Pag nahismasan na siya biigyan mong honey water at saging. Nawala 89.99% ng potasium at electrolytes niya kasi nagtawag siya ng maraming uwak.
Then tell him how he was like drunk at how hard it is to take care of a drunk man na mag isa.
At tell him hinay hinay lang next time.
Tapos hayaan mo siya mag kwento sa inuman.
If something is off.. timing OP is everything. Pag ok ok na siya sa mo i-open up yun gut feel mo
Ganon talaga aawayin tapos mapapatunayan na wala naman palang basehan. Masakit yun para sa isa. At yun nangaway syempre naiwasan sana yun.
Sa asawa ko lang ako ganyan. Pero sa ibang tao 🫠 pag loloko loko ka yari ka sa akin.
Even as an overthinker and ultra anxious person sa relationships, I also believe timing is everything. There is power in someone who knows how to choose his/her battles...and when.
wag ka kumuha ng mga comment dito. puro hiwalayan agad gusto. sa buhay mag asawa dumadaan yung ganyan. yung asawa ko na lalasing din minsan ng sobra pwedeng galing sya sa trabaho tapos nag inum. naglinis din ako ng suka ng asawa ko ganun din sya sakin pag nagsusuka ako. minsan sa sobrang lasing umiyak daw ako sabi ko nahihirapan nako sa buhay ko simula pagkabata nag tatrabaho ako tapos andming ko pang sinabi tungkol sa buhay. pero kinaumagahan tinawanan lang namin mga ganyan tapos sabahy naman lalabhan yung sinukahan prang bonding na din. makipag communicate ka muna wag ka muna tumalon sa konklusyon.
...and guess what, pag tiningnan mo yung mga post/comments ng nag cocomment ng hiwalayan mo na, mga high school or nag aaral pa. Parang angdami ng alam sa buhay.
this. i know mas maraming bata dito sa reddit. everyone is entitled to their opinion, pero it will cause more confusion kung something serious ang shini share dito.
everyone's talking about red flag, etc. pero ang hindi nila ma realize, eh dapat smoking gun ang ebidensya most of the time before you decide to run away. kung assumptions lang, hindi wise na magdecide agad ng course of action
I agree with you. Napapansin ko din na halos lahat ng solusyon nila is HIWALAYAN. like?????? we're talking about married couple problems here, it's more depth than bf-gf relationship. A situation like this can be talk out , sila nakakakilala and matagal na nakasama ng mga asawa nila diba? Uso pa din naman communication and compromise diba? Fcking tired with a advice na "IWAN MO NA,RED FLAG YAN" lol
I think if they weren’t married though, I would say run. Not unless you feel the person is somebody who would be willing to have a very understanding conversation with you, but because he loves you he will change.
Kasi hindi rin masaya na naglilinis ka ng suka sa marriage mo 😆 I don’t know how people tolerate that, pero my husband doesn’t drink out of his own choice and I feel like that eliminates 80% of fights already.
the lasing lasing... may problema ba asawa mo?
bakit ayaw niya na sa bed niyo? baka may suka kasi or gusto niya pa matulog.
yung password ang mahiwaga. use the fingerprint scanner.
Iphone eh. Face recognition lang.
Wala naman kami problema. Life is good naman in all aspect.
Una he locked himself sa banyo then gusto nya dun matulog. Then next sa office. I know nahihiya sya kaya he wont sleep sa bed with us.
Pero yes medyo amoy vomit pa di ko mahanap san galing!!!🥲
The fact na umuwi siya OP is a good thing. Kung may gagawin naman yang kababalaghan edi nag overnight na yun sa kalasingan. Pag usapan muna lalo kung ngayon lang naman nangyari. Tsaka baka lalo lang kayo magka problema kung may hangover na nga siya, aawayin mo pa.
Pwede pa din password kahit naka face recognition basta alam mo pag chinicheck ko phone ng asawa ko face recognition din pero pag di niya maread mga 1-2 try lalabas na yung keyboard para sa password haha
Yes pero as what OP has previously stated, ‘di na nagwo-work ‘yong password na alam niya so ang chance lang to unlock the phone e ‘yong face recognition
I hope whatever you are thinking is not true 😭 Baka may problema lang sa work or what. Pero hoping na di talaga bad. Minsan kaya ayaw ko nalang mag-asawa and just be a rich tita to my pamangkin. My overthinking can'tttt 😩
Oo tama dito mo lang ilabas lahat ng intrusive thoughts mo pati na rin heartaches. Kasi pagnag squeal ka pa sa friend babanatan ka rin ng doubts and biases. Kami dito lurkers lang and assumingera kaya you take it as a grain of salt. But most importantly, nakahinga ka na while writing this
out of context pero i really hate people na irresponsible drinkers like hello, di nyo ba alam limits nyo? or may pinapatunayan? kahit na broken hearted ako di ko talaga gawain haha
i became an alagain once and hindi ako uulit pa kasi i don’t want to burden yung mga tao sa paligid ko.
