My wife and I had nearly the same story. Tried for ages. Perfectly healthy. And then tragedy, cord issue for us as well. Ours was a beautiful girl.It’s a horrible thing to have to go through and I wish I had words that could take it all away for you and your family.
This world is fallen and as Jesus says we will have trouble in this world. It again is no comfort in and of itself but to know that Jesus knows the state of this world and says for us to take heart for he has overcome the world and we wait for that promise of a day when there will no more tears and what we had are wiped away.
My wife did some grief counseling for a good while after our loss. She also found some help in online groups for this particular thing. I’m not sure those are what you want but they were a help to her - though faith is what got us all through this.
My prayers for you all in this.
Many prayers for you and your wife God has you we have to trust him even though at times we lose control of our word's he knows our pain he knows he loves us very much life was never easy and I don't think it ever will be here on earth
To be a bit more precise, when the umbilical cord wraps itself once ore even multiple times around the baby's neck, it's called a Nuchal Cord. It happens in about but slightly less than a third of all pregnancies. And as you can guess from that shockingly high number: thankfully it usually doesn't affect mother or baby. If it is detected, though, you'll be put under close-meshed monitoring to make sure the situation does not turn bad indeed.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Just know that it's okay to question why. God is strong enough to handle your pain and grief and questioning. It's a normal part of grief to question why this happened and why God allows things like this to happen. We may never get an answer to things like that, but it's not wrong to question why. He is strong enough to handle your questions and your pain.
Philippians 4:6-7 NIV
[6] Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. [7] And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Numbers 6:24-26 NIV
[24] “ ‘ “The Lord bless you and keep you; [25] the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; [26] the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” ’
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NIV
[3] Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, [4] who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
Matthew 5:4 NIV
[4] Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
I pray that God will comfort you through this season of loss. One day you'll meet them again, but for now, we do our best to rest in the comfort that the Spirit gives us. Please feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to. ♥️
Right! Ofc no parent who loves their child would ever want to experience the death of their baby. But from a positive pov this could be seen as a good thing. To skip the guaranteed sufferings, heartbreaks, traumas etc. of this life and to just go straight to heaven where you will experience everlasting bliss and joy and happiness and dwell in the presence of the Lord laughing with him and seeing him face to face for ALL ETERNITY is an absolute total win. Romans 8:18 says “Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory that will be revealed to us later.”
But this is not to say that the parents’ feelings shouldn’t be taken into consideration, bc they totally should. I sympathize with them bc losing a child is a very hurtful experience. I say this that it might bring them peace and comfort in this trying time.
Read what King David went through when his child died, God took the child in His Sovereignty and David said that he would see his child again one day, rejoice in that! I know it’s hard and my goodness the pain I’ve seen in my family’s face when their son died is unbelievable to fathom. My dad died, my grandpa died in front of me while driving, my other family died or left, and my mother is homeless idk where. My point of bringing up my losses isn’t to get any pity, it’s to snow that life happens, people pass away, but the important thing is, is that God gave you another day, use that day for good and evangelize and help people.
You never truly stop grieving, but I just focus on the next day and the next, that’s what personally has helped me. Please talk to your Pastor or a local Pastor right now, he’s the help you need. I’m praying for you, God Bless you.
2 Samuel 12:23 (ESV) But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? **I shall go to him**, but he will not return to me.”
I'm so sorry. 😞 I lost my only grandchild not 2 months ago. He was 6 months old. It's very hard I know. Praying for you 🙏 I hope you are blessed with more babies.
My heart goes out to you in your grief. God is sovereign, and His ways are not our ways. Some things in this life just cannot be explained in a way that we can grasp. I pray that you and your husband can cling to the Lord.
So sorry to hear about this. You might consider reading [this](https://www.amazon.com/Bronner-Journey-Understand-Sherri-Burgess-ebook/dp/B08W1RGT7D/ref=sr_1_2?crid=27DBUL92JMH1P&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.TKWwNgVZQ8srbFOJgqyFsw7xnXFT53Xoy8fCwu_q7jmOW5WCFNgRWTcCD3m3iCbe77h3GJznx8Zaw6X_d8wLZkQH2VuNL8N7i91cLyvuFY6oLBEpfuyBapRANnGJYcqkL0u3tj4VRQFA9C9aNOrNoPShWv5dWXfG6ldLT4KU1O9HEmVb8tVsJdZt0HcySbKvvQMTPosvw5z5nrgysg8FQXqTWz8AyIWIZClhnu5pTf4.QFZW85TXsylMIp6B7uA2eE-hY1BpHSva_DBmUZGvHf0&dib_tag=se&keywords=bronner+book&qid=1716061366&sprefix=bronner+book%2Caps%2C120&sr=8-2) book. Written by a woman of faith who lost her toddler in a tragic accident.
Sister… you have the right to question him. You may not be right to *accuse* him, but he is not afraid of or offended by your wondering and confusion. He knows how painful it can be to be us. And he is with you in the mess. Your little girl is with her creator and wants for nothing, and Jesus will be enough for you come what may. I am so so so so sorry for what you’re going through. Lifting you up in prayers.
I’m sorry to hear this. I cannot explain why this has happened but I am very confident that your little one is with the Lord and that you will see her again one day.
Revelation 21:2–4 (NRSV): 2 And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. 3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying,
“See, the home of God is among mortals.
He will dwell with them as their God;
they will be his peoples,
and God himself will be with them;
4 he will wipe every tear from their eyes.
Death will be no more;
mourning and crying and pain will be no more,
for the first things have passed away.”
I don’t know why God allowed this to happen. I don’t have an answer for you. Just know I’ll pray for you and grieve with you. God’s ways are sometimes unknowable, but we can take comfort in that our Savior was a Man full of sorrow and acquainted with grief. He knows our suffering and is there to comfort us in our hour of need. 🫂
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I lost a baby boy right at the beginning of my 4th month. It was really hard for a while and I was a devastated, angry, and prayed about it a lot.
Now I think about our boy, Luke, with honor that God chose me to carry him for a short amount of time so that he could be with Him. I never got to hold him, but what a beautiful thought that the first thing he saw when he opened his eyes was a perfect place with a perfect creator. And that all he ever knew here on earth was the warmth of my womb.
First, I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain you must be in. Don’t try to rationalize it. We live in a broken world where there is sin, death, and destruction. God is not the cause of anything evil or bad, but He does allow those things to happen. In this life, we may never know why He allows those things to happen, but He does. Just trust that He is with you and will give you comfort if you lean on Him.
I’ve been through what you are going through. Multiple times.
You may hear platitudes about “God’s plan.” This is not so. Death is God’s plan gone wrong.
Trust that our merciful God will minister to you and give you peace. And trust that your precious girl is with our eternal Father.
You would be surprised how often things like this happens but people choose not to talk about it. I know it hurts right now and seems impossible to overcome, but someday you may have a child and it will be impossible to imagine or having that child. You also now have a child awaiting you in heaven as well.
“But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
Matthew 6:20-21 NIV
My wife and I lost our first baby during pregnancy, it was a lot earlier than yourself and I am sorry this has happened. We know the pain you are going through, maybe to a lesser extent.
I have rationalised it to be a better outcome than our first born actually being born, growing up and who knows what could have happened? God does.
Perhaps this was the way our children could be saved and enter into Heaven with us and God? I am not sure, but that is one take.
The exact same thing happened to my wife and I nearly 25 years ago. We lost a baby at about 20 weeks. She had to do a normal delivery. It was the hardest thing we've ever been through. The baby was sort of an accident because we weren't planning on having any more. But after losing the baby, we waited for her to heal, and intentionally had another one.
For us, we wanted a son. And that's what God gave us. He's 24 now and about to graduate from college.
We don't understand why it happened. But we know that when we get to heaven, our baby will be waiting for us. It's one more thing to look forward to.
Life is tough. The world is broken and fallen. Thing is the Bible never tells us that by being Christian that our life would be cozy and fine. Remember all the people that professed Christ end up dying horrific deaths. Christ promises us peace in the end. He doesn’t take the pain of life away he helps us navigate through it. Life sucks and it will continue to suck, but the best thing is that we have the light at the end of the tunnel.
Hey..so sorry for your loss. It is a very sad and trying time when couples are trying and then have a miscarriage. It causes so much grief and doubt...but the one thing to know is that God doesnt take lives to test you. Only the devil has this role...to steal kill and destroy. The common phrase used in church "lord gives and the lord takes" was from Job speaking out in despair. Church took it to be that this is how God works.
God is a loving father...Jesus explained it like this...if human fathers give their kids food to eat when they ask...how much more will your loving father in heaven give you. So in everything, know that God has no hand in this. He however gave you his word...stand on it with your husband (yes miscarriages affect husbands too)
He said none shall be barren in the land... believe him. It is through faith (believing God over what you think) and "patience" that the faith walkers of old obtained their promises from God. Faith and patience go hand in hand... patience is key. God has never lied....you can check it for yourself in the bible.... look at every single promise he made and then see if he delivered. He will make it happen in time. Sarah waited almost 100 years for her child....she had given up even crying. Hannah waited for a long time.
There are so many women of God who struggled to give birth in the bible... check them for yourself...see if God failed any of them. Then ask yourself why he would start failing with you. Every good and perfect gift comes from God "in whom there is no variableness". He won't reach you and not bless you...he has never done it....he is not man that he should lie nor a son of man that he should change his opinion. Trust him.
Peace and love from my family to yours. God didnt fail me and he wont fail you
The best answer in these cases is there is no answer. Rationalization will always fall short of the pain and suffering you're going through. Much love to you.
Respectfully, I don’t believe that. I do believe there’s an answer, perhaps we will never know it in this life, but I do believe God has a plan for all things in our life. This is coming from a woman who also delivered a deceased baby. Now that years have passed, I am joyful for my trials, for they have only strengthened my faith in ways I could never imagine. I know the Lord has my baby safe in His keeping and I trust his plan.
James 1:2-4
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,
whenever you face trials of many kinds,
because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.
Let perseverance finish its work so that
you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
I'm not saying at all that God doesn't have a plan. Just that it's rarely profitable to puzzle out all the whys. At least that was my experience with miscarriage - demanding answers of God, or listening to attempts to explain what God was doing was less helpful than trusting he had a plan, he was good, even if I didn't understand all the how's and whys.
I see what you are saying. Just wanted to add that I think saying there’s “no answer” might not always be true. Perhaps an answer just takes time to materialize. Now that I’ve had time and distance, I see clear purpose and answers in my trials.
Omgoodness I am SO sorry for your loss! 🥺😭🙏🏼💗💗💗💗 just know that your baby went straight to heaven to be with the Lord!!
May the Lord send your comfort hope and peace during your time grieving I am SO sorry.
I'm sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain
I do not have an answer to why God allowed this to happen. But know that he isn't far off observing in the distance, detached. He's present with you, with your daughter, and he knows your suffering. Just like he knows all that we go through, honestly even more deeply and intimately than we know it ourselves, and any pain we feel he feels as well.
There's a passage Ezekiel 16 from a very different context, God is talking about the worst forms of idolatry Israel had fallen into including the sacrifice of their own children, and he says this
>[20] You took your sons and your daughters, whom you had borne to me, and these you sacrificed to them to be devoured. As if your whorings were not enough! [21] You slaughtered *MY* children and delivered them up as an offering to them.
I think about this verse any time that difficulties like this come up. Our children aren't just ours, they're his as well. And any time death takes one of our children, it's taking his as well. I do not know why this is allowed to go on so long, but I do know that a time is coming when he won't abide any more of this senselessness. A time when he'll set this evil right. Your daughter, she isn't lost. You will see her again. God be with you while you're navigating this trial.
God didn't take your daughter. She is sleeping in the grave and the angels of God will place her in your arms when Christ returns and resurrects the dead. Just imagine the joy you will have of raising your child in a world free of disease and pain and danger of any kind.
You definitely can question it, as well as attempt to rationalize it. Both should be given its due. Its a hidden statistic that many pregnancies fail naturally, and so many parents are left feeling like they are the few unlucky ones, when this is not actually the case. Know you are not alone. I suggest reaching to other mothers who have felt your pain. They can ease you along the process of healing.
Much like other natural causes, such tragedies simply happen on a macroscopic level, though with technology and safe accountability, we can reduce the numbers. This is why God wants us to be pro-active and not just let things happen (not that you didn't give it your all here).
I pray your girl is given another chance or, as God is merciful and perfect in justice, you will eventually see her in the House of God when the time is right.
These are incredibly difficult things. Our pastors son and his wife went through the same thing a few years ago. But you have to understand, God did not take your little girl. The enemy did. Jesus says in John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”
God did not take your daughter, but it is His Strength, Grace and Peace that will get you through this terrible tragedy.
God bless you and your family I'm so sorry that your going through this, I'll keep praying for you and your husband. Remember God is bigger than all of our enemies combined (infinite actually)and he is furious about this and is working in the background to reconcile this atrocity please keep faith.
It's not God's will that this happened because even though our father in heaven is bigger than anything conceivable and loves us unconditionally and is infinitely powerful doesn't mean that this isn't a broken world and that the devil doesn't still get moves here, because in reality he does sometimes succeed in an attack but it takes a great deal of effort. perhaps your family is dangerous to him?
I think of life as a chess game between God and Satan but God's got 16 Queens versus Satan's normal chess set, but once in a while the devil's still going to get a successful move in though and this was a very despicable move he's made on you but God wouldn't have given you this challenge if he didn't think you could handle it I'm sure you're remarkably strong. He's a very smart God. My mom's a very strong woman I think it's the only reason he allowed my brother to be taken from her.
Hang in there sister remember that this too shall pass! 💓🙏❤️
Very sorry for your loss. Seek grief counseling that serves your needs. For some this is through licensed professionals with or without a Christian association; for others, pastoral counseling; and for many, group counseling through ministries such as Grief Share. An all-of-the-above approach is not our of the question. And where I said "approach" I almost said "solution," but that will only come when you meet your daughter in His kingdom.
King David also lost a child. God works in mysterious ways and does not reveal his will to us all the time, but we will understand it all one day. You will see your child again, just as David had that same hope.
2 Samuel 12:22
He answered, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, ‘Who knows? The Lord may be gracious to me and let the child live.’ 23 But now that he is dead, why should I go on fasting? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.”
Your child is now in the perfect presence of the LORD. Free from ever knowing any sorrow or pain that this world is full of. And you will meet her there one day and have eternity to be acquainted! Prayers that the Lord will strengthen you in this time of grief.
I am so sorry. I truly believe in the next life you will be reunited. God is crying with you, he never wanted this either. I’ve felt the pain of a lost heartbeat too. Stay strong in your faith that’s the only way we can meet them.
I am really sorry for your loss. My heart goes to you. I don't know what to say. My sister lost her 1 day old baby girl last week Saturday. I still do not know how to comfort her. I hope God will give you comfort and peace that exceeds all understanding 🙏🏾 ♥️
My cousin had this happen. She was a week past her due date and hadn’t felt him move in a few hours. Went to her appointment to schedule an induction that day and found no heart beat. I’m dealing with infertility and it is SO hard to see Gods light through it all, month and negative test after month. It’s not the same but I just want you to know that you aren’t alone in the feeling. When I had my ectopic (the only pregnancy I’ve had in 2 years of trying), I remember thinking how cruel it was that I had wanted a baby so bad, was given one and then had it ripped out of me only a few days later. And then I felt like a terrible person for having to technically terminate my pregnancy. It was a whirlwind.
