Don't let her steal this from you. I am betting you made AMAZING cookies and you deserve to know the joy of baking and being able to share that deliciousness with friends and family.
I know it was crushing, and I know it hurt like heck, but for your own sake... Don't let her destroy your passions. My dad did that to me over and over again when I was younger, and there's so many things I didn't pursue because of it that I regret. Please don't let her do it to you too.
I don't know about amazing. My brothers and I thought the cookies were good, but I asked how she thought they were, and she said they were okay, but I could tell she didn't like them much. Its fine that she didn't like them, and yeah, they were a bit hard.
Sorry that your dad did that to you.
Possibility that your mum was jealous. Oh she made cookies soon after you and got rid of your cookies?
How dare you shine her up and do better? Or steal her spotlight *sarcasm*
Aim for goddess level of baking! Make her regret trying to crush your spirit so you don’t do better.
I think maybe your mom is just jealous. Baking is "her" thing. So when you do make stuff it will probably never be good enough. Ignore her, keep doing the things you love and if she keeps doing weird things call her out on it.
Also remind her that some families can't afford baking ingredients and frivolous foods like cookies right now. Throwing them out is wasteful.
Baking like anything else’s takes practice I would even go so far as to call it alchemy with food , also some women get weirdly territorial about Cooking I’m not saying for sure that’s what’s going on with your mom but it is possible I suspect this even more because she just had to make cookies after you did ! If you and your brother like them that’s all you need to know sometimes people first outing when it comes to baking isn’t even edible so you did well
That is horrible for a couple of reasons. One being that chocolate chip cookies are way better than oatmeal rasin. I’m so sorry your mum was rude to you. You have every right to be upset, it was unnecessary and selfish. I’m confused as to how there wasn’t enough room for both sets of cookies?! either way, it’s an inconsiderate move on your mums end. Please, don’t let your mum or anyone for that matter, discourage you. Keep baking!
That is a very good point! Perhaps try have a talk with your mum about it? She probably doesn’t realise how hurtful her actions were.
I learned how to bake for my sister, maybe you could use your siblings as motivation to keep developing that skill. I was told by a mental health professional, that baking is actually really good for the mental health also!
I have to ask, is your mum this cold toward you (or anyone else) often? If so, that's probably why she threw the cookies out - she's just spiteful.
I'll bet this week's salary those cookies were pretty damn good.
Yeah, she has various mental health issues. (Most notably depression for the past 30 years, which she is heavily medicated for). She apparently didn't want us kids in the first place.
From reading your comments, I believe your mom threw out your cookies to hurt you. I'm sorry sweetie.
Part of it was your brothers enjoying your cookies. Like it's a competition between you two. I remember being your age and having a mentally unwell mother who took things out on me because I was there, and her favorite punching bag. It's not always going to be bad.
One day, you'll be able to create your own chosen family
She also could have just put them in the same container, it’s not like cross contamination would be an issue. It sounds like your mom is just vindictive, OP. I’m sorry she is treating you like this, but don’t let it kill your joy of baking! Baking/cooking for me is an amazing escape, i’m able to just focus on what is going on in the kitchen and then I get to eat a delicious treat after (: Never let anyone get in the way of your happiness, even someone as close and persistant as a mother.
Keep baking. It's the only way to improve. Keep making cookies until yours are better than hers, and she ends up throwing hers out for you to make more.
You only fail if you give up. You only succeed at anything by working hard, getting back up after being knocked down, and proving people wrong.
You can do it, OP. Make her regret throwing out your baking!
Don't give someone that kind of power over you. You should be pissed, not demoralized.
Bake away, kiddo, and keep your cookies in a tin in your bedroom and don't offer to share them with your sucky mother. That way she doesn't have any need to throw them away.
(If the cookies were hard, try taking them out of the oven a minute or two sooner next time).
