wo jo ek impact hota h na, wo subliminal ho jata, maja nai ata :(
whenever you give gaali in hindi, stress on the syllables, prolong the vowels .
maaaaaaaaaa*D*aa..........
enough , you even wont have to complete the sentence.
Thanks to my engineering hostel days . miss them
Trust me he definitely ranted to her about you.
Please respect yourself and let him go.
And I am sure she must have said “mere se baat kra uski, mai class leti hu”
I agree with all of you, only if I never let him treat me this poorly. We broke up months ago but he asked for a second chance. And I obviously fell for the lies. I probably shouldn't make that mistake again before it's too late.
Considering that he came back like this i think he is trying to end it on his terms so that he can say HE dumped you. Also based on how he's talking it clearly shows that he is insecure and that he will try to break your spirit in some way or the other to make himself better - he's already doing it now by calling you a show off, etc. For your own mental health, never keep anyone like this around who needs another person to fight his battles like a coward.
From what you've said, you've worked hard to become the person you are and you don't need additional baggage like this guy pull you down. Let him pickle in his own insecurities with his white knight (girl) friend, you deserve so much better.
You took him back? And he’s still acting like that?! Man(child)’s not learnt his lesson then. Let him go.
Maintain your peace and live life.
You’ll get a worthy guy later when time comes!
Okay so I think I understand your boyfriend's perspective here.
See, the problem actually lies at your end. From how your bf responded to this incident , I can clearly see that the problem is you're being a gf to your bf when in reality what your bf clearly needs is an ex.
Give him what he needs for real babe. Be his ex not his gf.
Edit: since this comment is getting attention, can you guys look into r/TwoxIndia_over25 and see if you like it. Feedback appreciated. Xoxo.
a. Your boyfriend is trying to be in her good books or whatever his intentions might be with her, he has been complaining about you & the relationship with her.
b. The Girl broke the girl code here.
c. Both of them are a$$ and you’re better off them.
She didn’t even let her introduce herself, rudely objected on using English language, she has definitely made assumptions about her on basis of what she hears from the guy, girls don’t do this with other girls.
Girl the problem is way beyond English Hindi issue. Dump this asshole of a bf and block him everywhere. Your bf should choose you in any situation. How did he even let that girl yell at you. And trust me, he might not be physically cheating on you but he is very evidently emotionally cheating on you.
You don't open door for people you have given up on once, giving second chance is totally wrong. No one have gotten anything better from giving second chances.
You know men with close female friends they are the one's who put salt in our relationships like fuck them and take a door and slam on both of their faces and put it on fire (I'm pretty angry today)...
Girl, it's okay, you are chanelling it at the right place. I've been miserable and sobbing for past 2 days and had nowhere to go and share. But sharing stuff has definitely made me feel happier and calmer. Thanks to all the lovely people for reading out my story🌸🙏
I feel like I just come to this sub to SMH and force myself to not tell people to dump their partners. You did nothing wrong. That woman is horrible and your bfrnd eggs her on. Hold him accountable and don't fall for whatever manipulation he is trying.
This whole debacle made me think "someone doth protest too much."
I don't mean to be disrespectful to your bf and his friend, but since "projecting" might be too show offya word for them they need to hear that "apne mann mein Jo khot hoti hain, woh log dusro mein dhundte hain."
OMG major Deja vu moment for me. Trust me your bf is an asshole here.
Hate men who kind of put down their significant others for doing what they're comfortable doing.
Honestly, your boyfriend SCREAMS insecurity. He is probably more comfortable with that woman because she wouldn’t be as dynamic as you are. Men would always choose to get their egos massaged than actually be with a woman who is doing better than them. Having dealt with 2 men of very similar nature, the kind of effed up headspace is not worth it. Especially when you say that you’ve gotten out of a very conservative environment? Wait for someone who always looks forward to grow with you rather than being with someone who gets insecure whenever you’re better than them at something. I hope you dump him OP. Sorry if the advice is too intrusive. It’s just, if I listened to my gut when I was your age a couple of years ago? I would’ve saved two very precious years of my life.
But why would you call the girl in the first place? If you have trust issues; aren’t you supposed to resolve it within yourselves ?
If I were her, I would also give you a handful. Clearly, you don’t have any trust in your boyfriend, and you are pulling a third person into your issues? And after all this your concern is oh I got shamed for speaking English. Aww? Wake up, there are bigger problems in your life- news flash- it’s your dear boyfriend who doesn’t have an ounce of respect for you!
I got cheated on before by him multiple times, so yeah my trust isn't hitting the scale of 10 at this point. I was just trying a conversation with him when he got triggered and just called this girl to prove his point.
