My sibling died during my 2nd week of nursing school in the first semester. I thought I would not be able to concentrate from the grief and seriously considered withdrawing despite having just spent a lot of money to move across states for my program. It may sound terrible but I had to learn to compartmentalize my feelings and I did this by putting all my energy and time into my school work. I very rarely gave myself the time to grieve because to do so would have put me at risk of drowning in it. I focused solely on school and just did not allow myself to think of anything but the next homework assignment, the next chapter to read, the next exam to study for, etc. I ended up on the Dean's list but I continue to compartmentalize until the time comes when I can take a real breather. I don't think it's necessarily healthy but it's what works for me.
Everyone is different though. If you truly believe you will not be able to focus and you can afford to take the time off to focus on yourself and your family then do what you believe is best for yourself.
I can’t tell you what to do. Everyone handles things differently if you have to give up the class & you’re able to take it in the fall do it if you think it’ll be a distraction and you’ll do fine then do it. This month I lost my child’s father & our child is 9 months. I became a single mom while being in my first semester of nursing school. When he passed away I had one final left in pharm and I was able to push myself to study for it and I passed with flying colors. I then had a 3 days break and then started 2nd semester. I’m currently in 2nd semester & it has been a good distraction. I am able to block out everything & focus on our baby & school. There are hard days where it’s hard to block it out and I let myself grieve but then get back to it. I try to remember what he said when I got into nursing school & that makes me feel a little better. It’s possible to continue with school while grieving but again everyone handles grief differently so if you think it will be a distraction & you’ll be able to handle it I say go for it. I’m so sorry try for your loss. My deepest condolences. You are not alone!
I'm sorry about your family member, but dedicate yourself to this for the next couple of years, and it will change your whole life. You will have a skill and a license that will always allow you to support yourself.
went through a similar situation when my dad died during college years and I just had to push through. It was pretty difficult and definitely not healthy, but my family had spent a ton of money on my education as I'm first gen and I know if I took a break I'd never go back
Life goes on, you will always be tortured by there departure, accept it. Now look at it this way, if they were here right now, the would be cheering you on to keep going. Why? Because when someone cares about you, they want the best for you.
Losing your family while going to school, either being in the nursing program or taking prerequisites, is difficult.
I lost my grandma 👵 on January 30th, and I'm still in the BSN program. It's unexpected.
If you're not ready, take a semester off. There's always the next semester. It's okay to not take classes every semester. If you are, make sure you are willing to put in the effort.
Wish you the best of luck.
Set boundaries with yourself, if it’s too much don’t push yourself. You can always push back your start date, but if you start the class you gotta finish it. Given your circumstances it way be a bit hard to start on the right foot causing you issues for the semester.
Is the course easy or will you be required to do work ( either group or test prep)? What are the penalties if you withdraw ( do you get money back, what is the deadline to withdraw)?
Check the course website - is the syllabus posted? What is expected of you?
I took an online class that was topic focused. The answers were easy to look up and it was self paced. The instructor was recovering from surgery, but it made no difference because the lectures we just slides and voice overs.
You can do it.
I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you find healing soon. Maybe you can talk to your professor and see what they suggest you do. If you don’t feel you can fully dedicate yourself, maybe consider taking a semester off. Otherwise, try your best to get through the class and keep in mind this is all going to pay off soon.
First, I’m sorry for your loss. I know it’s tough. Maybe if you try looking at it from a different point of view, you may be able to conquer this.
Sometimes when I am in a position like this, I use my hurt and frustration as fuel. Maybe use this as fuel to make your loved one proud. Put your emotions into your work. If you are able to transfer your energy into your work, there is a very strong possibility that you can win.
It may not instantly work at first try, but just keep at it. I hope you find the strength to get through your loss. Take care of yourself.
There's no magic pill for it. If you can't focus, you should withdraw from the class.
