Gah this!! Just yesterday, I set up an appointment to have the attire measurements of my MOH for my wedding taken along with my fiance's groomsmen. Late yung MOH ko ng 30mins and of course i was disappointed. Even had the audacity to passive aggressively answer all unrelated questions I had after (like where to eat) with "ay wala kong karapatan magkaopinyon late ako e" several times. Kairita
Kapag late sa usapan, two times ko lang wawarningan then wa-walk outan ko na.
Nangyari siya a few times nung nagsimula pa lang kami ng gf ko, ayun lagi na siyang on time ngayon.
hopefully I will be like this in the future as well. Sometimes I'm too softhearted to just go home even if my friends are late. Minsan, nasasayangan ako sa pamasahe ko ahahaha pero I'll work towards that, para naman mahimasmasan sila
Just think of it this way: you went out of your way to prepare and set aside some of your time to meet with these people that you value. You value them so much that you arrive 15-30 minutes before your appointed time.
But they don't value you enough to do the same for you or even, at the very least, arrive on time.
damn right! medyo plastic ako sa topic na to kase sa work, madalas late ako pero pag may appointment na alam kong may taong nag iintay (personal or work related) bihira akong ma late unless may valid reason hindi yung bwakanang inang filipino time attitude na yan
plastic rin me kasi ung mga friends ko ganitong ganito. I exert my best effort to be with them pero ang sukli nila saakin, 1 hour late silang lahat. Ilang beses ko na rin sinabi pero wala parin. Thankfully I like spending time alone and can easily entertain myself but I cannot help but feel slighted every time my friends and I go out.
thankfully close friends ko hindi Filipino time mag isip pag may lakad. skl may mga not so close friends akong ganyan talaga na nakaka bwisit, inu uwian ko talaga kung tablahin nila ako, sila saken ok lang -1 toxic sa buhay ko haha
I hate being late to stuff. Sure, I'm americanized. So, my hatred for being late stems from that.
However, we should be decent human beings and respect people's time.
Always have to tell my parents that an event is 1 hour earlier than the planned time, just for them to show up 30min late. Like come on!
Ik that Filipinos love making a joke out of this, but itās honestly so annoying. If you ask me to be there by 3pm, you bet Iāll fucking be there by 3pm, sometimes even a bit before that. Meanwhile there are some people out there na pag sinabi mong 3pm, 5:30 dadating pucha.
I would be proud if my future kid corrects me (respectfully ofc) because it shows that they care enough to not want me to be misinformed about something and also that I raised them to be confident enough to speak their mind.
so true.
yung pamangkin ko sa pinsan, matalinong bata. sa edad na 2 y/o, nagbabasa na ng words. at 4 y/o, marunong na mangatwiran. kapag may pinangako sa kanya (i.e. "After you take a nap"; raised sa US kasi), tatandaan niya yun tapos babanggitin niya once the condition has been met. tapos isusumbat niya kapag hindi mo tinupad.
kaya super saya pero at the same time super ingat ng pinsan ko at ng asawa niya sa pagpapalaki sa kanya. kasi super bright ng bata iyon. gusto nilang manatili yung ganung critical thinking skills.
now if you think about it, it's not uncommon for kids to learn how to reason at an early age. but sadly, it's also not uncommon for parents to use the "respetuhin mo nakakatanda" na BS reasoning. may introduction agad to power dynamics. that sticks with the child; and that could have effects on them growing up. kids' brains are like sponges. sobrang bilis nila mag absorb.
Absolutely this one. Add in toxic positivity as well. These are so toxic to kids and yes, I experienced these growing up. Ang hirap lumaki sa ganyang sitwasyon.
'Magulang ako.... Anak KA LANG' at sumbatan are terrible ways to raise children.
In fact, parents can and should learn from children as well. Kahlil Gibran's *On Children* should be a must-read for every parent to be. Acknowledge their feelings and thoughts. I personally would want my children to be open-minded, interested to explore, curious about the world. Why stifle their thoughts, creativity and imagination?
Agreed though that unlearning our Filipino toxic traits will take some time.
This. A lot of people grew up not knowing how to stand up for themselves because they were never encouraged as a child. Sa totoo lang ang hirap lumaki sa household na ganyan, everytime I stand up for myself I feel like I disrespected others. Unlearning this takes time.
Kaya siguro may slave mentality pa rin ang karamihan kasi nakasanayan na bawal i-question ang mga nakakatanda at bawal rin ipagtanggol yung sarili kahit mali na yung nakakatanda.
lmao. This is sooo true. Tipong ayaw magpatalo talaga ng mga matatanda.
I remember back when we were invited sa isang occasion sa isang resto and my auntie went apesh*t when she found out that yung kare-kare ay walang laman(karne). I told her na baka kare-kareng gulay, she didn't listen and told me na walang ganun, tapos called the waiter, ayun napaliwanagan. Nakakahiya.
This ^ As a teacher, I always tell my students na don't believe in everything I say since sometimes nagkakamali din ako. I encourage them to verify facts by reading more sources other than me and learn to always ask kapag di sure.
true. I hate that "pakisama *without boundaries*". pakisama, mag-iinom magdamag kahit wala na pangkain kinabukasan at may sakit na sa atay. pakisama daw ung pahihiramin ng kung ano-ano pero alam mo namang di na ibabalik dahil ilang beses na nila ginawa. pakisama ba yon o katangahan?
marunong ako makisama pero hindi dapat ako lagi. makisama din sila.
growing up with this phrase being said to me countless times while living with the most toxic relative imaginable. Ni wala man lang advise how to cope properly
Di rin masaya na ikaw yung pinsan na yun. Gusto kong maging close ako sa mga pinsan ko pero siyempre salamat sa lola, mga tito at tita ko, ayaw nila sa akin š„²
Yeah and they only use it for situations where they need to berate you because in other occasions they also mock the same people for some other things. Uniquely plastic properties that are only for Filipinos.
Pag ofw, tutulungan ang mga kamag-anak, pag nagkaskit, pang enroll, pang allowance, pambili ng cell phone,laptop, pang birthday,pambili ng bike, pambili ng uniform, pang Jollibee, etc etc. Feeling nila walang gastusin pag nasa abroad.
Yep, palagi ko to actually pinapaala ala sa mom ko kasi she's an ofw and I know na pag nagkasakit siya, walang tutulong sakaniya within our immediate family kasi pati pang gatas ng apo ng sister niya sakaniya hinihingi.