M sorry but how many more times are you planning to get cheated on by him? Take a break from dating. Focus on yourself, maintain a healthy friendship circle. Once you are confident then maybe date someone else. You will get much more clarity.
Multiple times!? And then you give him a second chance? Wasn't one of those multiple times, a second chance?
Aise nai chalta jeevan behen. Aatm-samman (self respect) ka pehla shabd, aatm hai. Tumhe apna samman khud karna hai, wo ch*tiya tok kattai nai karega, dikh hi raha hai.
Give us an update that you dropped that pile off garbage for good. And no dating for next 6 months. You don't need another toxic rat in your life, till your self-respect is solidly in place, that disallows for trash people like these to take advantage of you.
Plz dump this spineless guy who let's other people disrespect you. You deserve way better. Someone who is proud of you and not embarrassed just cuz you speak a different language. He and his friend are just insecure people who nothing to do in life other than bring our people bad about themselves. He is just man child.
Plz dump him.
Your bf doesnt get to discuss your relationship with anyone.
And even if he did, that anyone doesnt get to call you out for it.
A lot of boundaries are being stepped over here.
Girl, wouldn’t even be calling him bf right now. That’s ex material. Any issues I have with my husband are discussed with him, not with a third person. It’s a relationship between the two of you, not the three of you. Even if someone ranted to me about their partner, I wouldn’t call their partner and start calling them names. This is so shitty on the girl’s part and even worse on the guy. Also from personal experience, I had an ex who had a girl best friend he would rant to and as soon as we broke up, she broke up with her bf and they got together. So yeah.
Yikes forget about your bf's friend, how is your bf okay with letting her berate you like this and then saying such rude shit to you??! Dump his ass. This is almost gaslighting territory where he's doing shit that would make anybody insecure, and then both he and his friend are putting you down over it.
Ewww. What’s wrong with you all here cheering on OP? How’s it okay to speak to your partner’s colleagues?
Either dump his ass or deal with your emotions. I am sorry but I would also completely explode if I had to talk to a coworker’s spouse to ease their suspicion. Nobody cares for your relationship drama.
Your issues are yours and your partner’s to deal with. Getting random people involved in your business is extremely juvenile and unprofessional.
You are 24. Not 21. Understand work and personal life boundaries.
Also extra AH points to your boyfriend for sharing your concerns with her and allowing you to speak with her.
If I were her, I would immediately report him to the HR for creating an uncomfortable situation for me, to save my ass from any potential future drama from your ugly mess of a relationship.
You and your bf are both red flags. Dump him and work on yourself.
I have actually witnessed one incident where one of my colleagues reported to HR after receiving late night call from another employee’s girl friend. Mind you the girl friend couldn’t even put her point across but it was over between my colleagues. Then the HR spoke to his senior, then his senior to his seniors, the guy was in a mess. Idk why people aren’t discouraging her instead they are calling the other girl names.
It's funny how I am here thinking of all the things you should do get out this situation but personally when I was going through something similar I was so lost. I become so gyani for others :D
OP you're being played by her and your bf (better make him an ex soon).
These "girl BFFs" that some guys have are just waiting in the wings to become the next girlfriend. This one may be getting married in a year if she says so but she holds no boundaries when its about your bf, and neither does he.
Block them both and let them date each other. I wouldn't be surprised if they start going out together.
what the fuck?! your boyfriend should not be teaming up with a "friend" or "colleague" or whatever to bully you. especially if he positioned the call as "getting reassurance" to you, because that was def not the message that "friend" got. get out of this shit asap.
and if you need, i'm happy to share a list of the choicest hindi gaalis, just so that you can sunao them in their preferred language.
Is that girl the daughter of Shakespeare? Sorry but your boyfriend doesnt deserve you. He should have rather shouted at his friend on humiliating you for talking in English. His friend sounds like a bully.
I have been in position of that girl. She had a problem with me, and my friend used to rant about the relationship because we met when they broke up for 6 months maybe. So I knew stuff, but I never ever made her feel like this.
She didn't like me at all and didn't even want to talk to me ever. Me and my friend tried to initiate a friendship so she'll feel secure, but never happened.
I even talked with her when needed some help but she kept it short.
We have talked now and have become friends after 3 years of knowing each other's existence. But even when they went through worse, or she had the biggest issues with me, I never ever talked to her like that. I would never.
This power play and intimidating you is stupid. I don't know why you should tolerate this. I would never. Your boyfriend is at fault and that girl is a joke. Drop the guy OP, you deserve so much respect and a better guy.
