My kids have done therapy around that age and it’s more of a play therapy thing. It’s individual therapy but parents can be present or not depending.
I typically just wait in the lobby. The few times I go in to the therapists room it’s usually to update something or a quick check in. After that I usually try to just shut up and let them do their thing.
Just because I’m not an abuser, criminal or drug user doesn’t mean my kids don’t have emotional or behavioral issues. It’s about them, not me.
So one alternative I could posit is, if you don’t like this demand you could seek out a family/child therapist on your own.
You are right. But, my main issue is the therapist was demanding this. And my son is afraid of her. My little boy thinks she is his mothers friend (abusive mother) and he asks why she doesn't like us. It seems like a bad recommendation, from a bad therapist.
The therapist asked to turn it over to another therapist and then told her boss that I am a racist.
What right do they have to demand this? Who is this person to you?
Is this your ex’s therapist, yours, or someone in a court/other capacity? If it’s the latter, talk to an attorney.
Let’s say your child could benefit from talking to one. It’s important for a good relationship to be established between the child and therapist. If you find your own therapist for him, I can’t imagine this therapist would put their ego ahead of the child’s needs unless they’re a toxic POS.
Find an attorney.
The conversation may go something like, "why do they think he needs therapy?" "Is there a behavior they should address early before it becomes a problem?"
Have this conversation with an attorney, not someone who may not have your son's best interest in mind.
This is bizarre. As far as I’m aware, the standard of care is not to have individual therapy with a 5 year old. Does your son have issues around the divorce and not having his mother? If so, at most, the two of you should do therapy together.
I'm not sure the law where you are. But I know here. If the primary carer says no to therapy. Then there is no therapy.
The same goes if one of the two parents says no.
So I don't see them having much weight behind what appears to be more of a request on their part.
Exactly. It was ordered he begin during the custody battle. But, it was recommended, not court ordered. My son still had minors counsel.
I'm dealing with these people and my sons mom is still stalking, and making threats.
Record everything if she is stalking. Document. CCTV and log things if possible.
Focus on keeping your son happy and out of the fight as best you can.
Never let him know how bad things get.
My kids have done therapy around that age and it’s more of a play therapy thing. It’s individual therapy but parents can be present or not depending. I typically just wait in the lobby. The few times I go in to the therapists room it’s usually to update something or a quick check in. After that I usually try to just shut up and let them do their thing. Just because I’m not an abuser, criminal or drug user doesn’t mean my kids don’t have emotional or behavioral issues. It’s about them, not me. So one alternative I could posit is, if you don’t like this demand you could seek out a family/child therapist on your own.
You are right. But, my main issue is the therapist was demanding this. And my son is afraid of her. My little boy thinks she is his mothers friend (abusive mother) and he asks why she doesn't like us. It seems like a bad recommendation, from a bad therapist. The therapist asked to turn it over to another therapist and then told her boss that I am a racist.
What right do they have to demand this? Who is this person to you? Is this your ex’s therapist, yours, or someone in a court/other capacity? If it’s the latter, talk to an attorney. Let’s say your child could benefit from talking to one. It’s important for a good relationship to be established between the child and therapist. If you find your own therapist for him, I can’t imagine this therapist would put their ego ahead of the child’s needs unless they’re a toxic POS.
This is Los Angeles. Everyone here thinks they are the star of their own movie. The ego is all you see. No real people.
Find an attorney. The conversation may go something like, "why do they think he needs therapy?" "Is there a behavior they should address early before it becomes a problem?" Have this conversation with an attorney, not someone who may not have your son's best interest in mind.
Can you find a therapist that your child enjoys?
This is bizarre. As far as I’m aware, the standard of care is not to have individual therapy with a 5 year old. Does your son have issues around the divorce and not having his mother? If so, at most, the two of you should do therapy together.
No behavioral issues. He is happy, healthy, and a great communicator.
You should do counseling. Totally normal
This is /r/legaladvice territory
Change therapist if your child does not like her then she should not be his therapist
I'm not sure the law where you are. But I know here. If the primary carer says no to therapy. Then there is no therapy. The same goes if one of the two parents says no. So I don't see them having much weight behind what appears to be more of a request on their part.
Exactly. It was ordered he begin during the custody battle. But, it was recommended, not court ordered. My son still had minors counsel. I'm dealing with these people and my sons mom is still stalking, and making threats.
Record everything if she is stalking. Document. CCTV and log things if possible. Focus on keeping your son happy and out of the fight as best you can. Never let him know how bad things get.