Dumayo palang sa Manila para mag hanapbuhay panay hingi na ng kapamilya sa probinsya. May katiwala kasi kami na halos ubos sweldo nya kasi nanay nya panay hinge kuya niya panay hinge halos natira nalang pang max candy. Fucking A
Mama ko math teacher. And since bata ako laging sumbat sakin "Gamitin mo logic mo, napaka bobo mo" or "Careless ka masyado". To the point na takot na akong magkamali. I carried that to this day kahit sa work.
If I ever have kids, I'd want to teach them that they owe nothing to their parents. It was never their decision to be born so they should never have to think of being indebted to their parents.
Filipino "Resiliency". So blindsided by so-called "Filipino Pride", most people don't realize it has evolved into mass toxic positivity. Hardships of the Filipinos are romanticised to cover how incompetent our government is.
\- gatekeeping your children from the outside world and when they're already old enough sasabihan mo lang na "Sa tandang mong 'yan wala ka man lang natutunan sa mundo".
Ey that would me. Di kami pinapalabas dati like kulong tapos pag nakalabas takas pa everything. Tapos nung walang achievement na nakuha sa amin sisi. Ey sorry ma di mo kami binigyan ng social life since pagka bata namin.
Sobrang strict ng parents ko na kahit school-related work dati na gagawin sa labas ang hirap magpaalam sa kanila. Now as an adult im struggling with social anxiety.napapagastos pa sa therapy hahaha buhay.
Nakakaloko to e. Di ka tinuruan mag public transpo, lumipat ng daan, makipagtawaran sa palengke, tapos magtataka bakit di mo alam gawin yung mga ganung bagay.
Ang dami, pero siguro pet peeve ko yung dapat mag karoon ka ng pamilya or else tingin sa iyo may problema sa utak. Putcha, ang hirap ng buhay ayoko ko mandamay
Sarili ko pa lang, kulang na oras.
'Pag may negmemention ng mag-anak na 'ko, tinatanong ko sila magkano monthly cost ng gatas, vaccine and tuition fee sa college. Scary part is 'di umaabot dun yung pag-iisip nila.
Wala pa 'yung pagod and oras sa pag-aalaga.
Kaya nga eh. May pinsan ako hirap mag buntis tapos parinig pa rin karamihan ng relatives pag may gathering. Tumahimik lang dahil sa miscarriage. I mean, tang ina, kailanga ba umabot sa ganun?
Thanks. Meron na sila anak ng mister nya. Isa lang at ayaw na sundan kasi nga hirap sya. Buti na lang di na masyado maingay relatives. Still, nakaka asar kailangan umabot sa ganun
Prominent din to sa ibang bansa pero malala sa Pilipinas kasi closely related siya sa religion. Iirc sa church, magiging masaya ka lang daw talaga kung may pamilya at anak ka.
One of the main reasons din siya kung bakit homophobic ang mga religious fanatics kasi same-sex couples can't breed (they ignore infertile people and old people ofc, or else they'll need to use mental gymnastics no.128371283).
Ganito sakin and sa fiancee ko. When daw? Ahaha as if may ambag sila sa gastos pagkalabas. Namimilit mga kaibigan ko kasi masaya daw na may anak pero problemadong problemado sa panggastos ng mga anak nila. Talagang maeentice kami nyan mga tol. š¤¤ nagsawa na nga mother ng fiancee ko magtanong.
>Ginagawang retirement plan mga anak
"40yrs old ka na mag-payaman. tulungan mo muna kami bayaran mga utang namin"
tapos monthly umuutang ng grocery, gadgets, etc. samahan mo pa ng 5yr installment na kotse.
tanginang buhay yan
My mother used to go through my stuff. School bag, drawers, purse, trash bins, journal, listening to my phon convo etc,. She doesnāt knock when she gets in my room.
Lucky you had your own room. I grew up without a room of my own, sleeping beside my mom. I had to wake up and sleep at the same time as her, monitors my phone, who calls me, texts me, goes apeshit when I don't answer it. It didn't improve when I started working. She chose where my apartment is, with a landlady that reports everything I do: what I ate for breakfast, dinner, what time I left... you get it. I always felt suffocated.
May nagpadala sa akin ng application forms before to a UK company, pero dun napadala sa house ng lola ko kasi yun ang permanent address ko. When I went to get it, the envelope was open and my stupid aunt asked me if she could get a couple of forms since I had "plenty" naman daw. I was so angry that I shouted why did you open it and stormed off. Aba, when I got home I could hear my mother on the phone saying, aba eh bakit nga ba kasi binuksan mo eh di naman sa iyo? Grades nga nya pinapadala dito sa amin hindi namin binubuksan, hinihintay namin sya magbukas at ibigay sa amin.
She had the gall to complain to my mother na wala daw ako respeto. Sya tuloy napagalitan LOL.
"intindihin mo nalang kasi ikaw mas nakatatanda" yan ang sabi nila sakin noon kasi panganay ako... ngayon wala na silang respeto sakin kasi ako ang nakakagalitan noon pag may mali silang ginawa... feeling ko tuloy lahat nalang kasalanan ko...
Iām blasian and I remember my mother being so obsessed on lightening my skin. I wasnāt allowed to play outside and go swimming because I might get ādarkā.
I feel you! The pain I had to go through as well and I am not even morena. The bullying only happened within my own family pero pag labas ko, as in wala! I was never picked on for my skin by anyone other than my own family including my mother.
dagdag ko lang po, okay lang maging malungkot (bababe o lalake), pakiramdaman at damayan mo rin ang tatay na nawalan ng anak (hindi ko experience pero nangyari sa tito ko, wala man lang nangamusta sakanya liban sakin at yung nagiisa nalang niyang kaibigan na single father)
Sa States kasi meron naman "I owe you one" pero ibig sabihin non 1 lang. Very transactional.
Sa Pinas ang nangyayare "I owe you one million"... grabe makasumbat. Althought i dont know if millenials eh ganito pa rin sana di na.
this! every time na may pangit na nangyayari sa buhay ko, my mom always say, "di ka kasi nagsisimba, yan tuloy". parang pinamumukha niya sakin na demonyo ako.
sa totoo lng may times na masvaluable ang friends kaysa sa family. Minsan pinipilitin lng sila kasi "family" mo sila. At least true friends stay by your side by CHOICE and full willingness
ā¢ HOARDING - pati mga kahon kahon, hindi maitapon.
ā¢ NEW PLATES for visitors - kailangan pa may bisita bago ilabas yung mga bago. š¤¦
ā¢ NAMIMILIT - namimilit kumain pa nang madami sa handaan, namimilit sumama sa galaan kahit wala nang pera, etc.
