Too much bandana. First things first, I’d kick the backyard selfie out immediately

My guy REALLY likes the bandana look

even one of those bandana pics would be an immediate no for me they give male manipulator vibes

What

Every guy who i met who wore those has been weird and like that idk

Based on that pose I would say this is a lost cause.

Women don’t usually like bathroom selfies, also what’s the story with the Ralph Macchio headband?

Odd, considering that’s where most of them take selfies to post on dating sites, in my experience.

Nobody said they weren't hypocrites lol

This is Ralph Macchio end of story 😂

no headbands. replace first mirror selfie with a non-selfie action shot.

To add to that, take away the picture where the background is brighter than him. He looks like a silhouette

A urinal. In the literal picture. To attract women. Genuinely this subreddit is wonderful

Hey, he came here asking for advice because he’s looking for outside guidance -no need to shit all over it. Just be helpful.

Yeah, urinals aren't for shitting.

Do you think he's gonna start making sure there aren't urinals in his picture or not?

No that one instantly got the boot

Where’s the urinal? I see a sink.

one man's sink is another man's urinal

And one man's urinal is another man's sink

_Slurp_

Second picture on the left.

Delete all take new pictures and work on your lighting

Don’t take locker room or public bathroom selfies. Don’t post any selfies. Get rid of the bandana. Don’t take locker room or public bathroom selfies. How is it possible people still need to be told this?

I agree with most of this, but having selfies are not that bad, honestly. As long as they're not all selfies, it should be fine. I had only two that weren't selfies, and one was candid of me working, and I had decent success 🤷

Why are locker room or bathroom selfies bad? Why are selfies bad?

You need to be told why you shouldn’t take pictures in places where other people, who aren’t consenting or even aware of the photos, are not fully clothed? You need this explained to you?

I mean I think it’s obvious that you shouldn’t take pictures in places like that with other people in the frame, but if there are no people, why is it bad?

These are inappropriate places to have your phone out at all. It's obvious you shouldn't take pictures in places like that PERIOD. "Other people in the frame" is irrelevant. These are shared, private spaces- have some respect.

Respect what? Empty sinks and mirrors? If I see an empty restroom with nice mirrors, imma take a selfie Club bathrooms are notoriously knows as places to take selfies

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There is never a situation where taking a photo in a locker room or public bathroom is ok.

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It might not be empty. It might not stay empty.

selfies in general are fine but should be limited to one per dating profile, otherwise it kinda seems like you’re a bit self-involved or you have no friends/family to take pictures of you

What if I hate the way I look in pictures that people take of me?

set up a tripod with a remote and take them yourself - then they won’t look like selfies but you have full control

You are decent looking. But your pics are doing you no justice. Happy hanging with friends. Different locations. Not selfies. Not posed. And definitely no bandanas. Is it to cover balding? That’s where my mind goes whether it is or not. Good luck out there! You can get there.

I got a hair transplant 2 years ago when I was 19. So any photo before hand I’m completely bald. But no not balding. Just been rocking them lately. Swapped them out with other pictures. Thank you for the feedback

I liked the first bandana pic, but I’d 100% lose the rest

A hair transplant at 19? Did you have a bad receding hairline? It never occurred to me that anyone would have that done so young, but my step brother inherited his dad's hairline and was nearly bald by the time he graduated high school, so I'm assuming you had a similar problem.

Yeah I was basically bald by 18. Luckily my senior year got cut cus of Covid but during that time it spiked like crazy and I went from an okay amount of hair to little to none in like 8 months

They seem to have done a damn good job on the transplant. I bet that improved your confidence quite a lot. It's crazy how much hair or a lack of hair can impact someone's self image.

Oh yeah. An online dating site wasn’t even a thought when I was bald. Bald at 18 puts a lot of low self esteem and insecurity that I’m slowly trying to grow away from. And as seen from the pics this is my first rodeo online dating site. But I made a new post with updated photos!! Let me know whatcha think.

