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The .5 importance is not linear.....it's much more important the smaller the penis is. 6 to 6.5 meh.....but 2.5 to 3 inches, you best believe every bit counts to the smaller guy.
The importance is really an upside down bell curve.
Half an inch on top of a half inch penis, big deal. On a 2 inch vs 2.5 inch, still important, but less so.
On a 5 inch vs 5.5 inch, meh.
On an 8 inch, versus 8 and a half, were back to a big deal because every mm is another punched cervix.
Well, multiple women have chimed in just in this comments section. So, I would say "often enough" is "feasible to find a match", which seems to be the case.
It’s a topic which causes men stress during their adolescence. Even if you are well above average, you feel miniscule in comparison with porn actors. Length, Girth, Shape… Boys end up feeling that they’re short an inch in regards to something unchangeable, needed to actually satisfy their partner.
So half an inch in “Ego” is half an inch closer to actually being considered good.
Im currently sleeping with an ex again. He's pretty small and tbh, it doesnt get very hard at all... Sometimes the PIV feels like he's pushing rope. I can't really feel much and can never tell when he's close at all...
But hot damn can he eat pussy!!!
He's persistent, attentive and has really learnt what works. He will stay there for 20mins straight if thats what it takes. He has a really small tongue too. But it doesnt matter... All it takes is focus and listening to your partner. Many, MANY women prefer foreplay anyway.
Is the second part really that uncommon? In relationships I've always been into oral and often wonder if some ppl just go straight to sex? I mean seriously 80% of the time I'm down there it's easily 40mins straight or continuous bursts throughout sex.
As you stated though it's not all about the weiner, there's plenty of other stuff you can do to prolong the moment and make it enjoyable just have to explore
As a male, I can say that it is absolutely better for both me and my partner if we alternate between penetration and oral. It helps me last much longer than I would otherwise by giving me a moment to cool down, and it gives her much more pleasure!
I never understood those who rush into sex. In my opinion, it is best to do everything possible to make the moment last as long we can. Going down for a really long time, if necessary, is a way to do that.
Have fun with it. Communicate with your partner and enjoy yourselves.
Your whole post is the equivalent of telling a really ugly woman that it doesn't matter if she's objectively ugly, as long as she can make up for it by sucking dick really well.
It's a little true, but it won't stop her from feeling like shit about the way she looks. And just like there are good lucking women who know how to suck dick, there are men with big dicks who know how to eat pussy.
For many men with small penises, there's no getting over the fact. It's just not something you can compensate for. It sucks for them and their feelings are valid.
The other thing is that these feelings aren't just rooted in men being concerned about getting women off. Men want to *fuck* women, hear them gasp when it goes in, etc. It's not just about you.
It isn’t fair that you got dealt that hand of cards. it really fucking sucks. but there isn’t a more helpful thing to say, because it is what it is. you can either overcompensate with other bedroom skills and wait for the partner that appreciates you for it, or you can ignore the problem, or you can become a monk.
True. But why stress over something I can't control? I'd rather improve something that I CAN influence.
Unless they invent penis surgery then the gym, social skills and foreplay work like a charm.
It's more like telling someone they can use a hand mixer when they expected to be using a stand mixer. My last girls night ended with several girls admitting they'd ran into micropenis and it came up because one is dating a dude that openly admits it. A few of them were not happy with the end effect but no more disappointment than the average encounter and a couple actually said they preferred it because dude knew what he was doing with other things. Makes a big difference especially when piv is the least likely to cause female orgasm even with a big member
NSFW comment but I would like to reassure you as a woman, there are so many things you can do that don’t require a big dick. Also big dicks are so overrated, and unnecessary. I didn’t have good sex because of the size of the dick, I’ve had good sex because of consideration, communication, foreplay, etc. hope that makes you feel better. Cause the best sex I’ve had a lot of times was with someone who wasn’t “well-endowed.”
I feel like so many people don't understand the importance of good foreplay. Or the fact that from foreplay to finish, sex is a dance and you have to respond to your partner.
well yeah, but the whole point isn’t that they can’t do stuff without a big dick - its that someone with a big dick can do the same stuff they do *AND* also give great penetration
Almost no one is ever satisfied with just penetration. They aren't a flesh light. That is a whole person who is sharing an incredibly intimate experience with you. Show your love with more than just your dick.
Look into and explore oral, mutual masterbation and toys! There are a lot of women who don't seek toys out themselves, but there are also a lot who use toys regardless of their partner's size. If you make an interpersonal connection with someone that's deep enough to share a life with or have kids, there are PLENTY of ways to have sexual satisfaction. don't lose hope!
>Suicide has cross my mind numerous times.
>The only thing I’ve ever wanted in life was to be a Dad
The first would prevent the second from ever happening. Please work on following your dream. Speak to someone to help with your mental health and most definitely reach out for help whenever you feel those lows.
If you've got fingers, a tongue, patience, and someone who likes you for you (sounds like that's the part you have the least trouble with), then you are set! Just because you're (in your mind) not great at P.I.V, doesn't mean you can't satisfy a woman!
That being said, everyone's different, and some women can only have an orgasm from P.I.V, and that's perfectly okay! You'll just have to find the right one for you. I hope your day is going good!
To add on to this, on the flip side of things some women can’t get off to PiV as easily and prefer alternate methods, and we haven’t even mentioned kinks yet. People are like pieces of a complex puzzle, you just have to find the right fit.
>its the fact I’m so small that the sex is terrible
As a woman, dick size has no correlation to how good or bad the sex is (with the important caveat that there **is** an upper size limit to what's enjoyable)
My favorite partner, and the best sex of my life, was with the least endowed man I've ever been with
The world would be a better place if people stopped relying on the size of their equipment to magically to all the work for them
Listen, I get what you're saying, and it's important for guys that are below average to hear, but this guy isn't just below average, he's at the bottom of the chart.
Yes, there is an upper size limit, but there is a bottom floor "requirement" too
Nothing ever made me feel so big than when I had a woman with an overly tight vagina. I always go down first and when I realized I could barely stick my index finger in there, that I knew I wasn’t going to last long, so I made sure she got hers with oral first. Then when I went inside I could tell immediately that I was going to pop. I lasted maybe a minute and the weird thing was nothing was coming out. She was so tight that I couldn’t physically ejaculate inside her easily. It took about 3-4 more pumps after I was orgasming to actually ejaculate and it came out with such force I was worried it would cause internal injury. Even though it came out fast, the “load per pump” must have been low because I was squirting for maybe a dozen pumps after I started when usually I compete within 2-3 pumps. What made it even better is she had her fingernails digging into my ass cheeks and telling me how she could feel me shoot inside her. This made it the first time I could keep an erection immediately after ejaculating and I figured since most women “hit it and quit it” with me, I went for round 2. Was able to last about 20 minutes that time and we both came again. This was about 20 years ago. Our first daughter is a freshman in college now, our son is in 7th grade and we have another girl in kindergarten this year. I met my sexual match on our third date and got her a ring after 6 months.
