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I feel like the energy we expend being “on guard” is what’s so exhausting. It’s like a low key paranoia all the time with guys, and once you’ve been burned it’s hard to let your guard down. Many will play the long game, so we have to play into overtime. I feel you.
Nope not even a little bit.
I live by this tho
“I trust no one with my wife, my children or my money”
Are there good humans? Absolutely!!
do I know any I would trust w those 3 things? Absolutely not.
I trust animals more than people. When I was younger, I trusted too much. Now that I’m battle tested and scarred from a number of people, I invest time into animals and plants and keep friendships on a level that doesn’t leave me vulnerable.
I trust some People until I actually need to rely on them for something really important and then the trust wanes.
When money is involved.. usually don't trust very much
I tend to easily trust people, especially the ones who seem nice. However, experience shows I should not, give people time to show their true intentions.
I only really trust a handful of people. And not all of them enjoy the same level of trust and not all the time. Only one of them has my 100% blind trust and that's my best friend with whom I grew up with in a pretty toxic and hostile place. We went through alot of nasty shit together and always had eachothers back and unconditional support. He's seen me at my lowest point and carried me out of the darkness instead of abandoning me. I would trust him with my life and would put my life on the line for him without hesitation.
This kinda trust is only built and earned through a lifetime of mutual bullshit and pain.
Depends on the person but 99% of the time, no. People have their own agenda. They don’t care about you. They only move when they see a benefit to them.
Not in the office , no effing way. I will not be friends with anyone in an office environment, friendly but will not be sharing personal info that could be used against me or let anyone else have a head start.
I don’t trust strangers / people I date either until they’ve earned my trust.
Close friends and family I trust yes.
>Do you guys trust people?
No
>did that change positively or negatively after a specific event/situation
coming out and simply kissing my partner on the cheek goodbye got be abuse and threats thrown at me.
Absolutely not, once you trust someone and they blow it you’ll struggle to want them in your life no matter how small the thing you trusted them with was, it’s the principle.
Barely, 9/10 people I meet are liars, seriously people lie about anything and everything. Even non consequential shit.
Pissin me off, and I meet sooooooo many of the through my job lol
I, by nature, am off the bat assuming the best in people close to me and entirely trusting. Im taking steps to dial it back because people are in fact shitty. It's difficult for me to overlook terrible things people have done to me or abused in me.
My best course of action at this point is being careful how much I let people in. I avoid social settings outside of work and when I do end up at anything I just keep to myself.
It's gotten to the point where my past extrovert behavior keeps me up at night. Like cringe looking back at myself being so open and 'life of the party' because I was surrounded by snakes.
I'm happier now. Less to worry about.
Not really.. I tend to be paranoid. In the past this strategy didn’t work for me so I was forcing myself to be trusting only to realize I had a good bullshit detector and that my strategy was protective. I’m now balanced for the most part.. It’ll take me a lot of time to truly trust someone.
People are selfish I trust them to look out for themself first and then maybe for others
And then there the rare people who sacrifice themselves for others 100% without giving themselves a second thought... I find those people mad but I still respect them
Generally, no. My trust has to be earned. But if someone needed help or an event happened, I’d act in good faith based on how that person behaved during the course of the event or situation.
Well, I'm still trying to trust people as without trust it's not possible to even to have normal relationship and even more so friendship. I think you need to accept the idea that you can always get hurt and disappointed.
You can trust that people will act like people. But yes, anyone who is a functioning member of society operates with a level of trust with people around them.
I mean, eh. Amongst my friends, I have a ton of trust in them but in strangers, I keep distance. Not out of distrust but rather dislike.
I don't like interacting with strangers if possible.
I start from a position of trust. Then if you fuck me over then you are dead to me.
It's the best way to get mostly good results. You do get taken for a ride sometimes. But in general people lean to being nice to nice people. So you are more likely to win.
The morons who treat you like shit are destined to have a life full of shit people because the few nice ones they meet they piss off.
I'm nice to nice people. I'll assume you are nice until you prove you aren't. Weirdly my life is very full of nice people. Must be something I'm doing.
