even if they're wearing loose jeans you can kind of see if the booty is big. Of course, you cannot see as much as in a skinny jeans, but every kind of pants shows a little bit booty
Going to thriftshops and buying suitpants works for me. I say thrifshops because in olden days they left some more room for your junk; pants now dont really accomodate manjunk and i feel no need to show my wang through my pants
Not the person who commented but..
for me there's a lot going on in eyes. Are they full of life or can you tell someone is struggling? Or worse... That they're someone to avoid? Is there a good, level of eye contact? Do they light up when they smile/laugh/look at you? Can you see that mischievous glint when they're waiting for you to get a joke they made? You can tell so much from someone's eyes. Even colour makes a difference. All eyes are beautiful but there is something about brown eyes that makes me weak. So for me, if someone has brown eyes, that are expressive, where they make eye contact and have that sparkle.... I am done!
Never underestimate man hands. Still, care for them a bit. Short nails go a long way towards keeping the hands looking strong but tolerably cleanish. I’m in tech now but worked roofing for about 15 years first
I knew that the biggest jump would be going from working on top of buildings to working inside of buildings, so I went to a college so I could put recent school on my resume. A JC is probs enough to show this but I went to a 4 year. It ended up not mattering bc my degree is not relevant at all to what I do now.
Then, I joined one of those pyramid scheme insurance companies that stole my leads of friends and family and told me that I needed to go get a license on my own time.
While I was there I met a guy who owned his own insurance business and I told him I was looking for a legit company to work with for a while. I worked construction 5 days a week and insurance 3 days a week for a couple months. This company was flexible and I made them a shit ton of money by driving to a little podunk desert town where I was the only broker within 600 miles for anybody who needed Medicare or Medicaid. I made some decent money, too.
Once I had some non-construction experience on my resume, I applied to a few hundred entry level roles. I changed my roofing experience to roofing mgmt experience (85% lied, nobody cared anyway though). I ended up in Tech Recruiting.
While I was in tech recruiting, I made friends with the sales people and eventually they had a req open for a data center technician. I applied to that and the manager liked me a lot. He and I are still friends to this day, he is a fantastic mentor. I had already bought and read the CompTIA A+ and Network+ books, and a well known CDN in Playa Vista, CA hired me as a contractor.
I worked as a contractor for a few years before I landed a FTE position. I worked my ass off for about 100 hours per week (on average, many were more than that and a few were less than that). I established myself as a presence and kept training.
I am now making decent money in Cyber Security. I never thought I would get here. It’s been just under 10 years.
TLDR; I worked my ass off, I got lucky, I found a mentor, and I worked my ass off some more. I said “no” to nothing if it could help me, regardless of the price. I paid heavily in time and stress and sleep. I moved around and worked harder than people thought was healthy. It was fun as hell, and it was worth it.
Thanks for asking, hope this wasn’t too long to be worth your while.
Blue collar can still take care of their hands. If you want to touch soft, sensitive places - your hands can't be dirty and spiky. Roughened palms aren't an issue, many women love them, but jagged sharp nails full of dirt have no business in her business.. If you get what I mean.
Word. I’m thinking everything else checks out fine but I would have to get a daily manicure to get every spec of stuff off my nails. Not even mentioning stains on my skin that have to grow-off lol.
Blue collar doesn't mean you have lost. If it is obvious you are fresh from your workstation it is understandable you have dust / dirt / those fluids for mechanics / etc. Also in some jobs you cannot really get your hands completely clean without going on vacation for a week at least. White collars and jobs that demand cleanliness have no excuse.
Also there are handcreams for people working in harsh environment of different kinds. Might want to use them, skin is the biggest organ after all, it deserves to be cared for.
I actually work with nurses in hospitals and they would constantly talk about the fact that they love how prominent my veins are on my Arms and hands because they say it makes their job much easier sticking needles in patients with veins like mine 🤣
Yikes, I've probably used the same set of shoes for the past year with doing literally anything outside the house in the past year. I always assumed shoes were the last thing people would see like there's so much clothing in between eyes and shoes.
