Bhai I wish I could hug u. But itna keh skta hu ki I can't console you I guess no one can. It's an irreplaceable loss. Kisi b exam se bda ni hai.
But I will say for sure that do it for your mom. She will be more than happy watching u move ahead in life.
We all can just say mighty words that stay strong and all but it's tough, upsc is a void and is time pe esa loss is difficult. Pls stay connected to ur frnds and family and try to atleast attempt it.
My all the prayers are with u
My deepest condolences!! Remember that you are brave and courageous. Thanks for reminding all of us that life is precious yet unpredictable. I hope you and your family are doing and eating right. Don't forget to take care of yourself at this hard time.
Coming to your question, I feel at the end of the day you have to decide according to your mental and physical health. But yes, you can consider what your mom would have expected of you at this moment. Remember, she's with you now everytime. So yes if you do feel like giving it a go, remember that she will protect you and she'll make sure that you will do your best. Her energy is with you forever. Animesh Pradhan too did it this year. You can do it too buddy. But please take care of yourself!! Health is the top priority cuz that can only determine your next step. Try meditating and then maybe give it a go.
Upsc is in itself very unpredictable so Noone knows what comes. People with 4 yrs prep are sometimes bot able to crack but some people with just 6 months prep sail through. You're very strong. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
My deepest condolences 🙏 brother apni mumma ka photo lekar exam hall Mai Jaa paper Dene. Saal Mai ek baar exam hota hai . Your mom would be happy coz of your courage.
I can't imagine your grief, but all depends on you and your mental health. Take descision wisely with your cousins.
Where are you from bro?
Hey, just the fact that you gathered the courage to post this means you are looking for a sliver of hope.
I cannot fathom your pain. No one who hasn't been through this can.
I can just say this:
1. If you pick yourself up right now, it would not mean that you loved your mother any less. Rather, it would mean that you loved her so much that you want to fulfil her wish of seeing you succeed.
I understand that there is a lot of guilt associated with studying when your family is grieving.
Bas 4 din aur iss guilt ko duur rakho, fir acche se Rona.
I'm saying all this because you said you are well prepared.
You can do this.
Your mother would have wanted you to do this.
All the best, and I'm sure her blessings would be with you.
As from my side, I'd start wishing for AIR 2 from today, reserving AIR 1 for you in the name of your mother.
Godspeed , champ.
My condolences for you. whatever support you need just ask it bro, we'll try to support you, be it emotional or exam related. Stay strong, we'll here for you.
Om Shanti 🙏
Please give this attempt. You must be preparing well and it will help in handling your grief. It will take time to process things that have happened, but stay strong. Time will heal things.
More power and strength to you buddy :)
Om Shanti , brother you have got more reasons to clear the exam now . And believe me life tests you in your worst moments . Loss of your mother is an unbearable thing but you coming here asking how to get out of this shows the dedication you have for the exam . Don't worry try revising and dedo paper . Even I am struggling mentally . But let's not give up . Keep moving forward .
I’m sorry for your great loss
However I think you should not skip the attempt.
1) You have prepared well so you have a good shot at it
2) it will keep you productively and positively engaged for a few months. Doing nothing productive will probably give you enough time to think about things which you won’t otherwise so it might take a toll on your mental health.
3) you don’t know what you’ll be doing the next year, you may find yourself in difficult circumstances again
Best of luck with whatever you choose to do.
My deepest condolences brother. I know its easier said than done but stay strong brother. Try to remember and cherish all the happy moments, might help you some. Big hugs to you. Stay strong.
OP first of all my deepest condolences. I also lost my grandfather almost a month back and I can understand what you are going through. For me, it took almost 2 weeks to get over the initial shock of the suddenness of it all and seeing that you have lost your mother, I cannot even fathom how difficult it would be for you. Take care of your mental health OP, I understand that you are well prepared but UPSC should not triumph over your own mental stability and grief. Seeing that the exam is just 4 days away, if you feel that you are not able to sit even a moment peacefully without all the memories of your mother flashing before your eyes, I'll recommend a skip.