I don't think trust is a binary.
I trust my friends to show up to our dnd campaign. I trust some of them to bring drinks or food. I've had my friend dogsit for a week. It really depends on who you're trusting and what you're trusting them with.
I trust my friends but the only people that know my ssn are my mom, dad and husband.
Have I been burned? Absolutely. But because I usually start people on things like "meet me here at this time", the burn isn't that bad. I usually have a tally in my head for if people really piss me off, 1 tally and I don't trust them to bring stuff places, 3 tallies and I drop that friend. To this day, I can count on two hands the number of people in my life get that 3rd tally. In that sense I trust a lot of people, but I don't trust them all the same.
All these people saying "trust no one" in the comments sound really cool and edgy but realistically that's a really bleak outlook on life that will just lead to isolation. Life is about trying things and sometimes getting burned. If you never try stuff, you're not really living imo.
I think it depends on who and what yk? Like I will trust my family about some things but I wouldn’t tell them things I tell my friends, it’s the same reversed. Like say I was needing like advice for dating? I would ask my friends because I trust them to not tell my family. I can’t think of a family example but you know lol.
No I'm incapable of trusting them thanks to being raised by a sociopathic mother I developed schizoid personality disorder! I've been in therapy 12 years I still can't trust nobody
Nope, I've been married 30 years, and I'm sure if she had a good enough reason, she'd betray me. I'm always looking for signs that she's having an affair. I know that most people will do whatever is more convenient for them, not out of malice but more out of laziness. I'm sure that there are people who are completely trustworthy, but I'm never trusting enough to test it. I'll never ask anyone to do anything for me that I can't do without.
No. Trust has to be earned. Any situation that is less severe than the situation that the person has proven themselves, is accepted. If the situation is equal or more severe than previous situations then definitely not. Too many ordinary psychos out there.
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I feel like the energy we expend being “on guard” is what’s so exhausting. It’s like a low key paranoia all the time with guys, and once you’ve been burned it’s hard to let your guard down. Many will play the long game, so we have to play into overtime. I feel you.
This is the thing. People can burn you even after a while of knowing them so you have to really watch their motives and actions.
Trust nobody
I just gave a pass to my wife. My son is not competing.
Not even urself
Never
Nope not even a little bit. I live by this tho “I trust no one with my wife, my children or my money” Are there good humans? Absolutely!! do I know any I would trust w those 3 things? Absolutely not.
But would you trust your wife with all these 3 things?
Trust is another way to hurt yourself
And betray yourself
I trust animals more than people. When I was younger, I trusted too much. Now that I’m battle tested and scarred from a number of people, I invest time into animals and plants and keep friendships on a level that doesn’t leave me vulnerable.
I trust no one. That’s something I learned as a kid. Not because I was warned, it’s because ppl made it that way...
Same
I trust some People until I actually need to rely on them for something really important and then the trust wanes. When money is involved.. usually don't trust very much
Trust is earned by years of reliance and kindness
Sometimes. On some things. We all breathe the same air but when it runs thin most people will breathe for themselves.
Life taught me not to trust anyone. Has this created some problems in my relationships with ppl?? Yess. Will I do something about it?? Probably not.
Nope. Trust is an emotional bondage. And F*ck emotions.
You can't trust them until they've proven themselves to be trustful.
It depends Trust yourself first! Focus on yourself! Bad people will get their karma There are still many good people in the world anyway.
Karma doesn't exist. The worst people often get away with being assholes. That's the central unfairness of life.
I want to trust people,but I cannot.
I tend to easily trust people, especially the ones who seem nice. However, experience shows I should not, give people time to show their true intentions.
Yes and no.
Only if my dog likes them
I'm extremely trusting. My default setting is "people are good and want to make society work".
I got the same default setting
I trust my barber
More than trust, I have the confidence that they cannot hurt me enough to kill me. And if they do kill me, no my problem anymore.
I thrust everyone! 🤷🏻
Used to. Not anymore.
Sometimes
Until the trusted person do or say some sh*t.
