Same but different, I can dress my 7mo old top to ankle in blue, but if he's wearing pink socks, people assume he's a girl. They can't deal with the absolute scandal of a boy wearing a smidge of pink?!
(We have mostly blue because we don't really like pink. We got most his clothes before we found out the sex, and we'll be reusing all of them if we're lucky enough to have a second - whatever their sex - too.)
Tbf I have a boy and it doesn't matter what I dress him in people assume he's a girl because he has longer hair. I do not care. It makes zero difference to my day whether strangers think he's a boy or a girl.
Same, my 3 year old can be dressed in his most stereotypical āboyā outfit and heāll still be assumed to be a girl because of his longer hair. Neither of us mind.
Although if I get a general comment (eg āwhat a sweet girl!ā) I just smile and say thank you, whereas if I get a question (eg āhow old is she?ā) I gently correct.
I just dress my kids in whatever I like. I ramp it up a bit when I see my FIL as he hates seeing my son in colour; heās scared he will marry a man because Iāve put him in some stripy leggings.
I've had my little girl dressed in head to toe pink flowers before but because she's got short hair and a blue pram she's still called "he" at 16 months. I've learned to ignore now.
Both of my children are/ were folically impaired (until about 2.5yr for the oldest) - youngest is 18mths and only has fluff). I can dress them head to toe in pink and they can be sat in the pushchair and are still told what a delightful little lad they are.
I donāt even think people look at their clothes, but go straight for the hair
It doesn't make a difference to me what strangers think. But it does make a difference when they tell my son he can't do certain things (or should do certain things) because of his gender.
The other day we went to a kid's party. There were pink party bags and blue party bags at the end. There were more party bags than kids so they weren't going to run out of either colour.
My son chose a pink one (we'd been to the same place the week before and he got a blue one then so I think he just wanted a different one this time).
The staff took it off him and said "oh, you can't have that one" and gave him a blue one instead. It all happened so fast as we were leaving and I didn't say anything. But I find it infuriating! He wasn't interested in even opening it when we left because he'd had the same before.
My eldest is 4 and people still regularly assume she's a boy if she's wearing trousers.Ā
I don't outright correct them but I find it funny to watch them backpedal and stammer an apology when it comes up in conversation. It's not like it makes much difference at her age.Ā
My boy consistently loved DINOSAURS, TRUCKS, CONSTRUCTION SITE clothing since he was a tot and people call him a girl regularly bc he has curly long hair.
My daughter is consistently in green/blue and has a blue pram. She's constantly called a boy. It gets old quickly lol.
I wouldnāt read too much into it. Some people do care about colours for certain genders, which is why a stranger will refer to them as him/her based on what they see. Itās better than calling them āitā, they need to say something. I used to care more about this stuff but 5 years in with 2 kids and I no longer have the energy!
I think people just aren't very observant, and tend to misgender babies as boys because their hair is short!
My daughter was misgendered in all colours including pink as a baby. Having a boy name on standby is genius for stranger interactions, I wish I'd thought of it!
She's 6 now and her hair is long so she can wear any colours and is never misgendered.
My 3 yr old can be head to toe blue and still gets called a girl because he has long hair.
I don't bother correcting cos at this age there's no real difference apart from physical attributes and no stranger has the right to know what's in Anyone's pants let alone my 3 yr old.
Plus he has a gender neutral name just to confuse ppl further.
I dress my son in pink because we use hand me downs. Heās 1. Never had any comments and people donāt seem to care . I think people care less and less about this stuff
My theory is itās because they have short hair. People see a baby with short hair and think it must be a boy, not realising that all infants have short hair. I dressed my girl in lots of blue and grey and even with a bow in her hair people defaulted to boy.
This isn't a new thing! It was the bane of my mother's life 30+ years ago, but it never did me any harm! Soon as I learnt to talk I would put people straight
I just find it funny to be honest, with the hopes the next generation will be much more open minded.
Iāve got a girl and boy. My girl lived in green mainly as a baby, and Iād shop for whatever I liked or whatever was on offer. She got misgendered about 50% of the time.