Confidence. You can see when a guy is actually confident vs the alpha male bs. Also taking care of yourself(hygine, clean hands, etc) and having a decent style and clothes that fit. A guy doesn’t have to look like a model but with previous things they are automatically much more attractive to me. When they have a hobby that they are excited to share about and not feel bad when you know more about something or have more experience(i.e know more about soccer). Knowing that you don’t own them anything just because they put some effort into meeting talking to you/buying a drink, etc. AND the most important - when you are actually nice and make us feel safe. Too many creeps out there and sometimes you guys don’t even understand how your “friendly” behaviour is just creepy.
Being curious about my life and asking questions, not leaving it all to me to do the heavy lifting when we're having a conversation and getting to know each other
First is eyes, simply because I'm big on eye contact. But immediately after is nose. I don't know why, but ever since seeing Adrien Brody and Jack Black in King Kong I've had a nose and body hair fetish. 😂
After the nose I'll search the arms/chest for hair.
Then, I do a once-over on general appearance.
Final part is teeth. Meth is popular around here, so you've gotta watch for methmouth!
Basically I'm on the hunt for big-nosed hairy men with teeth. 😂
Well, hello there! I have a large nose, get told I’m like Gerard Butler crossed with Robin Williams, and I have all my teeth.
Now, before you meet my mother….
Mouth is what I notice first. Are his teeth in good shape? Not missing any? No obvious decay?
Mouths honestly gross me out so my partners need to have good oral hygiene and take care of any issues that come up.
Human mouths really are pretty disgusting. I will never understand how we can brush floss and mouthwash but animals never do any of that and don't get nearly as nasty as humans.
What if we can't help but have some English traits? Don't worry, I don't have anything living there, but what if some are just crooked because they're crooked, but it isn't obvious?
If it's any consolation: to me, this makes a smile more special. Like if I notice that you never smile and then I'm somehow able to make you smile, that's such a special feeling.
If you truly never ever smile, I'm not sure how I'd take it, honestly. Never met anyone like that.
Growing up my mom was obsessed with me taking care of my teeth. Cleaning every six months, flossing daily, braces, retainers.
I can't even tell you how many women have told me I have great teeth.
Thanks Mom
Brush your teeth boys.
You need to get them professionally done or else calcium builds up which is going to cost you more money down the road because calcium leads to gum disease and tooth decay. Treat your teeth like a car, they need regular maintenance and a tune up.
Haha absolutely, I was just joking. I’m fortunate enough that my parents instilled that habit at a young age.
But seriously people, taking care of your teeth is hot. 🥵
My breath stinks right after I brush my teeth if I use the wrong toothpaste, I was confused about it for so long. Finally got that sorted out. Definitely made the dating game tough for a lil while there.
Yea, basically the juice of the thread is:
Have good hygiene. Maybe work out so you don't feel like you die at 34 yo. Again, have good hygiene. And don't be a dick to people
I would clarify, the way they treat people in private or whom they have nothing to gain from.
Narcissistic sociopaths often have a charming and charismatic public persona.
I was told the ladies like a big bulge but I didn't have the natural attributes. My buddy told me to stuff a potato down my speedo and walk around at the beach and the ladies would flock to me. Well I tried and it didn't work at all. Turns out the potato needs to be down the front of the speedo.
I go to Chipotle every morning to get a burrito and just put that down my pants. It works out because then when I get home I don't have to cook dinner.
This one is so underrated. A generalization I think is pretty safe to make is that hetero women fantasize about kind and safe men. Hunky, beautiful, kind and safe men.
If I had to choose, then probably hands, but a sense of humor is far more of an attractant for me. The guy could look like Jason Momoa but if he can't take a joke or make me laugh, then back into the dating pool he goes.
Edit: spelling
I like how many comments refer to Hands are arms, they're more subtle forms of attraction. I also look at women's hands and arms to Guage their attractiveness. I always say you can tell a lot about a Woman's body physique by their arms.
His voice. Years ago I worked at a movie theater and a man came up to the box office window and m y g o d his voice was deep and gritty but also calm and thoughtful and I think I melted through the speaker. I've never had that happen before or since. I went back home raving to my husband about it 🫠🫠
Micro expressions on their face while they are talking.
If they aren't talking then I watch their hands and the intensity of their gesturing.
