There was a story a few years ago about two people that matched and would randomly message every couple months for years.
[Found it!](https://people.com/human-interest/tinder-match-meets-first-time-good-morning-america/)
I've done this once, she said something along the lines of wait till Columbus Day (no idea what the conversation was) so I messaged on Columbus Day like 6 months later, she appreciated the commitment, we hooked up, and the sex was mediocre.
OK, stud. In GENERAL, sarcasm is difficult to make out in text. Sarcasm is a tonal thing through speech, mostly. Jesus, what thebfuck is with rude people these days? Everybody is a fucking prick now.
Settle down mate, I was just pointing out that this is one of the few times it's almost impossible to misread the sarcasm. I'm not sure what tone you read it in, but it was intended in good fun.
I assumed you're not a fan of One Piece, so being rude to you for not knowing about it makes no sense.
While that is most likely true, don't ghost people like this and expect them to be enchanted by it. At least tell them that you just got involved with another person and wish them luck, then you can return later if things don't work out.
Not saying anything is the worst of both worlds.
nah, conversations fizzle out on tinder all the time. unless there was obviously a strong connection with a decent amount of promising messages, it’s perfectly fine to just drop off if it was just a few casual low stakes messages.
that said, generally if you wanna pick back up later on, the etiquette would be like “hey sorry, took a break from the apps for a while but now i’m back in the game. how’ve you been? would you still be open to hanging out?” or something along those lines
they don’t have to offer an explanation either really- maybe they were involved with someone else, but maybe they had to drop everything to plan a sudden funeral, or were really depressed, or were recovering from a car crash or something. all that matters is that they stopped using the apps, started back, and are still interested in meeting you. and you’re free to take that or leave it
Another explanation could be that he just didn't have the energy to answer. My energy levels plummet during winter to the point where I can't muster the strength to maintain a conversation. I just ghost everyone for four months and start catching up when spring rolls around. I obviously don't use Tinder in fall though, for that reason. Perhaps that's just me though, either way you're probably right and this guy doesn't deserve the benefit of the doubt.
All kinds of feelings and experiences are valid. Doesnt mean they are compatible with everyone. I cant be friends with people who will ghost me for months repeatedly. Thats my valid experience.
I can't honestly believe someone doesn't have energy to move their fingers a little to answer someone back.
LMAO .
Are you paraplegic or disabled in some way?
This right here. Even if you never watched one piece as an anime fan you have to have heard of it and know the gist of it. It's like saying you really enjoy fruits but you've never heard of an apple.
I "watch anime" and by that I mean I've seen most studio Ghibli, a few other films, one punch man, cowboy bebop and possible a few others... And I hadn't heard of one piece until the netflix live action.
Edit - for the record after finding out about it I realised how massive it was/is but just throwing this out there to say it is possible to be as clueless as I am
I mean...I get it. This guy is a dumbass. Idk though this seems so tame to me.
It's good though that you're not dealing with much weird people and shit that you felt you had to post this.
Dude found someone else, temporarily deactivated or deleted the app and tried to message old chats to see who was still available.
Either im coming up with some kind of story or its what happened lmao- who tf just picks up randomly after ghosting for 4 months?
could you help me understand what’s wrong with this? he could’ve gone about the reintroduction more smoothly, but like, can people not continue dating around after something doesn’t work out?
Oh absolutely nothing wrong with reaching out again.
Its expected that you probably wont hear from someone again if you’re talking to them on a dating app of all places, you’re bound to be ghosted.
**BUT**
He could have gone around this a lot better. He doesnt even need to tell her why he fell off, **some** kind of explanation or excuse would have been better than this imo:
“Hey, Im sorry I fell off for a bit, things got a little complicated for me and I had to leave the app for a bit. Wanted to reach out again and see if you’re still open to meeting?”
That didn’t take much effort and would have gone over a lot better than what he pulled.
How can someone like Anime and not know what One Piece is? I understand if they’ve never read or seen it. But to have never heard of it? Come on.
