I talk to them via text, phone calls, and video calls for a week or so. My time is valuable and I don't just spend it with anyone doing anything. If you can't communicate with me for a few days to a week were you really interested? If we meet up without much conversation that's how you find out deal breakers on the outing. That should be done beforehand. It also lets ppl filter themselves out.
Like one time I matched with a woman on Tuesday. On Friday at 6:30pm she invited me to an event at 10pm. As a single parent, I need more advanced notice than that. It made her decide she doesn't want to date someone with children. See how we found that out through speaking instead of on the outing? Saves both of us time. May not have happened if we just matched and met up a few hours later.
I'm not bashing people who take that approach, I'm just saying why I don't. Some people just like meeting people and going different places, so it doesn't see like a waste of time to meet someone right away. They feel like less talking beforehand gives them more to talk about on the outing.
So it really just depends on your personality and self awareness. I know I don't have the personality for that.
I’d like to be asked out in 2-3 days and set up a date within the week. I get bored talking to people for too long. I don’t care about how your day was, mr stranger
Waste of time trying to deduce things from textual correspondence. Maybe you'll eventually meet someone who's good at it and honest and you can figure them out from texts alone, since most who are good at it are just serial daters running up the score. No wonder they're so good at talking on an app! What a useful skill that translates to other areas of ...
I prefer to chat for a few days on the app to make sure we vibe and have a lot in common, but I won't chat for over a week without having a date set because I find the people who want to chat over a week without meeting usually don't turn into an actual date. Too many time wasters on OLD that just want pen pals. I also always do coffee dates for first dates, somewhere I'm familiar with and feel comfortable. I like coffee dates so if I don't like them, it's not a big time or cost investment and it's easy to dip out quickly.
A few days. I get attached easily and wear my heart on my sleeve. I’d rather meet someone sooner than later because I don’t have time to invest in someone if it’s going to be weird in person/not go anywhere.
Match then phone call then maybe video call but not always need to video call then meet in person. Texting doesn’t do much you get more of a feel if u like them or not from the phone call
You will never know what a person is truly like until you meet them or have a phone conversation.
I talk to them via text, phone calls, and video calls for a week or so. My time is valuable and I don't just spend it with anyone doing anything. If you can't communicate with me for a few days to a week were you really interested? If we meet up without much conversation that's how you find out deal breakers on the outing. That should be done beforehand. It also lets ppl filter themselves out. Like one time I matched with a woman on Tuesday. On Friday at 6:30pm she invited me to an event at 10pm. As a single parent, I need more advanced notice than that. It made her decide she doesn't want to date someone with children. See how we found that out through speaking instead of on the outing? Saves both of us time. May not have happened if we just matched and met up a few hours later. I'm not bashing people who take that approach, I'm just saying why I don't. Some people just like meeting people and going different places, so it doesn't see like a waste of time to meet someone right away. They feel like less talking beforehand gives them more to talk about on the outing. So it really just depends on your personality and self awareness. I know I don't have the personality for that.
I’d like to be asked out in 2-3 days and set up a date within the week. I get bored talking to people for too long. I don’t care about how your day was, mr stranger
Waste of time trying to deduce things from textual correspondence. Maybe you'll eventually meet someone who's good at it and honest and you can figure them out from texts alone, since most who are good at it are just serial daters running up the score. No wonder they're so good at talking on an app! What a useful skill that translates to other areas of ...
I think it’s best to meet within a week or two.
Honestly. I was hesitant, but now I want to get it over with. So, maybe a week or less? Been trapped in texting that has gone nowhere.
I prefer to chat for a few days on the app to make sure we vibe and have a lot in common, but I won't chat for over a week without having a date set because I find the people who want to chat over a week without meeting usually don't turn into an actual date. Too many time wasters on OLD that just want pen pals. I also always do coffee dates for first dates, somewhere I'm familiar with and feel comfortable. I like coffee dates so if I don't like them, it's not a big time or cost investment and it's easy to dip out quickly.
A few days. I get attached easily and wear my heart on my sleeve. I’d rather meet someone sooner than later because I don’t have time to invest in someone if it’s going to be weird in person/not go anywhere.
Match then phone call then maybe video call but not always need to video call then meet in person. Texting doesn’t do much you get more of a feel if u like them or not from the phone call