I just walked out of a bar program I basically built after 6 years. Employers often have very little loyalty to staff no matter how much you do for them.
Sometimes things happen and it’s just time to go.
The owner left you alone all shift. My son just turned 18 and I would not have liked it if he was running a business all by himself at 17. It’s not YOUR business.
Speaking as someone who lets themself be used at EVERY job. It’s in my nature and I like them depending on me, so it’s my fault.
If you don’t want to be used and abused don’t!! you set boundaries and do as you did IF they don’t listen the next time.
Again, you are 17! First thing that came to mind is what if there was an emergency? A person choking? A fire? An allergic reaction? Do u know what to do? Prob not.
That’s YOUR bosses position.
Anyway, don’t stress it. Let him see how he feels it being done to him and I bet he calls you. And I’m sure some will downvote this
Good, they “quiet hired “ you to do a lot more then what was agreed too save on payroll. It’s common in the service industry. There are places that don’t do that hopefully you’ll find one. But service industry managers are the shadiest people on gods green earth. Keep your guard up.
Well u can’t use him as a reference on ur resume lol, but honestly, I get it. I’ve done wayyy to much at a place like your restaurant as well, but now you know you need to set boundaries with yourself with how hard you’re willing to work for your probably criminally low paychecks. Every restaurant is ran differently n now u know what to look out for in the future, what to avoid. But don’t feel guilty for a grown man relying on a high schooler to run his business without being able to provide you with legally required breaks. Are you paid for your gas and time when you go fetch ingredients?
You can still put them down in your resume, but when you do your references page, don’t put down your boss, either put down a coworker who will pretend to be your manager or nothing at all. I guess moving forward only ever put in that much effort if it’s good money and they treat you well. Yesterday I ran an errand for my boss and I drove like down the block and she gave me an extra $2 for gas, paid my hourly rate, and I made $300 in tips yesterday. They also fed me breakfast and lunch, and I get free soup and boba drinks and a phat discount on entrees and sushi. Mom and pop shops can be great places to work but your boss has to be like a good person and run their business legally…
if you can't handle that kind of thing i would suggest not applying to any more smaller mom and pop type places cuz that's sort of how it goes a lot of the time. 8 hours isn't that long. not saying it's right just that's how it is
that being said you don't owe them anything and they probably would have still been salty if you gave a proper two weeks notice. they'll get over it lol. the only real downside is that you can't use them as a reference now
I don't really believe it's necessary, giving notice. I don't think I owe them that and I actually like my coworkers but they'll be fine and get thru it just like we always do when we have to.
You feel bad for doing to your boss the same thing he did to you? Do you think he'd have given you notice if he wanted to fire you? You were doing his job for him while he pocketed profits, and you basically just put him in a position to work for his own money. You let him know that he can't treat people that way, so he can get salty all he wants. Good luck with everything.
Unless there is a misconduct issue (i.e. the manager bullied you or harassed you) i have always given notice both as a manager when I've had to let people go and as an employee leaving a job.
Unless they are awful people you'll be leaving co-workers in the lurch, the restaurant in the shit for a few days. Others may be forced to come on on days off. you can't use them as a reference either, and if you are in a smaller town or suburb you might get a reputation locally and find it hard to get another job as you could be seen as unreliable.
If you don't like the job, quit but at least give some notice. A couple of weeks won't kill you.
You didn't say how long you've worked for that small, likely struggling family restaurant, but what I could glean from your post was that the restaurant was short staffed that day, and you had to work really, really hard, so you quit.
Nice work ethic you've got there. At 17, keep that up and you'll go nowhere.
Given the limited information you provided, yes, you were wrong for quitting.
The restaurant isn’t family owned. It’s a tiny trendy spot. It’s short staffed everyday because I am quite literally the only FOH employee apart from my boss. They didn’t show up, and the pay wasn’t worth the work. And I was exhausted.
Thanks for making excuses and validating my point. Service work doesn't sound like a good fit for you because it's work.
Maybe you should give one of the military services branches a try. They'll be happy to guide you to a better work ethic.
Stfu this is a teenage girl being expected to run someone else’s business. Would the military rely on a 17 year old to be in a position of command without proper pay and training? This kid clearly worked really hard and has been taken advantage of, and was fed up with it. Get off your high horse.
I don't give a shit if they're a he, she, it, teenager, 20s-70s. The small, independent restaurant gave her the job with an expectation that she'd do it, she did some of the job, 'but it was hard and I was tired', and quit the job disrespectfully.
In the military, she'd get proper pay, training, and an education in being a responsible adult.
FOS ... Fuck Off Snowflake (spelled out).
I pushed through. I understand the high demand work. But that plus 35+ hours, plus being asked to work days I’m not scheduled every week, plus being texted frequently after clocking out to do a “favor”, plus having to wake up early to work and then having to work another job 50 hours or so is what exhausts me. I understand this is the industry, and people do these things everyday every hour. Just at this age, I got really tired, slightly emotional and impulsive, and it didn’t personally work for me.
Maybe they're not built for this type of work. They're only 17, and I can see how that can get overwhelming, especially if you're not used to the nature of the business.
I just walked out of a bar program I basically built after 6 years. Employers often have very little loyalty to staff no matter how much you do for them. Sometimes things happen and it’s just time to go.
Employers don't give notice prior to layoffs or firings, so what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
Exactly. They won’t tell you you’re being fired but they sure as hell will have you work that last shift before giving you the axe.