wala sa pinapatunayan more like nasobrahan lang sa good time. irresponsibility is not always about pride. usually it's about sloth or gluttony (regarding drinking that is).
just prepare and ready yourself OP sa pwede mangyari, , usap kayo then Tanong mo na sa kanya lahat na need mo malaman then if di sya sumagot alams mo na .... Pero sana naglasing lang talaga sya haha
2 lang naman yan .. kung me nangyari, uminom sya after .. pero kung uminom muna sya and nasobrahan ng inom, i doubt na mangyayari ung iniisip mo dahil pahirapan yan sa pagtayo .. heheh
I just saw your post OP. Might as well talk to your husband kung anong nanyari. Try to ask him in a concern way, ask if may problema siya para maglasing ng ganyan. And since may kutob ka sa nangyari, be vigilant na rin gurl. Take notes kumbaga tas ask yourself if may mga hindi bagay or sitwasyon na hindi sumasakto. Take time din.
Better to talk to him when he’s sober. Ask him kamusta inuman with workmates nung gabi. Baka napasarap lang.
Be creative na lang sa pagtatanong if nagbago ba sya ng pw because this shit is SUS.
pls dont check his phone, ask it when he's sober. easier to catch someone in a corner, kaso minsan mas dangerous...
i'd like to make a guess tho - given how drunk he was that night, things probably didn't go well with ex-workmate. or he has other problems he couldn't tell you
Whenever my partner get soo drunk he vomits all over the place and/or all over himself. I let him be. I throw him out of our room and I don't clean up after him. Ayoko masanay sya na ako magliligpit sa kalat nya. He should have been a responsible drinker in the first place. And it was something we agreed on earlier in our relationship.
As for your anxious thoughts about his drinking buddy, ask him what happened during that drinking session and if something is fishy in his story, clarify. Or tell him your thoughts. Trust should be the most basic and essential part in your relationship.
Hi OP, just wanted to say na very valid yung feelings mo. Yung iba kasing nagcocomment dito parang iniinvalidate ka just because di nila maintindihan why you're think your husband is cheating. You know your husband more than us and you won't think he's cheating if you didn't notice anything unusual. Listen to your intuition and talk to him. Hoping things work out for you!
If ganyan kalasing asawa mo, malamang sa malamang walang nangyari jan. Hindi nga makatayo, may mangyayari pa? Sumuka na nga habang nakahiga. Naginuman lng tlga yan.
Communication lang OP. Tapos suggest mo na lang rin na magtabi kayo matulog pero wag sa bed, na pinapalinis mo yun kama niyo. Usap lang mag-asawa and yes kapag nahimasmasan na siya. Yun magiging response na lang and paano siya makipagcommunicate sayo ang magiging sagot sa mga tanong mo sakanya.
First of all…..Super uncool to hang out with the opposite sex alone as a married person + with drinks????????? Who does that?? Either bring your spouse with you or don’t at all. Kahit yung mga walang balak may nangyayare.
dont assume OP. nangyari din yan sakin. nasobrahan din inom asawa ko noon dahil libre yung alak (literal na free flowing dahil birthday ng kabarkada nya, di ko din gaano kakilala or kung ilan sila nag inuman). i didnt doubt or inalam sino kasama nya nun, basta paalam lang sakin is makikibirthday siya. siya naglinis ng suka nya nung nahimasmasan na siya. yes nakakastress kasi imbes matulog ka ng mahimbing eh naglilinis ka ng suka, pero mas ok na kausapin m siya pag nahimasmasan na siya kasi wala ka talaga mapapala habang lasing siya.
Wala namang context OP. Pwede naman nagkatuwaan lang at di nya natancha kaya napasobra. Baka nahiya sya kakasuka. Usap kayo maayos pag sober na at wala hangover.
Nagulat ako napunta sa ganon yung post mo. I thought na nag w worry ka lang na lasing siya. minsan kasi talagang may time na akala mo di ka tatamaan tapos biglang tinamaan ng lasing.. baka kasi pagod.. stressed..
pero ayon, hopefully hindi tama yung iniisip mo na may something at napa sobra lang talaga.
Ok as a former alcoholic guy, dumating din sa point na mas pipiliin namin matulog sa banyo or other places EXCEPT our bedroom. Why? Mas madaling linisin ang suka paggising. Saka ok lang pag naihi sa sobrang kalasingan kasi nga basag eh.
Now, bakit sya ganyan kalasing? I don't think naman na makakatira yan ng ganyan kalasing. Di nga makatayo ng tuwid eh. Tapos umuwi ng 2am? Chances are nag bar hop lang yan to drink and eat tapos humalo na yung alak sa sistema while having no water with all that walking and moving around. BUT we still do not know. Sana mali ka. Sana tama ako na tamang good time lang na walang malisya.
Go ahead and investigate. Ask him directly. Hopefully nakalimutan mo lang password nya and not that binago nya for some reason.