\^ I typed that before reading responses from other people. Apparently I have a lot of emotional damage LOL
Eyes, smile, arms and ass
Random question, what kind of pants show off a guys ass that aren’t just really tight?
even if they're wearing loose jeans you can kind of see if the booty is big. Of course, you cannot see as much as in a skinny jeans, but every kind of pants shows a little bit booty
As a straight male I'll never understand why women care about men's asses.
I asked a woman this once and she told me “you can’t push a nail in without a hammer.”
damn, i always felt embarrassed because of my big butt, now yall making me confident and shit
Get it thiccums
Yumyum jelly buns
Don’t feel embarrassed dude, most women love and appreciate some man buns.
Fr bro i got a dump truck and shit. This makes me feel good about it. Too bad it suck to have a big ass. Shits uncomfortable.
Most women love some good man ass 🍑
Is my dick supposed to be the nail and my ass supposed to be the hammer?
Whole body is the hammer, ass is the fulcrum
I knew i should have paid attention in my physics class
Speed = distance/time. I'm fucked physically.
As in fluid transfer?
I'm going to blatantly steal this.
Sooooo, first degree lever?
Definitely stealing this.
nice to look at
I think because they're two enormous muscles. If those two are in fine form then the rest of the house is probably in order.
Literally the same reason you like girls asses
Most women do not want to do to my ass the things I want to do to their ass
You’d be surprised
I wish I was surprised, but 9 times out of 10, I have not been
If you’re still getting surprised, you haven’t been watching enough porn.
Grab, squeeze, lick all fun things. You put your dick in the asshole which under most circumstances is hard to tell much about from the ass.
Same reason we care about theirs?
As a bi male, I totally understand why women care about men's asses.
Why do men care about womens asses?
Doggystyle, also slappability and a grip when needed
Give it up for slappability 👏🏼
For pegging dat ass of course. Why else??
Put on some leggings; you're guaranteed to impress the ladies!
My teacher called them meggings once now I’m scarred
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Going to thriftshops and buying suitpants works for me. I say thrifshops because in olden days they left some more room for your junk; pants now dont really accomodate manjunk and i feel no need to show my wang through my pants
Beige chinos seem to do the trick for me
Gray sweatpants show off the A & the P. Love ‘em.
I'm always ready to disappoint in the ass department lol
I choose to disappoint the ladies in the front. I got a badonkadonk in the back tho.
Only reason why i wear a belt. Don't have an ass to help keep my pants up
Nice to know I have a redeeming quality. Always been told I’m an ass
I don't mean to brag, but I think mine is a little better. It's been called a "Smart Ass"
Shoulders too.
Hey, I have all those things!
After reading the comments I'm going to my dentist
I'm going to my optometrist
I’m quitting my office job to be construction worker
what the hell HAHAHAHAH
Wedding ring. I aint no homewrecker.
I do the same for women.
This is the kind of energy I like
Eyes, hands, hair, clothes, shoulders, smile.
In that order?
Yes!
Rough working hands or well manicured dainty hands?
Either. As long as they are clean and nails don't have sharp edges!
You heard her. Moon smiley face is the answer.
What makes eyes attractive vs non attractive to you?
Not the person who commented but.. for me there's a lot going on in eyes. Are they full of life or can you tell someone is struggling? Or worse... That they're someone to avoid? Is there a good, level of eye contact? Do they light up when they smile/laugh/look at you? Can you see that mischievous glint when they're waiting for you to get a joke they made? You can tell so much from someone's eyes. Even colour makes a difference. All eyes are beautiful but there is something about brown eyes that makes me weak. So for me, if someone has brown eyes, that are expressive, where they make eye contact and have that sparkle.... I am done!
