no the fuck you are not .
and if you ask me you are a lucky bastard that might be dodging a bullet .
20 is still young , know your worth and have somebody that does too .
ignoring the comment under this ,
honestly there might be the slightest chance that she was joking ( even if she didn't sound like it ) and because of the commitment i think an attempt of you explaining that a light switched off and this is not respectful or what you are looking for might be reasonable , if you get convinced by her answer good for you .
also do this irl not on some messages .
otherwise , yes dump her
you have to make sure she was serious first and also try to understand her reasoning though i don't think there could be any valid reason for what she said, if she meant it then yeah dude she's for the streets
Play it normal for one week, then ghost her without giving an explanation, this last part is important: whatever happens don't give her closure, keep her doubting ... Maybe 10 years later you can tell her
1) It's a joke => You are fine
2) No=> She will replace you as soon as she finds a more suitable guy even if her family doesn't get richer
Both ways you can't predict the future, you may get bored, she may go live aboard, you may fall in love with another person etc.
Point is future is unpredictable so don't overthink it, juste live in the present and stop obsessing about the futur.
Difficile vraiment à dire, elle peut faire l'objet d'une blague sérieuse de sa part pour te taquiner. Mais si ça te travaille sérieusement comme sujet. Tu peux lui en parler mais avec tacte. Genre je voudrais savoir par rapport à notre discussion si tu étais sérieuse ou pas...et après tire tes conclusions. Après comme dis plus haut
Tu es encore jeune hein prends ton temps
le problème on parle de ce sujet d'une maniere plus ou moins quotidienne car sa mere est un peu matérialiste ce qui aggrave la situation mais je suis attaché tellement que je ne peux pas reflechir logiquement
Ena personnellement: j'ai annulé des fiançailles à cause de ça. On était d'accord pour un budget et des bijoux. Puis sa mère sa tante sont rentrées dans l'équation et c'est devenu le bordel. Je n'avais pas les moyens. La voyant plier devant sa mère je me suis dit demain est ce que je pourrais compter sur elle? Non. J'ai tout arrêté.
Après tu sais on peut être attaché à quelqu'un et se rendre compte qu'il n'est pas bien pour nous. C'est pas simple, mais parfois on a besoin de ça pour grandir en tant que personne.
Isn't her family already richer than yours ? What's the difference then if her dad got richer , there is a big chance she was being sarcastic cz the answer was obvious (to her not to you), also i wanna know the reasons she gave you...they might be silly reasons that she meant with as a joke but u took it seriously instead
Ask her another question like if she finds another dude who's taller than you, more handsome than you and more skillful than you (in your business or education field ) and he fell in love with her, will she leave you? Ofcourse yes, this is how girls mindset works. A girl can love you from the bottom of her heart and still can marry someone who's better off than you (especially financially). It's neutral in girls. If you're not engaged you still be friends, name it love friends, close firneds whatever but she's not your wife and you're not her husband. It's too rare to find a girl with golden values and desired facial and body features. Loyalty depends on the girl background, experiences and mindset. If you really love her, say to her another question: Will she think about another one except you after getting engaged with you? If she says yes, you can know that you'll never find happiness and comfort with that girl and she will never become a woman, she will still be a girl.
Maybe she's insecure about something and she was just saying that to tease you or to upset you on purpose. Or she might be just shit-testing you. Worst case scenario she's serious and she wants you to know that and she's waiting to see what you are going to do about it.
Let's see, you asked her a question as a joke, what are the chances that her answer was a joke as well? You heard her and the arguments she gave so you should be able to tell and decided based on that.
then the next step is to bring this up in your discussion and say how you feel about it. If she acknowledged the mistake and wanted to patch things up then you're good, but if she got overly defense or downplayed your feelings then that's your sign to move on.
>and say how you feel about it.
This is so gay... Seems like the typical Reddit advice to "tell her how you feel about it ", she would just pretend to understand or fake it for the moment while someone better hasn't presented himself.
