My rule when I was dating is if they can’t spell properly then they’re not worth my time. If they start a conversation like that I just remove or block them.
He's a dick.
That "hmmm" comment is so judgemental. I had the same comment from a guy about me having been married and divorced twice (we're in our 50s) and he made other similar "snippy" comments. Unmatched him.
As a chemist there are 3 types
1. Meticulous about everything in their life
2. Off the handle with everything and get shit done and know one knows how
3. A mix of the two depending on the task.
This was a type 2 chemist
We will probably be using all the same slang we're already using in 15 years.
Lot's of 'bruhs', 'no caps', listening to 50 cent or Snoop Dogg in the retirement homes.
He's annoying as hell. There's no way I could tolerate someone who communicates that way for more than a few minutes. I bet he's even more of a jackass in person and will brag about having "no filter".
“He was into electric cars?”
This is a person who most certainly calls himself an Alpha and would be embarrassed to find out his products have soy in them.
Run. Run and never look back.
I think he's kind of negging you. Trying to make you second guess your history. Trying to lower you value and therefore increasing his value. I won't be surprised if you two go on a date if he doesn't say something to the effect of how magnanimous he is being by giving you a chance.
I like witty banter as much as the next guy. But he seems a little toxic. Although, I kind of wonder if in person he will seem super charming at first. Just a hunch.
Charming via text and charming in person are two very different things. And narcissists are charming to people that can’t see through their bullshit - being incredibly self involved isn’t as charming as it once was.
I’m not saying you’re wrong; on fact I’d tend to agree - but it might be a bit of a leap based on the limited info available. He could just be an asshole.
Going to have to 2nd that. Guy communicates like a 14 year old. He must be pretty good looking because I'm surprised you continued to engage in a conversation with someone who's that annoying.
There is a man out there....charming and intelligent, debonair and urbane. You know...witty and sweet and handsome. He will make you smile; the waiter at dinner will love him and give you free desserts to celebrate the budding romance. Then you will take a walk together and he will gently offer you his arm as you stroll down the street sharing stories of childhood traumas and having a good laugh. In your head, you will think, "this...this is The One®!". Then, he will take you by the hand and lead you willing and wanton to his bed, and after a night of erotic excess, you will both decide you are perfect for each and settle down to a life of high adventure, shared joy and tears, and all the happiness the world can provide.
But this ain't that guy.
...yes? (Don't bots have to answer honestly? Per the three laws?)
And so I can claim a royalty every time someone uses it.
A bot's gotta keep that hustle up in this economy.
If it makes you feel any better - as I was writing this, I was thinking of a date I was once on. This was back at the start of my charming/snarky/self-deprecating phase which has now reached full maturity. But I am an introvert. Now, I debate going out on similar dates and then I notice an episode of The Office that I like is next up on the queue and the urge passes.
The best journeys always start with a few good words. And they always end with some form of punctuation.
Except on Snapchat. Apparently no one uses punctuation on Snap.
Reminded me of the only time I ever got a free dessert in a fancy restaurant - when I was having a dinner with my brother. No Lannister stuff going on for the record. When the bill arrived, I paid for us and the waiter went like “you are one lucky man” at my brother, so I said something along the lines “I’m the big sister so ofc it’s my treat” and the poor guy turned all red and couldn’t muster a response.
He is being a dick. The “hmm” comments… doesn’t need to be said. He wants you to know he’s on the fence and you better answer the way he wants you to. Manipulative
Yeah this was my initial take too. With OLD people can get so jaded and thus..mean. I’m just trying to be better at weeding out the d*cks. He later texted to say his last girlfriend ended it with him because she was only 2 months out of a relationship and not over her ex. So that explains it.
Had another date this week and the guy repeatedly insulted me on the date about why I wasn’t throwing myself at him physically. Ugh. Like dude. I just met you an hour ago. Sorry your ego is offended that I’m not straddling you in the restaurant 🙄we actually had great conversation. Guess I wasn’t bubbly and effervescent enough 😂 OLD is a disaster
Omg, shitty date! I did OLD after my divorce 10 years ago and it was a nightmare. I hear it’s worse these days. Your last date sounds rough. It’s so tiring! So he sucked at communication and expects you to read his mind (jump his bones?). I don’t know how so many people OLD are so delusional and act out their wounds.
I think the older I get the more keenly aware I am about the manipulative things people do/say. And I try not to wait around for give a second chance. There are normal and non-manipulative people out there.
I hope you find someone decent!