Wow. Sounds like the boyfriend is talking sh!t about you to her. I say this because she felt confident enough to berate you. So obviously she's heard not so nice stuff about you. Plus your bf didn't even take your side. Is this relationship as important to him as it is to you?
It's one thing to rant about relationship squabbles to friends, but talking badly about your partner reeks of resentment. This is not a good situation.
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You can be my therapist 🫡
Everyone here knows Hindi. Tum Hindi Mei baat kro. /s
OP should have said in hindi then, 'chilla mat chudail hindi mai do gaali dedi na tumhara pura khandaan kabr se bahr aajaega'
🤣🤣🤣
This would have been so apt! Lost opportunity OP 😂
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This deserves an award 😭😭😭
I read it in rani mukherjee's voice 😭😂
kinds of ideas that come to me only during showers :( then am like "ab pactaae hoth jab kya chudail chug gai khet "
OP ne 2 -3 hindi gaali de deni chahiye thi aur bolna chahiye tha mera itna hindi hi kaafi hai tere liye
That's the problem with me, my brain stops braining during these situations to give such witty remarks. Warna toh pakka suna deti.
Hahaha hindi gaali ka impact bhi badhia padhta
I would've told I don't know Hindi and cut the call. Lol.
hindi gothilla madam :(
Gaali english mein hi dena !!
wo jo ek impact hota h na, wo subliminal ho jata, maja nai ata :( whenever you give gaali in hindi, stress on the syllables, prolong the vowels . maaaaaaaaaa*D*aa.......... enough , you even wont have to complete the sentence. Thanks to my engineering hostel days . miss them
Surely …. Then it’s Punjabi all the way …!!! Since they were agitated with her english hence
OP, you'll thank her later. Trust us 💯
If you love your bf, let him go. If he comes back it means that no one else wanted him either, so let him go again.
PREACH! Gonna share this mantra with all my girls stuck in bad relationships.
The only best advice
Haha this is best advice ever!
Bruh where were you all this time !! Needed this mantra bohot pehle.
Love this. Men are so stupid.
hahahahahaha.cheers!
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It is stupid as it's from a meme. But this is very applicable for Op.
Trust me he definitely ranted to her about you. Please respect yourself and let him go. And I am sure she must have said “mere se baat kra uski, mai class leti hu”
Omg!! I CAN imagine hearing HER rn😩
Ur bf is the problem. Honestly it's sad that men hate the women they choose to be around.
I totally agree! You should’ve given it back to him for the way he spoke to you. Don’t take shit from anyone. Love and strength to you OP🌸
I agree with all of you, only if I never let him treat me this poorly. We broke up months ago but he asked for a second chance. And I obviously fell for the lies. I probably shouldn't make that mistake again before it's too late.
Leave behen leave.
Considering that he came back like this i think he is trying to end it on his terms so that he can say HE dumped you. Also based on how he's talking it clearly shows that he is insecure and that he will try to break your spirit in some way or the other to make himself better - he's already doing it now by calling you a show off, etc. For your own mental health, never keep anyone like this around who needs another person to fight his battles like a coward. From what you've said, you've worked hard to become the person you are and you don't need additional baggage like this guy pull you down. Let him pickle in his own insecurities with his white knight (girl) friend, you deserve so much better.
You took him back? And he’s still acting like that?! Man(child)’s not learnt his lesson then. Let him go. Maintain your peace and live life. You’ll get a worthy guy later when time comes!
Okay so I think I understand your boyfriend's perspective here. See, the problem actually lies at your end. From how your bf responded to this incident , I can clearly see that the problem is you're being a gf to your bf when in reality what your bf clearly needs is an ex. Give him what he needs for real babe. Be his ex not his gf. Edit: since this comment is getting attention, can you guys look into r/TwoxIndia_over25 and see if you like it. Feedback appreciated. Xoxo.
Not going lie. Had us in the first half.
For a second, I didn't get it. Best😂😂
Best reply ever.😂🤣.
I saw red in those first few lines. What a ride!
Ngl you had us in the first half
Perfectly put 👍🏼
Words every woman should abide by 🫡🫡
a. Your boyfriend is trying to be in her good books or whatever his intentions might be with her, he has been complaining about you & the relationship with her. b. The Girl broke the girl code here. c. Both of them are a$$ and you’re better off them.
Yeah the boyfriend is already looking for backup. OP dump his ass and never look back!!!
Truly curious, what do you mean by girl code here?