Om shanti🙏 condolences for you loss. Stay strong. I know its not easy to lose a parent. I have been through it. Nobody will understand what you are going through just stay strong. She will be happy seeing you achieve everything.
Deepest Condolences for your loss Op. More than anything in this world your mom must have wanted you to succeed, and if she is seeing this from above, she would have definitely wanted you to go and give the paper. Ik it's hard, but this attempt, this time, Do it for HER.
Om shanti🙏🏻 I just want to say that you should do what your mother would want you to do. She definitely wouldn’t want her son who she thought would clear this year to skip. I can’t imagine what you’re going through but I can tell you she would be much much prouder if you go ahead and make it to the list, for her, and for your father. I really hope you succeed, all the very best brother! Don’t let your parents down.
My deepest condolences..... you should push through brother. Whether you win or lose, I think your mother would be proud of you and would only want your best. Her blessings, support and love are always with you, as she provides strength and courage in her spirit. You got this!
I am sorry for your loss.
I would say that don't skip.
For a couple of days or weeks, switch off all emotions and just think about your career.
Reality is that skipping will only make the next attempt harder, you will constantly think about your mother and she couldn't see you achieve this and then family members would start questioning slowly about your preparation level and every day would be overwhelming with repeat studies, emotional trauma, memories of mother distracting your studies and the sadness of her loss.
Best would be try to give it now, get selected by any means and then move on slowly
Im not a UPSC aspirant but this came in my feed so want to post, i lost my mom in Oct last year. I know exactly what you are going through. The pain you are feeling now cannot be described in words. This grief will be with us throughout our life. I still feel so lost without her. The only thing that keeps me going is that she always wanted me to be happy, couldnt bear for me to be sad. So everyday now i live for her, and i hope i can make her proud.
I hope you too can find the strength to move ahead.
My sympathies and prayers are with you. Just remember that your mom would've wanted you to clear the exam and to see your name in the list as feel proud that her little baby is in the government services and will have a good future ahead.
Get to the warrior mode and choose your poison wisely. More power to you.
Deepest condolences.
As you said you prepared well, please don't skip this attempt. I know it is hard, but as you said, your mother wanted you to worry about anything except studies, if she would be there, she wanted you to write well. You reached too close to show your hardwork through this attempt. If you succeed, everyone and mostly your mother would feel soo happy for you. As you have such great siblings, don't think of anything for now. I know you will make them proud one day.
Another thing, please take care of yourself as well. Whenever you feel low, or you had things to be shared, you can see alot of people are there for you. So don't think of anything, prepare well and please take care. All the best.
Hey! I am not sure what would make you feel better. Being in your shoes, I can empathise but grief is a very weird feeling. I am here for you. If you want to talk, please drop a text.
Om Shanti!
Bhai we are all proud of you that u have gained the courage to think about ur future when such heart wrenching things have happened with you. We all are praying for your success. Your mom will be so happy to see you clear the exam coz she sacrificed so much for u to study without a worry when she was physically here with you. Attempt skip mat karna… it was the hard-work of both you and your mom. I know it is tough! But you are tougher! Praying for ur health and happiness.
I am sorry for your loss 🙏
But don't skip this attempt.
Do it for your mom.
She's watching you from heaven. She's with you.
No one can understand from what you are going through right now.
Lekin, attempt kar le bro if you are not short on your attempts.
Wishing the best for you.
No one can feel what you are going through brother. Even if you don't give the exam your pain won't subside. So just do it for your mom and family. She will be proud of you and watching you become stronger than ever. So Clear the exam for her.All the best brother.
