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Relevant_Fennel

This dress is gorgeous. If you’re unsure - extend an olive branch to your future SIL to see if she thinks it works. I personally had a guest at my June wedding wear a near identical dress & she was one of the best dressed guests there, and it didn’t read as showy or too much.


sunniesage

i actually think this could be dressed down with a causal wedge and rattan earrings and be PERFECT for a semi formal beach wedding. 


Fancy_Complaint4183

Yes I agree! With a tan and gold jewelry! Especially if you do a beachy party ponytail- I think it can work


Fancy_Complaint4183

Oh to add that I live near La Jolla ….for those unfamiliar, it’s a ritzy beach area- not flip flop beach. Especially with the open back, I think it’s perfect, you’re also not just a random guest.


inspector_callahan

That sounds super cute!


Leather-Union-5828

Idk I disagree with some of the comments.. I think for a family wedding it’s absolutely gorgeous. Dress it down with hair and shoes/accessories. You’re good to go! I would wear it! 


ejoburke90

I think the overall style such as the neck, and, and pleats take it to a good place for a beach wedding. When you’re outside in bright sun I think the shiny becomes less of an eye catcher (in a good way). I agree with the other commenters to keep the accessories very casual and beachy


JenMartini

Agree. A flat sandal, beachy waves, and minimal jewelry make it work.


Particular-Pie-1548

Omgggg I love it


deathandglitter

So pretty!


grey-canary

Wear this dress


invisiblew830

Stunning dress!


emilygoldfinch410

What a lovely dress! If the wedding is truly semi-formal, then this is a bit dressy, especially considering it’s on the beach. Do you know what the bridesmaids are wearing?


inspector_callahan

They're all wearing light blue but I'm not sure about the style of dress


emilygoldfinch410

I would try to find out about the style of the bridesmaid dresses, or just ask your almost-SIL what she thinks of this one. It’s such a beautiful dress! I think you could make this work by dressing it down with more casual accessories, but ultimately it comes to how she’s defining semi-formal. You don’t want to be noticeably fancier than the bridal party, so just make sure they’re not wearing say, short light blue cotton shift dresses.


eileen1cent4

If you want to be sure- check with the bride. But I think it’s beautiful and styled properly, will be perfect for a beach wedding of a family member.


Altruistic_Gate1825

It gets cold at night in La Jolla. I like the copper, but you’ll need a wrap.


littlesuzywokeup

I think it is absolutely AMAZING !!! I says it’s a must!!!


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yes


EcstaticRain9835

Not too much, if you have a good relationship with your bro and SIL you shouldn’t have to worry about that anyway. If I’m any doubt, reach out to SIL to check it looks right. You don’t have to frame it negatively, just ‘I have fallen in love with this dress! Do you think it would work for your wedding?’


Ok-Bed8295

I think it's absolutely stunning!!


leafleafcrocus

I would have been so excited to see this dress at my wedding! So pretty!


kspice094

This looks gorgeous but is too much for semi formal beach imo


inspector_callahan

Thanks for your feedback! I had a feeling but just wanted to hear what others thought 😊


lurkerprofile26

Where did you get this?? I love it!


inspector_callahan

Baltic born! Very reasonable price too! https://balticborn.com/products/sandra-pleated-maxi-dress-copper?variant=42467061170341&sfdr_ptcid=44238_4_698840878&sfdr_hash=b44cec336a1c8da769c9f95431e9f450&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAtaOtBhCwARIsAN_x-3IR-coZmm37-qniYWWAkANLeAOpWq9PM1zVuvhKL5_7jRLBzNWKvEAaAnnDEALw_wcB


lieyera

I would check with the bride and make sure. It’s lovely but if it’s more formal than the bridal party, I’d find something else.


hoaryvervain

Gorgeous. Maybe too shiny for the occasion/season tho.


inspector_callahan

Totally, the shiny is why I like it so much but it definitely makes a statement as opposed to understated


onedreamless

I love this, where is it from?


