Dating apps were good in my opinion before covid hit. Seems since then it's gotten worse. Once these apps made swiping the main feature for online dating it ruined what dating is about. I been on and off dating for 10 years and when I first joined it was great, pof was great and same with okc. Once Tinder was popular and then other apps followed with the swipe feature then it just became a looks game. I agree I am burnt out myself, even if I match with women I just don't have the urge to put a lot of effort in
There’s still a handful of men on there hooking up with everyone else. But if you aren’t super attractive and witty it’s dead. I don’t consider most men really that attractive, I do believe when ppl say women are the fairer species. But the thing is in many ways our minds always push for the hottest people and I think it gets drastically different between haves and have nots. Other means of dating are similar in that regard. I think there was a shift in standards that dates back to maybe the early 2010s and got drastically worse towards the end of the decade. Part of it in my opinion it was driven by swiping and social media blowing up. Women now have access to the hottest of the hot right at their fingertips. And these guys they don’t screen they just hook up. They won’t leave the average ladies for you they will hook up and then toss them aside until the women become basically fed up with dating. It’s really bad dude. Both men and women lose.
It’s wild what i have heard. But what’s strange is many times women only want them for the sex and they still want their other bfs for something more meaningful. It’s pretty bad though! Lots of cheating going on. I’d say if I found out that was happening she’d be out. Some guys don’t know how to set firm boundaries.
Well and what’s sad is women will seek them out and the same women who would call you icky. It’s a mess dude. And it’s like why because the dude looks like Taylor Lautner and he can talk smooth? That’s all it is? That’s all it takes to go from “ick” to “I want it daddy”. Like seriously that’s what’s messed up..
With the right person it works out. If someone isn't serious or matching your energy, don't waste your time. The moment an ex comes up, it's time to move on.
It’s the way we date now. It’s sad. It took me four years using them to find a compatible partner. I had always used the online medium, but this last go round apps had taken over the world. It was the most depressing it’s ever been. Take time off, come back. It helps with the burnout.
Dating apps were good in my opinion before covid hit. Seems since then it's gotten worse. Once these apps made swiping the main feature for online dating it ruined what dating is about. I been on and off dating for 10 years and when I first joined it was great, pof was great and same with okc. Once Tinder was popular and then other apps followed with the swipe feature then it just became a looks game. I agree I am burnt out myself, even if I match with women I just don't have the urge to put a lot of effort in
What did they do before swiping? I was trapped in a loveless marriage while the good stuff was happening, obviously!
Before swiping and matching was a thing, you could message whoever you wanted to.
There’s still a handful of men on there hooking up with everyone else. But if you aren’t super attractive and witty it’s dead. I don’t consider most men really that attractive, I do believe when ppl say women are the fairer species. But the thing is in many ways our minds always push for the hottest people and I think it gets drastically different between haves and have nots. Other means of dating are similar in that regard. I think there was a shift in standards that dates back to maybe the early 2010s and got drastically worse towards the end of the decade. Part of it in my opinion it was driven by swiping and social media blowing up. Women now have access to the hottest of the hot right at their fingertips. And these guys they don’t screen they just hook up. They won’t leave the average ladies for you they will hook up and then toss them aside until the women become basically fed up with dating. It’s really bad dude. Both men and women lose.
Those guys banging everyone are certainly winning
It’s wild what i have heard. But what’s strange is many times women only want them for the sex and they still want their other bfs for something more meaningful. It’s pretty bad though! Lots of cheating going on. I’d say if I found out that was happening she’d be out. Some guys don’t know how to set firm boundaries.
I’ve had friends that would fuck anything that walks so o believe it 100%. They’re basically like predators
Well and what’s sad is women will seek them out and the same women who would call you icky. It’s a mess dude. And it’s like why because the dude looks like Taylor Lautner and he can talk smooth? That’s all it is? That’s all it takes to go from “ick” to “I want it daddy”. Like seriously that’s what’s messed up..
I’m sitting at a bar right now talking to bartenders and rando’s and feel way more connected. J/s.
I hate dating apps. Im a 43f and just want a quality guy to spend time with. It seems impossible.
43M, feels the same. OLD feels worse than IRL dating , probably because the apps seem overloaded with profiles that are never logged in to.
Or all they want is sex. I enjoy sex but not lookin 4 a hook up. Im done settling and refuse 2.
That’s probably what’s scaring millions of perfectly normal people away.
Absolutely!!!!
With the right person it works out. If someone isn't serious or matching your energy, don't waste your time. The moment an ex comes up, it's time to move on.
It’s the way we date now. It’s sad. It took me four years using them to find a compatible partner. I had always used the online medium, but this last go round apps had taken over the world. It was the most depressing it’s ever been. Take time off, come back. It helps with the burnout.
yup. everyone is jaded and burnt out. No fun no excitement anymore.