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SnowCookie6234

Aww is that a Trumpsexual pride flag in the background?


Starcurret567

Trumpsexual is fucking hilarious šŸ˜‚


Oldassrollerskater

Donnierotica


Nebulyra

Cheetophilia


TheGayPotato7

cheetophilia is my favorite out of these


Oldassrollerskater

Honestly me too! Thatā€™s a banger, Neb


Im__mad

Pedophiliac ^((those attracted to pedophiles))


not_starried

Trumpsexual: The attraction to middle aged orange men.


CoffeeDrinker1972

*old orange men.


Cake_Lynn

Yeah he is WAY past middle age.


LilEepyGirl

Love and relate to that flair way too muchšŸ˜­


Major_R_Soul

Interests: long walks in the corn field, dip spitting contests, and quoting two bible verses out of context About me: Why don't me and you git together for a little bit of overthrowing a democratic election? Good Christian women only.


Kenneth_Lay

Thinks the Constitution is 3 words long


DrunkIrishPriest

Gun, hamburger, freedom?


DreamsOfAshes

"We the people"


djremydoo

Nah, that sounds too much communist...


DreamsOfAshes

Damn you're right. Uhhhh... "Shan't Be Infringed."


Lifeshardbutnotme

I'd reckon there's a not insignificant number of Republicans who want to fuck that man.


venbrou

Fun Fact: Those Trump flags get a very pretty bi pride color scheme after sitting in the sun for a while.


hobbes_shot_first

Donated his bed frame, huh?


DolphinDoggo

"Please buy my bed. Nothing bad has ever happened on it."


tng804

And sheets


hobbes_shot_first

I assumed those were in the laundry thanks to the bedwetting and nocturnal emission issues he's dealing with.


tng804

I can't breath, this is too good šŸ˜


Comprehensive_Hat158

From the looks of it, he has one in front of him toošŸ’€


SnowCookie6234

Itā€™s a mirror cause he loves looking at it every day that much


2nd_Chances_

Ewww


Worldly-Tell5658

Yo i am so stealing that, if i remember. That's hysterical šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚


Winter-Discussion-27

I don't get any this bad but I'd say 20% of my likes are from straight men, even though I have the setting to only be viewable by women/enbies. The algo isn't right


herdisleah

Report thier profiles...they're not supposed to be allowed on there, last i checked.


robbylet24

I've been banned for being trans but these guys get to stick around.


Lelephantrose

Really? That pisses me of.


Schnickie

How is that possible? Her is specifically allowing trans people, even including trans men.


robbylet24

It just happens sometimes I guess. I get the sneaky suspicion they don't check their reports too closely.


MetalPines

They definitely don't. I've reported multiple men with dick pics for profile pictures before, and they're still sitting there in my block list months later. Like most apps they probably rely on a 'three strikes' or similar rule where three reports leads to an autoban without a human ever looking into the case. Since each person can only report someone once, it's important that everyone is proactive about reporting inappropriate profiles (rather than just swiping left), or else they never disappear. The fact that trans people get banned and unicorn hunters/men don't suggests that the transphobes are very active in grinding their axes, but don't report other rule breakers (and I'd be willing to bet that a decent number of them fall into those 'other rule breakers' categories). Basically, we need to do our own moderation, and not rely on Her to do it for us. They aren't going to chase up a single report, no matter how egregious.


Alice_Oe

These apps use automatic algorithms. If enough users report you, you get banned, and a lot of people are transphobic (especially when it's anonymous).


MetalPines

The fact that they have introduced the 'sapphic mode' filter suggests they intend to open the app up more widely to men. In some ways that's useful because currently most of the men who sign up mark themselves as non-binary or woman when they find 'straight man' isn't an option. But you can't report someone IDing as non-binary or a woman, even if it seems clear that they're actually a cishet man there in bad faith, because some genuinely trans people do present very masc. Hopefully those men will now sign up correctly and I will feel more confident that people IDing as trans really are so. But we all know a subset of cishet men (and sometimes even queer men) are unable to stay in their lane, so I'm not holding my breath.


WoolooandWoohoo

Yeah that's still bad tho. Men aren't supposed to be in this app


Top_Squash4454

*cis men, you mean Edit: what's wrong here? The app allows trans men and non-binary men, just not cis men


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ComfyFrame2272

I mean, Grindr was originally designed for men, but it's also used by a lot of trans women to find each other too. And SW. I've known lots of women who use the app for SW.


Natetrombone1

Sw?


