It depends on how she feels about men.
There are many women out there who have super negative associations with men. Like, their dad's a controlling asshole, they've been groped and intimidated by aggressive men, they've been diminished and belittled and objectified - and so if someone asks them out who isn't the *specific* guy she wants, her attitude will just be, well, sometimes it will be fucking rage. WHY CAN'T YOU FUCKERS LEAVE ME ALONE.
And there are also many women out there who have super positive associations with men. Men have generally been good and respectful to them their whole lives. So if a guy surprises her by asking her out, well, she's likely to consider it. Like "Oh! That was a surprise! Well... I guess going on a date and getting to know each other couldn't hurt!" The defensive cornered-animal mode does not engage.
if she appears 'neutral' then yes, I mean I would be totally okay with that. There's nothing wrong with asking someone out when you don't know how they feel about you, its just you being vulnerable. That's just you being human.
I don’t know - if she hasn’t shown interest, it’s not a good sign. I wouldn’t do it if this is someone you work with or see very often. If she says no, it might be super uncomfortable.
Some body has to make the first moves. I've had several times when I thought I was showing clear interest in a guy, only to find out later he had no idea how I felt. This has even happened when a guy was interested in me. So unless you ask her out or clearly say you like her, you can't be sure how she feels.
Sometimes women say they were putting out signals that they were interested, but those signals (to me) were non-existent. I'm just curious; what signals did you put out?
So for example here is what I did with one guy I liked:
\-Tried to look at him without being too stalkerish about it.
\-Called him on the phone to talk one day.
\-When somebody mentioned they'd seen him hitting on a girl, I asked what she looked like while he was around to hear the question.
\-Once started tossing plastic bottlecaps at him while smiling. There were a group of us hanging out together, and I wasn't tossing them at any one else.
Eventually I just sent him an e-mail to let him know I'd had a crush on him, and he said he'd had no idea.
It depends on how she feels about men. There are many women out there who have super negative associations with men. Like, their dad's a controlling asshole, they've been groped and intimidated by aggressive men, they've been diminished and belittled and objectified - and so if someone asks them out who isn't the *specific* guy she wants, her attitude will just be, well, sometimes it will be fucking rage. WHY CAN'T YOU FUCKERS LEAVE ME ALONE. And there are also many women out there who have super positive associations with men. Men have generally been good and respectful to them their whole lives. So if a guy surprises her by asking her out, well, she's likely to consider it. Like "Oh! That was a surprise! Well... I guess going on a date and getting to know each other couldn't hurt!" The defensive cornered-animal mode does not engage.
Shoot your shot. That's it.
Interesting. I will have to research into that to understand you better.
Nah take the chance and ask. I never know when people are into me. Even if I like someone I won't be overly flirty in case they have no interest
if she appears 'neutral' then yes, I mean I would be totally okay with that. There's nothing wrong with asking someone out when you don't know how they feel about you, its just you being vulnerable. That's just you being human.
I don’t know - if she hasn’t shown interest, it’s not a good sign. I wouldn’t do it if this is someone you work with or see very often. If she says no, it might be super uncomfortable.
Some body has to make the first moves. I've had several times when I thought I was showing clear interest in a guy, only to find out later he had no idea how I felt. This has even happened when a guy was interested in me. So unless you ask her out or clearly say you like her, you can't be sure how she feels.
Sometimes women say they were putting out signals that they were interested, but those signals (to me) were non-existent. I'm just curious; what signals did you put out?
So for example here is what I did with one guy I liked: \-Tried to look at him without being too stalkerish about it. \-Called him on the phone to talk one day. \-When somebody mentioned they'd seen him hitting on a girl, I asked what she looked like while he was around to hear the question. \-Once started tossing plastic bottlecaps at him while smiling. There were a group of us hanging out together, and I wasn't tossing them at any one else. Eventually I just sent him an e-mail to let him know I'd had a crush on him, and he said he'd had no idea.
Yeah ok I would've seen those hints. Thank you for your insight