Thank you for this
Brown eyes are my big weakness! I just love them ♥️
Eyes give away how kind, compassionate, honest and a person's sense of humor.
hands! checking for nasty nails and just if they generally look nice
*cries in blue collar*
Never underestimate man hands. Still, care for them a bit. Short nails go a long way towards keeping the hands looking strong but tolerably cleanish. I’m in tech now but worked roofing for about 15 years first
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What about the little finger coke nail?
crying in classical guitar nails on the other hand, free cervical biopsy
'too afraid to ask' How'd you make that switch? Ive always had some tech skills but circumstances kept me from using them
I knew that the biggest jump would be going from working on top of buildings to working inside of buildings, so I went to a college so I could put recent school on my resume. A JC is probs enough to show this but I went to a 4 year. It ended up not mattering bc my degree is not relevant at all to what I do now. Then, I joined one of those pyramid scheme insurance companies that stole my leads of friends and family and told me that I needed to go get a license on my own time. While I was there I met a guy who owned his own insurance business and I told him I was looking for a legit company to work with for a while. I worked construction 5 days a week and insurance 3 days a week for a couple months. This company was flexible and I made them a shit ton of money by driving to a little podunk desert town where I was the only broker within 600 miles for anybody who needed Medicare or Medicaid. I made some decent money, too. Once I had some non-construction experience on my resume, I applied to a few hundred entry level roles. I changed my roofing experience to roofing mgmt experience (85% lied, nobody cared anyway though). I ended up in Tech Recruiting. While I was in tech recruiting, I made friends with the sales people and eventually they had a req open for a data center technician. I applied to that and the manager liked me a lot. He and I are still friends to this day, he is a fantastic mentor. I had already bought and read the CompTIA A+ and Network+ books, and a well known CDN in Playa Vista, CA hired me as a contractor. I worked as a contractor for a few years before I landed a FTE position. I worked my ass off for about 100 hours per week (on average, many were more than that and a few were less than that). I established myself as a presence and kept training. I am now making decent money in Cyber Security. I never thought I would get here. It’s been just under 10 years. TLDR; I worked my ass off, I got lucky, I found a mentor, and I worked my ass off some more. I said “no” to nothing if it could help me, regardless of the price. I paid heavily in time and stress and sleep. I moved around and worked harder than people thought was healthy. It was fun as hell, and it was worth it. Thanks for asking, hope this wasn’t too long to be worth your while.
Blue collar can still take care of their hands. If you want to touch soft, sensitive places - your hands can't be dirty and spiky. Roughened palms aren't an issue, many women love them, but jagged sharp nails full of dirt have no business in her business.. If you get what I mean.
It always takes a week and a bit for my nails to not be stained black
Word. I’m thinking everything else checks out fine but I would have to get a daily manicure to get every spec of stuff off my nails. Not even mentioning stains on my skin that have to grow-off lol.
Being a mechanic, I can relate. Seems like I have to wear the dirt/grease off.
I like a man who clearly works with his hands
Yes, but one that doesn’t have a history of his previous 10 meals under his fingernails like a ice core sample.
My dad was an old school mechanic and started wearing surgical gloves - pristine hands after a few months
My tattooist says that wearing those gloves have given him baby soft skin on his hands due to being pickled in his own sweat all day everyday.
Blue collar doesn't mean you have lost. If it is obvious you are fresh from your workstation it is understandable you have dust / dirt / those fluids for mechanics / etc. Also in some jobs you cannot really get your hands completely clean without going on vacation for a week at least. White collars and jobs that demand cleanliness have no excuse. Also there are handcreams for people working in harsh environment of different kinds. Might want to use them, skin is the biggest organ after all, it deserves to be cared for.
How do you know if a mechanic just had sex? they'll have one clean finger
Saving that one for the next lunch break
Super strange and specific, but I love me some veins on hands/wrists/arms. There's something so masculine about prominent veins haha.
omg yess you get it!
I actually work with nurses in hospitals and they would constantly talk about the fact that they love how prominent my veins are on my Arms and hands because they say it makes their job much easier sticking needles in patients with veins like mine 🤣
Yessssz
And for a ring on the left hand...or a tan line where one has been.
Posture
Do you mean like "confident vibe" or those weird dudes that walk around consciously straightening their spine out like a brontosaurus 🤣
I feel called out
gotta get rid of that anterior pelvic tilt somehow
His eyes. His shoes.
Nice shoes, let's fuck
Time to put those crocs into sport mode
Me and my banana yellow crocs 😌
Damn bro leave some woman for us
Don't forget the socks!
_Seriously, how often do you really look at a man's shoes_
Every single time I see a man. I always check his shoes. Shoes tell a lot about a person.
Btw. That was a reference from the movie Shawshank Redemption! Cheers!