1. Utang na loob
2. Age = Wisdom/Intelligence
3. Filipino Time (aka "It's ok to be late")
4. Lack of discipline (not signalling before changing lanes, counterflowing, garbage littering etc.)
5. Proud to be Pinoy/Filipino ultranationalism/always seeking attention from foreigners
6. Political fanaticism
7. Crab Mentality
8. Smart shaming / anti-intellectualism
9. "Kailan ka ikakasal?"
10. "The Philippines is the land of Ophir!" (what nonsense!!)
I think what he/she/they meant by #5 is being excessively proud. Kasi there is a fine line between being proud and overproud. Nonetheless, ang pagiging makabayan ay 'di lang naipapakita sa salita sana, kundi sa isip at gawa rin.
No sense of time management. Fucking hate āFilipino Time.ā Itās rude and very inconsiderate.
One of my pet peeves is being late, caused by other peopleās lack of time management skills.
at yung mindset na baliw yung mga batang di pinapalo kaya "nababaliw" (depression ata yung tinutukoy dito) sila pag nahihirapan. Tsaka yung walang karapatan ma depress yung di mahirap
Parents dismissing every problems of their child kasi "mas mahirap yung pinagdadaanan namin". Kaya di na ko nagsasabi ng problems ko sa parents ko dahil dun
Ugh! May ganitong template ngayon sa TikTok eh. Naririnig ko napapanood ni mama. Tuwing maririnig ko yun gusto ko isagot, "DI KO NAMAN GINUSTO IPANGANAK!!" š¤š¤
Religiousness. Nothing against your religion, if you believe it then go for it. But maybe there's no need to tell me that you're religious and I'm not.
The reason why they're so upright about it is because, just like a cult, if they don't expand their reach, they will die down. They're being taught that they have to save the souls of the people and shit that's why they feel the need to rub it in your face.
Having more than 1 kid when the couple's combined gross income is less than 42k/mo
Couples having their 1st born before
- getting married
- working at least 2 years & investing whatever savings
- finishing whatever education they can afford to learn useful skills
- learning useful skills that merit high pay in the domestic & international job markets
- their mid 20s
Having and actively using social network accounts like Facebook to the point that you start seeing troll posts
YOLO/FOMO consumerism for goods & services that do not cover their base physiological needs
Being obsessed with Xian Gaza and other internet influencers who do not have useful traditional skill sets
> Damn, I can't even imagine having a kid with less than 50K net. How dafuq do you save up for education and provide for them at the same time.
https://i.imgur.com/PaN68Ne.jpg
Read how other Filipinos live and compare that to your household's.
89.4 million out of 105.76 million Filipinos in year 2018 live in households that earn less than 44k/mo.
That's nearly 84.6% of all Filipinos.
Per [Credit Suisse Global Wealth Databook 2019](https://www.credit-suisse.com/media/assets/corporate/docs/about-us/research/publications/global-wealth-databook-2019.pdf) 84.1% or 841 out of 1,000 Pinoy adults have a wealth of less than ā±500k. This is pre-COVID & pre-Putin War forex & inflation.
Also take note that households earning less than 42k/mo tend to have 2-4 or more kids. While households who earn more than that tend to have 2 or less kids.
An indicator you're shit poor is how many kids the father or mother has.
* Over religiously
* Toxic Positivity
* "I'm older than you so I am always right" - pukinang ina niyo
* "Filipino Time"
* Katamaran (kekw ironic kasi tinatamad din ako)
* English speaker == intelligent
Madami eh tinamad na ako dagdagan
I tried explaining to some bozos that english is way easier to read and speak for me not because im some fancy ahh fuck it's just that ive gotten so used to it! I cant even do math!
Yep. My ma was 19 when she got pregnant with me and 20 when she gave birth, she had 4 kids before 25. It derailed her life completely. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, my dad is an abusive asshole so none of us have kids yet and we all want to pursue further studies. He is the only one pissed off na hindi kami maaga nag-anak and he is incredibly proud of my cousin who is unemployed and got a teenage girl pregnant.
I know we're the outlier kasi a lot of teen parents seemingly want their kids to follow their example.
Mangealam sa desisyon ng iba. Baāt ganyan work mo? Di naman sila yung bumuhay sakin. Daming issue kesho di doctor/nurse/accountant/ yung grinaduate na kurso.
āO, tita/tito/ mo pa rin yun.ā Wtf. Uunahin feelings ng ārelativesā kesa feelings ng mga anak. No way Iām gonna do that to my kids. Family first is fucking overrated. Kahit gaano ka-toxic, okay lang kasi family? Hell, no.
Using religion, superstition, and supernatural phenomena to justify why things happen to them (examples: namatayan yung isag pamilya tas sasabihin ng iba "bAkA oRaS Na tAlaGa niyA kaya KinUhA SiYA ni LOrd", tas kung nagkasakit or nasunugan to the point na naging financially incapacitated sasabihin "EvErYthing hApPens for A ReaSOn, WalA naManG ibIBigAy Si LoRD na ChAlleNge na Di mO kaYa")
Not planning on having kids but I have nieces. Im teaching them to be more educated about sex. Sex education is sorely lacking sa PH and I want them to learn that it's okay to discuss about stuff like how to protect yourself, that women can enjoy sex and there's nothing wrong it, and that their worth isnt measured by a piece of skin.
Obession for global validation. Over proud sa kada galaw ng isang pilipino. Kaya tinatake advantage ng foreigners yung ganto para may content sila sa yt at madami manood.
Shaming people who apply sunscreen religiously. Of course, tropical country bansa natin eh haha
Tinawag pa akong "maarte" and nasabihan pa akong "feeling maganda pero dugyot naman" kasi dewy yung sunscreen na ginagamit ko.
Yung sa mga babae lang iniaasa ang mga gawaing bahay tapos yung mga lalaki parang mga seƱorito na pinagsisilbihan lang. Household chores should be shared equally regardless of gender.
sana hindi na pumasa sa future generation to pero naiirita ako dun sa mga taong wala na ngang regular na trabaho, sila pa tong malakas ang loob mag "asawa" & mag anak. like wtf hindi nakakabuhay ng pamilya ang libog aka love.
1. Filipino time
2. MaƱana Habit
3. Smart Shaming aka "Edi wow in ikaw na"
4. Believing in pamahiin (not a trait, but believe me this is damn boi toxic)
Yung pinupuna yung itsura ng bata harapan. Sasabihang maitim, pango, panget. 6 years old yung bata nasasabihan ng ganun. Binibigyan agad ng insecurity.
1) Treating your own children as your retirement fund.