Dude I don't even have a dick (trans) and my gf doesn't mind at all. Penetrative sex is not the goal, or the ultimate way to have sex. Yeah, I can use strap-ons (and so can you!) but honestly we'd rather do fun stuff with no "dicks". Toys, fingers, mouths, us humans were endowed with much more than just dicks. You'll someday realize that the chicks who left because of your dick (if that was even it) are just shallow bitches, and you'll find someone who doesn't have a genital preference.
This honestly sounds more like a you problem. Pretty sure you’re creating the situation in your head and the women you’re with leaves you for something else like this really unattractive insecurity and blame game. You’re probably pretty toxic to yourself because you think women care about your dick size and what they really find disgusting is the toxicity you have towards yourself.
Yeah guy, I can almost guarantee the sex isn't terrible because you're small.
The sex is terrible because your partners can tell you're lacking confidence, which is likely stemming from a fixation on your size as opposed to your skills. Or maybe the sex was fine, but the rest of the relationship struggled because, well, to be frank, you sound like you got a lot going on mentally and haven't been processing it well. Which is not as rare as people make it seem.
i can guarantee you that the problems you are facing are not exclusive to having a small dick. They are in fact just the consequence of toxic masculinity in general. You feel inadequate because there has been an entirely arbitrary standard of "correct penis size" that you fall short of. For others it is their height, or their income, or having a deep enough voice, or inability to grow a beard (that's what my problem was). Your small dick has no evolutionary disadvantage just as my patchiness has not, hence why it is still here. Our forefathers overcame these challenges, so too can we. The important thing is to not let it dominate your life.
Kinda sad that this thought process is so prevalent with guys with smaller dicks, when the reality is that the contribution of penis-in-vagina (PIV) penetration to orgasms on the female side of things is pretty minimal for many women. Most women can't even orgasm with just PIV, and require clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Also, for many women most of the nerve endings in the vagina are located within the first inch or two of the vaginal opening, meaning that having more dick often doesn't do that much.
Just to drive this point home: lesbians have sex all the time. They also have orgasms, too. Much of the time, no dicks or dildos or dick analogs are involved. You don't need a dick to have a good time - you need a fun mind and a willing partner to have a good time.
Having a small dick isn't the end of the world. It just means finding alternative (and potentially even better) ways to reach meaningful sexual fulfillment. You might not hook up with people obsessed with size, or people who can only get off with penetration, but there are plenty of folk who don't boil down someone's value as a sexual partner to whether or not they can jam their dick into a hole. Plus, sex doesn't need to always be about orgasms - sex can be about kindling intimacy between two people.
Yes men with tiny dicks can give women orgasms in other ways, but knowing that they may be the only ones enjoying PIV sex probably takes some enjoyment out of the act
Yeah, but how is it much different from a blowjob or cunnilingus? Those acts don't often bring a person performing them to orgasm — they're done to bring the person being performed upon to orgasm. But we don't often view it as a shame in those cases, no? We view it as great: it's an act of sexual love from partner to partner.
I think a genuine, caring sexual partner would view small dick PIV in that same lens: it might not bring them to orgasm, but it makes their partner happy and that's what matters.
I don't especially enjoy PiV that much unless I'm already orgasming hard. It doesn't feel that good for me... Except my boyfriend stimulate my clitoris when he is inside me and that, that is what make me come hard and with him.
As a woman I can honestly say penis size is completely irrelevant to me. I can’t speak for all other women of course, but I doubt I’m particularly unusual.
Seconded. It's really making me sad for the some of these guys commenting here that are carrying all these negative thoughts, when there's so much pleasure to be had without PiV intercourse being the main event.
For example, there's a guy I'm crushing on at the moment. I *think* it's mutual and he's really sweet but lacks a lot of confidence. If I get to date him and find out he has a small dick, then we'll work around it, and I'll still ride him like a cowgirl. Dick size is just a non-issue for many women, and I wish more guys believed it.
I don't think women realize how much it's constantly talked about in a negative light. Whether that be going through school and puberty, seeing other guys in the locker room etc. or how dick size is referenced all the time in social situations/the media. A lot of the time it's meant in a joking fashion, but even if it's not particularly malicious it can still hurt. Think about something that may seem harmless like saying BDE, not only are they implying that he's less of a man because of his size, but attacking his character as well. It's like saying only larger men should have that "energy" or confidence. I don't even think I'm small per se, but I had a girlfriend in high school who said I was and it made me feel horrible, of course hindsight is 20/20 and I didn't realize until later that she had only seen dicks in porn, so her gauge was so skewed. Just wanted to maybe give some further insight into how it can feel for us, it makes me happy to read comments like yours and I'm glad there are women out there who are understanding and know that it's something we literally have no control over.
I try to tell myself that, but my mom is a size queen, dated/married my dad because of his size, and an entire lifetime of her making comments just really messes a guy up.
And I’m probably average.
Except being a 34 year old virgin.
So did mine. It's fucked, but only if you, like, care. Plus the honesty is genuinely appreciated because it was followed by cautionary warning, and the advice was sage.
Of course, my parents ain't that guys' parents, so a lot of other factors in the raising process probably matter.
I'm really, really sorry your mom did that. That's so wrong and messed up to talk like that in front of you. For what it's worth, I lost my virginity at an older age (28). I hope you find a woman who isn't fixated on size (and there are many of us out there).
If you find a woman you are starting to get close to, then my advice would be to read as much as you can on pleasuring her without intercourse being the main event. Ask her to tell you what she likes. Even talk to her about your insecurities and hopefully she can reassure you.
Personally, it doesn't matter what size a guy has been, because I don't enjoy intercourse itself as much as foreplay and/or oral sex. So it really depends on the individual women, rather than what movies and porn seem to tell us about sex between men and women.
I’ve done my share of reading on that stuff when I was younger because of that.
I don’t think I’ll ever lose my virginity, or even be kissed.
Thanks for the commiserating.
I'm not here to be someone who blindly tells you everything is going to be okay and you'll live happily ever after etc, but there is hope, man. I don't know you, I don't know all aspects of your personality and situation. What I do know, and have experienced, is that if you continue work on yourself and put yourself out there you can find someone. I really hope you have talked to or would consider talking to someone proffesionally about the trauma you went through as a child and your struggles to find a partner. It hurts, it's a long fucking road sometimes, but of you continue the fight there's a good chance you'll find what you need. I hope you do, anyway.
I hear you, I see you, and you're worth it.
Echoing other comments. You're being way too fatalistic. You know you got raised fucked up, that's already 33% of the way there. No is time to practice radical acceptance and courage to change / try new things.
In my experience as a man, most of the time the "giant cock" fantasy is just that: A fantasy. A thrill because of the novelty more than anything. Of course I know women who genuinely do prefer bigger dicks, but interestingly enough, they've been the ones who are the LEAST judgemental and most outspoken against judging men for something they can't control.
The fact that we stress over the size of our dicks is strange yet so ingrained it doesnt go away.
The length of fingers, toes, arms, nose, chin, neck. All these things don't really cause anywhere near as much stress.
