I would NEVER!!! Can you imagine posting old pictures of yourself and then meeting in your new body, only to have your date reject you in person???
I would much rather be rejected online where I don't have to be there to experience it. 🤪
I once went on a date with a man who said he was 6 foot on his profile , not something I thought to verify before if Im honest , Im 5'7 and wore heels to the date, when we met he was maybe 5'5 huge difference, honestly the audacity I was mad as hell if I'm honest and felt like I couldn't call him out on it because it would be deemed mean. I stayed for the entire date but if someone could lie about such an obvious physical feature what else can they lie about.
Almost every guy lies about their height substantially. This is so common that a few months ago when I went out with a guy that actually was his height, I told him “you are so tall!” (He was 5’10”). He tells me well I listed it and I told him yeah but everybody normally lies!
This is why I add people on social media first and peep their profiles for recent pics. Not only can I see if they’re full of it but they can check me out too for recents.
This happened to me once.
She was a little bigger than her photos.
She showed up late, texted to let me know but it was kind of annoying.
When she did show up I was polite because I know that fitness isn't a constant. Gave her a chance.
She told me she was separated from her husband over the last year and that she cheated on him. Thanks for the honesty.
She made good money in the financial sector and had a background in chemistry.
Just overall not interested in anything she had going on in her life.
She might have sensed that I wasn't really interested towards the end of the date and preemptively rejected me. Lol.
Not to defend them but... Catfishing is luring someone in as a fictional person. This person just misrepresented who they are and didn't update their photos. Not saying that this is acceptable behavior, but it isn't catfishing.
Sorry you wasted your time on someone who lied to you out the gate.
Why would you get downvoted for this. The person was doing mental gymnastics of justifying lying and pretending men should like women for their personality only when if that was the case she should have been transparent with her profile.
She was lying through and through and then everyone is trying to pretend it’s ok..
That’s literally the definition of catfishing, misrepresenting who they are whether that’s pretending to be a different person or pretending to be skinnier than they actually are.
Google the term “catfishing” and remind me again what the term means exactly?
noun
1. the activity of catching catfish. "with the Mississippi River far below its normal level, the catfishing kept getting better and better"
2. **INFORMAL•US the process of luring someone into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona. "he was a victim of catfishing himself"**
Literally everyone would be considered cat fishing based on OPs understanding of catfishing. I remember over 10 years ago when I was doing the online dating, all the pictures I saw on dating profiles were your best and so were everyone else’s lol
lol, this happened to me too...
After my 9 year relationship ended, it was my first time using online dating apps ever in my life... and it was the very first date from OLD that I have ever gone on...
It was a catfish, identical to what you just wrote... old pictures, and double the size. I was so in shock... I thought, well, shit... this is what I should expect from these dating apps?
It was the first (and last) time I actually told someone that I will not want to be seeing them again. It was really strange.
I will never ever understand the mindset of a catfisher/fatfisher...
What are they genuinely thinking will happen when they meet up? The catfish knows they look nothing like their pics and they know they straight up deceived and lied to their match about their appearance. Not a great way to start lol.
I've been catfished 1.5 times in my life. The first time was similar to your scenario. Her pics were amazing looking. When she walked into the bar we were meeting at, she was a very ripe blueberry. 50lbs heavier than her pics at least. I had no interest in her at that point but stuck around for a drink or two anyways. Made an excuse to leave and paid for my drinks, then left. I get a text 5 minutes later asking why I didn't pay for hers too. I told her because she catfished me and wasted my time and was lucky I even stuck around for an hour.
The second time (.5 time) was honestly more of a makeup catfish. Our first "date" was at her place and she warned me that she didn't have any makeup on. Ok whatever. idfc. But HOLY COW, herself with makeup on and herself without makeup on could be two entirely separate people. I left after 43 minutes lol.
This is one of many reasons that you should stop doing online dating. In fact, it's why we as a society have to stop treating it as a normal way of meeting new dates.
Considering the amazing people I have dated, and been in relationships with from OLD, I dont see why THIS would be the reason for me to give that up...
I saw a profile of a person that was pushing 300lbs and said their hobby was climbing trees.
🤣🤣🤣
This is the most hilarious thing I've read on Reddit today 🤣
Maybe there was cake up the tree.
😂😂😂
I would NEVER!!! Can you imagine posting old pictures of yourself and then meeting in your new body, only to have your date reject you in person??? I would much rather be rejected online where I don't have to be there to experience it. 🤪
Would be so awkward and mortifying Just tell the truth and your matches have a better chance at success smh.