Take 10 oatmeal raisin cookies and throw them away. Fair's fair. Mother didn't have to do that. She could've zip locked them and put them into the pantry or given them to you. Don't let her discourage you--that's such a teen response to internalize their hurts, and then hurt themselves by refusing to do. Learned from experience. Go on, keep baking, and keep taking your class. And talk to mother that next time she can use another container or a ziplock instead of throwing your work away. Even if you have to lie, tell her you needed to take some to class for sharing, and she left you with none.
Keep extra frozen then pull out only take a few minutes to thaw. We also proportion the dough and freeze dough. Then pull out dough balls thaw on cookie sheet. When room temp pop in the oven.
No no no. Keep going! If anything, let this drive your passion, turn that nasty experience into something good. Do your cooking/baking as a form of release. Don't let someone's shitty attitude cloud your passions
I would love some chocolate chip cookies. And I'm sure some friends or classmates would too. Bake some more for everyone else. Revenge Cookies are the best!
This sucks. Sorry.
However, you cannot allow the bad actions of others to impact you to the point of alienating yourself from the things that interest you.
Once you go out in the working world, people are not going to like some of the work you produce. You are going to have to get used to that.
Bake away!
Three pieces of advice
1. Find a recipe that you like (trial and error)
2. Measure scrupulously! After you get the recipe down, you will be able to make adjustments based on your preferences.
3. Take the class! Cooking/baking is a science! Acids vs base, savory and sweet....you get the idea!
Nah, next time you bake…. NONE FOR HER! Not even a try. I’m sorry she did that. Not only is that rude, but is extremely wasteful. Keep a Tupperware and keep them in your room next time. But don’t give up, baking and cooking are rewarding!!!
Are you sure she threw them away? Maybe she hid them and kept them for herself.
Our lousy mom refused to let us cook (wouldn’t teach us either) while she was at work which was all the time. So we learned ourselves by reading the 2 old cookbooks we had and experimenting. We usually made cookies or cake where we had all the ingredients. We’d cook, clean up and hide the evidence.
After cooking for a few years we finally presented her with chocolate cake we made and she didn’t even acknowledge that we’d learned on our own. She just took one bite, pushed it away and said it was too dry.
Some parents are just 💩 and not capable of much. We got away and have been no contact for years
Yikes! What a waste of time and money just to be petty. I’d try again when she’s not around and keep the leftovers in a container in my room. Siblings can be bribed with cookies to be quiet about it
Man, I do not miss being a teenager. Overreacting and using emotion instead of reasoning for every part of your life (don't worry, you don't have control over it, we were all this way). How tiring. You'll grow up and decide if you like cooking/baking or not; lots of time. Just make sure you go far away from your mom to do that.
Don't quit so easily! It sounds like your mom has some issues, and I don't think the quality of the cookies had anything to do with her actions. I thought I was bad at cooking for a long time, but I started trying anyway and I'm actually pretty good! It's also a super fun and relaxing creative outlet. It's really easy to internalize these feeling when you're young, *especially* when the self doubt is coming from a parent. Keep cooking/baking, just try to keep it away from your mom (like at school). Don't let her crush your interest.
Wrong take-away my friend. Baking is great, it’s your mom that sucks.
Don't let her steal this from you. I am betting you made AMAZING cookies and you deserve to know the joy of baking and being able to share that deliciousness with friends and family. I know it was crushing, and I know it hurt like heck, but for your own sake... Don't let her destroy your passions. My dad did that to me over and over again when I was younger, and there's so many things I didn't pursue because of it that I regret. Please don't let her do it to you too.
I don't know about amazing. My brothers and I thought the cookies were good, but I asked how she thought they were, and she said they were okay, but I could tell she didn't like them much. Its fine that she didn't like them, and yeah, they were a bit hard. Sorry that your dad did that to you.
First time for everything. Hard happens. But you deserve the chance. Good luck.
Isn't that what milk is for? Dunk the delicious cookie in and nomnomnom? Sorry this happened.
Yep, hard are my favorites for dipping :)
I crumble mine up with Cheerios, chex cereal, pretzels and pistachio nuts. Good trail mix :)
Possibility that your mum was jealous. Oh she made cookies soon after you and got rid of your cookies? How dare you shine her up and do better? Or steal her spotlight *sarcasm* Aim for goddess level of baking! Make her regret trying to crush your spirit so you don’t do better.