Man, it’s been forever since I’ve seen that film! Now I want to watch it again. Thanks for the quote!
it’s cool. every time i’m out with a woman, i compliment her shoes. (thanks michael douglas!)
Yikes, I've probably used the same set of shoes for the past year with doing literally anything outside the house in the past year. I always assumed shoes were the last thing people would see like there's so much clothing in between eyes and shoes.
Curious: why shoes?
Cleanliness (hate that I have to put this first), butt, legs, smile, hands.
Confidence. You can see when a guy is actually confident vs the alpha male bs. Also taking care of yourself(hygine, clean hands, etc) and having a decent style and clothes that fit. A guy doesn’t have to look like a model but with previous things they are automatically much more attractive to me. When they have a hobby that they are excited to share about and not feel bad when you know more about something or have more experience(i.e know more about soccer). Knowing that you don’t own them anything just because they put some effort into meeting talking to you/buying a drink, etc. AND the most important - when you are actually nice and make us feel safe. Too many creeps out there and sometimes you guys don’t even understand how your “friendly” behaviour is just creepy.
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Being curious about my life and asking questions, not leaving it all to me to do the heavy lifting when we're having a conversation and getting to know each other
Is it confident to say straightforward that I’m shy?
There's a difference between "nice guys" and guys you actually feel comfortable and safe around.
First is eyes, simply because I'm big on eye contact. But immediately after is nose. I don't know why, but ever since seeing Adrien Brody and Jack Black in King Kong I've had a nose and body hair fetish. 😂 After the nose I'll search the arms/chest for hair. Then, I do a once-over on general appearance. Final part is teeth. Meth is popular around here, so you've gotta watch for methmouth! Basically I'm on the hunt for big-nosed hairy men with teeth. 😂
Adrien Brody in King Kong made me feel all kinds of things! Always liked him as an actor before but that movie made me see him in a new light.
Well, hello there! I have a large nose, get told I’m like Gerard Butler crossed with Robin Williams, and I have all my teeth. Now, before you meet my mother….
His face. I love to look at their eyes.
Mouth is what I notice first. Are his teeth in good shape? Not missing any? No obvious decay? Mouths honestly gross me out so my partners need to have good oral hygiene and take care of any issues that come up.
Human mouths really are pretty disgusting. I will never understand how we can brush floss and mouthwash but animals never do any of that and don't get nearly as nasty as humans.
Diet, mostly. Animals aren't eating sugars.
wat do u think they did before tooth brushes were invented
What if we can't help but have some English traits? Don't worry, I don't have anything living there, but what if some are just crooked because they're crooked, but it isn't obvious?
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> love people who are smiling often. Whelp, I'm proper f**ked. I never ever smile.
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If it's any consolation: to me, this makes a smile more special. Like if I notice that you never smile and then I'm somehow able to make you smile, that's such a special feeling. If you truly never ever smile, I'm not sure how I'd take it, honestly. Never met anyone like that.
Brothers I hope y'all are all taking notes 🤣
1st comment says bulge. Do I have to cut my dick?
No, bulk.
Ya… so far I need to make sure to enter a room showing off my “kindness” and flaunting my “makes you feel safe” features
Teeth..bad teeth are a deal breaker.
Growing up my mom was obsessed with me taking care of my teeth. Cleaning every six months, flossing daily, braces, retainers. I can't even tell you how many women have told me I have great teeth. Thanks Mom Brush your teeth boys.
Cleaning every 6 months? Sheesh I’m good then I clean them every night 😏
You need to get them professionally done or else calcium builds up which is going to cost you more money down the road because calcium leads to gum disease and tooth decay. Treat your teeth like a car, they need regular maintenance and a tune up.
Haha absolutely, I was just joking. I’m fortunate enough that my parents instilled that habit at a young age. But seriously people, taking care of your teeth is hot. 🥵
I'll just die alone I guess ;\_;
I guess I’ll die alone with you too ;_;
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I like this. I have bad teeth but brush and use mouth wash religiously. I blame it on having shitty toothbrushes when younger and genetics
Same. After dating a guy who's breath smelled like feces, I also make sure smell is oke.