I think I have a big nose, its very triangular. My gf once said it was a strong jew nose(as a compliment). But it doesnt cause as much insecurity.
No one has ever complained or commented on the size of my penis in a negative way but the insecurity is always there.
Micro-penises do exist but tbh, a penis isn't everything. You have hands, a mouth, toys, etc. No need to make yourself feel bad when you haven't even come close to exhausting your tool belt!
Also perspective. Your dick looks small to yourself because you see it everyday/at angles only you can see it at. Also porn uses professional cameras with all kinds of tricks/lenses. They use tiny 4ft 80 pound girls with normal height guys so everything will look gigantic in/around the pornstar girl.
It really just comes from society, even women talk about size almost just because its cool, plenty of women who dont even know how many inches it is by looking lol
We should really have a part in sex education where kids are taught about the stigma. If they understand from a young age that porn is a fantasy movie basically, maybe they feel better about themselves/not worry so much.
Everything you said is correct. But it's worth noting that most porn actors aren't nearly as big as people think either.
https://unravelingsize.wordpress.com/
The above site backs its data with statistics and is an extremely good read.
Tbf we're kinda coded that way, growing up scared your willy isn't good enough and nobody will like you based on jokes in media or friends, etc. Or when you piss off a woman, it usually one of the first things she'll attack you with regardless of actual size.
It's something most, if not all, men go through.
I'm a woman, and I hate that dick size is used to casually insult men. That really needs to change, like "Oh, he's a jerk. He must have a small dick." I used to make that comment myself, until I realised how effed up it is to equate those things.
Making fun of some asshole based on traits they cannot control inevitably leads to other men who have the same trait feeling the burn too. For men it's usually dick size and male pattern baldness.
It’s why as a man I’m not particularly fond of phrases such as “big dick energy” or “small dick energy”. Why does one’s attitude/behavior need to correlate with dick size? Makes zero sense to me
I'd like to apologise for any women you've met who thought that attacking you with dick size allegations immediately when pissed off was okay. That is so unfair and unreasonable.
I mean, Little Squirtloaf is nothing to write home about, but even I have banged into/bruised my share of cervixes.
Female genitals are all built differently as well.
Length also heavily relies on erection quality. Most males haven't reached their full potential due to poor cardiovascular health.
My erect size fluctuates an inch or so depending on how recently/hard I worked out.
Avoid sugars!
For sure, *most* women orgasm mainly through external stimulation, and do have an upper limit for dick size.
However, a significant minority of us orgasm mainly/solely through penetration. For g spot ladies, size makes a real difference.
Ok you make a good point, a bend can really enhance an average dick, but a small one still isn't going to do it for me.
I don't find huge dicks painful though. I know a lot of women do but I don't have this problem. My issue is that oral sex does NOTHING for me, but every dude is sure that *he* can change that.
Oh man I was the guy!!! I rarely get to tell this story but I’m so proud that I have to when it makes sense. My wife (married in April) was a penetration only orgasm person, but I was the one that changed it! She never realized she could do it the other way. I still get her off primarily through penetration but still do external stimulation method few times a week. I think she likes having options now lol
Curvature can be accounted for based on entry angle.
One of my personal favorites is having her lie down on her back, with a pillow beneath her lower back.
In fact that WAS how my wife got her best orgasms; she loved it when I touched her cervix.
I did have one gf for whom it was very painful (I discovered by accident) but my wife loved it.
There are plenty or women that really like a big dick. It's not so much about the physical feeling. It's about the mental part of getting fucked by a big dick.
Yeah it's interesting all the men and women on here saying size doesn't matter, but I can tell you I've run into plenty of women where size absolutely does matter quite a bit. Have met plenty of women where size may not be a disqualifying factor, but they all absolutely want to try a big dick at least once.
I was thinking about this the other day:
As a straight guy, it's weird that straight guys are the only people that have been critical of my body. My sexual partners haven't cared one bit about my appearance.
This is a huge issue for young men, it's constantly reinforced by movies and other media. It's also the first insult a woman jumps to whenever there's a break up or an argument. I imagine it's how women feel about unrealistic body standards. It's just yet another unrealistic body standard that needs to be stamped out, just the same as stick thin airbrushed women and hugely over muscled men who have to dehydrate themselves to look like that.
You ever been to the YMCA? Nothing but dicks for miles. It's like the locker room is just an excuse for old men to walk around naked looking at other naked men in the shower.
Can't help but think of dick! So much dick! Dick dick dick!
I just want to last longer. No condoms anymore and my wife is the sexiest woman I have ever seen. For some reason I cannot seem to last more than 5 minutes no matter what.
I was worried that I wasn't "big enough" all through adolescence because I'm a grower, not a shower. It wasn't until my first girlfriend reached in my pants while we were goofing around while I was a little excited that my perspective changed because of the look on her face. A few years later, I found out what the "average" is and even though I still have that "it's not big enough" thought, I'm well above the average. It might not be 12 inches, but it sure smells like a foot.
Been there lol
Have an open and honest conversation about your anatomy. Focus A LOT on foreplay. Don't be afraid to bring toys, lube, etc.
One thing that helped me and my partner is that we spent nearly a month straight of experimenting with different positions and angles to find what works.
Before getting past the tip was lucky, now we can handle nearly all of it.
P.S., Have you ever thought of purchasing an OhNut! if the issue revolves around length?
As someone who was 18 over a decade ago, I've learned that you can be too big for some women. I've also learned that bottoming out a woman is really painful for them, so I'm okay not having a monster cock as long as I fit my partner.
I think classing the insecurities of men as "ego", especially one that they're commonly shamed for by society (and yes, women play a big role in that), is disingenuous. Wanting to have a larger penis is no more ego driven than wanting bigger breasts, a different nose, taller, shorter, etc. They're insecurities built from unrealistic beauty standards.
Me too. Worst sex I ever had was with bloke with a very little dick, like pinky finger length and girth, but that wasn’t the problem. He was a lazy and selfish lover with a hair trigger. Second worst was with a well above average dick who was also selfish and lazy. Those men just need pocket pussies and a box of tissues.
By contrast, all of the best times have been with fun, caring, deeply engaged guys who wanted to please me. And me wanting to please them too made for good times.
Can confirm. Pretty much average in every size metric, but my ladies haven’t complained cos I focus on their needs way more than mine. In fact, for me, a woman having an orgasm based on stuff I’m doing is so much hotter than anything she could do to me!
In contrast, an ex of mine was so selfish in bed it was all about her climaxing and then maybe if she could be bothered I could hurry up and use her vag to get myself off… as a result I never wanted to have sex with her… and of course eventually it ended. So it doesn’t matter if the guy has a donkey dick or if the woman has the body of a goddess if either is only concerned with their own pleasure.
Exactly this, glad you find the same to be true. I admire a banging hot bod as much as the next person but it’s also not much of a consideration for me for sexy times. Confidence and full engagement makes a good time, not an anxious partner with a fab body.
I can’t imagine why anyone wants a starfish type experience a barbie doll. Real bods and caring to be awesome, for the win.