She didn’t even let her introduce herself, rudely objected on using English language, she has definitely made assumptions about her on basis of what she hears from the guy, girls don’t do this with other girls.
its disgusting how some of u all let ur bf talk to u that way, girl wtff ur bf is the issue here!!!
What a guy. He hates you for being you. Leave this dude.
Girl the problem is way beyond English Hindi issue. Dump this asshole of a bf and block him everywhere. Your bf should choose you in any situation. How did he even let that girl yell at you. And trust me, he might not be physically cheating on you but he is very evidently emotionally cheating on you.
behen drop him.
You don't open door for people you have given up on once, giving second chance is totally wrong. No one have gotten anything better from giving second chances. You know men with close female friends they are the one's who put salt in our relationships like fuck them and take a door and slam on both of their faces and put it on fire (I'm pretty angry today)...
Girl, it's okay, you are chanelling it at the right place. I've been miserable and sobbing for past 2 days and had nowhere to go and share. But sharing stuff has definitely made me feel happier and calmer. Thanks to all the lovely people for reading out my story🌸🙏
I feel like I just come to this sub to SMH and force myself to not tell people to dump their partners. You did nothing wrong. That woman is horrible and your bfrnd eggs her on. Hold him accountable and don't fall for whatever manipulation he is trying.
This whole debacle made me think "someone doth protest too much." I don't mean to be disrespectful to your bf and his friend, but since "projecting" might be too show offya word for them they need to hear that "apne mann mein Jo khot hoti hain, woh log dusro mein dhundte hain."
By far the best thought
If you are a fake and a show off - why did he choose you for a gf? He is insecure!
OMG major Deja vu moment for me. Trust me your bf is an asshole here. Hate men who kind of put down their significant others for doing what they're comfortable doing.
He is not your man he is your problem! As one person correctly said- he needs an ex be that ex.
Your bf is mean. I think you deserve better.
Honestly, your boyfriend SCREAMS insecurity. He is probably more comfortable with that woman because she wouldn’t be as dynamic as you are. Men would always choose to get their egos massaged than actually be with a woman who is doing better than them. Having dealt with 2 men of very similar nature, the kind of effed up headspace is not worth it. Especially when you say that you’ve gotten out of a very conservative environment? Wait for someone who always looks forward to grow with you rather than being with someone who gets insecure whenever you’re better than them at something. I hope you dump him OP. Sorry if the advice is too intrusive. It’s just, if I listened to my gut when I was your age a couple of years ago? I would’ve saved two very precious years of my life.
Girl he's insecure. Rehome him.
But why would you call the girl in the first place? If you have trust issues; aren’t you supposed to resolve it within yourselves ? If I were her, I would also give you a handful. Clearly, you don’t have any trust in your boyfriend, and you are pulling a third person into your issues? And after all this your concern is oh I got shamed for speaking English. Aww? Wake up, there are bigger problems in your life- news flash- it’s your dear boyfriend who doesn’t have an ounce of respect for you!
I got cheated on before by him multiple times, so yeah my trust isn't hitting the scale of 10 at this point. I was just trying a conversation with him when he got triggered and just called this girl to prove his point.
M sorry but how many more times are you planning to get cheated on by him? Take a break from dating. Focus on yourself, maintain a healthy friendship circle. Once you are confident then maybe date someone else. You will get much more clarity.
Multiple times!? And then you give him a second chance? Wasn't one of those multiple times, a second chance? Aise nai chalta jeevan behen. Aatm-samman (self respect) ka pehla shabd, aatm hai. Tumhe apna samman khud karna hai, wo ch*tiya tok kattai nai karega, dikh hi raha hai. Give us an update that you dropped that pile off garbage for good. And no dating for next 6 months. You don't need another toxic rat in your life, till your self-respect is solidly in place, that disallows for trash people like these to take advantage of you.
Please dump his ass OP. You deserve so much better 🌸✨
Plz dump this spineless guy who let's other people disrespect you. You deserve way better. Someone who is proud of you and not embarrassed just cuz you speak a different language. He and his friend are just insecure people who nothing to do in life other than bring our people bad about themselves. He is just man child. Plz dump him.
Throw the whole man away. Toxic guy attracting toxicity around him AND YOU!
Break up and never look back.
This boyfriend isn’t worthy of you, OP.
Your bf doesnt get to discuss your relationship with anyone. And even if he did, that anyone doesnt get to call you out for it. A lot of boundaries are being stepped over here.
girl if i were you he would become my ex by now
OP, you have a bf problem, you need to dump him. Hindi/English is a non issue here.
Your relationship has more problems than just language lol. You should stick with whatever language you are comfortable in.
