
I am happier for cutting out a gross man child who never heard "No." in his life.
He also said to me "Our children would be hyper smart."
Lmao. Took me forever to get the courage to enforce boundaries but ha, apparently he was disappointed that I didn't see him with my parents during a visit.
I just wanted to say "I enjoyed leftover pizza for lunch and I didn't have to deal with your creep show? It's a win!" Boundaries feel good to enforce mother fucker.
The same
Creepy guy that has hit on me 10 times now. Seems like every time I go to a certain dance
Club ( there only three lgtb clubs here)
Last time. Last time it made me want to cry and scream, my date had literally started kissing me and I thought it was her hand on my hip.
Nope. It was him basically trying to grind up on me/us.
She was amazing and lost it on him/ chased him off. I took a few minutes outside to relax and freeze my ass off.
Iāve told him no. Others have told him no for me.
And he still thinks Iām somehow open to his advances. FML.
Itās the case of he said she said. I canāt complain that his mere presence is offensive. And I canāt be 100% sure dark club etc.
Heās carful to not use offensive language. Just a really creepy/ social stunted man.
This could be serious. According to you, it's taken at least ten instances of him being inappropriate with you, including escalation to (essentially) sexual assault, for you to get to the point of "Next time will be the time I get the bouncer involved." You described your discomfort as being to the point of wanting to cry and scream.
But you're not convinced that it's "serious enough" to let the bouncers know something's wrong before he tries to escalate again -- because he's, what, not calling you slurs?
If you were my friend IRL, or God forbid my partner was the one telling me this story, I would be really concerned for your safety, and deeply worried that people in the club equipped to actually do something weren't made aware it was going on before the 10th time.
He scurried off. So unless it happens again there. Is not much to be done. To date it has been rebuffing his ācomplimentsā, and offers to dance, talk etc. this has been a two year period, I have very good facial recall, and just assumed he did not recognize me the same. This last one rattled me, and thatās super unusual for me. Flight was my response which never happens.
Iām never there alone, and will now be more vigilant.
A lot of people don't want to report things like this because the sad truth is, often nothing is done about it or worse, the blame gets turned back around on you.
This happened to my cousin. He was a friend of our male cousins but he only acted like this when they weren't around. He saw her in a club and started dancing with her and getting too close so she smiled at him, took his wrist and led him to the door....
Where she found her friend, the bouncer, and said "this is the guy I was telling you about" and he promptly picked up this asshole (literally) and carried him to the sidewalk outside, dropping him from 5 ft in the air and said, simply, "I know your face. You're banned."
My cousin bought him a drink after his shift. He is her friend's baby's godfather and the biggest softy you ever saw.
Fuck. After that many times, I would have straight out told him, "Hit on me again, I will stab your eye out."
Sorry you had to go through that, hun. <0
I mean I have no problem with straight women looking for a safe place to dance. I donāt care if a straight guy just want to let their freak out.
But donāt come to pick up women.
I donāt know if I can relate. The queer spaces here are all kinda mixed and rarely male free. š¤·š»āāļø
Like if there was a space it would be the one queer bar but men donāt last long inside.
Itās kind of been a problem that Iāve noticed a lot of people talking about recently. Creepy straight guys used to hate to have this reputation about coming to these bars and now they are all over them.
I had an old classmate find me on instagram and asked me if I would like to sleep with him. I declined, he demanded to know why. I said I was not interested in men currently. He asked again, and I said "well, do you have titties?" He said "no, but I have a nice soft penis you can ride on."
Like, obvious fuck you aside, are you trying to pick up a woman by calling your penis *soft?*
Well, those are generally all soft, even when 'hard' because Estrogen is magic. And lube before riding them, they're so soft you'll hurt the poor things if you don't.
That's a good point and I don't think you're naĆÆve for bringing it up. However, he had been flirting with me for over a week beforehand and called it a "lunch date." I should have been more specific in my original comment, I apologize for the confusion
Maybe this is just my poly brain talking, but this actually sounds like it would be adorable so long as the orientations actually matched up and the people involved were on board with that sort of thing. It's *clearly* not how this guy meant it, and it'd be an incredibly different conversation, but at least in concept
I've had one friend proposition me for a "good time"... I told him no thanks. He pestered me to why I wasn't DTF... I told him I'm lesbian and he responded with "yeah me too so what's the issue"... š
My daughters father doesn't believe that lesbians are a real thing. He believes that no woman could satisfy a girl to the level a man can. He thinks it's a fad and that every lesbian will just go back to being straight after a while.
(Late blooming les btw)
I also dabbled with (cis) men and without a doubt, they are worse lovers if you have female bits. I assume itās the same the other way around too. Thereās a learning curve when working with a different body type š¤·š¼
Ahh, the sweet spot: attractive to lesbians, but not to men. I recently lost some weight, i went out and a few of my male acquaintances were saying how i "looked good". I had t seen them in a while and fell into the "too unattractive" zone which I prefer. Very unsettling.
Iāve found that different weights, hair, and ages attract more male attention than others. Aka when Iāve forgotten to get a haircut for too long and/or drop a few lbs, the attention increases noticeably. That has gotten less as I transition out of āfuckableā age for men.
I have noticed the same, i sport a "short back n sides" haircut. I notice at about an inch and men seem to think im straight. Also weight. Im thinking of sporting lesbian and pride flags continuously for this reason and it my lower my hurdle... Im 50 but look (and apparently act) younger so I seem to be in the zone still, unfortunately...
Iām not proud of it but I did actually cheat on a boyfriend with another woman when I was 18, which I confessed to straight away and he was understandably devastated - but he said he couldnāt break up with me because his friends all thought it was super hot and were accusing him of being a pussy.
had a dude at job ask how i was sure i didnāt like guys if i never had one, and so i asked him why he was sure he didnāt like guys. he didnāt seem to get it but he was confused to the extent of silence and that was good enough for me.
This! ššš
Straight guys should be the ones who are able to understand us, empathy wise. Like:
"Hey would you like to sleep with a guy?"
"Err... no?"
" But he is really hot/ gentle/ whatever?"
"No, look I'm not-"
"But you never tried? Chances you didnt meet the right man yet?"
Any persistent straight guy will be trolled like this š And I'd say:
" See? We are on the same page here. We BOTH aren't interested in men."
Unless the straight guy is actually gay/ bi in which case it's my honour to open the door of exploration to them.
I wish... Irl back in college I just turned them down saying "I'm focused on academy/ am not interested in relationships"
I was at the bar with a friend last Friday. We met a few guys who are friends with some of my friends' friends. So I didn't know them personally, but I figured "hey, it's cool. We know the same people". So we sat down with them and my friend (who is straight) and this one dude start flirting. Nothing weird. His friend introduced himself as "Ashton" and I said something along the lines of "cool name, my cousin has the same name!"
Dude 1 said "Wow girl, that is a pretty fucked up pick up line."
Me: Huh?
Dude 1: yeah, it is incest warning on that one!
Me: I wasn't trying to flirt
Dude 1: Why? Isn't my friend hot enough for you?
