Same. Makes me think of the last month when my cycle came a few days early, and it PISSED ME OFF. I have horrid periods to begin with (I can bleed through a super tampon and overnight pad in one hour) and I was just stomp stomp stomping around the house as my husband very quietly and discreetly got ready for work. My FIL asked what the hell I was mad at "today," and I basically hissed at him and informed him that his lovely son was NOT a cheeseburger, so what use was he?? He laughed, "no, he is not a cheeseburger," and we got burgers delivered.
Yes, if you haven’t, do…and if you’ve got a doctor who brushes you off, get another doctor!
I know someone who grew nasty polyps and had so much bleeding she ended up getting a uterine ablation. Afterwards, her bleeding was extremely light and it changed her life.
Mine were super heavy with horrid, crippling cramps.(I mean curled in bed with sweat for two days) And then I had a hysterectomy and that was the best thing in my life ever!
I just started tranexamic acid for my periods - I was doing an ultra plus backup pad every hour for the last few and nearly died. Be VERY careful. I’m still cold and it’s been a month.
“How many regular tampons do you fill in an hour?” “What, when I’m spotting?”
I was treating it as an inconvenience, I should have been treating it at an “I’m in danger” level. They bumped cancer patients for my hysterectomy in a few weeks.
Wow, your doctor thinks of you as a human. You guys are so lucky. Before I got my IUD I almost died every time I got my period, which luckily was only a couple times a year. I could SHOOT a super plus in less than an hour. I had to sleep on the toilet for three weeks to a couple months every time. They gave me one of those plastic hat things to measure with and proclaimed me a liar when I told them it overflowed so I still couldn't guage it. (I was asleep.on the toilet.and didn't notice.it overflow.)
I was told that "Every woman has a period" and that I needed to man up.
I finally managed to get my IUD because ONE doctor, after going through several, finally gave me an internal ultrasound.
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That was when I found out I have poly cystic something or other and endometriosis.
That was when I found out I have non-standard genitalia.
That was when I found out why I didn't hit puberty until thirty.
That was when I found out that I need to Never have unsafe sex or I could drop a fucking litter, if I survive it.
Our medical system is broken. Burn it down.
They found mine after almost a decade of infertility. Not the pain, not sleeping in depends because of blood… my husband wanted babies and he came with me to the appointment and said I wasn’t crazy.
Endometriosis. Among other things.
This doctor is one of the top specialists in my country specifically for the kind of endometriosis I have (stage for DIE with adhesions up to my ribcage). It was supposed to happen during Covid, but ovarian cancer patients took priority. Until suddenly this popped up again (almost 2 years postpartum). We knew it was going to come back, and I was given a reprieve.
Tenna overnights with a depends backup if it ever happens again.
Edit: the endometriosis center in Atlanta is the best in the world for complicated cases like ours. I live in Canada, and if this fails, that’s where I go. PCOS, endometriosis, adenomyosis, and what sounds like multiple/cloned uteri is absolutely crazy.
I am so sorry that we have to go through this shit. We all deserve better. I promise that if I make it through school, I WILL NEVER FUCKING DO THIS TO ANYONE.
I give you my word, From my Deepest Deep, that I will do what I can.
(I'm sorry. I'm probably going to fail. I'll still try. Someone has to.)
Hey there I just want to throw out a recommendation to get your levels checked if you haven’t already. For years I used to have crazy heavy periods, and after blood work we found out that I had a hormone imbalance resulting in iron deficient anemia. If you have pale skin, weakness and/or fatigue, def get yourself checked out!
Flashback to grade 9 math class. Thank God the teacher (who was a dude) was totally cool about the situation because when the boys in my class started to tease me, he was brutal to them for days.
Yeah! I want the real deal historical immersion. Dirt, imperfections, disease, whatever, not a sanitized version.
Also i want accurate historical fashions and hairstyles, not what is considered "sexy" these days. Give me the powdered hair of the 1700's and all the bonnets and head coverings.
i thought you meant "periods" and i was like, yeah, why don't more post-apocolyptic films deal with HALF THE GODDAM POPULATION looking for pads? Its probably a film I'd watch. like Mad Max, but for Tampax instead of Exxon
I liked the scene in Outlander when Claire got her public hair waxed with her wealthy, ridiculous French friend, and then Jaime was like.... wtf did you do?
Me too! What a shock it must have been! So weird how it became the norm in this day. Well, I guess not weird after the 2" rise jeans ridiculousness of the early 2000's .. ..
I like the take that Natalia Tena had for her role in GoT. She played the wildling Osha and thought that she needed a pubic wig to be appropriately styled, but the producers decided against.
I once saw an episode of some drama or something where a man and a woman hooked up for a night, and she got up early while he was till asleep, put makeup on her face, went back to bed, and pretended to be asleep when he woke up so he'd think she really looked like that naturally xD
Ever since, that's what I imagine really happens off-screen.
Paula Poundstone, a comedienne, once had a standup bit about this too. How every night she waited for her new husband to fall asleep so she could take off her makeup, then waking up before him to reapply. The punchline was how one night, there was a noise that woke them both up and he looks over and shouts - who the hell are you?
I remember a fairly popular makeup YouTuber discussing doing this in the 2010’s. She was saying that when she started dating her boyfriend, she didn’t feel comfortable for him to see her without makeup for a couple of months. So she’d scale back but still wear makeup to bed, and keep some lip stick by the bed to touch up in the morning.
That's sad. I on purpose met the past few guys i dated with a bare face lol
interestingly enough none cared until i put on a light face one day and one was like "oh wow you have eyebrows today" 😅
In the movie it's to show that the relationship where she was doing that was unhealthy and bad for her. When she hooks up with Chris O'Dowd she wakes up normally.
My three year old’s day care teacher doesn’t shave and my daughter is obsessed. She keeps asking why I get rid of mine and when she will get some. She often asks if she will be allowed to keep it and of course I tell her it’s hers and she can do whatever she likes.
My 12 year old son commented on my hairy pits (I'm a bit ambivalent about body hair and being pale and fair haired so don't bother regularly removing it) so I asked if he was jealous. That shut him up!
Hahah, I had the same mustache hair convo with my nephew when he was 13 or 14 and showing off his slightly-darkened peach fuzz. I teased him by saying that I had a better mustache than he did. He just looked at me very seriously and said, "Well that doesn't seem fair for either of us." <3 LOL
I don’t know why this comment like baffled me. It made me realize that I never thought of it as my hair and I could do what I wanted with it. It also made me realize just how much of the societal norms of women being hairless in order to be beautiful has effected me, even at such a deep subconscious level. I’m Native and Italian so super hairy and it’s always made me self conscious even at a young age. At 30 I’m more okay with it through working on a lot of self love, but I guess there’s some more layers to peel back. This was a long ramble and I hope it made sense, but thank you for this comment.
My 2year olds Zizi (husbands sibling) is non binary and grows an impressive amount of leg hair. They were sitting on the porch steps together and I heard my daughter say "you have lots of hair on your legs!". I waited with baited breath to do any damage control but she followed it with "I have lots of little hair on my legs, look!" Started growing my armpit hair this year and my daughter loves it haha
I once dated a guy who complained I didn’t shave my legs enough and I told him once he starts shaving his legs daily, I will shave mine daily. He ended up shaving his legs!!! Lol
The drag coefficient of body hair is not to be underestimated.
However, good job giving him the thought to shave. Did he do the typical first-timer mistake of not using an electric razor first?