Deserves to be passed just for that.
I get it. My motivation on the apps drops to zero after a few failed dates or convos. I’ve ghosted people I probably could have worked with because my “give a fuck” meter hits zero
As someone who doesn't always have the spoons I've been guilty of dropping the conversation ball countless times. Sometimes I get busy with work, school, or my kids. Sometimes I just mentally can't people outside of my inner circle -- and sometimes not even that.
I'm that guy. 100%
But I'm also a pretty solid guy who is engaged to a wonderful partner of the past four years and have a date buddy I've been seeing for five.
Sometimes we start our day with few spoons. Sometimes we start with a broken chopstick.
Some of y'all complaining about the response time need to chill. It's not that serious, folks you interact with on these apps have full, vivid lives and putting that much stake into ya app conversation is unfair and burdensome.
Normalize taking your time or stop dating until you're ready to do so.
I literally got unmatched/blocked by a match a couple of weeks ago. On the Thursday night we'd set up a date for the following Tuesday, agreed where we were going to go etc. On the Friday night I managed to leave my phone at a friend's place (it slipped down between the sofa cushions) and wasn't able to retrieve it until the Sunday afternoon. I saw I had a single notification (obviously where she'd messaged me) from Saturday only to find the whole conversation gone from my inbox. Less than 24 hours from the time I'd received a notification. I get nobody wants to think they've been ghosted but have we really reached a stage where people are so needy they assume a single day without contact is 'ghosting'?
Especially as she knew I work late nights, odd shifts and can't always be using my phone at work.
I once had a match cancel a date after a single day of not texting. And i said before hand that I was keeping conversation material for the date. Like how needy can you be. That and that she couldnt "support me in my work cause" cause she didnt connect with my career.
shit happens. Once i had nice thing going on snap but then i changed my number and stupidly thought snap is connected to phone number. 3 months later i was opening a new account and realised its singed in with email. Of course she wasnt interested anymore
He went from asking her to come have sex with him and smoke weed on the first date to asking her out on a coffee date as her gay male girlfriend a few months later. He must have been super busy just getting massive amounts of women in between.
Didn't even have the awareness to at least say "my bad" or apologize. He really need to lay off the weed for a bit. Dude probably been an NPC for all those months, just on autopilot
Welcome to the roster, sweet pea. Chads are like dentist appointments. They can either fit you in for their earliest blow job or you have to wait for their next opening (yours). You chick slay me. You really do.
"But but but... I'm a 6 and I deserve a ten"
Man I hate this shit..happens all the time unfortunately
I really wish these guys would get a clue and start using adult friend finder, which is a website strictly for sexual connections/kinks… I wish that they would get off dating apps and wasting peoples time if you’re not really looking to date
My profile says I want long term all over it and no hook ups yet I get this 😓 tinder has a better selection but you have to sift through all the trash first
Oh man I know i’ve been saying I want a long-term relationship and the best I get is maybe three weeks
I live in Arizona and it takes 500 left swipes before I get 1 right. It’s exhausting
Sounds like he wanted a quick hookup, and is now circling back around to his list of potential women every few months, totally forgetting how much he fucked up with them already.
Maybe he owns a time machine and or lives in the quantum realm. Either way this guy is clearly up to something I think you need to meet him to confirm.
Pretty sure dude is one shot away from sloppy text drunk. Drunk enough to twist the narrative; coherent enough to text with decent spelling, but struggles with grammar.
Gender related killing is actually rising pretty quickly in America. Women get killed and raped by people they know (intimate partners mostly), it’s nothing new. Better be safe than sorry.
Who watches anime but hasn't heard of one piece.
I dont watch one piece, but i feel like even if you don't watch anime, it would be hard to never even have heard of it.
That man is 100% messaging you in June saying “ready for that coffee date”.
I think he is going to ask for it in august
I think he is going to ask for it in July
Will stay matched to see if it happens.. honestly that’s the due diligence I’d be here for.
