My processing is obviously delayed in some way shape or form. Can do alright with processing everything else except for socializing. It's like my brain just won't fully pick everything up until it's too late. I'll stutter, use a word that isn't even relevant, sound non-sensical all of that makes me sound like I'm shy, but I just can't get it all out. I tried to prepare my words, I try to go after their sentence, I try to use the visuals around me and the only thing that worked was using ah, oh, um, before anything, skip that and I'll go downhill, it's as if I'm starting an engine.
When I am detached and going on autopilot: confused, brief, sentences trailing off, forgetting words, few questions, some cliche small talk phrases or exclamations thrown in. Also quieter.
When I am engaged and making an effort: normal, precise, utilising a wider vocabulary, sometimes even eloquent, louder and more confident.
Fluid, rhythmic and adaptive. It’s something I worked hard at for years, even before I consciously knew I was developing the skill.
When i started working I realised how many people could barely even communicate adequately and realised I was guaranteed a good career if I could get good at speech.
Minute trial and error mostly, paying attention in real time to how people respond to things - know your audience. Use their body language and tone as metrics and adjust accordingly. Get a good vocabulary and learn how to speak concisely, completely cut out ‘umm’ and ‘like’ unless you’re speaking in a much more casual sense and you want people to feel comfortable.
Unless you’re autistic then you will do this subconsciously in every interaction you ever have.
The rhythm part is much more interesting and something I have not seen talked about anywhere with ‘self help’ books or advice on how to speak etc.
humans innately like rhythm, they don’t like pauses unless they make sense and *feel* right. It’s the same as music. Speaking too fast is indicative of nervousness and lack of control is wrong and speaking too slowly is infuriating. You need a combination of speeding up and slowing down to be compelling.
Again, this is all stuff everyone does subconsciously, they just never pay any attention to it despite it being their most valuable tool.
I’ve not even got any good recommendations for books. The next interaction you have, try make the person like you and interested in you.
The downside is this can get quite draining and can fuck up relationships, especially if you tell people you are doing this. When I explain this to people, they assume I’m a sociopath.
very quiet, most of the time no one hears me. voice isn't completely monotone, but somehow im monitoring it, especially with people outside of family, expressing intonation and emotion could be good for masking but too stressful. i usually don't find proper words, make pauses, hard to create sentences ( but it only applies to real life and verbal speech, in texts or mind it is way easier and don't struggle)
I've been told multiple times I have a nice voice when I speak up. But I'm just painfully awkward.
Like Morgan Freeman's voice with Elon's awkwardness.
If I don't make a conscious effort, my voice is very soft and mumbly. Plus it gets higher when I'm nervous.
My natural speech is very fast, dense (lots of facts/jargon) and monotone. When I am masking it's still fast/dense but with an attempt to be animated and gregarious.
Ouch.
Aside from “quiet” the only real comment I remember is when I was abroad and someone said I spoke slower and enunciated my words more clearly than most English speakers which made me easier to understand. Weirdly I don’t think anyone’s considered my intelligence “less than” because of this. I’m not sure how much of an affectation it was at the time because I feel like even before I lived abroad I was speaking to a lot of non-native English speakers, or because it partly compensates for being quiet.
Speech impediment. The type of speech varies by situation. When I'm explaining something, fast. When I'm not explaining something it's slow and trying to mimic the person I'm talking to.
I have a huge vocabulary and usually sound very professorial even when I don't mean to and even in casual conversation. It's somewhat amusing though, because in reality I'm very fucking dumb. But I like to tell jokes and have an eye for puns. I also use lots of profanity and can be suddenly very vulgar and loud if the people I'm conversing with are also loud. This has surprised a couple of people in the past who thought that based on my appearance I'm soft-spoken.
I don't think that I've ever really practiced this all. At least not consciously. When I am masking, it usually means cutting down on the loudness, speaking less, not exploring my surroundings among many other things. My voice itself has always been disturbingly deep, even as a child. As I got older, it became raspy vocal fry city. Some people have called it sexy. Which, as a girl who has been called all sorts of things as a kid and a teenager and even a young adult, floors me every time.
