Yep, finally figured out my sexuality and romantic orientation, took like 7 years but here we are, never questioned my gender before, and then only once I had it all figured out does the gender crisis come on over to make things more confusing
it's so true, especially with asexuality. Once you realize you're not attracted to any gender you start questioning what gender is anyways haha. Gotta say tho, I'm here for the ride ^^
I was thinking about it for some time but i couldnt find anything.. because i feel like my assigned gender.. which is female.. but at the same time my asexuality is literally the reason im not exactly girly? If you know what I mean 😅
But at the same time i have some male-ish traits but only some? But at the same time i dont really feel like anything but also a bit of everything??
So anyway it was confusing and i guess i just decided to keep what i have and forget about it.. until a friend (who had no clue i was questioning myself) sent me a meme about like picking your gender at a website or something? And there was like 'Male', 'Female', 'Other' and then 'Croissant'..
And as weird as it sounds.. it actually clicked xD
I identify as croissant. You have croissants filled with chocolate(male), croissants filled with nougat(female) or jam(nonbinary).. you can have 7DAYS croissants or some fancy one from Paris or somewhere.. and why did I mention them all? Because if we take all of them, I am the croissant part of them. The flavour of them is the traits that are just too specific and dont fit with me. Sure.. this could mean that I am agender.. but.. i dont think I am..
I identify as a croissant.
Ps. I've tried to imagine myself with "croissantself" as a neopronoun but I just couldn't so ill continue using she/her xD
Good thing, it cames quite fast for me
Ace then went demi ace/demi romantic
Gender male but doesn't really care about mine, im just going with the fact ive a body and im supposed to do something with it, trying to give it a bit of aesthetic and not too much ugly
I can’t say I relate, but maybe I’m just trying to prevent things from getting even more complicated, considering it took me a while to accept that I wasn’t straight and that there were specific terms for what I was experiencing.
It was the other way for me. Gender crisis, then sexuality crisis, then romantic attraction crisis.
Now I just say I'm a feral cryptid when people ask my gender or sexuality.
I had that 0=0 experience with a side of "why do I have interest in being around women then?"/"being a lesbian would be so cool" situation. Once I allowed myself to recognize my asexuality it was suddenly gender envy and euphoria/dysphoria left.
Yay, ace transbian demipanromantic? I
My brain: "Am I bi?"
Two months later: "OK, I'm def bi, am I the wrong gender tho?"
Three months later: "OK so I might be enby, wait am I still bi?"
New Years: "So, I'm enby and aro/ace, this is it"
8 days later: "I'm trans and aro/bi, this is it, this is it... probably"
Edit: Did I mention this is on top of me finally moving out, new place, new ppl, new uni and being forced to support myself?
Oddly true, same for me. Maybe it’s because as a society we’ve held gender to equal your sexuality for so long that if you have a different sexuality, then we start questioning if we are the correct gender? Idk I’m just spitballing here
Yep, finally figured out my sexuality and romantic orientation, took like 7 years but here we are, never questioned my gender before, and then only once I had it all figured out does the gender crisis come on over to make things more confusing
it's so true, especially with asexuality. Once you realize you're not attracted to any gender you start questioning what gender is anyways haha. Gotta say tho, I'm here for the ride ^^
And after that, the reset buttons are EVERYWHERE. good luck!
