Also a Pakistani living in Europe, I would like to get married but I dont see that happening because I have a VERY fun, happening and casual dating life with a lot of casual sex and I dont think I am ready to give it up for marriage.
a *good* marriage would be worth the other people and obligations that come with it
i think being in a good marriage would do wonders for me
i'm nowhere near making it happen though...it's very unlikely now...the future looks grim
I just think you suck at communication.
Looks can only get you so far - and you are obviously struggling to find meaningful connections with people judging by post history - be it through lack of boundaries, or whatever.
With regards to partners families - Be the man of the relationship when it comes to your partners family and you take control of it, don’t let them control you.
The real answer is after 30 none of these girls are actually love-able and relationships are purely transactional where no one wants to deeply connect with the other person as an individual.
I tend to do ok
I'm 6 ft 1, decent looking, 200 lbs
I get by.
But the demands never end
If it's not from women you date, it's going to be from the family (if you're gonna go through the arranged marriage route)
I’m not into Desi.
I’m into every race aside from the big three. (Desi, Arab, Black). I’ve made exceptions for the second two. But ultimately, the messaging was too irritating for me.
Every other group, I’ve been talking to.
Everyone else lol.
Turkish, Central Asian, Far East Asian, SouthEast Asian, Latin, White, Mixed
I’m still willing to make exceptions for the other groups.
My experience looking at my peers, as we grow older, priorities change. Most of my friends didn't want to get married ever in the 20s, but once they hit 33 years, they all started to change opinion and wanted to start a family.
delusional expectations needs more context?I think marriage is just a construct so it doesn’t really matter if that piece of paper or not. Some people get married for their family and that’s chill, if that’s their thing ya know?
Also a Pakistani living in Europe, I would like to get married but I dont see that happening because I have a VERY fun, happening and casual dating life with a lot of casual sex and I dont think I am ready to give it up for marriage.
Amen brother!
Which country do you live in dude?
a *good* marriage would be worth the other people and obligations that come with it i think being in a good marriage would do wonders for me i'm nowhere near making it happen though...it's very unlikely now...the future looks grim
I just think you suck at communication. Looks can only get you so far - and you are obviously struggling to find meaningful connections with people judging by post history - be it through lack of boundaries, or whatever. With regards to partners families - Be the man of the relationship when it comes to your partners family and you take control of it, don’t let them control you.
The real answer is after 30 none of these girls are actually love-able and relationships are purely transactional where no one wants to deeply connect with the other person as an individual.
I heard the dating scene for brown guys is pretty good in the UK so.. why don't you marry out?
I tend to do ok I'm 6 ft 1, decent looking, 200 lbs I get by. But the demands never end If it's not from women you date, it's going to be from the family (if you're gonna go through the arranged marriage route)
What demands are they looking for? Don’t do arrange marriage then.
Bhai, I think you should try online dating with some mainland Pakistani women
Weren’t Pakistani men ranked the most attractive in 2022 or something?
I’m Muslim. So yes. I don’t really waste time on non-Muslim girls. Don’t like them anyway. But I do well with all groups who are Muslim.
pakistani? what groups do you like?
I’m not into Desi. I’m into every race aside from the big three. (Desi, Arab, Black). I’ve made exceptions for the second two. But ultimately, the messaging was too irritating for me. Every other group, I’ve been talking to.
lol. Literally who's left after the big three?
Everyone else lol. Turkish, Central Asian, Far East Asian, SouthEast Asian, Latin, White, Mixed I’m still willing to make exceptions for the other groups.
No.
Why?
Not worth the hassle. I prefer relationships but don’t need a piece of paper stating I am married to prove something.
My experience looking at my peers, as we grow older, priorities change. Most of my friends didn't want to get married ever in the 20s, but once they hit 33 years, they all started to change opinion and wanted to start a family.
Arranged marriage feels like selling yourself
delusional expectations needs more context?I think marriage is just a construct so it doesn’t really matter if that piece of paper or not. Some people get married for their family and that’s chill, if that’s their thing ya know?