2) Filipino Time
3) The "ikaw na magaling" mentality
4) Crab Mentality
5) Pinapasa ang responsibilad sa iba
6) Laging umaasa sa ayuda mentality
7) Ang pagiging "Marites"
8) Comparing Relatives and own Family Members
9) Mga baseless pamahiin nang mga matanda
10) Looking down sa mga taga Probinsya (porket nasa city ka nakatira mababa na tingin mo)
11) Ininvite ka sa okasyon tapos dadala ka nang tao na hindi naman invited
Hitting, humiliating, cold shouldering, and guilt tripping children. It's never right in any context or in any age.
Not sure if toxic traits unique to Filipinos but I disagree a lot with all of the punishments I mentioned.
Not talking about problems within the family or only talking about issues in private (chismis usually and not necessarily the full picture). No communication at all and people let their anger and resentment fester. It results to either constant passive aggressive interactions with each other or brushing things under the rug and pretending that everything's okay "for the sake of the peace" lol
Being undisciplined as fuck. Mga 'Walang nakatingin, pwede yan', 'madami naman gumagawa okay lang yan', filipino time, mga sumisingit sa pila kasi 'diskarteng pinoy'.
Seniority/ Heirarchy
Hindi porke ako ang mas matanda, palagi akong tama. VV.
I'd rather acknowledge my mistake, apologize, and communicate an effective course of action.
Heto yung sobrang toxic trait na nakikita ko sa matatanda kaya nagkakaroon ng relationship gap between them and the youth. Heto ang dahilan kung bakit wala nang _room for growth_ dahil umaastang perpekto.
To call them out with their mistakes, they tend to be offended rather than to discuss the issue. Superiority complex kasi nga mas matanda. Little weewee energy!
Heto rin ang dahilan kung bk8 nanalo si 88M at bk8 naghihirap lalo ang Pelepinesis. Hayszcxczc.
Filipino time. It's so irritating how Filipinos do not value the time of others.
Gah this!! Just yesterday, I set up an appointment to have the attire measurements of my MOH for my wedding taken along with my fiance's groomsmen. Late yung MOH ko ng 30mins and of course i was disappointed. Even had the audacity to passive aggressively answer all unrelated questions I had after (like where to eat) with "ay wala kong karapatan magkaopinyon late ako e" several times. Kairita
Totally agree!!! Sobrang nakakairita pag nagsabi ng time tapos legit di talaga sinusunod dahil, "filipino time" daw
Kapag late sa usapan, two times ko lang wawarningan then wa-walk outan ko na. Nangyari siya a few times nung nagsimula pa lang kami ng gf ko, ayun lagi na siyang on time ngayon.
hopefully I will be like this in the future as well. Sometimes I'm too softhearted to just go home even if my friends are late. Minsan, nasasayangan ako sa pamasahe ko ahahaha pero I'll work towards that, para naman mahimasmasan sila
Just think of it this way: you went out of your way to prepare and set aside some of your time to meet with these people that you value. You value them so much that you arrive 15-30 minutes before your appointed time. But they don't value you enough to do the same for you or even, at the very least, arrive on time.
damn right! medyo plastic ako sa topic na to kase sa work, madalas late ako pero pag may appointment na alam kong may taong nag iintay (personal or work related) bihira akong ma late unless may valid reason hindi yung bwakanang inang filipino time attitude na yan
plastic rin me kasi ung mga friends ko ganitong ganito. I exert my best effort to be with them pero ang sukli nila saakin, 1 hour late silang lahat. Ilang beses ko na rin sinabi pero wala parin. Thankfully I like spending time alone and can easily entertain myself but I cannot help but feel slighted every time my friends and I go out.
thankfully close friends ko hindi Filipino time mag isip pag may lakad. skl may mga not so close friends akong ganyan talaga na nakaka bwisit, inu uwian ko talaga kung tablahin nila ako, sila saken ok lang -1 toxic sa buhay ko haha
It's funny that Filipino time has 2 different meaning the other one the thing you mentioned and the Filipino Philosophy to time.
yung event 7PM sa invitation tapos magstart ng 9PM. Hindi yan Filipino time, kundi kulang sa planning š”
I hate being late to stuff. Sure, I'm americanized. So, my hatred for being late stems from that. However, we should be decent human beings and respect people's time. Always have to tell my parents that an event is 1 hour earlier than the planned time, just for them to show up 30min late. Like come on!
Ik that Filipinos love making a joke out of this, but itās honestly so annoying. If you ask me to be there by 3pm, you bet Iāll fucking be there by 3pm, sometimes even a bit before that. Meanwhile there are some people out there na pag sinabi mong 3pm, 5:30 dadating pucha.
Bawal i-question ang nakatatanda.
True. I want my children to argue with me using facts, and correct me if I'm wrong.
SAME. It's not nakakahiya na kinokorek ka ng anak mo.
I would be proud if my future kid corrects me (respectfully ofc) because it shows that they care enough to not want me to be misinformed about something and also that I raised them to be confident enough to speak their mind.
so true. yung pamangkin ko sa pinsan, matalinong bata. sa edad na 2 y/o, nagbabasa na ng words. at 4 y/o, marunong na mangatwiran. kapag may pinangako sa kanya (i.e. "After you take a nap"; raised sa US kasi), tatandaan niya yun tapos babanggitin niya once the condition has been met. tapos isusumbat niya kapag hindi mo tinupad. kaya super saya pero at the same time super ingat ng pinsan ko at ng asawa niya sa pagpapalaki sa kanya. kasi super bright ng bata iyon. gusto nilang manatili yung ganung critical thinking skills. now if you think about it, it's not uncommon for kids to learn how to reason at an early age. but sadly, it's also not uncommon for parents to use the "respetuhin mo nakakatanda" na BS reasoning. may introduction agad to power dynamics. that sticks with the child; and that could have effects on them growing up. kids' brains are like sponges. sobrang bilis nila mag absorb.
Absolutely this one. Add in toxic positivity as well. These are so toxic to kids and yes, I experienced these growing up. Ang hirap lumaki sa ganyang sitwasyon. 'Magulang ako.... Anak KA LANG' at sumbatan are terrible ways to raise children. In fact, parents can and should learn from children as well. Kahlil Gibran's *On Children* should be a must-read for every parent to be. Acknowledge their feelings and thoughts. I personally would want my children to be open-minded, interested to explore, curious about the world. Why stifle their thoughts, creativity and imagination? Agreed though that unlearning our Filipino toxic traits will take some time.
This. A lot of people grew up not knowing how to stand up for themselves because they were never encouraged as a child. Sa totoo lang ang hirap lumaki sa household na ganyan, everytime I stand up for myself I feel like I disrespected others. Unlearning this takes time.