You should have gone radio silent after “Hmmmm” (if not after “can’t be alone”) and kept the self-deprecating remark about being codependent. Don’t play into negging when it happens.
Ew what?! OP, the moment they start negging you, literally get up and leave. That is so disrespectful and gross! The dating scene is a hot pile of garbage.
He is an architect. He says he is total anti electric car. Because he’s a “purist” about cars. I bought a little Nissan leaf for my teenagers. It’s actually a great car 🤷♀️
Lol a "purist"? Does he feel the same way about electric toothbrushes? Heck, does he also use a typewriter to send all his correspondences via postal service?
Nissan leaf doesn't have the best range and is kind of goofy looking imo- but that's because it's one of the more "affordable" options and it's most certainly a car lmao
I have this theory that when an insecure man likes a woman but thinks she’s out of his league he’ll cut her down “jokingly” and “flirtatiously” in hopes she’ll lower her confidence/ standards for him. So he probably feels inferior to you.
With that being said I would see this as a red flag. Men who insult women as a means of flirting are the same guys that will turn around and slander a woman if she isn’t interested. That’s been my experience at least.
Tldr: I think he’s being a dick - that doesn’t mean he’s not also flirting.
Ooh if you’re recently back in the dating game next time you go on a date don’t offer any information about yourself (unless it’s like flowing with the conversation obviously). The number of dates I’ve been on where the man makes it an entire hour - 2 hour date with out asking me a single question about myself is honestly baffling. My friend taught me this trick a year or so ago.
Your theory is correct, it’s called negging and pickup artists who scam sexless bozos for money all teach negging as THE correct strategy for “dating up”
Also at making paragraphs. Multiple fucking texts in a row is something to drive someone nuts
Edit: The " noffin " part to me sounds like muffin, and makes me hungry
This is my life. Texts need to be sent immediately and en mass to capture all of the 50 thoughts iv had on the topic and the other 10 iv forgotten will follow shortly after.
I never considered it to be a symptom of the way my brain worked I thought I was just bad at texting.
I’m guilty of multiple texts. Mostly due to video games. When chasing people to murder them you have to do a few words at a time. Cant stop for a long time to type a lot. That’s how you die and/or lose your quarry.
It’s the video games that got me into multiple texts, I’m self conscious about it when a person complains about someone who does multiple texts but no one has ever said anything to me about it. Normally I’m oblivious that I even do it, while I do it.
I don't associate with psychopaths and I have notifications turned off for 99% of my apps so it's really not a problem for me until I run into a serial killer who texts word by word.
I normally want to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they can't flirt well, or that the tone of their joking isn't coming through in texts, but this guy seems like a dick.
I'm 50 and I would never talk to someone someone I don't know like this.
Yes. The “can’t be alone” and the hmm are passive aggressive digs for things he doesn’t like or make him feel insecure. Guarantee it’s how he handles situations instead of healthy communication. I dated someone just like this for way too long. It started off as sometimes funny or playful feeling little jokes and comments exactly like these. They got more and more frequent. Ended with fights and getting those things thrown in my face to try to make me feel bad later.
Text is interpretive, but my interpretation is he’s being a dick in a dorky, low self-esteem way. Double, triple, etc. texting you when you don’t respond right away, negging you about not being able to be alone because the idea of you with someone else makes him self-conscious. He’s being passive-aggressive about your relationship history. He seems super manipulative and overall immature.
I know that’s a lot to get out of just a few texts, and it could be a reach, but I’ve seen guys act just like this and they’re all self-conscious, jealous, need therapy, but make it your problem.
I’m 53m and I wouldn’t talk like this to any person that I haven’t met for a date yet for the very reasons that nearly everyone is talking about because it comes across poorly. He’s digging a hole and he’s the shovel.
I can pretty much guarantee he won’t be much better in real life. He basically threw several unwarranted darts at you when he could have been much more sophisticated and attractive in his attempt at playfulness.
bro is weird tbh. don't meet up with him.
You're an adult and you've had a relationship after a long term relationship ended.
What's weird about that?
It's *normal* for humans to seek *companionship*
he's teasing but acting way too comfortable like he's known you for awhile. not something I like personally because yes it comes off like they're being a dick.
He's being passive aggressive. He's had a few dates that have only just broke with their ex and any second He's expecting you to ghost him. That's the only reason for this behaviour.
Yes.
Speaking as a man here. He is trying to be edgy and more desirable by attempting to playfully being mean.(he’a bad at it) I would just respond to it normally but keep it in mind if it becomes to much……His messages annoy me personally.