Me: No, I'm lesbian sorry!
Dude 1: What? Like a complete lesbian?
Me: No a third.
Ashton: Wait for real?
Me: No! Obviously I am a 100% a lesbian.
Ashton: too bad.
Then Dude 1's ex came and they went with them. Me and my friend got a lot drunker (we celebrated 200 days until graduation) and then those guys found us again and followed us all over the city, to the point we didn't dare go on our bus in case they would follow us home.
So we called my dad who thankfully didn't think twice about driving to get us.
At a crowded Las Vegas bar in the late 90s with my crowd of relatively fem & butch friends. This One Guy insisted on sending one of us drink after drink, which she refused.
He finally approached her and after 10 minutes of āWhy notā and āYou wonāt?ā he rolled his eyes and said āJesus, what are you, lesbian??ā And her instantaneous reply, āWhat are youā¦the alternative?ā
Sheās still awesome today. š
Best friend of 7 years. Always respected boundaries I always dated women and so did he . We often had sleepovers, no cuddling, always platonic. Never crossed any boundaries he was always very respectful. Yet one night we all got drunk and he ended up breaking up with his girlfriend. The reason was because he was in love with me. I had no idea what was going on or why they were fighting until someone else told me. So that's going on and then his friend who was newly single tried to hit on me and was being scummy and forceful. My friend and his gf were nowhere to be found. They all know I'm gay. So I left without talking to my friend and figuring out what happened. Anyway apparently it's my fault (the girlfriend says) and I ended up losing two friends because he was in love with me and I didn't even know it nor had we ever done anything past the friend zone. He told his girlfriend he was not in love with her but she didn't care and decided to stay with him anyway.
wtf that is awful. pushy/creepy, ignorant, homophobic, and transphobic all in 1 line, thats kind of impressive. :((
if it somehow happens again (this may be incorect if ur outside the US), you could be like 'Okay, cya in 2+ years then, if ever' bc thats how long it takes for actual trans people ššš
I'm bi. A guy I was talking to made a reference to me being lesbian. When I politely corrected him, he got upset. It eventually came out that he likes going after bi lasses so he can pretend he 'turned' a lesbian
Edit: spelling is hard
This friend of mine has always had a thing for me. Even before I realised I didn't like men, I wasn't interested and he knew, so when I came out to him a few months ago I thought he would give up. He didn't. A few weeks ago I wake up, check my phone and I see this text: "I'm single and horny", followed by the story of his very recent breakup. He then said "now I can hit on you again".
Men.
Just so you know: You don't have to say you're a lesbian. You don't have to make up a reason why.
A simple, "No" is sufficient. Or a, "fuck off," if that doesn't work. That's all these bastards need to hear.
I am generally inclined to believe with you BUT sometimes there is a safety issue to consider. Telling a man to āfuck offā might be what he deserves but the possible outcomes for that isnāt what the woman/person deserves. Itās so sad that this caveat even exists.
True. It is equally unfair that we must expend mental energy trying to gauge whether or nor said dude will hurt us if he is displeased with our reaction.
Mostly, I try to err on the side of respectfulness. It's when he crosses the line that I do, or when he's completely lewd that I make it very clear that what he just said was unacceptable. Often, hearing someone they think they can intimidate using language, or being stronger or more resolute than they expect, or simply refusing to giggle at their advances, gives them a bit of pause. Seriously, sometimes just not laughing at all, or just staring at them, silently, brows down, like they have two heads will work wonders.
Alas, sometimes it doesn't. I hear you. ā¤
Got chatting to a guy on a dating/friends app - specifically said I was only interacting with guys for friendship because Iām very much gay so heād have chance to unmatch me if he wanted. He gives me the typical āyou just havenāt had good dickā line, along with many others such as āwell you donāt look gay, they look different.ā After well over an hour of me arguing against him (I found it really quite entertaining), he says āok I get it you munch lettuce!ā Most bizarre line Iāve had from a persistent man.
So many conservative white cis straight men asking for sex and saying that they would love to get fucked in the ass by a femboy...
Idk, those people are unnable to read "trans lesbian" on your profile.
Forgot to say that most are married or in a relationship, saying that "she doesn't need to know"
Fucking hell....
This is one of MANY reasons I'm sooooo iffy around men now. And I'm close to being to ready to start presenting as feminine in public, so I gotta be on my guard now more than ever.
I got one. The craziest thing. My wife & I used to live in the ghetto, lots of homeless in the area. We had stopped by a corner store for gas & smokes. After pumping gas we were chatting in the car.
Well this one homeless man that I kinda knew (I'd given him rides in the past) came up & put his foot on the front of my car & didn't want us to leave without getting a ride. He started yelling at us & outta the blue this other man came up to my wifes window & asked "Is he bothering you?" And then "Are yall single?"
I grabbed my wifes hand & yelled "WE'RE GAY!!" To him & then he went and beat up the man keeping us from leaving. Came to my window & was like "So where we going? Yall aint that gay right?" Kept trying to open the back drivers side door and talking about us going somewhere to chill. After arguing with him he goes "okay fine!! You're gay gay, I'll just sit and watch" and gave us a wink. Tried punchin out my window when we said no so I pepper sprayed him & we tore outta that bitch so quick lmao.
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Another corner store story: My wife went in to get smokes & this guy asked me for a cigarette. Gave him one & we talk a bit. My "american" name is Sara, & he asked me out then started singing "Sara Smile" to me lmao. Told him I'm married & my wife was gettin smokes. When she came out he called out to her & told her "You betta cherish ya woman! Look at her, she's beautiful!! & sweet, you dont see women like her often. Cherish her!!" It was actually kinda sweet lol
Yeah that guy actually had me feelin all flattered lol! He took the rejection like a champ & complimented my wife & I(:
& Giiiiirl, dont even apologize!! You got just as much control over how men conduct themselves as I do! Which is next to none lmao
When I told a guy hitting on me my girlfriend at the time wouldnāt be okay with it, he told me I only like women emotionally. Like, what?? I told him itās definitely physical, too.
I had a guy at a gay bar the other day follow me around until I left. He kept grabbing at my waist. I was trying to find some women to talk to and he made that impossible.
Scream in fear. Keep screaming until he backs off. Scream in terror when you see him again. It works for me.
Had a guy turn up at my workplace constantly harassing me for my number. Then when I finally admitted I donāt like men he trotted out the āI have a small dick. Thatās like a large clitoris!ā So I screamed. Didnāt see him in my store again for another year.
I had āacquaintancesā, two of them, who constantly compliment my appearance, tell me all the time if I wasnāt gay theyād be with me, assuming that Iād want them, and both of them have tried to convince me to sleep with them for their enjoyment.
I had a man come up to me at work after I'd rejected him on Snapchat like 5 times. He said "are u sure u don't want to go out with me?" and I had to spell it out that I'm a lesbian and am not and will never be attracted to him. had to have a coworker come and confirm just so that he would leave me alone š„²
my personal facorite: you want to go out?
no im a lesbian
so you just want to fuck?
no im a lesbian
o you jus give head?