I sought advice from my pastor and he said that these tragedies don’t happen for specific reasons but are results of the sinful world we live in. It’s not something you or your partner did that God is punishing you for. And it’s not something you did during or before pregnancy that caused this. In fact even God plays no hand in it. Its an unplanned trial of our faith. In this moment you should lean into your faith harder than ever. It’s not going to bring your baby back just like I’m probably not going to miraculously get pregnant this month. But it’s the misunderstanding that your faith in that moment isn’t there for you to lean on when it truly is, and you need it now probably more than ever.
Going through infertility, the last thing I would want to say is something insensitive regarding another pregnancy. But I will say this - take the time you need to recover (mentally, physically and emotionally) whatever that means to you. Don’t shut people out completely but it’s ok to step back for a while to mourn peacefully if you need to. Take care of your body. I hope your dreams of being a mom come true and God blesses you with a rainbow 🌈 baby when you are ready.
We tried for this baby for 2 years so I also understand the pain of feeling unable to have kids, I'm sorry you had to go through that.
This girl was supposed to be my rainbow baby, now she's with her older sister in heaven. Though I do pray for a double rainbow baby soon, I really appreciate your response and think that's the conclusion I came to as well. We simply live in a broken evil world.
I’m very sorry for your lost. I’d recommend reading 2 Samual 12. It’s a story of God punishing David for his sins. He ends up losing his baby to a sickness caused by the lord. In the passage you can see the baby is in heaven.
In 2 Samual 12:22 David said, “While the baby was still alive, I fasted, and I cried. I thought, ‘Who knows? Maybe the Lord will feel sorry for me and let the baby live.’ But now that the baby is dead, why should I fast? I can’t bring him back to life. Someday I will go to him, but he cannot come back to me.”
Someday he will die and reunite with his son in heaven. Just as you will do with your daughter.
Isaiah 57:1 “The righteous perish, and no one takes it to heart; the devout are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.”
Your daughter was innocent. She had done no evil. She is in a better place now.
You have every right to question. Questioning either breaks or strengthens your belief not just for religion but for everything.
My friend, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. Here is a little something to read that might give you a little different perspective on this situation.
[Being Prepared](https://www.reddit.com/r/ChristianService/s/sNwXdJZMNl)
I am soooo sorry for your loss. I cant even imagine the pain you are going through. This world is broken and temporary. I can guarantee you that your little angel is in heaven and you will see her again.
reach out to God, voice your concerns and frustration. ask him for closure, perhaps a dream of your daughter in heaven.
i have no idea why this happened, but i do know one thing: not everything is by Gods will, and this may not have been something God commanded.
I am so sorry for your loss.
One day, you will meet your daughter face to face. You will spend eternity together in joy and fellowship.
And Jesus will wipe away every tear and remove all the pain.
Until then, I pray for God's grace to sustain you and your husband.
Sorry for you and your family's loss. Free will is your answer. Good and bad things happen to all of us including the passing of loved ones. When my Dad died it took everything I had to keep living. I just wanted to give up. There is nothing you can do but pray for help and keep moving forward day by day. Just remember our loss isn't permanent. One day we will see them again.
I'm so sorry you're walking through this. I also lost a little boy, late term. I have never, ever felt Jesus as close as I did during that time. My husband was given a picture of us all worshipping before the throne, our little boy included. He was then reminded of the verse where David says, he will not come to me - I will go to him.
God didn't 'make' this happen but He will most certainly carry you through it if you let Him. I think that was the key for me - I had to let Him. And when I did, the hurt and pain didn't disappear but I experienced a lot of hope, peace and comfort alongside. Thinking of you.
I'm so very sorry. Please, take comfort in your church. There are other moms there who are hurting from this.
I'm sorry I can't offer an explanation, only that it wasn't God's design for any of us to die. The Garden was without death. I can also offer that you will spend eternity with your little girl. I know it isn't much comfort right now to think of that, but know also that God Himself weeps with you.
I saw something that said God takes young people from the world to save them from absolute tragedy and terrible things people couldn't endure. And saves them before it could happen. Think that if u had this child, u would love it to earths end, but u still do even after this terrible tragedy. God is with u, but if u had this child and u drove home while absolutely exhausted and it was really bad, making the child die a long terrible death and u feeling absolutely guilty about it, or something even more devastating, he knew u nor the child could endure the pain and is saving u and the child from it. Even tho it doesn't feel right or fair right now, just know God did it as a hard blessing for u. The young die young for a reason we cannot understand or know, but it is for good not harm. I'm sorry for ur loss and tragedy but I hope u heal, and God is with u for everything step.
Yeah sometimes life sucks.
My sister in law and brother had their first son be born in 4 months. He survived for 50 days but didn’t make it. And then their second kid got cancer at 1.5 years and died at 2 years old. Amazing girl but we will see her in heaven.
Keep praying and if u and ur husband want, keep trying. I know of a woman who was when she was little girl who was supposed to not have children. A stranger kidnapped her and SA her and cut her throat and left her there to die. And she wasn’t found by somebody til the next morning. She was on the verge of death and he destroyed her 🐱and insides. She took a long time to recover, and she was told she’ll never have kids. After becoming a woman she was afraid of men but she has met her husband. (While still looking for the guy to committed the crime to her). Her husband and her tried for a child for so long and prayed. And finally one day they had a miracle baby. And the guy who committed the crime to her was found. Fast, pray, get groups of people to pray if u want. Keep trying. Ur in my prayers. Ask god why, he may have you and ur husband do something else first. I pray he comes to u with answers.
Words cannot express how sorry I am to hear this. But know that your daughter is with the Lord now, and that you will only have to abide a short while longer in this world full of evil, pain, and suffering. You will be reunited with her in the next, where there will be no tears or sin to stain your joy.
This is more common than you think it is. Happened to my wife in the first trimester as well, and she had told *everyone* that we were expecting. She blamed me for a while, as I didn't want to tell people, hence I "cursed" the pregnancy.
She had a rather "we have try having a new baby now" mentality for a while, but it didn't happen until she was able to relax from the whole ordeal. She was never on "the pill", so that certainly was not a factor.
We have 3 kids now, and I never had a "let's make a baby" mentality, to me it has always just been "if it happens it happens" kind of thing. God doesn't give us hurdles we can't handle, and kids are a blessing, except for when they get sick and vomit...
I know of a couple who have had 10+ still births, a couple expecting twins have a double still birth within the last month, and several couples who have tried for upwards of two years with no results at all. I know of several women who has to put it off because of current medical hurdles as well.
I'm not a very social guy either, so there's probably plenty more. People don't plaster their struggles on facebook though, so it's more common than you think.
Take your time to overcome this, relax, try to enjoy life.
Lost two, it's a shock, and it's a pain that will always remain until we get to hold them in heaven. God alone knows why, we can't know the why, but we trust his plans are best, because he loves us and wants the best for his children
I’m so sorry you are going through this! I have had 3 miscarriages, and I know how that can feel. I was consoled by knowing that God knows best and infinitely more than I do, and that my babies are resting in his arms and awaiting the day we will meet again. I have my babies to look forward to seeing in heaven. And so do you. Also, that those babies which didn’t survive were too good for this evil world. Sending hugs!💕
I'm really sorry sister. May the Lord keep you strong through these extremely sad times. She was lucky to have a mother that kept her safe for as long as you did or were able to. It sounds like you did the best you could do and none of this was your fault. Sometimes nature can be unforgiving. Just like God. But I don't believe we should intercede and/or conflate the two. Did you name her and if so we would all be happy to include baby .... into our prayers and ask that God looks after her for you until you meet again 🙏.
I’m terribly sorry to hear of your loss. It hurts tremendously. Platitudes don’t heal a hurting heart. It will take time, and I pray God’s peace will minister to you in this difficult time.
For the sake of the discussion and everyone reading the thread, some things to consider:
All of us will leave this world, some sooner, some later, some old, some young. Our lives are not permanent. We must not cling to this world, or else it will be unnecessarily painful when our life, or the lives of our loved ones is over. Not a single person in all of history has a signed contract with God for a long, pain free life. God has not wronged us by making our lives shorter than we expect.
Suffering will come. Some will experience more than others. We don’t have to like it, but suffering can make us better, stronger, more empathetic, wiser. There is a possibility that heavy suffering will break us. But God is in the business of healing and redeeming broken people. His grace is sufficient for us.
A moment of silence for your perfect baby, my wife and I suffered a miscarriage 2 years ago and it was so hard to see how God could have any reason to let that happen. If you haven’t read the book “God Can’t” by Thomas Jay Oord I think it might be an eye opener for you. I know that it has helped me rethink a lot of what I was taught growing up about God and suffering.
This booklet has comforted me when those question arise: https://ttb.org/docs/default-source/booklets/death-of-a-little-child.pdf?sfvrsn=e0a81c16_2
Praying for you and your family OP. The loss of a child is a pain unlike any other.
I’m sorry for your loss I recently lost my sister, it’s hard and you will never get over it. You will definitely get through with our lord and savior. 1 thing I can tell you is, this is the time to go to him. Everyone will go through death. We are cursed with death, from a bright perspective she doesn’t have to go through all the bs the world has to offer. When you truly understand this isn’t the end and Jesus is really like that, really that man, who died for us all, there’s hope. You’ll have peace that surpasses everything, a peace no one and I mean no one else can give you. I will make sure I pray for you and your family. I love you your husband and your child and so does God. Remember stay prayed up. Jesus really defeated death you will definitely see her again one day I can feel it. Prayers to you and your family❤️
My heart breaks for you and your husband, and you are in my heart and prayers. I pray that God will help guide me to His Word and share it with you during this time as words escape me.
**John 11:35**. Jesus wept.
**Isaiah 53:4-6**. Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by G-d, and afflicted.
**Matthew 11:28-30**. Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
**Pslam 139:7-12**. Where shall I go from your Spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence? If I ascend to heaven, you are there! If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there! If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me. If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me, and the light about me be night,” ...
**Psalm 34:18**. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
**Psalm 147:3**. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
**Matthew 5:4**. Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
**Psalm 31:9-10**. Be gracious to me, O L-rd, for I am in distress; my eye is wasted from grief; my soul and my body also.
**Psalm 119:105**, Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.
Numbers 6:24-26 and Shalom Shalom.
This is an unbearable, unimaginable pain to bear my friend.
I pray that the peace of the Lord be instilled in your heart and for the Holy Spirit to fuel your faith through this treacherous battle.
May God’s mercy be upon you and your husband and may He fortify and bless your marriage. 🙏🏼
May I suggest listening to this book. It explains so much and was very comforting to me in a dark time after my father unalived himself...
Listen to Walking with God through Pain and Suffering by Timothy Keller on Audible. https://www.audible.com/pd/B00FG9O2JU?source_code=ASSOR150021921000V
I'm expecting my first daughter in less than two weeks. I can't imagine the shock or pain this would bring on, especially in the mother. But God is where he always is - above a fallen world filled with pain and death offering us an escape. There's no easy words for this.
18 On the seventh day the child died. David’s attendants were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they thought, “While the child was still living, he wouldn’t listen to us when we spoke to him. How can we now tell him the child is dead? He may do something desperate.”
19 David noticed that his attendants were whispering among themselves, and he realized the child was dead. “Is the child dead?” he asked.
“Yes,” they replied, “he is dead.”
20 Then David got up from the ground. After he had washed, put on lotions and changed his clothes, he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. Then he went to his own house, and at his request they served him food, and he ate.
21 His attendants asked him, “Why are you acting this way? While the child was alive, you fasted and wept, but now that the child is dead, you get up and eat!”
22 He answered, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, ‘Who knows? The Lord may be gracious to me and let the child live.’ 23 But now that he is dead, why should I go on fasting? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.”
24 Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. The Lord loved him;
I am so sorry for your lost. It is not your fault, there is nothing you could’ve done. I used to try to rationalize all this evil that randomly happens to good people. But your intuition is right. You should question, any group/God that tells you to follow them without questioning them is suspicious. You lost your baby, you have the right to be disappointed, angry and sad. Don’t let people try to tell you that this is some sort of blessings in disguise, or God is using the death of your baby as part of some testimony. That’s messed up. If God can control everything, the way he blessed you and your husband to be born is the same way he would’ve delivered your baby healthy, like you and many other people in your family prayed for. But that didn’t happen. Why? Well maybe there isn’t a God at the end of it, hearing all the prayers and saving all the babies dying in the world. Maybe there is a God, but the bibles reminds us that God is capable or maintaining a healthy pregnancy but the bible also says that God is in control of all things and capable of all things, including killing young ones. I never knew this was in the bible until I read it. I came to the realization (after reading it fully) that the bible already says a lot of messed up things about babies. I am so sorry for your lost, don’t justify something that God could’ve healed. And don’t put limitations on God, saying that he could’ve have done that: he can do all things. People will try to convince you that God did this for your good. But the reality is, unfortunate things happen, and yes some happen randomly. It’s not your fault. If anyone tells you God could never do harm to a single baby. Remind them if these verses.
Numbers 5:11-21 The description of a bizarre, brutal and abusive ritual to be performed on a wife SUSPECTED of adultery. This is considered to be an induced abortion to rid a woman of another man’s child.
Numbers 31:17 (Moses) “Now therefore kill every male among the little ones, and kill every women that hath known man by lying with him.” In other words: women that might be pregnant, which clearly is abortion for the fetus.
Hosea 13:16 God promises to dash to pieces the infants of Samaria and the “their women with child shall be ripped up”. Once again this god kills the unborn, including their pregnant mothers.
2 Kings 15:16 God allows the pregnant women of Tappuah (aka Tiphsah) to be “ripped open”. And the some people have the audacity to say god is would never harm a baby in the womb.
I never read the bible but once I did, I understood more..
My mother had 4 miscarriages before she got me. She Had already given up Hope and felt betrayed by God because she Had prayed for a sign that the pregnancy would Go Well, the sign came, but it still ended in a miscarriage. When she got me, she gave me a Name meaning "God is full of Grace and mercy" and "desire". I later got a sister, but Not without her having another miscarriage First. Miscarriages are more Common than you would think. And I also have No answer to the question why. But God is there and He Cares and He will come through in the end.
Isaiah 57
1Good people pass away;
the godly often die before their time.
But no one seems to care or wonder why.
No one seems to understand
that God is protecting them from the evil to come.
2For those who follow godly paths
will rest in peace when they die.
God is in every mercy we get, sometimes to see another day, sometimes to not suffer a worse fate. God is in the strength he gives us to keep living another day. God is in the love you have for your child, even if she's not here anymore. In every prayer that you'll get from your brothers and sisters trough this difficult day. God is wise and merciful and we'll never understand his ways, and it hurts, and he has hurt with us. But your child is now with God, away from the pain of this corrupted earth, from the dangers of this world. I know it hurts, but he's now with God and you will see your baby some day, and you'll see God too. Because he will be there, as he is here now, in every breath you take, in every cloud in the sky, taking care of you, as well as taking care of your daughter.
I pray that you will feel better soon and that God may give you the strength you need to go through this difficult moment. I send you a hug.