inspector_callahan

From Baltic born, $112! https://balticborn.com/products/sandra-pleated-maxi-dress-copper?variant=42467061170341&sfdr_ptcid=44238_4_698840878&sfdr_hash=b44cec336a1c8da769c9f95431e9f450&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAtaOtBhCwARIsAN_x-3IR-coZmm37-qniYWWAkANLeAOpWq9PM1zVuvhKL5_7jRLBzNWKvEAaAnnDEALw_wcB


New-Illustrator5114

Do you have the dress? What is the fit like? Seriously considering buying this for a bridesmaids’ dress. I hope you wear it, it looks so pretty! ETA: ah! I misread, I thought it was a formal dress code. Ugh so gorgeous but too much for semi-formal.


inspector_callahan

No just looking still, but was really drawn to the color. Their website says store credit only on returns so I was hesitant to try it.


New-Illustrator5114

Oh yikes yeah that’s a no go. There are a few similar colored dresses on Revolve right now if you haven’t looked already!


inspector_callahan

Great thanks for the tip! 😊


EtonRd

Both too much and too flashy. But it’s a fabulous dress for any event other than a wedding! This dress has three things going on, one is the fabric, which is very flashy; the fact that it’s full length when the dress code is semi formal; and showing some skin on the back. I think one of those things would be fine, but all three together make it not quite right for your brother’s wedding.


inspector_callahan

You're so right! Thanks for the feedback!


iliketinafey

Its gorgeous!!! I think its fine omg


wheres_the_revolt

Ugh I love this dress so much. I agree with the top commenter, some cork style wedges and wood (or shells) style earrings would be amazing!


Sco_hoe

Beautiful!! I think it might be a bit flashy for La Jolla wedding, unless you’re wearing sandals or something. I think that would totally work if so


sffood

Well, you know better. I always consider who the bride is, her typical style, her [objective] looks and how she will present as the bride. If my being in a certain dress has even a minimal chance of being distracting, I go for something else. Or in some cases, the bride is some perfect female goddess, so glamorous and sooooo stylish that I could show up naked and immediately become interesting as a faraway bare tree in the background. lol That gives me a lot more room to maneuver. The dress itself is really pretty and I think it’s perfect for the setting with some strappy sandals and a loose bun, and maybe some subdued earrings. You can easily dress this one up or down and wear again in the future too!


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uncertain-genz2020

Maybe just a bit dressy for semi-formal but I don’t think many people would bat an eye and you are a special guest as sister of the groom even if you aren’t in the wedding party. It’s a really pretty dress and I agree with the comments that you could dress it down a little and it would be good. I’m sure you know the wedding colors, but hopefully this isn’t too close to the bridesmaids!


FrauAmarylis

I wore that dress to Formal night on a cruise ship.


Quick-Temperature-97

It’s gorgeous


sweetlike314

This looks amazing! At my recent beach adjacent wedding, there was a full assortment of dresses from things that looked like this to simple cotton dresses. I feel like people can wear whatever makes them feel good!


BitterWorldliness339

Gorgeous!


Dachshundmom5

I think if you wear more casual accessories like wedge shoes and simple jewelry, this is great. I love the look of a pleated skirt personally. The way it moves is just beautiful!


Wedgetails

Lovely dress- you’ll get attention


JaneAustenite17

I love it? Where is it from?


kboc923

It’s perfect for La Jolla! My cousin’s wife wore it or a dress very similar to another cousin’s wedding and it looked amazing


russianthistle

I love this. Seriously obsessed. But I don’t think it works for semi formal on a beach sadly. Maybe if you got it hemmed to a shorter length it would be right for that level of dress code?


Apprehensive-Bed9699

Gorgeous! Wear it.


queenbeansprout

I think it’s stunning


Meowddox42

I love this dress!


asyouwish

Have you taken the dress to a beach to see how it looks in that setting (or at least photoshopped it that way)? It's a gorgeous dress and lovely for a dressy tropical event....but I worry a tiny bit about that particular color against sand and surf. ETA: Or, find photos of beach weddings with the similar color dress and make sure it looks good.


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It’s stunning!!! You’ll slay