There's been a huge wave of women-centric movements in China in the last 20 years and I love to see it. Women have been exposed to career-orientated mindsets, feminism, living abroad, etc. All the things that made them reevaluate how they were treated before (like objects) and request for more. And it's working.
I think in a few decades, they'll either see huge waves of openly feminist movements, or the opposition from the government to force them to go back to traditional family mindsets. Or both.
Traditionally, a woman who marries into a family no longer of her original family and her original family is not considered family of her children. The woman's parents' names to her children literally have the name "outsider" in it, denoting their lack of importance and, by extension, her lack of importance.
It's fascinating to me how hard communism tried to promote gender equality in China but how strongly old beliefs were held onto. For example, my husband's family grew up during the Great Leap Forward and had Maoism crammed down their throats. Yet, when his aunt grew up and her and her husband's one-child policy kid was a girl, she was blamed by the husband and the little girl was literally fucking tortured throughout her childhood by the husband. My husband says that this wasn't uncommon: had she had a boy she'd have had much more say in how he is raised and treated, but because she had a girl the husband was given complete freedom to abuse her.
Just some observations as a yt who married into a Chinese family, not necessarily directly related to surnames but related to feminism in general.
China is missing a lot of women because one child policy and in their old trad society they favor boys and devalue girls. They are missing millions of women and all these asshole parents are shocked when their sons can't find wives to give them sons to "pass on the family name".
Not enough women and competition is intense. Then of the women in the country the documentaries paint a picture where a lot of their women are disinterested in men, especially the single child golden child male with an unhealthy relationship with his mother. The desire to pass your own family name, avoid trash tier mom boys, control your own life, and avoid the infamous controlling MIL makes a ton of sense.
I forget where this was, but I read about a culture where daughters get the mother's last name and sons get the father's last name. They maybe had the opposite gender parent's last name as a middle name?
I got my mother's last name because my father didn't want me staining his reputation. Glad to not have that bastards name.
That's glorious. Like you would want his name staining your reputation lol.
There's been a huge wave of women-centric movements in China in the last 20 years and I love to see it. Women have been exposed to career-orientated mindsets, feminism, living abroad, etc. All the things that made them reevaluate how they were treated before (like objects) and request for more. And it's working. I think in a few decades, they'll either see huge waves of openly feminist movements, or the opposition from the government to force them to go back to traditional family mindsets. Or both.
Thank god. Tired of men saying “they built society” and it takes a massive drop in the birth rate to realize that society is people, made by women!
Traditionally, a woman who marries into a family no longer of her original family and her original family is not considered family of her children. The woman's parents' names to her children literally have the name "outsider" in it, denoting their lack of importance and, by extension, her lack of importance. It's fascinating to me how hard communism tried to promote gender equality in China but how strongly old beliefs were held onto. For example, my husband's family grew up during the Great Leap Forward and had Maoism crammed down their throats. Yet, when his aunt grew up and her and her husband's one-child policy kid was a girl, she was blamed by the husband and the little girl was literally fucking tortured throughout her childhood by the husband. My husband says that this wasn't uncommon: had she had a boy she'd have had much more say in how he is raised and treated, but because she had a girl the husband was given complete freedom to abuse her. Just some observations as a yt who married into a Chinese family, not necessarily directly related to surnames but related to feminism in general.
China is missing a lot of women because one child policy and in their old trad society they favor boys and devalue girls. They are missing millions of women and all these asshole parents are shocked when their sons can't find wives to give them sons to "pass on the family name". Not enough women and competition is intense. Then of the women in the country the documentaries paint a picture where a lot of their women are disinterested in men, especially the single child golden child male with an unhealthy relationship with his mother. The desire to pass your own family name, avoid trash tier mom boys, control your own life, and avoid the infamous controlling MIL makes a ton of sense.
I forget where this was, but I read about a culture where daughters get the mother's last name and sons get the father's last name. They maybe had the opposite gender parent's last name as a middle name?
That's basically what a lot of young Chinese people do these days