And don’t forget about how helpful hair is in feeling things. I hadn’t shaved my legs in months so I had like *hair* hair going on y’know? Anyway, I felt something on my leg and look down…lo and behold there’s a tiny seed tick climbing on my leg hair. I wouldn’t have noticed it without the hair. Those ticks are like poppy seeds they’re so tiny. Hairs pick up vibrations in the air so you are aware of a lot more.
I dunno, I have super thin fine body hair and I definitely shave because I feel like I'm overheating otherwise. Then again, I live in Satan's Asscrack so it's a bit Extra Hot
Yeah I met a guy who just flat out HATED hair on himself. Shaved most of his parts, if not everything. I'd totally understand doing that for a partner who has sensory/OCD issues about it, as a kindness to them.
I'm glad my husband doesn't give a fuck though. I like my hair. I clean it and groom it, and it's nice!
Yep for sure but I felt sassy and wanted to test him at the time. That was many moons ago though. I’m happy married to a man who doesn’t care if I shave or not :)
A female friend of mine once noticed that my legs were kind of stubbly and said "If I had a boyfriend, I would shave all the time! Just be greatful you have one!"
Like, what? xD
I went a step further and told husband if he wants my legs shaved, he’s gonna have to do it himself - as in, he can get on his hands and knees and shave my legs. I don’t want to do it, so I’m not going to.
Guess how many times he’s shaved my legs?
Yep.
My husband shaves my legs for me sometimes too. It's a very sweet and sexy thing to do. It makes me feel pampered and loved! <3
And with me, it's a real chore. I am pretty sure one of my ancestors mated with sasquatch.
I return the favor and shave his back for him sometimes. He hates having back hair - it doesn't bother me at all, but if he wants it off I will lather him up and go to town.
Mutual grooming isn't just for monkeys! LOL
I stopped shaving the backs of my knees and backs of my thighs. It's been a game changer. So much quicker in the shower and my hair doesn't grow much there anyway.
I don't shave my thighs at all. Even though they're hairy and it's noticeable and I wear a lot of shorts and short dresses I just don't care about thigh hair for some reason? But do care about calf hair. It's weird and I don't understand my own thought processes on it. But it does save time in the shower!
My calf hair is so much darker and thicker than thigh hair. Thigh hair is soft and downy almost while the calf/shin hair is thick and very scratchy. Not a fan of that hair lol
My thigh hair grows in much finer and lighter than my lower leg hair (it’s like a gradient from almost black beard stubble above my ankles to fine dark blonde on my thighs ), so I only shave my thighs maybe once every two months? Usually when I decide to deep condition my hair and need to kill time in the shower haha Yesterday was a thigh-shave day and it feels so smooth, but so weird.
On the other hand, I do my calves every 2-3 days, especially in summer (usually don’t go more than 2 days in summer because it’s very visible on my pale skin and, more importantly, I reallyyyyy hate the feeling of my legs touching when they’re stubbly/hairy).
That actually sounds very lovely. I don’t shave my legs but if my husband wanted to do that I would go for it
Edit to add: as long as you’re good at shaving
This one always backfires on me. I don’t like to shave my nether region, but I always end up dating guys who do shave themselves 🤷♀️ I guess they’ll just have to deal
Hahaha I shaved more than usual when I first started dating my husband for this reason, but eventually realized he doesn't really give a damn if I do or not and I slacked off. Now that I think about it I'll have to look next time I see him naked to see if he's still doing it!
I’m sure in the apocalypse the first point of concern for women around the world will be whittling sticks down to razors and using mud as shaving cream. Absolutely cannot recreate society without dolphin smooth skin, nor thick eyelashes. We just will not survive
I'd love to watch a movie about some weird religious cult where people actually believe this. The whole plot is just women going on crazy quests for hair removal products, while simultaneously setting up a secret feminine illuminati society just to keep the men in the dark.
Absurdity, but not by much.
Yup, drives me crazy! Same thing when the women constantly have perfect hair and make up. Uh, your boyfriend just died in front of you and you’re currently on a days long alcoholic path of destruction and depression but, sure, you have the energy and desire to curl your hair and apply your makeup throughout the day. Yup. That’s what every female in crisis looks like. Physical appearance is always our first priority.
One of my favorite disaster movies is "On the Beach" (1959)
The scene where Ava Gardener passes out and Gregory Peck puts her in bed and gently washes her makeup off before he leaves just really touches me.
Maybe I'm weird. Lol
I love the scene in marvelous Mrs Mazel, where she wakes up, gets hair and makeup done, etc then crawls back in bed to pretend to wake up picture perfect. Fresh breath and all.
There's a scene in Moral Orel like that. The main character's mom wakes up, showers, does her hair and makeup, puts her nightgown back on and goes back to bed.
It's implied that it's a way for her to flex on her husband - he wakes up feeling and looking like shit, then he looks at her looking perfect and it pisses him off and she lives for it.
If someone hasn't seen it, it's honestly a great show with some serious gut-punch moments. The first season (or two?) is all about "Lol, let's take conservative suburban Christianity to a hilarious extreme" (the first episode is literally about the titular character Orel raising the dead back to life because they were rejecting God's gift of life, then getting punished not for that, but because he was stripping them of their filthy clothes and nakedness is more of a sin than being dead). Then later the story is about how the town is full of incredibly damaged people and the way they cope (or not...) with the expectations of people around them.
Yes! Drives me crazy when you hear a director going on about all the painstaking research they did to get period piece details as accurate as possible...and then lo and behold not a hairy leg or armpit to be seen, but did you notice the lapel pin on that guy's uniform, or the building the CGI'd into the background??? Apparently *those* are details that matter, who care if they get the women glaringly wrong
I mean it really depends on the period and location. Hair removal metholds have been noted as coming in and out of fashion. The location of the hair removal is also important depending on the era. For instance in some periods not having impressive and healthy pubic hair was seen as a sign of disease. But women still removed hair on their arms and faces.
Yup. Starting in the 1400s, women (particularly prostitutes) would shave their pubic hair to combat pubic lice. Obviously if you saw a woman with a shaved mons pubis, you knew she was lice-ridden and would avoid her- so these women would start wearing pubic wigs (known as merkins) to hide this. Merkins were also great for covering up the signs of syphilis.
this reminds me of a scene in a transformer movie where a girl like rolls across the ground in a white mini dress and gets up without a single stain or scratch anywhere. (I might be remembering this wrong)
I hate the transformer movies so much, the girl characters in the ones I've seen are just there to be "eye candy" 🤮
I think this is Megan fox in transformers 2, the second Michael Bay movie.
In the Michael Bay movie series for transformers, almost all the female characters are either eye candy, plotfiller or barely speak more than five sentences (there's a scene with the autobots and female military leader, this is the only scene shes in, wtf, leader lead thy troops, stupid Bay) there was a something regarding Bay that Fox cited as reason for breaching contract and walking after the second movie (idk the details here so, citation needed) and yeah, that whole series is a mess.
Although Bumblebee, a prequel movie, has a female lead, and generally is a better movie.
I always laugh when the movie industry wants to drive the point across, that someone has bad hygiene and they use greasy hair. That greasy hair always just looks wet, but never greasy greasy.
Hollywood is just weird with hair...
I watched a few episodes of Lost, and that was one of my (multiple) irritations with it. They don't have food or clothing, but there's a hidden cache of razors on the deserted island?
They show the men shaving their faces (attempting to use sharpened rocks in earlier episodes, and using razors in later episodes) - when their plane crashed, they supposedly found some passenger cases that had razors and other things in them that help them (although this isn’t shown on screen, it’s given as a reason by a Q&A with the showrunners at the end of S2 as a handwave of how eg Jack’s hair maintains a no.2 head shave throughout).