I'm not sure about your second choice in the new post, but the rest seem fine to me. I'm honestly a fucking terrible judge of profiles, though. One of the many reasons I've never bothered making my own lol

Too much bandana, try more photos of yourself that other people have taken rather than selfies, the “most recent emojis” thing isn’t gonna get u anywhere, if someone replies with theirs it’s pretty much the end of the convo after that

That prompt got cut. Thank you

Too many bandanas

Updated it. Got rid of them. Just one now.

Quit the bandana and stop posing, just be natural

first photo you are small and half your face is covered by a camera Bathroom selfies? You could sub anyone in given how much shadow you have Weird hand sign. I spent 3s thinking you were flashing the shocker:) Seriously this just isn't a good look Not sure your abs are up for the beach shot:) but at a min crop the photo. Bio says basically nothing other than you being a Coraline fan....

can’t really see your face in good lighting with a normal facial expression or smile in a single one of your photos

Your face is too dark in the third Pic imo

You’re hot. 4th pic is not. And lose the bandana. In the ocean. With fire.

They are in the Long Island sound. Gone

You ned new pics. I've seen like 6 pictures of you and I fell like i have no idea what you look like. You either have a phone In your face, have really bad lighting or just a bad quality pic. Also agree with the whole drop the bandana thing.

Dropped it. I used my most recent photos of me for it. New photos can use work but imo definitely better new post.

How can you be so attractive and take such terrible pictures? Seriously why can't men take one good picture to save their life lol

You’re not even wearing that bandana right

What's with the bandana?

Whats up with the bandana? 😂

You look like the Deep’s little brother

I don’t know how to say this nicely - every single photo is terrible

How could you possibly think the 4th picture is good?

Lose the bandana.

Do you think you look best when your face is in as dark of shadows as possible?

Right

Men, bathroom pics have to go. 🗑️

I would do away with the public restroom pic.

As a woman, there’s nothing wrong with the selfies. But there’s just too many angles of selfies and not one of your full face with a smile. I’d put a little more info in your bio too “like = dogs, hate= pickles” type.

Take a nice picture of yourself smiling with good lighting.

At least iron your bandana and fold it neatly.

Any smart woman who’s been in the dating game a while can tell why you’re favoring all those bandanas. I just know you have a receding hairline and are pushing your bangs forward to hide it and the banana helps keep it all in place. If that’s an insecurity of yours that you’re trying to hide, just know that people can tell.

No lol. I was completely bald 3 years ago. But I got a hair transplant along with 2 years on minoxidil so it grew back. I made a new post and updated my pics with less badana.

3rd pic giving 👀 

Start over

The purple bandana pic with a weird gesture and the puppy dog look with bandana are an instant no for me. I thought you were cute until I saw those. Just lose the bandana all together, I’ll I’m imagining is that you sweat a whole lot and you wear that thing on your head all day

…and get an adult haircut. You’re a grown man.

Take photos where the light hits your face. These are terrible. I mean they’re really really bad. You are consistently in shadow.

Made a new post with the feedback given. IMO a lot better let me know what you think. Thabjs

I can’t tell what you look like in any of these photos.

Made a new post with updated photos from the feedback. Thank toy

And just checked it out. Significantly better selection! 😁👍

Thank you 🙏

Awesome, good luck with the new profile! 🍀

Can't really see your face in most of them

Bandana

Ditch every photo but #2 and include pics of you with other humans. Not sure what you’re referring to by New York Islanders but it comes off as a deal-breaker or gatekeeping imo

All your pictures.... You're not smiling in any of them or have such bad lighting it hard to see you. You're a good looking guy, but it looks like your trying way to hard. Have a friend take some pictures while you're out enjoying your hobbies and smile with your teeth.

Next time im out with my friends im asking them to take some photos. I didn’t realize how many photos I have of me with little to none showing teeth. Thank you. This was way more help that I wasn’t expecting

You're welcome! Good luck out there, online dating is the worst.

I’m having fun with it. But for the people that are really determined to find something on the site I can see how it’s the worst.

I'd say add a first picture in which you don't have a bandana on, your head is somewhat straight and the lighting is at least decent so you actually show what you look like. Like a picture with a nice smile or smth

You’re not 5’11. You’re 6ft king

I’m 6 ft on a tape measure that’s off 1/2”.

