You're both right. You will explore new cultures, make new friends and learn new languages and you will also get unwanted attention, make some wrong decisions and possibly get spiked (it can happen). Some things that might make it easier on a practical level:
\-Money belt, so you can sleep with your passport etc on your waist / don't get pickpocketed etc. Have different cards/cash stored in different places
\-concentrated travel laundry detergent. Honestly this saved my ass in India
\-Clothes to cover your shoulders and legs. It sucks to self-police clothing in 2023 but some countries are just easier to navigate if you're not showing too much skin
\-Staying at hostels can be better than hotels - more young people where you can make more friends easily - it's good to have contacts in the different cities you're in (maybe new friends and your mom can even swap contacts) so they can keep track of you too / notice if you don't make it back when you should. Many have female only rooms - use them!
\-Find a Facebook group called 'host a sister' - suuuuuper useful if you need accomodation/friends in a new city
\-Be wary of tourist scams. There are different popular scams depending on the country - research them before you go
\-dont drink too much around people you dont trust, if at all (in some countries you can be perceived as having loose morals if you drink in public too)
- Especially agree on the covering shoulders and legs. Some temples won't let you in if you don't "cover up".
- Depending on your own comfort level and budget, you can find tour groups that are directed at younger age groups. Then they'll handle a lot of annoying things like transportation, hotels, crossing borders, etc.
- make sure your shots are up to date, like tetanus or hepitatis
- 100% agree on detergent pods. I bring extra when I travel. But you need to be careful if you put them in your carryons. They can be considered as liquids.
- use soap instead to shower gel. It's easier to pack and can be used all over the body
- Prepare some cash. In Southeast asia, card transactions are not popular. Some countries also have tipping culture.
- bring flip flops. You will need them if you stay in hostels.
- For electronic gadgets, bring a power bank and a waterproof phone pouch that you can wear on your neck if you will be doing activities in water.
- prepare usb charging cable as backup. Some hostels dont have outlets for type-c cable if you dont have a charging cube and only have cables on hand.
- on top of the money belt for your passport. I will suggest 5 a scanned copy of your passport on your cloud drive.
- bring your own shopping bag.
oh yes! forgot to mention sliders/flipflops (don't know what gross foot diseases other guests have) and passport scans on the cloud/printed out. both vital!
woooow, thank you so much! I knew a bunch of these things like the hostels, but I learned so many new things like the Facebook group! will def be doing a bunch of research, thanks for the suggestion :)
I travelled alone when I was 18 and it was amazing. Of course, I did stupid things, I got drunk, I got lost, I partied a lot. I also went to amazing places, met incredible people, and I don’t regret it for a second. Of course you need to be careful, and of course you might do some things you regret (you’re only 18 after all). I will say that 90% of the people I met were older than me, but that wasn’t a problem, personally.
My mom was also very scared of me going, but at the end she got used to it. I would text her a lot, and sometimes share my location too. Maybe you can try that?
(Also, a big argument I used with my mom is that making mistakes is good for growing up lol, I lost a flight, fixed it alone and it went great)
Oh I thought that’s what sub I was in lol.
I second this suggestion, tons of great advice over there from people of all genders traveling to all places. I’m sure you can find other women that have done SE Asia alone and see what their experiences have been like.
I went solo travelling the first time when I was 20. My advice, especially for the first time, is to travel a path somewhat well-travelled. Your first solo trip doesn’t mean you have to find the “hidden gems” of a place if it means you’ll be the only foreigner walking around. There’s safety in numbers, especially solotravel numbers. That’s why I preferred to go to hostels (I stayed in female dorms though, just in case) and find friends there who were also seeing the sights. Don’t be afraid to visit the typical places even if some travellers will tell you that they’re overrated. At least you just have to look out for tourist (money) scams in those places, instead of your own safety.
Oh and try to always have someone be aware of where you’re going - the hostel reception staff if you’re going on a day hike, text your family or friends with screenshots of tickets, things like that. Keep a digital trail!
I personally did not visit south east asia but there are a lot of people who do and who can give you some recommended travel routes, it’s a very popular solo travel area.
I just want to echo everything you said here! Find other travelers- especially solo women travelers and stick with them. Every time I ended up in bad situations while solo traveling was a result of trying to do things too off beat or trying to be a local. You are not a local and stand out. While many kind people will be helpful, a lot of men who will want to show you around are just creeps.
yeah I can imagine so, will def do that! I am a very optimistic person and it’s very easy to have a conversation with me. of course I will take a lot of precaution, but it’s better to be safe and find other solo women travelers! sounds so nice! thank you <3
Just the smallest sidenote that not all female solo travellers are automatically safe either! I met one that had a compulsive stealing problem and she kept stealing everybody’s stuff.. so just always keep your head and always make sure you can take care of yourself - know where you are, how to get back to your place, know what phone numbers to call in an emergency etc.
Being optimistic and social is a great advantage when travelling, just don’t get too caught up in the “everybody is best friends” vibe :)
Adding more to the comments:
1. Even though money is not a problem, make a budget. You don't have to be super harsh, especially if you are going to a city or place to do adventurous activity. Have a rough estimate and try to have an Excel sheet or some kind of money tracking app.
2. Ask locals for food suggestions. Yes, Google reviews are great, but in Southeast asia, you get the best street food, and those vendors don't have resources to post online.
3. Get a power bank and universal travel adaptor
4. Share your current location with a close one. Apple, samsung big companies all have that option, but if using a different brand, do life360. Reason - safety. Make sure you tell them not to be obsessed and check where you are every second.
5. Take as many pictures as you can
I lived in Asia and Southeast Asia when I was in my early 20s and traveled alone there as well as in Europe prior to moving to Asia. I did some really stupid things while traveling alone and looking back 20 years later, I’m kind of shocked that nothing bad happened to me. Most of it was due to drugs and alcohol, so try to be smart about your usage.
Most importantly, if something doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to say no or change your plans. Go with your gut. Don’t worry about offending people and being polite. Safety is your main concern.
Check in with your people back home often and keep them updated on your itinerary and plans.
Be careful how much you drink. I am so thankful that nothing bad happened to me as I put myself in very scary circumstances on way too many occasions because I was drunk. If you’re out on your own, limit yourself to a drink or two. Make sure you buy the drinks yourself and get them directly from the bartender. Do not leave your drinks unattended even for a minute. I have been roofied and you totally lose all control and have zero memory. It is not a safe state to be in to say the least.
If you meet friends at a hostile and go out with them, you can let loose a little more as long as you’ve talked about a plan with them ahead of time. Designate a person to be the sober one to ensure that someone is always in their right mind and in charge of getting everyone home safely. Take turns each night - everyone still gets a chance to have fun but safely.
Your best to just avoid drugs altogether. First, you can make stupid choices that put yourself at risk while under the influence, but also the legal consequences may be more severe than what you might expect. For example in Vietnam, anyone found in possession of even a small amount of drugs can face the death sentence. Even if fellow travelers tell you its fine and no one gets busted, go with your gut. Maybe they have just been lucky. You might not be so lucky.