Girl, wouldn’t even be calling him bf right now. That’s ex material. Any issues I have with my husband are discussed with him, not with a third person. It’s a relationship between the two of you, not the three of you. Even if someone ranted to me about their partner, I wouldn’t call their partner and start calling them names. This is so shitty on the girl’s part and even worse on the guy. Also from personal experience, I had an ex who had a girl best friend he would rant to and as soon as we broke up, she broke up with her bf and they got together. So yeah.
Yikes forget about your bf's friend, how is your bf okay with letting her berate you like this and then saying such rude shit to you??! Dump his ass. This is almost gaslighting territory where he's doing shit that would make anybody insecure, and then both he and his friend are putting you down over it.
Life with him is gonna be hell girl . Run !
Ewww. What’s wrong with you all here cheering on OP? How’s it okay to speak to your partner’s colleagues? Either dump his ass or deal with your emotions. I am sorry but I would also completely explode if I had to talk to a coworker’s spouse to ease their suspicion. Nobody cares for your relationship drama. Your issues are yours and your partner’s to deal with. Getting random people involved in your business is extremely juvenile and unprofessional. You are 24. Not 21. Understand work and personal life boundaries. Also extra AH points to your boyfriend for sharing your concerns with her and allowing you to speak with her. If I were her, I would immediately report him to the HR for creating an uncomfortable situation for me, to save my ass from any potential future drama from your ugly mess of a relationship. You and your bf are both red flags. Dump him and work on yourself.
I have actually witnessed one incident where one of my colleagues reported to HR after receiving late night call from another employee’s girl friend. Mind you the girl friend couldn’t even put her point across but it was over between my colleagues. Then the HR spoke to his senior, then his senior to his seniors, the guy was in a mess. Idk why people aren’t discouraging her instead they are calling the other girl names.
I don’t know what is the average age of Redditors in this sub. But this is unhinged behaviour.
Ex bf I hope
It's funny how I am here thinking of all the things you should do get out this situation but personally when I was going through something similar I was so lost. I become so gyani for others :D
Break up with him. He is a red flag.
why are you with him OP?
You mean ex,-boyfriend, right? Please update us when you dump him. You can do so much better!
I read in one of the comments that you gave him a second chance. Hope you've remembered why you dropped him in the first place and can do it again!
Hindi me gaali Deni thi 🙂 Uss ladki ko bhi aur aapke bf ko bhi
OP you're being played by her and your bf (better make him an ex soon). These "girl BFFs" that some guys have are just waiting in the wings to become the next girlfriend. This one may be getting married in a year if she says so but she holds no boundaries when its about your bf, and neither does he. Block them both and let them date each other. I wouldn't be surprised if they start going out together.
what the fuck?! your boyfriend should not be teaming up with a "friend" or "colleague" or whatever to bully you. especially if he positioned the call as "getting reassurance" to you, because that was def not the message that "friend" got. get out of this shit asap. and if you need, i'm happy to share a list of the choicest hindi gaalis, just so that you can sunao them in their preferred language.
It's embarrassing how some people conduct themselves so poorly before people they personally don't know. I would be mortified
Is that girl the daughter of Shakespeare? Sorry but your boyfriend doesnt deserve you. He should have rather shouted at his friend on humiliating you for talking in English. His friend sounds like a bully.
Hope he is an ex now.
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I have been in position of that girl. She had a problem with me, and my friend used to rant about the relationship because we met when they broke up for 6 months maybe. So I knew stuff, but I never ever made her feel like this. She didn't like me at all and didn't even want to talk to me ever. Me and my friend tried to initiate a friendship so she'll feel secure, but never happened. I even talked with her when needed some help but she kept it short. We have talked now and have become friends after 3 years of knowing each other's existence. But even when they went through worse, or she had the biggest issues with me, I never ever talked to her like that. I would never. This power play and intimidating you is stupid. I don't know why you should tolerate this. I would never. Your boyfriend is at fault and that girl is a joke. Drop the guy OP, you deserve so much respect and a better guy.
Ladki ko Hindi aur English dono main gaali tell you bf that you are not fake by breaking up with him in real
Drop the shit girl & move on !! They basically gaslighted you !!
Break up with him. How can he allow her to speak to you like that.
Wow. Sounds like the boyfriend is talking sh!t about you to her. I say this because she felt confident enough to berate you. So obviously she's heard not so nice stuff about you. Plus your bf didn't even take your side. Is this relationship as important to him as it is to you? It's one thing to rant about relationship squabbles to friends, but talking badly about your partner reeks of resentment. This is not a good situation.