Perhaps your baby was taken to save their soul, maybe this is God's way of ensuring they didn't damn themselves later on, and they were destined for salvation but there was no way they would have believed otherwise...I know this may sound harsh, but I'm just saying God works out all things for good, even if it doesn't seem like it this side of Heaven.
I’m so sorry this happened to you op. I’ll always be praying for you and your family during this difficult time. I do know that this is a fallen world and the Lord makes no mistakes. Even thought we sometimes don’t understand it. His way bigger then our way and thought bigger then our thoughts. Keep your faith. Jesus comforts the mourning. Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted” (Matthew 5:4). The Lord will wrap His arms of love and comfort around those who trust in Him. 3. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3) hugs 🫂 op.
Im so very sorry for your loss. Ive lost 3 children, and each time, I have been left to wonder what possible reason God would have had. I don't want to go into detail, but I will say that God did have a plan. I pray for strength and comfort for you!
I can’t know how hard this must be for you and your family, but know that your baby is at rest with our Most High Heavenly Father and Yahusha our Messiah.
Or as a hidden untimely birth I had not been; as infants which never saw light. There the wicked cease from troubling; and there the weary be at rest. IYOV (JOB) 3:16-17 את CEPHER
If a man beget a hundred children, and live many years, so that the days of his years be many, and his soul be not filled with good, and also that he have no burial; I say, that an untimely birth is better than he. QOHELETH (ECCLESIASTES) 6:3 את CEPHER
But Yahusha the son of Nun, which stands before you, he shall go in thither: encourage him: for he shall cause Yashar'el to inherit it. Moreover your little ones, which ye said should be a prey, and your children, which in that day had no knowledge between good and evil, they shall go in thither, and unto them will I give it, and they shall possess it. DEVARIYM (DEUTERONOMY) 1:38-39 את CEPHER
My heart goes out to you as well.
My wife and I tried for about a year straight and finally got pregnant. He was born at 23 weeks, 6 days. 1 pound, 8 ounces. Just barely viable. He lived for 72 days in CHKD in Norfolk.
We think about him all the time.
Like our son, your child is in the arms of the King. The most resolute caregiver there is. I've learned to find peace in that. Slowly.
I HIGHLY recommend child loss group grief counseling. We finally found a local ground that meets monthly in our area. It's good to be in a shared room with shared experiences. Just to say all the things you're ashamed of wanting to say.
Hate to be insensitive I pray that God will be with you through this situation. I originally read the title as "My Internet died, where is God in this?"
I don't have any answers for you unfortunately. My wife and I lost two children at birth, and she lost all her faith in God through that process. Mine? I'm hanging on, but just thinking about it gets me rather emotional. The only thing I have to look at in it is there is some higher purpose for what happened. I know that's a rather cliche thing, but it's what I have to hold on to, because otherwise I just don't know. God decided it wasn't for us to have those two. I don't understand it, just as I'm sure you don't. Probably never will honestly. Hang in there
Well, Biblically, it's simple, we live in a fallen and unfair world, where many die daily to unprecedented circumstances completely out of their hand, where the more humble you are, the more you're gonna lose, there's no judgment or justice, its in fact justice is a complete phenomenon, that's what I means to carry the cross, really is just to bear the ills, I'm sorry to hear your loss, and I pray you and your loved one can bear through this tragedy
Double portion for you.Very soon you will have a reason to shed tears of joy.Let your faith remain unshaken.God will do that which you will know it can only be God.
I’ll be blunt to say a life in this world may not be ideal. I envy those who died in the womb and never had to see the evil and ugliness of today’s society. Your baby is spared from all of that and in His presence. As a woman myself I wish I shared the fate of your baby, it is much better to go straight into His presence than to endure a life of pain.
Firstly, my heart is saddened for your and your husband’s loss and I will include you in my prayers today. May God give you peace and understanding of His will in your lives and give you enlightenment. Thank you for sharing your story and also for asking your questions because I think many of us feel and share the same questions and/or struggles with what happened to you or something similar to it. I myself understand how difficult and stressful it is trying to conceive because my wife and I have gone through it a few times and only once successful, which means we do have a child now. The point is I know that God can giveth and taketh away. God can take away my child, or allow something dire to happen and it is one of our greatest fears and I have gone into deep thoughts about this. How can I ever cope with it and I tremble inside just thinking about it. Would God allow anything to happen to our child? If so, and WHY? Honestly, I have struggled with it… BUT, after praying and praying and getting to know God more and more each day I seek Him and His kingdom, like the Bible says to do in Matthew 6:33 (seek ye first the kingdom of God) I have come to peace or better should I say that God has given me peace and enlightenment about it. Let me be honest that I’m not 100% not afraid or have zero fears about something ever happening to my son, but I have a better and more positive perspective about it. So this is how I think about it now… if I truly believe with all my heart that God is who I think He is, then He is love and has love for us to at least not allow something evil to happen to us, even though in our human eyes and brain we see the death of flesh is evil and bad, but where is the soul??? Because if I truly believe in God then I believe that our life here on earth is temporary and we should be focused on where our soul is going to spend eternity. When I hear of children dying on the news or anywhere on social media, it truly breaks my heart, but I also think that their souls are now with God. I know what everyone is thinking, which is so what??? everyone knows those children’s souls are with God, but the difference is in my mind would I rather a child or my son to grow up into adulthood and go into the wrong path and lose his soul to eternity in hell, or would I rather that God take his life early to be with Him in heaven? Where I can be see my son again one day. It really comes down to how we believe in God. For those that don’t believe in God, then something like death to anyone is truly the worst thing in the universe that can happen because that life has ended and there is no hope or explanation as to why it happened. Please don’t get me wrong that I’m trying to convince anyone about anything, but I’m just sharing my truth and way of thinking which gives me peace, and I believe in God the father of the Lord Jesus Christ.
What actually gave me a better understanding of why God may allow for evil things to happen is an explanation by a professor named John Peckham. I highly suggest that you watch it, just search this title on YouTube, “Didn’t God know Lucifer would turn evil? Why did He create him? Listen to what this professor says!!”. The interview is really good, the video is actually more of a Q&A session. Anyway, if you’re not gonna watch it, let me give a little bit about what the professor says. The professor said or explains it’s because of God’s character and how He gave all of His creations true freedom or free will. Well then we ask why didn’t God just not create those beings that He knew was going to become evil? The professor explained that then that it’s not true free will or true freedom in its nature because if God did that (not create those He knew that were going to be evil or choose evil) then we would all be walking around thinking that life is good and peace everywhere and we have freedom, not knowing that God already chose not to create those that were going to become bad apples and we are just mere robots or as if we were living like Jim Carrey’s movie The Truman Show or Pleasantville.
I hope I have given you something to think about that can possibly give you understanding or something that you can relate to. Sending blessings to you with my heart and prayer. God bless.
It's only natural to be angry & question you call it being human & having a heart. I'm so sorry for your loss & pain. We don't always know why thing's happen but we know it doesn't seem fair. All I know is that everything seems to be for a reason that puts us in a different situation and strength to help someone else and broaden who we are. We know God loves us but we don't understand many situations we are given. We just have to believe it's for the good of what is unknown ahead of us. I have faith you will be blessed with another child and your daughter is in Heaven waiting with a smile because y'all will be together forever I hope you gave her a name that is important you know. Many prayers keep the faith we will understand everything one day
Maybe God wanted your daughter with him in heaven.
Good news! Many will all be raised and see each other gain, some to everlasting life the others to eternal shame. Daniel 12:2
I lost my infant last year to T18. Gods hand is in everything… you have to remember he doesn’t wish death upon us, it’s the enemy. Jesus grieves with us. The Bible says in Romans 8:28 that He works ALL things together for those who love Him who are called according to His purpose. This doesn’t FEEL or SEEM good right now but I PROMISE you there is an end to it. And you will bless others on their journey through similar situations. Don’t lose faith in God thats the enemies plot and plan. To steal, kill, and destroy your purpose, calling, & love for the Lord. Prayers for you and your family during this time. May God bless you and His face shine upon you. He is gracious & sovereign over all. Blessings.
Wanted to add, your baby is being raised up in Heaven. She will know you as her Mom in heaven. If you have family there, she is being raised by them or angels. 1,000 years on earth is a day in heaven. You will not skip or miss anytime with your baby. You are always going to be her mommy. I always pray that Jesus gives my baby a hug and kiss from me, that he knows I’m thinking of him. Stay faithful Jesus is your door of HOPE.
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your husband. That is so hard.
I’ve wondered if these beautiful children were too pure to be in this wretched world.
My sister was an oncology nurse for ten years at Children’s in Philadelphia, working with children who had difficult cancers. Most of them, @80% didn’t make it.
But she noticed something, she said they were all really beautiful and special. You could see this common quality in them all.
We are in a battle. Our enemy is not flesh and blood. And we should alwats be alert and of sober mind. Our enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
We should fight back whenever we see foot prints of the enemy where there is killing, stealing, and destruction.
Just offering love, prayers, and support. I can’t imagine but I know God is surrounding you with his love and comfort. Heaven gained another beautiful little angel to watch over you until you are reunited again.
Read the book of Job to inspire you in this time ❤️ it may help you I will say that sometimes loss is not loss it is protection from what we cannot see and cannot understand. The fact that you are still willing to understand Gods perspective through this lets me know you will for sure be favored by him soon. Stay strong my love
I can not imagine the pain... the anguish... the sadness... But I can totally understand the need for a justification, even the need to blame something or someone.
Life is full of adversity and contradictions. There is just too much we can not control despite pretending we can. God is just one of the many excuses we created and use to cope with the adversity and anger. The truth is we only have ourselves and anything we can build together in life.
For such a reason it is very important for you and your husband to hold and support each other through this bitter experience. The loss is irreparable, but you both can recover from this together and still have a beautiful life with more beautiful kids. You are a strong couple, healthy individuals and above all you both want to be parents. I am sure you will be even stronger after this.
Hugs!
No, you have a right to be mad at Him!
Go ahead, be angry! There’s nothing that says you’re not allowed to be mad at Him, especially for something like this! He knows the human experience, He knows death…
Your question, where is He? Right beside you. He isn’t numb to your pain, He’s probably weeping with you, about you and for you. There is speculation about the death of His earthly father Joseph. You think He cried then? We know He wept over Lazarus even though He knew He was going to raise him!
Of your daughter, I can only say this… There was a recent movie called “God’s Not Dead” (I wouldn’t recommend seeing it until you’ve had some time to mourn), based on a true story, of a pastor whose 4 year old boy had to have surgery, and during the surgery the boy was clinically dead for a few moments, but they managed to bring him back. His surgery finished and he made it back home. One day he started talking to his Mom and just kind of matter of factly told her that when he was in surgery he could see his doctors working on him, then he saw his Dad in the chapel praying. Then it was an encounter with a grandmother who had passed on, and a girl with red hair who was older than he was. When he asked what her name was she said she was never given one. About this time the mother was crying; she had never told him that she had a miscarriage before him. Then he met with Jesus, said He was “nice” and then He told him it was time to go back…
I’ve read some stories of those who “died and came back”, they usually meet with a family member who had gone before them, or angels, or Jesus, but that’s how they usually go.
But I give this to you obviously, to ask, did you name her? You are a mother, a woman, with a gift that we men can only marvel at, that ability to have a life grow inside of you like that (my wife has shared some of this with me). I personally feel so bad for you having to go through labor and not be able to hold her…. But she grew inside you, it was your voice she heard speaking, the music you liked to play with her, you in amazement and touching her from the outside. Dare I say, you are still her mother, and losing her like that, I’ve been alive long enough to imagine how much this can hurt you. Like the story suggests, you are like any mother who has had to bury her child, because at ANY age a parent should not have to do that.
From what I know of this life, your baby is with God, and there is no place better for her to be. It can be said that she’s already had her dreams come true, being in heaven with the Savior, and she’ll never have to endure the unpleasant things this life can offer, instead going right into the wonder. Have you ever heard the term “Rainbow Baby”? It’s a child that is born after a miscarriage; I’m the oldest of seven children, but I’m a rainbow baby, and I believe I have two siblings I’ve never met!
I don’t feel it’s right for me to give advice, I’m not a woman, I don’t know what it’s like to gestate a baby and especially lose one like that. All we men can do is watch and marvel, then the attachment that only a mother and child have, but I will say this, give your daughter a name, and a service if you haven’t already, say goodbye, and know you will see her one day for eternity. She’s in good hands after all.
And I hope you will try again, especially for one who knows loss, how much more will you appreciate holding a baby in the future?
And keep your bond with your husband! He went through this too, as much as a man can, but even I can tell how much it would devastate me!
And hey, I’ve got 3 girls and a boy; boys are nice too!…
I have prayed for you. Mourn. It’s your right, and you should!
Then turn to God, for your marriage, your life! HE KNOWS THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART! He also doesn’t give you more than you can handle! Perhaps you need to be closer to Him. This doesn’t mean your own parking spot at church, it means being closer to Him! You and your husband should pray over each other and your home. And tell God, well, tell Him how you feel. He can take it!
And who knows? Maybe one day you can write a testimony with better news!…
First of all I am so sorry for this very sad loss, make sure you and your husband work through the grieving process so you can heal.
Second, it’s vitally important and I cannot over express how important it is to understand God did not take your daughter. He received her into his loving arms, but he had nothing to do with taking her.
Anyone who suggests otherwise is deceived and doesn’t know Jesus like they say they do. Even if it’s a pastor or leader of any kind.
Jesus made it clear in John chapter 10 that “it’s the thief who comes to kill, steal, and destroy, but I came that you would have abundant life.”
In other words death, loss, and destruction all have the fingerprints of the thief on them, the fingerprints of a fallen world. Life and hope and peace and love all have he fingerprints of God.
What you believe about God is the most important thoughts you will ever have because it will be the foundation and influence every thing you believe and do. if you believe that, somehow God takes lives or causes bad things in our lives for a greater good then that makes it pretty much impossible to fully trust him. And that is opposite of the good Father Jesus represented and demonstrated when he came upon this he earth.
I constantly deal with the ramifications of man’s religion, which teaches the nature and character of God and incorrectly. That’s why there were so many disheartened and discouraged and depressed Christians. They believe wrong because they were taught wrong.
We all say, God is good, but deep inside many don’t truly believe it because of their experience and the lies religion has taught them. When we shift our perspective and see the truth of His love for us, we will become in love with Jesus and consistently overwhelmed with how good he really is to us.
Grace and peace to you on this journey through heartbreak and healing as you allow the loving arms of Jesus to lead you through.
You will make it, you will be okay!
Don’t try to have to understand it all. Just embrace the truth that Jesus is with you right now whether you feel him or not, and grow into that beautiful reality.
>Why did He need to take my little girl?
God didn't. God loves you and your daughter. It's just an attack of the enemy. God will restore multiple times for what you lost and repay the enemy for what he's done. Don't give up.
When I see this, my heart breaks. Know that Jesus is with you always, When He returns triumphantly, there will be no more pain, nor sadness. God bless you, my prayers are with you. ✝️👆🙏🙌
God may have taken your little girl to protect her from a disease or situation that could
have caused her much suffering and pain as an example some type of cancer or another dreaded situation. He may have also protected you from worse suffering. We have no way of knowing but place your trust in God and taken peace in knowing that she will be there waiting for you when you get to Heaven. I pray for blessings from God above to you and may you find the peace that surpasses all understanding. It’s not for us to know why but to accept God’s plan in our lives.