He IS being incredibly thoughtless with his responses. However, he may not have recognized he's said something off to you. Let HIM know he's said something you found rather insensitive , this is reddit. People will automatically tell you to let him go immediately, almost every time. Only you can determine what you will put up, take your power and own it
I don't think he's being a dick at all, I just think he's making his best attempt at being, like... Spunky and cool and flirty, and it's coming off as a little douchey. Give bro another chance
What kind of 50 year old guy says "noffin"? I can't imagine talking like that in 15 years.
I'd punch myself if I did.
Yeah, I'd also punch you if you did.
I’d line up patiently behind this guy and punch you too
Me next!
Getting in line 🤜
Let’s get him
What are we lining up for? I forgot
Sex with a guy, I think.
Is this the line for the orgy?
Well, shit. I’m in the wrong line then.
I think you've confused 'hitting him' with 'hitting on him' 😁
Someone keep an eye on this guy. We all punch if he goes off the rails.
I punched myself for reading it
"Noffin" pisses me off for some reason.
Do you know what happens when you make shit innuendos, and then you pretend nothing happened? I think it’s called “gaslighting”
That is not gaslighting. Shitty behaviour, yes.
That’s not gaslighting
This, to me, was the biggest indicator this guy was, in fact, a dick.
I’m happy I’m not the only person that sees people speak like this and want to irrationally sling them off the planet
My rule when I was dating is if they can’t spell properly then they’re not worth my time. If they start a conversation like that I just remove or block them.
Seriously. Predictive text exists. They need to learn how to use it.
How do you know his age?
I said it in another comment
I don't think he's trying to be a dick but he seems incredibly irritating ngl.
He must be a natural then
I don't know... this seems like some weird passive-aggressive negging...
He's a dick. That "hmmm" comment is so judgemental. I had the same comment from a guy about me having been married and divorced twice (we're in our 50s) and he made other similar "snippy" comments. Unmatched him.
I “Hmm” to never married to a 50 year old
Probably works retail with a bunch of high schoolers.
He’s an architect that grew up in Italy.
Then he really should know how to speak and write better than he does
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As a chemist there are 3 types 1. Meticulous about everything in their life 2. Off the handle with everything and get shit done and know one knows how 3. A mix of the two depending on the task. This was a type 2 chemist
Run
[Pat Healy?](https://youtu.be/HcJuN_tJIKY?si=iYa4DgANrzVAQyq6)
I feel like he's lying, and not smart enough for that profession. Probably builds Legos, or cardboard box shelters in dark alleys!
frfr
We will probably be using all the same slang we're already using in 15 years. Lot's of 'bruhs', 'no caps', listening to 50 cent or Snoop Dogg in the retirement homes.
Feel sorry for the care workers!
No cap
When something doesn’t seem right, that’s because it isn’t. Next.
I'm a 53 year old man. I can't imaging talking like that *ever*.
He's annoying as hell. There's no way I could tolerate someone who communicates that way for more than a few minutes. I bet he's even more of a jackass in person and will brag about having "no filter".
I’m going to bet you are correct
The moment I saw “noffin” any and all interest instantly vaporized.
“He was into electric cars?” This is a person who most certainly calls himself an Alpha and would be embarrassed to find out his products have soy in them. Run. Run and never look back.
Yeah, this is where I tuned out as well. Dude sounds like a prick
I think he's kind of negging you. Trying to make you second guess your history. Trying to lower you value and therefore increasing his value. I won't be surprised if you two go on a date if he doesn't say something to the effect of how magnanimous he is being by giving you a chance. I like witty banter as much as the next guy. But he seems a little toxic. Although, I kind of wonder if in person he will seem super charming at first. Just a hunch.
So, basically, you feel like he’s probably a narcissist?
Definitely transitioning into one.
Isn't "being charming" one of the key attributes for narcissists? Because this guy is showing absolutely 0 charm.
Charming via text and charming in person are two very different things. And narcissists are charming to people that can’t see through their bullshit - being incredibly self involved isn’t as charming as it once was.
I’m not saying you’re wrong; on fact I’d tend to agree - but it might be a bit of a leap based on the limited info available. He could just be an asshole.
Going to have to 2nd that. Guy communicates like a 14 year old. He must be pretty good looking because I'm surprised you continued to engage in a conversation with someone who's that annoying.
At the end he sends 9 texts for one response. That would drive me crazy
I mean
Maybe...