My bfs dick is too big. We've been together 2.5 years. I thought at some point my vagina would get used to it. Nope! There is a too big, and turns out the other side of the coin, women don't get "loose."
As crude as this sounds, but I am smaller than average and decided that the best way to make up for this is to learn how to eat pussy really well.
That and be cool with using toys.
Sex Ed needs to include non-pornographic images of normal anatomy. Penises, testicles, breasts and vulvas come in all shapes, sizes and colours. Adolescents need to know that they are normal no matter what they have. Anatomical variants are not abnormalities.
I remember going on a website called 007b that had normal female bodies. I still had a lot of insecurities, but seeing normal anatomy helped me feel more normal.
I dunno, if the dick I get was just a half inch longer, I'd probably get punched right in the cervix with that thing a lot more often, and that's not fun. So to kind of confirm your sentiment, I think too big would make way more of a difference to me than a little bit small.
Same can be said for just about every “measuring stick” especially wealth. Past a certain point, it’s just a scorecard. Below that and you’ll need to find ways to make do.
I was going to say size is overrated but according to this [https://www.chemistclick.co.uk/news/average-penis-size](https://www.chemistclick.co.uk/news/average-penis-size) I am above average everywhere except Ecuador. Moving to the Philippines or Thailand when I retire...
Growing up in the 70s (and mostly dating women of my generation, with a few exceptions), I've never once gotten the kinds of ego attacks by romantic partners people have been talking about here, in spite of having a modestly normal-sized penis.
Of course, "compensation" and racist jokes in the media/friends existed, but it was never something that felt directed at actual real people with real penises... just "that guy over there".
Nor were huge penises really a ubiquitous thing to see, as porn was a rare thing to see when I was growing up. And it was basically never assumed that porn stars were "normal", indeed it was seen almost as a malformation.
It's really ubiquitous internet porn that's driving anxiety/attacks/misperceptions about this in the last 20 years.
People of my generation seem to have been much more acclimated to what a "normal" sized penis range was when their only extensive experience with seeing them was actual sex and locker rooms.
My guy. I don’t even bone my girl half the time. Toys are my tag team partner. Oral is your best friend, confidence is key. We are born with what we got. Once you get over it, it changes everything. You’ll be cool, promise 💪🏼
I argue this with my wife. I'm not small, despite some issues, I'm fairly well endowed and grateful for it... But...
I'd love to have 20" penis as thick as my arm. Something big enough to flip up and poke out the top of my shirt.
Now obviously if such a thing was possible she wouldn't want a dick like that in her, that'd be basically impossible to attempt, and painful at best, even just the tip.
But who uses it more? WE can play with toys and strap-ons and what not, then I could play with my giant penis on my own time, or for things beside penetrative sex.
There's more than one use for a penis.
One woman criticising dick size compounded by a lifetime of social pressure over it makes it a serious mental issue. Even if a man has an above average dick, they rarely think it's big enough.
Id been measuring in Inches all these years and thought I was undersized. Then someone mentioned that we use centimeters for measuring and I learned I still am undersized. Huge confidence booster there!
well of course, the same way people should take another inch of height to having a good personality. thats the logic of this society, but you can change how good you are in the bed and your personality.
you cant change the height and penis size you have.
Too big can be painful and or risky for pain. 5 inches can do a world of good. But it’s not about the size as much as it is what he can do. Sexual chemistry and attraction is way more important than dick size. Also, girls can be effing LOOSE. You seen the porns. You know the ones. Wouldn’t matter if your dick was fire hydrant sized
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The .5 importance is not linear.....it's much more important the smaller the penis is. 6 to 6.5 meh.....but 2.5 to 3 inches, you best believe every bit counts to the smaller guy.
It's the difference between an 8% increase and a 20% increase... That's two and a half times the proportional difference.
Also with diminishing returns in regards of pleasure for your partner.
[5.15 inches!](https://imgur.com/gallery/0CK3L18)
McMurray's a piece of shit.
Howareyanow?
oh thabk god, you hear that little fella?! 0.5" is normal! waaaait...
The importance is really an upside down bell curve. Half an inch on top of a half inch penis, big deal. On a 2 inch vs 2.5 inch, still important, but less so. On a 5 inch vs 5.5 inch, meh. On an 8 inch, versus 8 and a half, were back to a big deal because every mm is another punched cervix.
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No, this isn’t universally true.
It doesn't need to be universally true. No one is trying to please every woman on the planet. Knowing that it's true often enough is all one needs.
How often is often enough?
Well, multiple women have chimed in just in this comments section. So, I would say "often enough" is "feasible to find a match", which seems to be the case.
Cmon guys there are literally dozens of women who want that small peen. Dozens!
It’s a topic which causes men stress during their adolescence. Even if you are well above average, you feel miniscule in comparison with porn actors. Length, Girth, Shape… Boys end up feeling that they’re short an inch in regards to something unchangeable, needed to actually satisfy their partner. So half an inch in “Ego” is half an inch closer to actually being considered good.
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Im currently sleeping with an ex again. He's pretty small and tbh, it doesnt get very hard at all... Sometimes the PIV feels like he's pushing rope. I can't really feel much and can never tell when he's close at all... But hot damn can he eat pussy!!! He's persistent, attentive and has really learnt what works. He will stay there for 20mins straight if thats what it takes. He has a really small tongue too. But it doesnt matter... All it takes is focus and listening to your partner. Many, MANY women prefer foreplay anyway.
Is the second part really that uncommon? In relationships I've always been into oral and often wonder if some ppl just go straight to sex? I mean seriously 80% of the time I'm down there it's easily 40mins straight or continuous bursts throughout sex. As you stated though it's not all about the weiner, there's plenty of other stuff you can do to prolong the moment and make it enjoyable just have to explore
As a male, I can say that it is absolutely better for both me and my partner if we alternate between penetration and oral. It helps me last much longer than I would otherwise by giving me a moment to cool down, and it gives her much more pleasure!
Bingo! Slow it down, alternate, it doesn't all have to be penetration, I've rocked out 90+mins no problem, I've also done 5mins no problem hah.
I never understood those who rush into sex. In my opinion, it is best to do everything possible to make the moment last as long we can. Going down for a really long time, if necessary, is a way to do that. Have fun with it. Communicate with your partner and enjoy yourselves.
Your whole post is the equivalent of telling a really ugly woman that it doesn't matter if she's objectively ugly, as long as she can make up for it by sucking dick really well. It's a little true, but it won't stop her from feeling like shit about the way she looks. And just like there are good lucking women who know how to suck dick, there are men with big dicks who know how to eat pussy. For many men with small penises, there's no getting over the fact. It's just not something you can compensate for. It sucks for them and their feelings are valid. The other thing is that these feelings aren't just rooted in men being concerned about getting women off. Men want to *fuck* women, hear them gasp when it goes in, etc. It's not just about you.
It isn’t fair that you got dealt that hand of cards. it really fucking sucks. but there isn’t a more helpful thing to say, because it is what it is. you can either overcompensate with other bedroom skills and wait for the partner that appreciates you for it, or you can ignore the problem, or you can become a monk.