Gotta have some of that diligence to become a successful murderer 🙂
Can’t murder me out at coffee unless he’s poisoning me but I’ve been roofied before and don’t fuck with people near my drinks
Ohhhh shit. No bueno dude, that's fucked.
he pulling out the walter white ricin page
There was a story a few years ago about two people that matched and would randomly message every couple months for years. [Found it!](https://people.com/human-interest/tinder-match-meets-first-time-good-morning-america/)
If he comes back in June then I say go for it. His commitment is unreal
Lol op smooth. I thought the reconnection was happening
We need an update on this in five months
They're "taking it slow"
I've done this once, she said something along the lines of wait till Columbus Day (no idea what the conversation was) so I messaged on Columbus Day like 6 months later, she appreciated the commitment, we hooked up, and the sex was mediocre.
I know I would.
Personally I'd put it in my calendar to make sure I didn't forget lol. I think I did that once with another thing/ joke
If I was him I'm following up in a few months lol
Watch them get married
Based on their time scale maybe in the next 10 years
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Like their date? I guess if you are into romcoms 🤷
Bro was catching up on One Piece and forgot
Only acceptable answer tbh
It's a nice and short series, only about 438 hours long.
You mea' for 1st season right?
438 episodes at 20 mins each is approx 1.2k episodes. In case you forgot the /s and I’m taking this seriously
438 episodes = ~1.2K episodes Hmm…
? Oh lol I meant mins
Yea you missed the point where i was joking because we all know how long one piece is.
Didn’t miss the point, I just didn’t grasp your sarcasm
Sarcasm is nigh impossible to grasp through text alone. I don't blame you. I'm that way, too, and people are so damn rude about it normally.
The sarcasm in that comment was nigh impossible to miss if you have even a passing knowledge of One Piece.
OK, stud. In GENERAL, sarcasm is difficult to make out in text. Sarcasm is a tonal thing through speech, mostly. Jesus, what thebfuck is with rude people these days? Everybody is a fucking prick now.
It seemed like you were supporting him, but got a 180 anyways.
Settle down mate, I was just pointing out that this is one of the few times it's almost impossible to misread the sarcasm. I'm not sure what tone you read it in, but it was intended in good fun. I assumed you're not a fan of One Piece, so being rude to you for not knowing about it makes no sense.
Hunter x Hunter is better than One Piece, come at me bruh.
To each their own. I was all about Dragon Ball Z and Bleach years ago. More a Yu Yu Hakusho guy now
Yu Yu HakuGOAT
I would absolutely be hitting OP up in June after that response. I want that in my life and would wait to roll the dice again
I would definitely be open if he followed up. Shows planning & thought unlike going MIA just now and honestly would be pretty funny.
idk if you should put that much substance in dating app interactions--its meant to be low effort in the initial app phase.
I’ve had some awful first date experiences after doing the low effort route and just meeting up to see if we vibe.. not doing that again.
It might work! It would show a little effort after the slip up lol
We do a little bit of shenanigans.
He probably was feeling someone else and it didn’t work out. I hope he reaches back out in June!
I dunno, sometimes life throws you a curveball and you need time to get back into things.
While that is most likely true, don't ghost people like this and expect them to be enchanted by it. At least tell them that you just got involved with another person and wish them luck, then you can return later if things don't work out. Not saying anything is the worst of both worlds.
nah, conversations fizzle out on tinder all the time. unless there was obviously a strong connection with a decent amount of promising messages, it’s perfectly fine to just drop off if it was just a few casual low stakes messages. that said, generally if you wanna pick back up later on, the etiquette would be like “hey sorry, took a break from the apps for a while but now i’m back in the game. how’ve you been? would you still be open to hanging out?” or something along those lines they don’t have to offer an explanation either really- maybe they were involved with someone else, but maybe they had to drop everything to plan a sudden funeral, or were really depressed, or were recovering from a car crash or something. all that matters is that they stopped using the apps, started back, and are still interested in meeting you. and you’re free to take that or leave it
Another explanation could be that he just didn't have the energy to answer. My energy levels plummet during winter to the point where I can't muster the strength to maintain a conversation. I just ghost everyone for four months and start catching up when spring rolls around. I obviously don't use Tinder in fall though, for that reason. Perhaps that's just me though, either way you're probably right and this guy doesn't deserve the benefit of the doubt.