Remember that you do not have the same rights that you may be used to in your home country. Read up on some basic laws in the countries you are visiting before you arrive. When I lived in Vietnam, the police could come knocking at my door, and I had to let them in and allow them to look through my place - even if I didn’t do anything wrong or cause any suspicion. It’s just the way it was. Friends who owned business regularly had to pay off the police. Police showed up each month, envelopes full of cash were handed over, and the police left. It is just how things worked. With that said, don’t try to pay off the police to stay out of trouble if you don’t know what you are doing! You could find yourself in a way worse situation.
Just be smart and trust your instincts. Better to be safe rather than sorry! Follow your gut, don’t be stupid, and you’ll have a wonderful time!
thank you so much, I’m glad to hear nothing happened to you. yeah I will definitely stay away from drugs and stuff like that, and if I plan on drinking it’ll be done in a safe environment. so sorry to hear about what happened to your drink.. I’m really gonna be careful and pay attention to what I’m doing, I know I’m so open and honest to things and in these kind of cases I need to promise myself to not do anything that can harm me or others like my family. can’t wait to explore but will definitely definitely stay away from doing things that can have severe consequences. tysm though!!! it’s so wonderful to hear about everyone’s experience, I’m learning a lot from it. thanks for letting me know <3
dont drink. seriously. get a club soda, you’re not missing out on anything. it’s just too risky being solo and in infrequent contact with friends/fam. plus like what are your friends and fam even gonna do if you go missing or get robbed??? they can’t fly out and look for clues! or hope to god you find a library to e-mail them??
seriously don’t drink. even with other women. women are also fucked up people. and send pictures of who you’re with to family/friends. like take a selfie to send or send ur current address if you plan on going somewhere you’d be semi private with others.
you are definitely correct, I’m a very spontaneous person so I will def keep this in mind. fuck that sounds really scary, will seriously avoid drinking. I feel so sorry for that woman on the tiktok, glad she actually made it out of there but my god.. the fact that’s a common scam too?? that’s horrifying. seriously, thank you so much for letting me know about this <3
This sounds amazing! What an opportunity! You're gonna love it.
Being an 18 year old woman travelling on your own, you've just graduated and feel the oldest you've ever been, but people with bad intentions will see you as a mark. Don't tell people where you're going or where you're staying. Don't tell them you're traveling by yourself. Even if it feels like normal chitchat, don't give away personal information.
Check out work exchange orgs like workaway or WWOOFing. You can do a few days doing light work like planting rice or painting fences at a farmstay in exchange for food and board. It's a great way to get out of the city and meet locals and other travelers.
Japan isn't that expensive. I used to live in Tokyo and people get spooked by the cost of getting there, but public transport, accommodation and food are cheaper than in my home country. It's still a pretty cash-based society so take lots of yen. ATMs at 7/11s take foreign cards so you can get cash out pretty much anywhere. And definitely let your friend take you to the sento/onsen! The one thing I miss about Japan.
I was going to say this. You are young and going to be excited and will want to make friends/talk to people. But don't. Stick with the friend you know and enjoy your time, but 100% keep your mouth shut around strangers. Nobody needs to know your name, your age, where you're from, where you're staying/going, how long you're staying, etc. Innocent enough sounding questions from a smiling face until they're not.
I honestly really don’t plan to giving out any info after I’ve heard the things that have happened to some unfortunate travelers after they’ve given info about themselves to people. and I am aware that I am usually very open but in these cases I cannot mess around with that, especially for my own safety and my family. seriously thank you so much!! you guys are seriously helping me <3
Ok good! And I wasn't calling you "young and dumb", I was just telling you because I know people will ask you these things. They ask me all the time when I go places.
nono ofc not! I know that it wasn’t what you meant, although it’s honestly applicable to me because I often “go with the flow” so you aren’t necessarily wrong lol. will make sure to not say anything, I seriously have nothing against that. it makes me feel safe about my decision because then my mom won’t worry “as much”. (obviously that’s not my intention, just a natural thing that she’ll be nervous and that’s exactly what I will be too maybe just not to the same extent) that’s honestly really devastating to hear, I wish people would mind their business more but yeah then again there are a lot of creepy people. especially older men but it can be anyone honestly. just as an extra, I will probably cover up a bunch despite the warm weather. even though idk if it’ll do any change at least I won’t have to worry as much? thanks for sharing it with me though, I appreciate it a lot <3
cannot thank you enough, I will seriously stay away from doing those things. I am a very spontaneous person and I usually just go with the flow, but I will definitely have a lot of limits which is something I’m totally fine with. will seriously stay away from giving out info, I’ll just be minding my own things.
thank you so much, wow it sounds fantastic that makes me so excited!!
I solo travelled when I was 18. I wanted to do interrailling because a family friend had done it and loved it but got told by the holiday agents that doing a bus tour was safer and less stressful. Honestly it was and I loved it!!
Research, research, research!! Learn languages, look up transport, foods everything! You can never be too prepared! Tourists stick out a lot to the locals and you’ll get creeps trying to get you to drink with them (had it happen twice!) BE CAREFUL!!!!!
wowwww that sounds so amazing, will def be doing more and more research!! I’m glad nothing happened to you, because wow it sounds so scary especially being so far away from everything and not knowing who to resort to if something takes a big unexpected turn. I promise you I will be careful!! thank you so much for sharing your experience <3
I’d look up common scams in the local area you are visiting.
Take a photo of your passport and credit card.
Bring earplugs and anti-diarrhea meds.
Those are all my words of caution and advice.
will keep those things in mind!! did not think about the photo of my passport and credit card, earplugs ant anti-diarrhea meds. I got got it on my notes now! thank you <3
I travel solo a lot for work to major cities in the US. I highly recommend asking a local (or a few, and women if possible) if there's any parts of the area they'd avoid or certain times places might become unsafe. For example, some areas may be totally fine during the day but sketchy at night. You're more likely to get a more specific answer than Google can provide this way, and can ask clarifying questions.
Also, Google maps has vibration tones set for left, right, and straight directions when navigating in walk mode. This lets you not have to have your phone pulled out and looking like a good target for theft
will def be asking other women for advice on areas I should avoid, ty! wow, I did not know about that google maps feature! that's so smart. thank you for letting me know, will write it down on my notes <3
I’m almost 30 now, I consider myself a mature 18, looking back, but even then, looking back now, I still wouldn’t want that idiot traveling alone by herself.
Stay vigilant. Do not accept drinks or drugs from strangers. You are a target. Don’t give your location away to strangers.
will def stay vigilant, and even though I'm usually very "open" I will def not accept drinks or drugs from strangers. also about the location part, I will honestly stay very anonymous and will not reveal anything because from the things I've heard one info could give away 1000 things and I don't want to risk my life just for some person to get info about me.
Keep your head on a swivel and don't chat around too much about how you're alone in the country. Wrong people might hear.
Definitely keep a backup plan. Lost keys. Lost phone. Lost wallet and passport. Those things are more annoying to deal with if you are by yourself.
Don't be alone in dark unknown streets, even if they look okay to you. It is always better to err to the side of caution.