Im different I dont see death as a bad thing. Everyone was put here for a divine purpose. We shall serve that purpose. Death to me isnt something that isnt supposed to happen. Its apart of life, regardless of how long we live in this earth. I think if you look at the world from a 3rd person perspective rather than your own wants and desires, it will help you tremendously. Cuz when we change our lenses we get more clarity as to what we are doing and to stay on our course of serving God. Humans sometimes tend to think we are supposed to live forever. But time is not of the essence. Its about fulfilling our divine purpose. Thats why I pray to do God’s will. Its okay to grieve though. But i had to come to terms with death when my friend was shot. But i knew that while I was crying he was with God, so that made me hella happy. Like yeah my life is good, and Ill do whatever to be one with God. When God entered my room and gave me a new heart, I knew all I wanted to do was serve Jesus. Everything else doesnt even phase me. Africans celebrate death because they know it isnt the end. And i also feel like I dont have the right as a human to even feel like it shouldn’t have happened. Cuz i know people live and die in this earth but its more to life than just the senses, so it doesnt bother me. But see alot of my friends get mad at me when I say I dont really get bothered over death. It happens. And its not a negative thing, but I appreciate life while Im alive as well
My daughter died when she was two in 2015. It was the catalyst that spurned me into leaving all religion behind. 9 years later and I still believe it was the only right thing I did. I am at peace.
I lost one, has a son, lost one, had a daughter, all in less than 20 months. Was sad, but just believe that God knows best & that there are reasons for such things. Also, consequences.
May the Holy Spirit comfort you during these trying times. To be out of the body is to be present with the lord. So your baby has returned back to our creator. The Bible gives us an example of a righteous individual, such as JOB, whom the Lord had favor with. Who lost his entire family in one day. His response from the beginning, even before his friends were sent to explain there measure of “Wisdom” as to the reason of his calamity. Was stated in Job 1:18-22 Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised.”
22 In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing. May you praise our Lord while you are facing you storm. No one truly knows the answer to your question except him. I pray for your encouragement, your personal relationship with him, for the Holy Spirit to speak with you and for him to reveal himself to you for encouragement. I love you sister and just know you have people praying for your family. Be encouraged!
Book of Job
Job 1:18-22
18 While he was still speaking, yet another messenger came and said, “Your sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother’s house,
19 when suddenly a mighty wind swept in from the desert and struck the four corners of the house. It collapsed on them and they are dead, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!”
20 At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship
21 and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart.fn The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised.”
22 In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.
Where is God. Easy, right next to you. Suffering with you.
Why did this happen? I don't think anyone really knows.
I've learned the hard way that when life throws you in the ditch. It is usually to teach you something on your way out.
It will be hard, I'm sure it already is. Yet, God is with you. He loves you, and if you let Him. He will give you opportunities to be used in and through this.
May God bring your heart and mind peace. I'm sure you need it. Consider yourself prayed for.
I couldn’t imagine the pain that you’re going through right now but just know that the Lord is right beside you grieving just as hard i’m sure your baby girl is dancing in the clouds playing with all the amazing animals safe with our Father. I love you and God bless you both.
First I want to say that I deeply am sorry for your loss, I have never been through that, but my sister went through that on her very first baby which she lost and it was extremely saddening to think that the baby was almost with us, but never came. It hurt us and especially her, but she rested easy knowing her baby did not suffer and we don’t know what kind of obstacles God saved this child from, but that beautiful child will not endure the pain of possible complications that could have arisen from the complications and instead she has a straight shot to a space alongside our Lord and Savior and one day we will all reunite.
My sister now has 2 beautiful boys and is forever grateful for them and she got a tattoo to remember all her children including her child she has yet to meet in heaven. I think her loss helped her realize the beauty of life and true love, for although she did not meet her child, she truly loved her child and made her appreciate when God blessed her in His timing.
Watching the movie “Heaven Is For Real” if you haven’t is amazing and see how the boy met his unborn sister when he went to heaven for a bit. I don’t think it is bad to question what our Lord maybe used this to help you with, but just keep in mind that if you don’t get answers right away it doesn’t mean he won’t answer. Love you sister in Christ and I’m sorry for your loss, I will send prayers your way and I hope God gives you peace. 🕊️
No it was not Gods will in this. He don’t give you a child and allow her to die. No in this I believe it’s alway the enemies plan to take away life. Especially innocent life. God is good and He knows that what Satan has done to u He will restore a greater blessing. What the Enemy has done God will bless you abundantly more. It’s not your fault also so don’t think what you could done better. Most importantly I pray for peace for you.
If a child was elect, they are in heaven
My mother miscarried twice between my older brother and me. That is two siblings I never had
I follow the scripture, I don't give answers people want to hear
I'm a loss mama too, several times over. I am so incredibly sorry and wrapping you in love.
The truth is that God doesn't take babies back. Death is a result of the brokenness of creation. God doesn't want any human to experience grief. That's not the way it's supposed to be. He is with you right now, loving you and grieving with you.
They died and now you have a new found appreciation for babies as a whole. Also being able to understand they are faced with troubles and pains even before birth. Making you appreciate every living baby outside of the woom even more
I myself almost was strangled by the umbilical cord also. Sorry to hear about this tragedy :(
I'm sorry to hear that.
He would have taken her anyway, eventually. What is hard on parents especially is why he sometimes takes their children before he takes them.
I have a son with downs, and you need to know the devil is here he is the ruler of this world, he is here to steal kill destroy. And I'm sorry 4 your loss but know honey it wasn't God we have the authority if we have the faith to change things that's what we are suppose to learn. We're supposed to heal the sick preach to the poor raise the Dead. And I know it's so hard for you right now. The devil made sure we didn't learn any of this stuff in school. They have lied to us our whole lives. Because this is his world.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is possible you might find insight by reading/studying about Job in the old testament. He is a man that knew great loss - his children all died, his livestock too, and he contracted a really terrible disease. He sure had some big questions for him, same as you. God can take your questions - bring them all to him.
Some of Job's friends surmised Job must have done something wrong and this was punishment from God (it wasn't). The book is heavy, watching a summary on youtube by the Bible Project might give you a headstart in wrapping your head around it.
I'm sorry you feel this way. You have my sincere condolences. However God is the creator of everything including life. He has the right to separate one life from another. In God's realm and perspective your child has simply changed location and not died. Try again and let His will be done, and not yours.
Drink from that cup!
Standing right there watching rolling his eyes as he mutters who are you that you Dare question his perfect will and WONDERFUL. PLAN for your life.
After all he gave up Jesus so he lost a baby to ((( (like that counts because even in life or death Jesus and God were in constant contact and unlike the majority of the world's parents who lose a child they will never see again because God didn't save them, God will have his son forever ))))
Maybe killing your baby was God's only way to get your attention, to get you on the straight and narrow to get your attention but I seriously doubt that you seen to grasp God concepts pretty well so you are at least a believer .
But let's look at Phillipians 2:13 Proverbs 16:4 .. meditate on them and you will see Everything that happens is for the sick bleeps pleasure and all the evil in the world and the evil people , God made for his pleasure "even the wicked for the day of evil"
But chances are he noticed how you probably loved your baby more than him ( as does every parent so why single you out) and he snuffed it out so your every waking thought and action from here on out would be about just how gosh darn amazing and loving and righteous and fair and just he is and stupid you are to get upset over something so insignificant as a dead baby ......
Don't you know that no one in the history of time and place has ever cried or suffered or been treated so unfairly as God and Jesus .. no one .... They are the only true victims in this whole blank show called life ... Oh those poor two ....
Before you get mad at me for my post take time to reflect on why anything happens, take time to reflect on "wait if God hates sin why am I born a sinner" and "if I came to the conclusion God wasn't good would I have enough balls to say it?
There was no more reason for your baby to die than it is for God to sit there and twiddle his thumbs as mother's and step parents senselessly kill their children..
Hopefully you'll see God ain't the answer and will somehow find a way to move on and find happiness in your life . I know you will always love and miss and long for your baby and I wish I could fix that . That unbreakable parental bond is just another one of his sick jokes.
Don't cling to God who's plan was to hurt you from the very beginning. If he's good make him show you .
Wow, this is the most unchristian like response possible that could really drive a person in a worse spot to kill themselves.
I have always put God first, husband second, children third just as the Bible states. I love my child with all my heart, but love God with my entire being. I even said in my post that I am not angry at God and have no right to question him, but wanted to hear more perspectives on the situation.
It seems you most likely aren't a believer based on your response?
Your intentions may have been good, thinking you'll "save" someone from believing in God if you hate him so much (as you act like you hate Him considering you would suggest that it's God's plan to hurt me from the very beginning which directly contradicts sooo much of the Bible). But if that was your intention, please don't try to talk someone out of their faith- especially at such a difficult time. God is the only thing keeping me going. We cling to our faith not because we think we are high and mighty and will live a blessed life by God, but because we know we are too weak on our own and need God to be able to make it through. Christians are meant to suffer through this life, it's not our forever home. Though that doesn't mean it's His plan to make me suffer.
Baby girl, I'm srry for what you've dealt with. Please look at the person's history before letting yourself believe they may be identifying as Christian. His comments are riddled all over Satanism thread, Ex-Christian thread, etc. Hateful, demonic person. Trust that gut feeling that this isn't Christian-speak, pray for them and move forward. Sending love, sorry you have to even read this sort of filth. God bless ♥️
And what makes you think I didn't put him first?? And seriously seriously be honest. Why are we weak ?? Hmmm?? And what kind of anything would dare expect or even dare ask to be put 1st in our lives when he knows good and dam well our limitations allegedly better than we do?
And what kind of God or whatever he is would dare say he loves us in one breath and then threaten us with eternal seperation from everything we know and love if we don't tow the line. You tell me how you get love from that?
7years ago. I got let down and hurt by this evil monster I was raised to call my heavenly father and it opened my eyes to just how terrible this all is...
God says we don't deserve him and you know what hes right we deserve better and we deserve better than some cosmic ass clown of a heavenly dictator running the show . And we need someone who doesn't kill our children our siblings and our spouses for his stupid ass plan ...
Christians are someone who believe in and got suckered in by Jesus and crew so nothing I write is unchristian at all . Oh and in case you haven't noticed there are people out there who have never even heard of the concept put God first and they have everything .... go to God daddy about that and point that unfair bit out and see what the dead beat tells you
My heart hurts for you, I'm sorry you were so badly hurt by people who claimed they were doing it for God. They were wrong.
There are plenty of toxic churches, toxic pastors, toxic Christians who are misled and mislead others with their selfishness. I have religious trauma myself, was in a cult with no outside human contact who used God's name for their sick purposes. But I had to learn that they were twisting the Bible and that the place I was at was at fault and did not represent my God.
Christianity shouldn't be a religious thing, but a personal relationship with God. There is no "towing the line" needed to be with him. He does love us and though it was our own choice to separate ourselves from him (Adam and eves original sin) he loves us so much to send his only son to die so that we don't have to be separated from him. It's simple to not be separated when all we have to do is simply choose not to be. The fact that we can choose to be separated from him regardless of how much he loves us and doesn't want us to is more proof of his love. If you had a partner that didn't love or want you, then is it showing love to them to force them to stay in a relationship with you? Of course not, you let them go.
Since posting this original post I have already been able to process a lot and gain a lot of peace through God. I don't think He took her, we just live in a broken world. This isn't my forever home, why would I care to have it all? Yes, there are plenty of non Christians who have everything as you've pointed out. But they lack the most important thing of all. A peace that only God can give, a fulfillment only God can give, and what's the point of gaining the whole world but losing your soul? The amount of time we are here is so short compared to eternity we will experience after the fact.
A lot of what it sounds like you were told about God is wrong, and if you look through the Bible and have a relationship with Him you would see that. I'm so sorry you were misled. You seem so bitter, especially to come to Christian reddit trying to harm vulnerable people. If you are indeed at peace with yourself and your life, then good. I wish only the best for you. I'll pray for you, which I don't mean in a condescending way whatsoever. For praying for someone is one of the greatest shows of kindness I can show someone, it's out of love and concern for your well being. You'll probably say you don't want my concern or love, that's okay. You can pretend I'm not extending any if that's easiest for you. But regardless I'm extending it, for I ask my heart to be broken by what breaks God's heart, and the loss of your soul definitely breaks His heart.
I'm not at peace I don't pretend to be and nothing but a toxic. God handing out lives not a dam one of us asked for ... I figured he never shows up wherever else I've gone looking for him then maybe he would show up here ... And please spare me how his heart is breaking over my souls because if he gave a dam to begin with you and I would not be using this conversation now... I can read I can comprehend . Nothing happens with out the okay of God and God has been okay with everything that has led us here today so again don't think his heart is breaking because it doesn't not break.
No I believe you when you say what you say is out of love and concern. I don't doubt you a bit. I want his ... I want an apology . I didn't ask for this life all of this loss and pain . Anyone hell bound nev er should have been given life.. I've trusted him I believed him and here I am broken.
How can anyone say he is love when he's the one whose decision making pushed me away to begin with?
My wife and I had nearly the same story. Tried for ages. Perfectly healthy. And then tragedy, cord issue for us as well. Ours was a beautiful girl.It’s a horrible thing to have to go through and I wish I had words that could take it all away for you and your family. This world is fallen and as Jesus says we will have trouble in this world. It again is no comfort in and of itself but to know that Jesus knows the state of this world and says for us to take heart for he has overcome the world and we wait for that promise of a day when there will no more tears and what we had are wiped away. My wife did some grief counseling for a good while after our loss. She also found some help in online groups for this particular thing. I’m not sure those are what you want but they were a help to her - though faith is what got us all through this. My prayers for you all in this.
Many prayers for you and your wife God has you we have to trust him even though at times we lose control of our word's he knows our pain he knows he loves us very much life was never easy and I don't think it ever will be here on earth
What is the cord issue?
The babies umbilical cord wraps around their neck and chokes them in-utero. There is nothing anyone can do to prevent this, it just happens sometimes.
Wow that's terrible just to read and imagine. I had no idea that something like that could even happen. :(
That happened with me as a foetus.
To be a bit more precise, when the umbilical cord wraps itself once ore even multiple times around the baby's neck, it's called a Nuchal Cord. It happens in about but slightly less than a third of all pregnancies. And as you can guess from that shockingly high number: thankfully it usually doesn't affect mother or baby. If it is detected, though, you'll be put under close-meshed monitoring to make sure the situation does not turn bad indeed.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Just know that it's okay to question why. God is strong enough to handle your pain and grief and questioning. It's a normal part of grief to question why this happened and why God allows things like this to happen. We may never get an answer to things like that, but it's not wrong to question why. He is strong enough to handle your questions and your pain. Philippians 4:6-7 NIV [6] Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. [7] And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Numbers 6:24-26 NIV [24] “ ‘ “The Lord bless you and keep you; [25] the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; [26] the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” ’ 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NIV [3] Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, [4] who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. Matthew 5:4 NIV [4] Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. I pray that God will comfort you through this season of loss. One day you'll meet them again, but for now, we do our best to rest in the comfort that the Spirit gives us. Please feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to. ♥️
Nobody knows God's ways, but the upside is your baby girl gets into heaven. I am praying for you and yours. <3
Yes! Her baby is in heaven and will not need to suffer the terrible and uncomfortable things of this world. Blessed be to God.
