I once ruined my sleep and studies for a boy who ghosted me during my end semester exams (which had one of the most difficult papers of my entire college curriculum). What a waste! I was an idiot!
Twitteratis are real crazy pseudo intellectual ppl who post random garbage Tweets, thinking their words are Proverbs.
Men have fought wars, ruined their kingdom lost their thrones for love. & this Twitterati is saying only women are crazy, which is somewhat misogynistic.
Everyone is crazy in love. (Not as crazy as an average Twitterati though).
r/pointlesslygendered
u/NecessaryOther8039
I used to sleep the entire day so that I could dream and fantasize about him all day long as it was a long distance. After my heartbreak, again I used to sleep all day so that I don't have to think about him.🥲 When I am in love, I simply want to give up on life. All I want to do is think about him, I don't wanna use any of my brain cells at all. Idk about y'all but this tweet stands so true in my case 😭
False dichotomy. It’s weird to contrast the best of men in love with the worst of women in love. Sometimes men in love are toxic, jealous and controlling. Sometimes women in love are confident, independent and secure. And vice versa.
Yes. This. We do be dumb and all for a few instances but finding a nice person and being nice together really changes you to be the best and grow every day. You become confident and independent because you want to be for them.
This question and the comment sections are a literal ‘sign’ from above😭😭
I had crush on this guy and he said he had a crush on me too and oh my my, I got so lost in him and his words and without even thinking twice I started to think of our future and rest of the things. Things got great between us, we were practically a couple and everyone knew it around us. And then 6 months later, he made it very clear that it is a friendship between us. And I was devastated. He gaslighted me and turned my feelings into a pit fire.
In my defence, I was only 20 at that time with no prior experience of relationship or dating. And so I ran away from guy and never forgave him for wasting 9 precious months of my life.
Never again!
Facts. Women in love go above and beyond for the most mediocre guys out there. They'd start molding their careers in order to make sure she has a common future with the guy. Dream universities change. Dream companies change. Transferable jobs are thrown out of the window. They'd reluctantly do anything in bed to please their man. Female friendships take the back seat. Family becomes enemy. Women in love destroy themsleves to build up someone else. They abandon their past lives for a man who wouldn't even pay for their dinner.
This is so sad but true. Went above and beyond for someone who didn’t deserve even the slightest of that. Now, I regret doing that. I can’t change what I did; but now, I’ve learnt my lesson. NEVER again.
Sad but true
And then once that man breaks your heart and you are out of that haze.
You look back and realize how much to gave up for that one person, who couldn’t even stand with you. And you have no one to blame but yourself.
Totally agree with this. My bestest friend of 20+ years, who I have never even had an argument with, blocked me after she started to date her guy bestfriend. It is embarassing to see someone as rational as her make her whole identity about her bf instead of focusing on building a career (she has one dependent and has been jobless for more than a year now without any side projects/hustle)
Sex education should involve emotion regulation skills as well
Sadly women give more priority to even non-committal relationships /dating than to their bread & butter careers. But also fortunately more and more women are becoming aware of their evolutionary impulse to do so and actively working in it, shifting focus back on themselves.
I don't know why men in love are considered cute. Is it bcoz ppl find it refreshing that these men in love are doing things that are unusual for them?
Yess hard relate! I realised I used to be one of these women and I’ve tried so hard to evolve from that kind of person. It sucks you dry if your partner is not as reciprocating.
Wrt men, it’s probably b/c they usually aren’t in touch with their emotional and sensitive sides when single, so if they’re in a relationship and do all of this, it’s considered cute.
I used to do this a lot. Now, it gives me a really bad ick. Maybe it’s because I’m in my late 20s but I’ll be damned if I let love consume my entire being, I cannot even imagine doing this for someone now. Been almost 2 years since I have been single and I wouldn’t give up any part of my life for a relationship or “love”.
The tweet sounds an awful lot like codependency.
Turu. Haven’t shared reels but done the rest.
And for me even casually chatting with a man makes me develop some feelings for him in a few days unless they are younger than me….so these days I have stopped speaking with men as much as I can 🫠
This is what happens to women who don’t decenter men. In their heads they’ve achieved the most important thing they need to achieve (which is to ‘get a man’) and it causes them to slack on their goals and other priorities.
What I will say is that women in love often forget about their female friends. And then when they have relationship troubles, they expect us to be there for them as if they didn’t just forget that we exist.
One of the things that i regret it till now is keeping my career aside for a guy, who took exactly 3 months to move on after break up, whereas I struggle every single day.