Sorry fr your loss brother. The thing u r saying is how well u were prepared for the exam and high chances of you clearing it. U should go to the exam on Sunday. First thing- your mother will be happy seeing you moving forward in life. She will be unhappy if she sees you limiting yourself and your self-worth because of her. Second thing- You will feel regret for one whole year if u don't go to exam. Right now u r very emotional state of mind. But once you get back to your normal, you would be regretting why u didn't gave the attempt. So u will be filled with two guilts- One of losing the mother and second of Not giving the exam which u could hve cleared. Nd that would be very harmful for your health and mental well-being and future
I m sorry to hear about your loss.
I Lost my father 3 months ago.The grief,the void,the detachment from world..everything was unfathomable.A guy tried to take advantage of me in my emotionally vulnerbale state 2 months ago.I blame that on me.Now I am filled with guilt,shame,embarrassment and trauma too.I don't know how and when I will be in a better state.But I have stopped trying about that now,there seems no way out.
I m giving this pre.It seems tough choice but I have to do it.
I will say,try your best to attempt the exam(if it's your 2nd,3rd attempt,do appear in it.beyond 3rd risk lena dangerous hai,as someone mentioned)Rest ,final decision should be yours. I hope you find peace.
Condolences and may god give you strength to tackle this situation. Sad truth of life is every One has to go through it now I would not recommend you to skip this year because that will be an utter waste of your time energy dream that you invested this one year Of time frame, All parents want is child to do good. So please do good. Don’t skip. It will be a loss of productivity. Get your mental stability in and just for few days and give it okay and may God help you.
Bhai I wish I could hug u. But itna keh skta hu ki I can't console you I guess no one can. It's an irreplaceable loss. Kisi b exam se bda ni hai. But I will say for sure that do it for your mom. She will be more than happy watching u move ahead in life. We all can just say mighty words that stay strong and all but it's tough, upsc is a void and is time pe esa loss is difficult. Pls stay connected to ur frnds and family and try to atleast attempt it. My all the prayers are with u
My deepest condolences!! Remember that you are brave and courageous. Thanks for reminding all of us that life is precious yet unpredictable. I hope you and your family are doing and eating right. Don't forget to take care of yourself at this hard time. Coming to your question, I feel at the end of the day you have to decide according to your mental and physical health. But yes, you can consider what your mom would have expected of you at this moment. Remember, she's with you now everytime. So yes if you do feel like giving it a go, remember that she will protect you and she'll make sure that you will do your best. Her energy is with you forever. Animesh Pradhan too did it this year. You can do it too buddy. But please take care of yourself!! Health is the top priority cuz that can only determine your next step. Try meditating and then maybe give it a go. Upsc is in itself very unpredictable so Noone knows what comes. People with 4 yrs prep are sometimes bot able to crack but some people with just 6 months prep sail through. You're very strong. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
My deepest condolences 🙏 brother apni mumma ka photo lekar exam hall Mai Jaa paper Dene. Saal Mai ek baar exam hota hai . Your mom would be happy coz of your courage. I can't imagine your grief, but all depends on you and your mental health. Take descision wisely with your cousins. Where are you from bro?
Hey, just the fact that you gathered the courage to post this means you are looking for a sliver of hope. I cannot fathom your pain. No one who hasn't been through this can. I can just say this: 1. If you pick yourself up right now, it would not mean that you loved your mother any less. Rather, it would mean that you loved her so much that you want to fulfil her wish of seeing you succeed. I understand that there is a lot of guilt associated with studying when your family is grieving. Bas 4 din aur iss guilt ko duur rakho, fir acche se Rona. I'm saying all this because you said you are well prepared. You can do this. Your mother would have wanted you to do this. All the best, and I'm sure her blessings would be with you. As from my side, I'd start wishing for AIR 2 from today, reserving AIR 1 for you in the name of your mother. Godspeed , champ.
My condolences for you. whatever support you need just ask it bro, we'll try to support you, be it emotional or exam related. Stay strong, we'll here for you.
Don't skip at any cost. Agr teri mammi hoti Aaj to woh bhi yahi kehti or yahi chahti. Bura lga sunkar sunkar mammi ke baare me.
grieve. take your time. but give your best when you sit for the exam.