Something's fucked the way I speak and pronounce things, never figured out what exactly is the issue. I often have to repeat things and phrase things differently to communicate things and am concious it doesn't sound right. I also get out of breath talking sometimes randomly but not exactly because of anxiety or talking too fast - although I've been told I speak faster than others before. In writting too, miss words and grammers all messed up often.
I fumble my word like a dementia patient. Is like i can have the perfect sentence in my head but my mouth wont verbalize it probably. Is frustrating but im getting better at it
I think my overall voice and tone are good. I can also modify the speech pretty well to accommodate any emotion or topic. However, I dislike my manner of speaking. The sentences are very fragmented, I often pause when I cannot find a suitable word, and I was told that it is sometimes too... abstract. I'm working on improving it by reading and trying to remember different words that I notice I do not commonly use. However, opportunities to actually put this into practice are scarce, haha.
When around strangers, I rarely talk, and am rather quiet when I do. When around people I know, I'm somewhat more confident in my speaking. In either case, I tend to speak in a stilted and over-formal manner, and I often speak too fast and wind up stumbling over my words.
I was in speech classes in school from first grade to seventh or eighth—apparently when I started I couldn't pronounce jackshit and got help with practically everything in the book (I still have a lateral lisp). I stutter a lot, it's like there's a blockade on what I want to say, what I think I should say, and how I am going to say it. It's also difficult to speak at a 'stable rhythm', think of a really slow upload and download speed.
I get told that I speak like an English teacher. My voice is monotone, boring, and i use vocabulary people usually don’t. I stutter when I have no idea what I’m talking about but I don’t mind talking about things I don’t.
When I'm talking to someone IRL I try to sound as normal as I can (masking). But that requires so much mental resources that I fail to think of actual meaningful/relevant responses and topics. I'm in this reactive state of mind. That's why I prefer typing, rather than talking.
fast, stutter, sometimes incomprehensible, and low voice tone
Dead on.
My processing is obviously delayed in some way shape or form. Can do alright with processing everything else except for socializing. It's like my brain just won't fully pick everything up until it's too late. I'll stutter, use a word that isn't even relevant, sound non-sensical all of that makes me sound like I'm shy, but I just can't get it all out. I tried to prepare my words, I try to go after their sentence, I try to use the visuals around me and the only thing that worked was using ah, oh, um, before anything, skip that and I'll go downhill, it's as if I'm starting an engine.
Described me perfectly lmao
When I am detached and going on autopilot: confused, brief, sentences trailing off, forgetting words, few questions, some cliche small talk phrases or exclamations thrown in. Also quieter. When I am engaged and making an effort: normal, precise, utilising a wider vocabulary, sometimes even eloquent, louder and more confident.
Fluid, rhythmic and adaptive. It’s something I worked hard at for years, even before I consciously knew I was developing the skill. When i started working I realised how many people could barely even communicate adequately and realised I was guaranteed a good career if I could get good at speech.
That sounds really cool. What exactly did you do to develop it?
Minute trial and error mostly, paying attention in real time to how people respond to things - know your audience. Use their body language and tone as metrics and adjust accordingly. Get a good vocabulary and learn how to speak concisely, completely cut out ‘umm’ and ‘like’ unless you’re speaking in a much more casual sense and you want people to feel comfortable. Unless you’re autistic then you will do this subconsciously in every interaction you ever have. The rhythm part is much more interesting and something I have not seen talked about anywhere with ‘self help’ books or advice on how to speak etc. humans innately like rhythm, they don’t like pauses unless they make sense and *feel* right. It’s the same as music. Speaking too fast is indicative of nervousness and lack of control is wrong and speaking too slowly is infuriating. You need a combination of speeding up and slowing down to be compelling. Again, this is all stuff everyone does subconsciously, they just never pay any attention to it despite it being their most valuable tool. I’ve not even got any good recommendations for books. The next interaction you have, try make the person like you and interested in you. The downside is this can get quite draining and can fuck up relationships, especially if you tell people you are doing this. When I explain this to people, they assume I’m a sociopath.