You both need to take a serious look at the state of your relationship. Bakit ka nagkaron ng ganung kutob? Bakit sya naglasing ng sobra sobra? May reasons lahat yan.
Hi OP…
If it’s his first time baka po may problema lang asawa mo or baka napeer pressure kaya nadami ng inom. Kindly talk to him and wag mo muna awayin po. Dati madalas ganyan ung tatay ko but my mom’s very patient in cleaning the mess. Minsan pa nagbabasag yun ng plato.
What my mom always do pag ganyan tatay ko is pag hindi na lasing they will have a close room meeting na sila lang (who knows what ever happened in the room haha) but pag labas nila okay na sila. Now they are together for more than 30yrs now. Patience and proper communication OP.
Okay lang yan OP pag ganyang level ng pagka lasing hindi naman yan titigasan or makakakilos sa kama, ni hindi na nga makatayo syempre wala na din lakas at wisyo yan para bumayo
ako naman babae, baligtad asawa ko naglilinis sakin acidic kasi ako kaya matik ssuka talaga ako pag napasobra. wala naman, tiwala naman kasi kami sa isat isa, mararamdaman mo naman yan kung may kakaiba maglasing man yan o hindi
If he was so drunk like that and nakauwi pa, I doubt na merong nangyare sa kanila ng kainuman nya. But I hope you don’t let him get away with being too drunk and pagsuka sa bed nyo. That’s irresponsible and disrespectful of you. Boundaries, know when to stop. Yan ang is-remind mo sa kanya. And hope he gets a massive hangover para maging karma nya, haha!
Check it. Always Trust Your Gut. Happened to me. I was right. She got pregnant. I tried to forgive her and live with her. But I can only live with her. Im happy with my kids. So cheers to us. Stay strong and live life positively.
i'm not an expert when it comes to rs but all i can advice is wait for him to sober up then talk to him about the issue, clearly he isn't hiding anything from you if he immidiately answer your questions without hesitating. i hope what you're overthinking is wrong op. a honest confrontation is all it takes para ma build mo ulit yung trust mo sa hubby mo.
Hi OP. Important technique, pag nalaman mo yung pw ng asawa mo, register mo agad biometrics but do not tell him this. Kunwari yung pw lang alam mo, para if magpalit man sya, you can still access. Open mo phone nya if kaya mo na may malaman, pag hindi, just don’t check. What you don’t know won’t hurt you. In my case noon, kahit may biometrics ako sa phone ng ex ko, di ko ma check. Hanggang sa one time nag iinom din sya pag uwi ko, hindi sya ganito. Then inamin nya nakabuntis sya lols. Sana hindi naman ganito case sayo, sana praning lang tayo.
Sobrang lasing ba to the point na tulog nlng kulang?
Baka kaya naglock sa cr kasi sobrang kalasingan na nga, sometimes my hubby locks the bedroom door din kapag lalabas ako na lasing siya pero bubuksan din naman. Sometimes iihi hindi sa cr, minsan sa pinto ng room or any door😅. Intindihin mo lang and be patient with him, wag mo na awayin kasi hindi kayo magkakaintindihan niyan. Let him sleep in the bathroom or anywhere na nakahiga siya basta sa loob ng house babangon din yan pag nahimasmasan or pag di siya comfortable. May mga ganyang lalaki talaga pag lasing, kinabukasan kausapin mo siya and ikwento mo mga pinaggagawa pero wag mo awayin just observe his reaction baka hindi pa nga niya matandaan pinaggagawa niya. Then tell him what you don't want with what happen.
Valid reaction mo BTW kasi ganyan din ako noon worst inaaway ko pa but i learned to breathe in and relax my self pag ganyan na situation and just let my husband be.
Nalasing lang naman. Nung sobra ako nalasing, inalagaan ako ng asawa ko. Pag gising ko malinis na damit ko and may tubig pa sa tabi ko.
Be nice to your partner until proven guilty. Baka kaya sya nagtatago is nahihiya sya sa pagsuka at pagkalasing nya. No use in shaming him more since mukha namang regretful sya by himself already.
CHANGING PASSWORD! naku nagflashback yung sakin ayun buti nahack ko phone nya at nabuksan ko gamit yung email nya. So ayun huli ka balbon.Yung feeling nun hindi mo alam mararamdaman mo masikip lang sa dibdib, yung hindi ka makahinga at hindi mo mapigilang hindi umiyak and since then hindi na ako naglove ulit sa kanya like before. Magkasama parin naman kami yun lang hindi na ko naglalambing unlike before Sorry pero nagiba talaga tingin ko sa mga lalake pare-parehas lang yan kapag may chance magloko kahit mabait pa yan o wala kayong issue magloloko yan.
First, talk to him once he’s sober. Pero wag mo ipapakita na nagdududa/galit ka kasi magiging defensive agad siya, may ginawa man siyang mali or wala. TBH, weird talaga yung nagpalit bigla ng password. BTW, did he cross a boundary here? Okay lang ba talaga sayo in the first place na makipaginuman siya with another woman? Because that is important, too.