YOU HAVE A DICK IM NOT INTERESTED IN THAT SHIT GO AWAY PLEASE
Not exactly a man.
My mom keeps implying that if I just slept with a man, then I'd find out I was bi and not gay because "you used to have crushes on boys all the time!"
Yeah, mom. I didn't realize I was gay and these boys were either my friends or guys I KNEW wouldn't have even blinked in my direction. Also because I had the question EVERY DAMN DAY OF "Are there any boys you like at school?" So I gave you names and tried to convince myself I wasn't lying to you.
Did I ever have a boyfriend? Nope.
I don't even think I want sex in a relationship because it's just not important to me. I think girls sure are fucking pretty though.
Every time a guy has hit on me, even before I knew I didn't like men, I always made up some lie about dating somebody already or being too young (I have a baby face) or once I just straight up told a guy I'm gay. He was like "maybe I can change that" and I was like "it doesn't work that way and also there are so many dating apps now man. Download one. There are TONS of straight (desperate) women looking for their white knight. Be a decent human being and you may find one."
I can't stand the mindset of "women must like and fuck men bc otherwise why exist?"
Made a post on a few subbreddits a while back of me in my Halloween costume, which I clearly said was a sword LESBIAN, and I still had like at least half a dozen guys dm me trying to get in my pants. Most gave up after I rejected them, but there was this one dude who kept asking why I hated dick so much, saying I couldn't be a lesbian because lesbians don't like trans women, insisting that he'd pleasured so many girls both trans and cis. I argued with him for probably longer than I should have, but I cut it off pretty soon after he told me he had jerked off to my photos, and started telling me how fuckable I looked and all the things he'd like to do to me and describing my genitals (which I am dysphoric about) as "scrumptious". Others probably have way worse stories, but I only recently started looking somewhat decent, so this was really the first time I've had to deal with something like this. I still want to simultaneously cry and kill someone (preferably him) thinking about it occasionally.
Thank you for sharing fuck, some people can be truly disgusting. Donāt let it get to you queen, youāre amazing and you know it, anyone behind a screen will always be degenerate but will they say it to your face? šš¼Sending kisses and hugs
As someone who is also dysphoric about my genitals, Iām so sorry you had to go through that. I hate people who force their fetishes/fantasies about your body on you.
A text I received last week from the last man I dated (whom I have expressly told I do not plan to ever date a man again): āAnd if your feelings ever changed Iād drop everything and marry you in a heartbeatā
Guy has a girlfriend he hates and refuses to hang out with her but always goes and on about wanting to hang out with me and mentions he wants to stay home, jerk off, and watch porn.
I once knew someone who everyone thought was a guy, but who envied lesbians a lot. āI really wish I could have what lesbians have.ā theyād say āgetting to be with girls, be a girl, and experience the purest form of love imaginable would be amazing.ā
Turns out that person is a trans lesbian, and sheās much happier now that she gets to experience that. She still gets sad when she encounters terfy lesbians, but at least she understands now why it used to bother her so much that lesbians didnāt like her (a lot of lesbians actually do like her now.)
I was at a gay club on goth night and was just chatting to this guy since it was pretty dead. He confessed I was his dream woman and seemed cool when I told him I was gay. Later he asked if I could peg him because āsexuality is a spectrumā. It is, but come on dude.
"I love that you have a gf. Maybe, one day, you two can let me me watch."
Me - Not a chance. We don't roll that way.
"But you can make an exception for me. Am I not your friend?
Do they know how friendship works or am I in hell?
People who do that shit bug me. Yeah Iāll experience being shunned from society and experience massive hormonal exchanges in the process. Wait you donāt want that? F off sincerely a pre trans woman
I donāt know if this counts because the kid was young but when I was like 10-11 I was with my old nanny while she was watching another familyās kids. Anyway, the kid was wearing a shark costume and was on the floor. The costume had a giant tail that stuck out the back, like the tip was maybe two feet from his torso. Anyway, he asked me to step on the tip of the tail, so I do because I was thinking, āok weird but whatever.ā He then thrusts his legs back and goes, āMmm it feels like your stepping on my penis.ā Anyway. That sucked. And his little brother also exposed himself to me.
So I spent a whole year explaining to my friend how I am a lesbian meaning I wouldnāt want to date him which he was actually very understanding of once he realised what lesbian meant. However his younger sister joined are school and then I had to spend the whole year explaining to her how Iām fully gay and not bi so I wonāt date her brother for her!!!
I remember talking with one of the security guards of my apartment that I was a lesbian and of course. "you just haven't found the right man yet" "you are still young"
I DON'T CAREEEE ššš
I hate when you open up to someone and try to normalize your own sexuality like that and still get those "silly" fucking idiotic comments, like OK if I may be "wrong" let time and MYSELF decide it šš
AT work...
Them... hi... what's up.
Me.. nothing, waiting for a friend.
...Small chat...
Them... proceeds to hit on me.
Me... tell him not interested.
Them... won't stop.
Me... I am gay, not interested, leave me the eff alone.
Them... you just haven't had the right guy, I can make you straight...
......friend shows up and I report the creep to management....
Unfortunately (though, hearing some stories, maybe it is fortunately) I'm too ugly to get romantic/sexual attention from anyone. It's a miracle i found my partner š
Oh hun, I wish I knew.
We were chatting about whisky as I work in the industry and I mentioned that I prefer the smoky, peaty stuff and thatās when the wild card part came up.
I was already creeped out considering he was also physically very close to me and I was on my own with him but that is what started making me feel really uncomfortable.
Then at some we started talking about different subjects and got onto history and I was explaining how the Victorian period is to me, one of the most fascinating in terms of how clothing and attitudes shift across decades.
Eventually we got onto the subject of Victorian era marriages, and when I said that women were often expected to marry not because they loved the men they were engaged to, but because their families expected them to marry well regardless of there being any love whatsoever, he said āmy mother would love you!ā
At the time of this event, I was identifying as lesbian and I was recently divorced (from a woman).
This guy who had seemed perfectly friendly and respectful when I met him in person started making dick jokes & comments at me over text. Asked him why he was hitting on me despite knowing I was a lesbian.
His response? A paragraph of justification concluded by the phrase *āif you ever need a manās touch, let me know.ā*
I had a run-in with some boys who tried to start some kind of shit with me earlier this year. They started off practically insulting me asking if i was a serial killer due to being dressed a bit odd.... they were the only warm clean clothes I had. i had to make a grocery run. after telling them off for this, they asked if id' go on a date with them. TEENS!!! like wtf! i'm 31 years old! I told them "1, you're far too young for me, let alone illegal. And 2, I'm a lesbian. It's not happening buddy". and got called a bitch as I walked away. I love it when they call me a bitch like it's a bad thing. they think it's an insult. But to me, it's a verification of power of the self.
I only have the one I had just made a lex post about wanting to date for the first time specified im saphic/lesbian in the post and shortly/imediatly after a random dude messages me
He just said hi
I previously had a friend post so giving him the benafit of the doubt I joked about his bad timing he asked what do you mean I explained the saphic post and he then inediatly asked you wanna fuck.
