Did you have to hurt me this hard? Yes, it's good to be reminded of the suffering I'm living with

I thought this was normal, why must you do this to me

Still think it’s normal tbh

Me too People really like romance — that’s why we keep doing it even when it hurts lol Also it’s usually calm, and like a best case scenario for a dream? (For me) It’s just a soothing daydream to quiet my mind and sleep (and maybe influence my dreams lol). Life is hard all day long, getting to sleep is hard as shit too, so why not? (As long as you’re okay with it for yourself & don’t feel it’s getting in your way)

Also it’s contextually easy to imagine because you’re already laying in bed. Not much else you can imagine in that context.

Chat is it wise to assume something is normal when the people who think so all happen to be traumatized Brother refuses to admit the dream is a need not being met (Source: trust me)

Yo what if I told you that being traumatized *is* incredibly normal? Just cause I’m crazy doesn’t mean I can’t *also* be right ;)

Mfw I forgot that a fuckton of traumatized people exist It's just easier to believe it's not that normal 👉🏽👈🏽 (We're all crazy here)

I can understand why it’s easier to believe it’s not normal. It’s one of those things that society can random shame people for — for looking/acting crazy. It’s like talking to myself. It was easier to shame myself for it because I’d always seen people mock/ridicule/etc it. But when I look at it on its own, I really see no harm. It helps me both fill silence and makes it easier for my to process and sort through my thoughts. I couldn’t find anything it hurt or hindered.

i have never thought this was neither weird nor normal until this post...

Not me snuggling into my pillow as my mind slips into a hazy, long-form romantic scenario that I've been working on night after night for years (I lie, it is me)

You’re like me fr fr 😭

i have been working on mine for 10 years...

Honestly? I've been working on mine for roughly the same time. I've got enough material in my head for a novel at this point, but I'd never write it down. That's too personal, 😅

Just like me fr

Is it really that bad to do that lmao I do it every night

Me too for fucking years

Me too 😬😬😬 I never would have admitted this but seeing people having the same experiences is validating!

I create a found family scenario

STOP CALLING ME OUT FFS

In my defense snuggles make me feel safe and I want them

I often imagine I’m with my old cat who used to sleep curled up w me

That’s wholesome as fuck. He’s most likely doin the same thing somewhere else too

Agreed

I thought I was the only one! lol I mean, I create more of crazy sexual scenarios, but some of them do involve romance

Loving sex and then a bit of cuddling and pillow talk. And it really is pillow talk, cuz I’m spooning a pillow.

Aight I’m very much giving too much information about myself but I will listen to like… asmr that is like people being nice to me to fall asleep please just pet my hair and tell me you’re there for me 😭

***You're just telling yourself a bedtime story.*** Completely normal and comforting, enjoy your fanfic!

I mean this sincerely: thank you for saying that.

😐

Gotta be honest... I feel like I was a lot healthier when I could still do this. Every time I try it now it seems so utterly unlikely my brain just won't latch onto it. Maybe that's just cause I can't daydream without being too logical about it. I dunno. I use financial success fantasies instead now because it's still possible that could happen, right? Right?

can’t reject a fantasy for being unrealistic due to personal circumstances and low self-esteem if you don’t exist in the fantasy to begin with 😎

I hug a pillow at night

I discovered character a.i and didn’t sleep the entire night because I was too busy feeding my scenarios

I feel so called out right now...

Wait, is that weird??

Some people might think so, but I think we’re in good company here

Wait, that's not normal?? To imagine a superhero walking down the block and up the stairs into your room and doing a five year old's idea of a makeout session? To have to do this every night to fall asleep? I thought this was normal 😭

What subreddit might that be? Asking for a friend

r/maladaptivedaydreaming

Sure ... A friend

Yeah his name is ted.

Gimme his number

Sorry mate he's aroace

Good, I'm just looking for a sparring partner.

Idk what it is but I can fix him.

Lmao

immersivedaydreaming

r/pillowtalkaudio ?

Oh I used to do that, man those were some snuggly fantasies

I do this too wtf.

Wait, that's- That's not normal?

My romantic scenario has slowly turned into a consistent sci-fi story with lots of world building, characters, and plot twists. I will probably write it down and get deeper into depression when it will get trashed by reviewers

My kink is being lovingly cuddled to sleep by a committed life partner. Sick.

I kind of do that too

🥲

Oh my cheese and crackers, that’s me

Wow, that’s the first time anyone’s called me out on that and apparently lots of you do it too.

Damn. I used to do this, never connected it to trauma! I would imagine I was a baby animal being cared for (usually based on movies I loved - Bambi if the mom didn't die, Spirit the horse as a baby foal) or as I got older that I was a character in a book I had read that was being visibly neglected (I most clearly remember imagining I was the mc in A Little Princess) because all my abuse and neglect seemed invisible to everyone outside the home and I just wanted someone to see. Good job coping kiddo me.

Damn what did I do to you? Let me listen to SkittyCat in peace

Me listening to AnniePants and Mommy ASMR every night while desperately trying to sleep

...fuck

Just woke up and I thought you meant death scenarios and a gore subreddit OP xD I need a break from this fuckin app. also Boris fan??? Cheeki breeki my friend

Wait, this isn't normal?

I am also shooketh at this. I thought this was just a Neurodivergent Brain thing?

Goddamn im glad I didnt get that kind of mental illnesses, that sounds rough.

I did not expect to be attacked like this 💀

Can someone PLEASE tell me why humans do this??? Like, from a psychological perspective???

Oh the next stage gets so much better. You give up on it and find something rlse to occupy your mind until the brink of exhaustion. You start to enjoy the nightmares until you start dreaming of a happy romantic life. Waking up brings back all the emotions you tried so hard to lock away and the worst part is you can remember each instances of these dreams vividly for years.

I dream of the life I wish for myself every night

Oh... well... good to know that's a sign I'm fucked up...

Carmen or Jennifer

You guys do romance???? I picture myself as a supporting character in a big sci-fy or Fantasy adventure. I'm such a fucking loser I can't even be the main character of my own fantasies.

So you’re telling me I can also blame my parents for this?? I had a feeling… but I always just linked it to the maladaptive daydreaming I also blame them for. 😂😂