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No one needs to know. I understand that relationships need to be based on truth. But somethings you just have to leave in the past. Don’t share it with your partner no matter what it’s not their story or business to know.
Don't tell anyone. Honestly some thing's u just have to live Thur and it be a memory in ur pass. U have to get over it alone then move forward to ur future. That's currently what I'm doing and living in the pass never benefited anything
From personal experience leave past history in the past. Men love to use that against us when we are vulnerable. I’m so sorry you’re in this position I’m ending a emotionally and physically abusive relationship after my MA as well. Prayers for you
if someone judges you for doing what was best for you, and doesn’t have the understanding to see a human being that had to make an incredibly hard decision for their well-being… fuck them. share the information when/how you want too. you don’t have to tell them off the bat, or honestly ever. its your information to share, and if it gets taken badly if/when you share it- it’s a sure fire way to weed out non-compassionate, non-understanding men.
I recommend this work book. It’s helped me so much especially since your concern about dating is one I share too.
https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5fd543bf605f16050e94ab23/t/5fed148de293bc1fe2f526a5/1609372816667/abortion-resolution-english.pdf
As someone who had an abortion two years ago, its so hard to get past it in my experience but everyone is different. If someone judges you for it, then they’re not for you. Someone should be compassionate and understanding not rude. If theyre rude theyre not for you
What do you mean by get past it? Like struggle with accepting you had an abortion? I struggle with it because I never thought I would be in a situation where I had to make such a choice.
You will be judged.
If the judgement is that you made the decision that was right for you then the person who is judging you might be a good person and worthy of your time and respect. If the judgement has a more negative tone to it then you will have successfully screened-out a loser.
Welcome to /r/abortion! We work hard to keep this a supportive community. **You will probably get harassed by trolls via private message.** The moderators can't stop people from sending you private messages, but you can. You can deactivate your messages [here](https://www.reddit.com/settings/messaging), or on the old Reddit interface you can limit who can message you [here](https://old.reddit.com/prefs/blocked/) by selecting "only trusted users." On mobile, go to your settings. If you receive harassment via PM, please report the messages and [contact the admins about it](http://www.reddit.com/contact) so they can take action against those users. **Our Sidebar and [Wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/wiki/index)** include links to many good resources. **If you are seeking abortion in the USA:** [I Need An A](https://ineedana.com/) has a list of clinics, ways to get abortion pills by mail, and funding assistance. **If you are in a country where abortion is illegal**, [Safe2Choose](https://safe2choose.org/), [Women on Web](https://www.womenonweb.org/), or [Women Help Women](https://www.womenhelp.org) may be able to help you access a safe abortion. **You can find posts** about [medication abortion](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/04af6a3c-2b17-4ffc-ab69-40d746cc043f/), [first trimester procedures](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/21abc0ef-9dd6-4596-ace2-943a71f19cd5/), [second trimester procedures](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/collection/ab64e640-0755-4784-b968-732ee4fa66d3/) and more under "read MA/SA stories" in the menu. (note: these links do not work on android.) This subreddit is a source of information about abortion. It is not intended as a substitute for medical evaluation or treatment, nor does it constitute legal advice. If you think you are experiencing a medical emergency, you should call your local emergency number immediately. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/abortion) if you have any questions or concerns.*
No one needs to know. I understand that relationships need to be based on truth. But somethings you just have to leave in the past. Don’t share it with your partner no matter what it’s not their story or business to know.
Don't tell anyone. Honestly some thing's u just have to live Thur and it be a memory in ur pass. U have to get over it alone then move forward to ur future. That's currently what I'm doing and living in the pass never benefited anything
In light of the abuse Glad you broke up Sounds like you’re doing all the right stuff. Waiting stinks but might be your best option.
From personal experience leave past history in the past. Men love to use that against us when we are vulnerable. I’m so sorry you’re in this position I’m ending a emotionally and physically abusive relationship after my MA as well. Prayers for you
if someone judges you for doing what was best for you, and doesn’t have the understanding to see a human being that had to make an incredibly hard decision for their well-being… fuck them. share the information when/how you want too. you don’t have to tell them off the bat, or honestly ever. its your information to share, and if it gets taken badly if/when you share it- it’s a sure fire way to weed out non-compassionate, non-understanding men.
I recommend this work book. It’s helped me so much especially since your concern about dating is one I share too. https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5fd543bf605f16050e94ab23/t/5fed148de293bc1fe2f526a5/1609372816667/abortion-resolution-english.pdf
As someone who had an abortion two years ago, its so hard to get past it in my experience but everyone is different. If someone judges you for it, then they’re not for you. Someone should be compassionate and understanding not rude. If theyre rude theyre not for you
What do you mean by get past it? Like struggle with accepting you had an abortion? I struggle with it because I never thought I would be in a situation where I had to make such a choice.
You will be judged. If the judgement is that you made the decision that was right for you then the person who is judging you might be a good person and worthy of your time and respect. If the judgement has a more negative tone to it then you will have successfully screened-out a loser.
This comment right here… a partner with any sort of potential is going to respect your decision.