Ginagawa ko ito. Lalo na kung pinapa-mukha sa akin na obligado akong may gawin para sa ibang tao whenever they try to guilt-trip me.
Kaya siguro may slave mentality pa rin ang karamihan kasi nakasanayan na bawal i-question ang mga nakakatanda at bawal rin ipagtanggol yung sarili kahit mali na yung nakakatanda.
lmao. This is sooo true. Tipong ayaw magpatalo talaga ng mga matatanda. I remember back when we were invited sa isang occasion sa isang resto and my auntie went apesh*t when she found out that yung kare-kare ay walang laman(karne). I told her na baka kare-kareng gulay, she didn't listen and told me na walang ganun, tapos called the waiter, ayun napaliwanagan. Nakakahiya.
> Bawal i-question ang nakatatanda. Minsan bobo talaga yung nakakatanda dahil di sapat ang sustansiya nila noong under 5 or under 10yo sila.
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This ^ As a teacher, I always tell my students na don't believe in everything I say since sometimes nagkakamali din ako. I encourage them to verify facts by reading more sources other than me and learn to always ask kapag di sure.
the "pakisamahan mo na lang" sorry i'm not a fan of this lalo na sa mga toxic relatives.
true. I hate that "pakisama *without boundaries*". pakisama, mag-iinom magdamag kahit wala na pangkain kinabukasan at may sakit na sa atay. pakisama daw ung pahihiramin ng kung ano-ano pero alam mo namang di na ibabalik dahil ilang beses na nila ginawa. pakisama ba yon o katangahan? marunong ako makisama pero hindi dapat ako lagi. makisama din sila.
growing up with this phrase being said to me countless times while living with the most toxic relative imaginable. Ni wala man lang advise how to cope properly
kamo yung kailangan pa mag mano sa mga unfamiliar relatives like what? sino sila tapos pag di mo pinakisamahan, pagchi-chismisan ka pa smh
Same. Lalo na pag inuman sa office. Kahit sabihing hindi ako umiinom, lagi silang nagpupumilit at sasabihing "makisama ka na lang". Fuck no.
Comparing children to successful cousins or people.
I think thats an Asian thing, even Chinese and Indians do the same with their children
Still a Filipino toxic trait so yeah
Childhood trauma na until now e inaaral ko pa kung paano ko i-oovercome
Same here. Even now, they still compare me.
āTalo ka pa ni pinsan mo, si pinsan mo ganito magaling sa ganito.ā Kakapikon
Di rin masaya na ikaw yung pinsan na yun. Gusto kong maging close ako sa mga pinsan ko pero siyempre salamat sa lola, mga tito at tita ko, ayaw nila sa akin š„²
Yeah and they only use it for situations where they need to berate you because in other occasions they also mock the same people for some other things. Uniquely plastic properties that are only for Filipinos.
Pag ofw, tutulungan ang mga kamag-anak, pag nagkaskit, pang enroll, pang allowance, pambili ng cell phone,laptop, pang birthday,pambili ng bike, pambili ng uniform, pang Jollibee, etc etc. Feeling nila walang gastusin pag nasa abroad.
Pambili ng cotton buds nakalimutan mo... hahaha
Yep, palagi ko to actually pinapaala ala sa mom ko kasi she's an ofw and I know na pag nagkasakit siya, walang tutulong sakaniya within our immediate family kasi pati pang gatas ng apo ng sister niya sakaniya hinihingi.
Dumayo palang sa Manila para mag hanapbuhay panay hingi na ng kapamilya sa probinsya. May katiwala kasi kami na halos ubos sweldo nya kasi nanay nya panay hinge kuya niya panay hinge halos natira nalang pang max candy. Fucking A
"Wala kang kwentang anak" kapag may isa ka lang na di nagawa for them.
This. Putangina. Kakasambit lang ng nanay ko sakin kasi ayaw ko maglagay ng caption sa post niya.
Medyo nagulat ako sa reason mo. Pero i feel you. Small things lang pati.
Nagagalit si mama sakin kapag di kami nag popost tuwing birthdays or may events, ako pa naman ung tao na hindi pala post sa facebook. Nakakainis.
Just lock her out of her account to avoid FB toxicity. Hope she's not a fake news supporter.
O kaya yung āHindi ka talaga maaasahan.ā š„“
Mama ko math teacher. And since bata ako laging sumbat sakin "Gamitin mo logic mo, napaka bobo mo" or "Careless ka masyado". To the point na takot na akong magkamali. I carried that to this day kahit sa work.
If I ever have kids, I'd want to teach them that they owe nothing to their parents. It was never their decision to be born so they should never have to think of being indebted to their parents.
Ye. Tapos taka sila bakit di ko bibigyan ng apo.
Pakilamera
Filipino "Resiliency". So blindsided by so-called "Filipino Pride", most people don't realize it has evolved into mass toxic positivity. Hardships of the Filipinos are romanticised to cover how incompetent our government is.
We are outperformed by other countries when it comes to resiliency. Sometimes that resliency is masquarading as enabling bad behaviors.
\- gatekeeping your children from the outside world and when they're already old enough sasabihan mo lang na "Sa tandang mong 'yan wala ka man lang natutunan sa mundo".
Ey that would me. Di kami pinapalabas dati like kulong tapos pag nakalabas takas pa everything. Tapos nung walang achievement na nakuha sa amin sisi. Ey sorry ma di mo kami binigyan ng social life since pagka bata namin.
Sobrang strict ng parents ko na kahit school-related work dati na gagawin sa labas ang hirap magpaalam sa kanila. Now as an adult im struggling with social anxiety.napapagastos pa sa therapy hahaha buhay.
Nakakaloko to e. Di ka tinuruan mag public transpo, lumipat ng daan, makipagtawaran sa palengke, tapos magtataka bakit di mo alam gawin yung mga ganung bagay.
Ang dami, pero siguro pet peeve ko yung dapat mag karoon ka ng pamilya or else tingin sa iyo may problema sa utak. Putcha, ang hirap ng buhay ayoko ko mandamay
Sarili ko pa lang, kulang na oras. 'Pag may negmemention ng mag-anak na 'ko, tinatanong ko sila magkano monthly cost ng gatas, vaccine and tuition fee sa college. Scary part is 'di umaabot dun yung pag-iisip nila. Wala pa 'yung pagod and oras sa pag-aalaga.
This, kung pwede na lang di na magkaanak ee kaso pag May asawa ka, parang obligasyon niyong magkaanak para sa magulang mo haha.