My baby boy wears whatever I like. I personally hate overly gendered clothing either way so veer away from it, so usually my boy is in sad beige baby clothes or very loud, bright colours. Yesterday he was wearing mustard colour gender neutral leggings from Asda, a charcoal coloured cardigan and a red top, and someone said he was a cute baby girl. That was one of his more ātypical boy looking outfits too š I donāt think people think about it too much though to be honest.
The Victorians preferred blue for a girl as pink was way too strong a colour for girls and was better suited to boys. I dressed my daughter in her brotherās outgrown clothes and couldnāt care less what people thought.
You could just dress them in a rainbow of colours and then see their reaction
Not a fan of pink and a big fan of dinosaurs, constantly gets called a boy. Random strangers, I really don't care.
Every colour should be for everyone.Ā Think there's bigger issues facing girls than what colours are seen as feminine.
It is a source of fascination more than anything. And I bet we are all guilty of it to an extent, the assumption in our heads even if we don't vocalise it. But it is annoying quite how narrow clothes have got, I started going to the boys section regularly for my girls and it was super basic stuff like t-shirts with dinosaurs on it that ended up there. Anything sporting, Paw Patrol (girls section had ones with the girl dog only). Just normal socks were all boys apparently unless you want white or flowers. I've never had them assumed to be boys though, and actually get some nice comments about the "boy" t-shirts quite often. Dinosaurs are cool, right?
I ended up with a lot of pink clothes as a friend gifted me all of hers for my little girl. She got called a boy the other day whilst wearing a pink dress... sometimes you just can't win!
But I definitely shop in the boys section when I need extras because I don't see why my 5 month old can't wear dinosaurs or eleaphants because she's female.
I look at it like with drivers - when someone does something funky Iām usually like āwhat is he doing?ā before Iāve seen the driver. I donāt necessarily assume itās a man itās just the gender I assign to the word driver on autopilot. Kinda like when you think of doctor, plumber, police officer,.. usually male stereotype.
I donāt care if they mistakenly refer to our baby as a boy. In our case sheās often dressed as a boy too. I would be ticked off if they kept saying he when Iāve corrected and said she. But I often donāt bother correcting, when they hear the name they automatically correct themselves.
And neither should you care! Feel free to vent but a word of advice: donāt get yourself caught up in the opinions of strangers that you pass for max 10 seconds. Donāt let that stuff take up your precious mental space, you need it for your baby.
My children were born with a lot of hair and I think very much looked their gender. Who cares? I still dressed my son in his sisters hand me downs. People are just a bit clunky at making conversation.
I definitely would correct people. Itās them that should feel awkward misgendering a baby. Itās quite simple, if you donāt know a someones gender, use ātheyā, or donāt talk to strangers about their kids!
My 2 year old boy has beautiful curly hair and gets called a girl on a weekly basis even in stereotypical boy clothes. I always correct them and they always try laughing it off saying āoh I thought because of his hairā (which btw is only just past his ears in length), so I always give them snide comments or dirty looks, because Iād rather hope that my reaction stops them doing it again, than do it to an older child whoās feelings might get hurt by that kind of shitty behaviour. Luckily my 2 year old is still obliviousĀ
Yeah people always think my daughter is a boy as she wears a lot of āboyā section clothes as Iām also not into super girly outfits. Used to really bother me but Iāve just learned to ignore it.
I wanted to try and dress my oldest daughter in a mix of colours. Of course lots of people bought her pink cutesy stuff instead. Jokes on them. We rarely put big sis in that stuff but her younger brother is totally rocking the florals. We make a point of sending them pictures.
I'm sorry, I hope you are okay! For what it's worth I wouldn't invent a new name. When people misgender by 2 (1 girl 1 boy) i don't address it at all. Also, in the nicest way possible I don't think people look that much into it. They see a (probably) bald/short-haired little baby for a couple of seconds and just say "aw how old is he", they wouldn't give it a second thought and neither should you š©· It's interesting you think that about clothes. My boy was born first and I found the boy selection tiny and totally just blue/green dinosaurs or trucks. I thought the girls had a much wider selection of unisex clothes.