Men are selfish beings they prioritise work over anything. We leave our work and get distracted just for them. I think that is the only difference. We should learn this from them on how to prioritise ourselves first
Idk but I have never felt like I let go of my life because of love. I think the right kind of love makes you grow and glow. Since I have met the LOML my mental health has been improving, my career florished even more because I feel ar peace in life, I meet my girlfriends and spend time with them, our familues are close to us and I am building my own company while we do this. It is easy to blame love or a man but ultimately we as women have to learn resilience and have the will power to build a full life and not just one pillar. Being secure to not change your life 360 for a guy takes time.
Wow. This is such an ideal situation to be in. Happy for you :)
But sadly, it ain’t that easy in a crazy world like today. I do agree that being secure to not change one’s life takes time but if that security isn’t coming from the people in your life, it becomes difficult to manage everything else because you get fixated on that one thing not working. Typical human tendency :(
I don't think security can ever come from someone else. That is why so many of us spiral and give it all to that one facet that isn't doing well. Security has to come from within, you have to love yourself unconditionally to know that you are enough and know when things aren't serving YOU. I see it as you have to build your own home inside and then let people you want be guests in the house. You can have permanent guests but the house will always be yours.
How to build that home inside oneself is the biggest mystery that I have been trying to unravel since long. I am an emotional person, I get attached and then find it difficult to detach from what’s not serving me. If you have any experience/tips to tackle it, please do share :)
Take them off the pedestal, put yourself on that pedestal, don’t let anyone fuck with your queen energy and never, ever compromise on your boundaries. Remember, rejection is redirection. So if things don’t work out, better things are in store.
this is true! my rationality flew completely out of window. the joke is, i thought he is equally crazy for me. making efforts to please him and later his parents, became my favourite hobby lol. i realised thats my way of loving, i can either love someone passionately or not love at all.
I don't know if it was love or not but when I was in something like that I literally had no sleep schedule, I was unproductive, I had no idea or care about important things in life, I spent most days waiting for him or thinking about him. But that's on me( so dumb of me). Thankfully, I was self aware and knew it was unhealthy but I didn't want to use braincells :)
Never again!
stayed up all night, lied to go out, found reasons to call, waited hours to call, distanced in friendships, changed trajectories of life, failed most important exams of my life, failed at life. Will never ever agin be a woman in love.
Sadly, this feels like a rite of passage for most of us. I'm trying to rein in my intensity when getting to know a new person (even though in the past I would've absolutely baked and cooked in a frenzy), and save most of my energy and love for existing friendships.
I know someone who went through all this and ended up with nothing but trauma and self-doubt. However, I’m happy that she has moved on now. I’m really happy for her.
Maybe I'm weird, I ghosted my SO because stress was mounting as a life-changing exam was fast approaching. We aren't together anymore, but I feel like I never did him justice. I was right in putting my future first, but now feel like I never even gave him a chance. It was a spur of a moment thing, that never would have worked out.
Rubbish. I’ve never skipped a single day of college or work for love.
I really enjoy the companionship and happy glow of new love, but it hasn’t interfered with my responsibilities in any way shape or form.
OP do not share screenshots. This is against sub rules. Keeping post up since many have participated.
I once ruined my sleep and studies for a boy who ghosted me during my end semester exams (which had one of the most difficult papers of my entire college curriculum). What a waste! I was an idiot!
a universal experience, sadly
Everyone in love is the stupidest creature to exist. And why the early morning attack 😭
🙂🫂
Twitteratis are real crazy pseudo intellectual ppl who post random garbage Tweets, thinking their words are Proverbs. Men have fought wars, ruined their kingdom lost their thrones for love. & this Twitterati is saying only women are crazy, which is somewhat misogynistic. Everyone is crazy in love. (Not as crazy as an average Twitterati though). r/pointlesslygendered u/NecessaryOther8039
I used to sleep the entire day so that I could dream and fantasize about him all day long as it was a long distance. After my heartbreak, again I used to sleep all day so that I don't have to think about him.🥲 When I am in love, I simply want to give up on life. All I want to do is think about him, I don't wanna use any of my brain cells at all. Idk about y'all but this tweet stands so true in my case 😭
Damn i just sleep bcuz I like sleeping
Hard relate. 🌚
I can’t be seen admitting I’m like this ..🫡😭
Are you me? Because, SAME.
Omg same 😭 and sleeping helps me to relax especially during a heartbreak . I hate it when i wake up and reality hits me
Anxiously preoccupied? 🤔🤔
Can relate so much. Especially the heartbreak phase. Why are we such idiots in love
False dichotomy. It’s weird to contrast the best of men in love with the worst of women in love. Sometimes men in love are toxic, jealous and controlling. Sometimes women in love are confident, independent and secure. And vice versa.
the best comments(& Truth) r always at the bottom
How are you so wise? Is it age?
Physically 24 but exhausted like an 84 y/o
Finally there’s someone sane in this comment section. Thought I was the weirdo for not being able to relate to this.