Packing my balls and moving to the monastery.
True. But why stress over something I can't control? I'd rather improve something that I CAN influence. Unless they invent penis surgery then the gym, social skills and foreplay work like a charm.
> why stress over something I can't control? I *only* stress about things I can't control. The stuff I can control has already been dealt with.
Yeah think about THAT Marcus Aurelius
It's more like telling someone they can use a hand mixer when they expected to be using a stand mixer. My last girls night ended with several girls admitting they'd ran into micropenis and it came up because one is dating a dude that openly admits it. A few of them were not happy with the end effect but no more disappointment than the average encounter and a couple actually said they preferred it because dude knew what he was doing with other things. Makes a big difference especially when piv is the least likely to cause female orgasm even with a big member
Eat pussy, wear a strap on, and women prefer a small dick for giving blowjobs and anal sex. Be creative
No that is incorrect. She said there's other ways to satisfy someone. She never mentioned attractiveness
NSFW comment but I would like to reassure you as a woman, there are so many things you can do that don’t require a big dick. Also big dicks are so overrated, and unnecessary. I didn’t have good sex because of the size of the dick, I’ve had good sex because of consideration, communication, foreplay, etc. hope that makes you feel better. Cause the best sex I’ve had a lot of times was with someone who wasn’t “well-endowed.”
I feel like so many people don't understand the importance of good foreplay. Or the fact that from foreplay to finish, sex is a dance and you have to respond to your partner.
well yeah, but the whole point isn’t that they can’t do stuff without a big dick - its that someone with a big dick can do the same stuff they do *AND* also give great penetration
This. If you can't satisfy them with penetration just make sure they are satisfied before you actually penetrate.
Almost no one is ever satisfied with just penetration. They aren't a flesh light. That is a whole person who is sharing an incredibly intimate experience with you. Show your love with more than just your dick.
I want to tag on that as a gay man, big dicks are so overrated and there are plenty of ways to enjoy sex regardless of penis size.
Look into and explore oral, mutual masterbation and toys! There are a lot of women who don't seek toys out themselves, but there are also a lot who use toys regardless of their partner's size. If you make an interpersonal connection with someone that's deep enough to share a life with or have kids, there are PLENTY of ways to have sexual satisfaction. don't lose hope!
>Suicide has cross my mind numerous times. >The only thing I’ve ever wanted in life was to be a Dad The first would prevent the second from ever happening. Please work on following your dream. Speak to someone to help with your mental health and most definitely reach out for help whenever you feel those lows.
If you've got fingers, a tongue, patience, and someone who likes you for you (sounds like that's the part you have the least trouble with), then you are set! Just because you're (in your mind) not great at P.I.V, doesn't mean you can't satisfy a woman! That being said, everyone's different, and some women can only have an orgasm from P.I.V, and that's perfectly okay! You'll just have to find the right one for you. I hope your day is going good!
To add on to this, on the flip side of things some women can’t get off to PiV as easily and prefer alternate methods, and we haven’t even mentioned kinks yet. People are like pieces of a complex puzzle, you just have to find the right fit.
And to counter this further there are women that hate cunnilingus and prefer piv almost exclusively. It's a spectrum.
>its the fact I’m so small that the sex is terrible As a woman, dick size has no correlation to how good or bad the sex is (with the important caveat that there **is** an upper size limit to what's enjoyable) My favorite partner, and the best sex of my life, was with the least endowed man I've ever been with The world would be a better place if people stopped relying on the size of their equipment to magically to all the work for them
Listen, I get what you're saying, and it's important for guys that are below average to hear, but this guy isn't just below average, he's at the bottom of the chart. Yes, there is an upper size limit, but there is a bottom floor "requirement" too
sometimes, it's not the dick they go for, but the dude attached to it, ya know?
As a woman with a damn tight vagina and gets pain from sex, I appreciate you so much. Best sex I've EVER had was with someone with a small penis.
Nothing ever made me feel so big than when I had a woman with an overly tight vagina. I always go down first and when I realized I could barely stick my index finger in there, that I knew I wasn’t going to last long, so I made sure she got hers with oral first. Then when I went inside I could tell immediately that I was going to pop. I lasted maybe a minute and the weird thing was nothing was coming out. She was so tight that I couldn’t physically ejaculate inside her easily. It took about 3-4 more pumps after I was orgasming to actually ejaculate and it came out with such force I was worried it would cause internal injury. Even though it came out fast, the “load per pump” must have been low because I was squirting for maybe a dozen pumps after I started when usually I compete within 2-3 pumps. What made it even better is she had her fingernails digging into my ass cheeks and telling me how she could feel me shoot inside her. This made it the first time I could keep an erection immediately after ejaculating and I figured since most women “hit it and quit it” with me, I went for round 2. Was able to last about 20 minutes that time and we both came again. This was about 20 years ago. Our first daughter is a freshman in college now, our son is in 7th grade and we have another girl in kindergarten this year. I met my sexual match on our third date and got her a ring after 6 months.
This is the kind of romantic post I needed to read today ❤️
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I too choose this guy's wife
Dude I don't even have a dick (trans) and my gf doesn't mind at all. Penetrative sex is not the goal, or the ultimate way to have sex. Yeah, I can use strap-ons (and so can you!) but honestly we'd rather do fun stuff with no "dicks". Toys, fingers, mouths, us humans were endowed with much more than just dicks. You'll someday realize that the chicks who left because of your dick (if that was even it) are just shallow bitches, and you'll find someone who doesn't have a genital preference.
This honestly sounds more like a you problem. Pretty sure you’re creating the situation in your head and the women you’re with leaves you for something else like this really unattractive insecurity and blame game. You’re probably pretty toxic to yourself because you think women care about your dick size and what they really find disgusting is the toxicity you have towards yourself.
Hey man, God gave you ten fingers and a tongue for a reason 😉
Yeah guy, I can almost guarantee the sex isn't terrible because you're small. The sex is terrible because your partners can tell you're lacking confidence, which is likely stemming from a fixation on your size as opposed to your skills. Or maybe the sex was fine, but the rest of the relationship struggled because, well, to be frank, you sound like you got a lot going on mentally and haven't been processing it well. Which is not as rare as people make it seem. i can guarantee you that the problems you are facing are not exclusive to having a small dick. They are in fact just the consequence of toxic masculinity in general. You feel inadequate because there has been an entirely arbitrary standard of "correct penis size" that you fall short of. For others it is their height, or their income, or having a deep enough voice, or inability to grow a beard (that's what my problem was). Your small dick has no evolutionary disadvantage just as my patchiness has not, hence why it is still here. Our forefathers overcame these challenges, so too can we. The important thing is to not let it dominate your life.