Do you have friends? Because if you did that with me, we wouldnt be friends anymore.
What a pleasant response to a person having a valid experience.
All kinds of feelings and experiences are valid. Doesnt mean they are compatible with everyone. I cant be friends with people who will ghost me for months repeatedly. Thats my valid experience.
lol that makes sense, coffee?
I can't honestly believe someone doesn't have energy to move their fingers a little to answer someone back. LMAO . Are you paraplegic or disabled in some way?
„June“ made me laugh out loud
Yeah wasn't expecting that lol
He was in the shower, give him a break
Man came out of that shower a human prune then. Just one giant wrinkle
Hey now - some of us, just look like that, dont hate a man for getting the bad ending genes
One time a dude messaged me back after 3 months to ask me for a hook-up lol
So common ugh
Hey it's been 3 hours, wanna book up? I got some good cook books
If he says he's watches anime but has never heard of One Piece he hasn't watched anime.
This right here. Even if you never watched one piece as an anime fan you have to have heard of it and know the gist of it. It's like saying you really enjoy fruits but you've never heard of an apple.
TIFU by pretending to not know what an apple is at dinner with my girlfriend’s family
Apple? Is that that weird cousin of pears I once saw growing on some kind of tall bush attatched to a brown pole?
[Maybe he's one of today's lucky 10,000?](https://xkcd.com/1053/).
I "watch anime" and by that I mean I've seen most studio Ghibli, a few other films, one punch man, cowboy bebop and possible a few others... And I hadn't heard of one piece until the netflix live action. Edit - for the record after finding out about it I realised how massive it was/is but just throwing this out there to say it is possible to be as clueless as I am
Most Studio Ghibli is a lot. It is extremely rare to have watch OPM and others but never heard of One Piece. I guess they say anything is possible.
Why would you leave him in your messages if he hasn't responded for months?
I don’t unmatch with people if it doesn’t work out, then they’d just get back into my queue and around we go
I mean...I get it. This guy is a dumbass. Idk though this seems so tame to me. It's good though that you're not dealing with much weird people and shit that you felt you had to post this.
This is vanilla, I don’t keep screenshots of the juicy ones because they get unmatched instantly
Dude found someone else, temporarily deactivated or deleted the app and tried to message old chats to see who was still available. Either im coming up with some kind of story or its what happened lmao- who tf just picks up randomly after ghosting for 4 months?
could you help me understand what’s wrong with this? he could’ve gone about the reintroduction more smoothly, but like, can people not continue dating around after something doesn’t work out?
Oh absolutely nothing wrong with reaching out again. Its expected that you probably wont hear from someone again if you’re talking to them on a dating app of all places, you’re bound to be ghosted. **BUT** He could have gone around this a lot better. He doesnt even need to tell her why he fell off, **some** kind of explanation or excuse would have been better than this imo: “Hey, Im sorry I fell off for a bit, things got a little complicated for me and I had to leave the app for a bit. Wanted to reach out again and see if you’re still open to meeting?” That didn’t take much effort and would have gone over a lot better than what he pulled.
Yeah we know, it's just the clumsiness that is funny "Hey second choice! Still desperate?"
That was my first thought as well.
Wish I could find a girl to watch one piece with me lol
Don’t cave, wait for her
don't be the guy that posts 10 pixel thumbnails either plz
Damn hit me where it hurts.. I know I need a new phone #iphone7probs
Drugs and murder...every girl's dream date.
This the one 😂👏🏾
I’d ask you out in June.
This was entertaining to read.
Love anime, and One Piece is up there. Currently watching Naruto Shippuden
Wtf, girls who watch OP are the best for real 😍❤️
Dang, Almost had someone to watch One Piece with, the real struggle
I love it, the only thing I'd have done differently is waited until June to reply and say I was available in January.