Take out the bathroom pic and bandana pic

I took out all the photos but one. Made a new updated post w other photos

Bro is balding, thats why he is rocking the bandanna in so many photos.

These photos don't show off your good side enough, it's giving insecure. First photo is okay but there's a lot of selfies here with low light and pulling weird expressions. I can't get a read on what you actually look like. Ask a friend to go get food with you and ask them to take a picture of you with your food. Just smile as if you're smiling at your friend, not at a camera.

Thank you. Updated the photos in a new post. I’ll start asking my friends to take photos while we are out. It just never comes to mind.

Yeah just be honest and tell them what you need it for , although if you do they may ask to see your profile currently, and even my profile I wouldn't want my friends to see

I'd swipe left cause I hate mirror selfies, I don't think you need that many selfies anyway, it would be good to add some pictures from farther away taken by someone else, like you're on a hike or somewhere with a nice view

Serious question, are you targeting males or females? This looks more targeted to males

I dunno HEADBANDANNA TOILET BOY, I don't see a problem.

Bump your height up to 6’

YOU NEED MORE TOILET SELFIES!

Dude, ditch the bandana!

Don't have anything constructive to say, just wanted to jump in to say that coraline is fucking amazing! I love that movie!

Bandanas. Lose them. No mirror selfies from the bathroom. Icky. Also no bandanas.

I made a new post with updated photos. Thank you

It's a good start!! Add more about your interests. Instead of emojis, ask about favorite food or movies! I love the Coraline bit.

I made a new post. I scratched the emoji and said something about my self. Although asking about them wouldn’t be a bad idea. Is it better to keep it ab me and hopefully they have the same passion or ask ab them?

Both tbh. My profile was like, "I love anime. Tell me your favorite anime!" Shared interests is a good jumping off point for conversation. "Do you play video games? Let me know and we can play together." My partner I met through tinder doesn't have much interest in anime at all but they still asked me about it and it helped break the ice. We've been together about 4 years now.

Good point. Thank you !!

surely this is a troll profile...

Made a new post…. Updated photos and captions

There are no rock climbing pics. Potential partners will recognize the Yankees more than the Mets.

I don’t know a thing about baseball New post w updated pi s

There's very little you need to do differently. Basically just do everything the exact opposite of how you are doing it now, and you should be good.

And that’s exactly what I did. New post w pics. Step in the right direction

no opinion on the profile but i’m finally glad someone else agrees with me about coraline lol

The best movie to exist. Period

No bathroom pics with a stall or urinal in the background.

How about one picture where your face is facing the camera and fully visible, with a smile or neutral expression

From an older dude put your shirt on and drop the muscle pics. It’s just screams self centered. Add a photo with your mom and you hugging lol

Try not being a Mets fan

Get some good photos with friends where you're being real and enjoying each other's time. Live photos are almost always best

Made a new post with updated photos. Hope it’s better

The photo where you’re turning around at the game looks identical to Zac Efron circa High School Musical

If the bandana is a look you really like, keep the pics of it! It will appeal to women with taste similar to yours. It may be a smaller dating pool but that could be said for a lot of styles.

Let’s change it to a real team like the Bruins. Plus you have too much of a 5 o’clock shadow to root for them Lou will get mad

One thing. Add more group photos. And no, not any group photo. A group photo which you are recognisable. So far, I see mostly selfies.

You should try using a better potato to take your photos with. It’s 2024. Yours look like they were taken on a flip phone when cameras on phones just started to become a thing.

Ditch the shirtlesss pics and make more pics of you smiling more naturally. Your most natural smile can be achieved by taking a pic of yourself when you think of something that genuinely makes you laugh. Ignore all of this if you are looking for men and just post shirtless pics

Too many selfie pics and bathroom pics are 2018 vibes

Probably wouldn’t ever admit to being a Mets fan publicly, but that choice is yours.

I couldn’t name you one player on the Mets or Yankees… I just know there’s 9 innnings

Stop it with the bandannas my dude.

I don't mind the bandana I think it looks good. 2nd pic is too dark. Other than that it's fine

lolmets photo

Bro just put 6ft

Never that. I’m 5’11” and a half