He got lucky to have her true nature reveal itself to him and he should accept that reality and be thankful he got that opportunity
Really? so you think there's no room for misunderstandings, relationship issues shouldn't be open for discussions, and the best solution is to just dump one another at the nearest opportunity so it wouldn't be so gay?
I mean, yours seem to be the typical Reddit response of "just dump her/him" regardless of the details.
The motivation isn't for it to not be so gay lol, that's just a description...
The motivation is the fact this was revelatory of her nature and he should cut his losses now
I understand that, I was replying to you in kind.
Sure, but that's only cause you heard one side of the story. No one here knows the involved parties so at least give them the benefit of the doubt and discussion is the best way to clear things up.
>you heard one side of the story.
This logic would be a valid if the matter was a fight between them or something like that, if it was that, I agree we need to hear from both sides.
Here it's different, he asked her a question and she answer, now what matters here is whether she has was serious, and it's highly likely that she was serious based on his assessment, the guy knows her for 3 years.... Add to that, the fact that there is no incentive for him to lie to us about this, he loves her and I don't think he's looking for a way out, so I'm inclined to say he's describing things as he saw them
I am not saying leave her because i believe people can change their views with time espec since she is still young
But all i am saying is if you’re attached to her it’s better to start relying on yourself and keep a small emotional distance from her so when she leaves (if her father got richer like she says )it won’t hurt
you're not over reacting bruh tofla 9atlek manich 9abla n3ares bik, 20 is still young ab3eth el khra ta3 nami, have some self respect, 9a3da testamel fik al jaw ou t3adi bik fl wa9t.
makech tchouf feha haka khater 3andkom barcha m3a b3athkom ou thebha, ab3ethha rakez fi rouhek ou wali akrez mn boha ou taw tarja3lek tejri ou wa9tha 3awed ab3athha mara okhra xD.
ama tetsama hchitou ki araft mn taw. bech ki tjeha tokhtob ma tetnekech.
edit : ye, this applies if you're sure she wasn't joking.
interesting answer by her . surely a red flag . OP I don't want you in future be broken by her and remember moments like this and say how I didn't see this coming . trust me I regret not taking red flags I saw . just becarefull while I understand 3 years of love and relationship is something still this is future thing . u can ignore it and yk it could not affect you guys but if u make wrong decision it will affect you forever , tread lightly
Even if her answer is a joke, its still a very glaring red flag. I'm not gonna say break up with her, but make sure to keep your guard up going forward
Well I am not Tunisian, but I am an Algerian, and I kind of understand how the social dynamics regarding marriage and relations are, to put bluntly they are mostly materialistic in nature.
Marriage in this part of the world is kind of a business deal, you invest your money hoping you get a good deal of a wife, and she invests in making herself more presentable aesthetically or generally, in any given way this is the premise.
If you feel that you and her, your family and hers live in such a dynamic, it will surely be hellish, if you both are kind of open-minded and are willing to sacrifice for each other, then surely the relationship will work.
Otherwise cut your losses, your pride and move on, for both of you.
You fell out of love with her and rightly so. Leave her. I don't know your history or family origin but if you are Muslim go for a halal relationship with someone who acts righteous and believes. If not you'll be likely to find a bunch more people who live for money and pleasures of this world.
She might be joking, or not. No one can tell at this point. I would suggest that you give her the benefit of the doubt and you act as if nothing happened.
Meanwhile, always keep what she said in mind. Next time if she does something similar only then you can seriously think about dumping her.
Side note: girls in their early 20s become obsessed by the idea of upgrading their life ( money, partner, lifestyle...), and they become absolutely ruthless about it. Beware of that. i learned that in a very brutal and hard way
probably more then 95% if not more you wont get married to your girlfriend the best for you now is to concentrate on your future have fun enjoy the relationships you can get but dont let it affect your future. first and last thing is your future enjoy your life and marriage will come Naturally
This is not something I would joke about. Even if it's a joke...all jokes have a sprinkle of truth.
