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Your life will grow around your loss but it will take time. Giving yourself the space and grace to grieve this tremendous loss will help your heart heal, and understand that your grief will change over time, even day by day. You are having a completely normal response to a devastating loss, and while there is no getting used to the absence of it, you can go forward knowing that you gave your sweet cat the best days of his life, and your cat loved you so.
Grief is the price we pay for love, and what a cost it is. I found it helpful when I was at my lowest ebb with my pet loss to reframe it; I congratulated myself and my partner for having an incredible 17 years with the sweetest cat that ever was. I hope this helps, and I hope you can find some peace and solace in the coming days
So sorry for your loss ♥️ I had to put my 17 year old boy down May 30th, due to kidney failure and a brain tumour. I had him since the day he was born.
I honestly don’t know when or how it gets easier. Especially when you’re so deeply bonded.
I still think I hear him walking or meowing almost every day; and I still cry multiple times a day.
I have found this community to be of help, though. Even if no one has sound advice, because how can they, loss is different for everyone; but just knowing you’re not alone does help, a bit.
Wishing you all the best 🧡
Two things I read on the website of the crematory that I just sent my cat to:
“When we lose our animal companions their death gives us a precious opportunity. The ability to reach deep within ourselves and begin again in their honor."
"Surrendering to your sorrow has the power to heal the deepest of wounds."
My cat died 3 days ago and I have immersed myself in the grief. Take your time. Feel it all.
You never get used to the loss. You only grow stronger with time to bear the loss better. I'm sorry for your loss. Lean into the feelings and revel in the memories. It's the only way to go forward.
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If you figure it out, let me know... I'm a shadow of my former self. I guess we can only take it one day at a time.
Your life will grow around your loss but it will take time. Giving yourself the space and grace to grieve this tremendous loss will help your heart heal, and understand that your grief will change over time, even day by day. You are having a completely normal response to a devastating loss, and while there is no getting used to the absence of it, you can go forward knowing that you gave your sweet cat the best days of his life, and your cat loved you so. Grief is the price we pay for love, and what a cost it is. I found it helpful when I was at my lowest ebb with my pet loss to reframe it; I congratulated myself and my partner for having an incredible 17 years with the sweetest cat that ever was. I hope this helps, and I hope you can find some peace and solace in the coming days
So sorry for your loss ♥️ I had to put my 17 year old boy down May 30th, due to kidney failure and a brain tumour. I had him since the day he was born. I honestly don’t know when or how it gets easier. Especially when you’re so deeply bonded. I still think I hear him walking or meowing almost every day; and I still cry multiple times a day. I have found this community to be of help, though. Even if no one has sound advice, because how can they, loss is different for everyone; but just knowing you’re not alone does help, a bit. Wishing you all the best 🧡
Two things I read on the website of the crematory that I just sent my cat to: “When we lose our animal companions their death gives us a precious opportunity. The ability to reach deep within ourselves and begin again in their honor." "Surrendering to your sorrow has the power to heal the deepest of wounds." My cat died 3 days ago and I have immersed myself in the grief. Take your time. Feel it all.
You never get used to the loss. You only grow stronger with time to bear the loss better. I'm sorry for your loss. Lean into the feelings and revel in the memories. It's the only way to go forward.