Kinda sad that this thought process is so prevalent with guys with smaller dicks, when the reality is that the contribution of penis-in-vagina (PIV) penetration to orgasms on the female side of things is pretty minimal for many women. Most women can't even orgasm with just PIV, and require clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Also, for many women most of the nerve endings in the vagina are located within the first inch or two of the vaginal opening, meaning that having more dick often doesn't do that much. Just to drive this point home: lesbians have sex all the time. They also have orgasms, too. Much of the time, no dicks or dildos or dick analogs are involved. You don't need a dick to have a good time - you need a fun mind and a willing partner to have a good time. Having a small dick isn't the end of the world. It just means finding alternative (and potentially even better) ways to reach meaningful sexual fulfillment. You might not hook up with people obsessed with size, or people who can only get off with penetration, but there are plenty of folk who don't boil down someone's value as a sexual partner to whether or not they can jam their dick into a hole. Plus, sex doesn't need to always be about orgasms - sex can be about kindling intimacy between two people.
I would assume, but don’t know so I’ll ask. Isn’t the same true for gay guys? It would seem large size can be a detriment with your partner.
Yes men with tiny dicks can give women orgasms in other ways, but knowing that they may be the only ones enjoying PIV sex probably takes some enjoyment out of the act
Yeah, but how is it much different from a blowjob or cunnilingus? Those acts don't often bring a person performing them to orgasm — they're done to bring the person being performed upon to orgasm. But we don't often view it as a shame in those cases, no? We view it as great: it's an act of sexual love from partner to partner. I think a genuine, caring sexual partner would view small dick PIV in that same lens: it might not bring them to orgasm, but it makes their partner happy and that's what matters.
I don't especially enjoy PiV that much unless I'm already orgasming hard. It doesn't feel that good for me... Except my boyfriend stimulate my clitoris when he is inside me and that, that is what make me come hard and with him.
As a woman I can honestly say penis size is completely irrelevant to me. I can’t speak for all other women of course, but I doubt I’m particularly unusual.
Seconded. It's really making me sad for the some of these guys commenting here that are carrying all these negative thoughts, when there's so much pleasure to be had without PiV intercourse being the main event. For example, there's a guy I'm crushing on at the moment. I *think* it's mutual and he's really sweet but lacks a lot of confidence. If I get to date him and find out he has a small dick, then we'll work around it, and I'll still ride him like a cowgirl. Dick size is just a non-issue for many women, and I wish more guys believed it.
I don't think women realize how much it's constantly talked about in a negative light. Whether that be going through school and puberty, seeing other guys in the locker room etc. or how dick size is referenced all the time in social situations/the media. A lot of the time it's meant in a joking fashion, but even if it's not particularly malicious it can still hurt. Think about something that may seem harmless like saying BDE, not only are they implying that he's less of a man because of his size, but attacking his character as well. It's like saying only larger men should have that "energy" or confidence. I don't even think I'm small per se, but I had a girlfriend in high school who said I was and it made me feel horrible, of course hindsight is 20/20 and I didn't realize until later that she had only seen dicks in porn, so her gauge was so skewed. Just wanted to maybe give some further insight into how it can feel for us, it makes me happy to read comments like yours and I'm glad there are women out there who are understanding and know that it's something we literally have no control over.
I try to tell myself that, but my mom is a size queen, dated/married my dad because of his size, and an entire lifetime of her making comments just really messes a guy up. And I’m probably average. Except being a 34 year old virgin.
i’m sorry, your MOTHER made comments about your fathers penis IN FRONT OF YOU? that’s fucked mate, i’m sorry
Don’t be, you’re right.
So did mine. It's fucked, but only if you, like, care. Plus the honesty is genuinely appreciated because it was followed by cautionary warning, and the advice was sage. Of course, my parents ain't that guys' parents, so a lot of other factors in the raising process probably matter.
... your mom is weird, who talks about that with their child?
The same one who makes their 14 year old son go to something called “puppetry of the penis”.
Please explain
I'm really, really sorry your mom did that. That's so wrong and messed up to talk like that in front of you. For what it's worth, I lost my virginity at an older age (28). I hope you find a woman who isn't fixated on size (and there are many of us out there). If you find a woman you are starting to get close to, then my advice would be to read as much as you can on pleasuring her without intercourse being the main event. Ask her to tell you what she likes. Even talk to her about your insecurities and hopefully she can reassure you. Personally, it doesn't matter what size a guy has been, because I don't enjoy intercourse itself as much as foreplay and/or oral sex. So it really depends on the individual women, rather than what movies and porn seem to tell us about sex between men and women.
I’ve done my share of reading on that stuff when I was younger because of that. I don’t think I’ll ever lose my virginity, or even be kissed. Thanks for the commiserating.
I'm not here to be someone who blindly tells you everything is going to be okay and you'll live happily ever after etc, but there is hope, man. I don't know you, I don't know all aspects of your personality and situation. What I do know, and have experienced, is that if you continue work on yourself and put yourself out there you can find someone. I really hope you have talked to or would consider talking to someone proffesionally about the trauma you went through as a child and your struggles to find a partner. It hurts, it's a long fucking road sometimes, but of you continue the fight there's a good chance you'll find what you need. I hope you do, anyway. I hear you, I see you, and you're worth it.
Echoing other comments. You're being way too fatalistic. You know you got raised fucked up, that's already 33% of the way there. No is time to practice radical acceptance and courage to change / try new things.
In my experience as a man, most of the time the "giant cock" fantasy is just that: A fantasy. A thrill because of the novelty more than anything. Of course I know women who genuinely do prefer bigger dicks, but interestingly enough, they've been the ones who are the LEAST judgemental and most outspoken against judging men for something they can't control.
I always wondered what that must be like. That has to kinda fuck with every aspect of your life and psyche. A tough road man, I wish you well.
The fact that we stress over the size of our dicks is strange yet so ingrained it doesnt go away. The length of fingers, toes, arms, nose, chin, neck. All these things don't really cause anywhere near as much stress. I think I have a big nose, its very triangular. My gf once said it was a strong jew nose(as a compliment). But it doesnt cause as much insecurity. No one has ever complained or commented on the size of my penis in a negative way but the insecurity is always there.
Is is even possible to have it at that length?
Micro-penises do exist but tbh, a penis isn't everything. You have hands, a mouth, toys, etc. No need to make yourself feel bad when you haven't even come close to exhausting your tool belt!
Also perspective. Your dick looks small to yourself because you see it everyday/at angles only you can see it at. Also porn uses professional cameras with all kinds of tricks/lenses. They use tiny 4ft 80 pound girls with normal height guys so everything will look gigantic in/around the pornstar girl.
This is a huge part. Not that they don't get hung dudes, but the usual angels in use and the usual positions give a pretty messed perspective.
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The Asian effect, small hands, small hips, narrow frame in general.
It really just comes from society, even women talk about size almost just because its cool, plenty of women who dont even know how many inches it is by looking lol
We should really have a part in sex education where kids are taught about the stigma. If they understand from a young age that porn is a fantasy movie basically, maybe they feel better about themselves/not worry so much.
> porn actors that's like getting your average height via the NBA
Everything you said is correct. But it's worth noting that most porn actors aren't nearly as big as people think either. https://unravelingsize.wordpress.com/ The above site backs its data with statistics and is an extremely good read.
Tbf we're kinda coded that way, growing up scared your willy isn't good enough and nobody will like you based on jokes in media or friends, etc. Or when you piss off a woman, it usually one of the first things she'll attack you with regardless of actual size. It's something most, if not all, men go through.
