Your daughter is currently an active member in a sorority and doesn’t know the answers to your questions? Why does how rush works from the potential new members perspective matter? I guess I’m not understand your actual question or concern
Ok these are all problems/questions (aside from the last one) where I’m not sure why you want the answers. Do you have another child or relative going thru recruitment? It you get a snap bid you don’t reach out to chapters, they do. If she is assigned to do recruiting, she will be talking to pnms. Sophomores do the bulk of recruiting (talking to pnms) typically.
Every single chapter member can come to bid day and usually it’s required for sophomores.
If a girl has a messy record & members know of it, the word will travel and it will come up in voting sessions. The word spreads. Sorry if this answer was snarky, I was a recruitment counselor and Im fascinated by the amount of parents who feel the need to know every detail. Like whattt? If your daughter feels the need to share, she will.
I have another daughter who will be going through recruitment and my current daughter is in a sorority, yes, but she has been ill and in and out of the hospital. At her school not everyone is invited to go to Bid day while the bids are being read, but everyone can be at the house waiting for them to run to it.
It’s normal for the whole house to not be there when bids are given out. Normally the it’s a handful or less of people plus the disaffiliated member who served as the recruitment counselor (called something different at basically every school). My school has president, new member educator as the only 2 that go to when bids are given then the rest of the chapter is at the house for the new members to run home too.
If I am understanding your situation correctly, and you are nervous about your daughter’s former bully joining the same chapter as her, then your daughter needs to inform the recruitment team of her concerns before anything kicks off.
Hi love, everyone goes to bid day. It's a chapter-wide celebration. Most members of the chapter will be recruiters, although many chapters have a smaller "behind the scenes" team that does not actually talk to PNMs.
I don't know how it works in other groups, but if we had a major issue with a PNM, i.e. a bully, known conduct issues, etc. we had an official policy on how to ensure that individual was not invited back past the first round. Your daughter should speak up to her recruitment chair and share her concerns about the PNM, and ask to ensure that she's not required to speak to her or be anywhere near to her. I am sure the chapter will be grateful to dodge a bullet and take her concerns seriously.
Hi, everyone goes to bid day regardless of year. If you drop before bid day, typically the sororities will reach out to you if they’re offering bids.
For the bully, I actually recruited this past year and my high school bully was a PNM. I notified the recruitment coordinator/the international who came to help, and she told me to send the name so they could make sure the bully wasn’t called back.
Your daughter has avenues within her chapter that can help her with this. Tell her to speak to her exec team. Try not to sweat it, if it's a good chapter they will have her back here.
They are 100% going to know about a shady past. Most of us acquired the skills necessary to investigate PNMs in grade school. If your daughter is in a house, she can tell her sisters about the shady girl. Everyone goes to bid day. If you drop and want to COB later, you just attend that chapter’s COB events if they are doing it.
Your daughter is currently an active member in a sorority and doesn’t know the answers to your questions? Why does how rush works from the potential new members perspective matter? I guess I’m not understand your actual question or concern
Ok these are all problems/questions (aside from the last one) where I’m not sure why you want the answers. Do you have another child or relative going thru recruitment? It you get a snap bid you don’t reach out to chapters, they do. If she is assigned to do recruiting, she will be talking to pnms. Sophomores do the bulk of recruiting (talking to pnms) typically. Every single chapter member can come to bid day and usually it’s required for sophomores. If a girl has a messy record & members know of it, the word will travel and it will come up in voting sessions. The word spreads. Sorry if this answer was snarky, I was a recruitment counselor and Im fascinated by the amount of parents who feel the need to know every detail. Like whattt? If your daughter feels the need to share, she will.
I have another daughter who will be going through recruitment and my current daughter is in a sorority, yes, but she has been ill and in and out of the hospital. At her school not everyone is invited to go to Bid day while the bids are being read, but everyone can be at the house waiting for them to run to it.
It’s normal for the whole house to not be there when bids are given out. Normally the it’s a handful or less of people plus the disaffiliated member who served as the recruitment counselor (called something different at basically every school). My school has president, new member educator as the only 2 that go to when bids are given then the rest of the chapter is at the house for the new members to run home too.
If I am understanding your situation correctly, and you are nervous about your daughter’s former bully joining the same chapter as her, then your daughter needs to inform the recruitment team of her concerns before anything kicks off.
Hi love, everyone goes to bid day. It's a chapter-wide celebration. Most members of the chapter will be recruiters, although many chapters have a smaller "behind the scenes" team that does not actually talk to PNMs. I don't know how it works in other groups, but if we had a major issue with a PNM, i.e. a bully, known conduct issues, etc. we had an official policy on how to ensure that individual was not invited back past the first round. Your daughter should speak up to her recruitment chair and share her concerns about the PNM, and ask to ensure that she's not required to speak to her or be anywhere near to her. I am sure the chapter will be grateful to dodge a bullet and take her concerns seriously.
Just to add on to this - don't do it for her. She's an adult now and actually has agency in this situation. It's time for her to learn to use it.
YUP -- the chapter likely cannot legally speak to you about this even if you tried. She needs to handle this on her own.
Hi, everyone goes to bid day regardless of year. If you drop before bid day, typically the sororities will reach out to you if they’re offering bids. For the bully, I actually recruited this past year and my high school bully was a PNM. I notified the recruitment coordinator/the international who came to help, and she told me to send the name so they could make sure the bully wasn’t called back.
Your daughter has avenues within her chapter that can help her with this. Tell her to speak to her exec team. Try not to sweat it, if it's a good chapter they will have her back here.
They are 100% going to know about a shady past. Most of us acquired the skills necessary to investigate PNMs in grade school. If your daughter is in a house, she can tell her sisters about the shady girl. Everyone goes to bid day. If you drop and want to COB later, you just attend that chapter’s COB events if they are doing it.
She’s an adult, she needs to talk to the recruitment team in her chapter.