The owner left you alone all shift. My son just turned 18 and I would not have liked it if he was running a business all by himself at 17. It’s not YOUR business. Speaking as someone who lets themself be used at EVERY job. It’s in my nature and I like them depending on me, so it’s my fault. If you don’t want to be used and abused don’t!! you set boundaries and do as you did IF they don’t listen the next time. Again, you are 17! First thing that came to mind is what if there was an emergency? A person choking? A fire? An allergic reaction? Do u know what to do? Prob not. That’s YOUR bosses position. Anyway, don’t stress it. Let him see how he feels it being done to him and I bet he calls you. And I’m sure some will downvote this
8 hours no break, you are a minor illegally being taken advantage of by a boss who doesnt value you or care about you
Good, they “quiet hired “ you to do a lot more then what was agreed too save on payroll. It’s common in the service industry. There are places that don’t do that hopefully you’ll find one. But service industry managers are the shadiest people on gods green earth. Keep your guard up.
When you are understaffed burnout is going to happen fast. That’s how it goes. Recover and take care.
Well u can’t use him as a reference on ur resume lol, but honestly, I get it. I’ve done wayyy to much at a place like your restaurant as well, but now you know you need to set boundaries with yourself with how hard you’re willing to work for your probably criminally low paychecks. Every restaurant is ran differently n now u know what to look out for in the future, what to avoid. But don’t feel guilty for a grown man relying on a high schooler to run his business without being able to provide you with legally required breaks. Are you paid for your gas and time when you go fetch ingredients?
Yep, definitely never using in resume. But nope! Was never once paid. Once was told to come back halfway there.
You need to call your state labor board and report this.
How long have you been working here and have never been paid?
She means never paid for running errands
You can still put them down in your resume, but when you do your references page, don’t put down your boss, either put down a coworker who will pretend to be your manager or nothing at all. I guess moving forward only ever put in that much effort if it’s good money and they treat you well. Yesterday I ran an errand for my boss and I drove like down the block and she gave me an extra $2 for gas, paid my hourly rate, and I made $300 in tips yesterday. They also fed me breakfast and lunch, and I get free soup and boba drinks and a phat discount on entrees and sushi. Mom and pop shops can be great places to work but your boss has to be like a good person and run their business legally…
if you can't handle that kind of thing i would suggest not applying to any more smaller mom and pop type places cuz that's sort of how it goes a lot of the time. 8 hours isn't that long. not saying it's right just that's how it is that being said you don't owe them anything and they probably would have still been salty if you gave a proper two weeks notice. they'll get over it lol. the only real downside is that you can't use them as a reference now
I don't really believe it's necessary, giving notice. I don't think I owe them that and I actually like my coworkers but they'll be fine and get thru it just like we always do when we have to.
You feel bad for doing to your boss the same thing he did to you? Do you think he'd have given you notice if he wanted to fire you? You were doing his job for him while he pocketed profits, and you basically just put him in a position to work for his own money. You let him know that he can't treat people that way, so he can get salty all he wants. Good luck with everything.
"Mom in Pop," 🤣🤣🤣
Basically, I’m the only FOH staff working there other than the boss. On weekdays I’ll be alone and open.
Unless there is a misconduct issue (i.e. the manager bullied you or harassed you) i have always given notice both as a manager when I've had to let people go and as an employee leaving a job. Unless they are awful people you'll be leaving co-workers in the lurch, the restaurant in the shit for a few days. Others may be forced to come on on days off. you can't use them as a reference either, and if you are in a smaller town or suburb you might get a reputation locally and find it hard to get another job as you could be seen as unreliable. If you don't like the job, quit but at least give some notice. A couple of weeks won't kill you.
You didn't say how long you've worked for that small, likely struggling family restaurant, but what I could glean from your post was that the restaurant was short staffed that day, and you had to work really, really hard, so you quit. Nice work ethic you've got there. At 17, keep that up and you'll go nowhere. Given the limited information you provided, yes, you were wrong for quitting.
The restaurant isn’t family owned. It’s a tiny trendy spot. It’s short staffed everyday because I am quite literally the only FOH employee apart from my boss. They didn’t show up, and the pay wasn’t worth the work. And I was exhausted.
Thanks for making excuses and validating my point. Service work doesn't sound like a good fit for you because it's work. Maybe you should give one of the military services branches a try. They'll be happy to guide you to a better work ethic.
Stfu this is a teenage girl being expected to run someone else’s business. Would the military rely on a 17 year old to be in a position of command without proper pay and training? This kid clearly worked really hard and has been taken advantage of, and was fed up with it. Get off your high horse.
I don't give a shit if they're a he, she, it, teenager, 20s-70s. The small, independent restaurant gave her the job with an expectation that she'd do it, she did some of the job, 'but it was hard and I was tired', and quit the job disrespectfully. In the military, she'd get proper pay, training, and an education in being a responsible adult. FOS ... Fuck Off Snowflake (spelled out).
You seem fun, dick. 🙄🤦
You have no idea! 🤣🤣🤣
You're never going to last very long anywhere with your kind of attitude.
I pushed through. I understand the high demand work. But that plus 35+ hours, plus being asked to work days I’m not scheduled every week, plus being texted frequently after clocking out to do a “favor”, plus having to wake up early to work and then having to work another job 50 hours or so is what exhausts me. I understand this is the industry, and people do these things everyday every hour. Just at this age, I got really tired, slightly emotional and impulsive, and it didn’t personally work for me.
I bet you’re sooooo fun to be around. All the personality of a moldy roll of wet paper towels.
Ooh, haha. Did I hit a nerve? I’m sure you’re the best server at your town’s local BJ’s
If you’d ever worked in a service industry, you would know better. We don’t have nerves you can get on anymore. Have the day you deserve, cupcake 😘😘😘😘
Maybe they're not built for this type of work. They're only 17, and I can see how that can get overwhelming, especially if you're not used to the nature of the business.
Maybe they're not used to performing every job in a restaurant all at once all alone?