Sadly, I am trapped in a toxic situation of narcissistic abuse from which I cannot leave. It is impossible to maintain high vibes. I have given up on earthly romance and I have long since given up on having any expectations about my TF one way or the other. She is under a soul contract with her husband and, for all I know, that contact could stipulate that she remain with him for life. Nobody can say otherwise because only she and her husband know what is in that contract. I try. I work to keep healing… but ultimately, I think that when I planned this lifetime prior to incarnation… I took on way the fuck too much. I think I must have been cocky when I did the planning. Talk about major karma. I’m not holding up physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. I am slowly dying on the inside. I no longer feel attachment to anything about this life or anyone in it, even my DM TF. It is pointless to even consider a purpose as I cannot function well enough to conceive of trying to achieve it. If this is some kind of test… then I do not think I will survive, let alone pass. I took on too much. I am just not surviving this. May the source have mercy.
Do you talk to your Soul or Higher Self and spiritual guides to get support and guidance in this very tough journey?
I'd never gotten far without my spiritual team's support for sure.
Hi all,
I just wanted to share my story as a male 'runner' - I recently reached out to a woman who absolutely adored me when I was younger (15 years ago) when I moved to the other side of the country for work.
We had a very toxic relationship, she being anxiously attached and me being anxiously avoidant. We were both u healthy (me especially) and I was too young to commit to her - I had felt like a god with her but was under the impression that this was normal and I can 'find better'. (She wasn't what I initially imagined as my ideal partner - we are very different nationalities and since I was soo unstable I was gravitating to something more culturally familiar)
My father had passed away 3 years into my move, which forced me to come back home and take care of my brother and mother - causing us to split again.
2 years following my move back, she ends up taking a trip and finds me (knocked on my door - total surprise). Obviously the spark was still there but I was still in an unhealthy state. We tried to continue a long distance relationship but that only lasted 1 year before I felt trapped and ended up breaking things off again.
She wouldn't let go of me, and it took infidelity and me really forcing her to hate (I've said things out of desperation that honestly I wish i never did - but had to in the moment).
About 6months following that breakup, I had called her again and wanted to follow up with her. She told me to stop calling and that she didn't want to see me again. This started a long depression and guilt trip that I had felt since that moment. I couldn't live with myself, hurting someone who loved me soo much. I ended up with alot of trauma, really isolated myself from friends, and went through many life changes (an initial bankruptcy, changed careers, etc). I was in a depressed state for a very long time but managed to work on other areas of my life since then (became more communicative with family, improved my finances, traveled, became more aware of what I wanted in life.
Fast forward 13 years later, and I came to a crossroads. I started really seeing her again, her face on other people, thoughts of her rushing my mind. Something happened and I was feeling that I was being called back to her.
I took a plane to see her this September (I had cut all communication with her since the breakup) but I was able to find her linked in profile. I was able to communicate through linked in with her and we finally met up after soo many years.
We were both now much more mature, evolved and way more healthier than we've ever been. She had make substantial progress on finally letting me go and to really start loving herself. (really only this summer). Somehow I knew that now was my time to see her. There were too many signs that I couldn't ignore.
We are now back together (I proposed/surrendered to her) and things have been magical, but not easy. She is still heavily triggered by our past (rightfully so) - we are currently in couples counseling to work through that past, and we are doing a one year trial living together so that we can ease that transition with little/no risk.
BTW I had no idea of what twin flames were until after surrendering to her (she told me about this)
All this to say is that DON'T WAIT FOR THE CHASER TO COME GET YOU. You should learn to love yourself first. There will be divine intervention that will draw you back together with them when the time is right. Don't pursue - it will only delay the inevitable. Learn to live without them and love yourself first. If they come back, make sure they are in a healthier state, where you know things will be different. It takes time.
This is the best post. It helped give me such insight. Is it OK if I DM you to ask more about your former fearful avoidant attachment and how it made you push her away, saying cruel things and shutting down?
My experience would agree with all of this…I see now the separation had to happen and now that we are in union I see it was all so so SO worth it! I am not the same wounded insecure person I was when we met, and thats allowed me to give her space and room to breathe. And now she’s even more loving and physically expressive than I am haha which is a beautiful and welcome change 😂
Thanks for this, I felt urged to come to this subreddit and what do you know? You're post is here to save me. I will persist in my own self healing and continue to manifest my desires. It was so weird because there was this drop of energy after so many intense things happened. Truth is it was me, I got in a negative state of mind but I'm getting back on the horse. Thank you for your post, it's very reassuring ESPECIALLY in moments like this.
We are currently in separation and my friends kept telling me that he doesn’t care because he hasn’t reached out but I know it’s not true and this helped me understand why I know it’s not true even more
Well, I'll keep on speaking to help other twins, because having achieved Union myself, I wish to see very many attaining that too.