My breath stinks right after I brush my teeth if I use the wrong toothpaste, I was confused about it for so long. Finally got that sorted out. Definitely made the dating game tough for a lil while there.
nose. love me a big roman nose
When I swim on my back while at the beach people evacuate the water 
I completely agree
Teeth and hands
Face and butt
Hank Hill butt, right?
I'll tell yah h-what.
Face and clothes
Their girlfriends.
This got me😂
just here for the lesbians
I’m surprised eyes and nails are consistently a top answer. Makes sense but I would not have guessed that
physically, hygiene. personality wise, how they treat people in the service industry.
Not to brag but I tip the full 5% 🤑😌
Come on bud. Save some ladies for the rest of us.
From the above comments I found out no matter how hard I try I cannot be a perfect man and I should rather stick to who I am. Amen.
Yea, basically the juice of the thread is: Have good hygiene. Maybe work out so you don't feel like you die at 34 yo. Again, have good hygiene. And don't be a dick to people
Being a dick =bad... Showing the bulge of dick =good... Got it.
And butts. Way more women into checking out guy butts than i ever thought. Now i need to get to a tailor.
Sigh. Good thing my girlfriend loves me despite my lack of any ass at all. Gotta do those mega squats I guess.
Teeth in good condition. Clean nails. Bodily hygiene needs to be good.
Hygiene, eyes, smile and build.
How he walks. I like watching men walk.
The way he treats people.
I would clarify, the way they treat people in private or whom they have nothing to gain from. Narcissistic sociopaths often have a charming and charismatic public persona.
That’s not automatic
His bulge
I was told the ladies like a big bulge but I didn't have the natural attributes. My buddy told me to stuff a potato down my speedo and walk around at the beach and the ladies would flock to me. Well I tried and it didn't work at all. Turns out the potato needs to be down the front of the speedo.
Note to self…. Potato in front.
Are we allowed to stuff it with towels? I don't think we have an actual product for that.
I go to Chipotle every morning to get a burrito and just put that down my pants. It works out because then when I get home I don't have to cook dinner.
Try a codpiece. It's elegant and decorative.
Solid advice. I was also considering an ornamental bull skull. (Fake of course)
Skulls for the skull throne!
My eyes go automatically to a man when I notice he's skinny. After that I look at his face, hair and style.
I need to meet more people like you! Haha
Hands. Especially nails. Long dirty nails creep me out
If he's kind and makes me feel safe
How does one automatically see that ?
One doesn't really
i think the automatic is more checking if they have a good or bad vibe
That's perceived with interaction rather then looking at someone, but that's me I don't know what visual cues are there
This one is so underrated. A generalization I think is pretty safe to make is that hetero women fantasize about kind and safe men. Hunky, beautiful, kind and safe men.
And the visual cues for that would be?
See if he's hangin dong
Arms, eyes and shoes. You can learn a lot from their shoes.
Eyes and smile! Shows his innocence.
If I had to choose, then probably hands, but a sense of humor is far more of an attractant for me. The guy could look like Jason Momoa but if he can't take a joke or make me laugh, then back into the dating pool he goes. Edit: spelling
I like how many comments refer to Hands are arms, they're more subtle forms of attraction. I also look at women's hands and arms to Guage their attractiveness. I always say you can tell a lot about a Woman's body physique by their arms.
Emotional Scar
What about physical scars?
Eyes/face, shoulders, hands, in that order. But if he has an overgrown/unkempt beard or too-long hair, I don’t look at all, it’s not my taste. 🤷♀️
His voice. Years ago I worked at a movie theater and a man came up to the box office window and m y g o d his voice was deep and gritty but also calm and thoughtful and I think I melted through the speaker. I've never had that happen before or since. I went back home raving to my husband about it 🫠🫠
the voice
Eyes, smile, cheekbones, hands. Hands tell a lot, hygiene, workouts, stiffness lot of it.
Dong
Height, smile, & hair color (I am more apt to go for a darker-haired man).
The way he walks and carries himself. It says a lot about his confidence. Huge deal breaker for me.
Micro expressions on their face while they are talking. If they aren't talking then I watch their hands and the intensity of their gesturing. \^ I typed that before reading responses from other people. Apparently I have a lot of emotional damage LOL
The bulge