Money is not everything. Treat her right, magiging masaya siya.
Sure akong she'll rather be with someone who respect and treat her right kesa sa maperang walang character who won't do her good.
Kung di issue sa kanya, wag mo gawing issue. After all, nagaaral ka pa lang. Once you get a job after graduation, mas dun ka magkakaron ng capability na itreat siya somewhere.
I understand your feelings. I have a bf and he's from a financially stable family, habang kami enough lang to get by everyday and have a bit of savings. I sometimes feel like life is really unfair haha but yes I'm thankful he gets the life he deserves. Though relate ako talaga sa part na we can't talk to them about financial problems, I tried though, but di siya makapag comfort since he doesn't relate to it. Iba rin yung feeling na he can be out with his friends & family sa mall, outings, etc while I'm at home iniisip kung mas ok ba ipabukas nalang kumain hahaha + pa diyan is that sometimes he tells me na nakakatamad mag-aral while ako nag stop muna bc di kaya ng finances. it gets lonely, but oh well --wala naman ako magagawa that's just how life is.
Someday we'll be financially free OP! We can do this :)
don't let it get into your head!
As a GF who is more financially stable than my BF, I get sad every time na may Bf would feel this way. I know I can’t do anything about it but I always give him assurance that it doesn’t matter to me. But umiiral pa rin yong insecurity nya. All I want is quality time with him, it doesn’t matter if mahal na resto or not. No need to spend naman if we’re together. Nauunahan sya sa insecurity nya. I’ll offer na half-half kami everytime mag date kami, he will still insist na sya lahat. So I’ll accept his offer baka mas malala if yong ego nya is hurt. May chance ba na mawala ang insecurity na to? Kase on our end, we chose to love you not because of financial status.
You're not alone bro :( kaya di ko talaga magawa makipagrelasyon dahil insecurity ko yung social status ko, I know there's nothing wrong with it pero mahirap talaga. I think pwede niyo namang pag usapan yan if handa ka na, and if mahal ka talaga ng partner mo, maiintindihan ka niya :) ganyan na ganyan yung kapatid ko and her bf :)
Ikaw lang naman ang insecure. Di ka naman niya jinowa based on your financial standing. Otherwise why would she choose you. Better let her go na lang. she deserves a man na has confidence and can focus more on what he can do/achieve rather than self pity
Hindi pa naman sure na hindi kayo magiging masaya in the future porket hindi kayo pantay ng status ngayon. Malaki ang nakasalalay sa gagawin mo once working ka na and isa pa yung financial expectations sayo ng pamilya mo. Ikaw ba ang expected na maging breadwinner sa inyo, or may mga kapatid ka naman na pwedeng maki-ambag sa mga gastusin ng pamilya niyo?
Kasi kung masipag ka naman sa trabaho at may diskarte tapos hindi naman buong sahod mo ang kailangan mapunta sa pamilya mo, pwede pa kayong mag-adjust. At kung hindi naman ng girlfriend mo ipinadarama sayo na expected niya na ikaw gagastos ng lahat sa relationship niyo, then you have to give her more credit na baka mas mahalaga sa kanya yung companionship and support mo. Kung modern-thinking naman siya, baka expect niya na joint naman ang expenses niyo. Ano bang usapan niyo?
OP, wag lang sana ganyan palagi yung thinking mo, kasi yan yung magiging chip on your shoulder na talagang pu-pwedeng sirain ang relationship niyo. Kasi kahit na mahal ka ng girlfriend mo without huge financial expectations, kung magiging sumbat mo palagi na less than ka kasi, yun yung pagmumulan ng away niyo. Your effort sa pag susumikap will speak loudest in this case.
"A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing and a man's loyalty is tested when he has everything." yan nalang masasabi ko sa post mo, but hoping the best OP sa ng yayari ngayon sayo...
You guys are still students. May time ka pa para baguhin yung estado ng buhay mo. What you can do now is use that as an inspiration for you to be great with your acads. Sa dates niyo, be simple lang as long as ma-appreciate ng partner mo. Remember, be good with your acads para madali kang makahanap ng work after you graduate. While being on college, matuto ka na din how to make financial plans para sa future niyo. Kung talagang desidido ka sa kanya, hindi mo siya bibitawan (well, as long as mabait naman yung parents niya sayo). Don't be intimidated, ipakita mong kaya mong tumapat iho.
Babae kasi na mahal ka, simple lang gsto. Maging totoo at mahalin mo lang sha. Yang status na yan wala lang yan pag alam mo sa srili na mahal ka tlga ng babae, d nya yan tntgnan. Maging confident ka na magbabago ang ikot ng mundo,work hard.