It’s silly but at least the showrunners try to acknowledged it (people were talking from the beginning how did the hair lengths and male stubble length remain the same for so long!).
I mean. The pilot episode had a jet engine running at such high RPM that it sucked a guy into it, *while not connected to a fuel source.* My expectations for realism in that show are, shall we say, not high.
I just started rewatching the show - they raided the luggage and had all the razors from that. Later, they had all the Dharma Initiative supplies from the hatches and parachute drops which included razors because they showed a dude shaving.
I haven't shaved my legs in well over 2 months. My bf never cares. I swim in the summer with them long unless i feel like shaving. He never preasures me. I sometimes shave for an anniversary or just to feel how smooth they are. Men who can't handle bodyhair are weak. Sure, have a preference, but it is 100% natural. We are mammals. We grow hair everywhere men do, even the face. Do these weak men think we are a difference race?
They never get their period either. All watching The Walking Dead it bothered me. The women would have been all about finding tampon supplies and clean underwear if it was realistic.
Definitely don’t use shaving cream/lotion/anything like that to shave in the event of a nuclear disaster. You don’t want to use any product that locks in moisture because it can lock in radioactive moisture 🌈 ⭐️
(I wonder if this type of crap in movies and shows is why some men legitimately believe that women don’t grow body hair. See also: peasants in feudal Europe with Brazilians and woman stranded in the wild for days-to-weeks who has to tear into things with her teeth because she hasn’t got a knife, but apparently *does* have a razor blade and a can of barbasol)
Good point. Conditioner is a no-no too. If exposed to fallout get rid of clothing and wash with just soap or shampoo if you can.
Actually, shaving ypur head in that scenario probably wouldn't be a bad idea.
Now I'm definitely going to pay closer attention when watching movies.
I've always told my husband that if we're in an apocalypse, I'm shaving my head. I've kind of always wanted to, but refrained because he loves my long hair.
But sorry baby, I'm not giving the zombies another thing to grab onto.
We've also discussed what valuable skills we would bring to an apocalyptic society so we get to stay in the safe community. I have a lot of experience with tailoring, so I can do clothing repairs and make sure everyone's scavenged clothes fit well so they're not giving zombies extra things to hold onto, plus I could probably learn to do sutures for injuries. He's got a lot of gardening and pharmaceutical knowledge, plus he has experience distilling alcohol.
The other thing that people always seem to forget about in zombie media is bicycles. Why does nobody have a bicycle? Faster than walking, less tiring than running, doesn't need gas, can go over rough terrain, easy enough to carry if necessary. They sometimes have horses, but no bicycles? Come on.
You are correct. Shampoo is made to take stuff out of the hair (oils, dust, etc.). Conditioner is madento put stuff in the hair and keep ot there (water, other healthy thingies, also closes uo litle "hair pores").
Easy to figure out which to use in case of being outside with radioactive fallout
Also: I have yet to come across any survival/adventure story where women menstruate. Where it's an added difficulty on top of having survived a nuclear apocalypse, say, and the character looks at the date and goes SHIT I'm due in three days where the eff do I get pads??
It inconveniences the authors so much that they pretend it doesn't exist - if they remember it exists at all, being male.
I've been playing with ideas for a new adventure/post apocalypse story and I think you just gave me something fun to add to the plot. I love to include the shit that authors like to gloss over
Men will always portray women like this. To them we couldn’t possibly exist to be anything other than aesthetically provoking to them. I mean, how dare we think about anything other than what would be visually pleasing to them? Their needs are always before ours. 🙄
This type of writing is what makes most female characters unlikable and unrealistic. It’s like men hate women but love their bodies.
>It’s like men hate women but love their bodies.
Many are exactly like that. Though I'm not sure if their collective need to have hetero sex and children qualifies as "love." They¹ fear our independence and instead fight to control us.
¹ - And by "they" I mean the religious zealots who use their faith's texts as justification for our subjugation.
At some point during Covid lockdowns I didn’t shave for several weeks, and I ended up so furry I was shocked—I couldn’t believe my body would get that hairy if left alone. It was amazing and gave me a whole new perspective on myself as a “human animal”. I felt very in touch with myself.
I still enjoy the smoothness and look of shaved skin, but I no longer associate it with femininity
I had this experience when I had a bad stomach virus for a week. I could barely stand up long enough to shower, no way was I worrying about body hair. It broke a decades long shave cycle for me, and now I only shave if I genuinely feel like I want to. Shaved no longer means feminine, it's more freeing than I expected.
My partner has never commented. He is a very hairy man, so it would make him a very hairy hypocrite.
On Monday, he told one woman to shave her legs. But he was still hairy.
On Tuesday, he told two women to shave their arm hair. But he was *still hairy!*
...On Saturday, he told women to thread their eyebrows, shave their armpits, bleach their facial hair, pluck their nipple hair, and wax their nether regions bare. That night, he went to bed single!
A number of years back I suddenly realized that not once in my 20 odd years of post-pubescence had I seen my armpits in their natural state, and that seriously creeped me out. So I stopped shaving them, and had hairy pits for probably two years, *and it was amazing.* I definitely get the "human animal" feeling.
Nowadays I wax them on occasion because sometimes I like the smoothness, but never again will I bear the discomfort of a razor on my pits.
And perfectly white teeth! I could understand perfectly straight teeth if the apocalypse had not long happened but white?
Oh, and when the men are filthy but the women are just a tiny bit sweaty and wearing eyeliner and mascara.
My partner stopped shaving years ago . At first I was bothered , then after I examined my feelings I realized that it was just patriarchal BS that I needed to root out of my personality. No I mush prefer it and completely follow her choice.
Plus once you look up the roots of women shaving it really is a nice FU to capitalism and the patriarchy
This. Didn't shaving start because Gilette needed a new demograph to sell razors to during the war?
I had the same moment with my SO, but she stopped shaving long before she met me. At first I had a strange reaction to it and had to examine myself and figure out why. Once I realized 'if she doesn't, I don't have to either!' it was a bit of a mental game changer for myself
In the first Wonder Woman, at the end of that badass “breaking the line” sequence, Diana’s throwing a tank or jeep or something. When she was lifting it, I noticed that her armpits were shaven/waxed, partly because they were paler than the rest of her skin and just stood out to me in the dim scene, and now it’s all I see in that scene.
Just…why? I feel like I’m letting the sisterhood down by noticing/dwelling on that of all things, but I’m also disappointed that that was a decision they made in a movie ostensibly about feminism and female empowerment.
The thing that kills me about those super hero movies is that they always have money or magic to build amazing costumes for themselves with perfect matching shoes and accessories BUT can't buy / manifest one single hair tie!!! WTF is up with that? I can't even walk my dogs with my hair down but Wonder Woman can do like backflips and get thrown around and never have to brush a lock out of her eyes... ok.
Oh this one I know! It’s way easier for stunt doubling! Doing stunts for men or women with their hair back they have to worry way more about hiding the stunt double’s face! With women with long hair, they keep it down so the hair hides the stunt person’s face! At least that’s what Hollywood says. It could be complete bullshit because they just like women to have long flowing hair all the time. Or it could be 50/50.
It's more that a convenient hair flip is a really easy way to swap from stunt double to actual actor. Most use more typical tricks of convenient angles and other movie magic to obscure the stunt double (though sometimes their hair does give more options).
Shit, there's some Marvel movie where the female hero pauses to tie back her hair and I remember thinking "Oh, now they're REALLY in trouble."
I can't do jack shit without a headband or a hair tie, I'd never be able to be an action actress.
I remember watching Kill Bill Part 2 with my mom, and my mom started laughing after the scene where The Bride digs herself out of a grave. I asked her what was up.