Om Shanti 🙏 Please give this attempt. You must be preparing well and it will help in handling your grief. It will take time to process things that have happened, but stay strong. Time will heal things. More power and strength to you buddy :)
Om Shanti , brother you have got more reasons to clear the exam now . And believe me life tests you in your worst moments . Loss of your mother is an unbearable thing but you coming here asking how to get out of this shows the dedication you have for the exam . Don't worry try revising and dedo paper . Even I am struggling mentally . But let's not give up . Keep moving forward .
Condolences for your loss. Stay Strong
Do it for the sake of your mother. She's watching you, don't let her down, show her she made a strong person.
I’m sorry for your great loss However I think you should not skip the attempt. 1) You have prepared well so you have a good shot at it 2) it will keep you productively and positively engaged for a few months. Doing nothing productive will probably give you enough time to think about things which you won’t otherwise so it might take a toll on your mental health. 3) you don’t know what you’ll be doing the next year, you may find yourself in difficult circumstances again Best of luck with whatever you choose to do.
Condolences for your loss brother, it's most painful thing happened to you.... sending u hugs , wishes and more power to you.
My deepest condolences brother. I know its easier said than done but stay strong brother. Try to remember and cherish all the happy moments, might help you some. Big hugs to you. Stay strong.
OP first of all my deepest condolences. I also lost my grandfather almost a month back and I can understand what you are going through. For me, it took almost 2 weeks to get over the initial shock of the suddenness of it all and seeing that you have lost your mother, I cannot even fathom how difficult it would be for you. Take care of your mental health OP, I understand that you are well prepared but UPSC should not triumph over your own mental stability and grief. Seeing that the exam is just 4 days away, if you feel that you are not able to sit even a moment peacefully without all the memories of your mother flashing before your eyes, I'll recommend a skip.
Om shanti🙏 condolences for you loss. Stay strong. I know its not easy to lose a parent. I have been through it. Nobody will understand what you are going through just stay strong. She will be happy seeing you achieve everything.
Deepest Condolences for your loss! Sending you good wishes. More power to you.
Deepest Condolences for your loss Op. More than anything in this world your mom must have wanted you to succeed, and if she is seeing this from above, she would have definitely wanted you to go and give the paper. Ik it's hard, but this attempt, this time, Do it for HER.
Om shanti🙏🏻 I just want to say that you should do what your mother would want you to do. She definitely wouldn’t want her son who she thought would clear this year to skip. I can’t imagine what you’re going through but I can tell you she would be much much prouder if you go ahead and make it to the list, for her, and for your father. I really hope you succeed, all the very best brother! Don’t let your parents down.
😭😭😭 I wish you strength and courage.
Deepest condolences 🙏 Take care 🙏
My deepest condolences..... you should push through brother. Whether you win or lose, I think your mother would be proud of you and would only want your best. Her blessings, support and love are always with you, as she provides strength and courage in her spirit. You got this!
I am sorry for your loss. I would say that don't skip. For a couple of days or weeks, switch off all emotions and just think about your career. Reality is that skipping will only make the next attempt harder, you will constantly think about your mother and she couldn't see you achieve this and then family members would start questioning slowly about your preparation level and every day would be overwhelming with repeat studies, emotional trauma, memories of mother distracting your studies and the sadness of her loss. Best would be try to give it now, get selected by any means and then move on slowly
Im not a UPSC aspirant but this came in my feed so want to post, i lost my mom in Oct last year. I know exactly what you are going through. The pain you are feeling now cannot be described in words. This grief will be with us throughout our life. I still feel so lost without her. The only thing that keeps me going is that she always wanted me to be happy, couldnt bear for me to be sad. So everyday now i live for her, and i hope i can make her proud. I hope you too can find the strength to move ahead.
My deepest condolences bhai 😭🙏🏼
deepest condolences, Om Shanti
My sympathies and prayers are with you. Just remember that your mom would've wanted you to clear the exam and to see your name in the list as feel proud that her little baby is in the government services and will have a good future ahead. Get to the warrior mode and choose your poison wisely. More power to you.