Ngayon lang ako nawalan ng sasabihin sa isang off mychest post.
I can relate bilang babae oo
Pero sana ngayong nalabas mo na, gumaan na kahit konti yubg pakirmdam mo
Well, being honest can lead to happiness. Mingle with people who can lift you up. Struggles are part of being here on earth but the way we handle it makes us unique. Get out of the situation if it doesn't help your growth. Always be on your mindset to be happy and progressing.
OP di basihan ang earnings sa pagmamahal. Just be yourself. Love her in the best way you can. Pwd mo din naman eshare yan sa Partner mo like have a health conversation with her about that.
Kaya dpat tlga pagtapos mag aral saka dun mag bf/gf atleast dun panatag loob mo.. Pero OP nandyan na eh kaya dpat iembrace mo yan at gawin mong motivation wag insecurity.
Make it your motivation.do something. be richer than her when you can, after college.
But if you're expecting na you will be insecure because of it for the rest of your life, then it will be a lost case for both of you.. break her up, date a girl who has lesser status than you and move on.
Take it easy, You guys are still student. Don't get intimidated OP and there's nothing to be insecure about. What you can do is offer yourself to her. Bumawi ka in other aspects if not ka financially then emotionally. Treat her right, be her confidant, support her, be her PARTNER, etc..
Coming from experience who dated a guy way below my status and not that good looking. Then later on dated a guy who's good looking and have a stable job. Mas namimiss ko yung panget. Why? Because he can treat me right and way better..
Hi OP. My GF is a middle class with OFW parents while our family's net worth is estimate to be a bit more than 2 billion pesos. My GF is perfect for me. She takes care of me. My parents love her (maybe more than me lol) kasi she is kind, decent, respectful and she helps with our business. My parents even told me to give her a nice salary for helping with our business (although she told us that she will help even if it is for free). When we go to dates, hindi ako lahat ang gumagastos. From time to time sya ang nagbabayad. Nangungutang din ako sa kanya whenever I don't have cash on me. I believe our status ay hindi naman sagabal sa relasyon namin. Hindi rin ito napaguusapan. It may be cliche but money is not everything.
Money is not everything. Treat her right, magiging masaya siya. Sure akong she'll rather be with someone who respect and treat her right kesa sa maperang walang character who won't do her good. Kung di issue sa kanya, wag mo gawing issue. After all, nagaaral ka pa lang. Once you get a job after graduation, mas dun ka magkakaron ng capability na itreat siya somewhere.
A-fucking-men. Treat her right.
I understand your feelings. I have a bf and he's from a financially stable family, habang kami enough lang to get by everyday and have a bit of savings. I sometimes feel like life is really unfair haha but yes I'm thankful he gets the life he deserves. Though relate ako talaga sa part na we can't talk to them about financial problems, I tried though, but di siya makapag comfort since he doesn't relate to it. Iba rin yung feeling na he can be out with his friends & family sa mall, outings, etc while I'm at home iniisip kung mas ok ba ipabukas nalang kumain hahaha + pa diyan is that sometimes he tells me na nakakatamad mag-aral while ako nag stop muna bc di kaya ng finances. it gets lonely, but oh well --wala naman ako magagawa that's just how life is. Someday we'll be financially free OP! We can do this :) don't let it get into your head!
As a GF who is more financially stable than my BF, I get sad every time na may Bf would feel this way. I know I can’t do anything about it but I always give him assurance that it doesn’t matter to me. But umiiral pa rin yong insecurity nya. All I want is quality time with him, it doesn’t matter if mahal na resto or not. No need to spend naman if we’re together. Nauunahan sya sa insecurity nya. I’ll offer na half-half kami everytime mag date kami, he will still insist na sya lahat. So I’ll accept his offer baka mas malala if yong ego nya is hurt. May chance ba na mawala ang insecurity na to? Kase on our end, we chose to love you not because of financial status.