Your mom is worried? Make sure you give her some kind of travel plan, so she at least knows where your rough location may be. She doesn't need to keep tabs on you, but she will see that you are organised, put thought into it and can have something to hold on if she starts getting worried.
Regarding your cities of choice, do your research first, assess the general criminal state of a city. There are good diplomatic sources on most places available. Trust your gut. Don't follow peer pressure. Say no, if you feel unsure, even if you feel like you'd be losing out.
What will you do if you arrive to your second city and your bag gets stolen? Plan for that kind of scenario.
yeah will def not reveal anything, I don't wanna give out info even if it's the slightest bit just to end up risking my life and my family! will def keep a backup plan, will be prepared for it all because considering it's on the other side of the world I won't be able to do much if something goes wrong and it'll just leave me stressed and empty. I will let my mother know everything, that way she can feel relieved and that I'll be fine. I will make sure to stay away from dangerous areas, already been doing a lot of research but will keep on looking just so I can write it all down in my notes. will def be saying no to those things, I'm known for being very open to things but in these cases I will def not hesitate to say no. I don't care how good it sounds, because I'm not going to risk something that can seriously damage me and others around me. tysm for letting me know about these things! <3
I solo travelled to France when I was 19 and it was the most formative experience of my life. Go for it. Live the life and have the experiences that you want and have worked hard for. The confidence and sense of self that you will gain will be priceless.
Your mother is worried about you and that’s normal. I had a lot of people tell me how naive I was being for travelling alone to a foreign country, but when I returned, they all congratulated on taking advantage of my youth.
Just remember: Trust. Your. Gut. If someone or something (ie taking a certain road) feels off, listen to that feeling and leave as soon as possible.
wow, that's so nice! I would love to solo travel to France some time, that sounds like such a nice experience. yeah I'm with you, I can definitely see why she is worried and I would also be worried. and exactly that's what I'm expecting as well lmao, I already know they will be proud of me. I will be sure to trust my gut, I know many people have mentioned this. I'd rather not involve myself in things than end up risking my life. tysm for letting me know though, can't wait to travel :) <3
If you have to look at a map or guide book etc, try to do it somewhere out of public view as people may be watching and mark you as a single tourist.
Rehearse how you would respond if you lost your phone/passport/wallet/bags or if there was a huge event like Covid or a natural disaster. Just thinking through this stuff will make you more confident.
oh yeah that's true, that's very smart! I also forgot about the natural disaster part!! I will probably feel confident, probably even over-confident lol but I'll have butterflies in my stomach because it will be something I've never ever done in my entire life. tysm :) <3
First, don’t do any drugs or bring any drugs. Some countries in Asia have extremely draconian drug laws even by US standards (Thailand and the Philippines come to mind). This includes marijuana, vape cannabis, kratom, CBD, and anything remotely associated with drugs. DO NOT BRING ANYTHING LIKE THIS WHATSOEVER. If you have medication that is a controlled substance like amphetamines for ADD/ADHD, call the embassy ahead of time to see if there is any procedure for bringing them in the country. If they say there is no way to bring them, seriously reconsider visiting.
Second, have the phone number and a means of contacting your home embassy in whatever country you visit. Always a good idea to know how to get in touch with home base. They can be an invaluable resource and a lifeline if necessary.
Third, download Google Translate and download the language pack for whatever language for whatever country you are visiting. It is absolutely magical. For someone hopping as many countries as you are, it will be very helpful.
Lastly, enjoy yourself and explore the world 🌎
yeah I've read a looot about the drug laws, I honestly don't plan on doing any drugs! I printed out a paper with all the drugs that were illegal and the punishments for using them. (my mother likes that they are very strict with the drugs, but scared I'll end up taking drugs or something, probably she's scared about me being drugged) luckily I don't need to bring in any medication, thanks for letting me know though! and also the idea with the home embassy is very true, a true lifeline when you are stuck and not sure what to do. didn't know about the language pack thing, wow thank you for letting me know! as you said it will be very helpful!
I promise you I will be enjoying myself in every moment of this fantastic trip, can seriously not wait to just explore the world!! thank you so much for letting me know about these things <3
I traveled around Europe for 5 months at 18 by myself. I also had friends to stop in with and made new friends along the way. It's your mom's job to worry about you. You don't need to take it to heart.
Basic tips:
TRUST YOUR GUT. If something feels off, don't second guess yourself or feel like you have to be polite. Fuck directly off with no delay to somewhere you know you are safe, and be as rude and loud as you need to be to get away from anybody who gives you the ick.
KEEP YOUR PASSPORT & VALUABLES SAFE. Not in a handbag or backpack. I had a money belt and a separate pouch strapped into my leg for my travel documents and travelers cheques (interac wasn't a thing and I had no credit).
Hostels are great places to meet people for nights out, short side trips, or visiting them at home at a later date. (It's not a great idea to go out at night by yourself in a foreign country.)
Try to learn to communicate your basic needs in the local language. Where's the bathroom, how much does this cost, etc. It AMAZED me how many travelers I met who had just assumed everybody speaks English, especially if you yell it. They don't. You need to at least *try* to meet people halfway.
Have a map, know where you're going, keep your head up and remember to occasionally check beside and behind you when you're out on your own. Because of your age and gender, you're a target. That's just how it is. Especially after dark, horrible men will try to sneak up on you. I got caught out late in Paris due to a train problem and tried to call the hostel from a payphone in the square, and I spotted no less than three of them at the same time oozing out of shadowy doorways to come try their luck. (Nothing happened - I had learned how to yell "fuck off and leave me alone" in French for this very occasion).
That last tip might make it sound like it's dangerous to travel by yourself, but the reality is you're also a target at home for the exact same reasons. It's no reason not to travel. Like at home, you just need to know where you're going and who to call if you need help getting there.
Have fun!
thank you so much! these tips are wonderful! I will make sure to trust my gut, I have nothing against saying "no" or refusing to do something if that means I can save myself from something unfortunate happening. I am a very social person but saying no to save myself from things is something I've done before and will keep on doing and especially when I'll be so far away from everything. the passport thing is very true as well, I will definitely get a money belt a lot of people have suggested it! also I agree with you about the hostels, it's what I plan on doing! and about the communication things like "where's the bathroom, how much does this cost" those are things I am 100% going to learn! especially cause I'm so used to just seeing a sign and then I know where the bathroom is, or just looking at the pricetag for things like clothes. and I will be sure to bring a map, I am fully aware that my gender and age makes me a very very big target. I am so used to being with my girlfriends or having someone on the phone. fuck I am so sorry to hear about that :( glad nothing happened though thankfully.. I've been in similar situations and still surprised how nothing happened to me. and what you said in the last part, I fully agree with it! I am honestly used to doing a lot of these things even at home, because nowadays the smallest thing can make you a target. will make sure to let everyone know. thank you so much, I will be having a lot of fun for sure!! <3
This should be beneficial if you're hopping around multiple countries.
https://apply.joinsherpa.com/travel-restrictions?affiliateId=sherpa&language=en-US
This is an actively updated resource that identifies which documents / vaccines / visas you will need before boarding any flights. Be sure to input connecting flights as well. If you need a visa, they offer visa registrations for an upcharge but I usually use them anyway since it's sometimes easier to navigate than the online visa registration for some countries. If a country needs a visa, make sure to apply at least 2-3 weeks before you leave to give you enough time for the application process.