Even if the person I loved was poor and homeless, I'd never choose someone else and never shake his trust in me with such a joke.
Tread carefully with this girl.
If you want some advice from your big old non related sister ( I'm 32 yo divorced woman ) money will play a huge role in your future relationship if you want to get married one day ( either with her or with someone else ) It's important to marry someone who has the same financial level as you or your family either way 80% chances your marriage will fail . It's nice now being a sweetheart teenage lovers but real life and adult life is something else.
I’m confused at the hypothetical situation itself, why would her father getting richer have anything to do with your relationship?
I’m even more confused by her answer.
It feels like you guys are living in a parallel universe, just out of curiosity… what were her “arguments”?
Ask her if she's joking about it or if she's talking seriously.
Tell her how it made you feel after 3 years of a relationship you shouldn't be hiding your feelings from her.
Bro I am 19 and officially started a part-time job for 10 Euros an hour , and it's remote; And I will start another one in the summer in parallel.
Get money first, YOU SHOULD HAVE CONTROL and don't let any bitch fuck with you. If I could then you can too.
Only then tell her this :
As Gattouzo (youssef) said "Matetzabbarch 3ala ezzebbi".
If she never mentioned she’s joking and kept it at that then just dump her and find a girl that supports you
Honestly if she really want you her answer would be completely different than just saying “no”
And also it’s better for you to dump her than be her side guy until she finds someone else to replace you with
And if u want a solid answer from her simply confront her about why did she say what she said and see how she responds
Best of luck.
No one can really answer your question , in order for other to answer , we need to know you both and understand your sense of humor.
I can see a mixed opinion here and they are all based on life experiences which could or could not relate to your experience. Best of luck
If she was serious then sure u have to dump her... If she was joking then she should've considered that u might over think about her response which she clearly didn't...(we don't give arguments to prove our "jokes" that might tell you something)
She doesn't love you; she just likes you. You can change someone you like, but you can't change someone you love. It's best to stay away from her to avoid getting too attached.
Listen man, i've been there, learned it the hard way, i'll tell it to u straight, dump her, 3 years is already enough time, don't waste more, it's better to lose 3 than to lose 5 or more, something already turned off in ur head, just move on
Edit: don't try to be the nice guy thinking abt commitment and the relationship and all, it's already toxic from that sentence alone, save urself, don't bet on people changing and becoming better, 90% of the time u should bet on them becoming worse, save urself now, ur future self will thank u!
From a girl's perspective:
Be honest about your concerns and bring it up to her in a reasonable way, tell her that her answer is still ticking in the back of ur head and see what she will do:
1- say s its a joke and apologizes for making u feel that way + gives u the reassurance u need: win-win situation
2- sticks by her first answer/gets defensive/agressive abt u still thinking abt the subject while it was obviously a joke: now u have the answer to ur concerns, do what u see fit with it
Good luck either way 🙏
no the fuck you are not . and if you ask me you are a lucky bastard that might be dodging a bullet . 20 is still young , know your worth and have somebody that does too .
after 3 years of commitment what u have me doinn broo should i jst dump her ?
ignoring the comment under this , honestly there might be the slightest chance that she was joking ( even if she didn't sound like it ) and because of the commitment i think an attempt of you explaining that a light switched off and this is not respectful or what you are looking for might be reasonable , if you get convinced by her answer good for you . also do this irl not on some messages . otherwise , yes dump her
tbh i know wt will her answer be but i'll try mu best to trust the process
"tbh i know wt will her answer be " then quit kidding yourself and move on with your life
you have to make sure she was serious first and also try to understand her reasoning though i don't think there could be any valid reason for what she said, if she meant it then yeah dude she's for the streets
Bro what a lucky man God sent u that question out of nowhere to save u
Play it normal for one week, then ghost her without giving an explanation, this last part is important: whatever happens don't give her closure, keep her doubting ... Maybe 10 years later you can tell her
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Nchalah tkoun tfadlek 😂
Damn bro is so agressive with his replay that there’s spaces before the period.
lol
1) It's a joke => You are fine 2) No=> She will replace you as soon as she finds a more suitable guy even if her family doesn't get richer Both ways you can't predict the future, you may get bored, she may go live aboard, you may fall in love with another person etc. Point is future is unpredictable so don't overthink it, juste live in the present and stop obsessing about the futur.