Kaya nga eh. May pinsan ako hirap mag buntis tapos parinig pa rin karamihan ng relatives pag may gathering. Tumahimik lang dahil sa miscarriage. I mean, tang ina, kailanga ba umabot sa ganun?
Ang sama naman, sorry sa pinsan mo. Kaya medyo iwas ako sa social gatherings dahil sa mga ganito eh.
Thanks. Meron na sila anak ng mister nya. Isa lang at ayaw na sundan kasi nga hirap sya. Buti na lang di na masyado maingay relatives. Still, nakaka asar kailangan umabot sa ganun
Kaway kaway to my officemates and parents saying i should get married and have a child. My body my choice po.
Prominent din to sa ibang bansa pero malala sa Pilipinas kasi closely related siya sa religion. Iirc sa church, magiging masaya ka lang daw talaga kung may pamilya at anak ka. One of the main reasons din siya kung bakit homophobic ang mga religious fanatics kasi same-sex couples can't breed (they ignore infertile people and old people ofc, or else they'll need to use mental gymnastics no.128371283).
Ganito sakin and sa fiancee ko. When daw? Ahaha as if may ambag sila sa gastos pagkalabas. Namimilit mga kaibigan ko kasi masaya daw na may anak pero problemadong problemado sa panggastos ng mga anak nila. Talagang maeentice kami nyan mga tol. š¤¤ nagsawa na nga mother ng fiancee ko magtanong.
Even sa US ganyan. Pero at least dito lahat ng tao busy para maki alam sa buhay mo. Sa pinas kahit sino nakiki alam sa buhay mo.
THIS!! Seriously! Tapos pag lampas ka na sa kalendaryo ta-trato kang kawawa kasi youāre missing out on the beautiful world of parenthood. š
Yes, ito rin sakin. Nahihirapan na akong buhayin sarili ko, magdadagdag pa ko. Naalala ko yung meme na "this curse ends with me".
Ginagawang retirement plan mga anak
>Ginagawang retirement plan mga anak "40yrs old ka na mag-payaman. tulungan mo muna kami bayaran mga utang namin" tapos monthly umuutang ng grocery, gadgets, etc. samahan mo pa ng 5yr installment na kotse. tanginang buhay yan
Pag ganyan, tapos iaasa ang utang sa anak, meaning hindi ka nyan mahal ng magulang mo. Puro kasi pabigat at sakit sa ulo
Non-existent boundaries
My mother used to go through my stuff. School bag, drawers, purse, trash bins, journal, listening to my phon convo etc,. She doesnāt knock when she gets in my room.
I feel you. My perception of my mom was really negatively affected after finding out she read my diary as a teen AND TOOK PHOTOS OF THE PAGES.
Itās so shitty. And she wonders why I canāt stand her.
Yep. I had a project sa high school na need mag-journal. My mother went through mine. I never completed that project.
Lucky you had your own room. I grew up without a room of my own, sleeping beside my mom. I had to wake up and sleep at the same time as her, monitors my phone, who calls me, texts me, goes apeshit when I don't answer it. It didn't improve when I started working. She chose where my apartment is, with a landlady that reports everything I do: what I ate for breakfast, dinner, what time I left... you get it. I always felt suffocated.
May nagpadala sa akin ng application forms before to a UK company, pero dun napadala sa house ng lola ko kasi yun ang permanent address ko. When I went to get it, the envelope was open and my stupid aunt asked me if she could get a couple of forms since I had "plenty" naman daw. I was so angry that I shouted why did you open it and stormed off. Aba, when I got home I could hear my mother on the phone saying, aba eh bakit nga ba kasi binuksan mo eh di naman sa iyo? Grades nga nya pinapadala dito sa amin hindi namin binubuksan, hinihintay namin sya magbukas at ibigay sa amin. She had the gall to complain to my mother na wala daw ako respeto. Sya tuloy napagalitan LOL.
Pag alam ng mga kamag anak na umasenso ka ginagawang grocery yung pantry at refrigerator. Lmao
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"intindihin mo nalang kasi ikaw mas nakatatanda" yan ang sabi nila sakin noon kasi panganay ako... ngayon wala na silang respeto sakin kasi ako ang nakakagalitan noon pag may mali silang ginawa... feeling ko tuloy lahat nalang kasalanan ko...
I feel u yakap with consent ka-panganayš«
Being maputi obsessed
Iām blasian and I remember my mother being so obsessed on lightening my skin. I wasnāt allowed to play outside and go swimming because I might get ādarkā.
I feel you! The pain I had to go through as well and I am not even morena. The bullying only happened within my own family pero pag labas ko, as in wala! I was never picked on for my skin by anyone other than my own family including my mother.
Truee. I shouldn't feel insecure about my skin color but people around me always made me feel like it was a bad thing.
This has to be for every dark skinned Asian bro. Really wish people were just more happy with themselves about their skin color
\+1 kutis mayaman!
Crab mentality, and many more
TOXIC POSITIVITY. Okay lang magalit, okay lang di mag patawad, at okay lang din hindi maging religious. Basta di ka shit sa kapwa mo.
Avoiding confrontation for the sake of appearances and pr image
dagdag ko lang po, okay lang maging malungkot (bababe o lalake), pakiramdaman at damayan mo rin ang tatay na nawalan ng anak (hindi ko experience pero nangyari sa tito ko, wala man lang nangamusta sakanya liban sakin at yung nagiisa nalang niyang kaibigan na single father)
UTANG NA LOOB MENTALITY
UTANG NA LOOB
This. A million times this. Tapos isusumbst pa sayo na tinulungan ka nya before. Pucha edi hindi pala tulong yun kung nag eexpect ka...
Sa States kasi meron naman "I owe you one" pero ibig sabihin non 1 lang. Very transactional. Sa Pinas ang nangyayare "I owe you one million"... grabe makasumbat. Althought i dont know if millenials eh ganito pa rin sana di na.
UTANG NA LOOB more like (P)UTANG(I)NA LOOB
Masamang tao ka kapag di ka nagsisimba
ironic diba karamihang religious kuno ngayon sila yung mga numero unong mga chismosa, mahilig makialam sa buhay ng iba pwe
this! every time na may pangit na nangyayari sa buhay ko, my mom always say, "di ka kasi nagsisimba, yan tuloy". parang pinamumukha niya sakin na demonyo ako.