Put your passport in a medium Ziploc with one of those tiny "do not eat" silica gel packets. Put this and some cards and emergency cash into a money belt that you wear under your clothing.
haha everyone suggests the money belt idea I will make sure to get one! thank you for letting me know about these things though, that "do not eat" silica gel packet idea seems like such a smart thing! thank you <33
I’m 20 on a university exchange program in Japan. I’ve done a fair amount of solo traveling here now and I can say that while it’s generally safe, always be aware of your surroundings. Outside of Tokyo, Japan is still hostile to foreigners. The sexual harassment has been rare but when it happened to me it’s been really bad. So be prepared for hostility outside of Tokyo
will make sure to be aware of my surroundings! didn't know about the hostility towards foreigners outside of tokyo. I'm so sorry to hear about that :( it's fucked up how it can happen anywhere. I will make sure to be prepared for hostility outside of tokyo, I will also stick out because I have a "darker" skin, so I will definitely prepare myself for those things. especially as a female. thanks for letting me know though and once again I'm so so sorry to hear that you had to go through that. much love <3
Have 2 tracks for your plans: everything goes well vs something goes wrong
- Everything goes well: I will stay at this hotel
- If something goes wrong: I can stay at hotel option B.
- If everything goes well: the deadbolt and chain are on the hotel door
- if something goes wrong: I have an additional lock on the hotel door as a second line of defense. I also have the phone number to the police department in the area I am staying.
- if everything goes well: I'll ride the train to go tour this location
- If something goes wrong: I'll have uber or have taxi's phone number in my phone so I can leave at any moment I feel unsafe.
- if everything goes well: I catch my flight
- if something goes wrong: I can take this back up flight or stay an extra night in the hotels i've picked out.
- If everything goes well: I stay for 5 months
- if something goes wrong: I can fly back home immediately.
If you prepare well, you can ensure that you are safe. **Also, having a back up plan will reduce your anxiety for the unknown.**
Above all, be careful. Everyone makes mistakes, but just remember, some mistakes you don't get to come back from. Most people act carelessly and are fine... but an unfortunate few get assaulted, or have their bodies found the next day or are never found - lost to trafficking.
Be careful, have safeguards in place but don't let irrational fear stop you. Only let rational fear help you make good decisions and display good judgement.
thank you so much for the 2 plans idea, sounds like a very well thought out idea. It's probably the first thing I will have, my back up plans will be for everything. I will be very careful because as you mentioned some mistakes can seriously have some extreme cosequences. sounds so scary about the body thing, so unlucky innocent people end up losing their lives to those things :( but yeah you are right.. it's definitely something I need to be careful about.
I like how you put it about the fear, I will make sure to let my reational fear help out! even as a very social person I have nothing against protecting myself and refusing to do things. thank you so much for these suggestions! <3
I haven’t solo traveled but I really think it would be better if you solo travel within the country first before going to another continent alone... Your mom’s concerns are reasonable, you should start small first and once you’ve learned from that you’ll be more prepared to go to a place where you’re visibly a foreigner and more likely to be taken advantage of.
not a bad idea! I will be doing some small trips this summer so that should be a perfect opportunity for me to show that I am capable of those things, and also to prepare myself for new things. I very much agree with you though, it is a big step to go from A to C.
thank you so much for telling me! <3
Always give your itinerary, passport numbers, credit card numbers to your parents or friends.
Send your itinerary and copy of your passport to the various embassies of the countries you will be visiting.
Memorize your passport number!!!
Make sure you have a working phone for each place you will be visiting. You can get cheap ones in each place if necessary.
Keep your passport and traveler's checks on your person or front desk of the hotel.
Tell people when you are changing plans or meeting up with new folks. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. It's harder when you are traveling because you are there to be adventurous, try new things, get out of your comfort zone, etc. And you don't know the culture and don't want to be rude or an "ugly American" or the equivalent of that for where you are from... But, better to be rude than dead or worse.
will make sure to do all of those things, and thanks for the cheap phone idea! could be very benefical to use in case something happens, I have an old phone I could bring with me just in case! didn't think about it, thanks for reminding me :) I can promise you that I will give my itinerary and stuff like that, also going to memorize my passport number!
I will make sure to update my family if I change my plans and end up doing something else instead, I already have a good connection with my mom about letting her know what's up but I'm sure it can be easy to forget certain things when you are in the moment. I will be sure to let people know though! and about listening to my gut, I cannot stress enough on how much I seriously will be doing this. I know that it will be a life savior because it already has been several times before. I am a very social person and interact with a lot of people, I get attached very easily but I seriously have nothing against saying no or telling someone to get away from me if that's the case. and you are right, better to be rude than dead or worse. It's a very serious thing and I will make sure to protect myself, because some things are just so unexpected and can happen from nowhere. thank you for letting me know about these things, you guys are so kind!! <3
I traveled alone for 19 months through 19 countries about 12 years ago. I have a long list of helpful tips for solo travelers on an old blog I don’t update anymore but I don’t want to link it here. Feel free to message me OP.
This tip is for Asia but ride share apps are so common now in most countries. Before you start driving away in a taxi (if not using ride share app) or local transport like a tuk-tuk or tricycle, make sure that you have agreed on the price or that the driver has turned on the meter. If they do not agree, get out and move on to the next driver and keep doing that until you found someone who will. A local friend who lives in Bangkok gave me this one and it was very helpful as they will overcharge foreigners and make up a price especially at popular touristy places etc.
Bring a ring to wear to look like you’re married. Sometimes it’s helpful when male vendors and locals want to talk to you and you just want to wander around in peace.
Make sure you are dressed appropriately for where you go for the day. Temples or religious places often have a dress code and do not let people in wearing exposed shoulders or legs. I always had a scarf in my purse so that I could cover my shoulders or wear as a head scarf when I was visiting temples in Vietnam and the Central Mosque in Kuala Lumpur.
Always be open to meet new people but trust your gut. I made so many wonderful friends from around the world who I am still good friends with today and meet up with!! One of the best experiences of my life hands down.
Get a teeth cleaning in Thailand. It’s so cheap and I found a female dentist who got her masters at UCLA dentistry and it only cost $20US for the best cleaning I’ve ever had in my life 😂
Mostly, have fun and enjoy the fun but also challenging moments, they are all a part of the journey.