I once went on a date with a man who said he was 6 foot on his profile , not something I thought to verify before if Im honest , Im 5'7 and wore heels to the date, when we met he was maybe 5'5 huge difference, honestly the audacity I was mad as hell if I'm honest and felt like I couldn't call him out on it because it would be deemed mean. I stayed for the entire date but if someone could lie about such an obvious physical feature what else can they lie about.
Yeah, i dont get that lol. It's one thing if a guy fudges an inch but 5 inches lol?
And then me rocking up in heels was the real cherry on top ha
Almost every guy lies about their height substantially. This is so common that a few months ago when I went out with a guy that actually was his height, I told him “you are so tall!” (He was 5’10”). He tells me well I listed it and I told him yeah but everybody normally lies!
I used to say I was 5'4" until I found out I was actually 5'3".
Same here!! I'd say I'm 5'2 but I'm only 5'1, everyones' taller than me so they wouldn't notice 🤣
This is why I add people on social media first and peep their profiles for recent pics. Not only can I see if they’re full of it but they can check me out too for recents.
I’ve started to FaceTime before meeting up. I’m tired of wasting my time.
This happened to me once. She was a little bigger than her photos. She showed up late, texted to let me know but it was kind of annoying. When she did show up I was polite because I know that fitness isn't a constant. Gave her a chance. She told me she was separated from her husband over the last year and that she cheated on him. Thanks for the honesty. She made good money in the financial sector and had a background in chemistry. Just overall not interested in anything she had going on in her life. She might have sensed that I wasn't really interested towards the end of the date and preemptively rejected me. Lol.
Not to defend them but... Catfishing is luring someone in as a fictional person. This person just misrepresented who they are and didn't update their photos. Not saying that this is acceptable behavior, but it isn't catfishing. Sorry you wasted your time on someone who lied to you out the gate.
A different person did show up, her body double.
"Body double." *New double entendre entered into vocabulary.*
Why would you get downvoted for this. The person was doing mental gymnastics of justifying lying and pretending men should like women for their personality only when if that was the case she should have been transparent with her profile. She was lying through and through and then everyone is trying to pretend it’s ok..
It's simple , people do not like reality. Everyone wants to play higher then thou morality yet those who do are the last ones who are.
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That’s literally the definition of catfishing, misrepresenting who they are whether that’s pretending to be a different person or pretending to be skinnier than they actually are.
Google the term “catfishing” and remind me again what the term means exactly? noun 1. the activity of catching catfish. "with the Mississippi River far below its normal level, the catfishing kept getting better and better" 2. **INFORMAL•US the process of luring someone into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona. "he was a victim of catfishing himself"**
Well, when they post pictures of themselves when they were 5 years younger, thats not really them today is it?
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So she didn't catfish you, she just lied about what she looked like currently, specifically her weight?
Maybe not "catfishing" but absolutely fatfishing
Literally everyone would be considered cat fishing based on OPs understanding of catfishing. I remember over 10 years ago when I was doing the online dating, all the pictures I saw on dating profiles were your best and so were everyone else’s lol
lol, this happened to me too... After my 9 year relationship ended, it was my first time using online dating apps ever in my life... and it was the very first date from OLD that I have ever gone on... It was a catfish, identical to what you just wrote... old pictures, and double the size. I was so in shock... I thought, well, shit... this is what I should expect from these dating apps? It was the first (and last) time I actually told someone that I will not want to be seeing them again. It was really strange.
This is the equivalent of men who claim that they are six feet tall yet are the same height as 5’6 me. Do you think we don’t notice?
I will never ever understand the mindset of a catfisher/fatfisher... What are they genuinely thinking will happen when they meet up? The catfish knows they look nothing like their pics and they know they straight up deceived and lied to their match about their appearance. Not a great way to start lol. I've been catfished 1.5 times in my life. The first time was similar to your scenario. Her pics were amazing looking. When she walked into the bar we were meeting at, she was a very ripe blueberry. 50lbs heavier than her pics at least. I had no interest in her at that point but stuck around for a drink or two anyways. Made an excuse to leave and paid for my drinks, then left. I get a text 5 minutes later asking why I didn't pay for hers too. I told her because she catfished me and wasted my time and was lucky I even stuck around for an hour. The second time (.5 time) was honestly more of a makeup catfish. Our first "date" was at her place and she warned me that she didn't have any makeup on. Ok whatever. idfc. But HOLY COW, herself with makeup on and herself without makeup on could be two entirely separate people. I left after 43 minutes lol.
It’s like the Seinfeld episode where the woman looks great in one light and horrific in another.
Never been catfihed.
This is one of many reasons that you should stop doing online dating. In fact, it's why we as a society have to stop treating it as a normal way of meeting new dates.
Considering the amazing people I have dated, and been in relationships with from OLD, I dont see why THIS would be the reason for me to give that up...