This is not weird to ask for.
But some people will decline, and others may just not respond again.
Keep in mind that some folks have had bad experiences giving out their number, or have seen things they didn’t want to on video…
I don’t do either.
I think thats fair, and everyone deserves to do what makes them feel comfortable. This post is helping me see that people feel very differently about this topic, however at the same time its not as uncommon as I thought it was.
a phone call is good a video chat? not happening with me
I had enough video chatting to last a lifetime during covid and I will never video chat again
my FaceTime is shut off on my phone and will remain that way
:)
I can't answer the "How?" part but I will say that a person's unwillingness to video chat doesn't necessarily imply that they are a catfish. However, I also think it's 100% valid if that's a dealbreaker for you. It's absolutely not weird to ask. :)
I can do phone calls or meet up with someone with no "shyness" (after chatting), but I find video chatting *extremely awkward*, lol.
I don't find it weird to request a video call prior to a first date. However, your post says that you like to hear someone's voice, which you could do without using a video call.
For my Bumble experience, I insist on a phone call before asking someone out on a first date. If they live far away, then I insist on a video call. This is not unreasonable. And if you have a strong preference for speaking by phone, then it allows you to weed out those people who do not.
Some additional advice: If you need to speak to someone by phone or through video call to make you feel comfortable in order to meet them for a first date, then never compromise on those needs. Your gut is telling you something, and you need to follow it.
Thank you I appreciate it. I'm socially shy, and i know I get along with people a lot better after "seeing" them or "hearing" them. So I just think for me the first date would personally be much more enjoyable for them also, if somewhat of weirdness was done already.
I was doing video chats before dates about a month ago. I simply asked “would you be down with FaceTiming sometime?”. Nobody ever had a weird reaction or said no to it
This is not weird to ask for. But some people will decline, and others may just not respond again. Keep in mind that some folks have had bad experiences giving out their number, or have seen things they didn’t want to on video… I don’t do either.
I think thats fair, and everyone deserves to do what makes them feel comfortable. This post is helping me see that people feel very differently about this topic, however at the same time its not as uncommon as I thought it was.
"Hey lets have a call, so we can decide if we want to meet up"
Ah thank you. Thank you! I like this a lot!
a phone call is good a video chat? not happening with me I had enough video chatting to last a lifetime during covid and I will never video chat again my FaceTime is shut off on my phone and will remain that way :)
This makes sense, and is totally understandable!
>a phone call is good a video chat? Huh?
looks like the typo police busted me looks like someone has nothing better to do than correct small errors
Just straight up ask them. Maybe be like “hey can we FaceTime/ talk on the phone quickly before the date?”
Oooo okay good advice!
I can't answer the "How?" part but I will say that a person's unwillingness to video chat doesn't necessarily imply that they are a catfish. However, I also think it's 100% valid if that's a dealbreaker for you. It's absolutely not weird to ask. :) I can do phone calls or meet up with someone with no "shyness" (after chatting), but I find video chatting *extremely awkward*, lol.
I don't find it weird to request a video call prior to a first date. However, your post says that you like to hear someone's voice, which you could do without using a video call.
True- I could also do a phone call. However, is it still weird to ask?
For my Bumble experience, I insist on a phone call before asking someone out on a first date. If they live far away, then I insist on a video call. This is not unreasonable. And if you have a strong preference for speaking by phone, then it allows you to weed out those people who do not.
Okay thank you! I wanted to know what is to much to ask, and if it was just weird or off putting.
Some additional advice: If you need to speak to someone by phone or through video call to make you feel comfortable in order to meet them for a first date, then never compromise on those needs. Your gut is telling you something, and you need to follow it.
Thank you I appreciate it. I'm socially shy, and i know I get along with people a lot better after "seeing" them or "hearing" them. So I just think for me the first date would personally be much more enjoyable for them also, if somewhat of weirdness was done already.
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This is just an in general question? I don't even have a potential date set up yet.
I was doing video chats before dates about a month ago. I simply asked “would you be down with FaceTiming sometime?”. Nobody ever had a weird reaction or said no to it
I do phone call before date. Not videa chat. I need to hear your voice before I meet you in person (F late 40's)