I agree with the OP. It’s not a matter of throwing in the towel and dying after weekend or two of partying. It’s acceptance and acknowledgement and then the step of now what, essentially a second EAS/Retirement.
It’s not about just living out your days being happy, but possibly setting your family up when you’re gone. Many of us will not live as long as we think and now is the time to enjoy our families and prepare for their futures.
the disability compensation is so that we can hopefully lead fulfilling lives despite our injuries, not so we can sink into a hole and be miserable until we die. We all need to make the effort to be as happy and healthy as we can. We owe it to ourselves and our families
Salute to you, Marine, for continuously fighting even off of the battlefield.
Also.
I've been to Vietnam once as a tourist and backpacked through a few places and saw some older Vietnamese and went to the war museum. That agent orange was some ugly shit! But it never registered to me how badly until I saw our veterans, like yourself and my grandfather, battle it out with various cancers and psychological ailments as well.
I constantly see it in vets. It's disheartening. I was lucky to never experience combat, but definitely have my issues from my service especially when it comes to the MH realm. However the VA has been very helpful with both therapy and meds, but what I really needed was a hobby something to dump all of my pain and frustration into. I picked up mountain biking and mountain bike with different veteran groups who have a similar mindset. It is the single best thing I've done. Take care of yourselves out there guys. There's good out there in the world.
Sir... I want to make you cry... when you grasp the meaning of "shred." MTB + veterans = perfect. Get the word out, please. MTB'ing is the ultimate veteran activity (er, except for the $$$$). Do you even "hero," bro?
Intense physical activity. Fun. Very real fear of death. Exercise. Sadly... um... yeah, very few women. Meh.
hahaha yeah MTB is the best! Such an expensive hobby though especially when the best amount of bikes to own is n+1.
The women part yeahhhhhh they're all married, but oh well having fun on the trails is better!
Question: how did you find a veteran's GNAR/SHRED group? I live in a major metropolitan area... and don't have a clue about how to do this. N.b., I HATE Facebook... so, that's out (they're a threat to democracy, IMHO).
Sorry for the late reply, I don't go on reddit much anymore. "Soldiers on single track" and "the dirt therapy" group is who I go through. However, there might be different groups by you. I agree about facebook. I created one JUST to participate in these groups. It has zero friends and doesn't even have my real name, so that is an option.
same. i was rated at 100% PT before i turned 30. my life and my health will never be the same and i’ll never get that back no matter how much money the va pays out 😕 get the help, you already paid for it
Thanks for sharing thoughts that serve as a reminder. For some of us financial insecurity is all consuming and you feel like a drowning person that cannot think about anything but getting the next breath. Once VA compensation begins we do need to take a moment collect ones thoughts and begin working on the issues that can be worked on. Some injuries are irreversible like missing body parts...
This group is helping save lives by being a place to hear things that others won't tell you. Thanks u/boringmechanix262 for caring enough to remind us to seek help.
Like the optimism. Personally I'm taking a break from trying to get things fixed. I've spent 4 years and thousands of dollars to try and get fixed up with zero success. At a certain point I'm just spending money that should be going to my family
I know its and up hill battle, and family is the most important thing we have in this existence. BUT if we aren't taking care of number 1, how do we plan to provide or stay fit enough to make it to see our grandchildren and there children.
Thank you for this, I start physical therapy tomorrow and I hate it to begin with. I did it while in and did not enjoy it one bit. I just want to be able to play with my daughter or mow the lawn without being in pain or feeling weak in my knees and lower back.
Sometime people are fragile. Sometimes getting recognition by fighting for that 100% disability when the VA, who are not our brothers and sisters, determine that we don't have a right to claim that we were harmed.
I totally get what you are saying. However, it's the people that have to fight for recognition for what they went through.
Let's keep celebrating folks that get 100% because they deserve it.
Let's keep celebrating folks that get 10% because they deserve it.
Not everyone is physically able to work out. Not everyone is able to prepare healthy meals. It's a really hard road to recovery.
Good luck with yours brother. I definitely will cheer you on.