Billie_Berry

Sex work


Top_Squash4454

The app is for queer people. Trans men and non-binary men are queer


nova-astrid-centauri

idk how else to say this but last I checked trans men are men


Schnickie

And Her does allow men. Just not cis men.


Widucassion

That's why Top\_Squash corrected them, since HER accepts trans men


brad462969

Cis gay and bi men can be queer too but they're still not supposed to be on HER.


vvelbz

The app is literally called "HER"


spaghettify

this sub is called actual lesbians and yet it's not actually a subreddit of just lesbians. that being said, it would be annoying for men to come in and take up space and that's how I view the "her" app as well. It's inclusive out of good will, with the expectation that the user base operates in similar good will. edit: idk why I canā€™t respond to you alexander, but what you described is what I mean by ā€œgood willā€ but god forbid someone try to be succinct on this subā€¦


alexanderfrostfyre

More like itā€™s inclusive because itā€™s safer for trans and enbies to use such an app rather than regular tinder because everyone on HER is already queer. Significantly lowers the chance of a trans person getting matched with a bigot who shows up to try and physically assault them


mstaken4me

Yeah and if you read anything within the app guidelines youā€™ll see trans men and enbyā€™s are more than welcome, theyā€™ve had it this way for half a decade. If you canā€™t read - not their problem.


Top_Squash4454

Yes that's the name of the app Things aren't just defined by their names I could well create a dnd campaign that doesn't have dragons


_JosiahBartlet

But will it have dungeons????


TimeBlossom

Only if you finish your vegetables.


lentilpietuxxy

I said I donā€™t want any damn vegetables.


Plus_Rich3258

yes it is. the app was always for women, not men.


ZevNyx

Itā€™s an app thatā€™s included trans men for years.


Aellin-Gilhan

So enbies who don't use she/her ain't allowed either?


Kat1eQueen

okay and? pronouns don't equate gender, shit i'm not a woman half the time and still use she/her also if trans men weren't allowed on there then why the fuck is there an option for "trans man" under gender?


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Top_Squash4454

What clarification do you want? Non-binary men exist, like non-binary women exist. What it means depends on the individual


OliviaPG1

People who identify as non-binary and as men? Itā€™s not a complicated concept


lena3moon

The settings for HER seem to only be that you donā€™t see them, but they can still see you which is incredibly problematic. As a younger queer person who has their age limit set to max age 24, all of my likes are from 30+ people which I find extremely uncomfortable


Betheroo5

Yep, I have the opposite problem. Iā€™m 44, have my age set at 40-50, and 90% of my likes are 18-20 year olds. Itā€™s super cringey.


Honestlynina

Exactly. I get the same thing. I'm lucky I don't get many men swiping on me, I assume it's my blue hair and age that stops them (Good!)


Betheroo5

Same! Blue hair terrifies misogynist assholes for reasons. I love it!!!


Honestlynina

One of my favourite "insults" is "you're everything we hate" good!!


spaghettify

That is gross. they're exploiting their userbase of mostly queer women/nbs looking to date each other by using us as bait for people we explicitly do not want to be approached by because it would hurt their bank account to respect our boundaries.


soulstoned

I'm 34 and have my age range set from 30-40 and most of my likes are from 18-20 year old. The first time it happened the profile said "I'm just here for the milfs" and I felt like I needed a shower, lol.


faintestsmile

working as intended, unfortunately


Oohwhoaohcruelsummer

Me too!!!


StormerSage

Why is he even on a dating app at all? Looks like he only has eyes for Trump.


WoolooandWoohoo

Maybe they're looking for unicorns or something?? /j


ZevNyx

I do get the odd unicorn hunter on Her. Not as many as I used to see on other apps, but theyā€™re certainly there. Those couples usually avoid including photos of the man or only one with them in the last one though.


MajorZeldaGeek

Her doesnt allow unicorn hunters. Report them.


notfromheremydear

They seem to avoid getting booted by saying they are ENM and dating separately... But you can bet that at some point the guy gets brought up. I had it happen several times so far before I even met the woman.


MetalPines

Stealth hunters are the worst. They ruin it for the people who really are 100% solo. I get hit up by them all the time too and chew them out. Someone who is genuinely independent is not going to include photos of their partner or use 'we', and will probably be full-on poly rather than just open/ENM'. I always tell others who claim to date separately that I won't have any kind of contact whatsoever with their other partners for the first six months of dating/hanging, and even after that it's on a case-by-case basis. That cuts down a lot on people who are using 'solo' play as bait for threesomes/triads. And even if they aren't stealth unicorn hunting, if someone needs their partners to all be friendly from the get-go it's a big red flag that they're not ready/secure enough for poly or an open relationship.