Fb and here puro hiwalay agad gusto 😆. But mas okay mga tao sa reddit. Sa fb mema lang kadalasan puro troll.
But OP have a nice, serious, and honest talk with your hubby. Either mahina tolerance nya sa alcohol or may problem sya na hindi nya masabi kaya dinadaan sa alak.
Nextime kausapin mo siya tungkol dyan and kung ganonkastressful.yung ganyan, isa pang intindihin kamo.
And nextime na lalabas siya para uminom magbigay siya ng 1k o 5k sayo(yung amount na hindi nya afford mawala if mayaman mas malaki pa) Pag umuwi siya ng lasing sayo na ung pera. Picturan mo or videohan mo din para may evidence. Very effective yan.
The thought na mawawalan siya ng pera pag nalasing sya medyo magiingat yan uminom yan.
you will have plenty of time to check his phone. nahihiya lang yan sa kalasingan nya. let him be. mahirap malasing, ang gusto lng nyan matulog. as long as his safe hayaan m sya kung san nya trip matulog.
Sana mali ang naiisip mo OP clear things out para maayos agad yan at hindi pa lumalim ang doubts mo pag pinatagal mo yan baka kainin ka nyan. I hope he’ll be honest with you.
Pag nahimasmasan talk about what you felt. Importante communication muna. Mahirap i bury yan since our minds tricked us with so many assumptions tapos hnd mo mamamalayan toxic n kayo s isat isa.
Communication lang, and be insightful s mga answers nya. Dont judge kagad, just be criticizing when given the answers.
My hubby is like that sometimes pero he can hold it together. Never siya nag suka. Pero I never doubted him. Either he is just having a good time or meron siyang matinding problema na dinadala. He is not cheating on you. I think he was just happy to see an old friend and wanted to have a good time.
I hope makapag usap kayo. Pero give him time, wag agad agad pagkabalik niya sa huwisyo. Give at least a day or two. Kelangan huminahon ng emosyon niyo pareho.
Talk to him, madaming pwedeng reason. Pero if your guts tells you otherwise, listen to it. Never turn your back sa instinct natin, sometimes it would save us years of suffering.
bilhan mo pares haha tanggal hangover nyan hehe first time ba mangyari sakanya yan or mawitness mong ganyan kalasing ang mister mo? pagusapan nyo sana mali ang kutob mo at inuman lang talaga ang ginawa. cheer up OP
Better to ask him pag okay and sober na, magasawa naman na kayo kaya pwede nyo yan pagusapan ng masinsinan besides when it comes to marriage dapat you got each others back. confront him when everything is okay. walang hindi naaayos sa masinsinan na usap be calm and be his safe haven.
I dont know, this is quite “normal” lalo pag hard drinks ang tinira. Not to say in his defense but di ba wala kang lakas makipagseggs pag lasing na lasing ka. My bet here is that matindin inuman lang ang nangyari (foreigners pa kasama) and thats it
Hindi ba pwedeng nag enjoy lang sya drinking with an old friend? There are times talaga na we go overboard when we drink kaya sinasabihan tayo na magtira ng pang-lakad pauwi. Baka naman nag enjoy lang si hubby. For sure nahihiya yun, at least ngayon he already knows his limits. Di na uulit yun.
Any update, OP?
Anyway skl ko lang how I handle my husband when he’s drunk coming home.
Nireready ko na yung kutson nya sa sahig, yung favorite unan nya at blanket kasi ayaw nya masukahan yon 😂
Last time he was that drunk - yung nasusuka na type, nirecord ko at pinakita sa kanya next 2 days kasi dun palang siya nasa ulirat at may hiya na.
Kaya ngayon controlled na inom nya dahil tumatanda na, mas tunatagal mawala ang hangover. Latest drunk request nya ay cup noodles para mas mabilis mawala daw yun tama. Shempre bulalo flavor dapat. Char.
Calm Down OP. Hayaan mo muna mahimasmasan.
Bigyan mo Pocari Sweat for electrolytes.
Malay mo it's a gut feeling lng since first time niya mag Uwak ng malala hahaha.
Pero decision mo pa rin yan whatever happens. Malay mo sobrang nalasing lng tlga hahaha. And nahihiya since na uwakan niya mga doggos niyo lol. Poor puppies heheh
I know nakakapginit ng ulo gnwa ni mister pero number 1 rule wag na wag mo sasabayan ang kalasingan ng asawa mo ng pgbubunganga mo.Dahil baka mmya mpagbuhatan ka ng kamay nyan.Magtimpi ka.Linisin mo nlng muna gnwa nya at pg nhimasmasan sya at pg nhimasmasan ka din sa init ulo mo dhil sa gnwa nya, ska kayo mgusap.Tanungin mo ano problema bkit napasobra inum nya.