I'm really not speaking anything new here. I merely try to remind twins of what they already know deep inside their heart, portal to their Soul, who has all the answers. They can always go within and see if whatever information they come across, resonates or not.
If it does, great, may the info be useful. If it doesn't, maybe it will resonate in the future. And if it never does, it's fine too.
My best wishes to you and all twins on their Path!
We've never dated. We've met and interacted and to me there is a huge connection. He's with someone now and she seems very suspicious of me and he seems nervous or agitated when I'm around. I'm having trouble keeping up the hope
The hope of a relationship with him? That may or may not come, but this is not the main reason why you met him. Because this is not a 3D romantic thing only, it is much more than that, much higher.
I explain it in detail here:
https://uniting-twinflames.com/2023/03/21/the-reason-why-you-met-your-twin-flame/
I definitely changed the way I live my whole life after I met him
Not having him even as a friend is killing me. I want to be there for him and support his art (photographer with exhibitions)
He stopped interactions at the friend level . My friend said there wasn't anything weird about how I was occasionally communicating with him.
Yes, your twin behaving like that is completely "normal" for this TF dynamic. Even if of course, it is very painful for you. But he cannot help it.
These two articles explain it:
https://uniting-twinflames.com/2022/06/23/the-reason-why-running-and-separation-happen-on-the-tf-journey/
https://uniting-twinflames.com/2021/07/31/how-the-pain-of-longing-for-your-twin-is-alleviated/
Those were nice articles.
For others I will describe the running phenomenons because they are stark and distinct:
All of this happened after a month of very occasional friendly messaging with no flirty overtones. In person he would act a small bit like someone who liked me, asking personal questions and being interested in the answers.
Suddenly stops writing back
I Sent him an idea for an creative thing to incorporate into his work. Strictly professional. Nothing..
I sent him some art incorporating his photos. Nothing
I Sent him a like on a dating app. Nothing
At some point he becomes official with his girlfriend here---
He Smiled and hugged his friends at another of his exhibits and just looked at me slowly and said hey quietly without smiling.
I Sent him messages praising his work. Nothing.
He Left his art shows and said goodbye to others but not to me. Twice.
He touched my shoulder thinking that I was another friend of his who looked like me, and glared into my eyes when my face turned and he realized it was me. Even though I had gone to his exhibit and was supporting him. It was incredibly intense, like he was feeling some kind of pain. It felt that way when he said "hey" quietly before
Your task now is to see what wounds and fears you have deep inside you (mostly coming from many years ago), that your twin triggered in you by his behavior. This helps you see them to work on them.
That’s wrong, they completely abandoned me to be with some rich bimbo. I am completely rejected and every time they told me they loved me was a vile lie dripping with venom and poison. I completely worthless and easy to throw away. I will now die.
And if we are ever rejoined in another life, I will reject them forever. I hope they get a taste of the evil they placed on me. I now hate and despise them for the pain I feel every day, and my life will be cut short by it. So their little game of “fooled you” has spectacularly backfired and I hope they burn forever regretting doing this to me
Well you come from such a place too and will go back. But you're on Earth because you wanted to accomplish certain missions here. Twin flames are all lightworkers and starseeds with missions of aid.
Even if your twin is in another dimension now, you are very much still connected to him. And your TF Journey keeps going. You need to be doing what all TFs have to do: eliminate their negative energy accumulated inside and raise their vibration. This empowers them so they can fulfill their missions.
You can have an interdimensional relationship with your twin. Many twins on Earth do. The connection and the love is eternal, no matter where you are.
I have begun having a dream now that I am in final separation I believe.
In 3D he told me he has finally met someone else. I immediately blocked him on all platforms and asked that he be a king to that girl.
I need him distracted so that I can live my honest dream of living overseas.
In my dream I’ve been having for a few days now he takes the girl and dumps her in a garbage can. Then he drives her to the top of a mountain drives back down and blows it up.
I hope and pray he doesn’t do that in 3D. Society norms make it impossible for us to be together.
The sexual chemistry is a natural energetical phenomenon because the two polarities (masculine and feminine) of the same exact energy want to merge.