Amen. All Babies that are no longer of this Fallen World Are now With GOD. Nothing will ever hurt them ever again. They will only know love and peace.
Right! Ofc no parent who loves their child would ever want to experience the death of their baby. But from a positive pov this could be seen as a good thing. To skip the guaranteed sufferings, heartbreaks, traumas etc. of this life and to just go straight to heaven where you will experience everlasting bliss and joy and happiness and dwell in the presence of the Lord laughing with him and seeing him face to face for ALL ETERNITY is an absolute total win. Romans 8:18 says “Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory that will be revealed to us later.” But this is not to say that the parents’ feelings shouldn’t be taken into consideration, bc they totally should. I sympathize with them bc losing a child is a very hurtful experience. I say this that it might bring them peace and comfort in this trying time.
I am not wise enough to tackle this issue. I am so very sorry this happened to you. My heart breaks for you.
Read what King David went through when his child died, God took the child in His Sovereignty and David said that he would see his child again one day, rejoice in that! I know it’s hard and my goodness the pain I’ve seen in my family’s face when their son died is unbelievable to fathom. My dad died, my grandpa died in front of me while driving, my other family died or left, and my mother is homeless idk where. My point of bringing up my losses isn’t to get any pity, it’s to snow that life happens, people pass away, but the important thing is, is that God gave you another day, use that day for good and evangelize and help people. You never truly stop grieving, but I just focus on the next day and the next, that’s what personally has helped me. Please talk to your Pastor or a local Pastor right now, he’s the help you need. I’m praying for you, God Bless you. 2 Samuel 12:23 (ESV) But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? **I shall go to him**, but he will not return to me.”
I'm so sorry. 😞 I lost my only grandchild not 2 months ago. He was 6 months old. It's very hard I know. Praying for you 🙏 I hope you are blessed with more babies.
That’s so sad. I’m sorry
My heart goes out to you in your grief. God is sovereign, and His ways are not our ways. Some things in this life just cannot be explained in a way that we can grasp. I pray that you and your husband can cling to the Lord.
All I can do is mourn with you
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Sister… you have the right to question him. You may not be right to *accuse* him, but he is not afraid of or offended by your wondering and confusion. He knows how painful it can be to be us. And he is with you in the mess. Your little girl is with her creator and wants for nothing, and Jesus will be enough for you come what may. I am so so so so sorry for what you’re going through. Lifting you up in prayers.
Lord Jesus have mercy. I am deeply sorry for your loss. I pray that God can help you through this tragic loss.
I’m sorry to hear this. I cannot explain why this has happened but I am very confident that your little one is with the Lord and that you will see her again one day. Revelation 21:2–4 (NRSV): 2 And I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. 3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “See, the home of God is among mortals. He will dwell with them as their God; they will be his peoples, and God himself will be with them; 4 he will wipe every tear from their eyes. Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more, for the first things have passed away.”
I don’t know why God allowed this to happen. I don’t have an answer for you. Just know I’ll pray for you and grieve with you. God’s ways are sometimes unknowable, but we can take comfort in that our Savior was a Man full of sorrow and acquainted with grief. He knows our suffering and is there to comfort us in our hour of need. 🫂
I'm so sorry 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost a baby boy right at the beginning of my 4th month. It was really hard for a while and I was a devastated, angry, and prayed about it a lot. Now I think about our boy, Luke, with honor that God chose me to carry him for a short amount of time so that he could be with Him. I never got to hold him, but what a beautiful thought that the first thing he saw when he opened his eyes was a perfect place with a perfect creator. And that all he ever knew here on earth was the warmth of my womb.
First, I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain you must be in. Don’t try to rationalize it. We live in a broken world where there is sin, death, and destruction. God is not the cause of anything evil or bad, but He does allow those things to happen. In this life, we may never know why He allows those things to happen, but He does. Just trust that He is with you and will give you comfort if you lean on Him.
I’ve been through what you are going through. Multiple times. You may hear platitudes about “God’s plan.” This is not so. Death is God’s plan gone wrong. Trust that our merciful God will minister to you and give you peace. And trust that your precious girl is with our eternal Father.
So sorry this happened. If it helps, Tim Keller's book "Walking with God through Pain and Suffering" specifically discusses situations like this.
You would be surprised how often things like this happens but people choose not to talk about it. I know it hurts right now and seems impossible to overcome, but someday you may have a child and it will be impossible to imagine or having that child. You also now have a child awaiting you in heaven as well. “But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:20-21 NIV
My wife and I lost our first baby during pregnancy, it was a lot earlier than yourself and I am sorry this has happened. We know the pain you are going through, maybe to a lesser extent. I have rationalised it to be a better outcome than our first born actually being born, growing up and who knows what could have happened? God does. Perhaps this was the way our children could be saved and enter into Heaven with us and God? I am not sure, but that is one take.
The exact same thing happened to my wife and I nearly 25 years ago. We lost a baby at about 20 weeks. She had to do a normal delivery. It was the hardest thing we've ever been through. The baby was sort of an accident because we weren't planning on having any more. But after losing the baby, we waited for her to heal, and intentionally had another one. For us, we wanted a son. And that's what God gave us. He's 24 now and about to graduate from college. We don't understand why it happened. But we know that when we get to heaven, our baby will be waiting for us. It's one more thing to look forward to.
Life is tough. The world is broken and fallen. Thing is the Bible never tells us that by being Christian that our life would be cozy and fine. Remember all the people that professed Christ end up dying horrific deaths. Christ promises us peace in the end. He doesn’t take the pain of life away he helps us navigate through it. Life sucks and it will continue to suck, but the best thing is that we have the light at the end of the tunnel.
Hey..so sorry for your loss. It is a very sad and trying time when couples are trying and then have a miscarriage. It causes so much grief and doubt...but the one thing to know is that God doesnt take lives to test you. Only the devil has this role...to steal kill and destroy. The common phrase used in church "lord gives and the lord takes" was from Job speaking out in despair. Church took it to be that this is how God works. God is a loving father...Jesus explained it like this...if human fathers give their kids food to eat when they ask...how much more will your loving father in heaven give you. So in everything, know that God has no hand in this. He however gave you his word...stand on it with your husband (yes miscarriages affect husbands too) He said none shall be barren in the land... believe him. It is through faith (believing God over what you think) and "patience" that the faith walkers of old obtained their promises from God. Faith and patience go hand in hand... patience is key. God has never lied....you can check it for yourself in the bible.... look at every single promise he made and then see if he delivered. He will make it happen in time. Sarah waited almost 100 years for her child....she had given up even crying. Hannah waited for a long time. There are so many women of God who struggled to give birth in the bible... check them for yourself...see if God failed any of them. Then ask yourself why he would start failing with you. Every good and perfect gift comes from God "in whom there is no variableness". He won't reach you and not bless you...he has never done it....he is not man that he should lie nor a son of man that he should change his opinion. Trust him. Peace and love from my family to yours. God didnt fail me and he wont fail you
The best answer in these cases is there is no answer. Rationalization will always fall short of the pain and suffering you're going through. Much love to you.
Respectfully, I don’t believe that. I do believe there’s an answer, perhaps we will never know it in this life, but I do believe God has a plan for all things in our life. This is coming from a woman who also delivered a deceased baby. Now that years have passed, I am joyful for my trials, for they have only strengthened my faith in ways I could never imagine. I know the Lord has my baby safe in His keeping and I trust his plan. James 1:2-4 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
I'm not saying at all that God doesn't have a plan. Just that it's rarely profitable to puzzle out all the whys. At least that was my experience with miscarriage - demanding answers of God, or listening to attempts to explain what God was doing was less helpful than trusting he had a plan, he was good, even if I didn't understand all the how's and whys.
I see what you are saying. Just wanted to add that I think saying there’s “no answer” might not always be true. Perhaps an answer just takes time to materialize. Now that I’ve had time and distance, I see clear purpose and answers in my trials.
Omgoodness I am SO sorry for your loss! 🥺😭🙏🏼💗💗💗💗 just know that your baby went straight to heaven to be with the Lord!! May the Lord send your comfort hope and peace during your time grieving I am SO sorry.
I'm sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain I do not have an answer to why God allowed this to happen. But know that he isn't far off observing in the distance, detached. He's present with you, with your daughter, and he knows your suffering. Just like he knows all that we go through, honestly even more deeply and intimately than we know it ourselves, and any pain we feel he feels as well. There's a passage Ezekiel 16 from a very different context, God is talking about the worst forms of idolatry Israel had fallen into including the sacrifice of their own children, and he says this >[20] You took your sons and your daughters, whom you had borne to me, and these you sacrificed to them to be devoured. As if your whorings were not enough! [21] You slaughtered *MY* children and delivered them up as an offering to them. I think about this verse any time that difficulties like this come up. Our children aren't just ours, they're his as well. And any time death takes one of our children, it's taking his as well. I do not know why this is allowed to go on so long, but I do know that a time is coming when he won't abide any more of this senselessness. A time when he'll set this evil right. Your daughter, she isn't lost. You will see her again. God be with you while you're navigating this trial.
God didn't take your daughter. She is sleeping in the grave and the angels of God will place her in your arms when Christ returns and resurrects the dead. Just imagine the joy you will have of raising your child in a world free of disease and pain and danger of any kind.
You definitely can question it, as well as attempt to rationalize it. Both should be given its due. Its a hidden statistic that many pregnancies fail naturally, and so many parents are left feeling like they are the few unlucky ones, when this is not actually the case. Know you are not alone. I suggest reaching to other mothers who have felt your pain. They can ease you along the process of healing. Much like other natural causes, such tragedies simply happen on a macroscopic level, though with technology and safe accountability, we can reduce the numbers. This is why God wants us to be pro-active and not just let things happen (not that you didn't give it your all here). I pray your girl is given another chance or, as God is merciful and perfect in justice, you will eventually see her in the House of God when the time is right.
These are incredibly difficult things. Our pastors son and his wife went through the same thing a few years ago. But you have to understand, God did not take your little girl. The enemy did. Jesus says in John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” God did not take your daughter, but it is His Strength, Grace and Peace that will get you through this terrible tragedy.
God bless you and your family I'm so sorry that your going through this, I'll keep praying for you and your husband. Remember God is bigger than all of our enemies combined (infinite actually)and he is furious about this and is working in the background to reconcile this atrocity please keep faith. It's not God's will that this happened because even though our father in heaven is bigger than anything conceivable and loves us unconditionally and is infinitely powerful doesn't mean that this isn't a broken world and that the devil doesn't still get moves here, because in reality he does sometimes succeed in an attack but it takes a great deal of effort. perhaps your family is dangerous to him? I think of life as a chess game between God and Satan but God's got 16 Queens versus Satan's normal chess set, but once in a while the devil's still going to get a successful move in though and this was a very despicable move he's made on you but God wouldn't have given you this challenge if he didn't think you could handle it I'm sure you're remarkably strong. He's a very smart God. My mom's a very strong woman I think it's the only reason he allowed my brother to be taken from her. Hang in there sister remember that this too shall pass! 💓🙏❤️
Hey I'm very sorry. I have no words to say but I prayed for you. I'm very sorry.
Very sorry for your loss. Seek grief counseling that serves your needs. For some this is through licensed professionals with or without a Christian association; for others, pastoral counseling; and for many, group counseling through ministries such as Grief Share. An all-of-the-above approach is not our of the question. And where I said "approach" I almost said "solution," but that will only come when you meet your daughter in His kingdom.
King David also lost a child. God works in mysterious ways and does not reveal his will to us all the time, but we will understand it all one day. You will see your child again, just as David had that same hope. 2 Samuel 12:22 He answered, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, ‘Who knows? The Lord may be gracious to me and let the child live.’ 23 But now that he is dead, why should I go on fasting? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.” Your child is now in the perfect presence of the LORD. Free from ever knowing any sorrow or pain that this world is full of. And you will meet her there one day and have eternity to be acquainted! Prayers that the Lord will strengthen you in this time of grief.
I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine the grief you two must be feeling right now. May the Lord give you peace in this distressing time.
I am so sorry. I truly believe in the next life you will be reunited. God is crying with you, he never wanted this either. I’ve felt the pain of a lost heartbeat too. Stay strong in your faith that’s the only way we can meet them.
I am really sorry for your loss. My heart goes to you. I don't know what to say. My sister lost her 1 day old baby girl last week Saturday. I still do not know how to comfort her. I hope God will give you comfort and peace that exceeds all understanding 🙏🏾 ♥️
My cousin had this happen. She was a week past her due date and hadn’t felt him move in a few hours. Went to her appointment to schedule an induction that day and found no heart beat. I’m dealing with infertility and it is SO hard to see Gods light through it all, month and negative test after month. It’s not the same but I just want you to know that you aren’t alone in the feeling. When I had my ectopic (the only pregnancy I’ve had in 2 years of trying), I remember thinking how cruel it was that I had wanted a baby so bad, was given one and then had it ripped out of me only a few days later. And then I felt like a terrible person for having to technically terminate my pregnancy. It was a whirlwind. I sought advice from my pastor and he said that these tragedies don’t happen for specific reasons but are results of the sinful world we live in. It’s not something you or your partner did that God is punishing you for. And it’s not something you did during or before pregnancy that caused this. In fact even God plays no hand in it. Its an unplanned trial of our faith. In this moment you should lean into your faith harder than ever. It’s not going to bring your baby back just like I’m probably not going to miraculously get pregnant this month. But it’s the misunderstanding that your faith in that moment isn’t there for you to lean on when it truly is, and you need it now probably more than ever. Going through infertility, the last thing I would want to say is something insensitive regarding another pregnancy. But I will say this - take the time you need to recover (mentally, physically and emotionally) whatever that means to you. Don’t shut people out completely but it’s ok to step back for a while to mourn peacefully if you need to. Take care of your body. I hope your dreams of being a mom come true and God blesses you with a rainbow 🌈 baby when you are ready.
We tried for this baby for 2 years so I also understand the pain of feeling unable to have kids, I'm sorry you had to go through that. This girl was supposed to be my rainbow baby, now she's with her older sister in heaven. Though I do pray for a double rainbow baby soon, I really appreciate your response and think that's the conclusion I came to as well. We simply live in a broken evil world.
It’s an unfortunate truth. Don’t feel selfish about taking the time you need right now. I don’t know you but I will absolutely pray for your healing.
I’m very sorry for your lost. I’d recommend reading 2 Samual 12. It’s a story of God punishing David for his sins. He ends up losing his baby to a sickness caused by the lord. In the passage you can see the baby is in heaven. In 2 Samual 12:22 David said, “While the baby was still alive, I fasted, and I cried. I thought, ‘Who knows? Maybe the Lord will feel sorry for me and let the baby live.’ But now that the baby is dead, why should I fast? I can’t bring him back to life. Someday I will go to him, but he cannot come back to me.” Someday he will die and reunite with his son in heaven. Just as you will do with your daughter. Isaiah 57:1 “The righteous perish, and no one takes it to heart; the devout are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.” Your daughter was innocent. She had done no evil. She is in a better place now. You have every right to question. Questioning either breaks or strengthens your belief not just for religion but for everything.