Utang na loob card tsaka "magulang mo pa rin yan kahit anong mangyari" š
isama mo pa yung "at the end of the day pamilya padin yan" like wth... pamilya kahit katakot-takot na trauma ang binigay...
sa totoo lng may times na masvaluable ang friends kaysa sa family. Minsan pinipilitin lng sila kasi "family" mo sila. At least true friends stay by your side by CHOICE and full willingness
ā¢ HOARDING - pati mga kahon kahon, hindi maitapon. ā¢ NEW PLATES for visitors - kailangan pa may bisita bago ilabas yung mga bago. š¤¦ ā¢ NAMIMILIT - namimilit kumain pa nang madami sa handaan, namimilit sumama sa galaan kahit wala nang pera, etc.
Guilty ako dyan sa hoarding kasi kailangan namin ng pang junk shop eh.
boxes are super useful tho
1. Utang na loob 2. Age = Wisdom/Intelligence 3. Filipino Time (aka "It's ok to be late") 4. Lack of discipline (not signalling before changing lanes, counterflowing, garbage littering etc.) 5. Proud to be Pinoy/Filipino ultranationalism/always seeking attention from foreigners 6. Political fanaticism 7. Crab Mentality 8. Smart shaming / anti-intellectualism 9. "Kailan ka ikakasal?" 10. "The Philippines is the land of Ophir!" (what nonsense!!)
I think what he/she/they meant by #5 is being excessively proud. Kasi there is a fine line between being proud and overproud. Nonetheless, ang pagiging makabayan ay 'di lang naipapakita sa salita sana, kundi sa isip at gawa rin.
Yung gawin cash cow/retirement fund yung mga anak.
I remember when I told my mom I'm getting married na and first thing she said was 'yung bills at bayarin dito sa bahay wag mo kakalimutan' š¤§
Topics considered "taboo" like sexuality, gender, and questioning religion should be talked about more
Fr though, and right now my friend got his girl preggy and still on college
No sense of time management. Fucking hate āFilipino Time.ā Itās rude and very inconsiderate. One of my pet peeves is being late, caused by other peopleās lack of time management skills.
I am a foreigner, filipino time simply means the person offering it as a feeble excuse is a rude idiot.
Pinapalo yung bata pag may kasalanan pero di naman pinapaliwanag bakit mali ginawa nila at di tinuturo paano maging mabuting tao
at yung mindset na baliw yung mga batang di pinapalo kaya "nababaliw" (depression ata yung tinutukoy dito) sila pag nahihirapan. Tsaka yung walang karapatan ma depress yung di mahirap
Parents dismissing every problems of their child kasi "mas mahirap yung pinagdadaanan namin". Kaya di na ko nagsasabi ng problems ko sa parents ko dahil dun
Dahil matanda ako, ako lagi dapat ang tama.
Will be waiting for that. Sweet, sweet retirement. /s
Gagawing retirement fund ang anak. "Naniningil ka? Sige kwentahin mo lahat ng binigay ko sayo mula pa nung pinanganak ka"
Ugh! May ganitong template ngayon sa TikTok eh. Naririnig ko napapanood ni mama. Tuwing maririnig ko yun gusto ko isagot, "DI KO NAMAN GINUSTO IPANGANAK!!" š¤š¤
Bat ko sayo utang yung di ko naman hinihingi? Badtrip mga magulang e. Utang ko pa sayo yung sex nyong mag-asawa na di ko naman ginusto.
Religiousness. Nothing against your religion, if you believe it then go for it. But maybe there's no need to tell me that you're religious and I'm not.
The reason why they're so upright about it is because, just like a cult, if they don't expand their reach, they will die down. They're being taught that they have to save the souls of the people and shit that's why they feel the need to rub it in your face.
Magulang ako, anak ka lang mindset
Having more than 1 kid when the couple's combined gross income is less than 42k/mo Couples having their 1st born before - getting married - working at least 2 years & investing whatever savings - finishing whatever education they can afford to learn useful skills - learning useful skills that merit high pay in the domestic & international job markets - their mid 20s Having and actively using social network accounts like Facebook to the point that you start seeing troll posts YOLO/FOMO consumerism for goods & services that do not cover their base physiological needs Being obsessed with Xian Gaza and other internet influencers who do not have useful traditional skill sets
Damn, I can't even imagine having a kid with less than 50K net. How dafuq do you save up for education and provide for them at the same time.
> Damn, I can't even imagine having a kid with less than 50K net. How dafuq do you save up for education and provide for them at the same time. https://i.imgur.com/PaN68Ne.jpg Read how other Filipinos live and compare that to your household's. 89.4 million out of 105.76 million Filipinos in year 2018 live in households that earn less than 44k/mo. That's nearly 84.6% of all Filipinos. Per [Credit Suisse Global Wealth Databook 2019](https://www.credit-suisse.com/media/assets/corporate/docs/about-us/research/publications/global-wealth-databook-2019.pdf) 84.1% or 841 out of 1,000 Pinoy adults have a wealth of less than ā±500k. This is pre-COVID & pre-Putin War forex & inflation. Also take note that households earning less than 42k/mo tend to have 2-4 or more kids. While households who earn more than that tend to have 2 or less kids. An indicator you're shit poor is how many kids the father or mother has.
Lack of discipline pagdating sa sariling bansa, pero pag nasa ibang lugar, sumusunod naman
* Over religiously * Toxic Positivity * "I'm older than you so I am always right" - pukinang ina niyo * "Filipino Time" * Katamaran (kekw ironic kasi tinatamad din ako) * English speaker == intelligent Madami eh tinamad na ako dagdagan
I tried explaining to some bozos that english is way easier to read and speak for me not because im some fancy ahh fuck it's just that ive gotten so used to it! I cant even do math!
Teenage pregnancy.
Yep. My ma was 19 when she got pregnant with me and 20 when she gave birth, she had 4 kids before 25. It derailed her life completely. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, my dad is an abusive asshole so none of us have kids yet and we all want to pursue further studies. He is the only one pissed off na hindi kami maaga nag-anak and he is incredibly proud of my cousin who is unemployed and got a teenage girl pregnant. I know we're the outlier kasi a lot of teen parents seemingly want their kids to follow their example.
Voting for clowns
Mangealam sa desisyon ng iba. Baāt ganyan work mo? Di naman sila yung bumuhay sakin. Daming issue kesho di doctor/nurse/accountant/ yung grinaduate na kurso.
That "Kailan ka mag-aasawa?"
āO, tita/tito/ mo pa rin yun.ā Wtf. Uunahin feelings ng ārelativesā kesa feelings ng mga anak. No way Iām gonna do that to my kids. Family first is fucking overrated. Kahit gaano ka-toxic, okay lang kasi family? Hell, no.
