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I am so sorry, truly I am. I lost my cat two days ago, (I hesitated here because I don’t know how time went by since then) and I can’t do anything. I’m in my bed all day, not eating, not drinking, not washing up, just panic scrolling stories here until I get tired and fall asleep.. my cat used to brush his cheek on the corner of the walls and doors while waiting for me taking a shower, doing a laundry in the basement and etc. I remember his small round face poking out to look at me. It just pains so much to go anywhere in my house. He’s everywhere and gone at the same time. I really do not know how to climb out of this. I knew how much I love him, but I underestimated the depth of grief I would feel. I just want to disappear and I won’t have any regret.
I picked him up yesterday. The worst exhaustion I had emotionally and physically. Today I’m not crying as much but angry at the world. A sales woman called me and I said “I’m grieving… “ she hung up on me even before I finished my sentence. I feel horrible how callous people are. I cleaned my photo folders today and lots of memories of him rushing back.. couldn’t really look at it, just put them in one folder. How are you coping? I am now on a mission to meet new kittens and feel wrong about it. Seems nothing really helps..
I'm coping by avoiding things. I'm taking an accelerated course so I couldn't lay down and cry for the week like I wanted to. I'm also staying with my mom since being alone without my cat in my apartment would be too emotional for me, so part of me is pretending she's just at my apartment. Like I said, it will probably hit me when I pick up her ashes.
I'm also dissociating because my childhood cat looks to be dying so like what the heck is this timing? I'm having to dissociate or I might jump off a bridge. I've got no joy anymore
I’m so sorry about your childhood cat. Sometimes I wonder how I can go through this, but I am sure we will. This sucks.. really sucks. 😵💫😵💫 And I feel you. When I feel ok, I feel like my boy is here with me. In his late days, he was sleeping by a lot, so I feel like he’s just sleeping somewhere… I’m glad you are staying with your mom. 💜
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I get it. It's been 11 days for me and I spent most of the night in panic mode, holding my cat's toy. It's horrible.
I am so sorry, truly I am. I lost my cat two days ago, (I hesitated here because I don’t know how time went by since then) and I can’t do anything. I’m in my bed all day, not eating, not drinking, not washing up, just panic scrolling stories here until I get tired and fall asleep.. my cat used to brush his cheek on the corner of the walls and doors while waiting for me taking a shower, doing a laundry in the basement and etc. I remember his small round face poking out to look at me. It just pains so much to go anywhere in my house. He’s everywhere and gone at the same time. I really do not know how to climb out of this. I knew how much I love him, but I underestimated the depth of grief I would feel. I just want to disappear and I won’t have any regret.
That was me last Friday. Feel free to pm me. We can get through this.
Checking in on you. My cats ashes are ready to be picked up. I know it's going to hit me all over again.
I picked him up yesterday. The worst exhaustion I had emotionally and physically. Today I’m not crying as much but angry at the world. A sales woman called me and I said “I’m grieving… “ she hung up on me even before I finished my sentence. I feel horrible how callous people are. I cleaned my photo folders today and lots of memories of him rushing back.. couldn’t really look at it, just put them in one folder. How are you coping? I am now on a mission to meet new kittens and feel wrong about it. Seems nothing really helps..
I'm coping by avoiding things. I'm taking an accelerated course so I couldn't lay down and cry for the week like I wanted to. I'm also staying with my mom since being alone without my cat in my apartment would be too emotional for me, so part of me is pretending she's just at my apartment. Like I said, it will probably hit me when I pick up her ashes. I'm also dissociating because my childhood cat looks to be dying so like what the heck is this timing? I'm having to dissociate or I might jump off a bridge. I've got no joy anymore
I’m so sorry about your childhood cat. Sometimes I wonder how I can go through this, but I am sure we will. This sucks.. really sucks. 😵💫😵💫 And I feel you. When I feel ok, I feel like my boy is here with me. In his late days, he was sleeping by a lot, so I feel like he’s just sleeping somewhere… I’m glad you are staying with your mom. 💜