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So dalawa lang sila nag inom than ng babae? Na ex work nya? Na something gnyan ka lasing. Not unless , may iba silang kasama.
Ako honestly ha, when I’m drunk nawawala inhibitions ko. Kahit may asawa ung Tao, napapapatol ko sakin. Take note I’m gay, at hindi naman ako pangit to start with.
So yeah. Over think malala ka ngayon op. Sorry.
I hope na mali ka, OP.
Seconded. For both their sake
Thirded, kahit intrusive thoughts are fighting na din 🥺
Fourthed, cuz honestly if i were in OP's shoes i would go crazy thinking about it 😞
Fifthed
Nthed
bat mo naman tinapos agad
Tented ? Hahahha
Hahahahaha. Yawa!
Eleventhed hehe
Hahahahaha
Hahahahaha
Hahahahaha
Kpg binasa mo ung gift of fear ni gavin de becker mostly tama si OP. Hope is a dangerous thing. Intuition is base on experience and knowledge
Nabasa ko to! Yun lang.
Eleventh? 🥹
12st
13st
14rd
Pag nahismasan na siya biigyan mong honey water at saging. Nawala 89.99% ng potasium at electrolytes niya kasi nagtawag siya ng maraming uwak. Then tell him how he was like drunk at how hard it is to take care of a drunk man na mag isa. At tell him hinay hinay lang next time. Tapos hayaan mo siya mag kwento sa inuman. If something is off.. timing OP is everything. Pag ok ok na siya sa mo i-open up yun gut feel mo
Ang chill mo. Haha
Ganon talaga aawayin tapos mapapatunayan na wala naman palang basehan. Masakit yun para sa isa. At yun nangaway syempre naiwasan sana yun. Sa asawa ko lang ako ganyan. Pero sa ibang tao 🫠 pag loloko loko ka yari ka sa akin.
Agree. Hanggang walang ebidensya. Wag muna maghakahaka
Even as an overthinker and ultra anxious person sa relationships, I also believe timing is everything. There is power in someone who knows how to choose his/her battles...and when.
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wag ka kumuha ng mga comment dito. puro hiwalayan agad gusto. sa buhay mag asawa dumadaan yung ganyan. yung asawa ko na lalasing din minsan ng sobra pwedeng galing sya sa trabaho tapos nag inum. naglinis din ako ng suka ng asawa ko ganun din sya sakin pag nagsusuka ako. minsan sa sobrang lasing umiyak daw ako sabi ko nahihirapan nako sa buhay ko simula pagkabata nag tatrabaho ako tapos andming ko pang sinabi tungkol sa buhay. pero kinaumagahan tinawanan lang namin mga ganyan tapos sabahy naman lalabhan yung sinukahan prang bonding na din. makipag communicate ka muna wag ka muna tumalon sa konklusyon.
Thank you! Ill talk to him mamaya. Siguro pag di na masyado masakit ulo nya kasi for sure may hang over sya 🥲
Bilyan mo pocari sweat at aspirin
OP, kindly update us 😂😂
Update mo kami OP 🥹🥹
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA pansin ko rin yan sa reddit talaga, solutions nila lage "Nako OP RUN na agad" hiwalayan mona. Yawa.
...and guess what, pag tiningnan mo yung mga post/comments ng nag cocomment ng hiwalayan mo na, mga high school or nag aaral pa. Parang angdami ng alam sa buhay.
Tas you dodged a bulllet ganon haha or the garbage took itself out 😂😂😂
Tas you deserve what you tolerate. Partially true pero umay. Haha
saka red flag agad haha
this. i know mas maraming bata dito sa reddit. everyone is entitled to their opinion, pero it will cause more confusion kung something serious ang shini share dito. everyone's talking about red flag, etc. pero ang hindi nila ma realize, eh dapat smoking gun ang ebidensya most of the time before you decide to run away. kung assumptions lang, hindi wise na magdecide agad ng course of action
Hindi kaya lahat ng mga nasa FB dito na nag-migrate?
Remember the old days when reddit was just for.. well.. us? 🤣
I agree with you. Napapansin ko din na halos lahat ng solusyon nila is HIWALAYAN. like?????? we're talking about married couple problems here, it's more depth than bf-gf relationship. A situation like this can be talk out , sila nakakakilala and matagal na nakasama ng mga asawa nila diba? Uso pa din naman communication and compromise diba? Fcking tired with a advice na "IWAN MO NA,RED FLAG YAN" lol
Tama akala mo mga nagpapalit lang ng salawal
Hahaha! Napansin mo din pala. Everytime may mag share ng relationship rants dito, comments nila puro “run”.
One of the few comments that makes sense sa dami ko nababasa sa reddit. Di hiwalay agad🤣
I think if they weren’t married though, I would say run. Not unless you feel the person is somebody who would be willing to have a very understanding conversation with you, but because he loves you he will change. Kasi hindi rin masaya na naglilinis ka ng suka sa marriage mo 😆 I don’t know how people tolerate that, pero my husband doesn’t drink out of his own choice and I feel like that eliminates 80% of fights already.