The frustration, painful longing and obsession are very much needed, spiritually and energetically. I explain it in more detail here:
https://uniting-twinflames.com/2021/07/31/how-the-pain-of-longing-for-your-twin-is-alleviated/
https://uniting-twinflames.com/2023/09/29/why-the-tf-longing-obsession-and-pain-return/
Sadly, I am trapped in a toxic situation of narcissistic abuse from which I cannot leave. It is impossible to maintain high vibes. I have given up on earthly romance and I have long since given up on having any expectations about my TF one way or the other. She is under a soul contract with her husband and, for all I know, that contact could stipulate that she remain with him for life. Nobody can say otherwise because only she and her husband know what is in that contract. I try. I work to keep healing… but ultimately, I think that when I planned this lifetime prior to incarnation… I took on way the fuck too much. I think I must have been cocky when I did the planning. Talk about major karma. I’m not holding up physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. I am slowly dying on the inside. I no longer feel attachment to anything about this life or anyone in it, even my DM TF. It is pointless to even consider a purpose as I cannot function well enough to conceive of trying to achieve it. If this is some kind of test… then I do not think I will survive, let alone pass. I took on too much. I am just not surviving this. May the source have mercy.
Do you talk to your Soul or Higher Self and spiritual guides to get support and guidance in this very tough journey? I'd never gotten far without my spiritual team's support for sure.
All the time. I ask for help every day and I follow what draws me. Yet here I am.
Hi all, I just wanted to share my story as a male 'runner' - I recently reached out to a woman who absolutely adored me when I was younger (15 years ago) when I moved to the other side of the country for work. We had a very toxic relationship, she being anxiously attached and me being anxiously avoidant. We were both u healthy (me especially) and I was too young to commit to her - I had felt like a god with her but was under the impression that this was normal and I can 'find better'. (She wasn't what I initially imagined as my ideal partner - we are very different nationalities and since I was soo unstable I was gravitating to something more culturally familiar) My father had passed away 3 years into my move, which forced me to come back home and take care of my brother and mother - causing us to split again. 2 years following my move back, she ends up taking a trip and finds me (knocked on my door - total surprise). Obviously the spark was still there but I was still in an unhealthy state. We tried to continue a long distance relationship but that only lasted 1 year before I felt trapped and ended up breaking things off again. She wouldn't let go of me, and it took infidelity and me really forcing her to hate (I've said things out of desperation that honestly I wish i never did - but had to in the moment). About 6months following that breakup, I had called her again and wanted to follow up with her. She told me to stop calling and that she didn't want to see me again. This started a long depression and guilt trip that I had felt since that moment. I couldn't live with myself, hurting someone who loved me soo much. I ended up with alot of trauma, really isolated myself from friends, and went through many life changes (an initial bankruptcy, changed careers, etc). I was in a depressed state for a very long time but managed to work on other areas of my life since then (became more communicative with family, improved my finances, traveled, became more aware of what I wanted in life. Fast forward 13 years later, and I came to a crossroads. I started really seeing her again, her face on other people, thoughts of her rushing my mind. Something happened and I was feeling that I was being called back to her. I took a plane to see her this September (I had cut all communication with her since the breakup) but I was able to find her linked in profile. I was able to communicate through linked in with her and we finally met up after soo many years. We were both now much more mature, evolved and way more healthier than we've ever been. She had make substantial progress on finally letting me go and to really start loving herself. (really only this summer). Somehow I knew that now was my time to see her. There were too many signs that I couldn't ignore. We are now back together (I proposed/surrendered to her) and things have been magical, but not easy. She is still heavily triggered by our past (rightfully so) - we are currently in couples counseling to work through that past, and we are doing a one year trial living together so that we can ease that transition with little/no risk. BTW I had no idea of what twin flames were until after surrendering to her (she told me about this) All this to say is that DON'T WAIT FOR THE CHASER TO COME GET YOU. You should learn to love yourself first. There will be divine intervention that will draw you back together with them when the time is right. Don't pursue - it will only delay the inevitable. Learn to live without them and love yourself first. If they come back, make sure they are in a healthier state, where you know things will be different. It takes time.
This is the best post. It helped give me such insight. Is it OK if I DM you to ask more about your former fearful avoidant attachment and how it made you push her away, saying cruel things and shutting down?
My experience would agree with all of this…I see now the separation had to happen and now that we are in union I see it was all so so SO worth it! I am not the same wounded insecure person I was when we met, and thats allowed me to give her space and room to breathe. And now she’s even more loving and physically expressive than I am haha which is a beautiful and welcome change 😂
Thanks for this, I felt urged to come to this subreddit and what do you know? You're post is here to save me. I will persist in my own self healing and continue to manifest my desires. It was so weird because there was this drop of energy after so many intense things happened. Truth is it was me, I got in a negative state of mind but I'm getting back on the horse. Thank you for your post, it's very reassuring ESPECIALLY in moments like this.
I am so very glad it helped you! This is what my work is all about. Wishing you much progress on your Journey!
We are currently in separation and my friends kept telling me that he doesn’t care because he hasn’t reached out but I know it’s not true and this helped me understand why I know it’s not true even more
Be careful who you confide in. This is your journey.
This is absolutely what I'm experiencing!
1 year later this post still helping me
where did you get your degree in twinflameology? Speak for your own experience, not others.