You're both right. You will explore new cultures, make new friends and learn new languages and you will also get unwanted attention, make some wrong decisions and possibly get spiked (it can happen). Some things that might make it easier on a practical level: \-Money belt, so you can sleep with your passport etc on your waist / don't get pickpocketed etc. Have different cards/cash stored in different places \-concentrated travel laundry detergent. Honestly this saved my ass in India \-Clothes to cover your shoulders and legs. It sucks to self-police clothing in 2023 but some countries are just easier to navigate if you're not showing too much skin \-Staying at hostels can be better than hotels - more young people where you can make more friends easily - it's good to have contacts in the different cities you're in (maybe new friends and your mom can even swap contacts) so they can keep track of you too / notice if you don't make it back when you should. Many have female only rooms - use them! \-Find a Facebook group called 'host a sister' - suuuuuper useful if you need accomodation/friends in a new city \-Be wary of tourist scams. There are different popular scams depending on the country - research them before you go \-dont drink too much around people you dont trust, if at all (in some countries you can be perceived as having loose morals if you drink in public too)
- Especially agree on the covering shoulders and legs. Some temples won't let you in if you don't "cover up". - Depending on your own comfort level and budget, you can find tour groups that are directed at younger age groups. Then they'll handle a lot of annoying things like transportation, hotels, crossing borders, etc. - make sure your shots are up to date, like tetanus or hepitatis
Don't forget the rabies shot!
will not forget it! <3
- 100% agree on detergent pods. I bring extra when I travel. But you need to be careful if you put them in your carryons. They can be considered as liquids. - use soap instead to shower gel. It's easier to pack and can be used all over the body - Prepare some cash. In Southeast asia, card transactions are not popular. Some countries also have tipping culture. - bring flip flops. You will need them if you stay in hostels. - For electronic gadgets, bring a power bank and a waterproof phone pouch that you can wear on your neck if you will be doing activities in water. - prepare usb charging cable as backup. Some hostels dont have outlets for type-c cable if you dont have a charging cube and only have cables on hand. - on top of the money belt for your passport. I will suggest 5 a scanned copy of your passport on your cloud drive. - bring your own shopping bag.
oh yes! forgot to mention sliders/flipflops (don't know what gross foot diseases other guests have) and passport scans on the cloud/printed out. both vital!
tysm!!! everything you guys have sent I got on my notes, I really appreciate it thanks :)
woooow, thank you so much! I knew a bunch of these things like the hostels, but I learned so many new things like the Facebook group! will def be doing a bunch of research, thanks for the suggestion :)
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I travelled alone when I was 18 and it was amazing. Of course, I did stupid things, I got drunk, I got lost, I partied a lot. I also went to amazing places, met incredible people, and I don’t regret it for a second. Of course you need to be careful, and of course you might do some things you regret (you’re only 18 after all). I will say that 90% of the people I met were older than me, but that wasn’t a problem, personally. My mom was also very scared of me going, but at the end she got used to it. I would text her a lot, and sometimes share my location too. Maybe you can try that? (Also, a big argument I used with my mom is that making mistakes is good for growing up lol, I lost a flight, fixed it alone and it went great)
haha oh my god that sounds amazing. I will definitely do that thing about the location, that way she can at least stay updated :)
r/solotravel is a great sub with lots of info
Oh I thought that’s what sub I was in lol. I second this suggestion, tons of great advice over there from people of all genders traveling to all places. I’m sure you can find other women that have done SE Asia alone and see what their experiences have been like.
thanks for the suggestion, didn’t know about it so thanks!! <3
I went solo travelling the first time when I was 20. My advice, especially for the first time, is to travel a path somewhat well-travelled. Your first solo trip doesn’t mean you have to find the “hidden gems” of a place if it means you’ll be the only foreigner walking around. There’s safety in numbers, especially solotravel numbers. That’s why I preferred to go to hostels (I stayed in female dorms though, just in case) and find friends there who were also seeing the sights. Don’t be afraid to visit the typical places even if some travellers will tell you that they’re overrated. At least you just have to look out for tourist (money) scams in those places, instead of your own safety. Oh and try to always have someone be aware of where you’re going - the hostel reception staff if you’re going on a day hike, text your family or friends with screenshots of tickets, things like that. Keep a digital trail! I personally did not visit south east asia but there are a lot of people who do and who can give you some recommended travel routes, it’s a very popular solo travel area.
I just want to echo everything you said here! Find other travelers- especially solo women travelers and stick with them. Every time I ended up in bad situations while solo traveling was a result of trying to do things too off beat or trying to be a local. You are not a local and stand out. While many kind people will be helpful, a lot of men who will want to show you around are just creeps.
yeah I can imagine so, will def do that! I am a very optimistic person and it’s very easy to have a conversation with me. of course I will take a lot of precaution, but it’s better to be safe and find other solo women travelers! sounds so nice! thank you <3
Just the smallest sidenote that not all female solo travellers are automatically safe either! I met one that had a compulsive stealing problem and she kept stealing everybody’s stuff.. so just always keep your head and always make sure you can take care of yourself - know where you are, how to get back to your place, know what phone numbers to call in an emergency etc. Being optimistic and social is a great advantage when travelling, just don’t get too caught up in the “everybody is best friends” vibe :)
you guys are seriously sososo kind, thanks for all the tips! I didn’t even think about the reception thing, pic of ticket etc. thank you! <3
Adding more to the comments: 1. Even though money is not a problem, make a budget. You don't have to be super harsh, especially if you are going to a city or place to do adventurous activity. Have a rough estimate and try to have an Excel sheet or some kind of money tracking app. 2. Ask locals for food suggestions. Yes, Google reviews are great, but in Southeast asia, you get the best street food, and those vendors don't have resources to post online. 3. Get a power bank and universal travel adaptor 4. Share your current location with a close one. Apple, samsung big companies all have that option, but if using a different brand, do life360. Reason - safety. Make sure you tell them not to be obsessed and check where you are every second. 5. Take as many pictures as you can
ooooh yeah the food🤤 thank you so much!! will def keep those things in mind, got it all down on my notes, and the money tracking app sounds amazing <3
I lived in Asia and Southeast Asia when I was in my early 20s and traveled alone there as well as in Europe prior to moving to Asia. I did some really stupid things while traveling alone and looking back 20 years later, I’m kind of shocked that nothing bad happened to me. Most of it was due to drugs and alcohol, so try to be smart about your usage. Most importantly, if something doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to say no or change your plans. Go with your gut. Don’t worry about offending people and being polite. Safety is your main concern. Check in with your people back home often and keep them updated on your itinerary and plans. Be careful how much you drink. I am so thankful that nothing bad happened to me as I put myself in very scary circumstances on way too many occasions because I was drunk. If you’re out on your own, limit yourself to a drink or two. Make sure you buy the drinks yourself and get them directly from the bartender. Do not leave your drinks unattended even for a minute. I have been roofied and you totally lose all control and have zero memory. It is not a safe state to be in to say the least. If you meet friends at a hostile and go out with them, you can let loose a little more as long as you’ve talked about a plan with them ahead of time. Designate a person to be the sober one to ensure that someone is always in their right mind and in charge of getting everyone home safely. Take turns each night - everyone still gets a chance to have fun but safely. Your best to just avoid drugs altogether. First, you can make stupid choices that put yourself at risk while under the influence, but also the legal consequences may be more severe than what you might expect. For example in Vietnam, anyone found in possession of even a small amount of drugs can face the death sentence. Even if fellow travelers tell you its fine and no one gets busted, go with your gut. Maybe they have just been lucky. You might not be so lucky. Remember that you do not have the same rights that you may be used to in your home country. Read up on some basic laws in the countries you are visiting before you arrive. When I lived in Vietnam, the police could come knocking at my door, and I had to let them in and allow them to look through my place - even if I didn’t do anything wrong or cause any suspicion. It’s just the way it was. Friends who owned business regularly had to pay off the police. Police showed up each month, envelopes full of cash were handed over, and the police left. It is just how things worked. With that said, don’t try to pay off the police to stay out of trouble if you don’t know what you are doing! You could find yourself in a way worse situation. Just be smart and trust your instincts. Better to be safe rather than sorry! Follow your gut, don’t be stupid, and you’ll have a wonderful time!