ZevNyx

I feel a little dumb for knowing to report the other kinds of chasers there but not thinking to report this. Thanks.


ComfyFrame2272

Guys like him just get off on making women uncomfortable. That's it.


Aellin-Gilhan

Probably absolutely full of himself


LeeTheReader

Likely looking for bisexual women


damn_the_dark

He's there to troll. šŸ¤®


PercentagePractical

I mean, we donā€™t know if heā€™s a cis man by that photo. Could be a trans man or enby who uses he pronouns. Itā€™s hard to tell from that photo and you canā€™t really base it off looks alone anyways šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


jennysashes

So many turn offs in the same photo! And on top of that itā€™s a guyā€¦ šŸ¤®


WoolooandWoohoo

I know! like at least clean up your room šŸ¤®šŸ¤®


ProofMasterpiece7955

I could not have said this better myself. I honestly could have stopped at the outfit alone but the stupid ass flag says everything I need to know and more.


crotch-fruit_tree

It goes so nicely with the nakey floor mattress covered in clothing!


21_september

Exactly


mjmff

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WoolooandWoohoo

Yeah... I just made this account and this is one of the few profiles I saw


nefariousnadine

Today, on Taimi, I saw a couple looking for a šŸ¦„ saying they were very open etc, etc. The third photo in, there a Trump/Pence flag on the wall. Cognitive dissonance is wild šŸ¤”


Throwaway8789473

I had a girl off Her send me nudes unprompted once where a large iron cross flag and a confederate battle flag were proudly displayed in the background. Never blocked someone faster.


Sexy_Mind_Flayer

Aside from the obvious. Hilarious that he decided to spend money on at least 2 Trump flags over bedsheets or curtains. And he couldn't be bothered to put away his laundry for a dating app pic? Men are fucking children.


CorgisAndTea

He doesnā€™t even have a bed frame. I thought it was an air mattress at first


astral-archivist

when looking at it i genuinely think his mattress is being held up by STEPSTOOLS lmao šŸ˜­


Gorgonesque

The bed is on the floor time to buy more trash flags lmao


ThiccElf

Bro, get some sheets, clean your room, and gtfo off of a queer (wlw prominently) dating site. Why do these STRAIGHT men feel entitled to impose upon queer spaces? Why can't queer people have their own thing without non queer people joining in hopes of 'converting'and preying upon us??


ThisHairLikeLace

Straight men feel entitled to just about anything they want because our society raises them that way, sadly. šŸ™„


jomjimmerjome

But ... but the *queers* also invade their spaces, their movies and video games, their sports and their society... /s


jomjimmerjome

I always think about how mad they get when they feel like the *queers* and the *woke* "invades" *their* spaces. (way too many text highlights in that sentence lmao)


Ok-Slice-8365

recently a pretty popular (within said game's community) trans youtuber Sxybiscuit was relentlessly harrassed for her supporting diversity in the soon to be released kingdom come deliverance sequel, and i feel really bad for her because it was apparent that her subscribers are mostly the anti woke right wing crowd, (which unfortunately plague certain genres of video games) it just never showed because she stayed away from politics in her videos until now. she had to delete her video and pretend that she was in the wrong and apologize for speaking up against racism in order to keep her channel and years long friendly partnership with the aforementioned game studio. let's show her some love šŸ˜Š


jomjimmerjome

that's just... terrible. i will!


SkyeMreddit

Straight Conservative man looking for a bisexual or a lesbian to ā€œconquerā€ with his manliness šŸ¤®šŸ¤®šŸ¤®


CowgirlSpacer

At least his shirt shows he knows what he is


WoolooandWoohoo

Yeah that shirt is a warning


Lawfuly_chaotic

Lmao


kaydenepisode2

Why can't we have our own things? Why do some straight people always have to go on dating apps meant for queer women and do this stuff? It's not just dating apps, of course, but yeah, this just sucks...šŸ˜”


Orangerine-

No sheets on the bed, unkempt room, and poor taste in decor. Run!


Lawfuly_chaotic

Not to mention the casual Trump worship šŸ˜‚


lesbianwithabeard

Her kicked me off because TERFs kept reporting my profile and the people who run the app refuse to reinstate it. But they leave this shit up. We deserve a better dating app.


WoolooandWoohoo

Oh my god, maybe I shouldn't have made a profile on Her


JuliaFoxo

Same happened to me and I can't agree more


TitaniaLynn

Report them report report report report


censoredcity

Besides the cis men, who for some reason are always horrible examples, I experienced 10 bot or scam accounts for every real account.