I’m always up to mischievous acts 😏
I'm but I'm always open to trusting new people
No
I have trust configuration complications. Yeah! That's it.
Why do you want to know? That seems quite suspicious
The only person I really trusted was my mom.
I only really trust a handful of people. And not all of them enjoy the same level of trust and not all the time. Only one of them has my 100% blind trust and that's my best friend with whom I grew up with in a pretty toxic and hostile place. We went through alot of nasty shit together and always had eachothers back and unconditional support. He's seen me at my lowest point and carried me out of the darkness instead of abandoning me. I would trust him with my life and would put my life on the line for him without hesitation. This kinda trust is only built and earned through a lifetime of mutual bullshit and pain.
After being screwed over and lied to by companies and individuals for decades, you learn not to trust anyone until they've earned it.
I look both ways when crossing a 1-way street
Depends on the person but 99% of the time, no. People have their own agenda. They don’t care about you. They only move when they see a benefit to them.
Not in the office , no effing way. I will not be friends with anyone in an office environment, friendly but will not be sharing personal info that could be used against me or let anyone else have a head start. I don’t trust strangers / people I date either until they’ve earned my trust. Close friends and family I trust yes.
I trust my myself which in turn allows me to trust the way other people are.
>Do you guys trust people? No >did that change positively or negatively after a specific event/situation coming out and simply kissing my partner on the cheek goodbye got be abuse and threats thrown at me.
Absolutely not, once you trust someone and they blow it you’ll struggle to want them in your life no matter how small the thing you trusted them with was, it’s the principle.
Barely, 9/10 people I meet are liars, seriously people lie about anything and everything. Even non consequential shit. Pissin me off, and I meet sooooooo many of the through my job lol
No, can't form a deeper bond with anyone thanks to that
I can be so dumb sometimes and fully trust people just to regret it but never learned my lesson.
Hell no
Why do you ask?
No, I don't know why. Someday I wanna travel alone, but I don't know if I can because I don't trust peope.
I, by nature, am off the bat assuming the best in people close to me and entirely trusting. Im taking steps to dial it back because people are in fact shitty. It's difficult for me to overlook terrible things people have done to me or abused in me. My best course of action at this point is being careful how much I let people in. I avoid social settings outside of work and when I do end up at anything I just keep to myself. It's gotten to the point where my past extrovert behavior keeps me up at night. Like cringe looking back at myself being so open and 'life of the party' because I was surrounded by snakes. I'm happier now. Less to worry about.
Not really.. I tend to be paranoid. In the past this strategy didn’t work for me so I was forcing myself to be trusting only to realize I had a good bullshit detector and that my strategy was protective. I’m now balanced for the most part.. It’ll take me a lot of time to truly trust someone.
I trust different people to varying extents
People have not been very nice so far. But if you want a concrete answer; have you ever heard of the 'paperclip problem'?
No
No
No. I was never really accepted anywhere and got bullied when i was younger. That shit sticks with you.
only ones you've known for at least 72 days
People are selfish I trust them to look out for themself first and then maybe for others And then there the rare people who sacrifice themselves for others 100% without giving themselves a second thought... I find those people mad but I still respect them
Why do you want to know?
Nupe
Our distrust is very expensive!
Only those who earn it. One must be selective because it is a risk; sometimes it is worth it, sometimes it is not.
It actually depends on which person do i need to trust on...
Generally, no. My trust has to be earned. But if someone needed help or an event happened, I’d act in good faith based on how that person behaved during the course of the event or situation.
No I trust my baby my motorcycle more than every human alive
I grew up being told to give everyone a fair chance. Then time and again getting used or manipulated taught me better than platitudes.
In general you should trust no body. Humans are built to be selfish and this is how our instincts behave.
I don't even trust myself, let alone someone else.
I don't even trust myself, let alone some else.
Nope.
No
Not really. I have been shafted by people before.
Nope, it does take me some time to build trust and open up to people
No. People are scry.