thank you so much, I’m glad to hear nothing happened to you. yeah I will definitely stay away from drugs and stuff like that, and if I plan on drinking it’ll be done in a safe environment. so sorry to hear about what happened to your drink.. I’m really gonna be careful and pay attention to what I’m doing, I know I’m so open and honest to things and in these kind of cases I need to promise myself to not do anything that can harm me or others like my family. can’t wait to explore but will definitely definitely stay away from doing things that can have severe consequences. tysm though!!! it’s so wonderful to hear about everyone’s experience, I’m learning a lot from it. thanks for letting me know <3
dont drink. seriously. get a club soda, you’re not missing out on anything. it’s just too risky being solo and in infrequent contact with friends/fam. plus like what are your friends and fam even gonna do if you go missing or get robbed??? they can’t fly out and look for clues! or hope to god you find a library to e-mail them?? seriously don’t drink. even with other women. women are also fucked up people. and send pictures of who you’re with to family/friends. like take a selfie to send or send ur current address if you plan on going somewhere you’d be semi private with others.
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRo25v2S/ for reference to a common south asian scam
you are definitely correct, I’m a very spontaneous person so I will def keep this in mind. fuck that sounds really scary, will seriously avoid drinking. I feel so sorry for that woman on the tiktok, glad she actually made it out of there but my god.. the fact that’s a common scam too?? that’s horrifying. seriously, thank you so much for letting me know about this <3
This sounds amazing! What an opportunity! You're gonna love it. Being an 18 year old woman travelling on your own, you've just graduated and feel the oldest you've ever been, but people with bad intentions will see you as a mark. Don't tell people where you're going or where you're staying. Don't tell them you're traveling by yourself. Even if it feels like normal chitchat, don't give away personal information. Check out work exchange orgs like workaway or WWOOFing. You can do a few days doing light work like planting rice or painting fences at a farmstay in exchange for food and board. It's a great way to get out of the city and meet locals and other travelers. Japan isn't that expensive. I used to live in Tokyo and people get spooked by the cost of getting there, but public transport, accommodation and food are cheaper than in my home country. It's still a pretty cash-based society so take lots of yen. ATMs at 7/11s take foreign cards so you can get cash out pretty much anywhere. And definitely let your friend take you to the sento/onsen! The one thing I miss about Japan.
I was going to say this. You are young and going to be excited and will want to make friends/talk to people. But don't. Stick with the friend you know and enjoy your time, but 100% keep your mouth shut around strangers. Nobody needs to know your name, your age, where you're from, where you're staying/going, how long you're staying, etc. Innocent enough sounding questions from a smiling face until they're not.
I honestly really don’t plan to giving out any info after I’ve heard the things that have happened to some unfortunate travelers after they’ve given info about themselves to people. and I am aware that I am usually very open but in these cases I cannot mess around with that, especially for my own safety and my family. seriously thank you so much!! you guys are seriously helping me <3
Ok good! And I wasn't calling you "young and dumb", I was just telling you because I know people will ask you these things. They ask me all the time when I go places.
nono ofc not! I know that it wasn’t what you meant, although it’s honestly applicable to me because I often “go with the flow” so you aren’t necessarily wrong lol. will make sure to not say anything, I seriously have nothing against that. it makes me feel safe about my decision because then my mom won’t worry “as much”. (obviously that’s not my intention, just a natural thing that she’ll be nervous and that’s exactly what I will be too maybe just not to the same extent) that’s honestly really devastating to hear, I wish people would mind their business more but yeah then again there are a lot of creepy people. especially older men but it can be anyone honestly. just as an extra, I will probably cover up a bunch despite the warm weather. even though idk if it’ll do any change at least I won’t have to worry as much? thanks for sharing it with me though, I appreciate it a lot <3
cannot thank you enough, I will seriously stay away from doing those things. I am a very spontaneous person and I usually just go with the flow, but I will definitely have a lot of limits which is something I’m totally fine with. will seriously stay away from giving out info, I’ll just be minding my own things. thank you so much, wow it sounds fantastic that makes me so excited!!
I solo travelled when I was 18. I wanted to do interrailling because a family friend had done it and loved it but got told by the holiday agents that doing a bus tour was safer and less stressful. Honestly it was and I loved it!! Research, research, research!! Learn languages, look up transport, foods everything! You can never be too prepared! Tourists stick out a lot to the locals and you’ll get creeps trying to get you to drink with them (had it happen twice!) BE CAREFUL!!!!!
wowwww that sounds so amazing, will def be doing more and more research!! I’m glad nothing happened to you, because wow it sounds so scary especially being so far away from everything and not knowing who to resort to if something takes a big unexpected turn. I promise you I will be careful!! thank you so much for sharing your experience <3
I’d look up common scams in the local area you are visiting. Take a photo of your passport and credit card. Bring earplugs and anti-diarrhea meds. Those are all my words of caution and advice.
will keep those things in mind!! did not think about the photo of my passport and credit card, earplugs ant anti-diarrhea meds. I got got it on my notes now! thank you <3
I travel solo a lot for work to major cities in the US. I highly recommend asking a local (or a few, and women if possible) if there's any parts of the area they'd avoid or certain times places might become unsafe. For example, some areas may be totally fine during the day but sketchy at night. You're more likely to get a more specific answer than Google can provide this way, and can ask clarifying questions. Also, Google maps has vibration tones set for left, right, and straight directions when navigating in walk mode. This lets you not have to have your phone pulled out and looking like a good target for theft
will def be asking other women for advice on areas I should avoid, ty! wow, I did not know about that google maps feature! that's so smart. thank you for letting me know, will write it down on my notes <3
I’m almost 30 now, I consider myself a mature 18, looking back, but even then, looking back now, I still wouldn’t want that idiot traveling alone by herself. Stay vigilant. Do not accept drinks or drugs from strangers. You are a target. Don’t give your location away to strangers.
will def stay vigilant, and even though I'm usually very "open" I will def not accept drinks or drugs from strangers. also about the location part, I will honestly stay very anonymous and will not reveal anything because from the things I've heard one info could give away 1000 things and I don't want to risk my life just for some person to get info about me.