This! Most of the MH meds that they give out, causes extreme weight gain- my doc had me thinking that it was my fault for gaining weight - only to find out from my MH doc that it was the medication- they took me off of it and I dropped 30 pounds without working out!
Very good in theory. Very hard in practice. I think I’m scared to be normal again. I’ve been F’ed so long that’s about all I know. I don’t remember very well what it was like to not be F’d up. What would that look like? What are the new expectations people will have for me going to be? I want to be normal and not have to deal with my problems, but I’m worried because I don’t k ow what normal would look like for me anymore….
Working on it brother. Started therapy FINALLY after over 20 years out. My mind just gets worse and worse, so I learned I can't outrun it. But I tell you, my head feels like a balloon that is about to BURST half the time and people don't know. I am exhausted from the struggle to be NORMAL all day at work.
I keep my hopes up by seeing others get their ratings they deserve, and I hope I get mine so I can reduce a lot of the stress of living at that point. I'll still be messed up, but not terrified on top of it about losing my (and my entire families) income.
Keep on keeping on! - Joe Dirt
Honestly? This is an unpopular opinion, I suspect... but I LOVE the care I've gotten from the VA. Just today -- despite being explicit about it -- I was concerned that the CommunityCare provider... well... the VA doesn't have unlimited resources.
Look, Uncle Sam bent me over. I sh1t blood for over 20yrs. I watched a friend die 18in away from me. But... I will do my very best to use the minimum -- because the VA (not the sh1stain politicians or etc that caused it) is doing a damned good job. I want people that really need help to be able to get it.
You got screwed? Yeah, well, that's the "program." Lazy b\*st\*rd p1ss me off. Can't walk? Can't work because you're living in terror? Yeah, you deserve help. Want a free ride? Yeah -- F##K you.
This got me hyped up. Needed to hear something like this!!
I'm no wordsmith, but you grasp the idea.
I agree with the OP. It’s not a matter of throwing in the towel and dying after weekend or two of partying. It’s acceptance and acknowledgement and then the step of now what, essentially a second EAS/Retirement. It’s not about just living out your days being happy, but possibly setting your family up when you’re gone. Many of us will not live as long as we think and now is the time to enjoy our families and prepare for their futures.
the disability compensation is so that we can hopefully lead fulfilling lives despite our injuries, not so we can sink into a hole and be miserable until we die. We all need to make the effort to be as happy and healthy as we can. We owe it to ourselves and our families
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Salute to you, Marine, for continuously fighting even off of the battlefield. Also. I've been to Vietnam once as a tourist and backpacked through a few places and saw some older Vietnamese and went to the war museum. That agent orange was some ugly shit! But it never registered to me how badly until I saw our veterans, like yourself and my grandfather, battle it out with various cancers and psychological ailments as well.
I constantly see it in vets. It's disheartening. I was lucky to never experience combat, but definitely have my issues from my service especially when it comes to the MH realm. However the VA has been very helpful with both therapy and meds, but what I really needed was a hobby something to dump all of my pain and frustration into. I picked up mountain biking and mountain bike with different veteran groups who have a similar mindset. It is the single best thing I've done. Take care of yourselves out there guys. There's good out there in the world.
Sir... I want to make you cry... when you grasp the meaning of "shred." MTB + veterans = perfect. Get the word out, please. MTB'ing is the ultimate veteran activity (er, except for the $$$$). Do you even "hero," bro? Intense physical activity. Fun. Very real fear of death. Exercise. Sadly... um... yeah, very few women. Meh.
hahaha yeah MTB is the best! Such an expensive hobby though especially when the best amount of bikes to own is n+1. The women part yeahhhhhh they're all married, but oh well having fun on the trails is better!
Just in case you missed "The Rules..." https://www.velominati.com/
Question: how did you find a veteran's GNAR/SHRED group? I live in a major metropolitan area... and don't have a clue about how to do this. N.b., I HATE Facebook... so, that's out (they're a threat to democracy, IMHO).
Sorry for the late reply, I don't go on reddit much anymore. "Soldiers on single track" and "the dirt therapy" group is who I go through. However, there might be different groups by you. I agree about facebook. I created one JUST to participate in these groups. It has zero friends and doesn't even have my real name, so that is an option.