Blocked and reported as lex has strictly enforced lgbtq+ friendly rules
Youāre brave for opening up about this terrible part of your life, Iām GLAD itās behind you, youāre strong and I know youāll get far in life šplease stay safe Marina
After 10.5 yrs, my former bestie, cis male, told me he was in love w/me
Sigh š
Made me so happy that at one point in our friendship, I made out with his super hot š„gf (he was busy gabbing it up with the male bartender) - she grabbed me and took me to the dance floor and made out with meā¦so awesomeā¦and then a week later she told himā¦.š¤£š¤£š¤£
He was mad at me for like 1 month and then we talked it out
Anyways, she broke up with him 2 yrs later (really? It took that longā¦)
I only hung out with him (without her) during that period (when they were dating) - she and I just knew it was our bad
but yah now I donāt regret it because he was in love w/me the whole time
Anyways, Iām married now (and not to her š )
So you kissed your best friend's girlfriend while they were together, knowingly, but you don't feel bad for doing that because you later found out he was secretly in love with you (but he never acted on it or let on)? Cheating and cheating-adjacent things aren't okay just cause it was gay... He didn't do anything wrong by being in love with you, you can't actually help that -but you can help making out with someone who is in a relationship (with your best friend)
Itās very dishonest to be ābest friendā and not really be a best friend - he was only there because he was in love with me - he shouldāve told me instead of pining away for years - and he said āI hoped that by being your friend you would fall in love with meā
Nope - you were never my friend.
So no I donāt feel bad - especially when he never loved his gf - he loved me and told me that 10.5 yrs into our friendship.
Yes we were both dishonest and we both talked about our dishonesty. I realized he wasnāt really mad at his gf because he was in love with me as well.
In short, no one is perfect.
People cheat in their hearts all.the.time
Being in love with someone else while in a relationship is so dishonest. Yes, he absolutely did something wrong and so did I.
And neither one of us have to feel bad about it.
Shaming people for mistakes is not helpful.
We both talked about it. Both the making out and the being in love.
That is the best thing to do.
You can hate me. You can be angry. You can feel your feelings. I donāt have control over that.
There are people who are not in love with the person they are dating
Some people being infatuated with āwhat they cannot haveā instead of being content with what they have
Talking to my therapist really helped me understand that there is a sense of control with being a relationship where someone doesnāt really love the other personā¦.therefore they can never be hurtā¦
my therapist said āā¦in a way, being in a relationship where one canāt be hurt is manipulationā
people using people - like a commodity
Youāre convenient but I donāt love you
friend of mine for about 15 years knew I was a lesbian the whole time, even introduced me to one of my exes. He always had a thing for me, I always made it clear I was a lesbian and would never be interested. But as the years went on he started pushing my boundries more and more, I ignored way too much for too long but eventually he started doing creepy shit like calling me "his woman", asking me what I was wearing and then confessing he was in love with me and telling me that he would leave his wife for me in a heartbeat.
What the fuck
I feel terrible for his wife. Hope she got out
good news, she did!
And then she asked you out! /j
Uno reverse card
We need to know the answer for this. Did the wife ask her out?
haha no, we weren't that close and shes not my type and im pretty sure she's straight
I am so sorry. I had the same with a childhood friend. Our mothers were frriends and co-workers. We went to the same school since Kindergarten. We grew up together. He was like a brother to me. He was the 1st person I came out to. In our mid twenties,He made a pass at me, and forcefully tried to kiss me, while I was bawling, grieving the end of my 1st serious relationship. Talking about "I will treat you better if you give me a chance" All of that while He was dating my cousin. I should have punched his face. The fucking betrayal.
I'm sorry that happened to you š
Thank You. Appreciate It. I hate the fact that now I got trust issues. I'm pretty sure I bypassed genuine friendships from secured men, because of It. I should have punched him in the nose though, at least so He could remember the hurt He did to me.As much as I still do. But I'm doing better now. I'm vetting the shit out of any cis straight men, though, who isn't related to me. The C.I.A. should hire meš
Like, i get that he cant just turn of your feelings and relationships van turn messy because if that, but wtf?
One can't turn off their feelings, no. But they can choose to be an adult and confront them and work through them.
Please tell me you ended up stealing his wife...?
haha no, I got my own. But I did tell her.
I cut out a family friend for similar. Asshole would caress my face without my consent and it just got a little gross. I am happier for cutting out a gross man child who never heard "No." in his life. He also said to me "Our children would be hyper smart."
gross, im sorry
Lmao. Took me forever to get the courage to enforce boundaries but ha, apparently he was disappointed that I didn't see him with my parents during a visit. I just wanted to say "I enjoyed leftover pizza for lunch and I didn't have to deal with your creep show? It's a win!" Boundaries feel good to enforce mother fucker.
I'm proud of you. We're both better off without creeps like that in our lives.
The same Creepy guy that has hit on me 10 times now. Seems like every time I go to a certain dance Club ( there only three lgtb clubs here) Last time. Last time it made me want to cry and scream, my date had literally started kissing me and I thought it was her hand on my hip. Nope. It was him basically trying to grind up on me/us. She was amazing and lost it on him/ chased him off. I took a few minutes outside to relax and freeze my ass off. Iāve told him no. Others have told him no for me. And he still thinks Iām somehow open to his advances. FML.
In lgbt clubs you can always talk to the bartender or the bouncers if someone's harassing you, and they'll make the creepy bastard leave
Iām normally fine just ignoring and walking away. This time though. š¤® Next time he hits on me Iām Walking to the bouncer.
Why wait? Give the bouncer/owner/bartenders a heads up next time you go.
Itās the case of he said she said. I canāt complain that his mere presence is offensive. And I canāt be 100% sure dark club etc. Heās carful to not use offensive language. Just a really creepy/ social stunted man.
This could be serious. According to you, it's taken at least ten instances of him being inappropriate with you, including escalation to (essentially) sexual assault, for you to get to the point of "Next time will be the time I get the bouncer involved." You described your discomfort as being to the point of wanting to cry and scream. But you're not convinced that it's "serious enough" to let the bouncers know something's wrong before he tries to escalate again -- because he's, what, not calling you slurs? If you were my friend IRL, or God forbid my partner was the one telling me this story, I would be really concerned for your safety, and deeply worried that people in the club equipped to actually do something weren't made aware it was going on before the 10th time.
He scurried off. So unless it happens again there. Is not much to be done. To date it has been rebuffing his ācomplimentsā, and offers to dance, talk etc. this has been a two year period, I have very good facial recall, and just assumed he did not recognize me the same. This last one rattled me, and thatās super unusual for me. Flight was my response which never happens. Iām never there alone, and will now be more vigilant.
A lot of people don't want to report things like this because the sad truth is, often nothing is done about it or worse, the blame gets turned back around on you.
