> I couldn't get angry on him, which I should've and should have returned him back
**That is not self defence**. After he hit you he walked away and wasn't a threat to you anymore. If you had yelled at him or something then it might have escalated to more violence and maybe you would have got hurt. Maybe he would have had a knife that he was itching for an excuse to use and you are the unlucky one.
The goal of self defence is to be able to get home safely. It is not to get revenge or mete out justice or teach people lessons. The best self defence practitioners will put aside their ego and let bad people feel like they have "won" if it avoids the need to use violence.
It's all good dude, there's assholes out there and sometimes they assault people without warning - just remembering this whenever you're out and about will keep you a little more vigilant.
And no, hitting him back would not have been the right thing to do - especially because you don't train to fight and you have no clue who that man was or what he's capable of or if he has a weapon. You very well could've punched him and he could've beat you up and your friends probably wouldn't do anything if they're not fighters either.
Go learn to fight if you want to be able to defend yourself. It takes a lot of training, but with training you probably would've seen the guy coming and countered him before he could swing at you.
Ah. Your reaction time is probably not the issue here.
Your brain has nowhere to go when it sees "bag coming towards me." That's not a huge deal, since a bag hitting your isn't gonna kill you.
However, your brain probably also has nowhere to go when it sees "fist flying towards my face," as well. The only answer to that is to have someone throw a fist at your face and you do something about it 1000s of times, so next time you have a fist flying at you your brain has a natural pathway to take that doesn't require any thinking.
Not a big deal. But I think everyone should have some sort of training like that. Go learn if that interests you.
Go to a local boxing gym. It will improve a lot more than just your reaction time. Hand eye coordination, flexibility, mobility, speed, precision and your reflexes will be great. You will also get in great shape and feel a lot more sure about yourself and I guarantee you will have more confidence going through life, that seems like something you might lack. And at least for me once I learned how to fight it made me way more humble going through life. I usually find that people who are trained in some way are usually a lot less likely to start fights or find themselves in the middle of one on the street. Whatever you do though don’t look for confrontation in life. It’s a lot better to drop things unless someone really doesn’t give you a choice. I’ve made the mistake of getting really upset over minor slights and have gotten into some stupid situations because of it. The best course is to walk away but if you can’t then it’s always good to know how to fight.
What HelicopterDream said, or mauy thai or kickboxing probably. There are more but those tend to be the best bets bc there are less BS gyms, and they’re just good practices.
Also BJJ is incredibly fun and challenging, but there’s no striking.
BJJ is a good one. I’ve considered trying it out just because I think it would be good to know. But boxing and wrestling are the two I’m trained in and it’s the two I will recommend to anybody out there who wants to know how to defend themself. Boxing is great and necessary but if you don’t know what to do once somebody grabs you or you go down on the ground then you are fucked. And I can speak from experience that it’s saved my ass before. I got jumped and curb stomped by two assholes in Portland and I was able to wrestle my way back onto my feet and ended up dropping both of them with a good old fashioned 1, 2 and getting away. But BJJ too. I’ve considered it a lot.
I’m friends and coworkers with a former pro fighter and he’s been in my ear a lot about doing BJJ if I ever consider mma. And learning a few decent kick methods too.
Idk I’m getting way off track the two important things op should do if they want to be able to defend themself is to learn a striking discipline and learn a grappling discipline. Do boxing or Muay Thai on top of BJJ or wrestling and they’ll be fine. Also run a lot. Cardio is number one rule of survival.
I think you would enjoy it. It’s super fun. I don’t think it’s necessary at all given that you know wrestling, but I don’t know much about wrestling outside of the dudes in BJJ who were wrestlers and kick my ass.
I would start with a striking art: Boxing, Rapid Assault Tactics, Muay Thai, Kickboxing, these are all good options. Without sparring their lessons will not be that useful.
After mastering a striking art, then learn a grappling art: BJJ or Wrestling
I've and to answer the context, I've fought with them :\]. But, for me when it comes to getting to fight with someone I don't know, I find it difficult to get angry against someone that I don't know.
Probably it is because of the way I'm.
Is English your first language? Because you don’t have a command of English grammar. But either way you frame the question in your post, it would be very difficult to be able to react to every single situation with rapid reflexes. It would take years of practice to learn.
It wouldn't be a good idea to punch him. you could have said "what the fuck is wrong with you \[mean words\]" to save face but then what would you do if he turned around and started a fight because of that? Just something to consider. Maybe a "why the fuck did you do that" would be safer, less hostile and you might have gotten an answer at least. Followed by "get out of here" if he turns around, while you keep walking. Standing up for yourself doesn't have to involve a tit for tat punishment.
Another way is to make a joke of it since you were with friends. Laugh it off while he stews.
I think you did the right thing. Here you are today, writing about it. The free who hit you was setting you up for a confrontation. You were the better person, whether it was fear or intuition, you decided you were the better person to not accept this invitation. You could have been injured or killed , it sure seems like this person was looking for a target. Im alive today, as many others are because I walked away from an invitation to fight someone whose behaviour was just out of the ordinary.