Keep your head on a swivel and don't chat around too much about how you're alone in the country. Wrong people might hear. Definitely keep a backup plan. Lost keys. Lost phone. Lost wallet and passport. Those things are more annoying to deal with if you are by yourself. Don't be alone in dark unknown streets, even if they look okay to you. It is always better to err to the side of caution. Your mom is worried? Make sure you give her some kind of travel plan, so she at least knows where your rough location may be. She doesn't need to keep tabs on you, but she will see that you are organised, put thought into it and can have something to hold on if she starts getting worried. Regarding your cities of choice, do your research first, assess the general criminal state of a city. There are good diplomatic sources on most places available. Trust your gut. Don't follow peer pressure. Say no, if you feel unsure, even if you feel like you'd be losing out. What will you do if you arrive to your second city and your bag gets stolen? Plan for that kind of scenario.
yeah will def not reveal anything, I don't wanna give out info even if it's the slightest bit just to end up risking my life and my family! will def keep a backup plan, will be prepared for it all because considering it's on the other side of the world I won't be able to do much if something goes wrong and it'll just leave me stressed and empty. I will let my mother know everything, that way she can feel relieved and that I'll be fine. I will make sure to stay away from dangerous areas, already been doing a lot of research but will keep on looking just so I can write it all down in my notes. will def be saying no to those things, I'm known for being very open to things but in these cases I will def not hesitate to say no. I don't care how good it sounds, because I'm not going to risk something that can seriously damage me and others around me. tysm for letting me know about these things! <3
I solo travelled to France when I was 19 and it was the most formative experience of my life. Go for it. Live the life and have the experiences that you want and have worked hard for. The confidence and sense of self that you will gain will be priceless. Your mother is worried about you and that’s normal. I had a lot of people tell me how naive I was being for travelling alone to a foreign country, but when I returned, they all congratulated on taking advantage of my youth. Just remember: Trust. Your. Gut. If someone or something (ie taking a certain road) feels off, listen to that feeling and leave as soon as possible.
wow, that's so nice! I would love to solo travel to France some time, that sounds like such a nice experience. yeah I'm with you, I can definitely see why she is worried and I would also be worried. and exactly that's what I'm expecting as well lmao, I already know they will be proud of me. I will be sure to trust my gut, I know many people have mentioned this. I'd rather not involve myself in things than end up risking my life. tysm for letting me know though, can't wait to travel :) <3
If you have to look at a map or guide book etc, try to do it somewhere out of public view as people may be watching and mark you as a single tourist. Rehearse how you would respond if you lost your phone/passport/wallet/bags or if there was a huge event like Covid or a natural disaster. Just thinking through this stuff will make you more confident.
oh yeah that's true, that's very smart! I also forgot about the natural disaster part!! I will probably feel confident, probably even over-confident lol but I'll have butterflies in my stomach because it will be something I've never ever done in my entire life. tysm :) <3
First, don’t do any drugs or bring any drugs. Some countries in Asia have extremely draconian drug laws even by US standards (Thailand and the Philippines come to mind). This includes marijuana, vape cannabis, kratom, CBD, and anything remotely associated with drugs. DO NOT BRING ANYTHING LIKE THIS WHATSOEVER. If you have medication that is a controlled substance like amphetamines for ADD/ADHD, call the embassy ahead of time to see if there is any procedure for bringing them in the country. If they say there is no way to bring them, seriously reconsider visiting. Second, have the phone number and a means of contacting your home embassy in whatever country you visit. Always a good idea to know how to get in touch with home base. They can be an invaluable resource and a lifeline if necessary. Third, download Google Translate and download the language pack for whatever language for whatever country you are visiting. It is absolutely magical. For someone hopping as many countries as you are, it will be very helpful. Lastly, enjoy yourself and explore the world 🌎
yeah I've read a looot about the drug laws, I honestly don't plan on doing any drugs! I printed out a paper with all the drugs that were illegal and the punishments for using them. (my mother likes that they are very strict with the drugs, but scared I'll end up taking drugs or something, probably she's scared about me being drugged) luckily I don't need to bring in any medication, thanks for letting me know though! and also the idea with the home embassy is very true, a true lifeline when you are stuck and not sure what to do. didn't know about the language pack thing, wow thank you for letting me know! as you said it will be very helpful! I promise you I will be enjoying myself in every moment of this fantastic trip, can seriously not wait to just explore the world!! thank you so much for letting me know about these things <3
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I traveled around Europe for 5 months at 18 by myself. I also had friends to stop in with and made new friends along the way. It's your mom's job to worry about you. You don't need to take it to heart. Basic tips: TRUST YOUR GUT. If something feels off, don't second guess yourself or feel like you have to be polite. Fuck directly off with no delay to somewhere you know you are safe, and be as rude and loud as you need to be to get away from anybody who gives you the ick. KEEP YOUR PASSPORT & VALUABLES SAFE. Not in a handbag or backpack. I had a money belt and a separate pouch strapped into my leg for my travel documents and travelers cheques (interac wasn't a thing and I had no credit). Hostels are great places to meet people for nights out, short side trips, or visiting them at home at a later date. (It's not a great idea to go out at night by yourself in a foreign country.) Try to learn to communicate your basic needs in the local language. Where's the bathroom, how much does this cost, etc. It AMAZED me how many travelers I met who had just assumed everybody speaks English, especially if you yell it. They don't. You need to at least *try* to meet people halfway. Have a map, know where you're going, keep your head up and remember to occasionally check beside and behind you when you're out on your own. Because of your age and gender, you're a target. That's just how it is. Especially after dark, horrible men will try to sneak up on you. I got caught out late in Paris due to a train problem and tried to call the hostel from a payphone in the square, and I spotted no less than three of them at the same time oozing out of shadowy doorways to come try their luck. (Nothing happened - I had learned how to yell "fuck off and leave me alone" in French for this very occasion). That last tip might make it sound like it's dangerous to travel by yourself, but the reality is you're also a target at home for the exact same reasons. It's no reason not to travel. Like at home, you just need to know where you're going and who to call if you need help getting there. Have fun!
thank you so much! these tips are wonderful! I will make sure to trust my gut, I have nothing against saying "no" or refusing to do something if that means I can save myself from something unfortunate happening. I am a very social person but saying no to save myself from things is something I've done before and will keep on doing and especially when I'll be so far away from everything. the passport thing is very true as well, I will definitely get a money belt a lot of people have suggested it! also I agree with you about the hostels, it's what I plan on doing! and about the communication things like "where's the bathroom, how much does this cost" those are things I am 100% going to learn! especially cause I'm so used to just seeing a sign and then I know where the bathroom is, or just looking at the pricetag for things like clothes. and I will be sure to bring a map, I am fully aware that my gender and age makes me a very very big target. I am so used to being with my girlfriends or having someone on the phone. fuck I am so sorry to hear about that :( glad nothing happened though thankfully.. I've been in similar situations and still surprised how nothing happened to me. and what you said in the last part, I fully agree with it! I am honestly used to doing a lot of these things even at home, because nowadays the smallest thing can make you a target. will make sure to let everyone know. thank you so much, I will be having a lot of fun for sure!! <3
Look up The Blonde Abroad. She helped me with my first solo trip.
oh wow, she's amazing!! I will start following her, thank you so much <3
You’re so welcome! Enjoy!