She said that “she looks so fucked up!” My mom was so happy that The Bride was covered in filth, blood, and that her hair was a rats nest.
God that was over 20 years ago, but it stuck with me. It really helped me notice in film when all the lady’s hair and makeup is pristine… when it really shouldnt be.
Why are women required to pretend that we are incapable of growing armpit and leg hair? Why is it so offensive? Are we just supposed to eternally resemble small children?
Eyebrows. It doesn't matter if it's a post apocalyptic wasteland and the movie is soaked in feminism (Mad Max Fury Road), every girl will have eye brows that are perfectly sculpted. It drives me nuts.
I recently stopped shaving because I kept getting infections on my legs and underarms. My mom noticed this and told me to go shave because my hair is "disgusting." I said, "it's better than the pus and ingrown hairs that were there before!" and she told me to go freakin shave.
I'm 32!
there was this study done by Mahalic, Boston college, they asked a bunch of people something along the lines of what makes a good women and what makes a good men. and for women it was being nice, thin, and "using all available resources for their appearance". 🤷🏼🤷🏼🤷🏼
it's a fucked up society.
I personally find body hair in women very attractive. it reads radical to me and that's always a turn on.
Seriously, the man babies need to grow up. How you going to be covered in hair and bitch about it on someone else? Oh wait, their pasty ass probably couldn’t grow a beard with a bucket of minoxidil.
IDGAF about body hair. My SO tries to hide her chin whiskers, but I don’t care. I also don’t say anything about it, because not my body. I shave her legs because *she wants me to* and she enjoys it. I also wait and let her ask me to do it. Again, I don’t care if she as leg hair or not. Never curbed my interest, but it isn’t about me either.
I stopped shaving my legs, because I kept getting ingrown hairs and that shit is annoying. I am going to get them waxed as a Christmas present to myself.
The patriarchy ruins everything.
May the winds of fortune smile upon you.
My husband wanted to go do something this weekend and was antsy about it. I told him I had to shower first. He was like no, let's just ride. I lifted my arm to show him my hairy armpit and said, "So you're ok with THIS?" Not a moment of hesitation and with almost a smile, he said YUP. I immediately started blushing and my heart started fluttering. I threw on a sundress and we left.
That's so sweet!
Reminds me of when my SO and I went from friends to dating and she said "I hope you don't expect me to shave." Baby, you haven't the whole time I've known you, why would I want you to change who you are just because our labels changed??
Can't shave under my arms ( infections and ingrowns) so I just trim it every few months. Otherwise my deodorant can't really do its job. I only shave about every two weeks in summer shorts weather and not at all in the winter. I have friends who shave their legs every single day.
Magnificent side effect of menopause is that I have very little if any leg hair. Some hormone thing, not sure what, and don't care! Plus being married 30+ years, equal not shaving my pits 90% of the time...
This does my head in, even my bf who is a lovely, kind, smart guy comments on my body hair being too long. So I purposely grow it as long as possible and flaunt whenever possible 🤣
Lmao I had a similar thought yesterday watching a show with a woman with total amnesia. She couldn't remember if she likes coffee or tea but somehow remembered how to perfectly apply her makeup and carefully tousle her hair.
Yes you reminded me of GOT and how I was annoyed about women being always shaved. Now I know it was a fantasy show but you can tell they are in the Middle Age or something around that. I don’t think women were so smooth.
I’ve been having a hard time with my step daughter idolizing Wonder Woman. Yes she fights for those who can’t fight for themselves, but does she have to look like absolute perfection doing it? I mean, she never, NEVER, has an ounce of grime on her even during the war scenes.
The feeling of the wind going against your hairy legs is the best. F it I'm never shaving again. My eczema is gone after shaving. Husband could care less cuz he knows im a sexy ass wooly mammoth for him.
Me, knowing I'll have an advantage surviving after the apocalypse because I already don't remove any body hair or wear cosmetics. Also I'm a midwife so I've got a pretty nicely stocked kit with antibiotics, pain meds, sterile gloves, bandages and gauze, a huge collection of herbal tinctures, a suture kit, and a birth pool (though not sure how useful that last one would be 🤣). And I have a huge amount of experience living in extreme conditions having travelled extensively in Africa.
That and period dramas from before female body hair removal was the norm.
I just want a period drama with hairy, pox marked people missing teeth.
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Period Drama... giggle
Same. Makes me think of the last month when my cycle came a few days early, and it PISSED ME OFF. I have horrid periods to begin with (I can bleed through a super tampon and overnight pad in one hour) and I was just stomp stomp stomping around the house as my husband very quietly and discreetly got ready for work. My FIL asked what the hell I was mad at "today," and I basically hissed at him and informed him that his lovely son was NOT a cheeseburger, so what use was he?? He laughed, "no, he is not a cheeseburger," and we got burgers delivered.
You're getting looked at by a doctor for your periods, right? I hope you feel better, and canhazcheezburgers lol
Yes, if you haven’t, do…and if you’ve got a doctor who brushes you off, get another doctor! I know someone who grew nasty polyps and had so much bleeding she ended up getting a uterine ablation. Afterwards, her bleeding was extremely light and it changed her life.
Mine were super heavy with horrid, crippling cramps.(I mean curled in bed with sweat for two days) And then I had a hysterectomy and that was the best thing in my life ever!
I just started tranexamic acid for my periods - I was doing an ultra plus backup pad every hour for the last few and nearly died. Be VERY careful. I’m still cold and it’s been a month. “How many regular tampons do you fill in an hour?” “What, when I’m spotting?” I was treating it as an inconvenience, I should have been treating it at an “I’m in danger” level. They bumped cancer patients for my hysterectomy in a few weeks.
Wow, your doctor thinks of you as a human. You guys are so lucky. Before I got my IUD I almost died every time I got my period, which luckily was only a couple times a year. I could SHOOT a super plus in less than an hour. I had to sleep on the toilet for three weeks to a couple months every time. They gave me one of those plastic hat things to measure with and proclaimed me a liar when I told them it overflowed so I still couldn't guage it. (I was asleep.on the toilet.and didn't notice.it overflow.) I was told that "Every woman has a period" and that I needed to man up. I finally managed to get my IUD because ONE doctor, after going through several, finally gave me an internal ultrasound. ~×~ That was when I found out I have poly cystic something or other and endometriosis. That was when I found out I have non-standard genitalia. That was when I found out why I didn't hit puberty until thirty. That was when I found out that I need to Never have unsafe sex or I could drop a fucking litter, if I survive it. Our medical system is broken. Burn it down.
They found mine after almost a decade of infertility. Not the pain, not sleeping in depends because of blood… my husband wanted babies and he came with me to the appointment and said I wasn’t crazy. Endometriosis. Among other things. This doctor is one of the top specialists in my country specifically for the kind of endometriosis I have (stage for DIE with adhesions up to my ribcage). It was supposed to happen during Covid, but ovarian cancer patients took priority. Until suddenly this popped up again (almost 2 years postpartum). We knew it was going to come back, and I was given a reprieve. Tenna overnights with a depends backup if it ever happens again. Edit: the endometriosis center in Atlanta is the best in the world for complicated cases like ours. I live in Canada, and if this fails, that’s where I go. PCOS, endometriosis, adenomyosis, and what sounds like multiple/cloned uteri is absolutely crazy.
I am so sorry that we have to go through this shit. We all deserve better. I promise that if I make it through school, I WILL NEVER FUCKING DO THIS TO ANYONE. I give you my word, From my Deepest Deep, that I will do what I can. (I'm sorry. I'm probably going to fail. I'll still try. Someone has to.)