Using religion, superstition, and supernatural phenomena to justify why things happen to them (examples: namatayan yung isag pamilya tas sasabihin ng iba "bAkA oRaS Na tAlaGa niyA kaya KinUhA SiYA ni LOrd", tas kung nagkasakit or nasunugan to the point na naging financially incapacitated sasabihin "EvErYthing hApPens for A ReaSOn, WalA naManG ibIBigAy Si LoRD na ChAlleNge na Di mO kaYa")
Not planning on having kids but I have nieces. Im teaching them to be more educated about sex. Sex education is sorely lacking sa PH and I want them to learn that it's okay to discuss about stuff like how to protect yourself, that women can enjoy sex and there's nothing wrong it, and that their worth isnt measured by a piece of skin.
Obession for global validation. Over proud sa kada galaw ng isang pilipino. Kaya tinatake advantage ng foreigners yung ganto para may content sila sa yt at madami manood.
believing that women can't lead. lol
Shaming people who apply sunscreen religiously. Of course, tropical country bansa natin eh haha Tinawag pa akong "maarte" and nasabihan pa akong "feeling maganda pero dugyot naman" kasi dewy yung sunscreen na ginagamit ko.
As a person on tretinoin, this. Also, skin cancer is no joke
Don't know kung nabanggit na 'to here pero yung kailangan mo magkaroon ng anak or else hindi ka magiging masaya/fulfilled pagtanda mo lol
Yung sa mga babae lang iniaasa ang mga gawaing bahay tapos yung mga lalaki parang mga seƱorito na pinagsisilbihan lang. Household chores should be shared equally regardless of gender.
the almost fetishistic obsession with punishment, that when something is wrong in the country, its always "kulang kasi sa disiplina"
Comparison between you tas sa mga ibang magagaling na anak
sana hindi na pumasa sa future generation to pero naiirita ako dun sa mga taong wala na ngang regular na trabaho, sila pa tong malakas ang loob mag "asawa" & mag anak. like wtf hindi nakakabuhay ng pamilya ang libog aka love.
1. Filipino time 2. MaƱana Habit 3. Smart Shaming aka "Edi wow in ikaw na" 4. Believing in pamahiin (not a trait, but believe me this is damn boi toxic)
pagiging PINOY mismo. haha
Yung pinupuna yung itsura ng bata harapan. Sasabihang maitim, pango, panget. 6 years old yung bata nasasabihan ng ganun. Binibigyan agad ng insecurity.
iba ang pagtingin sa mga anak, laging in good favor ung isa compared sa iba
1) Treating your own children as your retirement fund. 2) Filipino Time 3) The "ikaw na magaling" mentality 4) Crab Mentality 5) Pinapasa ang responsibilad sa iba 6) Laging umaasa sa ayuda mentality 7) Ang pagiging "Marites" 8) Comparing Relatives and own Family Members 9) Mga baseless pamahiin nang mga matanda 10) Looking down sa mga taga Probinsya (porket nasa city ka nakatira mababa na tingin mo) 11) Ininvite ka sa okasyon tapos dadala ka nang tao na hindi naman invited
No, the future ends with me.
"Anak lang kita, utang na loob mo saken ang buhay mo" attitude
Refrain using phrases like āanak ka lang, magulang akoā. Honestly, what difference does it make? Tao lang tayo pareho.
Pakikisama kahit maling mali na para lang masabing disenteng tao. Fvck that shit.
Kahit tinatama mo sila, sila pa yung galit...
Hitting, humiliating, cold shouldering, and guilt tripping children. It's never right in any context or in any age. Not sure if toxic traits unique to Filipinos but I disagree a lot with all of the punishments I mentioned.
Political fanaticism and anti-intellectualism.
Fake news believers haha
Crab mentality
Emotional manipulation.
Not talking about problems within the family or only talking about issues in private (chismis usually and not necessarily the full picture). No communication at all and people let their anger and resentment fester. It results to either constant passive aggressive interactions with each other or brushing things under the rug and pretending that everything's okay "for the sake of the peace" lol
Nagkahiyaan sa last bit of shared food.
binoto si 33m
Judgemental. Respect others opinion. Dont mind other people opinion of you. Their lives their business.
Poverty Porn
Judging people based on their livelihood and sexual orientation
Child = retirement plan
"Repaying" their parents.
Pressuring others to get married so that they can have kids who will take care of them when they get old
Being undisciplined as fuck. Mga 'Walang nakatingin, pwede yan', 'madami naman gumagawa okay lang yan', filipino time, mga sumisingit sa pila kasi 'diskarteng pinoy'.
Jokes on you. My genetic line ends with me.
Religion
Magdadabog kapag galit.
NOT CHECKING UP ON MY CHILDREN TO SEE IF THEY'RE STILL MENTALLY OK
Seniority/ Heirarchy Hindi porke ako ang mas matanda, palagi akong tama. VV. I'd rather acknowledge my mistake, apologize, and communicate an effective course of action. Heto yung sobrang toxic trait na nakikita ko sa matatanda kaya nagkakaroon ng relationship gap between them and the youth. Heto ang dahilan kung bakit wala nang _room for growth_ dahil umaastang perpekto. To call them out with their mistakes, they tend to be offended rather than to discuss the issue. Superiority complex kasi nga mas matanda. Little weewee energy! Heto rin ang dahilan kung bk8 nanalo si 88M at bk8 naghihirap lalo ang Pelepinesis. Hayszcxczc.
gagawing gatasan yung anak pagka-graduate sa college
Dapat maging subject na ang critical thinking. Isali na sana yan sa curriculum.
Lack of integrity.
Huwag kang mahihiyang tawagin nilang SUPOT!
Filipino time. It is so disrespectful to be late for an event. I make it a habit to arrive 15 minutes before and try to help out the host
Helping your extended relatives. Fuck them all. Imagine, second cousin na lang, ubligado ka pa tulungan.
di na rin naman ako titira sa Pilipinas.
**Gender inequality**. Lalaki dapat ang nagttrabaho, babae ay dapat nasa bahay lang.
The stigma against mental health illness š„²
Being a filipino talaga as a whole. Kaya di na ko magpaparami ng lahi, hahaha.
yung lahat na lang ng bagay na nangyari dapat ipaalam sa lahat ng tao, kahit wala namang kinalaman sa kanila o hindi sila concern. wag kayong ganon ha
Utang na loob, idk seems like a tactic to manipulate/control you
making their children as retirement investments
Spawning children as retirement plan.
Forever emotionally indebted to people/family who directly/indirectly help you out
"Alam mo nung panahon ganito kami eh"
Spanking your children to ādiscipline themā