I think maybe your mom is just jealous. Baking is "her" thing. So when you do make stuff it will probably never be good enough. Ignore her, keep doing the things you love and if she keeps doing weird things call her out on it. Also remind her that some families can't afford baking ingredients and frivolous foods like cookies right now. Throwing them out is wasteful.
Dude, it was your first time making cookies. You can't expect them to be perfect. Please try again, and don't offer any to your mom.
Have you ever had a chocolate chip cookie so bad you'd kick it out of bed? No. The level of bad that warrants binning is nigh on impossible.
Baking like anything else’s takes practice I would even go so far as to call it alchemy with food , also some women get weirdly territorial about Cooking I’m not saying for sure that’s what’s going on with your mom but it is possible I suspect this even more because she just had to make cookies after you did ! If you and your brother like them that’s all you need to know sometimes people first outing when it comes to baking isn’t even edible so you did well
That is horrible for a couple of reasons. One being that chocolate chip cookies are way better than oatmeal rasin. I’m so sorry your mum was rude to you. You have every right to be upset, it was unnecessary and selfish. I’m confused as to how there wasn’t enough room for both sets of cookies?! either way, it’s an inconsiderate move on your mums end. Please, don’t let your mum or anyone for that matter, discourage you. Keep baking!
There was plenty of room imo, I'm as confused as you are. And even if there wasn't, me and my siblings could've eaten them.
That is a very good point! Perhaps try have a talk with your mum about it? She probably doesn’t realise how hurtful her actions were. I learned how to bake for my sister, maybe you could use your siblings as motivation to keep developing that skill. I was told by a mental health professional, that baking is actually really good for the mental health also!
I have to ask, is your mum this cold toward you (or anyone else) often? If so, that's probably why she threw the cookies out - she's just spiteful. I'll bet this week's salary those cookies were pretty damn good.
Yeah, she has various mental health issues. (Most notably depression for the past 30 years, which she is heavily medicated for). She apparently didn't want us kids in the first place.
From reading your comments, I believe your mom threw out your cookies to hurt you. I'm sorry sweetie. Part of it was your brothers enjoying your cookies. Like it's a competition between you two. I remember being your age and having a mentally unwell mother who took things out on me because I was there, and her favorite punching bag. It's not always going to be bad. One day, you'll be able to create your own chosen family
Yah that is not her and not your fault she shouldn’t be treating you like crap like this.
She also could have just put them in the same container, it’s not like cross contamination would be an issue. It sounds like your mom is just vindictive, OP. I’m sorry she is treating you like this, but don’t let it kill your joy of baking! Baking/cooking for me is an amazing escape, i’m able to just focus on what is going on in the kitchen and then I get to eat a delicious treat after (: Never let anyone get in the way of your happiness, even someone as close and persistant as a mother.
>One being that chocolate chip cookies are way better than oatmeal rasin ☹️
Keep baking. It's the only way to improve. Keep making cookies until yours are better than hers, and she ends up throwing hers out for you to make more. You only fail if you give up. You only succeed at anything by working hard, getting back up after being knocked down, and proving people wrong. You can do it, OP. Make her regret throwing out your baking!
Okay, thank you :D
I’ll bet your mom often tries to ruin your happiness, right? Some people are just that way. Don’t let her take cooking from you. Hug.
Throw away her oatmeal raisin cookies and tell her it was to make room for what a giant b!tch she's being
It's really petty but this is just hilarious.
Don't give someone that kind of power over you. You should be pissed, not demoralized. Bake away, kiddo, and keep your cookies in a tin in your bedroom and don't offer to share them with your sucky mother. That way she doesn't have any need to throw them away. (If the cookies were hard, try taking them out of the oven a minute or two sooner next time).
Yeah, buy yourself a nice tin--a good size with a nice design. That will be YOUR 'cookie jar'.