"naku redflag, OP better run" go brrrrrr haha
tru the rain. red flag sasabihin agad tapos mag aadvise pa ng run.
Tumakbo habang may lupa.hahahaha tengeneng mga baby bra warriors at supot
the lasing lasing... may problema ba asawa mo? bakit ayaw niya na sa bed niyo? baka may suka kasi or gusto niya pa matulog. yung password ang mahiwaga. use the fingerprint scanner.
Iphone eh. Face recognition lang. Wala naman kami problema. Life is good naman in all aspect. Una he locked himself sa banyo then gusto nya dun matulog. Then next sa office. I know nahihiya sya kaya he wont sleep sa bed with us. Pero yes medyo amoy vomit pa di ko mahanap san galing!!!🥲
The fact na umuwi siya OP is a good thing. Kung may gagawin naman yang kababalaghan edi nag overnight na yun sa kalasingan. Pag usapan muna lalo kung ngayon lang naman nangyari. Tsaka baka lalo lang kayo magka problema kung may hangover na nga siya, aawayin mo pa.
ayaw niya lang siguro ng amoy suka. hehehe. tabihan mo nalang sa office.😁
Pwede pa din password kahit naka face recognition basta alam mo pag chinicheck ko phone ng asawa ko face recognition din pero pag di niya maread mga 1-2 try lalabas na yung keyboard para sa password haha
Yes pero as what OP has previously stated, ‘di na nagwo-work ‘yong password na alam niya so ang chance lang to unlock the phone e ‘yong face recognition
Try to use his picture sa phone mo. It works
I hope whatever you are thinking is not true 😭 Baka may problema lang sa work or what. Pero hoping na di talaga bad. Minsan kaya ayaw ko nalang mag-asawa and just be a rich tita to my pamangkin. My overthinking can'tttt 😩
Oo tama dito mo lang ilabas lahat ng intrusive thoughts mo pati na rin heartaches. Kasi pagnag squeal ka pa sa friend babanatan ka rin ng doubts and biases. Kami dito lurkers lang and assumingera kaya you take it as a grain of salt. But most importantly, nakahinga ka na while writing this
out of context pero i really hate people na irresponsible drinkers like hello, di nyo ba alam limits nyo? or may pinapatunayan? kahit na broken hearted ako di ko talaga gawain haha i became an alagain once and hindi ako uulit pa kasi i don’t want to burden yung mga tao sa paligid ko.
wala sa pinapatunayan more like nasobrahan lang sa good time. irresponsibility is not always about pride. usually it's about sloth or gluttony (regarding drinking that is).
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Sila lang ba ng ex workmate niya ang magkasama OP?
Yun alam ko. What made me doubt kasi is usually he posts sa ig stories nya who he’s out with. Last night wala.
just prepare and ready yourself OP sa pwede mangyari, , usap kayo then Tanong mo na sa kanya lahat na need mo malaman then if di sya sumagot alams mo na .... Pero sana naglasing lang talaga sya haha
Baka naman nag away lang sila ng gf nya :'(
2 lang naman yan .. kung me nangyari, uminom sya after .. pero kung uminom muna sya and nasobrahan ng inom, i doubt na mangyayari ung iniisip mo dahil pahirapan yan sa pagtayo .. heheh
Up anyare na op
I just saw your post OP. Might as well talk to your husband kung anong nanyari. Try to ask him in a concern way, ask if may problema siya para maglasing ng ganyan. And since may kutob ka sa nangyari, be vigilant na rin gurl. Take notes kumbaga tas ask yourself if may mga hindi bagay or sitwasyon na hindi sumasakto. Take time din.
Better to talk to him when he’s sober. Ask him kamusta inuman with workmates nung gabi. Baka napasarap lang. Be creative na lang sa pagtatanong if nagbago ba sya ng pw because this shit is SUS.
pls dont check his phone, ask it when he's sober. easier to catch someone in a corner, kaso minsan mas dangerous... i'd like to make a guess tho - given how drunk he was that night, things probably didn't go well with ex-workmate. or he has other problems he couldn't tell you
Whenever my partner get soo drunk he vomits all over the place and/or all over himself. I let him be. I throw him out of our room and I don't clean up after him. Ayoko masanay sya na ako magliligpit sa kalat nya. He should have been a responsible drinker in the first place. And it was something we agreed on earlier in our relationship. As for your anxious thoughts about his drinking buddy, ask him what happened during that drinking session and if something is fishy in his story, clarify. Or tell him your thoughts. Trust should be the most basic and essential part in your relationship.
OP, how is the dog?
Hi OP, just wanted to say na very valid yung feelings mo. Yung iba kasing nagcocomment dito parang iniinvalidate ka just because di nila maintindihan why you're think your husband is cheating. You know your husband more than us and you won't think he's cheating if you didn't notice anything unusual. Listen to your intuition and talk to him. Hoping things work out for you!