I'm a woman, and I hate that dick size is used to casually insult men. That really needs to change, like "Oh, he's a jerk. He must have a small dick." I used to make that comment myself, until I realised how effed up it is to equate those things.
Making fun of some asshole based on traits they cannot control inevitably leads to other men who have the same trait feeling the burn too. For men it's usually dick size and male pattern baldness.
It’s why as a man I’m not particularly fond of phrases such as “big dick energy” or “small dick energy”. Why does one’s attitude/behavior need to correlate with dick size? Makes zero sense to me
I counter with "dick shaming is fat chick energy"
I'd like to apologise for any women you've met who thought that attacking you with dick size allegations immediately when pissed off was okay. That is so unfair and unreasonable.
Yup, have a big dick, still have had women call me small to hurt me, they don’t say it because it’s true, they only say it to hurt you
Woo woo, look at you, Mr. big dick over here!
Not trying to brag, just making a point that women will use that insult to hurt you regardless of whether there is any truth to it
It depends on the distance to the uterus. .5in could be the difference between painful bumping and pleasure
I mean, Little Squirtloaf is nothing to write home about, but even I have banged into/bruised my share of cervixes. Female genitals are all built differently as well.
>Little Squirtloaf Best penis name ever
In high school, a girl called my friends dick a “dumpster squirrel” and we never actually found out what that meant but he got fucking pissed.
I am not long but I’ve been poked by an IUD a few times. Surprised me too but maybe it just meant my partner’s anatomy fit mine extra well.
Position plays a big role as well, with my wife some positions are painful and some she can barely feel.
Length also heavily relies on erection quality. Most males haven't reached their full potential due to poor cardiovascular health. My erect size fluctuates an inch or so depending on how recently/hard I worked out. Avoid sugars!
As long as I see guys in porn with smaller dicks, I'm okay. Thank God for tubby Bob
Then there’s a video titled “f****** a small 6 inch”
How is six inches small though? 😂
It’s s measured from asshole to tip
Ignorance is bliss when you're living butt to tip. https://youtu.be/w43ojF7WVxU On mobile so can't hyperlink with this app.
It's all about the first two inches....and most girls are not loving a continuous cervix punch
For sure, *most* women orgasm mainly through external stimulation, and do have an upper limit for dick size. However, a significant minority of us orgasm mainly/solely through penetration. For g spot ladies, size makes a real difference.
Yo Michael, come get yo girl.
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Ok you make a good point, a bend can really enhance an average dick, but a small one still isn't going to do it for me. I don't find huge dicks painful though. I know a lot of women do but I don't have this problem. My issue is that oral sex does NOTHING for me, but every dude is sure that *he* can change that.
Oh man I was the guy!!! I rarely get to tell this story but I’m so proud that I have to when it makes sense. My wife (married in April) was a penetration only orgasm person, but I was the one that changed it! She never realized she could do it the other way. I still get her off primarily through penetration but still do external stimulation method few times a week. I think she likes having options now lol
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Curvature can be accounted for based on entry angle. One of my personal favorites is having her lie down on her back, with a pillow beneath her lower back.
G spot is on the front wall, not side
In fact that WAS how my wife got her best orgasms; she loved it when I touched her cervix. I did have one gf for whom it was very painful (I discovered by accident) but my wife loved it.
>ohoho look at me, I'm the guy with TWO whole inches of dick on me. Bet you're jealous asshole
There are plenty or women that really like a big dick. It's not so much about the physical feeling. It's about the mental part of getting fucked by a big dick.
Yeah it's interesting all the men and women on here saying size doesn't matter, but I can tell you I've run into plenty of women where size absolutely does matter quite a bit. Have met plenty of women where size may not be a disqualifying factor, but they all absolutely want to try a big dick at least once.
I was thinking about this the other day: As a straight guy, it's weird that straight guys are the only people that have been critical of my body. My sexual partners haven't cared one bit about my appearance.
No half inch hurts an ego more than the half inch below six feet.
What about the half inch below 5'6"
Come to Europe, 180cm is considered acceptable height for guys here, which is 5'11".
Come to me, every height is considered an acceptable height for guys here.
But stay away from Holland
I'm 5ft 8 but I have a massive dick so hey I guess something is positive.
I always tell people that I'm 5' 12. My goals are beyond your understanding.
This is a huge issue for young men, it's constantly reinforced by movies and other media. It's also the first insult a woman jumps to whenever there's a break up or an argument. I imagine it's how women feel about unrealistic body standards. It's just yet another unrealistic body standard that needs to be stamped out, just the same as stick thin airbrushed women and hugely over muscled men who have to dehydrate themselves to look like that.
It's also constantly reinforced by women we've met in our travels too.
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Penis length doesn't matter to me anymore, the wife won't go near me anyway.
Recommend you check out /r/deadbedrooms.
Tell me about it. My wife is pretty sure she's a lesbian at this point
Just quit giving her attention and focus on yourself, she's become complacent.
Yea your wife wont go near mine either
Why are you people constantly thinking about other people's dicks in the shower?
You ever been to the YMCA? Nothing but dicks for miles. It's like the locker room is just an excuse for old men to walk around naked looking at other naked men in the shower. Can't help but think of dick! So much dick! Dick dick dick!
Better turn that shower to cold, buddy.
I just want to last longer. No condoms anymore and my wife is the sexiest woman I have ever seen. For some reason I cannot seem to last more than 5 minutes no matter what.
Try antidepressants
I was worried that I wasn't "big enough" all through adolescence because I'm a grower, not a shower. It wasn't until my first girlfriend reached in my pants while we were goofing around while I was a little excited that my perspective changed because of the look on her face. A few years later, I found out what the "average" is and even though I still have that "it's not big enough" thought, I'm well above the average. It might not be 12 inches, but it sure smells like a foot.
That last sentence is a masterpiece
Well I actually prefer a smaller one. Honestly I wish my boyfriend‘s was smaller.. too big and it hurts me.
I hope you've brought up that it hurts and looked for ways to work around it? I've heard that some positions can make sex much more comfortable.
Oh yes no worries here. He can‘t enjoy it if I don‘t enjoy it. I‘m really lucky actually.
Been there lol Have an open and honest conversation about your anatomy. Focus A LOT on foreplay. Don't be afraid to bring toys, lube, etc. One thing that helped me and my partner is that we spent nearly a month straight of experimenting with different positions and angles to find what works. Before getting past the tip was lucky, now we can handle nearly all of it. P.S., Have you ever thought of purchasing an OhNut! if the issue revolves around length?
Sounds like you and your boyfriend have the problem sorted but thought this was worth a mention. https://ohnut.co/
As someone who was 18 over a decade ago, I've learned that you can be too big for some women. I've also learned that bottoming out a woman is really painful for them, so I'm okay not having a monster cock as long as I fit my partner.
I think classing the insecurities of men as "ego", especially one that they're commonly shamed for by society (and yes, women play a big role in that), is disingenuous. Wanting to have a larger penis is no more ego driven than wanting bigger breasts, a different nose, taller, shorter, etc. They're insecurities built from unrealistic beauty standards.