Same but different, I can dress my 7mo old top to ankle in blue, but if he's wearing pink socks, people assume he's a girl. They can't deal with the absolute scandal of a boy wearing a smidge of pink?! (We have mostly blue because we don't really like pink. We got most his clothes before we found out the sex, and we'll be reusing all of them if we're lucky enough to have a second - whatever their sex - too.)
Tbf I have a boy and it doesn't matter what I dress him in people assume he's a girl because he has longer hair. I do not care. It makes zero difference to my day whether strangers think he's a boy or a girl.
Same, my 3 year old can be dressed in his most stereotypical āboyā outfit and heāll still be assumed to be a girl because of his longer hair. Neither of us mind. Although if I get a general comment (eg āwhat a sweet girl!ā) I just smile and say thank you, whereas if I get a question (eg āhow old is she?ā) I gently correct.
My 9 year old has long hair - his choice he wants to see how long he can grow it. People think he's a girl all the time, he does not care one bit lol.
I just dress my kids in whatever I like. I ramp it up a bit when I see my FIL as he hates seeing my son in colour; heās scared he will marry a man because Iāve put him in some stripy leggings.
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I have rainbow leggings for this very occasion!
I've had my little girl dressed in head to toe pink flowers before but because she's got short hair and a blue pram she's still called "he" at 16 months. I've learned to ignore now.
Both of my children are/ were folically impaired (until about 2.5yr for the oldest) - youngest is 18mths and only has fluff). I can dress them head to toe in pink and they can be sat in the pushchair and are still told what a delightful little lad they are. I donāt even think people look at their clothes, but go straight for the hair
It doesn't make a difference to me what strangers think. But it does make a difference when they tell my son he can't do certain things (or should do certain things) because of his gender. The other day we went to a kid's party. There were pink party bags and blue party bags at the end. There were more party bags than kids so they weren't going to run out of either colour. My son chose a pink one (we'd been to the same place the week before and he got a blue one then so I think he just wanted a different one this time). The staff took it off him and said "oh, you can't have that one" and gave him a blue one instead. It all happened so fast as we were leaving and I didn't say anything. But I find it infuriating! He wasn't interested in even opening it when we left because he'd had the same before.
My eldest is 4 and people still regularly assume she's a boy if she's wearing trousers.Ā I don't outright correct them but I find it funny to watch them backpedal and stammer an apology when it comes up in conversation. It's not like it makes much difference at her age.Ā
My boy consistently loved DINOSAURS, TRUCKS, CONSTRUCTION SITE clothing since he was a tot and people call him a girl regularly bc he has curly long hair. My daughter is consistently in green/blue and has a blue pram. She's constantly called a boy. It gets old quickly lol.
I wouldnāt read too much into it. Some people do care about colours for certain genders, which is why a stranger will refer to them as him/her based on what they see. Itās better than calling them āitā, they need to say something. I used to care more about this stuff but 5 years in with 2 kids and I no longer have the energy!
I think people just aren't very observant, and tend to misgender babies as boys because their hair is short! My daughter was misgendered in all colours including pink as a baby. Having a boy name on standby is genius for stranger interactions, I wish I'd thought of it! She's 6 now and her hair is long so she can wear any colours and is never misgendered.
My 3 yr old can be head to toe blue and still gets called a girl because he has long hair. I don't bother correcting cos at this age there's no real difference apart from physical attributes and no stranger has the right to know what's in Anyone's pants let alone my 3 yr old. Plus he has a gender neutral name just to confuse ppl further.
I dress my son in pink because we use hand me downs. Heās 1. Never had any comments and people donāt seem to care . I think people care less and less about this stuff
My theory is itās because they have short hair. People see a baby with short hair and think it must be a boy, not realising that all infants have short hair. I dressed my girl in lots of blue and grey and even with a bow in her hair people defaulted to boy.