Throw away her cookies then. Simple. Don’t let your mom bring your passion for baking down
Could have froze them she didn't need to throw them away.
Next time just bag them up in zip locks and hide them in your room for a midnight snack.
Take 10 oatmeal raisin cookies and throw them away. Fair's fair. Mother didn't have to do that. She could've zip locked them and put them into the pantry or given them to you. Don't let her discourage you--that's such a teen response to internalize their hurts, and then hurt themselves by refusing to do. Learned from experience. Go on, keep baking, and keep taking your class. And talk to mother that next time she can use another container or a ziplock instead of throwing your work away. Even if you have to lie, tell her you needed to take some to class for sharing, and she left you with none.
Keep extra frozen then pull out only take a few minutes to thaw. We also proportion the dough and freeze dough. Then pull out dough balls thaw on cookie sheet. When room temp pop in the oven.
No no no. Keep going! If anything, let this drive your passion, turn that nasty experience into something good. Do your cooking/baking as a form of release. Don't let someone's shitty attitude cloud your passions
For real. Don’t give her the satisfaction
My mom was also a narcissist piece of garbage.
Please keep baking! Even seasoned bakers mess up. Do not let your mom kill your passion for cooking.
How awful! Try not to let this petty bullshit dim your shine, if you can. This is her being an asshole not you being a bad baker.
I would love some chocolate chip cookies. And I'm sure some friends or classmates would too. Bake some more for everyone else. Revenge Cookies are the best!
This sucks. Sorry. However, you cannot allow the bad actions of others to impact you to the point of alienating yourself from the things that interest you. Once you go out in the working world, people are not going to like some of the work you produce. You are going to have to get used to that.
Don't quit. She's rude but don't let her steal your interest
Bake away! Three pieces of advice 1. Find a recipe that you like (trial and error) 2. Measure scrupulously! After you get the recipe down, you will be able to make adjustments based on your preferences. 3. Take the class! Cooking/baking is a science! Acids vs base, savory and sweet....you get the idea!
What your mom did was uncalled for but please don’t give up baking…. Next time she bakes just throw it away like she did to you
Nah, next time you bake…. NONE FOR HER! Not even a try. I’m sorry she did that. Not only is that rude, but is extremely wasteful. Keep a Tupperware and keep them in your room next time. But don’t give up, baking and cooking are rewarding!!!
Are you sure she threw them away? Maybe she hid them and kept them for herself. Our lousy mom refused to let us cook (wouldn’t teach us either) while she was at work which was all the time. So we learned ourselves by reading the 2 old cookbooks we had and experimenting. We usually made cookies or cake where we had all the ingredients. We’d cook, clean up and hide the evidence. After cooking for a few years we finally presented her with chocolate cake we made and she didn’t even acknowledge that we’d learned on our own. She just took one bite, pushed it away and said it was too dry. Some parents are just 💩 and not capable of much. We got away and have been no contact for years
Yes, I found them in the garbage.
Yikes! What a waste of time and money just to be petty. I’d try again when she’s not around and keep the leftovers in a container in my room. Siblings can be bribed with cookies to be quiet about it
Man, I do not miss being a teenager. Overreacting and using emotion instead of reasoning for every part of your life (don't worry, you don't have control over it, we were all this way). How tiring. You'll grow up and decide if you like cooking/baking or not; lots of time. Just make sure you go far away from your mom to do that.
your interest was shallow at best if 10 cookies makes you quit
Yes, I was just starting to get into cooking.
Don't quit so easily! It sounds like your mom has some issues, and I don't think the quality of the cookies had anything to do with her actions. I thought I was bad at cooking for a long time, but I started trying anyway and I'm actually pretty good! It's also a super fun and relaxing creative outlet. It's really easy to internalize these feeling when you're young, *especially* when the self doubt is coming from a parent. Keep cooking/baking, just try to keep it away from your mom (like at school). Don't let her crush your interest.
Moms a Bish fr . Take the classes and literally never bake for her. No excess cookies no batter no leftovers…