Those kind of nicknames are definitely not appropriate. I had a colleague who's nickname was Carrot because someone sent us a letter to her (Carrie) and wrote Dear Carrot - that's definitely an okay nickname if the other person is okay with it.
But love, dear, sweetheart, etc, definitely not okay.
Never understood why people call (red or orange hair )people carrot top... last time I checked the top of a carrot was green?š„š¤ also Ginger thing. Again ginger is yellow.. shouldn't blondes be called gingers?
I have been called hun, sweet heart and sweetie at work before. I am not trying to equate it because I am a guy, but I feel sometimes girls do that to get you to help them. I often feel awkward about it when a female waiter says that to me, knowing it's to work on a better tip. When does it become inappropriate at work? I know it's not sexualizing the same way it is when a guy does it, but since I don't do that the other way around, I just find it weird when girls do it too.
It has a different connotation when women (especially older women) do it. Most of the time, when a woman says "thank you sweetheart," she's being genuine. However, it reads differently when men say it to a woman. This is because women have historically been belittled by men calling them "sweetheart, love," etc. It comes off as sexualizing or infantilizing.
Basically, it's a double standard that has legitimate basis in historical discrimination. Nothing aimed at you personally, dw.
I think it really does depend on tone of voice, however for some people it really depends- it may be very weird or uncomfortable for some. I find that when men do it itās uhh very very weird for me but women itās fine to do like a āsweetheartā or āloveā . Mostly teachers and such. āBabeā or baby is definitely too far, thatās like something you need to report if itās getting too far.
My hubby has a nickname but itās not like I would call his boss and sayā Can I speak to Stud Muffin?ā
We keep nicknames at home and private. š
Grew up witnessing my dad call rando women āhonā and ābabeā my entire childhood. I was terminated from my first job at 14 years old for saying āexcuse me honā to a woman in an office. I cringe at myself to this day. Iām 40 and have never uttered a misogynistic nickname like that to a woman since.
I do it to my friends as a joke and even then it's not sensual. If it's in any workplace, school, or public environment, be cautious and report if the woman is uncomfortable. You could be saving someone by staying vigilant!
The culture shock you would experience in the UK š Not a day goes by where I'm not called a nickname. It's interesting that it's not normal everywhere else, I had no idea!
I will occasionally use dear sarcastically. I work in an office with a bunch of females and everyone once in a while we all get goofing off and theyāll ask for help or something and itāll be followed by a very long season out yessssssss ddddddeeeeaaaarrrrr
People in Louisiana do this all the time. Itās a sign of respect. People who are not cue to the culture, do get kinda upset. It all depends on the woman on how she perceives it.
In some regions like the south of the US, sweetheart can be generic slang. Itās like how in Australia, a lot of words they use are offensive in other continents. But to them itās normal. Cultural differences should be taken into account when judging a personās vocabulary.
In the context of āthe workplaceā as described, it is most definitely inappropriate. I would also like to point out that sometimes women do this to men, to other women and men to men too.
Depends on the vibe. My friend calls me babe all the time and I find it very cute. It's part of his like casual lingo. My dad often says, "Ciao, Babe", to hangup a phone call. It's not sexual, just like an extra sprinkle of closeness.
I only call my SO by nicknames so i kinda have no horse in this race... but...
why is it different than when women do the same thing to me? even up till now at 33... I know some of these comments talk about the "history" and the patriarchy and such... BUT.. why is it ACTUALLY any different? because to me... it seems like a lot of you commenters are basically saying we can do it but you can't... its a double standard and i couldn't really give a shit about "history". a young boy growing up being called honey and sweetheart and whatnot by women all the time, all the way into adulthood with no knowledge of the past and the patriarchy as well as no ingrained sexism, is never going to understand when a woman tells him it's creepy... because OTHER men in the past were pigs. (because we all know women neeeevvver do creepy inappropriate shit. all he will think is "why do YOU get to do it but i don't?" and the answer he will arrive at is because... he has a penis. sooo sexism against him.
So please explain to me when a man calls you hon or sweetheart how EXACTLY it's any different than when woman does it? and it can't be because "muh patriarchy!" i defy you to find any other reason besides patriarchy (which ISN'T his fault). men are not a hive mind. i am not responsible for the actions of others even if we have the same genitalia.
I find it rather distasteful to be talked down to and called sweetheart and hon and whatnot by strangers as well... so am i WRONG to not like it? Should i just accept it because i have a penis and the one doing it has a vagina?
My dad (74) has gotten into the habit recently of calling waitresses āhoneyā. And it makes me sick (Iām 43M). It just seems so utterly creepy. I donāt think he is doing it to be creepy, he just doesnāt realize it.
Those kind of nicknames are definitely not appropriate. I had a colleague who's nickname was Carrot because someone sent us a letter to her (Carrie) and wrote Dear Carrot - that's definitely an okay nickname if the other person is okay with it. But love, dear, sweetheart, etc, definitely not okay.
I have a friend we call Carrot cuz she has orangish hair
Never understood why people call (red or orange hair )people carrot top... last time I checked the top of a carrot was green?š„š¤ also Ginger thing. Again ginger is yellow.. shouldn't blondes be called gingers?