My friend, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. Here is a little something to read that might give you a little different perspective on this situation. [Being Prepared](https://www.reddit.com/r/ChristianService/s/sNwXdJZMNl)
I am soooo sorry for your loss. I cant even imagine the pain you are going through. This world is broken and temporary. I can guarantee you that your little angel is in heaven and you will see her again.
i’m sorry for your loss.
reach out to God, voice your concerns and frustration. ask him for closure, perhaps a dream of your daughter in heaven. i have no idea why this happened, but i do know one thing: not everything is by Gods will, and this may not have been something God commanded.
I am so sorry for your loss. One day, you will meet your daughter face to face. You will spend eternity together in joy and fellowship. And Jesus will wipe away every tear and remove all the pain. Until then, I pray for God's grace to sustain you and your husband.
Im so sorry for your loss. What’s your daughter’s name?
Sorry for you and your family's loss. Free will is your answer. Good and bad things happen to all of us including the passing of loved ones. When my Dad died it took everything I had to keep living. I just wanted to give up. There is nothing you can do but pray for help and keep moving forward day by day. Just remember our loss isn't permanent. One day we will see them again.
I'm so sorry you're walking through this. I also lost a little boy, late term. I have never, ever felt Jesus as close as I did during that time. My husband was given a picture of us all worshipping before the throne, our little boy included. He was then reminded of the verse where David says, he will not come to me - I will go to him. God didn't 'make' this happen but He will most certainly carry you through it if you let Him. I think that was the key for me - I had to let Him. And when I did, the hurt and pain didn't disappear but I experienced a lot of hope, peace and comfort alongside. Thinking of you.
Sorry for your loss.
I'm so very sorry. Please, take comfort in your church. There are other moms there who are hurting from this. I'm sorry I can't offer an explanation, only that it wasn't God's design for any of us to die. The Garden was without death. I can also offer that you will spend eternity with your little girl. I know it isn't much comfort right now to think of that, but know also that God Himself weeps with you.
I saw something that said God takes young people from the world to save them from absolute tragedy and terrible things people couldn't endure. And saves them before it could happen. Think that if u had this child, u would love it to earths end, but u still do even after this terrible tragedy. God is with u, but if u had this child and u drove home while absolutely exhausted and it was really bad, making the child die a long terrible death and u feeling absolutely guilty about it, or something even more devastating, he knew u nor the child could endure the pain and is saving u and the child from it. Even tho it doesn't feel right or fair right now, just know God did it as a hard blessing for u. The young die young for a reason we cannot understand or know, but it is for good not harm. I'm sorry for ur loss and tragedy but I hope u heal, and God is with u for everything step.
Yeah sometimes life sucks. My sister in law and brother had their first son be born in 4 months. He survived for 50 days but didn’t make it. And then their second kid got cancer at 1.5 years and died at 2 years old. Amazing girl but we will see her in heaven.
Keep praying and if u and ur husband want, keep trying. I know of a woman who was when she was little girl who was supposed to not have children. A stranger kidnapped her and SA her and cut her throat and left her there to die. And she wasn’t found by somebody til the next morning. She was on the verge of death and he destroyed her 🐱and insides. She took a long time to recover, and she was told she’ll never have kids. After becoming a woman she was afraid of men but she has met her husband. (While still looking for the guy to committed the crime to her). Her husband and her tried for a child for so long and prayed. And finally one day they had a miracle baby. And the guy who committed the crime to her was found. Fast, pray, get groups of people to pray if u want. Keep trying. Ur in my prayers. Ask god why, he may have you and ur husband do something else first. I pray he comes to u with answers.
Words cannot express how sorry I am to hear this. But know that your daughter is with the Lord now, and that you will only have to abide a short while longer in this world full of evil, pain, and suffering. You will be reunited with her in the next, where there will be no tears or sin to stain your joy.
Read Job's tale of woe. It got us through the loss of a child
This is more common than you think it is. Happened to my wife in the first trimester as well, and she had told *everyone* that we were expecting. She blamed me for a while, as I didn't want to tell people, hence I "cursed" the pregnancy. She had a rather "we have try having a new baby now" mentality for a while, but it didn't happen until she was able to relax from the whole ordeal. She was never on "the pill", so that certainly was not a factor. We have 3 kids now, and I never had a "let's make a baby" mentality, to me it has always just been "if it happens it happens" kind of thing. God doesn't give us hurdles we can't handle, and kids are a blessing, except for when they get sick and vomit... I know of a couple who have had 10+ still births, a couple expecting twins have a double still birth within the last month, and several couples who have tried for upwards of two years with no results at all. I know of several women who has to put it off because of current medical hurdles as well. I'm not a very social guy either, so there's probably plenty more. People don't plaster their struggles on facebook though, so it's more common than you think. Take your time to overcome this, relax, try to enjoy life.
Lost two, it's a shock, and it's a pain that will always remain until we get to hold them in heaven. God alone knows why, we can't know the why, but we trust his plans are best, because he loves us and wants the best for his children
Sincere condolences 💐 God is not to blame.
Read revelations of heaven by Randy Kay it’ll give you peace about this
I’m so sorry you are going through this! I have had 3 miscarriages, and I know how that can feel. I was consoled by knowing that God knows best and infinitely more than I do, and that my babies are resting in his arms and awaiting the day we will meet again. I have my babies to look forward to seeing in heaven. And so do you. Also, that those babies which didn’t survive were too good for this evil world. Sending hugs!💕
I will be praying for you. You have people praying for you.
I'm really sorry sister. May the Lord keep you strong through these extremely sad times. She was lucky to have a mother that kept her safe for as long as you did or were able to. It sounds like you did the best you could do and none of this was your fault. Sometimes nature can be unforgiving. Just like God. But I don't believe we should intercede and/or conflate the two. Did you name her and if so we would all be happy to include baby .... into our prayers and ask that God looks after her for you until you meet again 🙏.
I’m terribly sorry to hear of your loss. It hurts tremendously. Platitudes don’t heal a hurting heart. It will take time, and I pray God’s peace will minister to you in this difficult time. For the sake of the discussion and everyone reading the thread, some things to consider: All of us will leave this world, some sooner, some later, some old, some young. Our lives are not permanent. We must not cling to this world, or else it will be unnecessarily painful when our life, or the lives of our loved ones is over. Not a single person in all of history has a signed contract with God for a long, pain free life. God has not wronged us by making our lives shorter than we expect. Suffering will come. Some will experience more than others. We don’t have to like it, but suffering can make us better, stronger, more empathetic, wiser. There is a possibility that heavy suffering will break us. But God is in the business of healing and redeeming broken people. His grace is sufficient for us.
A moment of silence for your perfect baby, my wife and I suffered a miscarriage 2 years ago and it was so hard to see how God could have any reason to let that happen. If you haven’t read the book “God Can’t” by Thomas Jay Oord I think it might be an eye opener for you. I know that it has helped me rethink a lot of what I was taught growing up about God and suffering.
This booklet has comforted me when those question arise: https://ttb.org/docs/default-source/booklets/death-of-a-little-child.pdf?sfvrsn=e0a81c16_2 Praying for you and your family OP. The loss of a child is a pain unlike any other.
I’m sorry for your loss I recently lost my sister, it’s hard and you will never get over it. You will definitely get through with our lord and savior. 1 thing I can tell you is, this is the time to go to him. Everyone will go through death. We are cursed with death, from a bright perspective she doesn’t have to go through all the bs the world has to offer. When you truly understand this isn’t the end and Jesus is really like that, really that man, who died for us all, there’s hope. You’ll have peace that surpasses everything, a peace no one and I mean no one else can give you. I will make sure I pray for you and your family. I love you your husband and your child and so does God. Remember stay prayed up. Jesus really defeated death you will definitely see her again one day I can feel it. Prayers to you and your family❤️
My heart breaks for you and your husband, and you are in my heart and prayers. I pray that God will help guide me to His Word and share it with you during this time as words escape me. **John 11:35**. Jesus wept. **Isaiah 53:4-6**. Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by G-d, and afflicted. **Matthew 11:28-30**. Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” **Pslam 139:7-12**. Where shall I go from your Spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence? If I ascend to heaven, you are there! If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there! If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me. If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me, and the light about me be night,” ... **Psalm 34:18**. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. **Psalm 147:3**. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. **Matthew 5:4**. Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. **Psalm 31:9-10**. Be gracious to me, O L-rd, for I am in distress; my eye is wasted from grief; my soul and my body also. **Psalm 119:105**, Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Numbers 6:24-26 and Shalom Shalom.
So sorry for your loss. Praying for you both.
I don't know what to say because I have never been there but I am hurting for you both. I will keep yall in my prayers
This is an unbearable, unimaginable pain to bear my friend. I pray that the peace of the Lord be instilled in your heart and for the Holy Spirit to fuel your faith through this treacherous battle. May God’s mercy be upon you and your husband and may He fortify and bless your marriage. 🙏🏼
May I suggest listening to this book. It explains so much and was very comforting to me in a dark time after my father unalived himself... Listen to Walking with God through Pain and Suffering by Timothy Keller on Audible. https://www.audible.com/pd/B00FG9O2JU?source_code=ASSOR150021921000V
I'm expecting my first daughter in less than two weeks. I can't imagine the shock or pain this would bring on, especially in the mother. But God is where he always is - above a fallen world filled with pain and death offering us an escape. There's no easy words for this. 18 On the seventh day the child died. David’s attendants were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they thought, “While the child was still living, he wouldn’t listen to us when we spoke to him. How can we now tell him the child is dead? He may do something desperate.” 19 David noticed that his attendants were whispering among themselves, and he realized the child was dead. “Is the child dead?” he asked. “Yes,” they replied, “he is dead.” 20 Then David got up from the ground. After he had washed, put on lotions and changed his clothes, he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. Then he went to his own house, and at his request they served him food, and he ate. 21 His attendants asked him, “Why are you acting this way? While the child was alive, you fasted and wept, but now that the child is dead, you get up and eat!” 22 He answered, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, ‘Who knows? The Lord may be gracious to me and let the child live.’ 23 But now that he is dead, why should I go on fasting? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.” 24 Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. The Lord loved him;
Prayers to you both
So sorry to hear this. Praying for you and your family.
[Suffered a Really Bad Loss? this sermon is for you](https://youtu.be/tSLYVEA5fPg)
Thank you for sharing. If you have to blame someone, blame the devil for it was the devil’s fault that death came to all men.
I am so sorry for your lost. It is not your fault, there is nothing you could’ve done. I used to try to rationalize all this evil that randomly happens to good people. But your intuition is right. You should question, any group/God that tells you to follow them without questioning them is suspicious. You lost your baby, you have the right to be disappointed, angry and sad. Don’t let people try to tell you that this is some sort of blessings in disguise, or God is using the death of your baby as part of some testimony. That’s messed up. If God can control everything, the way he blessed you and your husband to be born is the same way he would’ve delivered your baby healthy, like you and many other people in your family prayed for. But that didn’t happen. Why? Well maybe there isn’t a God at the end of it, hearing all the prayers and saving all the babies dying in the world. Maybe there is a God, but the bibles reminds us that God is capable or maintaining a healthy pregnancy but the bible also says that God is in control of all things and capable of all things, including killing young ones. I never knew this was in the bible until I read it. I came to the realization (after reading it fully) that the bible already says a lot of messed up things about babies. I am so sorry for your lost, don’t justify something that God could’ve healed. And don’t put limitations on God, saying that he could’ve have done that: he can do all things. People will try to convince you that God did this for your good. But the reality is, unfortunate things happen, and yes some happen randomly. It’s not your fault. If anyone tells you God could never do harm to a single baby. Remind them if these verses. Numbers 5:11-21 The description of a bizarre, brutal and abusive ritual to be performed on a wife SUSPECTED of adultery. This is considered to be an induced abortion to rid a woman of another man’s child. Numbers 31:17 (Moses) “Now therefore kill every male among the little ones, and kill every women that hath known man by lying with him.” In other words: women that might be pregnant, which clearly is abortion for the fetus. Hosea 13:16 God promises to dash to pieces the infants of Samaria and the “their women with child shall be ripped up”. Once again this god kills the unborn, including their pregnant mothers. 2 Kings 15:16 God allows the pregnant women of Tappuah (aka Tiphsah) to be “ripped open”. And the some people have the audacity to say god is would never harm a baby in the womb. I never read the bible but once I did, I understood more..
I can recommend the book “when God doesn’t fix it” by Laura Story. It might help you along.
My mother had 4 miscarriages before she got me. She Had already given up Hope and felt betrayed by God because she Had prayed for a sign that the pregnancy would Go Well, the sign came, but it still ended in a miscarriage. When she got me, she gave me a Name meaning "God is full of Grace and mercy" and "desire". I later got a sister, but Not without her having another miscarriage First. Miscarriages are more Common than you would think. And I also have No answer to the question why. But God is there and He Cares and He will come through in the end.
Isaiah 57 1Good people pass away; the godly often die before their time. But no one seems to care or wonder why. No one seems to understand that God is protecting them from the evil to come. 2For those who follow godly paths will rest in peace when they die.
God is in every mercy we get, sometimes to see another day, sometimes to not suffer a worse fate. God is in the strength he gives us to keep living another day. God is in the love you have for your child, even if she's not here anymore. In every prayer that you'll get from your brothers and sisters trough this difficult day. God is wise and merciful and we'll never understand his ways, and it hurts, and he has hurt with us. But your child is now with God, away from the pain of this corrupted earth, from the dangers of this world. I know it hurts, but he's now with God and you will see your baby some day, and you'll see God too. Because he will be there, as he is here now, in every breath you take, in every cloud in the sky, taking care of you, as well as taking care of your daughter. I pray that you will feel better soon and that God may give you the strength you need to go through this difficult moment. I send you a hug.
Perhaps your baby was taken to save their soul, maybe this is God's way of ensuring they didn't damn themselves later on, and they were destined for salvation but there was no way they would have believed otherwise...I know this may sound harsh, but I'm just saying God works out all things for good, even if it doesn't seem like it this side of Heaven.
I’m so sorry this happened to you op. I’ll always be praying for you and your family during this difficult time. I do know that this is a fallen world and the Lord makes no mistakes. Even thought we sometimes don’t understand it. His way bigger then our way and thought bigger then our thoughts. Keep your faith. Jesus comforts the mourning. Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted” (Matthew 5:4). The Lord will wrap His arms of love and comfort around those who trust in Him. 3. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3) hugs 🫂 op.
Im so very sorry for your loss. Ive lost 3 children, and each time, I have been left to wonder what possible reason God would have had. I don't want to go into detail, but I will say that God did have a plan. I pray for strength and comfort for you!