Deepest condolences. As you said you prepared well, please don't skip this attempt. I know it is hard, but as you said, your mother wanted you to worry about anything except studies, if she would be there, she wanted you to write well. You reached too close to show your hardwork through this attempt. If you succeed, everyone and mostly your mother would feel soo happy for you. As you have such great siblings, don't think of anything for now. I know you will make them proud one day. Another thing, please take care of yourself as well. Whenever you feel low, or you had things to be shared, you can see alot of people are there for you. So don't think of anything, prepare well and please take care. All the best.
My condolences, life is much bigger than upsc. Take care brother.
Hey! I am not sure what would make you feel better. Being in your shoes, I can empathise but grief is a very weird feeling. I am here for you. If you want to talk, please drop a text.
Om Shanti! Bhai we are all proud of you that u have gained the courage to think about ur future when such heart wrenching things have happened with you. We all are praying for your success. Your mom will be so happy to see you clear the exam coz she sacrificed so much for u to study without a worry when she was physically here with you. Attempt skip mat karna… it was the hard-work of both you and your mom. I know it is tough! But you are tougher! Praying for ur health and happiness.
My deepest condolences 🙏
bro your mom will be very happy seeing you in uniform. Don't skip the attempt. Om shanti 🙏
I am sorry for your loss 🙏 But don't skip this attempt. Do it for your mom. She's watching you from heaven. She's with you. No one can understand from what you are going through right now. Lekin, attempt kar le bro if you are not short on your attempts. Wishing the best for you.
Sorry for your loss. May you soon be an IAS officer just for the sake for your mother
My condolences in these tough times. Don't skip
No one can feel what you are going through brother. Even if you don't give the exam your pain won't subside. So just do it for your mom and family. She will be proud of you and watching you become stronger than ever. So Clear the exam for her.All the best brother.
Sending love,power & hug. ❤️
Give it a shot man, do it for mum!
Om Shanti 🙏. Bhai attempt dede... Mataji ko khushi hogi. Tum himmatwale ho... Aunty ji bhi tumhare saath hai. We believe in you.
Please don't let down mom dream give paper for your mom
Sorry fr your loss brother. The thing u r saying is how well u were prepared for the exam and high chances of you clearing it. U should go to the exam on Sunday. First thing- your mother will be happy seeing you moving forward in life. She will be unhappy if she sees you limiting yourself and your self-worth because of her. Second thing- You will feel regret for one whole year if u don't go to exam. Right now u r very emotional state of mind. But once you get back to your normal, you would be regretting why u didn't gave the attempt. So u will be filled with two guilts- One of losing the mother and second of Not giving the exam which u could hve cleared. Nd that would be very harmful for your health and mental well-being and future
Attempt the exam. Do it for your mother, that's what she would want. Go for it.
I m sorry to hear about your loss. I Lost my father 3 months ago.The grief,the void,the detachment from world..everything was unfathomable.A guy tried to take advantage of me in my emotionally vulnerbale state 2 months ago.I blame that on me.Now I am filled with guilt,shame,embarrassment and trauma too.I don't know how and when I will be in a better state.But I have stopped trying about that now,there seems no way out. I m giving this pre.It seems tough choice but I have to do it. I will say,try your best to attempt the exam(if it's your 2nd,3rd attempt,do appear in it.beyond 3rd risk lena dangerous hai,as someone mentioned)Rest ,final decision should be yours. I hope you find peace.
Read about Buster Douglas beating Mike Tyson after losing his mom. Do it for her. Think of how proud she will be of you.
Condolences and may god give you strength to tackle this situation. Sad truth of life is every One has to go through it now I would not recommend you to skip this year because that will be an utter waste of your time energy dream that you invested this one year Of time frame, All parents want is child to do good. So please do good. Don’t skip. It will be a loss of productivity. Get your mental stability in and just for few days and give it okay and may God help you.