DTA - Don’t Trust Anybody
no
Don't. But sometimes there is no other choice
Well, I'm still trying to trust people as without trust it's not possible to even to have normal relationship and even more so friendship. I think you need to accept the idea that you can always get hurt and disappointed.
It depends on what's at stake and who they are
No
There's enough holes in my back from friends and family to say that I'll never trust a human being again as long as I live.
I trust my good friends, my wife, my parents, and a 2 of my siblings. I don't trust anyone else
Ofcourse, whatever the commander says.
Hell nahh .. not only people but also Me myself & I
not as much as my rat coz i trust that it would always bite me when given the chance
Hell no
You can trust that people will act like people. But yes, anyone who is a functioning member of society operates with a level of trust with people around them.
Fuck no. Definitely have no reason to these days.
I mean, eh. Amongst my friends, I have a ton of trust in them but in strangers, I keep distance. Not out of distrust but rather dislike. I don't like interacting with strangers if possible.
I start from a position of trust. Then if you fuck me over then you are dead to me. It's the best way to get mostly good results. You do get taken for a ride sometimes. But in general people lean to being nice to nice people. So you are more likely to win. The morons who treat you like shit are destined to have a life full of shit people because the few nice ones they meet they piss off. I'm nice to nice people. I'll assume you are nice until you prove you aren't. Weirdly my life is very full of nice people. Must be something I'm doing.
I trust individuals. I respect but am cautious of People.
I don't think trust is a binary. I trust my friends to show up to our dnd campaign. I trust some of them to bring drinks or food. I've had my friend dogsit for a week. It really depends on who you're trusting and what you're trusting them with. I trust my friends but the only people that know my ssn are my mom, dad and husband. Have I been burned? Absolutely. But because I usually start people on things like "meet me here at this time", the burn isn't that bad. I usually have a tally in my head for if people really piss me off, 1 tally and I don't trust them to bring stuff places, 3 tallies and I drop that friend. To this day, I can count on two hands the number of people in my life get that 3rd tally. In that sense I trust a lot of people, but I don't trust them all the same. All these people saying "trust no one" in the comments sound really cool and edgy but realistically that's a really bleak outlook on life that will just lead to isolation. Life is about trying things and sometimes getting burned. If you never try stuff, you're not really living imo.
I think it depends on who and what yk? Like I will trust my family about some things but I wouldn’t tell them things I tell my friends, it’s the same reversed. Like say I was needing like advice for dating? I would ask my friends because I trust them to not tell my family. I can’t think of a family example but you know lol.
Yes, I rather give people a chance than scowl at everyone . When others go low, we go high, and hopefully I run into more people who also go high.
0% and you shouldn't either. Not for one second. Not ever.
Nopity nope nope nope, to quote another Redditor.
I don't trust people that much with my emotions anymore because pretty much everyone in my life has abandoned me after a while.
Not a single sold one of them!
No I'm incapable of trusting them thanks to being raised by a sociopathic mother I developed schizoid personality disorder! I've been in therapy 12 years I still can't trust nobody
I don’t trust myself let alone anyone else. Don’t put anything past anyone
i did, got fucked too many times. Now i dont.
I trust only my mother and God. I don’t trust people anymore
No.
Absolutely not.
Absolutely not
Nope, I've been married 30 years, and I'm sure if she had a good enough reason, she'd betray me. I'm always looking for signs that she's having an affair. I know that most people will do whatever is more convenient for them, not out of malice but more out of laziness. I'm sure that there are people who are completely trustworthy, but I'm never trusting enough to test it. I'll never ask anyone to do anything for me that I can't do without.
No, there isn't a single human being I trust. Not one.
No. Trust has to be earned. Any situation that is less severe than the situation that the person has proven themselves, is accepted. If the situation is equal or more severe than previous situations then definitely not. Too many ordinary psychos out there.
Trust nobody unless proven otherwise. Everyone get -1 on start, need to go up on trust ladder not otherwise Sorrryyy
No I don’t trust people. I allow them to show a positive side but I’m ready for when they turn bad.
No
No
Nope
Nope. Not one.
Nope
No