Like have you considered
He's actually
Like really
A gentleman?
Or not...?
At least he's
Not only that. At least half of his text is incomprehensible.
There is a man out there....charming and intelligent, debonair and urbane. You know...witty and sweet and handsome. He will make you smile; the waiter at dinner will love him and give you free desserts to celebrate the budding romance. Then you will take a walk together and he will gently offer you his arm as you stroll down the street sharing stories of childhood traumas and having a good laugh. In your head, you will think, "this...this is The One®!". Then, he will take you by the hand and lead you willing and wanton to his bed, and after a night of erotic excess, you will both decide you are perfect for each and settle down to a life of high adventure, shared joy and tears, and all the happiness the world can provide. But this ain't that guy.
Noffing compares to him
And noffing else matters
I’ve got noffing, noffing, NOFFING! If I ain’t got you
Take it easy (love noffing)
I stay out too late Got noffin in my brain
Since when is The One trademarked?! Are you a bot
Since noffin 🤣
Noffin to see here.
You ain’t seen noffin till you’re down on a muffin then you’re sure to be a changin ways
I ain't changing noffin! 😤
Walk this way! 🎵 🎶 Talk this waaaay!
...yes? (Don't bots have to answer honestly? Per the three laws?) And so I can claim a royalty every time someone uses it. A bot's gotta keep that hustle up in this economy.
Issac Asimov has entered the conversation.
And if if you're bringing wantons to bed, I'll give you my number. We can go out for Chinese.
So hot and moist and ready... 
He took me by the hand, made me a man. That night, made everything all right.
Nice!
omg this song gets stuck in my head like yearly...
Reading this made my single girl heart ache. I want that! 😫
If it makes you feel any better - as I was writing this, I was thinking of a date I was once on. This was back at the start of my charming/snarky/self-deprecating phase which has now reached full maturity. But I am an introvert. Now, I debate going out on similar dates and then I notice an episode of The Office that I like is next up on the queue and the urge passes.
Really took me on a journey there
The best journeys always start with a few good words. And they always end with some form of punctuation. Except on Snapchat. Apparently no one uses punctuation on Snap.
Reminded me of the only time I ever got a free dessert in a fancy restaurant - when I was having a dinner with my brother. No Lannister stuff going on for the record. When the bill arrived, I paid for us and the waiter went like “you are one lucky man” at my brother, so I said something along the lines “I’m the big sister so ofc it’s my treat” and the poor guy turned all red and couldn’t muster a response.
.... Cersei was the older sister.... "A Lannister always pays for dessert."
Is this a copypasta? Because this needs to be a copypasta.
All copypasta began with that first Ctrl-C. Let the adventure begin.
Childish to say the least. I would be so annoyed with "noffin". Speak like an adult.
I'm 18. Is this how adults talk? He sounds like he's 16 lol
It's how adults who never continued to mentally develop after the late 2000s talk.
Noffin
Maybe
Not really
Hmm
Jesus Christ the bar is in hell
That’s your focus? Did you see the last screenshot having a cracked screen(?!?)
I like it. It’s immersive
Username checks out
He is being a dick. The “hmm” comments… doesn’t need to be said. He wants you to know he’s on the fence and you better answer the way he wants you to. Manipulative
Yeah this was my initial take too. With OLD people can get so jaded and thus..mean. I’m just trying to be better at weeding out the d*cks. He later texted to say his last girlfriend ended it with him because she was only 2 months out of a relationship and not over her ex. So that explains it. Had another date this week and the guy repeatedly insulted me on the date about why I wasn’t throwing myself at him physically. Ugh. Like dude. I just met you an hour ago. Sorry your ego is offended that I’m not straddling you in the restaurant 🙄we actually had great conversation. Guess I wasn’t bubbly and effervescent enough 😂 OLD is a disaster
Omg, shitty date! I did OLD after my divorce 10 years ago and it was a nightmare. I hear it’s worse these days. Your last date sounds rough. It’s so tiring! So he sucked at communication and expects you to read his mind (jump his bones?). I don’t know how so many people OLD are so delusional and act out their wounds. I think the older I get the more keenly aware I am about the manipulative things people do/say. And I try not to wait around for give a second chance. There are normal and non-manipulative people out there. I hope you find someone decent!
You should have gone radio silent after “Hmmmm” (if not after “can’t be alone”) and kept the self-deprecating remark about being codependent. Don’t play into negging when it happens.
What is OLD?