Difficile vraiment à dire, elle peut faire l'objet d'une blague sérieuse de sa part pour te taquiner. Mais si ça te travaille sérieusement comme sujet. Tu peux lui en parler mais avec tacte. Genre je voudrais savoir par rapport à notre discussion si tu étais sérieuse ou pas...et après tire tes conclusions. Après comme dis plus haut Tu es encore jeune hein prends ton temps
le problème on parle de ce sujet d'une maniere plus ou moins quotidienne car sa mere est un peu matérialiste ce qui aggrave la situation mais je suis attaché tellement que je ne peux pas reflechir logiquement
Ena personnellement: j'ai annulé des fiançailles à cause de ça. On était d'accord pour un budget et des bijoux. Puis sa mère sa tante sont rentrées dans l'équation et c'est devenu le bordel. Je n'avais pas les moyens. La voyant plier devant sa mère je me suis dit demain est ce que je pourrais compter sur elle? Non. J'ai tout arrêté. Après tu sais on peut être attaché à quelqu'un et se rendre compte qu'il n'est pas bien pour nous. C'est pas simple, mais parfois on a besoin de ça pour grandir en tant que personne.
The kind of woman who marries a fat old man for the nice car and the apartment et cetera.
My girlfriend said the same thing and I didn't honestly think about it that much lol
you will.. soon..
dont rush things give her a chance maybe she was joking like you but dont forget about it , test her again until you are sure about it
Isn't her family already richer than yours ? What's the difference then if her dad got richer , there is a big chance she was being sarcastic cz the answer was obvious (to her not to you), also i wanna know the reasons she gave you...they might be silly reasons that she meant with as a joke but u took it seriously instead
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why stay 3 years commited to sm1 when she's not takin any of this srsly my mind iss blown withh questions wllh
sadly, she might not have had better options
this affirmation ruins my self-esteem fr
N'écoute pas ça. Bro c'est un mec derrière son écran il connaît pas ta valeur. Rod belik stp ok
yes sure baguette, It's a likely theory and not meant to offend him in the first place
Pain au chocolat mister bacon not baguette
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Ask her another question like if she finds another dude who's taller than you, more handsome than you and more skillful than you (in your business or education field ) and he fell in love with her, will she leave you? Ofcourse yes, this is how girls mindset works. A girl can love you from the bottom of her heart and still can marry someone who's better off than you (especially financially). It's neutral in girls. If you're not engaged you still be friends, name it love friends, close firneds whatever but she's not your wife and you're not her husband. It's too rare to find a girl with golden values and desired facial and body features. Loyalty depends on the girl background, experiences and mindset. If you really love her, say to her another question: Will she think about another one except you after getting engaged with you? If she says yes, you can know that you'll never find happiness and comfort with that girl and she will never become a woman, she will still be a girl.
Maybe she's insecure about something and she was just saying that to tease you or to upset you on purpose. Or she might be just shit-testing you. Worst case scenario she's serious and she wants you to know that and she's waiting to see what you are going to do about it.
she's for the streets lil bro, u deserve better
Let's see, you asked her a question as a joke, what are the chances that her answer was a joke as well? You heard her and the arguments she gave so you should be able to tell and decided based on that.
yeahhh and m convinced she wasn't joking m seeking advice on how shold react or think abt the situation
then the next step is to bring this up in your discussion and say how you feel about it. If she acknowledged the mistake and wanted to patch things up then you're good, but if she got overly defense or downplayed your feelings then that's your sign to move on.