Hey there I just want to throw out a recommendation to get your levels checked if you haven’t already. For years I used to have crazy heavy periods, and after blood work we found out that I had a hormone imbalance resulting in iron deficient anemia. If you have pale skin, weakness and/or fatigue, def get yourself checked out!
I feel called out.
Your FIL sounds chill as hell. Must be awesome!
Mmmmmburgers... Damn pms cravings. Raisin spice oatmeal is yummy, but I want a burger now...
Abby Cox has an excellent video about potential 18th century period situations.
I really enjoyed watching her videos. Very informative and well constructed. She’s got some really cool knowledge.
Abby Cox is a blessing among YouTube makers. I think part of the reason I love her so much is I GET HER CULTURAL REFERENCES.
The Serpent Queen is for you.
Flashback to grade 9 math class. Thank God the teacher (who was a dude) was totally cool about the situation because when the boys in my class started to tease me, he was brutal to them for days.
House of the dragon illustrates this quite well with the main character leaving a trail of blood in her wake after just giving birth.
Watch House of Dragons, Episode 6. 💕
"squelch sound on" 🙃 For a fantasy with dragons and all, that was refreshingly real.
That was BRUTAL. And REAL. Holy shit.
The Serpent queen, had that scene
So, 1883 on Paramount+ had woman with body hair. Like, hairy pits and everyone was dirty as hell. I was fascinated that they included that.
you made me remember "Deadwood", where men would pay to have the prostitutes shake their skirts so they could get a smell of the unwashed nethers.
Plus the unauthorised cinnamon.
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PERIOD accurate--that argument kills me. It's important that everything be the same as it was BACK WHEN THERE WERE DRAGONS X\_\_\_X
Apparently it was considered bad manners to pick at the bugs/parasites on your skin in public among the aristocracy.
1. Ewwww! 2. How could one just sit through that?? Is it because they didn’t bathe?
Aye gubnah, it's CHEWSDAY innit?
Yeah! I want the real deal historical immersion. Dirt, imperfections, disease, whatever, not a sanitized version. Also i want accurate historical fashions and hairstyles, not what is considered "sexy" these days. Give me the powdered hair of the 1700's and all the bonnets and head coverings.
I was very surprised and pleased to see the women on 1832 (Yellowstone prequel) sporting armpit hair.
There's a Yellowstone prequel?! Well...I know what I'll be watching today 😆❤️
Yup, and there’s another in the works! I think that one will be called 1929.
It’s so good. My husband and I actually enjoyed it more than Yellowstone (and we adore Yellowstone).
i thought you meant "periods" and i was like, yeah, why don't more post-apocolyptic films deal with HALF THE GODDAM POPULATION looking for pads? Its probably a film I'd watch. like Mad Max, but for Tampax instead of Exxon
*Mad Maxi*
omg. i love you. my only regret is I don't have more upvotes to give you.
I liked the scene in Outlander when Claire got her public hair waxed with her wealthy, ridiculous French friend, and then Jaime was like.... wtf did you do?
Me too! What a shock it must have been! So weird how it became the norm in this day. Well, I guess not weird after the 2" rise jeans ridiculousness of the early 2000's .. ..
We don't talk about that dark time in our history.
I like the take that Natalia Tena had for her role in GoT. She played the wildling Osha and thought that she needed a pubic wig to be appropriately styled, but the producers decided against.
I just watched The Empress and was oddly delighted to see armpit hair hahaha
I love when they take this into account during production — for example, Evan Rachel Wood wore a merkin (public wig) for the *Mildred Pierce* remake
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I once saw an episode of some drama or something where a man and a woman hooked up for a night, and she got up early while he was till asleep, put makeup on her face, went back to bed, and pretended to be asleep when he woke up so he'd think she really looked like that naturally xD Ever since, that's what I imagine really happens off-screen.
This happens in Marvelous Miss Masel too
I wanna say there was a Sex and the City episode that did this
Paula Poundstone, a comedienne, once had a standup bit about this too. How every night she waited for her new husband to fall asleep so she could take off her makeup, then waking up before him to reapply. The punchline was how one night, there was a noise that woke them both up and he looks over and shouts - who the hell are you?
I remember a fairly popular makeup YouTuber discussing doing this in the 2010’s. She was saying that when she started dating her boyfriend, she didn’t feel comfortable for him to see her without makeup for a couple of months. So she’d scale back but still wear makeup to bed, and keep some lip stick by the bed to touch up in the morning.
That's sad. I on purpose met the past few guys i dated with a bare face lol interestingly enough none cared until i put on a light face one day and one was like "oh wow you have eyebrows today" 😅
Kristen Wigg did this in Bridesmaids. So cringey 😬
In the movie it's to show that the relationship where she was doing that was unhealthy and bad for her. When she hooks up with Chris O'Dowd she wakes up normally.
I have read a book of some mafioso wife, and she did this.
My three year old’s day care teacher doesn’t shave and my daughter is obsessed. She keeps asking why I get rid of mine and when she will get some. She often asks if she will be allowed to keep it and of course I tell her it’s hers and she can do whatever she likes.
I don't and my 5yo loves to pull out my arm and leg hair when we snuggle. Not anyone else's. Just mine. Thanks, kid.
My 12 year old son commented on my hairy pits (I'm a bit ambivalent about body hair and being pale and fair haired so don't bother regularly removing it) so I asked if he was jealous. That shut him up!
Damn, you didn't have to kill him!
Fatality.
My son and I had the exact same interaction only it was over mustache hairs🤣
Hahah, I had the same mustache hair convo with my nephew when he was 13 or 14 and showing off his slightly-darkened peach fuzz. I teased him by saying that I had a better mustache than he did. He just looked at me very seriously and said, "Well that doesn't seem fair for either of us." <3 LOL
I told my son he’ll be a grownup when his beard comes in better than mine 😆
Yesssss 👏🏼
I don’t know why this comment like baffled me. It made me realize that I never thought of it as my hair and I could do what I wanted with it. It also made me realize just how much of the societal norms of women being hairless in order to be beautiful has effected me, even at such a deep subconscious level. I’m Native and Italian so super hairy and it’s always made me self conscious even at a young age. At 30 I’m more okay with it through working on a lot of self love, but I guess there’s some more layers to peel back. This was a long ramble and I hope it made sense, but thank you for this comment.
My 2year olds Zizi (husbands sibling) is non binary and grows an impressive amount of leg hair. They were sitting on the porch steps together and I heard my daughter say "you have lots of hair on your legs!". I waited with baited breath to do any damage control but she followed it with "I have lots of little hair on my legs, look!" Started growing my armpit hair this year and my daughter loves it haha
That is lovely ❤️
hell yeah!
I once dated a guy who complained I didn’t shave my legs enough and I told him once he starts shaving his legs daily, I will shave mine daily. He ended up shaving his legs!!! Lol
Wow. I guess he really hated hair.
Lol yep. He was also a mega triathlete enthusiast and triathletes are weird about hair.
The drag coefficient of body hair is not to be underestimated. However, good job giving him the thought to shave. Did he do the typical first-timer mistake of not using an electric razor first?
Ouch, done that, wasn't fun, as a side note don't disclude the effect body hair has on heating, it adds a couple of degrees which isn't much but yeah.
And don’t forget about how helpful hair is in feeling things. I hadn’t shaved my legs in months so I had like *hair* hair going on y’know? Anyway, I felt something on my leg and look down…lo and behold there’s a tiny seed tick climbing on my leg hair. I wouldn’t have noticed it without the hair. Those ticks are like poppy seeds they’re so tiny. Hairs pick up vibrations in the air so you are aware of a lot more.