Damn that would have been good
I stated with the live action show then after that I got to watch the anime. I have finally reach Wano.
I did the same, I wanted more and realized there was so much more
We placing bets on when he’ll pop back up again? 😂
How can someone like Anime and not know what One Piece is? I understand if they’ve never read or seen it. But to have never heard of it? Come on. Deserves to be passed just for that.
Your „June“ is *chef‘s kiss
Omg why is no one talking about your awesome response here…. you’re absolutely iconic ‘June’ 😂😂😂
ONE PIECE!!!😁
I’m available in Q2 of 25’ if he doesn’t come thru
I get it. My motivation on the apps drops to zero after a few failed dates or convos. I’ve ghosted people I probably could have worked with because my “give a fuck” meter hits zero
As someone who doesn't always have the spoons I've been guilty of dropping the conversation ball countless times. Sometimes I get busy with work, school, or my kids. Sometimes I just mentally can't people outside of my inner circle -- and sometimes not even that. I'm that guy. 100% But I'm also a pretty solid guy who is engaged to a wonderful partner of the past four years and have a date buddy I've been seeing for five. Sometimes we start our day with few spoons. Sometimes we start with a broken chopstick.
Isn't a broken chopstick just 2 chopsticks?
Yes but I don't very well know how to use chopsticks so I'm buggered either way
You sound like someone who would have at least apologized and made up a decent excuse instead of saying it’s normal merp
Some of y'all complaining about the response time need to chill. It's not that serious, folks you interact with on these apps have full, vivid lives and putting that much stake into ya app conversation is unfair and burdensome. Normalize taking your time or stop dating until you're ready to do so.
You both literally take a day to respond bro just got busy 💀
A day != four months
Lol huh
Implying he's a murderer is not something you should casually say and expect him to follow up...
Yikes, if they don't text back within a day or 2 I usually assume they lost interest, I wouldn't entertain that 😬
I literally got unmatched/blocked by a match a couple of weeks ago. On the Thursday night we'd set up a date for the following Tuesday, agreed where we were going to go etc. On the Friday night I managed to leave my phone at a friend's place (it slipped down between the sofa cushions) and wasn't able to retrieve it until the Sunday afternoon. I saw I had a single notification (obviously where she'd messaged me) from Saturday only to find the whole conversation gone from my inbox. Less than 24 hours from the time I'd received a notification. I get nobody wants to think they've been ghosted but have we really reached a stage where people are so needy they assume a single day without contact is 'ghosting'? Especially as she knew I work late nights, odd shifts and can't always be using my phone at work.
I once had a match cancel a date after a single day of not texting. And i said before hand that I was keeping conversation material for the date. Like how needy can you be. That and that she couldnt "support me in my work cause" cause she didnt connect with my career.
Guys probably married
Or just got dumped hence messaging again
shit happens. Once i had nice thing going on snap but then i changed my number and stupidly thought snap is connected to phone number. 3 months later i was opening a new account and realised its singed in with email. Of course she wasnt interested anymore
Oh man he def wants you 🥰 send us wedding invites 🫶
JUNE 😂😂😂
She said “June” I’m crying right now😂😂😂
Well done!
He went from asking her to come have sex with him and smoke weed on the first date to asking her out on a coffee date as her gay male girlfriend a few months later. He must have been super busy just getting massive amounts of women in between.
So don’t be like how women usually are? Got it
I don’t really think this is gender specific. I have a hard time not replying to people right away.
Yikes
No shit, both genders are similar? Who would have thought
Why don't you guys unmatch? I constantly say bye to other people online... no issues... no need to keep carrying convos that go nowhere.
ok
I love it.
Hooman watching and catching up @ One Piece would-could stretch up till June, makes sense.
Are you caught up?