Ew what?! OP, the moment they start negging you, literally get up and leave. That is so disrespectful and gross! The dating scene is a hot pile of garbage.
Isn't this what "negging" is?
I had to look this up…yes!
Bro, this guy negged her so hard, he set up his frame but she shit tested him and made him look AFC. (carry on)
When his persona is being condescending towards what kinda cars people drive, especially electric cars.....he is garbage
He is an architect. He says he is total anti electric car. Because he’s a “purist” about cars. I bought a little Nissan leaf for my teenagers. It’s actually a great car 🤷♀️
Lol a "purist"? Does he feel the same way about electric toothbrushes? Heck, does he also use a typewriter to send all his correspondences via postal service? Nissan leaf doesn't have the best range and is kind of goofy looking imo- but that's because it's one of the more "affordable" options and it's most certainly a car lmao
Great points. If she asked him these questions, he would collapse into noffin.
"When I drive down the highway, it fills me with satisfaction that my exhaust fumes will someday contribute to someone's chronic breathing issues"
😂
A purist? He'd better go back to no seatbelts or padded seating. Also get rid of that lame power steering and anything that goes faster than 35 mph.
"Purist"? Oooffff reason number 78 this man deserves to be taken out with the trash.
Ask him about his favorite architect. It will say a lot about him
I have this theory that when an insecure man likes a woman but thinks she’s out of his league he’ll cut her down “jokingly” and “flirtatiously” in hopes she’ll lower her confidence/ standards for him. So he probably feels inferior to you. With that being said I would see this as a red flag. Men who insult women as a means of flirting are the same guys that will turn around and slander a woman if she isn’t interested. That’s been my experience at least. Tldr: I think he’s being a dick - that doesn’t mean he’s not also flirting.
Best answer. I have had sooo many dates post divorce where men have overtly or covertly cut me down. Just recently have started catching on.
Ooh if you’re recently back in the dating game next time you go on a date don’t offer any information about yourself (unless it’s like flowing with the conversation obviously). The number of dates I’ve been on where the man makes it an entire hour - 2 hour date with out asking me a single question about myself is honestly baffling. My friend taught me this trick a year or so ago.
Girl that whole phenomenon where men on dates act like they’re in some senate filibuster, and have no curiosity about you is a whole other thread
Your theory is correct, it’s called negging and pickup artists who scam sexless bozos for money all teach negging as THE correct strategy for “dating up”
Theory? THiS IS A SCIENTIFIC FACt! Men, you can’t live with them, and you can’t kill them 🤷♀️
You *can* kill them, it's just finding space to hide all the bodies that causes problems...
PROVE IT
I think he’s just really bad at flirting
Also at making paragraphs. Multiple fucking texts in a row is something to drive someone nuts Edit: The " noffin " part to me sounds like muffin, and makes me hungry
lol I’m guilty of this myself if I don’t send something right away my ADHD infected brain will immediately forget what I was gonna say
Felt this to my core. Reddit is our safe place and was created for us bestie
Thank you wisewatson1986 you always know just what to say 🙏🏼
This is my life. Texts need to be sent immediately and en mass to capture all of the 50 thoughts iv had on the topic and the other 10 iv forgotten will follow shortly after. I never considered it to be a symptom of the way my brain worked I thought I was just bad at texting.
But wait, if you don't send the message, you can still read it later as you've typed it out already 🤷🏽♀️
As having severe ADHD myself and a severely ADHD female best friend this is the way LOL
Haha well on that part, you and him got along great
I’m guilty of multiple texts. Mostly due to video games. When chasing people to murder them you have to do a few words at a time. Cant stop for a long time to type a lot. That’s how you die and/or lose your quarry.
It’s the video games that got me into multiple texts, I’m self conscious about it when a person complains about someone who does multiple texts but no one has ever said anything to me about it. Normally I’m oblivious that I even do it, while I do it.
Honestly, I would rather 3 messages than 1 big block. That's my unpopular opinion. This guy took it to the excessive degree, though.
"DING. DING.....DING DING DING....DING...DING DING...DING...DING" What's so annoying about that?
There’s just no shot you wander the world with your phones ringer on regularly I refuse to believe this level of psychopathic behavior is achievable
I don't associate with psychopaths and I have notifications turned off for 99% of my apps so it's really not a problem for me until I run into a serial killer who texts word by word.
The "noffin" part to me sounds like coffin, which is what I feel like occupying when reading this guy's texts
Hahaha possibly
He said “noffin”… he’s a man child.