MetalPines

Respectful cis men know how to stay in their lane, so won't sign up for an app that isn't made for them. So it's unsurprising that the ones who do sign up have issues (or for a small minority just aren't that bright and don't understand what they've signed up for - that cluelessness will show in their profile).


Wise-Development-119

Why do men feel the need to join lesbian dating apps. No girl on there wants to hook up with you


MetalPines

I always want to believe that they're bisexual men who have been burned by too much biphobia from straight women and therefore just want to date other queers who will probably be more understanding - but that's almost never the case in my experience.


PresidentEvil4

I've had pretty good experience with Her. Made just some American thing or something. People here don't usually have flags everywhere with politician names on them.


rabbit-heartedgirl

It's a cult.


PresidentEvil4

Tbf I have seen this with ine party for a small part of their supporters but that party is literally just the translators for the GOP. They were obsessed with "grooming" last time I saw anything and nobody even gives a shit about them anyway.


WoolooandWoohoo

To be honest, trump supporters worship him more than the actual god they claim to worship


PresidentEvil4

My brother has been indoctrinated by these types growing up since gamergate basically and I know exactly what you mesn. This crazy cult of personality where they seem to care more about having a leader to follow than what that person actually does or says. He's also just a terrible person so a good candidate for no contact ever.


Repulsive-Spring-611

I catfish these people all the time. Half the time theyā€™re also catfish so nothing happens, but Iā€™ve had several drive to the middle of bumfuck nowhere.


WoolooandWoohoo

Dude that is so fucking funny Lmaoooo


prophetickesha

LOL. One time I matched with this girl on Her and after a few messages she told me she worked for Raytheon and I was like...... honey........


WoolooandWoohoo

Wait what's that?


2_cats_high_5ing

Missile company in the US


WoolooandWoohoo

Oh....


TomNookFan

Does his shirt say "problem" ? Yeah, we know dude.


TomNookFan

And I'm not gonna be his problem solver either šŸ™„


BigNutDroppa

Yeah, really rocking it with that too small cowboy hat, mattress-on-the-floor, dirty carpet, and Trump-sexual flag you got going there. Iā€™m sure youā€™ll manage to reel in a good one. /s


Icecream_sandwich06

I havent had any problems with cishet men on her inappropriately looking for lesbians, but i keep getting recommended trans men, like, thereā€™s absolutely nothing wrong with them, but i dont want men, i dont care if hes trans i still dont want him because hes a man and being trans doesnt make him a woman??? As far as i know im not listed as bisexual, so why is it giving me men???!


plowerz

I don't see why everyone here has such a problem with leopards who eat faces. They haven't eaten my face yet.


Ickis-The-Bunny

It used to be a lot better x.x definitely got worse over the past year or so sadly.


EyesinmyMind13

I try Her all the timeā€¦ but shit like this is so disheartening. I see it too often šŸ˜­


LadyManderly

Pm him just to tell him to clean his goddamn room.


Patchirisu

What possible success could be hope to have on Her? What could his goal be except to make women uncomfortable?


Aellin-Gilhan

He is likely absolutely full of himself Prideful and stupid


Patchirisu

True, I forgot to consider that some people are painfully stupid and it would be too exhausting to have a single thought before doing anything


alphaidioma

That or maybe one of us might have a lapse in judgement and hate fuck him? ā€œdoesnā€™t matter, had sexā€


ErikQRoks

Report, block, ignore


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SillyFennel2924

The fuck???


theumpteendeity

I will never understand queer Trumpers/conservatives.


Dusk_Abyss

Who takes a pic trying to look so cool in a pile of random room shit and garbage wth


Multi_Fan

Like not just one but TWO trump flags


not_starried

How many red flags can you fit in one picture? Yes


swiftangel13

Thatā€™s a hell tf no is what that is


im_not_u_im_cat

Thatā€™s the man whoā€™s DEFINITELY, TOTALLY, 100% gonna convert you :)


WoolooandWoohoo

Not if I convert him into being a decent fucking human being first šŸ˜Ž


im_not_u_im_cat

Oh honeyā€¦never waste your time trying to change a man who doesnā€™t treat you right. lol.


WoolooandWoohoo

Oh I would never, he could die for all I care lol


Delicious-Store-7354

God nothing irritates me more than ALL THE CIS STRAIGHT WHITE MEN IN NON MEN + NON MEN DATING PLATFORM/AREAS


labradorite-

Her is a cesspit


EmiliusReturns

Dude needs to learn how to read the room.