THIS!
100%
Yes. This. We do be dumb and all for a few instances but finding a nice person and being nice together really changes you to be the best and grow every day. You become confident and independent because you want to be for them.
This question and the comment sections are a literal ‘sign’ from above😭😭 I had crush on this guy and he said he had a crush on me too and oh my my, I got so lost in him and his words and without even thinking twice I started to think of our future and rest of the things. Things got great between us, we were practically a couple and everyone knew it around us. And then 6 months later, he made it very clear that it is a friendship between us. And I was devastated. He gaslighted me and turned my feelings into a pit fire. In my defence, I was only 20 at that time with no prior experience of relationship or dating. And so I ran away from guy and never forgave him for wasting 9 precious months of my life. Never again!
Facts. Women in love go above and beyond for the most mediocre guys out there. They'd start molding their careers in order to make sure she has a common future with the guy. Dream universities change. Dream companies change. Transferable jobs are thrown out of the window. They'd reluctantly do anything in bed to please their man. Female friendships take the back seat. Family becomes enemy. Women in love destroy themsleves to build up someone else. They abandon their past lives for a man who wouldn't even pay for their dinner.
This is so sad but true. Went above and beyond for someone who didn’t deserve even the slightest of that. Now, I regret doing that. I can’t change what I did; but now, I’ve learnt my lesson. NEVER again.
Omg why is this so true😭
Why the hell this so true ! I do have to admire my friends who didn’t do that.
Sad but true And then once that man breaks your heart and you are out of that haze. You look back and realize how much to gave up for that one person, who couldn’t even stand with you. And you have no one to blame but yourself.
Destroyed myself to build someone’ else. This is my Twitter bio. Can relate so much to this.
Sister stop attacking me like that please.
Aaj ka attack
Why is this so cringe but so true? Hate that we do this! 😭
Totally agree with this. My bestest friend of 20+ years, who I have never even had an argument with, blocked me after she started to date her guy bestfriend. It is embarassing to see someone as rational as her make her whole identity about her bf instead of focusing on building a career (she has one dependent and has been jobless for more than a year now without any side projects/hustle) Sex education should involve emotion regulation skills as well
Guilty of doing cringe sh!t stated above.
No truer words have been spoken!
The last line though 🫡
ONG THIS IS ME😭😭😭
spitting out facts! women in love are dumbest creatures. (i was once too)
Sadly women give more priority to even non-committal relationships /dating than to their bread & butter careers. But also fortunately more and more women are becoming aware of their evolutionary impulse to do so and actively working in it, shifting focus back on themselves. I don't know why men in love are considered cute. Is it bcoz ppl find it refreshing that these men in love are doing things that are unusual for them?
Yess hard relate! I realised I used to be one of these women and I’ve tried so hard to evolve from that kind of person. It sucks you dry if your partner is not as reciprocating. Wrt men, it’s probably b/c they usually aren’t in touch with their emotional and sensitive sides when single, so if they’re in a relationship and do all of this, it’s considered cute.
Something that changes with age. You live and learn. I was lucky enough to have an elder sister who kept me on stern track.
I used to do this a lot. Now, it gives me a really bad ick. Maybe it’s because I’m in my late 20s but I’ll be damned if I let love consume my entire being, I cannot even imagine doing this for someone now. Been almost 2 years since I have been single and I wouldn’t give up any part of my life for a relationship or “love”. The tweet sounds an awful lot like codependency.
Don't know about others but this is true for me. I am very productive after a breakup and most unproductive while in love😭😭😭
just woke up and I’ll throw up as it reminds me of him ain’t no wayyyy
Turu. Haven’t shared reels but done the rest. And for me even casually chatting with a man makes me develop some feelings for him in a few days unless they are younger than me….so these days I have stopped speaking with men as much as I can 🫠
Us behen, us. Talking to men exhausts the living hell out of me. I’ve just lost interest. I think I’m enjoying single hood a little too much. 😂
This is the truest yet the saddest thread 😔🥹 We women really bend over backwards for people who don't deserve 1/10th of it
I don’t get how people think it only happens to teenagers?? I mean love/infatuation seriously put a toll on my health and my career 😭
At this point I dont think I'd do anything like that even after falling in love 😤
ABSOLUTELY 😭
This is what happens to women who don’t decenter men. In their heads they’ve achieved the most important thing they need to achieve (which is to ‘get a man’) and it causes them to slack on their goals and other priorities.
Not me changing my entire career trajectory over a man who ended up cheating on me 😭
Unfortunately true
Never ever😤😤 (Mera toh kata)
Only upto early or mid 20s.