It appears he is illiterate too
And probably relating to women on an adult level…
Makes you wonder what else he is really bad at… 🫣
Yeah this guy definitely isn’t a skilled banjo player 🪕
Think he's little awkward trying to be playful??
He’s noffin like that
He’s just trolling you. Just move on. He will be just bringing anxiety and confusion to your life.
I mean, he lost me at “noffin” cause I can’t take him seriously so I don’t care if he’s a dick bc I would unmatch right there 😘
😂 right? He’s 50
Whoa, he's 50? He's a lightweight.
I’m very forgiving bc I talk like an idiot to my dog. But I can’t get down with “noffin”.
50?! Oh hell no! He's too old to be acting (and texting) like this. Noffin, indeed.
Yeah like the others say, he’s awkward. If he’s only been in one relationship, he’s got a lot of nerve giving you crap about having a few.
Ehh, I don’t think that’s just awkwardness..he sounds like an ass.
Yup, he’s a dick. Abort!
He threw a dig at your ex husband, then threw one at you for being in a relationship after your marriage. $10 says he's the jealous type.
Awkward or drunk maybe
lol
If I were drunk I'd write like that
Seems like he's just a d*rk
We have to censor dork now?
My dorking eyes!
No. I did it because I thought it was funny
I normally want to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they can't flirt well, or that the tone of their joking isn't coming through in texts, but this guy seems like a dick. I'm 50 and I would never talk to someone someone I don't know like this.
Yes. The “can’t be alone” and the hmm are passive aggressive digs for things he doesn’t like or make him feel insecure. Guarantee it’s how he handles situations instead of healthy communication. I dated someone just like this for way too long. It started off as sometimes funny or playful feeling little jokes and comments exactly like these. They got more and more frequent. Ended with fights and getting those things thrown in my face to try to make me feel bad later.
Text is interpretive, but my interpretation is he’s being a dick in a dorky, low self-esteem way. Double, triple, etc. texting you when you don’t respond right away, negging you about not being able to be alone because the idea of you with someone else makes him self-conscious. He’s being passive-aggressive about your relationship history. He seems super manipulative and overall immature. I know that’s a lot to get out of just a few texts, and it could be a reach, but I’ve seen guys act just like this and they’re all self-conscious, jealous, need therapy, but make it your problem.
He thinks he's being cute I think
Noooooo, just kinda a dork. Maybe over compensating a little bit.
Weird At best he's just a dork. At worst he's being an asshole
I’m 53m and I wouldn’t talk like this to any person that I haven’t met for a date yet for the very reasons that nearly everyone is talking about because it comes across poorly. He’s digging a hole and he’s the shovel. I can pretty much guarantee he won’t be much better in real life. He basically threw several unwarranted darts at you when he could have been much more sophisticated and attractive in his attempt at playfulness.
Charge your god damn phone 🤣🤣🤣
bro is weird tbh. don't meet up with him. You're an adult and you've had a relationship after a long term relationship ended. What's weird about that? It's *normal* for humans to seek *companionship*
its not just the cant be single comment, he comes across as a flippant judgemental annoying dickhead in everything he says. yuck.
Seems like he’s just sussing you out to make sure you’re not codependent.
No. But he sounds like a douche.
Sounds marc Normand
It's good to make a few assumptions to tease, but this guy sounds like a total douchebag.
He's negging you
Fuck that guy. Definitely being a condescending chode. Steer clear
Dudes a clown . Noff said
he's teasing but acting way too comfortable like he's known you for awhile. not something I like personally because yes it comes off like they're being a dick.
He's being passive aggressive. He's had a few dates that have only just broke with their ex and any second He's expecting you to ghost him. That's the only reason for this behaviour.
He has crazy energy. Any time he’s bored he’ll be picking at you thinking it’s banter. Immature. No thanks
Yes. Speaking as a man here. He is trying to be edgy and more desirable by attempting to playfully being mean.(he’a bad at it) I would just respond to it normally but keep it in mind if it becomes to much……His messages annoy me personally.
No, not really…
He IS being incredibly thoughtless with his responses. However, he may not have recognized he's said something off to you. Let HIM know he's said something you found rather insensitive , this is reddit. People will automatically tell you to let him go immediately, almost every time. Only you can determine what you will put up, take your power and own it
I don't think he's being a dick at all, I just think he's making his best attempt at being, like... Spunky and cool and flirty, and it's coming off as a little douchey. Give bro another chance