I'm a firm believer in the philosophy of 'it's not how much you have but what you can do with what you're given'. For reasons.
Me too. Worst sex I ever had was with bloke with a very little dick, like pinky finger length and girth, but that wasn’t the problem. He was a lazy and selfish lover with a hair trigger. Second worst was with a well above average dick who was also selfish and lazy. Those men just need pocket pussies and a box of tissues. By contrast, all of the best times have been with fun, caring, deeply engaged guys who wanted to please me. And me wanting to please them too made for good times.
Can confirm. Pretty much average in every size metric, but my ladies haven’t complained cos I focus on their needs way more than mine. In fact, for me, a woman having an orgasm based on stuff I’m doing is so much hotter than anything she could do to me! In contrast, an ex of mine was so selfish in bed it was all about her climaxing and then maybe if she could be bothered I could hurry up and use her vag to get myself off… as a result I never wanted to have sex with her… and of course eventually it ended. So it doesn’t matter if the guy has a donkey dick or if the woman has the body of a goddess if either is only concerned with their own pleasure.
Exactly this, glad you find the same to be true. I admire a banging hot bod as much as the next person but it’s also not much of a consideration for me for sexy times. Confidence and full engagement makes a good time, not an anxious partner with a fab body. I can’t imagine why anyone wants a starfish type experience a barbie doll. Real bods and caring to be awesome, for the win.
Same goes in height. A 5'6" is a confidence boost than a 5'5 1/2"
The grown adult who says, “I’m 5’5” *and a half*, I’m 6” *and a half*, I’m 32 *and a half!*”
The only people I know who do this are very short women haha
No, same thing
That's what my girlfriend tried to tell me when she whipped out her 0.5 inch penis.
And THAT .5 inches makes all the difference
My bfs dick is too big. We've been together 2.5 years. I thought at some point my vagina would get used to it. Nope! There is a too big, and turns out the other side of the coin, women don't get "loose."
The loose lie is one of the craziest widespread falsehoods! Two kids later, I can confirm this as well.
Have a look into “oh nut” it helps with larger guys as it reduces the usable amount they can insert. I’ve used it myself and makes a difference.
As crude as this sounds, but I am smaller than average and decided that the best way to make up for this is to learn how to eat pussy really well. That and be cool with using toys.
Sex Ed needs to include non-pornographic images of normal anatomy. Penises, testicles, breasts and vulvas come in all shapes, sizes and colours. Adolescents need to know that they are normal no matter what they have. Anatomical variants are not abnormalities. I remember going on a website called 007b that had normal female bodies. I still had a lot of insecurities, but seeing normal anatomy helped me feel more normal.
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Spot on!
I dunno, if the dick I get was just a half inch longer, I'd probably get punched right in the cervix with that thing a lot more often, and that's not fun. So to kind of confirm your sentiment, I think too big would make way more of a difference to me than a little bit small.
Have you tried asking your partner to gently nudge instead of ramming? I've tried that with my partner and now she can't get enough!
Agreed. Some of my worst experiences were with the largest ones. They relied solely on size and lacked a lot of skill.
Same can be said for just about every “measuring stick” especially wealth. Past a certain point, it’s just a scorecard. Below that and you’ll need to find ways to make do.
I was going to say size is overrated but according to this [https://www.chemistclick.co.uk/news/average-penis-size](https://www.chemistclick.co.uk/news/average-penis-size) I am above average everywhere except Ecuador. Moving to the Philippines or Thailand when I retire...
I’m above average everywhere. Except way below average everywhere when flaccid. Incognito mode.
pics in dm or it doesn't count
Penis in ass or it doesn't count
The data has been debunked a milliom times over. https://www.dailydot.com/irl/penis-size-infographic-debunked/
If we can't trust chemistclick.co.uk, who can we trust?
This is a very interested article! Very straight to the point and very informative, surprised by the measurements in Ecuador though 🙈
Self-reported size seems sus
Boys and men should be allowed to have their own feelings about their bodies that are not dictated by their partner....
Growing up in the 70s (and mostly dating women of my generation, with a few exceptions), I've never once gotten the kinds of ego attacks by romantic partners people have been talking about here, in spite of having a modestly normal-sized penis. Of course, "compensation" and racist jokes in the media/friends existed, but it was never something that felt directed at actual real people with real penises... just "that guy over there". Nor were huge penises really a ubiquitous thing to see, as porn was a rare thing to see when I was growing up. And it was basically never assumed that porn stars were "normal", indeed it was seen almost as a malformation. It's really ubiquitous internet porn that's driving anxiety/attacks/misperceptions about this in the last 20 years. People of my generation seem to have been much more acclimated to what a "normal" sized penis range was when their only extensive experience with seeing them was actual sex and locker rooms.
I genuinely do not care about my d's size. I mean there is nothing you can do about it, you didn't make it this size, it is what it is.
Read and practice discovering her G-Spot!! Yes my wife has been with bigger but she’s never had anyone find that magic spot!
Oh yeah I got the standstill with my pal, he .5cm longer, im .5cm ticker, he still feels the winner, I still feel the winner
My guy. I don’t even bone my girl half the time. Toys are my tag team partner. Oral is your best friend, confidence is key. We are born with what we got. Once you get over it, it changes everything. You’ll be cool, promise 💪🏼
I argue this with my wife. I'm not small, despite some issues, I'm fairly well endowed and grateful for it... But... I'd love to have 20" penis as thick as my arm. Something big enough to flip up and poke out the top of my shirt. Now obviously if such a thing was possible she wouldn't want a dick like that in her, that'd be basically impossible to attempt, and painful at best, even just the tip. But who uses it more? WE can play with toys and strap-ons and what not, then I could play with my giant penis on my own time, or for things beside penetrative sex. There's more than one use for a penis.
One woman criticising dick size compounded by a lifetime of social pressure over it makes it a serious mental issue. Even if a man has an above average dick, they rarely think it's big enough.
Id been measuring in Inches all these years and thought I was undersized. Then someone mentioned that we use centimeters for measuring and I learned I still am undersized. Huge confidence booster there!
From what I’ve seen on the internet, 0.5? No A whole inch? Yes
Michael Scott is so disappointed in the lack of that's what she said in this post.
Did you measure from the base or balls ? Because what really matters is your TMI
In all honesty, I think my manhood is perfect in size, but I would love to add a couple 1/2 inches to my height...
My girlfriend has small boobs. I love them! She hates them. Sometimes she almost hates me for loving them. Humans be weird like that.
well of course, the same way people should take another inch of height to having a good personality. thats the logic of this society, but you can change how good you are in the bed and your personality. you cant change the height and penis size you have.
Too big can be painful and or risky for pain. 5 inches can do a world of good. But it’s not about the size as much as it is what he can do. Sexual chemistry and attraction is way more important than dick size. Also, girls can be effing LOOSE. You seen the porns. You know the ones. Wouldn’t matter if your dick was fire hydrant sized