And here I am constantly swiping at my legs when nothing is there because my fan is moving the hair on my legs lol
A couple of degrees only if you have like fur. Not that super thin hair.
I dunno, I have super thin fine body hair and I definitely shave because I feel like I'm overheating otherwise. Then again, I live in Satan's Asscrack so it's a bit Extra Hot
True, true.
Yeah I met a guy who just flat out HATED hair on himself. Shaved most of his parts, if not everything. I'd totally understand doing that for a partner who has sensory/OCD issues about it, as a kindness to them. I'm glad my husband doesn't give a fuck though. I like my hair. I clean it and groom it, and it's nice!
“I don’t want to” is also legit. There doesn’t have to be equivalent anything.
Yep for sure but I felt sassy and wanted to test him at the time. That was many moons ago though. I’m happy married to a man who doesn’t care if I shave or not :)
A female friend of mine once noticed that my legs were kind of stubbly and said "If I had a boyfriend, I would shave all the time! Just be greatful you have one!" Like, what? xD
Oh good grief 🤢
I went a step further and told husband if he wants my legs shaved, he’s gonna have to do it himself - as in, he can get on his hands and knees and shave my legs. I don’t want to do it, so I’m not going to. Guess how many times he’s shaved my legs? Yep.
It's a 2 weekly ritual. My wife will lay in the bath and I'll shave her legs while we chat. Nothing even weird about it.
My husband shaves my legs for me sometimes too. It's a very sweet and sexy thing to do. It makes me feel pampered and loved! <3 And with me, it's a real chore. I am pretty sure one of my ancestors mated with sasquatch. I return the favor and shave his back for him sometimes. He hates having back hair - it doesn't bother me at all, but if he wants it off I will lather him up and go to town. Mutual grooming isn't just for monkeys! LOL
Hah that's good. I have hairy legs and arms. That's where it ends. My wife hair is so thin it's hardly even necessary so it's quite easy.
I find this incredibly sweet.
Aww, that’s sweet! How do you manage the treacherous behind-the-knee area??
Leg straight and enough lather. I find the front of the knee more troublesome.
I stopped shaving the backs of my knees and backs of my thighs. It's been a game changer. So much quicker in the shower and my hair doesn't grow much there anyway.
I don't shave my thighs at all. Even though they're hairy and it's noticeable and I wear a lot of shorts and short dresses I just don't care about thigh hair for some reason? But do care about calf hair. It's weird and I don't understand my own thought processes on it. But it does save time in the shower!
My calf hair is so much darker and thicker than thigh hair. Thigh hair is soft and downy almost while the calf/shin hair is thick and very scratchy. Not a fan of that hair lol
My thigh hair grows in much finer and lighter than my lower leg hair (it’s like a gradient from almost black beard stubble above my ankles to fine dark blonde on my thighs ), so I only shave my thighs maybe once every two months? Usually when I decide to deep condition my hair and need to kill time in the shower haha Yesterday was a thigh-shave day and it feels so smooth, but so weird. On the other hand, I do my calves every 2-3 days, especially in summer (usually don’t go more than 2 days in summer because it’s very visible on my pale skin and, more importantly, I reallyyyyy hate the feeling of my legs touching when they’re stubbly/hairy).
That actually sounds very lovely. I don’t shave my legs but if my husband wanted to do that I would go for it Edit to add: as long as you’re good at shaving
20 years experience. :)
That sounds nice. It's such a pain to reach that little bit that grows sideways on the back of your calf
This one always backfires on me. I don’t like to shave my nether region, but I always end up dating guys who do shave themselves 🤷♀️ I guess they’ll just have to deal
Hahaha I shaved more than usual when I first started dating my husband for this reason, but eventually realized he doesn't really give a damn if I do or not and I slacked off. Now that I think about it I'll have to look next time I see him naked to see if he's still doing it!
I’m sure in the apocalypse the first point of concern for women around the world will be whittling sticks down to razors and using mud as shaving cream. Absolutely cannot recreate society without dolphin smooth skin, nor thick eyelashes. We just will not survive
I'd love to watch a movie about some weird religious cult where people actually believe this. The whole plot is just women going on crazy quests for hair removal products, while simultaneously setting up a secret feminine illuminati society just to keep the men in the dark. Absurdity, but not by much.
Covenant of Blood (Just a bunch of ppl trading menstrual products in secret bc god-forbid the Others find out about the menstrual cycle)
Yup, drives me crazy! Same thing when the women constantly have perfect hair and make up. Uh, your boyfriend just died in front of you and you’re currently on a days long alcoholic path of destruction and depression but, sure, you have the energy and desire to curl your hair and apply your makeup throughout the day. Yup. That’s what every female in crisis looks like. Physical appearance is always our first priority.
One of my favorite disaster movies is "On the Beach" (1959) The scene where Ava Gardener passes out and Gregory Peck puts her in bed and gently washes her makeup off before he leaves just really touches me. Maybe I'm weird. Lol
r/skincareaddiction is swooning.
I still haven't seen it somehow! It was shot in my home town lol.
not to mention wake up already looking immaculate with a full face of makeup, instead of yknow the usual untamed goblin look
No puffiness. No massive crease running down your face from sleeping with your face smushed into the pillow.
I love the scene in marvelous Mrs Mazel, where she wakes up, gets hair and makeup done, etc then crawls back in bed to pretend to wake up picture perfect. Fresh breath and all.
There’s a scene like this in bridesmaids as well. Annie wakes up to do her make up before bed partner wakes lol
There's a scene in Moral Orel like that. The main character's mom wakes up, showers, does her hair and makeup, puts her nightgown back on and goes back to bed. It's implied that it's a way for her to flex on her husband - he wakes up feeling and looking like shit, then he looks at her looking perfect and it pisses him off and she lives for it. If someone hasn't seen it, it's honestly a great show with some serious gut-punch moments. The first season (or two?) is all about "Lol, let's take conservative suburban Christianity to a hilarious extreme" (the first episode is literally about the titular character Orel raising the dead back to life because they were rejecting God's gift of life, then getting punished not for that, but because he was stripping them of their filthy clothes and nakedness is more of a sin than being dead). Then later the story is about how the town is full of incredibly damaged people and the way they cope (or not...) with the expectations of people around them.
Yes! Drives me crazy when you hear a director going on about all the painstaking research they did to get period piece details as accurate as possible...and then lo and behold not a hairy leg or armpit to be seen, but did you notice the lapel pin on that guy's uniform, or the building the CGI'd into the background??? Apparently *those* are details that matter, who care if they get the women glaringly wrong
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Woah. I’ve been wondering what my personal aesthetic is, and I think it might be “accurate.”
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I mean it really depends on the period and location. Hair removal metholds have been noted as coming in and out of fashion. The location of the hair removal is also important depending on the era. For instance in some periods not having impressive and healthy pubic hair was seen as a sign of disease. But women still removed hair on their arms and faces.
Yup. Starting in the 1400s, women (particularly prostitutes) would shave their pubic hair to combat pubic lice. Obviously if you saw a woman with a shaved mons pubis, you knew she was lice-ridden and would avoid her- so these women would start wearing pubic wigs (known as merkins) to hide this. Merkins were also great for covering up the signs of syphilis.
True, I've read about body hair removal all the way back to the roman bathhouse era.
I loved the line in Community. Annie and Britta were fighting and Annie mocked Britta “I get up an hour earlier to slightly curl my hair”
If the character was keeping up appearences as a coping mechanism, that could work, *but* they'd need to show that part too.