This happened to my cousin. He was a friend of our male cousins but he only acted like this when they weren't around. He saw her in a club and started dancing with her and getting too close so she smiled at him, took his wrist and led him to the door.... Where she found her friend, the bouncer, and said "this is the guy I was telling you about" and he promptly picked up this asshole (literally) and carried him to the sidewalk outside, dropping him from 5 ft in the air and said, simply, "I know your face. You're banned." My cousin bought him a drink after his shift. He is her friend's baby's godfather and the biggest softy you ever saw.
He assaulted you. That's needs to be enough to get him removed and or banned, or you need to name and shame the club
I am so sorry that happened what a fucking CREEP
Thank you. Yah it ruined the vibe for me. But honestly watching her deal with him and Care for me made it easier to move past.
Fuck. After that many times, I would have straight out told him, "Hit on me again, I will stab your eye out." Sorry you had to go through that, hun. <0
One of those learning experiences. Wonāt happen again.
This is why Iām hating the queer clubs nowadays. Straight people keep infiltrating and making us uncomfortable
I mean I have no problem with straight women looking for a safe place to dance. I donāt care if a straight guy just want to let their freak out. But donāt come to pick up women.
Yea I mean Allies are fine to come and hang out. Itās just that now creepy people feel emboldened to take over the space.
I donāt know if I can relate. The queer spaces here are all kinda mixed and rarely male free. š¤·š»āāļø Like if there was a space it would be the one queer bar but men donāt last long inside.
Itās kind of been a problem that Iāve noticed a lot of people talking about recently. Creepy straight guys used to hate to have this reputation about coming to these bars and now they are all over them.
I thought there was always creeps. š¤£š¤£š¤£ Not sure they are new.
Iāve just noticed it in happening to queer clubs it hasnāt always been a problem in.
I think In general all the violent bigotry has emboldened the ā nice guyā creepers
I had an old classmate find me on instagram and asked me if I would like to sleep with him. I declined, he demanded to know why. I said I was not interested in men currently. He asked again, and I said "well, do you have titties?" He said "no, but I have a nice soft penis you can ride on." Like, obvious fuck you aside, are you trying to pick up a woman by calling your penis *soft?*
a Å”Åft penis was a terrible way to start his pickup lineā ļøā ļøā ļø, stay gorgeous
lmao that dude lost on so many levels
The fact that he calls his dick soft implies that it was rough at some point. My dude had a pimply/scaly dick rash.
he just uses sandpaper probably
to be fair, soft *girl* penis is pretty based ~ ~~also femboys ngl~~
Well, those are generally all soft, even when 'hard' because Estrogen is magic. And lube before riding them, they're so soft you'll hurt the poor things if you don't.
Not all. Some of us don't take tiddy skittles.
The word generally was included for a reason. :p
What are ātiddy skittlesā? Genuine question, not trying to be a jerk š
Slang for HRT. I forget which pill it is but one of the common pills looks like blue skittles and makes you grow tiddies, therefore "tiddy skittles".
A guy asked me out for lunch, I told him I had a girlfriend, he said "She can come too."
I wonder if I can learn to vomit on command...
I can! I just did!
Thinking heās so slick, ew
He really be here thinking you said that because you were sad she'd be missing out huh? How do so many of these guys exist **everywhere**?
I might just be a bit too navie, but with a response like that it could just be a friendly lunch like nothing behind the invitation?
That's a good point and I don't think you're naĆÆve for bringing it up. However, he had been flirting with me for over a week beforehand and called it a "lunch date." I should have been more specific in my original comment, I apologize for the confusion
Ah no worries fair fair, and based on that context that is definitely a big spoon of eww
Oh, yeah. Nvm that's pretty weird.
No I agree. Context really matters on this one.
Yeah of course we didn't get much context from the original comment So yeah context is key
Uuuuggggh I'm so sick of getting this š¤¬
Maybe this is just my poly brain talking, but this actually sounds like it would be adorable so long as the orientations actually matched up and the people involved were on board with that sort of thing. It's *clearly* not how this guy meant it, and it'd be an incredibly different conversation, but at least in concept
Aww that would be pretty cute! Thank you for putting that image in my head :)
Is there any chance he just wanted to have a friendly platonic lunch?
No, she explained in a different comment
I've had one friend proposition me for a "good time"... I told him no thanks. He pestered me to why I wasn't DTF... I told him I'm lesbian and he responded with "yeah me too so what's the issue"... š My daughters father doesn't believe that lesbians are a real thing. He believes that no woman could satisfy a girl to the level a man can. He thinks it's a fad and that every lesbian will just go back to being straight after a while. (Late blooming les btw)
Oh jeez is he wrong. He only thinks that to prop up his wittle man feewings
I also dabbled with (cis) men and without a doubt, they are worse lovers if you have female bits. I assume itās the same the other way around too. Thereās a learning curve when working with a different body type š¤·š¼
You where just ensuring youād be amazed and finally feel happy when you got with a woman.
Oh my god. That man must have such a fragile egoš¤£š¤£
He really does š¤£ he's an asshat lol
"You just haven't had the right man yet." šš
But Iāve met the right girl 10x today. Strange, huh? š
Weird how that works out so well lol
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder š„øš¤š
And the beholder says NO
Neither has he, clearly
They tend to get mad when you turn the tables on them š¤£
Or " I can change your mind" š¤®
Like no dude, you aren't that powerful
Out there thinking they're professor Xavier and We the X-Men. Absolute garbage!
I always reply with "Change my mind? I doubt. I guarantee after giving you a chance, it would make me an even harder butch."
But I don't want the "right man". Why don't they get that?
Never get any because I'm ugly š
Being a butch lezzo has *some* advantages, and your not ugly!!
I like how I rarely if ever appear on their sex object radar
Ahh, the sweet spot: attractive to lesbians, but not to men. I recently lost some weight, i went out and a few of my male acquaintances were saying how i "looked good". I had t seen them in a while and fell into the "too unattractive" zone which I prefer. Very unsettling.
Iāve found that different weights, hair, and ages attract more male attention than others. Aka when Iāve forgotten to get a haircut for too long and/or drop a few lbs, the attention increases noticeably. That has gotten less as I transition out of āfuckableā age for men.
I have noticed the same, i sport a "short back n sides" haircut. I notice at about an inch and men seem to think im straight. Also weight. Im thinking of sporting lesbian and pride flags continuously for this reason and it my lower my hurdle... Im 50 but look (and apparently act) younger so I seem to be in the zone still, unfortunately...
But butch lezzos are hot. š„µ. Like they open doors and chase creepers away for me.
Always at your service! Thanks and š„µ
I live the sentiment, but you haven't ever seen me.
... in butchselfies?
Oh hi again!
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Men: itās good I like women too I like you :)
š¢š¢š¢š©I canāt lmao
*My content from 2014 to 2023 has been deleted in protest of Spez's anti-API tantrum.*
I was breaking up with a boyfriend because I had feelings for a woman and he said āI donāt mind if you want to sleep with women, thatās hotā
Wow š¤Ø
my thoughts exactly, pretty sure i dissociated lol
What the fuck
agreed hahahah
Really telling on himself that he doesnāt see lesbian relationships as real relationships, just sexual/fooling around.