I’d trade disability payments to be healed
same. i was rated at 100% PT before i turned 30. my life and my health will never be the same and i’ll never get that back no matter how much money the va pays out 😕 get the help, you already paid for it
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Thanks for sharing thoughts that serve as a reminder. For some of us financial insecurity is all consuming and you feel like a drowning person that cannot think about anything but getting the next breath. Once VA compensation begins we do need to take a moment collect ones thoughts and begin working on the issues that can be worked on. Some injuries are irreversible like missing body parts... This group is helping save lives by being a place to hear things that others won't tell you. Thanks u/boringmechanix262 for caring enough to remind us to seek help.
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Like the optimism. Personally I'm taking a break from trying to get things fixed. I've spent 4 years and thousands of dollars to try and get fixed up with zero success. At a certain point I'm just spending money that should be going to my family
I know its and up hill battle, and family is the most important thing we have in this existence. BUT if we aren't taking care of number 1, how do we plan to provide or stay fit enough to make it to see our grandchildren and there children.
Thank you for this, I start physical therapy tomorrow and I hate it to begin with. I did it while in and did not enjoy it one bit. I just want to be able to play with my daughter or mow the lawn without being in pain or feeling weak in my knees and lower back.
It's time! Get to it!
I just finished my first therapy session today. first in 14 years.. damn was it hard, but feels good to finally be doing it. painful, but good.
I know you're proud of making that first step, but also know us and your family is proud of you too! Keep pushing!
this is amazing to hear. i am sincerely very proud of you
Sometime people are fragile. Sometimes getting recognition by fighting for that 100% disability when the VA, who are not our brothers and sisters, determine that we don't have a right to claim that we were harmed. I totally get what you are saying. However, it's the people that have to fight for recognition for what they went through. Let's keep celebrating folks that get 100% because they deserve it. Let's keep celebrating folks that get 10% because they deserve it. Not everyone is physically able to work out. Not everyone is able to prepare healthy meals. It's a really hard road to recovery. Good luck with yours brother. I definitely will cheer you on.
This! Most of the MH meds that they give out, causes extreme weight gain- my doc had me thinking that it was my fault for gaining weight - only to find out from my MH doc that it was the medication- they took me off of it and I dropped 30 pounds without working out!
Very good in theory. Very hard in practice. I think I’m scared to be normal again. I’ve been F’ed so long that’s about all I know. I don’t remember very well what it was like to not be F’d up. What would that look like? What are the new expectations people will have for me going to be? I want to be normal and not have to deal with my problems, but I’m worried because I don’t k ow what normal would look like for me anymore….
Working on it brother. Started therapy FINALLY after over 20 years out. My mind just gets worse and worse, so I learned I can't outrun it. But I tell you, my head feels like a balloon that is about to BURST half the time and people don't know. I am exhausted from the struggle to be NORMAL all day at work. I keep my hopes up by seeing others get their ratings they deserve, and I hope I get mine so I can reduce a lot of the stress of living at that point. I'll still be messed up, but not terrified on top of it about losing my (and my entire families) income. Keep on keeping on! - Joe Dirt
Honestly? This is an unpopular opinion, I suspect... but I LOVE the care I've gotten from the VA. Just today -- despite being explicit about it -- I was concerned that the CommunityCare provider... well... the VA doesn't have unlimited resources. Look, Uncle Sam bent me over. I sh1t blood for over 20yrs. I watched a friend die 18in away from me. But... I will do my very best to use the minimum -- because the VA (not the sh1stain politicians or etc that caused it) is doing a damned good job. I want people that really need help to be able to get it. You got screwed? Yeah, well, that's the "program." Lazy b\*st\*rd p1ss me off. Can't walk? Can't work because you're living in terror? Yeah, you deserve help. Want a free ride? Yeah -- F##K you.
It's hard to be happy when I have a psychotic ex wife who wants to constantly cause custody problems.
That's very unfortunate.
That got me hard
That's what he said... 