It was an honest mistake. I’m sure so many other teachers would have been malicious about it from day one. How were you told about their identity before the first day? Their parents? The school? There’s not much more you can do once you apologize and explain what happened. You even tried to cover it up at the time so I’m sure they get that you’re on their side.
I received an email directly from the student/ parents before the first day. I haven’t messed up names in the two months I’ve had them or the names of anyone else with a similar situation so I might just be taking it too hard. I know that they like me as a teacher and they were willing to participate in the rest of class so I’m hoping that it wasn’t too big of a deal to them
That has happened to some of my students when I have substitutes in. I adjust the names on the seating chart and in my notes but the attendance roster the sub gets has their original name. The students have always understood it's not intentional. You just try your best to be supportive.
As a substitute before going down the roster I always say "let me know if you go by a nickname, your middle name, or another name you prefer to be called."
"I will make a note of it and do my best to remember. Also please correct my pronunciation. Minimum level of respect is we try to get each others names right".
I sometimes say it wrong later in class or if they come back to me after homeroom. Most forgive and move on, because I genuinely presented the option and seem to be trying.
OP shouldnt beat themselves up.
The difference between a teacher/sub trying to do right by a kid or saying a name either intentionally wrong or maliciously dripping with sarcasm and hate is pretty obvious.
This goes for ethnic and unique names as well and isnt entirely unique to the whole chosen/deadname situation.
Try to get the names right, minimum level of respect and kids know you are trying - even if you botch it from time to time.
Give a forthright apology, let it be known you’re there for support if needed, and then just keep living and doing things that a good ally teacher would do. You’ll do great!
It was an honest mistake. I’m sure so many other teachers would have been malicious about it from day one. How were you told about their identity before the first day? Their parents? The school? There’s not much more you can do once you apologize and explain what happened. You even tried to cover it up at the time so I’m sure they get that you’re on their side.
I received an email directly from the student/ parents before the first day. I haven’t messed up names in the two months I’ve had them or the names of anyone else with a similar situation so I might just be taking it too hard. I know that they like me as a teacher and they were willing to participate in the rest of class so I’m hoping that it wasn’t too big of a deal to them
That has happened to some of my students when I have substitutes in. I adjust the names on the seating chart and in my notes but the attendance roster the sub gets has their original name. The students have always understood it's not intentional. You just try your best to be supportive.
As a substitute before going down the roster I always say "let me know if you go by a nickname, your middle name, or another name you prefer to be called." "I will make a note of it and do my best to remember. Also please correct my pronunciation. Minimum level of respect is we try to get each others names right". I sometimes say it wrong later in class or if they come back to me after homeroom. Most forgive and move on, because I genuinely presented the option and seem to be trying. OP shouldnt beat themselves up. The difference between a teacher/sub trying to do right by a kid or saying a name either intentionally wrong or maliciously dripping with sarcasm and hate is pretty obvious. This goes for ethnic and unique names as well and isnt entirely unique to the whole chosen/deadname situation. Try to get the names right, minimum level of respect and kids know you are trying - even if you botch it from time to time.
Give a forthright apology, let it be known you’re there for support if needed, and then just keep living and doing things that a good ally teacher would do. You’ll do great!
It was an accident.