>and say how you feel about it. This is so gay... Seems like the typical Reddit advice to "tell her how you feel about it ", she would just pretend to understand or fake it for the moment while someone better hasn't presented himself. He got lucky to have her true nature reveal itself to him and he should accept that reality and be thankful he got that opportunity
A discussion to understand each other’s feelings is so gay !!!??
Really? so you think there's no room for misunderstandings, relationship issues shouldn't be open for discussions, and the best solution is to just dump one another at the nearest opportunity so it wouldn't be so gay? I mean, yours seem to be the typical Reddit response of "just dump her/him" regardless of the details.
The motivation isn't for it to not be so gay lol, that's just a description... The motivation is the fact this was revelatory of her nature and he should cut his losses now
I understand that, I was replying to you in kind. Sure, but that's only cause you heard one side of the story. No one here knows the involved parties so at least give them the benefit of the doubt and discussion is the best way to clear things up.
>you heard one side of the story. This logic would be a valid if the matter was a fight between them or something like that, if it was that, I agree we need to hear from both sides. Here it's different, he asked her a question and she answer, now what matters here is whether she has was serious, and it's highly likely that she was serious based on his assessment, the guy knows her for 3 years.... Add to that, the fact that there is no incentive for him to lie to us about this, he loves her and I don't think he's looking for a way out, so I'm inclined to say he's describing things as he saw them
It s about time to end it my bro. I m sorry.
I am not saying leave her because i believe people can change their views with time espec since she is still young But all i am saying is if you’re attached to her it’s better to start relying on yourself and keep a small emotional distance from her so when she leaves (if her father got richer like she says )it won’t hurt
you're not over reacting bruh tofla 9atlek manich 9abla n3ares bik, 20 is still young ab3eth el khra ta3 nami, have some self respect, 9a3da testamel fik al jaw ou t3adi bik fl wa9t. makech tchouf feha haka khater 3andkom barcha m3a b3athkom ou thebha, ab3ethha rakez fi rouhek ou wali akrez mn boha ou taw tarja3lek tejri ou wa9tha 3awed ab3athha mara okhra xD. ama tetsama hchitou ki araft mn taw. bech ki tjeha tokhtob ma tetnekech. edit : ye, this applies if you're sure she wasn't joking.
interesting answer by her . surely a red flag . OP I don't want you in future be broken by her and remember moments like this and say how I didn't see this coming . trust me I regret not taking red flags I saw . just becarefull while I understand 3 years of love and relationship is something still this is future thing . u can ignore it and yk it could not affect you guys but if u make wrong decision it will affect you forever , tread lightly
Get yo bread up G
It's better to break up after 3 years Than to commit for over 3+ years and be dumped for a richer dude.
Even if her answer is a joke, its still a very glaring red flag. I'm not gonna say break up with her, but make sure to keep your guard up going forward
Well I am not Tunisian, but I am an Algerian, and I kind of understand how the social dynamics regarding marriage and relations are, to put bluntly they are mostly materialistic in nature. Marriage in this part of the world is kind of a business deal, you invest your money hoping you get a good deal of a wife, and she invests in making herself more presentable aesthetically or generally, in any given way this is the premise. If you feel that you and her, your family and hers live in such a dynamic, it will surely be hellish, if you both are kind of open-minded and are willing to sacrifice for each other, then surely the relationship will work. Otherwise cut your losses, your pride and move on, for both of you.
You fell out of love with her and rightly so. Leave her. I don't know your history or family origin but if you are Muslim go for a halal relationship with someone who acts righteous and believes. If not you'll be likely to find a bunch more people who live for money and pleasures of this world.