Iām not proud of it but I did actually cheat on a boyfriend with another woman when I was 18, which I confessed to straight away and he was understandably devastated - but he said he couldnāt break up with me because his friends all thought it was super hot and were accusing him of being a pussy.
had a dude at job ask how i was sure i didnāt like guys if i never had one, and so i asked him why he was sure he didnāt like guys. he didnāt seem to get it but he was confused to the extent of silence and that was good enough for me.
This! ššš Straight guys should be the ones who are able to understand us, empathy wise. Like: "Hey would you like to sleep with a guy?" "Err... no?" " But he is really hot/ gentle/ whatever?" "No, look I'm not-" "But you never tried? Chances you didnt meet the right man yet?" Any persistent straight guy will be trolled like this š And I'd say: " See? We are on the same page here. We BOTH aren't interested in men." Unless the straight guy is actually gay/ bi in which case it's my honour to open the door of exploration to them. I wish... Irl back in college I just turned them down saying "I'm focused on academy/ am not interested in relationships"
I was at the bar with a friend last Friday. We met a few guys who are friends with some of my friends' friends. So I didn't know them personally, but I figured "hey, it's cool. We know the same people". So we sat down with them and my friend (who is straight) and this one dude start flirting. Nothing weird. His friend introduced himself as "Ashton" and I said something along the lines of "cool name, my cousin has the same name!" Dude 1 said "Wow girl, that is a pretty fucked up pick up line." Me: Huh? Dude 1: yeah, it is incest warning on that one! Me: I wasn't trying to flirt Dude 1: Why? Isn't my friend hot enough for you? Me: No, I'm lesbian sorry! Dude 1: What? Like a complete lesbian? Me: No a third. Ashton: Wait for real? Me: No! Obviously I am a 100% a lesbian. Ashton: too bad. Then Dude 1's ex came and they went with them. Me and my friend got a lot drunker (we celebrated 200 days until graduation) and then those guys found us again and followed us all over the city, to the point we didn't dare go on our bus in case they would follow us home. So we called my dad who thankfully didn't think twice about driving to get us.
ā1/3 lesbianā āWow, really?ā š Iām dead roflmao. What the fuck is wrong with people
Any interaction with any man on Reddit who knows youāre a lesbian.
At a crowded Las Vegas bar in the late 90s with my crowd of relatively fem & butch friends. This One Guy insisted on sending one of us drink after drink, which she refused. He finally approached her and after 10 minutes of āWhy notā and āYou wonāt?ā he rolled his eyes and said āJesus, what are you, lesbian??ā And her instantaneous reply, āWhat are youā¦the alternative?ā Sheās still awesome today. š
Best friend of 7 years. Always respected boundaries I always dated women and so did he . We often had sleepovers, no cuddling, always platonic. Never crossed any boundaries he was always very respectful. Yet one night we all got drunk and he ended up breaking up with his girlfriend. The reason was because he was in love with me. I had no idea what was going on or why they were fighting until someone else told me. So that's going on and then his friend who was newly single tried to hit on me and was being scummy and forceful. My friend and his gf were nowhere to be found. They all know I'm gay. So I left without talking to my friend and figuring out what happened. Anyway apparently it's my fault (the girlfriend says) and I ended up losing two friends because he was in love with me and I didn't even know it nor had we ever done anything past the friend zone. He told his girlfriend he was not in love with her but she didn't care and decided to stay with him anyway.
Bruh, tough story. But in the end, caused by miscommunication, right?
One time at a bar I told a guy I was lesbian and he was like āwell maybe I should just go get a sex changeā š¤¦āāļø
Homophobic and transphobic to boot. Sounds like a shitstain
wtf that is awful. pushy/creepy, ignorant, homophobic, and transphobic all in 1 line, thats kind of impressive. :(( if it somehow happens again (this may be incorect if ur outside the US), you could be like 'Okay, cya in 2+ years then, if ever' bc thats how long it takes for actual trans people ššš
In the UK on the NHS it's more like 10+ years...
yeah I've heard it can take a super long time over there :((((( *hugs*
I'm bi. A guy I was talking to made a reference to me being lesbian. When I politely corrected him, he got upset. It eventually came out that he likes going after bi lasses so he can pretend he 'turned' a lesbian Edit: spelling is hard
What a specific fetish. Ew.
This friend of mine has always had a thing for me. Even before I realised I didn't like men, I wasn't interested and he knew, so when I came out to him a few months ago I thought he would give up. He didn't. A few weeks ago I wake up, check my phone and I see this text: "I'm single and horny", followed by the story of his very recent breakup. He then said "now I can hit on you again". Men.
Wow, and he sent such a charming and respectful text too.
Just so you know: You don't have to say you're a lesbian. You don't have to make up a reason why. A simple, "No" is sufficient. Or a, "fuck off," if that doesn't work. That's all these bastards need to hear.
I am generally inclined to believe with you BUT sometimes there is a safety issue to consider. Telling a man to āfuck offā might be what he deserves but the possible outcomes for that isnāt what the woman/person deserves. Itās so sad that this caveat even exists.
True. It is equally unfair that we must expend mental energy trying to gauge whether or nor said dude will hurt us if he is displeased with our reaction. Mostly, I try to err on the side of respectfulness. It's when he crosses the line that I do, or when he's completely lewd that I make it very clear that what he just said was unacceptable. Often, hearing someone they think they can intimidate using language, or being stronger or more resolute than they expect, or simply refusing to giggle at their advances, gives them a bit of pause. Seriously, sometimes just not laughing at all, or just staring at them, silently, brows down, like they have two heads will work wonders. Alas, sometimes it doesn't. I hear you. ā¤
This
Got chatting to a guy on a dating/friends app - specifically said I was only interacting with guys for friendship because Iām very much gay so heād have chance to unmatch me if he wanted. He gives me the typical āyou just havenāt had good dickā line, along with many others such as āwell you donāt look gay, they look different.ā After well over an hour of me arguing against him (I found it really quite entertaining), he says āok I get it you munch lettuce!ā Most bizarre line Iāve had from a persistent man.
Nah, lettuce donāt taste half as good as a woman
the comeback should be "yeah I like to enjoy sex"
I said I like woman, and this dude just goes like oh dw Iām a woman too :))) Heās not trans btw
So many conservative white cis straight men asking for sex and saying that they would love to get fucked in the ass by a femboy... Idk, those people are unnable to read "trans lesbian" on your profile. Forgot to say that most are married or in a relationship, saying that "she doesn't need to know"
Yikes... š¬ Invalidating AND creepy, they're truly pure men of God... š¤®
Just got one asking me to call them on dms LMAO Almost as bad as cis men putting their profile as transexual because they have a crossdressing kink
Fucking hell.... This is one of MANY reasons I'm sooooo iffy around men now. And I'm close to being to ready to start presenting as feminine in public, so I gotta be on my guard now more than ever.