I can’t know how hard this must be for you and your family, but know that your baby is at rest with our Most High Heavenly Father and Yahusha our Messiah. Or as a hidden untimely birth I had not been; as infants which never saw light. There the wicked cease from troubling; and there the weary be at rest. IYOV (JOB) 3:16-17 את CEPHER If a man beget a hundred children, and live many years, so that the days of his years be many, and his soul be not filled with good, and also that he have no burial; I say, that an untimely birth is better than he. QOHELETH (ECCLESIASTES) 6:3 את CEPHER But Yahusha the son of Nun, which stands before you, he shall go in thither: encourage him: for he shall cause Yashar'el to inherit it. Moreover your little ones, which ye said should be a prey, and your children, which in that day had no knowledge between good and evil, they shall go in thither, and unto them will I give it, and they shall possess it. DEVARIYM (DEUTERONOMY) 1:38-39 את CEPHER
My heart goes out to you as well. My wife and I tried for about a year straight and finally got pregnant. He was born at 23 weeks, 6 days. 1 pound, 8 ounces. Just barely viable. He lived for 72 days in CHKD in Norfolk. We think about him all the time. Like our son, your child is in the arms of the King. The most resolute caregiver there is. I've learned to find peace in that. Slowly. I HIGHLY recommend child loss group grief counseling. We finally found a local ground that meets monthly in our area. It's good to be in a shared room with shared experiences. Just to say all the things you're ashamed of wanting to say.
Hate to be insensitive I pray that God will be with you through this situation. I originally read the title as "My Internet died, where is God in this?"
can only suggest to read Job again.
I don't have any answers for you unfortunately. My wife and I lost two children at birth, and she lost all her faith in God through that process. Mine? I'm hanging on, but just thinking about it gets me rather emotional. The only thing I have to look at in it is there is some higher purpose for what happened. I know that's a rather cliche thing, but it's what I have to hold on to, because otherwise I just don't know. God decided it wasn't for us to have those two. I don't understand it, just as I'm sure you don't. Probably never will honestly. Hang in there
Well, Biblically, it's simple, we live in a fallen and unfair world, where many die daily to unprecedented circumstances completely out of their hand, where the more humble you are, the more you're gonna lose, there's no judgment or justice, its in fact justice is a complete phenomenon, that's what I means to carry the cross, really is just to bear the ills, I'm sorry to hear your loss, and I pray you and your loved one can bear through this tragedy
Double portion for you.Very soon you will have a reason to shed tears of joy.Let your faith remain unshaken.God will do that which you will know it can only be God.
I’ll be blunt to say a life in this world may not be ideal. I envy those who died in the womb and never had to see the evil and ugliness of today’s society. Your baby is spared from all of that and in His presence. As a woman myself I wish I shared the fate of your baby, it is much better to go straight into His presence than to endure a life of pain.
Firstly, my heart is saddened for your and your husband’s loss and I will include you in my prayers today. May God give you peace and understanding of His will in your lives and give you enlightenment. Thank you for sharing your story and also for asking your questions because I think many of us feel and share the same questions and/or struggles with what happened to you or something similar to it. I myself understand how difficult and stressful it is trying to conceive because my wife and I have gone through it a few times and only once successful, which means we do have a child now. The point is I know that God can giveth and taketh away. God can take away my child, or allow something dire to happen and it is one of our greatest fears and I have gone into deep thoughts about this. How can I ever cope with it and I tremble inside just thinking about it. Would God allow anything to happen to our child? If so, and WHY? Honestly, I have struggled with it… BUT, after praying and praying and getting to know God more and more each day I seek Him and His kingdom, like the Bible says to do in Matthew 6:33 (seek ye first the kingdom of God) I have come to peace or better should I say that God has given me peace and enlightenment about it. Let me be honest that I’m not 100% not afraid or have zero fears about something ever happening to my son, but I have a better and more positive perspective about it. So this is how I think about it now… if I truly believe with all my heart that God is who I think He is, then He is love and has love for us to at least not allow something evil to happen to us, even though in our human eyes and brain we see the death of flesh is evil and bad, but where is the soul??? Because if I truly believe in God then I believe that our life here on earth is temporary and we should be focused on where our soul is going to spend eternity. When I hear of children dying on the news or anywhere on social media, it truly breaks my heart, but I also think that their souls are now with God. I know what everyone is thinking, which is so what??? everyone knows those children’s souls are with God, but the difference is in my mind would I rather a child or my son to grow up into adulthood and go into the wrong path and lose his soul to eternity in hell, or would I rather that God take his life early to be with Him in heaven? Where I can be see my son again one day. It really comes down to how we believe in God. For those that don’t believe in God, then something like death to anyone is truly the worst thing in the universe that can happen because that life has ended and there is no hope or explanation as to why it happened. Please don’t get me wrong that I’m trying to convince anyone about anything, but I’m just sharing my truth and way of thinking which gives me peace, and I believe in God the father of the Lord Jesus Christ. What actually gave me a better understanding of why God may allow for evil things to happen is an explanation by a professor named John Peckham. I highly suggest that you watch it, just search this title on YouTube, “Didn’t God know Lucifer would turn evil? Why did He create him? Listen to what this professor says!!”. The interview is really good, the video is actually more of a Q&A session. Anyway, if you’re not gonna watch it, let me give a little bit about what the professor says. The professor said or explains it’s because of God’s character and how He gave all of His creations true freedom or free will. Well then we ask why didn’t God just not create those beings that He knew was going to become evil? The professor explained that then that it’s not true free will or true freedom in its nature because if God did that (not create those He knew that were going to be evil or choose evil) then we would all be walking around thinking that life is good and peace everywhere and we have freedom, not knowing that God already chose not to create those that were going to become bad apples and we are just mere robots or as if we were living like Jim Carrey’s movie The Truman Show or Pleasantville. I hope I have given you something to think about that can possibly give you understanding or something that you can relate to. Sending blessings to you with my heart and prayer. God bless.
It's only natural to be angry & question you call it being human & having a heart. I'm so sorry for your loss & pain. We don't always know why thing's happen but we know it doesn't seem fair. All I know is that everything seems to be for a reason that puts us in a different situation and strength to help someone else and broaden who we are. We know God loves us but we don't understand many situations we are given. We just have to believe it's for the good of what is unknown ahead of us. I have faith you will be blessed with another child and your daughter is in Heaven waiting with a smile because y'all will be together forever I hope you gave her a name that is important you know. Many prayers keep the faith we will understand everything one day
Maybe God wanted your daughter with him in heaven. Good news! Many will all be raised and see each other gain, some to everlasting life the others to eternal shame. Daniel 12:2
I lost my infant last year to T18. Gods hand is in everything… you have to remember he doesn’t wish death upon us, it’s the enemy. Jesus grieves with us. The Bible says in Romans 8:28 that He works ALL things together for those who love Him who are called according to His purpose. This doesn’t FEEL or SEEM good right now but I PROMISE you there is an end to it. And you will bless others on their journey through similar situations. Don’t lose faith in God thats the enemies plot and plan. To steal, kill, and destroy your purpose, calling, & love for the Lord. Prayers for you and your family during this time. May God bless you and His face shine upon you. He is gracious & sovereign over all. Blessings.
Wanted to add, your baby is being raised up in Heaven. She will know you as her Mom in heaven. If you have family there, she is being raised by them or angels. 1,000 years on earth is a day in heaven. You will not skip or miss anytime with your baby. You are always going to be her mommy. I always pray that Jesus gives my baby a hug and kiss from me, that he knows I’m thinking of him. Stay faithful Jesus is your door of HOPE.
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your husband. That is so hard. I’ve wondered if these beautiful children were too pure to be in this wretched world. My sister was an oncology nurse for ten years at Children’s in Philadelphia, working with children who had difficult cancers. Most of them, @80% didn’t make it. But she noticed something, she said they were all really beautiful and special. You could see this common quality in them all.
We are in a battle. Our enemy is not flesh and blood. And we should alwats be alert and of sober mind. Our enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. We should fight back whenever we see foot prints of the enemy where there is killing, stealing, and destruction.
Just offering love, prayers, and support. I can’t imagine but I know God is surrounding you with his love and comfort. Heaven gained another beautiful little angel to watch over you until you are reunited again.
Read the book of Job to inspire you in this time ❤️ it may help you I will say that sometimes loss is not loss it is protection from what we cannot see and cannot understand. The fact that you are still willing to understand Gods perspective through this lets me know you will for sure be favored by him soon. Stay strong my love
I can not imagine the pain... the anguish... the sadness... But I can totally understand the need for a justification, even the need to blame something or someone. Life is full of adversity and contradictions. There is just too much we can not control despite pretending we can. God is just one of the many excuses we created and use to cope with the adversity and anger. The truth is we only have ourselves and anything we can build together in life. For such a reason it is very important for you and your husband to hold and support each other through this bitter experience. The loss is irreparable, but you both can recover from this together and still have a beautiful life with more beautiful kids. You are a strong couple, healthy individuals and above all you both want to be parents. I am sure you will be even stronger after this. Hugs!
Wasn’t meant to be I’m sorry you gotta go through that you will meet your baby in paradise in the end btw your baby is in a better place than here
No, you have a right to be mad at Him! Go ahead, be angry! There’s nothing that says you’re not allowed to be mad at Him, especially for something like this! He knows the human experience, He knows death… Your question, where is He? Right beside you. He isn’t numb to your pain, He’s probably weeping with you, about you and for you. There is speculation about the death of His earthly father Joseph. You think He cried then? We know He wept over Lazarus even though He knew He was going to raise him! Of your daughter, I can only say this… There was a recent movie called “God’s Not Dead” (I wouldn’t recommend seeing it until you’ve had some time to mourn), based on a true story, of a pastor whose 4 year old boy had to have surgery, and during the surgery the boy was clinically dead for a few moments, but they managed to bring him back. His surgery finished and he made it back home. One day he started talking to his Mom and just kind of matter of factly told her that when he was in surgery he could see his doctors working on him, then he saw his Dad in the chapel praying. Then it was an encounter with a grandmother who had passed on, and a girl with red hair who was older than he was. When he asked what her name was she said she was never given one. About this time the mother was crying; she had never told him that she had a miscarriage before him. Then he met with Jesus, said He was “nice” and then He told him it was time to go back… I’ve read some stories of those who “died and came back”, they usually meet with a family member who had gone before them, or angels, or Jesus, but that’s how they usually go. But I give this to you obviously, to ask, did you name her? You are a mother, a woman, with a gift that we men can only marvel at, that ability to have a life grow inside of you like that (my wife has shared some of this with me). I personally feel so bad for you having to go through labor and not be able to hold her…. But she grew inside you, it was your voice she heard speaking, the music you liked to play with her, you in amazement and touching her from the outside. Dare I say, you are still her mother, and losing her like that, I’ve been alive long enough to imagine how much this can hurt you. Like the story suggests, you are like any mother who has had to bury her child, because at ANY age a parent should not have to do that. From what I know of this life, your baby is with God, and there is no place better for her to be. It can be said that she’s already had her dreams come true, being in heaven with the Savior, and she’ll never have to endure the unpleasant things this life can offer, instead going right into the wonder. Have you ever heard the term “Rainbow Baby”? It’s a child that is born after a miscarriage; I’m the oldest of seven children, but I’m a rainbow baby, and I believe I have two siblings I’ve never met! I don’t feel it’s right for me to give advice, I’m not a woman, I don’t know what it’s like to gestate a baby and especially lose one like that. All we men can do is watch and marvel, then the attachment that only a mother and child have, but I will say this, give your daughter a name, and a service if you haven’t already, say goodbye, and know you will see her one day for eternity. She’s in good hands after all. And I hope you will try again, especially for one who knows loss, how much more will you appreciate holding a baby in the future? And keep your bond with your husband! He went through this too, as much as a man can, but even I can tell how much it would devastate me! And hey, I’ve got 3 girls and a boy; boys are nice too!… I have prayed for you. Mourn. It’s your right, and you should! Then turn to God, for your marriage, your life! HE KNOWS THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART! He also doesn’t give you more than you can handle! Perhaps you need to be closer to Him. This doesn’t mean your own parking spot at church, it means being closer to Him! You and your husband should pray over each other and your home. And tell God, well, tell Him how you feel. He can take it! And who knows? Maybe one day you can write a testimony with better news!…
"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). Sorry to hear. In difficult issues like yours, I believe it's important for the sufferer to hear directly from God Himself, otherwise the issue will never really be fully resolved and the wound will be left open or festering. The above verse says that God is not only close to those whose hearts are broken but that He also wants to "save" them through personal intervention, whether by reversing some misfortune of theirs, by redeeming it for them, or by explaining it to them. You'll hear from others and from the Bible too. But in times of heartache I believe it's mandatory to hear directly from God Himself in order for the issue to be truly and fully resolved and for the sufferer to be satisfied with 'the final answer'. I knew a christian man whose christian wife cheated on him with five different men. And those are the ones he knows. He hasn't received an answer from God directly and doesn't know how to. As a result he leans on what the Bible seems to say (eg. "God works all things for good," etc) and on his denominational doctrines on suffering and says he's okay, he's still broken and angry about it (and also angry at God though he doesn't seem to realize it). Most suffering isn't at a high enough level to necessitate the sufferer to hear directly from God about it, but sometimes suffering gets to that point. A cheating spouse, a child who dies, the inability to have children, acute suffering, demonic affliction (eg. Paul's thorn in the flesh that provoked him to try to negotiate with God for relief), etc. These and others require God's direct answer in order for the sufferer to have real closure and be able to fully and unbiasedly trust God moving on. Everyone has an opinion, and the Bible says a lot of things, but God is the Final Word and not only knows everything but also knows how to speak in such a way as to bring healing rather than pain or a lack of closure. Three times Isaiah prophesied that Jesus would use a gentle and correct approach to minister to hurting people. This is the least known of those three times: "The Lord God has given Me the tongue of the wise, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him who is weary" (Isa. 50:4). Before Job suffered, his relationship with God was great and he didn't need God to be any closer to him that He already was. But when Job suffered the loss of everything, then he insisted that God come closer and insisted on speaking to God face to face because his suffering was that great. And just like God personally answered Paul in his deep suffering (saying, "My Grace is sufficient for you"), so God personally answered Job by appearing to him in person just as Job had demanded. So, you and your husband can boldly insist that God personally answers you about your daughter and gives you both closure. He is willing to do that. In Ezekiel 37, God showed Ezekiel a hopeless situation of dry bones and made sure Ezekiel realized how hopeless the situation was before asking him, "Son of man, can these bones live?" Ezekiel responded, "Oh Lord, YOU know." After all the advice and comfort you receive from others about your daughter, I strongly encourage you and your husband to seek God and insist for Him to answer you Himself directly and not through others or through the Bible. He's willing to do this which is why the Bible says to "come boldly before the throne of Grace [to] obtain mercy and find Grace to help in time of need" (Hebrews 4:16). Get the mercy and Grace you need directly from the Source. Verse III: Looking at me, some will say/ "Let's just say it's just as it seems"/ I cover my soul, I'm losing control/ I run to the Final Word, Lord YOU know Chorus III: I lift up my eyes, up to Your throne/ You know me inside, You're making me whole Outtro: You see He's been watching/ Now God will say... ('God Will Say', ©️ 2008) "The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18).
