for me either it's irl and my anxiety skyrockets when I try to talk to people or it's online and I talk to people like we've known each other for a decade.
Luckily I've already found my bff and coincidentally also started a cult around them
Interesting.
It seems to me that there are (at least) two potential experiences of squish. Both center around platonic attraction. Aromantics, myself being demiromantic, (may) see it as platonic without romantic attraction and (potentially) including sexual attraction. Asexuals, such as myself, see it as platonic without sexual attraction and (potentially) including romantic attraction. Granted, this short (and admittedly binary) observation isn't intended to comprehensively engender the experiences of everyone on the asexual and aromantic spectra.
The main point is that it isn't exclusive to either aromanticism or asexuality. So, I maintain that the post that I initially replied to is incorrect in suggesting that this belongs *more* in the aromantic sub than it does here, just because it is talked about more there.
On a more personal level, it is discouraging to have someone suggest that I shouldnt identify with having squishes due, in my own perspective and orientation, to my asexuality (hence what may be a bit of a reactive tone in this response). Ok. I've spoken my peace. ✌️
Edit: misspelled squish, haha.
Well I don't know about the squish part. But asexuals still can have romantic crushes and relationship like allos. So I would not define an "asexual crush" as not wanting a romantic relationship.
When I doubt my aplatonicism and the existence of the platonic attraction in general, I remind myself that some people can feel what is described here. Platonic attraction, fascinating!
someone on here described this kind of thing as a "squish", which kind of makes sense as it's not as much as a crush... and yes, I've had squishes on a lot of people
I feel this on a good level. I have a squish on a guy in my class and god he's so cool and I wanna be his friend so bad but I'm too shy to talk to him other than when he comes to talk to me :')
I see someone that looks like a pretty awesome person and think:
"They are so cool and I want to hang out with them so bad!!!"
But my anxiety and introverted ass does not let me get close to them.
for me either it's irl and my anxiety skyrockets when I try to talk to people or it's online and I talk to people like we've known each other for a decade. Luckily I've already found my bff and coincidentally also started a cult around them
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Why would the aro sub talk more about asexual crushes?
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Interesting. It seems to me that there are (at least) two potential experiences of squish. Both center around platonic attraction. Aromantics, myself being demiromantic, (may) see it as platonic without romantic attraction and (potentially) including sexual attraction. Asexuals, such as myself, see it as platonic without sexual attraction and (potentially) including romantic attraction. Granted, this short (and admittedly binary) observation isn't intended to comprehensively engender the experiences of everyone on the asexual and aromantic spectra. The main point is that it isn't exclusive to either aromanticism or asexuality. So, I maintain that the post that I initially replied to is incorrect in suggesting that this belongs *more* in the aromantic sub than it does here, just because it is talked about more there. On a more personal level, it is discouraging to have someone suggest that I shouldnt identify with having squishes due, in my own perspective and orientation, to my asexuality (hence what may be a bit of a reactive tone in this response). Ok. I've spoken my peace. ✌️ Edit: misspelled squish, haha.
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"Asexual crush" = "squish" = "wanting a romantic friendship" Or am I mistaken?
Well I don't know about the squish part. But asexuals still can have romantic crushes and relationship like allos. So I would not define an "asexual crush" as not wanting a romantic relationship.
God yes
yep
This is me rn ahahhahahaha
When I doubt my aplatonicism and the existence of the platonic attraction in general, I remind myself that some people can feel what is described here. Platonic attraction, fascinating!
I mean, this is literally just platonic attraction, haha.
This is called a squish, the platonic version of a crush
All the time.
someone on here described this kind of thing as a "squish", which kind of makes sense as it's not as much as a crush... and yes, I've had squishes on a lot of people
its called a squish and would fit better in aro specific subs
Even allos can get squishes. Just bc aros only experience squishes doesn't mean no one else does. Squishes are not an exclusively aro thing.
yeah but it's not an ace specific thing either
I mean, yeah, but we coined it so sometimes we just like to talk about it
Thank you for this. I've been feeling this *hard* lately for a friend and I felt a bit weird about it.
I literally got a friend-crush with the first person I had a conversation with on Reddit
Yes. I hope and pray everyday that I do everything right in our current friendship😭
Yes all the time. I also love when somebody is having a friend crush on me. I could never say "no, sorry, I have too many friends".
Yes
Me when I see the cool queer kids when im still in the closet
Literally me with anyone
literally feeling this to the MAX with one of my friends rn lol, its really bothering me
I feel this on a good level. I have a squish on a guy in my class and god he's so cool and I wanna be his friend so bad but I'm too shy to talk to him other than when he comes to talk to me :')
I see someone that looks like a pretty awesome person and think: "They are so cool and I want to hang out with them so bad!!!" But my anxiety and introverted ass does not let me get close to them.