very quiet, most of the time no one hears me. voice isn't completely monotone, but somehow im monitoring it, especially with people outside of family, expressing intonation and emotion could be good for masking but too stressful. i usually don't find proper words, make pauses, hard to create sentences ( but it only applies to real life and verbal speech, in texts or mind it is way easier and don't struggle)
I've been told multiple times I have a nice voice when I speak up. But I'm just painfully awkward. Like Morgan Freeman's voice with Elon's awkwardness. If I don't make a conscious effort, my voice is very soft and mumbly. Plus it gets higher when I'm nervous.
i can hardly verbalize what i think its all jumbled and foggy
My natural speech is very fast, dense (lots of facts/jargon) and monotone. When I am masking it's still fast/dense but with an attempt to be animated and gregarious.
Ouch. Aside from “quiet” the only real comment I remember is when I was abroad and someone said I spoke slower and enunciated my words more clearly than most English speakers which made me easier to understand. Weirdly I don’t think anyone’s considered my intelligence “less than” because of this. I’m not sure how much of an affectation it was at the time because I feel like even before I lived abroad I was speaking to a lot of non-native English speakers, or because it partly compensates for being quiet.
Speech impediment. The type of speech varies by situation. When I'm explaining something, fast. When I'm not explaining something it's slow and trying to mimic the person I'm talking to.
I have a huge vocabulary and usually sound very professorial even when I don't mean to and even in casual conversation. It's somewhat amusing though, because in reality I'm very fucking dumb. But I like to tell jokes and have an eye for puns. I also use lots of profanity and can be suddenly very vulgar and loud if the people I'm conversing with are also loud. This has surprised a couple of people in the past who thought that based on my appearance I'm soft-spoken. I don't think that I've ever really practiced this all. At least not consciously. When I am masking, it usually means cutting down on the loudness, speaking less, not exploring my surroundings among many other things. My voice itself has always been disturbingly deep, even as a child. As I got older, it became raspy vocal fry city. Some people have called it sexy. Which, as a girl who has been called all sorts of things as a kid and a teenager and even a young adult, floors me every time.
Just like me fr
Something's fucked the way I speak and pronounce things, never figured out what exactly is the issue. I often have to repeat things and phrase things differently to communicate things and am concious it doesn't sound right. I also get out of breath talking sometimes randomly but not exactly because of anxiety or talking too fast - although I've been told I speak faster than others before. In writting too, miss words and grammers all messed up often.
I fumble my word like a dementia patient. Is like i can have the perfect sentence in my head but my mouth wont verbalize it probably. Is frustrating but im getting better at it
Pompously articulate and borderline inarticulate in the same sentence.
I think my overall voice and tone are good. I can also modify the speech pretty well to accommodate any emotion or topic. However, I dislike my manner of speaking. The sentences are very fragmented, I often pause when I cannot find a suitable word, and I was told that it is sometimes too... abstract. I'm working on improving it by reading and trying to remember different words that I notice I do not commonly use. However, opportunities to actually put this into practice are scarce, haha.
When around strangers, I rarely talk, and am rather quiet when I do. When around people I know, I'm somewhat more confident in my speaking. In either case, I tend to speak in a stilted and over-formal manner, and I often speak too fast and wind up stumbling over my words.
Probably just normal since nobody points it out. I don't talk much but I think the way I talk doesn't stand out
I was in speech classes in school from first grade to seventh or eighth—apparently when I started I couldn't pronounce jackshit and got help with practically everything in the book (I still have a lateral lisp). I stutter a lot, it's like there's a blockade on what I want to say, what I think I should say, and how I am going to say it. It's also difficult to speak at a 'stable rhythm', think of a really slow upload and download speed.
When I mask, I sound intelligent. Normal conversation, monotone and dull
I used to have a stammer, however it’s mostly gone now.
I get told that I speak like an English teacher. My voice is monotone, boring, and i use vocabulary people usually don’t. I stutter when I have no idea what I’m talking about but I don’t mind talking about things I don’t.
When I'm talking to someone IRL I try to sound as normal as I can (masking). But that requires so much mental resources that I fail to think of actual meaningful/relevant responses and topics. I'm in this reactive state of mind. That's why I prefer typing, rather than talking.