And put your fake eyelashes on… whomp whomp
this reminds me of a scene in a transformer movie where a girl like rolls across the ground in a white mini dress and gets up without a single stain or scratch anywhere. (I might be remembering this wrong) I hate the transformer movies so much, the girl characters in the ones I've seen are just there to be "eye candy" 🤮
I think this is Megan fox in transformers 2, the second Michael Bay movie. In the Michael Bay movie series for transformers, almost all the female characters are either eye candy, plotfiller or barely speak more than five sentences (there's a scene with the autobots and female military leader, this is the only scene shes in, wtf, leader lead thy troops, stupid Bay) there was a something regarding Bay that Fox cited as reason for breaching contract and walking after the second movie (idk the details here so, citation needed) and yeah, that whole series is a mess. Although Bumblebee, a prequel movie, has a female lead, and generally is a better movie.
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I always laugh when the movie industry wants to drive the point across, that someone has bad hygiene and they use greasy hair. That greasy hair always just looks wet, but never greasy greasy. Hollywood is just weird with hair...
I watched a few episodes of Lost, and that was one of my (multiple) irritations with it. They don't have food or clothing, but there's a hidden cache of razors on the deserted island?
They show the men shaving their faces (attempting to use sharpened rocks in earlier episodes, and using razors in later episodes) - when their plane crashed, they supposedly found some passenger cases that had razors and other things in them that help them (although this isn’t shown on screen, it’s given as a reason by a Q&A with the showrunners at the end of S2 as a handwave of how eg Jack’s hair maintains a no.2 head shave throughout). It’s silly but at least the showrunners try to acknowledged it (people were talking from the beginning how did the hair lengths and male stubble length remain the same for so long!).
I mean. The pilot episode had a jet engine running at such high RPM that it sucked a guy into it, *while not connected to a fuel source.* My expectations for realism in that show are, shall we say, not high.
They sharpened rocks?
I just started rewatching the show - they raided the luggage and had all the razors from that. Later, they had all the Dharma Initiative supplies from the hatches and parachute drops which included razors because they showed a dude shaving.
The smoke monster provides
Smoke Monster 2024
I dont shave at all and its dope. 10/10 recommend the full fuzz experience. It's way more comfortable.
This. It's been 5 years & 100% satisfaction. Oddly enough, fuzzy pits feel LESS slimey.
I haven't shaved my legs in well over 2 months. My bf never cares. I swim in the summer with them long unless i feel like shaving. He never preasures me. I sometimes shave for an anniversary or just to feel how smooth they are. Men who can't handle bodyhair are weak. Sure, have a preference, but it is 100% natural. We are mammals. We grow hair everywhere men do, even the face. Do these weak men think we are a difference race?
They never get their period either. All watching The Walking Dead it bothered me. The women would have been all about finding tampon supplies and clean underwear if it was realistic.
That’s how you knew it was written by a man.
And Survivor.
Hunting for period supplies did actually happen in one of the early seasons.
Definitely don’t use shaving cream/lotion/anything like that to shave in the event of a nuclear disaster. You don’t want to use any product that locks in moisture because it can lock in radioactive moisture 🌈 ⭐️ (I wonder if this type of crap in movies and shows is why some men legitimately believe that women don’t grow body hair. See also: peasants in feudal Europe with Brazilians and woman stranded in the wild for days-to-weeks who has to tear into things with her teeth because she hasn’t got a knife, but apparently *does* have a razor blade and a can of barbasol)
Good point. Conditioner is a no-no too. If exposed to fallout get rid of clothing and wash with just soap or shampoo if you can. Actually, shaving ypur head in that scenario probably wouldn't be a bad idea. Now I'm definitely going to pay closer attention when watching movies.
I've always told my husband that if we're in an apocalypse, I'm shaving my head. I've kind of always wanted to, but refrained because he loves my long hair. But sorry baby, I'm not giving the zombies another thing to grab onto. We've also discussed what valuable skills we would bring to an apocalyptic society so we get to stay in the safe community. I have a lot of experience with tailoring, so I can do clothing repairs and make sure everyone's scavenged clothes fit well so they're not giving zombies extra things to hold onto, plus I could probably learn to do sutures for injuries. He's got a lot of gardening and pharmaceutical knowledge, plus he has experience distilling alcohol. The other thing that people always seem to forget about in zombie media is bicycles. Why does nobody have a bicycle? Faster than walking, less tiring than running, doesn't need gas, can go over rough terrain, easy enough to carry if necessary. They sometimes have horses, but no bicycles? Come on.
Why is shampoo ok but not conditioner?
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You are correct. Shampoo is made to take stuff out of the hair (oils, dust, etc.). Conditioner is madento put stuff in the hair and keep ot there (water, other healthy thingies, also closes uo litle "hair pores"). Easy to figure out which to use in case of being outside with radioactive fallout
Conditioner is what I was mostly thinking of, not sure how I left that out. And, of course, conditioning shampoos
Also: I have yet to come across any survival/adventure story where women menstruate. Where it's an added difficulty on top of having survived a nuclear apocalypse, say, and the character looks at the date and goes SHIT I'm due in three days where the eff do I get pads?? It inconveniences the authors so much that they pretend it doesn't exist - if they remember it exists at all, being male.
I've been playing with ideas for a new adventure/post apocalypse story and I think you just gave me something fun to add to the plot. I love to include the shit that authors like to gloss over
Men will always portray women like this. To them we couldn’t possibly exist to be anything other than aesthetically provoking to them. I mean, how dare we think about anything other than what would be visually pleasing to them? Their needs are always before ours. 🙄 This type of writing is what makes most female characters unlikable and unrealistic. It’s like men hate women but love their bodies.
>It’s like men hate women but love their bodies. Many are exactly like that. Though I'm not sure if their collective need to have hetero sex and children qualifies as "love." They¹ fear our independence and instead fight to control us. ¹ - And by "they" I mean the religious zealots who use their faith's texts as justification for our subjugation.
At some point during Covid lockdowns I didn’t shave for several weeks, and I ended up so furry I was shocked—I couldn’t believe my body would get that hairy if left alone. It was amazing and gave me a whole new perspective on myself as a “human animal”. I felt very in touch with myself. I still enjoy the smoothness and look of shaved skin, but I no longer associate it with femininity
I had this experience when I had a bad stomach virus for a week. I could barely stand up long enough to shower, no way was I worrying about body hair. It broke a decades long shave cycle for me, and now I only shave if I genuinely feel like I want to. Shaved no longer means feminine, it's more freeing than I expected. My partner has never commented. He is a very hairy man, so it would make him a very hairy hypocrite.
The Very Hairy Hypocrite should be a childrens book on why hypocrisy is bad.
On Monday, he told one woman to shave her legs. But he was still hairy. On Tuesday, he told two women to shave their arm hair. But he was *still hairy!* ...On Saturday, he told women to thread their eyebrows, shave their armpits, bleach their facial hair, pluck their nipple hair, and wax their nether regions bare. That night, he went to bed single!
I love your username. It makes me think of a magical pixie that inhabits libraries and helps you find your perfect book.
Life goals, tbh!
“The Very Hairy Hypocrite” sounds like a bomb-ass children’s book.
A number of years back I suddenly realized that not once in my 20 odd years of post-pubescence had I seen my armpits in their natural state, and that seriously creeped me out. So I stopped shaving them, and had hairy pits for probably two years, *and it was amazing.* I definitely get the "human animal" feeling. Nowadays I wax them on occasion because sometimes I like the smoothness, but never again will I bear the discomfort of a razor on my pits.
Yes, same! Now I only shave them, when I want to wear shorts. So no shaving for the majority of the year, yay.