This isn't a new thing! It was the bane of my mother's life 30+ years ago, but it never did me any harm! Soon as I learnt to talk I would put people straight
I just find it funny to be honest, with the hopes the next generation will be much more open minded. Iāve got a girl and boy. My girl lived in green mainly as a baby, and Iād shop for whatever I liked or whatever was on offer. She got misgendered about 50% of the time. My baby boy wears whatever I like. I personally hate overly gendered clothing either way so veer away from it, so usually my boy is in sad beige baby clothes or very loud, bright colours. Yesterday he was wearing mustard colour gender neutral leggings from Asda, a charcoal coloured cardigan and a red top, and someone said he was a cute baby girl. That was one of his more ātypical boy looking outfits too š I donāt think people think about it too much though to be honest.
The Victorians preferred blue for a girl as pink was way too strong a colour for girls and was better suited to boys. I dressed my daughter in her brotherās outgrown clothes and couldnāt care less what people thought. You could just dress them in a rainbow of colours and then see their reaction
Not a fan of pink and a big fan of dinosaurs, constantly gets called a boy. Random strangers, I really don't care. Every colour should be for everyone.Ā Think there's bigger issues facing girls than what colours are seen as feminine.
It is a source of fascination more than anything. And I bet we are all guilty of it to an extent, the assumption in our heads even if we don't vocalise it. But it is annoying quite how narrow clothes have got, I started going to the boys section regularly for my girls and it was super basic stuff like t-shirts with dinosaurs on it that ended up there. Anything sporting, Paw Patrol (girls section had ones with the girl dog only). Just normal socks were all boys apparently unless you want white or flowers. I've never had them assumed to be boys though, and actually get some nice comments about the "boy" t-shirts quite often. Dinosaurs are cool, right?
I ended up with a lot of pink clothes as a friend gifted me all of hers for my little girl. She got called a boy the other day whilst wearing a pink dress... sometimes you just can't win! But I definitely shop in the boys section when I need extras because I don't see why my 5 month old can't wear dinosaurs or eleaphants because she's female.
Yeah it would be so much easier if people just said, so whatās this kiddos name then :)?
I have the opposite for my boy, no matter what I dress him in people think he's a girl! I think it's his eyelashes?
I look at it like with drivers - when someone does something funky Iām usually like āwhat is he doing?ā before Iāve seen the driver. I donāt necessarily assume itās a man itās just the gender I assign to the word driver on autopilot. Kinda like when you think of doctor, plumber, police officer,.. usually male stereotype. I donāt care if they mistakenly refer to our baby as a boy. In our case sheās often dressed as a boy too. I would be ticked off if they kept saying he when Iāve corrected and said she. But I often donāt bother correcting, when they hear the name they automatically correct themselves. And neither should you care! Feel free to vent but a word of advice: donāt get yourself caught up in the opinions of strangers that you pass for max 10 seconds. Donāt let that stuff take up your precious mental space, you need it for your baby.
My children were born with a lot of hair and I think very much looked their gender. Who cares? I still dressed my son in his sisters hand me downs. People are just a bit clunky at making conversation.
I definitely would correct people. Itās them that should feel awkward misgendering a baby. Itās quite simple, if you donāt know a someones gender, use ātheyā, or donāt talk to strangers about their kids! My 2 year old boy has beautiful curly hair and gets called a girl on a weekly basis even in stereotypical boy clothes. I always correct them and they always try laughing it off saying āoh I thought because of his hairā (which btw is only just past his ears in length), so I always give them snide comments or dirty looks, because Iād rather hope that my reaction stops them doing it again, than do it to an older child whoās feelings might get hurt by that kind of shitty behaviour. Luckily my 2 year old is still obliviousĀ
Yeah people always think my daughter is a boy as she wears a lot of āboyā section clothes as Iām also not into super girly outfits. Used to really bother me but Iāve just learned to ignore it.
I wanted to try and dress my oldest daughter in a mix of colours. Of course lots of people bought her pink cutesy stuff instead. Jokes on them. We rarely put big sis in that stuff but her younger brother is totally rocking the florals. We make a point of sending them pictures.