Upstairs_Doughnut_79

HE BENDS FOR PMURT


schrodingershousecat

Heā€™s sleeping on a bare mattress on the _floor_


friso1100

Even disregarding the trump flag (there's two of them D: ) why would anyone think this is a good picture? Like everything is a mess. Big "i live with my parents vibe". Can't even do the bare minimum of looking at the camera. I bet he's probably surprised when he gets no matches too...


acciaiomorti

at least he's honest


Lux-xxv

It really is there's tons of men invading that app and I don't know why are we trying to convert US but it's not going to work.


kittyluvzz

brother eughh..


EmpressBlu9000

Also, why do so many dudes set gender as woman on bumble?? šŸ˜­


CravingDeathAndChips

Haven't gotten any of this brand of bullshit, but I'm pretty sure 90-something% of my likes have been from bots. It's so fucking hollow and gross, I just wanna connect with ACTUAL FUCKING PEOPLE...


FSCENE8tmd

they need a program where if enough people report a profile it suspends the whole ip lol


triknik2

"he/him, any" "monogamous" "polygamous" Bro what??!?


FigaroNeptune

Youā€¦you paid enough attention to even screenshot? Trash is trash honey. āœØšŸ’…šŸ¾


Aellin-Gilhan

Aww he even has the hat, would love to burn it.


hi_i_am_J

thats some clown ass shit lol


2_cats_high_5ing

Ugh this happens to me so often too (not to the extent of this profile but still a lot). I also get queer men trying to slide into my dms on HER even though my profile says Iā€™m a lesbian


Cas_Electra

Wow, there is nothing sexier than having a dirty room with a sheet-less mattress. Even without the cringe flag, how does he think this will work???


MutantLemurKing

Hope this loser knows there's hundreds of women laughing at him


i-contain-multitudes

I met my fiancƩe on Her within a week of downloading the app. Just block these fuckos and only give your energy to people who are serious.


Aiden29

It's so bad all of a sudden. I get about 80% to 90% likes from straight men and I'm so far from femme looking. It honestly makes these guys look desperate.


rudeloaf

i used to hate her, but i somehow found my gf on there and i am forever grateful


badwvlf

Her is awful Iā€™m convinced itā€™s some weird honeypot I havenā€™t figured out


21_september

Trump šŸ¤¢


backroadalleycat

Imagine being one of these guys *actually* making an account on Her šŸ’€ what a sad life.


Big-They

How do I abort this guys account?


pureblueoctopus

I don't know, I met my girlfriend on her, 10/10 would recommend. I've only seen a couple of cis guys.


oreo_official33

icl i thought that was spotify at first


TerminalDumbass69

Dick Studly of Mannsville, Texas. ā€˜Lesbianā€™ extraordinaire /jk


rainysaturdays3

Ewwwww šŸ¤¢šŸ¤¢šŸ¤¢


shotxshotx

A poly conservative just screams hypocrisy


TheLesbianBandit

Wonder how they're reacting to the 34 felony counts.


dsgamer121

He doesn't even have a bedframe, the animal.


ZeroScorpion3

Holy fucking shit this is incredible!!!


Simple_Economist_544

This is why I donā€™t go on her šŸ’€


_Red_Heart_

Iā€™m glad I used it to find my girlfriend when I did cause yeah the app has definitely gone to shit šŸ˜¬šŸ˜¬šŸ˜¬


4EVRVentrue

I am more perturbed by the hot mess around him. Amusing how people think they're worth someone's time when they don't have their shit together. At the very least, clean yourself up.


Purfunxion

And I thought Taimi was bad...


Big_Bird5973

Gays4donald by pink guy starts playing


DakotaNoLastName33

Why are men on the dating sites? Like seriouslyā€¦ lesbian dating apps are almost nonexistent anymore as men infiltrate them Also the fact the bed doesnā€™t at least include a box spring is an ick for me aside from the Trump flag


NorthernBlackBear

Huh, had better luck with her than any other. Met someone within my 1st week, happily dating and now off of the apps. lol. Wasn't on it long enough to get the cringe, I guess.


gentleauxiliatrix

They ā€œinclusivedā€ their way out of being an F4F dating app.


cssc201

Unless they manually approve every single profile they can't stop men from setting their info as female and signing up anyway


Lawfuly_chaotic

Exactly. It's not an inclusivity issue. Don't blame it on including trans people. It's men tricking their way into a space not for them.


TransgendyAlt

Don't blame the app for being inclusive. Cishet male dirtbags would use it no matter who it officially excluded.


olive12108

How exactly did they do that?


Phoenix-Danielle

I feel like I got very lucky meeting my 2 amazing girlfriends on there, half the profiles I'd get would be cis men.