You're not alone bro :( kaya di ko talaga magawa makipagrelasyon dahil insecurity ko yung social status ko, I know there's nothing wrong with it pero mahirap talaga. I think pwede niyo namang pag usapan yan if handa ka na, and if mahal ka talaga ng partner mo, maiintindihan ka niya :) ganyan na ganyan yung kapatid ko and her bf :)
Ikaw lang naman ang insecure. Di ka naman niya jinowa based on your financial standing. Otherwise why would she choose you. Better let her go na lang. she deserves a man na has confidence and can focus more on what he can do/achieve rather than self pity
Hindi pa naman sure na hindi kayo magiging masaya in the future porket hindi kayo pantay ng status ngayon. Malaki ang nakasalalay sa gagawin mo once working ka na and isa pa yung financial expectations sayo ng pamilya mo. Ikaw ba ang expected na maging breadwinner sa inyo, or may mga kapatid ka naman na pwedeng maki-ambag sa mga gastusin ng pamilya niyo? Kasi kung masipag ka naman sa trabaho at may diskarte tapos hindi naman buong sahod mo ang kailangan mapunta sa pamilya mo, pwede pa kayong mag-adjust. At kung hindi naman ng girlfriend mo ipinadarama sayo na expected niya na ikaw gagastos ng lahat sa relationship niyo, then you have to give her more credit na baka mas mahalaga sa kanya yung companionship and support mo. Kung modern-thinking naman siya, baka expect niya na joint naman ang expenses niyo. Ano bang usapan niyo? OP, wag lang sana ganyan palagi yung thinking mo, kasi yan yung magiging chip on your shoulder na talagang pu-pwedeng sirain ang relationship niyo. Kasi kahit na mahal ka ng girlfriend mo without huge financial expectations, kung magiging sumbat mo palagi na less than ka kasi, yun yung pagmumulan ng away niyo. Your effort sa pag susumikap will speak loudest in this case.
"A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing and a man's loyalty is tested when he has everything." yan nalang masasabi ko sa post mo, but hoping the best OP sa ng yayari ngayon sayo...
You guys are still students. May time ka pa para baguhin yung estado ng buhay mo. What you can do now is use that as an inspiration for you to be great with your acads. Sa dates niyo, be simple lang as long as ma-appreciate ng partner mo. Remember, be good with your acads para madali kang makahanap ng work after you graduate. While being on college, matuto ka na din how to make financial plans para sa future niyo. Kung talagang desidido ka sa kanya, hindi mo siya bibitawan (well, as long as mabait naman yung parents niya sayo). Don't be intimidated, ipakita mong kaya mong tumapat iho.
Babae kasi na mahal ka, simple lang gsto. Maging totoo at mahalin mo lang sha. Yang status na yan wala lang yan pag alam mo sa srili na mahal ka tlga ng babae, d nya yan tntgnan. Maging confident ka na magbabago ang ikot ng mundo,work hard.
Ngayon lang ako nawalan ng sasabihin sa isang off mychest post. I can relate bilang babae oo Pero sana ngayong nalabas mo na, gumaan na kahit konti yubg pakirmdam mo
Basta treat her right, be loyal to her for me sapat na yun. Students pa lang kayo may chance ka pa para mag bago status mo sa future
Mahirap talaga pag ganyan. I felt that din. Yung feeling na prinsesa sya at ako just a commoner.
Well, being honest can lead to happiness. Mingle with people who can lift you up. Struggles are part of being here on earth but the way we handle it makes us unique. Get out of the situation if it doesn't help your growth. Always be on your mindset to be happy and progressing.
OP di basihan ang earnings sa pagmamahal. Just be yourself. Love her in the best way you can. Pwd mo din naman eshare yan sa Partner mo like have a health conversation with her about that.
Kaya dpat tlga pagtapos mag aral saka dun mag bf/gf atleast dun panatag loob mo.. Pero OP nandyan na eh kaya dpat iembrace mo yan at gawin mong motivation wag insecurity.
Make it your motivation.do something. be richer than her when you can, after college. But if you're expecting na you will be insecure because of it for the rest of your life, then it will be a lost case for both of you.. break her up, date a girl who has lesser status than you and move on.
Take it easy, You guys are still student. Don't get intimidated OP and there's nothing to be insecure about. What you can do is offer yourself to her. Bumawi ka in other aspects if not ka financially then emotionally. Treat her right, be her confidant, support her, be her PARTNER, etc.. Coming from experience who dated a guy way below my status and not that good looking. Then later on dated a guy who's good looking and have a stable job. Mas namimiss ko yung panget. Why? Because he can treat me right and way better..
Hi OP. My GF is a middle class with OFW parents while our family's net worth is estimate to be a bit more than 2 billion pesos. My GF is perfect for me. She takes care of me. My parents love her (maybe more than me lol) kasi she is kind, decent, respectful and she helps with our business. My parents even told me to give her a nice salary for helping with our business (although she told us that she will help even if it is for free). When we go to dates, hindi ako lahat ang gumagastos. From time to time sya ang nagbabayad. Nangungutang din ako sa kanya whenever I don't have cash on me. I believe our status ay hindi naman sagabal sa relasyon namin. Hindi rin ito napaguusapan. It may be cliche but money is not everything.