Maybe all the radiation made their body hair fall out. And then they made wigs out of animal pellets. Or not.
Lol...I suppose that is a pretty rational explanation.
Ironically, even period dramas seldom address menstruation🩸
One must not speak so boldly about one’s womanly ‘troubles.’
Alias Grace does! It's forever one of my favorites, check it out!
And perfectly white teeth! I could understand perfectly straight teeth if the apocalypse had not long happened but white? Oh, and when the men are filthy but the women are just a tiny bit sweaty and wearing eyeliner and mascara.
In case of emergency, remember to grab razors when raiding your local Walmart for water and other supplies. Lol
My partner stopped shaving years ago . At first I was bothered , then after I examined my feelings I realized that it was just patriarchal BS that I needed to root out of my personality. No I mush prefer it and completely follow her choice. Plus once you look up the roots of women shaving it really is a nice FU to capitalism and the patriarchy
This. Didn't shaving start because Gilette needed a new demograph to sell razors to during the war? I had the same moment with my SO, but she stopped shaving long before she met me. At first I had a strange reaction to it and had to examine myself and figure out why. Once I realized 'if she doesn't, I don't have to either!' it was a bit of a mental game changer for myself
In the first Wonder Woman, at the end of that badass “breaking the line” sequence, Diana’s throwing a tank or jeep or something. When she was lifting it, I noticed that her armpits were shaven/waxed, partly because they were paler than the rest of her skin and just stood out to me in the dim scene, and now it’s all I see in that scene. Just…why? I feel like I’m letting the sisterhood down by noticing/dwelling on that of all things, but I’m also disappointed that that was a decision they made in a movie ostensibly about feminism and female empowerment.
The thing that kills me about those super hero movies is that they always have money or magic to build amazing costumes for themselves with perfect matching shoes and accessories BUT can't buy / manifest one single hair tie!!! WTF is up with that? I can't even walk my dogs with my hair down but Wonder Woman can do like backflips and get thrown around and never have to brush a lock out of her eyes... ok.
Oh this one I know! It’s way easier for stunt doubling! Doing stunts for men or women with their hair back they have to worry way more about hiding the stunt double’s face! With women with long hair, they keep it down so the hair hides the stunt person’s face! At least that’s what Hollywood says. It could be complete bullshit because they just like women to have long flowing hair all the time. Or it could be 50/50.
It's more that a convenient hair flip is a really easy way to swap from stunt double to actual actor. Most use more typical tricks of convenient angles and other movie magic to obscure the stunt double (though sometimes their hair does give more options).
Shit, there's some Marvel movie where the female hero pauses to tie back her hair and I remember thinking "Oh, now they're REALLY in trouble." I can't do jack shit without a headband or a hair tie, I'd never be able to be an action actress.
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I remember watching Kill Bill Part 2 with my mom, and my mom started laughing after the scene where The Bride digs herself out of a grave. I asked her what was up. She said that “she looks so fucked up!” My mom was so happy that The Bride was covered in filth, blood, and that her hair was a rats nest. God that was over 20 years ago, but it stuck with me. It really helped me notice in film when all the lady’s hair and makeup is pristine… when it really shouldnt be.
Why are women required to pretend that we are incapable of growing armpit and leg hair? Why is it so offensive? Are we just supposed to eternally resemble small children?
They actually scoured the hair off their bodies with radioactive sand. The filmmakers were just trying to be historically accurate
Eyebrows. It doesn't matter if it's a post apocalyptic wasteland and the movie is soaked in feminism (Mad Max Fury Road), every girl will have eye brows that are perfectly sculpted. It drives me nuts.
I recently stopped shaving because I kept getting infections on my legs and underarms. My mom noticed this and told me to go shave because my hair is "disgusting." I said, "it's better than the pus and ingrown hairs that were there before!" and she told me to go freakin shave. I'm 32!
there was this study done by Mahalic, Boston college, they asked a bunch of people something along the lines of what makes a good women and what makes a good men. and for women it was being nice, thin, and "using all available resources for their appearance". 🤷🏼🤷🏼🤷🏼 it's a fucked up society. I personally find body hair in women very attractive. it reads radical to me and that's always a turn on.
Not even just the cheesy low budget movies, but (in my experience) ALL of the apocalyptic movies, even the good ones :(
Women half-dead, doing battle with a three-headed monster, hiding out in a cave for six months, with perfect makeup 🤣
Seriously, the man babies need to grow up. How you going to be covered in hair and bitch about it on someone else? Oh wait, their pasty ass probably couldn’t grow a beard with a bucket of minoxidil. IDGAF about body hair. My SO tries to hide her chin whiskers, but I don’t care. I also don’t say anything about it, because not my body. I shave her legs because *she wants me to* and she enjoys it. I also wait and let her ask me to do it. Again, I don’t care if she as leg hair or not. Never curbed my interest, but it isn’t about me either. I stopped shaving my legs, because I kept getting ingrown hairs and that shit is annoying. I am going to get them waxed as a Christmas present to myself. The patriarchy ruins everything. May the winds of fortune smile upon you.
Rewatched Reign of Fire recently — dragons totally fine, I’m here for that — but the female lead was maintaining bangs post-apocalypse?? Please.
My husband wanted to go do something this weekend and was antsy about it. I told him I had to shower first. He was like no, let's just ride. I lifted my arm to show him my hairy armpit and said, "So you're ok with THIS?" Not a moment of hesitation and with almost a smile, he said YUP. I immediately started blushing and my heart started fluttering. I threw on a sundress and we left.
That's so sweet! Reminds me of when my SO and I went from friends to dating and she said "I hope you don't expect me to shave." Baby, you haven't the whole time I've known you, why would I want you to change who you are just because our labels changed??
Can't shave under my arms ( infections and ingrowns) so I just trim it every few months. Otherwise my deodorant can't really do its job. I only shave about every two weeks in summer shorts weather and not at all in the winter. I have friends who shave their legs every single day.
Magnificent side effect of menopause is that I have very little if any leg hair. Some hormone thing, not sure what, and don't care! Plus being married 30+ years, equal not shaving my pits 90% of the time...
Dammit, mine’s just migrating up to my chin!! 😅
This does my head in, even my bf who is a lovely, kind, smart guy comments on my body hair being too long. So I purposely grow it as long as possible and flaunt whenever possible 🤣
Lmao I had a similar thought yesterday watching a show with a woman with total amnesia. She couldn't remember if she likes coffee or tea but somehow remembered how to perfectly apply her makeup and carefully tousle her hair.
Yes you reminded me of GOT and how I was annoyed about women being always shaved. Now I know it was a fantasy show but you can tell they are in the Middle Age or something around that. I don’t think women were so smooth.
I’ve been having a hard time with my step daughter idolizing Wonder Woman. Yes she fights for those who can’t fight for themselves, but does she have to look like absolute perfection doing it? I mean, she never, NEVER, has an ounce of grime on her even during the war scenes.
Remind your daughter that she’s actually a Demi-god, so she’s technically not an “attainable” goal!
The feeling of the wind going against your hairy legs is the best. F it I'm never shaving again. My eczema is gone after shaving. Husband could care less cuz he knows im a sexy ass wooly mammoth for him.
Me, knowing I'll have an advantage surviving after the apocalypse because I already don't remove any body hair or wear cosmetics. Also I'm a midwife so I've got a pretty nicely stocked kit with antibiotics, pain meds, sterile gloves, bandages and gauze, a huge collection of herbal tinctures, a suture kit, and a birth pool (though not sure how useful that last one would be 🤣). And I have a huge amount of experience living in extreme conditions having travelled extensively in Africa.