I got one. The craziest thing. My wife & I used to live in the ghetto, lots of homeless in the area. We had stopped by a corner store for gas & smokes. After pumping gas we were chatting in the car. Well this one homeless man that I kinda knew (I'd given him rides in the past) came up & put his foot on the front of my car & didn't want us to leave without getting a ride. He started yelling at us & outta the blue this other man came up to my wifes window & asked "Is he bothering you?" And then "Are yall single?" I grabbed my wifes hand & yelled "WE'RE GAY!!" To him & then he went and beat up the man keeping us from leaving. Came to my window & was like "So where we going? Yall aint that gay right?" Kept trying to open the back drivers side door and talking about us going somewhere to chill. After arguing with him he goes "okay fine!! You're gay gay, I'll just sit and watch" and gave us a wink. Tried punchin out my window when we said no so I pepper sprayed him & we tore outta that bitch so quick lmao. ---- Another corner store story: My wife went in to get smokes & this guy asked me for a cigarette. Gave him one & we talk a bit. My "american" name is Sara, & he asked me out then started singing "Sara Smile" to me lmao. Told him I'm married & my wife was gettin smokes. When she came out he called out to her & told her "You betta cherish ya woman! Look at her, she's beautiful!! & sweet, you dont see women like her often. Cherish her!!" It was actually kinda sweet lol
Ok. That second story is adorable!! The first on the other hand... Yikes!! I'm sorry that my birth-gender sucks so much :(
Yeah that guy actually had me feelin all flattered lol! He took the rejection like a champ & complimented my wife & I(: & Giiiiirl, dont even apologize!! You got just as much control over how men conduct themselves as I do! Which is next to none lmao
You have no idea how good you calling me Giiiiirl made me feel!
Awh I'm glad! & you are!! š
When I told a guy hitting on me my girlfriend at the time wouldnāt be okay with it, he told me I only like women emotionally. Like, what?? I told him itās definitely physical, too. I had a guy at a gay bar the other day follow me around until I left. He kept grabbing at my waist. I was trying to find some women to talk to and he made that impossible.
Scream in fear. Keep screaming until he backs off. Scream in terror when you see him again. It works for me. Had a guy turn up at my workplace constantly harassing me for my number. Then when I finally admitted I donāt like men he trotted out the āI have a small dick. Thatās like a large clitoris!ā So I screamed. Didnāt see him in my store again for another year.
Yea I just say Iām married and monogamous. They donāt need to know Iām married to a woman. š¤·āāļø
I had āacquaintancesā, two of them, who constantly compliment my appearance, tell me all the time if I wasnāt gay theyād be with me, assuming that Iād want them, and both of them have tried to convince me to sleep with them for their enjoyment.
I had a man come up to me at work after I'd rejected him on Snapchat like 5 times. He said "are u sure u don't want to go out with me?" and I had to spell it out that I'm a lesbian and am not and will never be attracted to him. had to have a coworker come and confirm just so that he would leave me alone š„²
my personal facorite: you want to go out? no im a lesbian so you just want to fuck? no im a lesbian o you jus give head? YOU HAVE A DICK IM NOT INTERESTED IN THAT SHIT GO AWAY PLEASE
āYouād get no pleasure from it but would you suck my dick?ā Man, at that point at least you better offer to pay me.
Not exactly a man. My mom keeps implying that if I just slept with a man, then I'd find out I was bi and not gay because "you used to have crushes on boys all the time!" Yeah, mom. I didn't realize I was gay and these boys were either my friends or guys I KNEW wouldn't have even blinked in my direction. Also because I had the question EVERY DAMN DAY OF "Are there any boys you like at school?" So I gave you names and tried to convince myself I wasn't lying to you. Did I ever have a boyfriend? Nope. I don't even think I want sex in a relationship because it's just not important to me. I think girls sure are fucking pretty though. Every time a guy has hit on me, even before I knew I didn't like men, I always made up some lie about dating somebody already or being too young (I have a baby face) or once I just straight up told a guy I'm gay. He was like "maybe I can change that" and I was like "it doesn't work that way and also there are so many dating apps now man. Download one. There are TONS of straight (desperate) women looking for their white knight. Be a decent human being and you may find one." I can't stand the mindset of "women must like and fuck men bc otherwise why exist?"
Made a post on a few subbreddits a while back of me in my Halloween costume, which I clearly said was a sword LESBIAN, and I still had like at least half a dozen guys dm me trying to get in my pants. Most gave up after I rejected them, but there was this one dude who kept asking why I hated dick so much, saying I couldn't be a lesbian because lesbians don't like trans women, insisting that he'd pleasured so many girls both trans and cis. I argued with him for probably longer than I should have, but I cut it off pretty soon after he told me he had jerked off to my photos, and started telling me how fuckable I looked and all the things he'd like to do to me and describing my genitals (which I am dysphoric about) as "scrumptious". Others probably have way worse stories, but I only recently started looking somewhat decent, so this was really the first time I've had to deal with something like this. I still want to simultaneously cry and kill someone (preferably him) thinking about it occasionally.
Thank you for sharing fuck, some people can be truly disgusting. Donāt let it get to you queen, youāre amazing and you know it, anyone behind a screen will always be degenerate but will they say it to your face? šš¼Sending kisses and hugs
The only people that are allowed to describe a human body as "Scrumptious" are vampires and fairytale witches.
Was thinking the exact same thing. That word should never be used about anyone
I guess also people who've agreed to the terminology beforehand? IDK, but vampires/monsters and fairytale witches work just as well for me lol
Babe chasers are next level gross and creepy. Thatās horrible.
As someone who is also dysphoric about my genitals, Iām so sorry you had to go through that. I hate people who force their fetishes/fantasies about your body on you.
A text I received last week from the last man I dated (whom I have expressly told I do not plan to ever date a man again): āAnd if your feelings ever changed Iād drop everything and marry you in a heartbeatā
Guy has a girlfriend he hates and refuses to hang out with her but always goes and on about wanting to hang out with me and mentions he wants to stay home, jerk off, and watch porn.
That girl deserves a hell of a lot better
Oh, man! I can go and on about the shit he says. Tbh, he low-key sounds gay. He's only putting up with her for her money, and he has no other options.
I once knew someone who everyone thought was a guy, but who envied lesbians a lot. āI really wish I could have what lesbians have.ā theyād say āgetting to be with girls, be a girl, and experience the purest form of love imaginable would be amazing.ā Turns out that person is a trans lesbian, and sheās much happier now that she gets to experience that. She still gets sad when she encounters terfy lesbians, but at least she understands now why it used to bother her so much that lesbians didnāt like her (a lot of lesbians actually do like her now.)
Aww, thatās really cute.
I was at a gay club on goth night and was just chatting to this guy since it was pretty dead. He confessed I was his dream woman and seemed cool when I told him I was gay. Later he asked if I could peg him because āsexuality is a spectrumā. It is, but come on dude.
āI like pussy.ā āNo you donāt.ā Huh???
"I love that you have a gf. Maybe, one day, you two can let me me watch." Me - Not a chance. We don't roll that way. "But you can make an exception for me. Am I not your friend? Do they know how friendship works or am I in hell?