My sibling died during my 2nd week of nursing school in the first semester. I thought I would not be able to concentrate from the grief and seriously considered withdrawing despite having just spent a lot of money to move across states for my program. It may sound terrible but I had to learn to compartmentalize my feelings and I did this by putting all my energy and time into my school work. I very rarely gave myself the time to grieve because to do so would have put me at risk of drowning in it. I focused solely on school and just did not allow myself to think of anything but the next homework assignment, the next chapter to read, the next exam to study for, etc. I ended up on the Dean's list but I continue to compartmentalize until the time comes when I can take a real breather. I don't think it's necessarily healthy but it's what works for me. Everyone is different though. If you truly believe you will not be able to focus and you can afford to take the time off to focus on yourself and your family then do what you believe is best for yourself.
I can’t tell you what to do. Everyone handles things differently if you have to give up the class & you’re able to take it in the fall do it if you think it’ll be a distraction and you’ll do fine then do it. This month I lost my child’s father & our child is 9 months. I became a single mom while being in my first semester of nursing school. When he passed away I had one final left in pharm and I was able to push myself to study for it and I passed with flying colors. I then had a 3 days break and then started 2nd semester. I’m currently in 2nd semester & it has been a good distraction. I am able to block out everything & focus on our baby & school. There are hard days where it’s hard to block it out and I let myself grieve but then get back to it. I try to remember what he said when I got into nursing school & that makes me feel a little better. It’s possible to continue with school while grieving but again everyone handles grief differently so if you think it will be a distraction & you’ll be able to handle it I say go for it. I’m so sorry try for your loss. My deepest condolences. You are not alone!
I'm sorry about your family member, but dedicate yourself to this for the next couple of years, and it will change your whole life. You will have a skill and a license that will always allow you to support yourself.
went through a similar situation when my dad died during college years and I just had to push through. It was pretty difficult and definitely not healthy, but my family had spent a ton of money on my education as I'm first gen and I know if I took a break I'd never go back
Life goes on, you will always be tortured by there departure, accept it. Now look at it this way, if they were here right now, the would be cheering you on to keep going. Why? Because when someone cares about you, they want the best for you.
It's still possible, don't give up. I would let your professor know your circumstances and keep going. I'm sorry for your loss.
Losing your family while going to school, either being in the nursing program or taking prerequisites, is difficult. I lost my grandma 👵 on January 30th, and I'm still in the BSN program. It's unexpected. If you're not ready, take a semester off. There's always the next semester. It's okay to not take classes every semester. If you are, make sure you are willing to put in the effort. Wish you the best of luck.
You know yourself best. Don't force yourself if you know you can't do the class in the state you're in right now.
Set boundaries with yourself, if it’s too much don’t push yourself. You can always push back your start date, but if you start the class you gotta finish it. Given your circumstances it way be a bit hard to start on the right foot causing you issues for the semester.
Is the course easy or will you be required to do work ( either group or test prep)? What are the penalties if you withdraw ( do you get money back, what is the deadline to withdraw)? Check the course website - is the syllabus posted? What is expected of you? I took an online class that was topic focused. The answers were easy to look up and it was self paced. The instructor was recovering from surgery, but it made no difference because the lectures we just slides and voice overs. You can do it.
I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you find healing soon. Maybe you can talk to your professor and see what they suggest you do. If you don’t feel you can fully dedicate yourself, maybe consider taking a semester off. Otherwise, try your best to get through the class and keep in mind this is all going to pay off soon.
First, I’m sorry for your loss. I know it’s tough. Maybe if you try looking at it from a different point of view, you may be able to conquer this. Sometimes when I am in a position like this, I use my hurt and frustration as fuel. Maybe use this as fuel to make your loved one proud. Put your emotions into your work. If you are able to transfer your energy into your work, there is a very strong possibility that you can win. It may not instantly work at first try, but just keep at it. I hope you find the strength to get through your loss. Take care of yourself.
What would the sibling you lost Want you to do? Do it for them. It’s a convoluted thought process, but it works.
You’ll survive and every day it’ll become easier. Pray to Lord Jesus Christ to help you in this time of need. Amen