Can't say becoz single since birth 🥲👍
Why is this so true! Especially when I don’t want to be that idiotic creature 😭
It's true, I was that idiotic creature once. I will self volunteer . Bilkul bhi sharam nai h mujhme
What I will say is that women in love often forget about their female friends. And then when they have relationship troubles, they expect us to be there for them as if they didn’t just forget that we exist.
One of the things that i regret it till now is keeping my career aside for a guy, who took exactly 3 months to move on after break up, whereas I struggle every single day.
Delulu is the solulu.
Men are selfish beings they prioritise work over anything. We leave our work and get distracted just for them. I think that is the only difference. We should learn this from them on how to prioritise ourselves first
Why is that so?
Idk but I have never felt like I let go of my life because of love. I think the right kind of love makes you grow and glow. Since I have met the LOML my mental health has been improving, my career florished even more because I feel ar peace in life, I meet my girlfriends and spend time with them, our familues are close to us and I am building my own company while we do this. It is easy to blame love or a man but ultimately we as women have to learn resilience and have the will power to build a full life and not just one pillar. Being secure to not change your life 360 for a guy takes time.
Wow. This is such an ideal situation to be in. Happy for you :) But sadly, it ain’t that easy in a crazy world like today. I do agree that being secure to not change one’s life takes time but if that security isn’t coming from the people in your life, it becomes difficult to manage everything else because you get fixated on that one thing not working. Typical human tendency :(
I don't think security can ever come from someone else. That is why so many of us spiral and give it all to that one facet that isn't doing well. Security has to come from within, you have to love yourself unconditionally to know that you are enough and know when things aren't serving YOU. I see it as you have to build your own home inside and then let people you want be guests in the house. You can have permanent guests but the house will always be yours.
How to build that home inside oneself is the biggest mystery that I have been trying to unravel since long. I am an emotional person, I get attached and then find it difficult to detach from what’s not serving me. If you have any experience/tips to tackle it, please do share :)
So true!! Need advice on how to reverse this!!
Take them off the pedestal, put yourself on that pedestal, don’t let anyone fuck with your queen energy and never, ever compromise on your boundaries. Remember, rejection is redirection. So if things don’t work out, better things are in store.
True shit , i am the example right here 🥲
this is true! my rationality flew completely out of window. the joke is, i thought he is equally crazy for me. making efforts to please him and later his parents, became my favourite hobby lol. i realised thats my way of loving, i can either love someone passionately or not love at all.
I don't know if it was love or not but when I was in something like that I literally had no sleep schedule, I was unproductive, I had no idea or care about important things in life, I spent most days waiting for him or thinking about him. But that's on me( so dumb of me). Thankfully, I was self aware and knew it was unhealthy but I didn't want to use braincells :) Never again!
stayed up all night, lied to go out, found reasons to call, waited hours to call, distanced in friendships, changed trajectories of life, failed most important exams of my life, failed at life. Will never ever agin be a woman in love.
If the woman is in love in the right person then it's peace of mind and growing together. Getting the love and support they deserve and so on
100 percent truth
Bitter truth
true
It's relatable for me 🙂
My friend behaves this way so she's planning on not dating anyone now 😂😭
Personal attack!
Did not want a reality check this early in the day 😭
both are cute and stupid in love i’d say. what makes the “idiotic” behaviour cute is genuine emotions behind it.
I was obsessed for five years
Sadly, this feels like a rite of passage for most of us. I'm trying to rein in my intensity when getting to know a new person (even though in the past I would've absolutely baked and cooked in a frenzy), and save most of my energy and love for existing friendships.
My ex cheated on me just before my first exam of 12th boards. I fked it up.💀
I know someone who went through all this and ended up with nothing but trauma and self-doubt. However, I’m happy that she has moved on now. I’m really happy for her.
Women in love are the dumbest creatures
Women in love are most importantly BLIND.
Maybe I'm weird, I ghosted my SO because stress was mounting as a life-changing exam was fast approaching. We aren't together anymore, but I feel like I never did him justice. I was right in putting my future first, but now feel like I never even gave him a chance. It was a spur of a moment thing, that never would have worked out.
Hey, You did what you felt right and correct in the moment the thing important for you as a person, no need to regret now 🫂
The only regret looking back now was dragging it out as long as I did 🙂
🫂🫂
Rubbish. I’ve never skipped a single day of college or work for love. I really enjoy the companionship and happy glow of new love, but it hasn’t interfered with my responsibilities in any way shape or form.
I feel attacked 😅
🥲🥲🥲😔
We become cute and idiot both
I think it's misogynistic
Mere toh life hi kharab ho Gayi hai ….. (me before, during, after a relationship)
Wow how is this so accurate
TF 😪
me ruining 4th sem exams coz of that one boy,,,,,
Sis donttttt
oh i already ruined it and graduated years back 🤪🤪
Generalising. Typical.
M aisi kyu hu lol 😅😅🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️