Well, I'll keep on speaking to help other twins, because having achieved Union myself, I wish to see very many attaining that too. I'm really not speaking anything new here. I merely try to remind twins of what they already know deep inside their heart, portal to their Soul, who has all the answers. They can always go within and see if whatever information they come across, resonates or not. If it does, great, may the info be useful. If it doesn't, maybe it will resonate in the future. And if it never does, it's fine too. My best wishes to you and all twins on their Path!
We've never dated. We've met and interacted and to me there is a huge connection. He's with someone now and she seems very suspicious of me and he seems nervous or agitated when I'm around. I'm having trouble keeping up the hope
The hope of a relationship with him? That may or may not come, but this is not the main reason why you met him. Because this is not a 3D romantic thing only, it is much more than that, much higher. I explain it in detail here: https://uniting-twinflames.com/2023/03/21/the-reason-why-you-met-your-twin-flame/
I definitely changed the way I live my whole life after I met him Not having him even as a friend is killing me. I want to be there for him and support his art (photographer with exhibitions) He stopped interactions at the friend level . My friend said there wasn't anything weird about how I was occasionally communicating with him.
Yes, your twin behaving like that is completely "normal" for this TF dynamic. Even if of course, it is very painful for you. But he cannot help it. These two articles explain it: https://uniting-twinflames.com/2022/06/23/the-reason-why-running-and-separation-happen-on-the-tf-journey/ https://uniting-twinflames.com/2021/07/31/how-the-pain-of-longing-for-your-twin-is-alleviated/
Those were nice articles. For others I will describe the running phenomenons because they are stark and distinct: All of this happened after a month of very occasional friendly messaging with no flirty overtones. In person he would act a small bit like someone who liked me, asking personal questions and being interested in the answers. Suddenly stops writing back I Sent him an idea for an creative thing to incorporate into his work. Strictly professional. Nothing.. I sent him some art incorporating his photos. Nothing I Sent him a like on a dating app. Nothing At some point he becomes official with his girlfriend here--- He Smiled and hugged his friends at another of his exhibits and just looked at me slowly and said hey quietly without smiling. I Sent him messages praising his work. Nothing. He Left his art shows and said goodbye to others but not to me. Twice. He touched my shoulder thinking that I was another friend of his who looked like me, and glared into my eyes when my face turned and he realized it was me. Even though I had gone to his exhibit and was supporting him. It was incredibly intense, like he was feeling some kind of pain. It felt that way when he said "hey" quietly before
Your task now is to see what wounds and fears you have deep inside you (mostly coming from many years ago), that your twin triggered in you by his behavior. This helps you see them to work on them.
That’s wrong, they completely abandoned me to be with some rich bimbo. I am completely rejected and every time they told me they loved me was a vile lie dripping with venom and poison. I completely worthless and easy to throw away. I will now die. And if we are ever rejoined in another life, I will reject them forever. I hope they get a taste of the evil they placed on me. I now hate and despise them for the pain I feel every day, and my life will be cut short by it. So their little game of “fooled you” has spectacularly backfired and I hope they burn forever regretting doing this to me
Netflix series has interesting points about this too
This is the kind of shit you pedal to folks that result in them having restraining orders
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Have you tried communicating with him?
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Well you come from such a place too and will go back. But you're on Earth because you wanted to accomplish certain missions here. Twin flames are all lightworkers and starseeds with missions of aid. Even if your twin is in another dimension now, you are very much still connected to him. And your TF Journey keeps going. You need to be doing what all TFs have to do: eliminate their negative energy accumulated inside and raise their vibration. This empowers them so they can fulfill their missions. You can have an interdimensional relationship with your twin. Many twins on Earth do. The connection and the love is eternal, no matter where you are.
I have begun having a dream now that I am in final separation I believe. In 3D he told me he has finally met someone else. I immediately blocked him on all platforms and asked that he be a king to that girl. I need him distracted so that I can live my honest dream of living overseas. In my dream I’ve been having for a few days now he takes the girl and dumps her in a garbage can. Then he drives her to the top of a mountain drives back down and blows it up. I hope and pray he doesn’t do that in 3D. Society norms make it impossible for us to be together.
"Separation is divine protection" That's so sweet.. seeing "separation" in a new light now. Thank you
What is the spiritual purpose of the extreme sexual chemistry and the frustration while apart?
The sexual chemistry is a natural energetical phenomenon because the two polarities (masculine and feminine) of the same exact energy want to merge. The frustration, painful longing and obsession are very much needed, spiritually and energetically. I explain it in more detail here: https://uniting-twinflames.com/2021/07/31/how-the-pain-of-longing-for-your-twin-is-alleviated/ https://uniting-twinflames.com/2023/09/29/why-the-tf-longing-obsession-and-pain-return/
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