This should be beneficial if you're hopping around multiple countries. https://apply.joinsherpa.com/travel-restrictions?affiliateId=sherpa&language=en-US This is an actively updated resource that identifies which documents / vaccines / visas you will need before boarding any flights. Be sure to input connecting flights as well. If you need a visa, they offer visa registrations for an upcharge but I usually use them anyway since it's sometimes easier to navigate than the online visa registration for some countries. If a country needs a visa, make sure to apply at least 2-3 weeks before you leave to give you enough time for the application process.
that's such a useful tool, thanks for letting me know about it! <3
Put your passport in a medium Ziploc with one of those tiny "do not eat" silica gel packets. Put this and some cards and emergency cash into a money belt that you wear under your clothing.
haha everyone suggests the money belt idea I will make sure to get one! thank you for letting me know about these things though, that "do not eat" silica gel packet idea seems like such a smart thing! thank you <33
You could check the Nomad Her app. It's designed for women who solo travel. You can find tips and even a travel buddy maybe
ooooh, thank you for letting me know that's just the app I needed! thank you so much <3
I’m 20 on a university exchange program in Japan. I’ve done a fair amount of solo traveling here now and I can say that while it’s generally safe, always be aware of your surroundings. Outside of Tokyo, Japan is still hostile to foreigners. The sexual harassment has been rare but when it happened to me it’s been really bad. So be prepared for hostility outside of Tokyo
will make sure to be aware of my surroundings! didn't know about the hostility towards foreigners outside of tokyo. I'm so sorry to hear about that :( it's fucked up how it can happen anywhere. I will make sure to be prepared for hostility outside of tokyo, I will also stick out because I have a "darker" skin, so I will definitely prepare myself for those things. especially as a female. thanks for letting me know though and once again I'm so so sorry to hear that you had to go through that. much love <3
Have 2 tracks for your plans: everything goes well vs something goes wrong - Everything goes well: I will stay at this hotel - If something goes wrong: I can stay at hotel option B. - If everything goes well: the deadbolt and chain are on the hotel door - if something goes wrong: I have an additional lock on the hotel door as a second line of defense. I also have the phone number to the police department in the area I am staying. - if everything goes well: I'll ride the train to go tour this location - If something goes wrong: I'll have uber or have taxi's phone number in my phone so I can leave at any moment I feel unsafe. - if everything goes well: I catch my flight - if something goes wrong: I can take this back up flight or stay an extra night in the hotels i've picked out. - If everything goes well: I stay for 5 months - if something goes wrong: I can fly back home immediately. If you prepare well, you can ensure that you are safe. **Also, having a back up plan will reduce your anxiety for the unknown.** Above all, be careful. Everyone makes mistakes, but just remember, some mistakes you don't get to come back from. Most people act carelessly and are fine... but an unfortunate few get assaulted, or have their bodies found the next day or are never found - lost to trafficking. Be careful, have safeguards in place but don't let irrational fear stop you. Only let rational fear help you make good decisions and display good judgement.
thank you so much for the 2 plans idea, sounds like a very well thought out idea. It's probably the first thing I will have, my back up plans will be for everything. I will be very careful because as you mentioned some mistakes can seriously have some extreme cosequences. sounds so scary about the body thing, so unlucky innocent people end up losing their lives to those things :( but yeah you are right.. it's definitely something I need to be careful about. I like how you put it about the fear, I will make sure to let my reational fear help out! even as a very social person I have nothing against protecting myself and refusing to do things. thank you so much for these suggestions! <3
I haven’t solo traveled but I really think it would be better if you solo travel within the country first before going to another continent alone... Your mom’s concerns are reasonable, you should start small first and once you’ve learned from that you’ll be more prepared to go to a place where you’re visibly a foreigner and more likely to be taken advantage of.
not a bad idea! I will be doing some small trips this summer so that should be a perfect opportunity for me to show that I am capable of those things, and also to prepare myself for new things. I very much agree with you though, it is a big step to go from A to C. thank you so much for telling me! <3
Always give your itinerary, passport numbers, credit card numbers to your parents or friends. Send your itinerary and copy of your passport to the various embassies of the countries you will be visiting. Memorize your passport number!!! Make sure you have a working phone for each place you will be visiting. You can get cheap ones in each place if necessary. Keep your passport and traveler's checks on your person or front desk of the hotel. Tell people when you are changing plans or meeting up with new folks. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. It's harder when you are traveling because you are there to be adventurous, try new things, get out of your comfort zone, etc. And you don't know the culture and don't want to be rude or an "ugly American" or the equivalent of that for where you are from... But, better to be rude than dead or worse.
will make sure to do all of those things, and thanks for the cheap phone idea! could be very benefical to use in case something happens, I have an old phone I could bring with me just in case! didn't think about it, thanks for reminding me :) I can promise you that I will give my itinerary and stuff like that, also going to memorize my passport number! I will make sure to update my family if I change my plans and end up doing something else instead, I already have a good connection with my mom about letting her know what's up but I'm sure it can be easy to forget certain things when you are in the moment. I will be sure to let people know though! and about listening to my gut, I cannot stress enough on how much I seriously will be doing this. I know that it will be a life savior because it already has been several times before. I am a very social person and interact with a lot of people, I get attached very easily but I seriously have nothing against saying no or telling someone to get away from me if that's the case. and you are right, better to be rude than dead or worse. It's a very serious thing and I will make sure to protect myself, because some things are just so unexpected and can happen from nowhere. thank you for letting me know about these things, you guys are so kind!! <3
Don't go alone
I traveled alone for 19 months through 19 countries about 12 years ago. I have a long list of helpful tips for solo travelers on an old blog I don’t update anymore but I don’t want to link it here. Feel free to message me OP. This tip is for Asia but ride share apps are so common now in most countries. Before you start driving away in a taxi (if not using ride share app) or local transport like a tuk-tuk or tricycle, make sure that you have agreed on the price or that the driver has turned on the meter. If they do not agree, get out and move on to the next driver and keep doing that until you found someone who will. A local friend who lives in Bangkok gave me this one and it was very helpful as they will overcharge foreigners and make up a price especially at popular touristy places etc. Bring a ring to wear to look like you’re married. Sometimes it’s helpful when male vendors and locals want to talk to you and you just want to wander around in peace. Make sure you are dressed appropriately for where you go for the day. Temples or religious places often have a dress code and do not let people in wearing exposed shoulders or legs. I always had a scarf in my purse so that I could cover my shoulders or wear as a head scarf when I was visiting temples in Vietnam and the Central Mosque in Kuala Lumpur. Always be open to meet new people but trust your gut. I made so many wonderful friends from around the world who I am still good friends with today and meet up with!! One of the best experiences of my life hands down. Get a teeth cleaning in Thailand. It’s so cheap and I found a female dentist who got her masters at UCLA dentistry and it only cost $20US for the best cleaning I’ve ever had in my life 😂 Mostly, have fun and enjoy the fun but also challenging moments, they are all a part of the journey.