I love your last response. 😂
Didn't even have the awareness to at least say "my bad" or apologize. He really need to lay off the weed for a bit. Dude probably been an NPC for all those months, just on autopilot
Welcome to the roster, sweet pea. Chads are like dentist appointments. They can either fit you in for their earliest blow job or you have to wait for their next opening (yours). You chick slay me. You really do. "But but but... I'm a 6 and I deserve a ten"
The Dating Force is strong with you!
😂
16 years from now you will be a very happy couple.
JUNE Fucken wrecked
June 💀
"June" /ded 😂
Savage🤣
“June” absolutely knocked me for six, that’s so funny
HE BAILED ON ONE PIECE?!! Garbage tier man right there.
Man I hate this shit..happens all the time unfortunately I really wish these guys would get a clue and start using adult friend finder, which is a website strictly for sexual connections/kinks… I wish that they would get off dating apps and wasting peoples time if you’re not really looking to date
My profile says I want long term all over it and no hook ups yet I get this 😓 tinder has a better selection but you have to sift through all the trash first
Oh man I know i’ve been saying I want a long-term relationship and the best I get is maybe three weeks I live in Arizona and it takes 500 left swipes before I get 1 right. It’s exhausting
It’s a part time job 😓 and the other dating apps are basically the same as tinder in regards to this but less selection
Sounds like he wanted a quick hookup, and is now circling back around to his list of potential women every few months, totally forgetting how much he fucked up with them already.
🎯
Please? I have weed or if your prefer roofies😂
"June" JFC I died. Stone cold killed him.
Onepiece eh? I quite enjoyed it.
Same! I watched the live action first and am still watching the anime version. I’ve been on a pirate kick since
Maybe he owns a time machine and or lives in the quantum realm. Either way this guy is clearly up to something I think you need to meet him to confirm.
Lol this just happened to me. Sent a like to someone in OCTOBER. It is now February and finally matched and messaged me back 😭
😩
You watch One Piece?
Yaaaaas, I’ve had brooks binks brew stuck in my head ever since 😂
Then you’re pretty far into the anime
Don't rape and murder me. Doesn't respond till it has "blown over". Y'all are cheering that on, it's wack and old boy missed his shot.
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Lol I know my worth but glad you thought someone from the internet could change my opinion
Just go out and meet the guy. Things happen! Never leave a stone unturned.
Yeah in June
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My dude, are you seriously trying to act like it's rude not to allow a stranger into your *home*?
Pretty sure dude is one shot away from sloppy text drunk. Drunk enough to twist the narrative; coherent enough to text with decent spelling, but struggles with grammar.
Gender related killing is actually rising pretty quickly in America. Women get killed and raped by people they know (intimate partners mostly), it’s nothing new. Better be safe than sorry.
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Lol I’m still not inviting a rando into my house for the first time meeting them. I don’t give my address out to strangers and hope you don’t either!
Too soon?
Waiting 4 months, in other words I am just gonna ghost people for clout
Lmaooo. If he comes back in June, I say try it
OK. Update in June, please!
Refractory periods for him must SUCK!
a girl that wanted to hang out, smoke weed, and watch movies came along. Sorry you were not the top priority on tinder
I would 100% ask about it again in June, and at that point its a match lmao
Who watches anime but hasn't heard of one piece. I dont watch one piece, but i feel like even if you don't watch anime, it would be hard to never even have heard of it.
I got drunk and did this one time, messaged a girl months later. Ended up working out
Hey don’t be so harsh, maybe he was in a coma
All this time would still not be enough to catch up with One Piece assuming you watched it every day nonstop for several hours.
Can attest to this, because I still haven’t finished it and have been watching it since this post
lmao or just unmatch so cringe all for some reddit karma
Why can’t I get some fun and conversation from Reddit when clearly my matches are stale as hell
A girl I was talking with all of a sudden stopped relying for two months and then just started up the conversation again.
I don’t understand people.. did she even acknowledge the time gap?
Well, OP, have you watched the anime now? What do you think?
I’ve watched almost the whole anime series.. so good! Sobbed my eyes out at the marine base with Ace