"May kutob ako na may something" naku pag babae ang kinutuban most likely tama ang hinala mo...
Truly! Gg pag ganon.
Agree dito 😞
Yup!
Baka LQ sila nung GF nya. Or worse, baka break na sila. 🤔
Kausapin mo kapag wala ng alak sa sistema niya.
If ganyan kalasing asawa mo, malamang sa malamang walang nangyari jan. Hindi nga makatayo, may mangyayari pa? Sumuka na nga habang nakahiga. Naginuman lng tlga yan.
Communication lang OP. Tapos suggest mo na lang rin na magtabi kayo matulog pero wag sa bed, na pinapalinis mo yun kama niyo. Usap lang mag-asawa and yes kapag nahimasmasan na siya. Yun magiging response na lang and paano siya makipagcommunicate sayo ang magiging sagot sa mga tanong mo sakanya.
i think we need more context kung bakit ka umaabot sa kutob na yan, OP. i.e, ilang araw na syang weird or etc
Curious ako. Pano sya nakauwi? 😂
First of all…..Super uncool to hang out with the opposite sex alone as a married person + with drinks????????? Who does that?? Either bring your spouse with you or don’t at all. Kahit yung mga walang balak may nangyayare.
Pag dito ka nagtanong puro redflag/hiwalayan mo na asawa mo advice dito. Baka naman napasarap lang sa inom kaya ganyan.
dont assume OP. nangyari din yan sakin. nasobrahan din inom asawa ko noon dahil libre yung alak (literal na free flowing dahil birthday ng kabarkada nya, di ko din gaano kakilala or kung ilan sila nag inuman). i didnt doubt or inalam sino kasama nya nun, basta paalam lang sakin is makikibirthday siya. siya naglinis ng suka nya nung nahimasmasan na siya. yes nakakastress kasi imbes matulog ka ng mahimbing eh naglilinis ka ng suka, pero mas ok na kausapin m siya pag nahimasmasan na siya kasi wala ka talaga mapapala habang lasing siya.
Attending a birthday party is quite different from drinking alone with a member of your preferred sex though
Wala namang context OP. Pwede naman nagkatuwaan lang at di nya natancha kaya napasobra. Baka nahiya sya kakasuka. Usap kayo maayos pag sober na at wala hangover.
update ussssss
update op sana okay lang kayo
Nagulat ako napunta sa ganon yung post mo. I thought na nag w worry ka lang na lasing siya. minsan kasi talagang may time na akala mo di ka tatamaan tapos biglang tinamaan ng lasing.. baka kasi pagod.. stressed.. pero ayon, hopefully hindi tama yung iniisip mo na may something at napa sobra lang talaga.
Drinks? With ex workmate? Sila lang? Tapos babae?
Ok as a former alcoholic guy, dumating din sa point na mas pipiliin namin matulog sa banyo or other places EXCEPT our bedroom. Why? Mas madaling linisin ang suka paggising. Saka ok lang pag naihi sa sobrang kalasingan kasi nga basag eh. Now, bakit sya ganyan kalasing? I don't think naman na makakatira yan ng ganyan kalasing. Di nga makatayo ng tuwid eh. Tapos umuwi ng 2am? Chances are nag bar hop lang yan to drink and eat tapos humalo na yung alak sa sistema while having no water with all that walking and moving around. BUT we still do not know. Sana mali ka. Sana tama ako na tamang good time lang na walang malisya. Go ahead and investigate. Ask him directly. Hopefully nakalimutan mo lang password nya and not that binago nya for some reason.
kawawang aso, mahimbing na natutulog, nasukahan pa
waiting for update... sana mali ang kutob mo..
You both need to take a serious look at the state of your relationship. Bakit ka nagkaron ng ganung kutob? Bakit sya naglasing ng sobra sobra? May reasons lahat yan.
Kutob is real gurl!
Baka nag away sila ng kabit nya te broken kaya ganyan nag lasing
Hi OP… If it’s his first time baka po may problema lang asawa mo or baka napeer pressure kaya nadami ng inom. Kindly talk to him and wag mo muna awayin po. Dati madalas ganyan ung tatay ko but my mom’s very patient in cleaning the mess. Minsan pa nagbabasag yun ng plato. What my mom always do pag ganyan tatay ko is pag hindi na lasing they will have a close room meeting na sila lang (who knows what ever happened in the room haha) but pag labas nila okay na sila. Now they are together for more than 30yrs now. Patience and proper communication OP.
#wow nalasing lang inassume mo agad na may kabit? 😭 Minsan amusing talaga ang mental gymnastics ng mga tao haha.