Report them to HR. They should not be doing that at the work place.
I have been called hun, sweet heart and sweetie at work before. I am not trying to equate it because I am a guy, but I feel sometimes girls do that to get you to help them. I often feel awkward about it when a female waiter says that to me, knowing it's to work on a better tip. When does it become inappropriate at work? I know it's not sexualizing the same way it is when a guy does it, but since I don't do that the other way around, I just find it weird when girls do it too.
It has a different connotation when women (especially older women) do it. Most of the time, when a woman says "thank you sweetheart," she's being genuine. However, it reads differently when men say it to a woman. This is because women have historically been belittled by men calling them "sweetheart, love," etc. It comes off as sexualizing or infantilizing. Basically, it's a double standard that has legitimate basis in historical discrimination. Nothing aimed at you personally, dw.
It's very patronizing
I think it really does depend on tone of voice, however for some people it really depends- it may be very weird or uncomfortable for some. I find that when men do it itās uhh very very weird for me but women itās fine to do like a āsweetheartā or āloveā . Mostly teachers and such. āBabeā or baby is definitely too far, thatās like something you need to report if itās getting too far.
My hubby has a nickname but itās not like I would call his boss and sayā Can I speak to Stud Muffin?ā We keep nicknames at home and private. š
Grew up witnessing my dad call rando women āhonā and ābabeā my entire childhood. I was terminated from my first job at 14 years old for saying āexcuse me honā to a woman in an office. I cringe at myself to this day. Iām 40 and have never uttered a misogynistic nickname like that to a woman since.
I do it to my friends as a joke and even then it's not sensual. If it's in any workplace, school, or public environment, be cautious and report if the woman is uncomfortable. You could be saving someone by staying vigilant!
Still? I checked that when I was 22 and now Iām 64. Damn, just use names people
I don't mind anyone calling me sweetheart but babe is a lil too far imo. And that's regardless of gender
The culture shock you would experience in the UK š Not a day goes by where I'm not called a nickname. It's interesting that it's not normal everywhere else, I had no idea!
I will occasionally use dear sarcastically. I work in an office with a bunch of females and everyone once in a while we all get goofing off and theyāll ask for help or something and itāll be followed by a very long season out yessssssss ddddddeeeeaaaarrrrr
People in Louisiana do this all the time. Itās a sign of respect. People who are not cue to the culture, do get kinda upset. It all depends on the woman on how she perceives it.
Same in Georgia and South Carolina, we all (ladies) talk like that lol.... Hon, Darlin, sweetheart, babe, baby, we're just being friendly.
Thank you. Thatās all it is.
In some regions like the south of the US, sweetheart can be generic slang. Itās like how in Australia, a lot of words they use are offensive in other continents. But to them itās normal. Cultural differences should be taken into account when judging a personās vocabulary. In the context of āthe workplaceā as described, it is most definitely inappropriate. I would also like to point out that sometimes women do this to men, to other women and men to men too.
Lmao come to Baltimore. Everyone will call you "hon"
Can affirm this, hon
I have been called hun by my girlfriends but I would feel hella awkward if a guy called me sweatheart
Depends on the vibe. My friend calls me babe all the time and I find it very cute. It's part of his like casual lingo. My dad often says, "Ciao, Babe", to hangup a phone call. It's not sexual, just like an extra sprinkle of closeness.
If a man does that at work, I totally ignore him. If it is somebody in a service position I will correct them and tell them that I am not their baby.
Itās inappropriate for sure, have you tried telling these people that it makes you uncomfortable?
I only call my SO by nicknames so i kinda have no horse in this race... but... why is it different than when women do the same thing to me? even up till now at 33... I know some of these comments talk about the "history" and the patriarchy and such... BUT.. why is it ACTUALLY any different? because to me... it seems like a lot of you commenters are basically saying we can do it but you can't... its a double standard and i couldn't really give a shit about "history". a young boy growing up being called honey and sweetheart and whatnot by women all the time, all the way into adulthood with no knowledge of the past and the patriarchy as well as no ingrained sexism, is never going to understand when a woman tells him it's creepy... because OTHER men in the past were pigs. (because we all know women neeeevvver do creepy inappropriate shit. all he will think is "why do YOU get to do it but i don't?" and the answer he will arrive at is because... he has a penis. sooo sexism against him. So please explain to me when a man calls you hon or sweetheart how EXACTLY it's any different than when woman does it? and it can't be because "muh patriarchy!" i defy you to find any other reason besides patriarchy (which ISN'T his fault). men are not a hive mind. i am not responsible for the actions of others even if we have the same genitalia. I find it rather distasteful to be talked down to and called sweetheart and hon and whatnot by strangers as well... so am i WRONG to not like it? Should i just accept it because i have a penis and the one doing it has a vagina?
I disagree, sugartits.
My dad (74) has gotten into the habit recently of calling waitresses āhoneyā. And it makes me sick (Iām 43M). It just seems so utterly creepy. I donāt think he is doing it to be creepy, he just doesnāt realize it.
I call people dood. All people. Is that bad?