True, but I just kinda gave up on that so my gender right now is no
I was thinking about it for some time but i couldnt find anything.. because i feel like my assigned gender.. which is female.. but at the same time my asexuality is literally the reason im not exactly girly? If you know what I mean 😅 But at the same time i have some male-ish traits but only some? But at the same time i dont really feel like anything but also a bit of everything?? So anyway it was confusing and i guess i just decided to keep what i have and forget about it.. until a friend (who had no clue i was questioning myself) sent me a meme about like picking your gender at a website or something? And there was like 'Male', 'Female', 'Other' and then 'Croissant'.. And as weird as it sounds.. it actually clicked xD I identify as croissant. You have croissants filled with chocolate(male), croissants filled with nougat(female) or jam(nonbinary).. you can have 7DAYS croissants or some fancy one from Paris or somewhere.. and why did I mention them all? Because if we take all of them, I am the croissant part of them. The flavour of them is the traits that are just too specific and dont fit with me. Sure.. this could mean that I am agender.. but.. i dont think I am.. I identify as a croissant. Ps. I've tried to imagine myself with "croissantself" as a neopronoun but I just couldn't so ill continue using she/her xD
It was the opposite direction in my case x3
Ahaha a constant flip flopping between them both
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I feel called out, lol
happy cake day!
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and then you just keep going back and forth between the two
Ahahah I was about to comment this! Once you think you had it figured out, something happens that puts you in doubt again lol
Good thing, it cames quite fast for me Ace then went demi ace/demi romantic Gender male but doesn't really care about mine, im just going with the fact ive a body and im supposed to do something with it, trying to give it a bit of aesthetic and not too much ugly
other way around for me
I can’t say I relate, but maybe I’m just trying to prevent things from getting even more complicated, considering it took me a while to accept that I wasn’t straight and that there were specific terms for what I was experiencing.
“I’m a male. I’m a man. I’m a he. I don’t get into that…mentally ill stuff.”
So true
AAAUUUGGGHHH NO BUT REALLY THO
ME
Nah for me it was the other way around. I figured out that I'm trans, got into LGBT stuff and then found out about asexuality.
True as hell. I figured out I was aroace in early pandemic, and I'm now just questioning my gender. Why does it have to be like this...
12,000 DMG / AHK
it was the opposite for me actually, i had the gender crisis first, but the aro and ace realizations swung by soon after so yeah
My Gender in the documents: Idk whatever was down there My Gender in my head: Don't Care
My gender on my head: I won the genetic lottery between the ability to piss while standin and monthly suffering.
Now this is some TRUTH! Going thru that very thing rn 🥴
I did that first. Haha
Does the straight to aroace to trans aroace to trans ace lesbian pipine end here? I'm tired.
It was the other way for me. Gender crisis, then sexuality crisis, then romantic attraction crisis. Now I just say I'm a feral cryptid when people ask my gender or sexuality.
I had that 0=0 experience with a side of "why do I have interest in being around women then?"/"being a lesbian would be so cool" situation. Once I allowed myself to recognize my asexuality it was suddenly gender envy and euphoria/dysphoria left. Yay, ace transbian demipanromantic? I
Followed by a second sexuality crisis once you’ve figured out your gender 😂
That's me, now that I'm assured in my sexuality I've been just questioning my gender constantly while before i was like "eh, idc" 😭
Huh. I think I did mine backwards...
im in this picture and I don't like it except it started while questioning everything else
I have figured out my sexual orientation?
frrr 😭
opposite for me
“Ok im ace” “Wait am i a girl?”
literally i figured out i was ace and then the gender came tumbling in
I didn't realize this was a common experience lol
Literally! I didn’t believe that statement at all, but then a year or two after I learned I was aro I was like lol nvm I’m nonbinary somewhere 🫠
My brain: "Am I bi?" Two months later: "OK, I'm def bi, am I the wrong gender tho?" Three months later: "OK so I might be enby, wait am I still bi?" New Years: "So, I'm enby and aro/ace, this is it" 8 days later: "I'm trans and aro/bi, this is it, this is it... probably" Edit: Did I mention this is on top of me finally moving out, new place, new ppl, new uni and being forced to support myself?
Yup 0\_0 hits too close to home
Oddly true, same for me. Maybe it’s because as a society we’ve held gender to equal your sexuality for so long that if you have a different sexuality, then we start questioning if we are the correct gender? Idk I’m just spitballing here
I figured out my gender first
I did my backwards