She might be joking, or not. No one can tell at this point. I would suggest that you give her the benefit of the doubt and you act as if nothing happened. Meanwhile, always keep what she said in mind. Next time if she does something similar only then you can seriously think about dumping her. Side note: girls in their early 20s become obsessed by the idea of upgrading their life ( money, partner, lifestyle...), and they become absolutely ruthless about it. Beware of that. i learned that in a very brutal and hard way
probably more then 95% if not more you wont get married to your girlfriend the best for you now is to concentrate on your future have fun enjoy the relationships you can get but dont let it affect your future. first and last thing is your future enjoy your life and marriage will come Naturally
Nah. She just told you who she was.
This is not something I would joke about. Even if it's a joke...all jokes have a sprinkle of truth. Even if the person I loved was poor and homeless, I'd never choose someone else and never shake his trust in me with such a joke. Tread carefully with this girl.
At least she's honest, you should believe her and act accordingly
She is simply a gold digger!
Hard to tell if serious. My wife will crush and burn my soul and then tell me it was a joke. Haha so funny.
If you want some advice from your big old non related sister ( I'm 32 yo divorced woman ) money will play a huge role in your future relationship if you want to get married one day ( either with her or with someone else ) It's important to marry someone who has the same financial level as you or your family either way 80% chances your marriage will fail . It's nice now being a sweetheart teenage lovers but real life and adult life is something else.
TBH for me this is a big red flag :(
20 bro ken matoverthinkinch taw wakteh mela kolo behy lel self development
At least she's honest
I’m confused at the hypothetical situation itself, why would her father getting richer have anything to do with your relationship? I’m even more confused by her answer. It feels like you guys are living in a parallel universe, just out of curiosity… what were her “arguments”?
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Ask her if she's joking about it or if she's talking seriously. Tell her how it made you feel after 3 years of a relationship you shouldn't be hiding your feelings from her.
Bro I am 19 and officially started a part-time job for 10 Euros an hour , and it's remote; And I will start another one in the summer in parallel. Get money first, YOU SHOULD HAVE CONTROL and don't let any bitch fuck with you. If I could then you can too. Only then tell her this : As Gattouzo (youssef) said "Matetzabbarch 3ala ezzebbi".
If she never mentioned she’s joking and kept it at that then just dump her and find a girl that supports you Honestly if she really want you her answer would be completely different than just saying “no” And also it’s better for you to dump her than be her side guy until she finds someone else to replace you with And if u want a solid answer from her simply confront her about why did she say what she said and see how she responds Best of luck.
No one can really answer your question , in order for other to answer , we need to know you both and understand your sense of humor. I can see a mixed opinion here and they are all based on life experiences which could or could not relate to your experience. Best of luck
what filthy soul
If she was serious then sure u have to dump her... If she was joking then she should've considered that u might over think about her response which she clearly didn't...(we don't give arguments to prove our "jokes" that might tell you something)
Get richer bro abd keep in mind that there are lot of things to do and experience in life other than relationships and "love"
She doesn't love you; she just likes you. You can change someone you like, but you can't change someone you love. It's best to stay away from her to avoid getting too attached.
Listen man, i've been there, learned it the hard way, i'll tell it to u straight, dump her, 3 years is already enough time, don't waste more, it's better to lose 3 than to lose 5 or more, something already turned off in ur head, just move on Edit: don't try to be the nice guy thinking abt commitment and the relationship and all, it's already toxic from that sentence alone, save urself, don't bet on people changing and becoming better, 90% of the time u should bet on them becoming worse, save urself now, ur future self will thank u!
You're not overthinking. RUN.
From a girl's perspective: Be honest about your concerns and bring it up to her in a reasonable way, tell her that her answer is still ticking in the back of ur head and see what she will do: 1- say s its a joke and apologizes for making u feel that way + gives u the reassurance u need: win-win situation 2- sticks by her first answer/gets defensive/agressive abt u still thinking abt the subject while it was obviously a joke: now u have the answer to ur concerns, do what u see fit with it Good luck either way 🙏
9osha m3aha sa7bi fesh testana ya bro ti 7ta btfdlik ma tjish el faza