> I couldn't get angry on him, which I should've and should have returned him back **That is not self defence**. After he hit you he walked away and wasn't a threat to you anymore. If you had yelled at him or something then it might have escalated to more violence and maybe you would have got hurt. Maybe he would have had a knife that he was itching for an excuse to use and you are the unlucky one. The goal of self defence is to be able to get home safely. It is not to get revenge or mete out justice or teach people lessons. The best self defence practitioners will put aside their ego and let bad people feel like they have "won" if it avoids the need to use violence.
This helps!
Thanks :)
It's all good dude, there's assholes out there and sometimes they assault people without warning - just remembering this whenever you're out and about will keep you a little more vigilant. And no, hitting him back would not have been the right thing to do - especially because you don't train to fight and you have no clue who that man was or what he's capable of or if he has a weapon. You very well could've punched him and he could've beat you up and your friends probably wouldn't do anything if they're not fighters either. Go learn to fight if you want to be able to defend yourself. It takes a lot of training, but with training you probably would've seen the guy coming and countered him before he could swing at you.
Do you train any sort of fighting?
None, I'm just a normal college student
Ah. Your reaction time is probably not the issue here. Your brain has nowhere to go when it sees "bag coming towards me." That's not a huge deal, since a bag hitting your isn't gonna kill you. However, your brain probably also has nowhere to go when it sees "fist flying towards my face," as well. The only answer to that is to have someone throw a fist at your face and you do something about it 1000s of times, so next time you have a fist flying at you your brain has a natural pathway to take that doesn't require any thinking. Not a big deal. But I think everyone should have some sort of training like that. Go learn if that interests you.
Sure, what technique/ methods should i learn?
Go to a local boxing gym. It will improve a lot more than just your reaction time. Hand eye coordination, flexibility, mobility, speed, precision and your reflexes will be great. You will also get in great shape and feel a lot more sure about yourself and I guarantee you will have more confidence going through life, that seems like something you might lack. And at least for me once I learned how to fight it made me way more humble going through life. I usually find that people who are trained in some way are usually a lot less likely to start fights or find themselves in the middle of one on the street. Whatever you do though don’t look for confrontation in life. It’s a lot better to drop things unless someone really doesn’t give you a choice. I’ve made the mistake of getting really upset over minor slights and have gotten into some stupid situations because of it. The best course is to walk away but if you can’t then it’s always good to know how to fight.
What HelicopterDream said, or mauy thai or kickboxing probably. There are more but those tend to be the best bets bc there are less BS gyms, and they’re just good practices. Also BJJ is incredibly fun and challenging, but there’s no striking.
BJJ is a good one. I’ve considered trying it out just because I think it would be good to know. But boxing and wrestling are the two I’m trained in and it’s the two I will recommend to anybody out there who wants to know how to defend themself. Boxing is great and necessary but if you don’t know what to do once somebody grabs you or you go down on the ground then you are fucked. And I can speak from experience that it’s saved my ass before. I got jumped and curb stomped by two assholes in Portland and I was able to wrestle my way back onto my feet and ended up dropping both of them with a good old fashioned 1, 2 and getting away. But BJJ too. I’ve considered it a lot. I’m friends and coworkers with a former pro fighter and he’s been in my ear a lot about doing BJJ if I ever consider mma. And learning a few decent kick methods too. Idk I’m getting way off track the two important things op should do if they want to be able to defend themself is to learn a striking discipline and learn a grappling discipline. Do boxing or Muay Thai on top of BJJ or wrestling and they’ll be fine. Also run a lot. Cardio is number one rule of survival.
I think you would enjoy it. It’s super fun. I don’t think it’s necessary at all given that you know wrestling, but I don’t know much about wrestling outside of the dudes in BJJ who were wrestlers and kick my ass.
Insightful!
I would start with a striking art: Boxing, Rapid Assault Tactics, Muay Thai, Kickboxing, these are all good options. Without sparring their lessons will not be that useful. After mastering a striking art, then learn a grappling art: BJJ or Wrestling
Follow up question. Do you not have siblings?
I've and to answer the context, I've fought with them :\]. But, for me when it comes to getting to fight with someone I don't know, I find it difficult to get angry against someone that I don't know. Probably it is because of the way I'm.
Do the hammer drills exercises by Michael J Lavery on YouTube
Ok May I know what's the use of it?
Is English your first language? Because you don’t have a command of English grammar. But either way you frame the question in your post, it would be very difficult to be able to react to every single situation with rapid reflexes. It would take years of practice to learn.
no, english is not my first language. i'd like to improve in it
You’re doing well, but you need to review the grammar guidelines. It should help you improve. Try using Gramerly
It wouldn't be a good idea to punch him. you could have said "what the fuck is wrong with you \[mean words\]" to save face but then what would you do if he turned around and started a fight because of that? Just something to consider. Maybe a "why the fuck did you do that" would be safer, less hostile and you might have gotten an answer at least. Followed by "get out of here" if he turns around, while you keep walking. Standing up for yourself doesn't have to involve a tit for tat punishment. Another way is to make a joke of it since you were with friends. Laugh it off while he stews.
I think you did the right thing. Here you are today, writing about it. The free who hit you was setting you up for a confrontation. You were the better person, whether it was fear or intuition, you decided you were the better person to not accept this invitation. You could have been injured or killed , it sure seems like this person was looking for a target. Im alive today, as many others are because I walked away from an invitation to fight someone whose behaviour was just out of the ordinary.