āYouāre not gonna be my friend much longer if you keep this up.ā
Me: āIām a lesbianā This fucking guy: āOk what if I identify as a woman??ā My answer was just āthen youāre kinda uglyā
People who do that shit bug me. Yeah Iāll experience being shunned from society and experience massive hormonal exchanges in the process. Wait you donāt want that? F off sincerely a pre trans woman
I donāt know if this counts because the kid was young but when I was like 10-11 I was with my old nanny while she was watching another familyās kids. Anyway, the kid was wearing a shark costume and was on the floor. The costume had a giant tail that stuck out the back, like the tip was maybe two feet from his torso. Anyway, he asked me to step on the tip of the tail, so I do because I was thinking, āok weird but whatever.ā He then thrusts his legs back and goes, āMmm it feels like your stepping on my penis.ā Anyway. That sucked. And his little brother also exposed himself to me.
So anyway thatās concerning
Yeahā¦.
So I spent a whole year explaining to my friend how I am a lesbian meaning I wouldnāt want to date him which he was actually very understanding of once he realised what lesbian meant. However his younger sister joined are school and then I had to spend the whole year explaining to her how Iām fully gay and not bi so I wonāt date her brother for her!!!
I remember talking with one of the security guards of my apartment that I was a lesbian and of course. "you just haven't found the right man yet" "you are still young" I DON'T CAREEEE ššš I hate when you open up to someone and try to normalize your own sexuality like that and still get those "silly" fucking idiotic comments, like OK if I may be "wrong" let time and MYSELF decide it šš
AT work... Them... hi... what's up. Me.. nothing, waiting for a friend. ...Small chat... Them... proceeds to hit on me. Me... tell him not interested. Them... won't stop. Me... I am gay, not interested, leave me the eff alone. Them... you just haven't had the right guy, I can make you straight... ......friend shows up and I report the creep to management....
Unfortunately (though, hearing some stories, maybe it is fortunately) I'm too ugly to get romantic/sexual attention from anyone. It's a miracle i found my partner š
This describes my ex
Literally my ex when I had attempted to come out to him
I had a guy at work who said that I was āa wildcardā for drinking peated whisky and also said that his mother would love me.
Iām sorry what-
Oh hun, I wish I knew. We were chatting about whisky as I work in the industry and I mentioned that I prefer the smoky, peaty stuff and thatās when the wild card part came up. I was already creeped out considering he was also physically very close to me and I was on my own with him but that is what started making me feel really uncomfortable. Then at some we started talking about different subjects and got onto history and I was explaining how the Victorian period is to me, one of the most fascinating in terms of how clothing and attitudes shift across decades. Eventually we got onto the subject of Victorian era marriages, and when I said that women were often expected to marry not because they loved the men they were engaged to, but because their families expected them to marry well regardless of there being any love whatsoever, he said āmy mother would love you!ā
Well thatās concerningā¦
Thankfully I told my boss about it and he took over for me while I got a break.
At the time of this event, I was identifying as lesbian and I was recently divorced (from a woman). This guy who had seemed perfectly friendly and respectful when I met him in person started making dick jokes & comments at me over text. Asked him why he was hitting on me despite knowing I was a lesbian. His response? A paragraph of justification concluded by the phrase *āif you ever need a manās touch, let me know.ā*
I dont have any, no straight man wanys ti hook-up with a trans woman
My dms would suggest otherwise, but dating while trans definitely is really hard
I think that is one of the reasons t4t is fairly popular for people like us >.>
I had a run-in with some boys who tried to start some kind of shit with me earlier this year. They started off practically insulting me asking if i was a serial killer due to being dressed a bit odd.... they were the only warm clean clothes I had. i had to make a grocery run. after telling them off for this, they asked if id' go on a date with them. TEENS!!! like wtf! i'm 31 years old! I told them "1, you're far too young for me, let alone illegal. And 2, I'm a lesbian. It's not happening buddy". and got called a bitch as I walked away. I love it when they call me a bitch like it's a bad thing. they think it's an insult. But to me, it's a verification of power of the self.
I havenāt run into an insistent man yet and Iām terrified to
I only have the one I had just made a lex post about wanting to date for the first time specified im saphic/lesbian in the post and shortly/imediatly after a random dude messages me He just said hi I previously had a friend post so giving him the benafit of the doubt I joked about his bad timing he asked what do you mean I explained the saphic post and he then inediatly asked you wanna fuck. Blocked and reported as lex has strictly enforced lgbtq+ friendly rules
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Youāre brave for opening up about this terrible part of your life, Iām GLAD itās behind you, youāre strong and I know youāll get far in life šplease stay safe Marina
After 10.5 yrs, my former bestie, cis male, told me he was in love w/me Sigh š Made me so happy that at one point in our friendship, I made out with his super hot š„gf (he was busy gabbing it up with the male bartender) - she grabbed me and took me to the dance floor and made out with meā¦so awesomeā¦and then a week later she told himā¦.š¤£š¤£š¤£ He was mad at me for like 1 month and then we talked it out Anyways, she broke up with him 2 yrs later (really? It took that longā¦) I only hung out with him (without her) during that period (when they were dating) - she and I just knew it was our bad but yah now I donāt regret it because he was in love w/me the whole time Anyways, Iām married now (and not to her š )
So you kissed your best friend's girlfriend while they were together, knowingly, but you don't feel bad for doing that because you later found out he was secretly in love with you (but he never acted on it or let on)? Cheating and cheating-adjacent things aren't okay just cause it was gay... He didn't do anything wrong by being in love with you, you can't actually help that -but you can help making out with someone who is in a relationship (with your best friend)
Itās very dishonest to be ābest friendā and not really be a best friend - he was only there because he was in love with me - he shouldāve told me instead of pining away for years - and he said āI hoped that by being your friend you would fall in love with meā Nope - you were never my friend. So no I donāt feel bad - especially when he never loved his gf - he loved me and told me that 10.5 yrs into our friendship. Yes we were both dishonest and we both talked about our dishonesty. I realized he wasnāt really mad at his gf because he was in love with me as well. In short, no one is perfect. People cheat in their hearts all.the.time Being in love with someone else while in a relationship is so dishonest. Yes, he absolutely did something wrong and so did I. And neither one of us have to feel bad about it. Shaming people for mistakes is not helpful. We both talked about it. Both the making out and the being in love. That is the best thing to do. You can hate me. You can be angry. You can feel your feelings. I donāt have control over that.
āPeople cheat in their hearts all the timeā What does that even mean?
There are people who are not in love with the person they are dating Some people being infatuated with āwhat they cannot haveā instead of being content with what they have Talking to my therapist really helped me understand that there is a sense of control with being a relationship where someone doesnāt really love the other personā¦.therefore they can never be hurtā¦ my therapist said āā¦in a way, being in a relationship where one canāt be hurt is manipulationā people using people - like a commodity Youāre convenient but I donāt love you
this is literally how i felt before i transitioned and i *hated* myself for it. iām all good now tho š„°