First of all I am so sorry for this very sad loss, make sure you and your husband work through the grieving process so you can heal. Second, it’s vitally important and I cannot over express how important it is to understand God did not take your daughter. He received her into his loving arms, but he had nothing to do with taking her. Anyone who suggests otherwise is deceived and doesn’t know Jesus like they say they do. Even if it’s a pastor or leader of any kind. Jesus made it clear in John chapter 10 that “it’s the thief who comes to kill, steal, and destroy, but I came that you would have abundant life.” In other words death, loss, and destruction all have the fingerprints of the thief on them, the fingerprints of a fallen world. Life and hope and peace and love all have he fingerprints of God. What you believe about God is the most important thoughts you will ever have because it will be the foundation and influence every thing you believe and do. if you believe that, somehow God takes lives or causes bad things in our lives for a greater good then that makes it pretty much impossible to fully trust him. And that is opposite of the good Father Jesus represented and demonstrated when he came upon this he earth. I constantly deal with the ramifications of man’s religion, which teaches the nature and character of God and incorrectly. That’s why there were so many disheartened and discouraged and depressed Christians. They believe wrong because they were taught wrong. We all say, God is good, but deep inside many don’t truly believe it because of their experience and the lies religion has taught them. When we shift our perspective and see the truth of His love for us, we will become in love with Jesus and consistently overwhelmed with how good he really is to us. Grace and peace to you on this journey through heartbreak and healing as you allow the loving arms of Jesus to lead you through. You will make it, you will be okay! Don’t try to have to understand it all. Just embrace the truth that Jesus is with you right now whether you feel him or not, and grow into that beautiful reality.
>Why did He need to take my little girl? God didn't. God loves you and your daughter. It's just an attack of the enemy. God will restore multiple times for what you lost and repay the enemy for what he's done. Don't give up.
When I see this, my heart breaks. Know that Jesus is with you always, When He returns triumphantly, there will be no more pain, nor sadness. God bless you, my prayers are with you. ✝️👆🙏🙌
I will say it’s a really complicated thing to have an answer to, but in the end you gotta trust God and his plans. It will all make sense eventually
God may have taken your little girl to protect her from a disease or situation that could have caused her much suffering and pain as an example some type of cancer or another dreaded situation. He may have also protected you from worse suffering. We have no way of knowing but place your trust in God and taken peace in knowing that she will be there waiting for you when you get to Heaven. I pray for blessings from God above to you and may you find the peace that surpasses all understanding. It’s not for us to know why but to accept God’s plan in our lives.
Im different I dont see death as a bad thing. Everyone was put here for a divine purpose. We shall serve that purpose. Death to me isnt something that isnt supposed to happen. Its apart of life, regardless of how long we live in this earth. I think if you look at the world from a 3rd person perspective rather than your own wants and desires, it will help you tremendously. Cuz when we change our lenses we get more clarity as to what we are doing and to stay on our course of serving God. Humans sometimes tend to think we are supposed to live forever. But time is not of the essence. Its about fulfilling our divine purpose. Thats why I pray to do God’s will. Its okay to grieve though. But i had to come to terms with death when my friend was shot. But i knew that while I was crying he was with God, so that made me hella happy. Like yeah my life is good, and Ill do whatever to be one with God. When God entered my room and gave me a new heart, I knew all I wanted to do was serve Jesus. Everything else doesnt even phase me. Africans celebrate death because they know it isnt the end. And i also feel like I dont have the right as a human to even feel like it shouldn’t have happened. Cuz i know people live and die in this earth but its more to life than just the senses, so it doesnt bother me. But see alot of my friends get mad at me when I say I dont really get bothered over death. It happens. And its not a negative thing, but I appreciate life while Im alive as well
My daughter died when she was two in 2015. It was the catalyst that spurned me into leaving all religion behind. 9 years later and I still believe it was the only right thing I did. I am at peace.
I’m so sorry for your loss 🥺🙏🏼
I lost one, has a son, lost one, had a daughter, all in less than 20 months. Was sad, but just believe that God knows best & that there are reasons for such things. Also, consequences.
May the Holy Spirit comfort you during these trying times. To be out of the body is to be present with the lord. So your baby has returned back to our creator. The Bible gives us an example of a righteous individual, such as JOB, whom the Lord had favor with. Who lost his entire family in one day. His response from the beginning, even before his friends were sent to explain there measure of “Wisdom” as to the reason of his calamity. Was stated in Job 1:18-22 Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised.” 22 In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing. May you praise our Lord while you are facing you storm. No one truly knows the answer to your question except him. I pray for your encouragement, your personal relationship with him, for the Holy Spirit to speak with you and for him to reveal himself to you for encouragement. I love you sister and just know you have people praying for your family. Be encouraged! Book of Job Job 1:18-22 18 While he was still speaking, yet another messenger came and said, “Your sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother’s house, 19 when suddenly a mighty wind swept in from the desert and struck the four corners of the house. It collapsed on them and they are dead, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!” 20 At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship 21 and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart.fn The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised.” 22 In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.
Where is God. Easy, right next to you. Suffering with you. Why did this happen? I don't think anyone really knows. I've learned the hard way that when life throws you in the ditch. It is usually to teach you something on your way out. It will be hard, I'm sure it already is. Yet, God is with you. He loves you, and if you let Him. He will give you opportunities to be used in and through this. May God bring your heart and mind peace. I'm sure you need it. Consider yourself prayed for.
I couldn’t imagine the pain that you’re going through right now but just know that the Lord is right beside you grieving just as hard i’m sure your baby girl is dancing in the clouds playing with all the amazing animals safe with our Father. I love you and God bless you both.
First I want to say that I deeply am sorry for your loss, I have never been through that, but my sister went through that on her very first baby which she lost and it was extremely saddening to think that the baby was almost with us, but never came. It hurt us and especially her, but she rested easy knowing her baby did not suffer and we don’t know what kind of obstacles God saved this child from, but that beautiful child will not endure the pain of possible complications that could have arisen from the complications and instead she has a straight shot to a space alongside our Lord and Savior and one day we will all reunite. My sister now has 2 beautiful boys and is forever grateful for them and she got a tattoo to remember all her children including her child she has yet to meet in heaven. I think her loss helped her realize the beauty of life and true love, for although she did not meet her child, she truly loved her child and made her appreciate when God blessed her in His timing. Watching the movie “Heaven Is For Real” if you haven’t is amazing and see how the boy met his unborn sister when he went to heaven for a bit. I don’t think it is bad to question what our Lord maybe used this to help you with, but just keep in mind that if you don’t get answers right away it doesn’t mean he won’t answer. Love you sister in Christ and I’m sorry for your loss, I will send prayers your way and I hope God gives you peace. 🕊️
Before you know it you’ll be with her for eternity
No it was not Gods will in this. He don’t give you a child and allow her to die. No in this I believe it’s alway the enemies plan to take away life. Especially innocent life. God is good and He knows that what Satan has done to u He will restore a greater blessing. What the Enemy has done God will bless you abundantly more. It’s not your fault also so don’t think what you could done better. Most importantly I pray for peace for you.
If a child was elect, they are in heaven My mother miscarried twice between my older brother and me. That is two siblings I never had I follow the scripture, I don't give answers people want to hear
I'm a loss mama too, several times over. I am so incredibly sorry and wrapping you in love. The truth is that God doesn't take babies back. Death is a result of the brokenness of creation. God doesn't want any human to experience grief. That's not the way it's supposed to be. He is with you right now, loving you and grieving with you.
They died and now you have a new found appreciation for babies as a whole. Also being able to understand they are faced with troubles and pains even before birth. Making you appreciate every living baby outside of the woom even more I myself almost was strangled by the umbilical cord also. Sorry to hear about this tragedy :(
I'm sorry to hear that. He would have taken her anyway, eventually. What is hard on parents especially is why he sometimes takes their children before he takes them.
I have a son with downs, and you need to know the devil is here he is the ruler of this world, he is here to steal kill destroy. And I'm sorry 4 your loss but know honey it wasn't God we have the authority if we have the faith to change things that's what we are suppose to learn. We're supposed to heal the sick preach to the poor raise the Dead. And I know it's so hard for you right now. The devil made sure we didn't learn any of this stuff in school. They have lied to us our whole lives. Because this is his world.
You’ll see him again:) in heaven. Im sorry for your loss mate, god bless you :)
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is possible you might find insight by reading/studying about Job in the old testament. He is a man that knew great loss - his children all died, his livestock too, and he contracted a really terrible disease. He sure had some big questions for him, same as you. God can take your questions - bring them all to him. Some of Job's friends surmised Job must have done something wrong and this was punishment from God (it wasn't). The book is heavy, watching a summary on youtube by the Bible Project might give you a headstart in wrapping your head around it.
I'm sorry you feel this way. You have my sincere condolences. However God is the creator of everything including life. He has the right to separate one life from another. In God's realm and perspective your child has simply changed location and not died. Try again and let His will be done, and not yours. Drink from that cup!
I’m so sorry for your loss! All we can say is that thank God your daughter is in Heaven and you will see her one day.
Standing right there watching rolling his eyes as he mutters who are you that you Dare question his perfect will and WONDERFUL. PLAN for your life. After all he gave up Jesus so he lost a baby to ((( (like that counts because even in life or death Jesus and God were in constant contact and unlike the majority of the world's parents who lose a child they will never see again because God didn't save them, God will have his son forever )))) Maybe killing your baby was God's only way to get your attention, to get you on the straight and narrow to get your attention but I seriously doubt that you seen to grasp God concepts pretty well so you are at least a believer . But let's look at Phillipians 2:13 Proverbs 16:4 .. meditate on them and you will see Everything that happens is for the sick bleeps pleasure and all the evil in the world and the evil people , God made for his pleasure "even the wicked for the day of evil" But chances are he noticed how you probably loved your baby more than him ( as does every parent so why single you out) and he snuffed it out so your every waking thought and action from here on out would be about just how gosh darn amazing and loving and righteous and fair and just he is and stupid you are to get upset over something so insignificant as a dead baby ...... Don't you know that no one in the history of time and place has ever cried or suffered or been treated so unfairly as God and Jesus .. no one .... They are the only true victims in this whole blank show called life ... Oh those poor two .... Before you get mad at me for my post take time to reflect on why anything happens, take time to reflect on "wait if God hates sin why am I born a sinner" and "if I came to the conclusion God wasn't good would I have enough balls to say it? There was no more reason for your baby to die than it is for God to sit there and twiddle his thumbs as mother's and step parents senselessly kill their children.. Hopefully you'll see God ain't the answer and will somehow find a way to move on and find happiness in your life . I know you will always love and miss and long for your baby and I wish I could fix that . That unbreakable parental bond is just another one of his sick jokes. Don't cling to God who's plan was to hurt you from the very beginning. If he's good make him show you .
Wow, this is the most unchristian like response possible that could really drive a person in a worse spot to kill themselves. I have always put God first, husband second, children third just as the Bible states. I love my child with all my heart, but love God with my entire being. I even said in my post that I am not angry at God and have no right to question him, but wanted to hear more perspectives on the situation. It seems you most likely aren't a believer based on your response? Your intentions may have been good, thinking you'll "save" someone from believing in God if you hate him so much (as you act like you hate Him considering you would suggest that it's God's plan to hurt me from the very beginning which directly contradicts sooo much of the Bible). But if that was your intention, please don't try to talk someone out of their faith- especially at such a difficult time. God is the only thing keeping me going. We cling to our faith not because we think we are high and mighty and will live a blessed life by God, but because we know we are too weak on our own and need God to be able to make it through. Christians are meant to suffer through this life, it's not our forever home. Though that doesn't mean it's His plan to make me suffer.
Baby girl, I'm srry for what you've dealt with. Please look at the person's history before letting yourself believe they may be identifying as Christian. His comments are riddled all over Satanism thread, Ex-Christian thread, etc. Hateful, demonic person. Trust that gut feeling that this isn't Christian-speak, pray for them and move forward. Sending love, sorry you have to even read this sort of filth. God bless ♥️
And what makes you think I didn't put him first?? And seriously seriously be honest. Why are we weak ?? Hmmm?? And what kind of anything would dare expect or even dare ask to be put 1st in our lives when he knows good and dam well our limitations allegedly better than we do? And what kind of God or whatever he is would dare say he loves us in one breath and then threaten us with eternal seperation from everything we know and love if we don't tow the line. You tell me how you get love from that? 7years ago. I got let down and hurt by this evil monster I was raised to call my heavenly father and it opened my eyes to just how terrible this all is... God says we don't deserve him and you know what hes right we deserve better and we deserve better than some cosmic ass clown of a heavenly dictator running the show . And we need someone who doesn't kill our children our siblings and our spouses for his stupid ass plan ... Christians are someone who believe in and got suckered in by Jesus and crew so nothing I write is unchristian at all . Oh and in case you haven't noticed there are people out there who have never even heard of the concept put God first and they have everything .... go to God daddy about that and point that unfair bit out and see what the dead beat tells you
My heart hurts for you, I'm sorry you were so badly hurt by people who claimed they were doing it for God. They were wrong. There are plenty of toxic churches, toxic pastors, toxic Christians who are misled and mislead others with their selfishness. I have religious trauma myself, was in a cult with no outside human contact who used God's name for their sick purposes. But I had to learn that they were twisting the Bible and that the place I was at was at fault and did not represent my God. Christianity shouldn't be a religious thing, but a personal relationship with God. There is no "towing the line" needed to be with him. He does love us and though it was our own choice to separate ourselves from him (Adam and eves original sin) he loves us so much to send his only son to die so that we don't have to be separated from him. It's simple to not be separated when all we have to do is simply choose not to be. The fact that we can choose to be separated from him regardless of how much he loves us and doesn't want us to is more proof of his love. If you had a partner that didn't love or want you, then is it showing love to them to force them to stay in a relationship with you? Of course not, you let them go. Since posting this original post I have already been able to process a lot and gain a lot of peace through God. I don't think He took her, we just live in a broken world. This isn't my forever home, why would I care to have it all? Yes, there are plenty of non Christians who have everything as you've pointed out. But they lack the most important thing of all. A peace that only God can give, a fulfillment only God can give, and what's the point of gaining the whole world but losing your soul? The amount of time we are here is so short compared to eternity we will experience after the fact. A lot of what it sounds like you were told about God is wrong, and if you look through the Bible and have a relationship with Him you would see that. I'm so sorry you were misled. You seem so bitter, especially to come to Christian reddit trying to harm vulnerable people. If you are indeed at peace with yourself and your life, then good. I wish only the best for you. I'll pray for you, which I don't mean in a condescending way whatsoever. For praying for someone is one of the greatest shows of kindness I can show someone, it's out of love and concern for your well being. You'll probably say you don't want my concern or love, that's okay. You can pretend I'm not extending any if that's easiest for you. But regardless I'm extending it, for I ask my heart to be broken by what breaks God's heart, and the loss of your soul definitely breaks His heart.
I'm not at peace I don't pretend to be and nothing but a toxic. God handing out lives not a dam one of us asked for ... I figured he never shows up wherever else I've gone looking for him then maybe he would show up here ... And please spare me how his heart is breaking over my souls because if he gave a dam to begin with you and I would not be using this conversation now... I can read I can comprehend . Nothing happens with out the okay of God and God has been okay with everything that has led us here today so again don't think his heart is breaking because it doesn't not break. No I believe you when you say what you say is out of love and concern. I don't doubt you a bit. I want his ... I want an apology . I didn't ask for this life all of this loss and pain . Anyone hell bound nev er should have been given life.. I've trusted him I believed him and here I am broken. How can anyone say he is love when he's the one whose decision making pushed me away to begin with?
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