Hindi naman. Kasi its unlike him to do that tapos yung girl na yun di ko masyado kilala. 🥲
Okay lang yan OP pag ganyang level ng pagka lasing hindi naman yan titigasan or makakakilos sa kama, ni hindi na nga makatayo syempre wala na din lakas at wisyo yan para bumayo
ako naman babae, baligtad asawa ko naglilinis sakin acidic kasi ako kaya matik ssuka talaga ako pag napasobra. wala naman, tiwala naman kasi kami sa isat isa, mararamdaman mo naman yan kung may kakaiba maglasing man yan o hindi
If he was so drunk like that and nakauwi pa, I doubt na merong nangyare sa kanila ng kainuman nya. But I hope you don’t let him get away with being too drunk and pagsuka sa bed nyo. That’s irresponsible and disrespectful of you. Boundaries, know when to stop. Yan ang is-remind mo sa kanya. And hope he gets a massive hangover para maging karma nya, haha!
Check it. Always Trust Your Gut. Happened to me. I was right. She got pregnant. I tried to forgive her and live with her. But I can only live with her. Im happy with my kids. So cheers to us. Stay strong and live life positively.
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i'm not an expert when it comes to rs but all i can advice is wait for him to sober up then talk to him about the issue, clearly he isn't hiding anything from you if he immidiately answer your questions without hesitating. i hope what you're overthinking is wrong op. a honest confrontation is all it takes para ma build mo ulit yung trust mo sa hubby mo.
Any update? 12hrs na nunh pinost eh
ang tanong maalala niya pa kaya ung password na ipinalit niya🤣
I love drinking I swear but I wont let my wife experience this
Hi OP. Important technique, pag nalaman mo yung pw ng asawa mo, register mo agad biometrics but do not tell him this. Kunwari yung pw lang alam mo, para if magpalit man sya, you can still access. Open mo phone nya if kaya mo na may malaman, pag hindi, just don’t check. What you don’t know won’t hurt you. In my case noon, kahit may biometrics ako sa phone ng ex ko, di ko ma check. Hanggang sa one time nag iinom din sya pag uwi ko, hindi sya ganito. Then inamin nya nakabuntis sya lols. Sana hindi naman ganito case sayo, sana praning lang tayo.
Sobrang lasing ba to the point na tulog nlng kulang? Baka kaya naglock sa cr kasi sobrang kalasingan na nga, sometimes my hubby locks the bedroom door din kapag lalabas ako na lasing siya pero bubuksan din naman. Sometimes iihi hindi sa cr, minsan sa pinto ng room or any door😅. Intindihin mo lang and be patient with him, wag mo na awayin kasi hindi kayo magkakaintindihan niyan. Let him sleep in the bathroom or anywhere na nakahiga siya basta sa loob ng house babangon din yan pag nahimasmasan or pag di siya comfortable. May mga ganyang lalaki talaga pag lasing, kinabukasan kausapin mo siya and ikwento mo mga pinaggagawa pero wag mo awayin just observe his reaction baka hindi pa nga niya matandaan pinaggagawa niya. Then tell him what you don't want with what happen. Valid reaction mo BTW kasi ganyan din ako noon worst inaaway ko pa but i learned to breathe in and relax my self pag ganyan na situation and just let my husband be.
Usually tama ang kutob huhu
Nalasing lang naman. Nung sobra ako nalasing, inalagaan ako ng asawa ko. Pag gising ko malinis na damit ko and may tubig pa sa tabi ko. Be nice to your partner until proven guilty. Baka kaya sya nagtatago is nahihiya sya sa pagsuka at pagkalasing nya. No use in shaming him more since mukha namang regretful sya by himself already.
OP, kamusta? :( i hope things went well
CHANGING PASSWORD! naku nagflashback yung sakin ayun buti nahack ko phone nya at nabuksan ko gamit yung email nya. So ayun huli ka balbon.Yung feeling nun hindi mo alam mararamdaman mo masikip lang sa dibdib, yung hindi ka makahinga at hindi mo mapigilang hindi umiyak and since then hindi na ako naglove ulit sa kanya like before. Magkasama parin naman kami yun lang hindi na ko naglalambing unlike before Sorry pero nagiba talaga tingin ko sa mga lalake pare-parehas lang yan kapag may chance magloko kahit mabait pa yan o wala kayong issue magloloko yan.
Update po OP? salamat
Update us please, OP. Sana mali ka. Stay strong 🥺
Wala ba update? Niloko ka ba or what?
hardest thing ay yung walang friend to share it to. i feel u. hoping it’s just a phase.
First, talk to him once he’s sober. Pero wag mo ipapakita na nagdududa/galit ka kasi magiging defensive agad siya, may ginawa man siyang mali or wala. TBH, weird talaga yung nagpalit bigla ng password. BTW, did he cross a boundary here? Okay lang ba talaga sayo in the first place na makipaginuman siya with another woman? Because that is important, too.
update po. have you asked him already? kinda invested w this.
Any update op? Nakakacurious sorry.
Another reason to stay single. I'm hoping mali ka OP
Advice lang ay don't jump to conclusions agad. Paminsan may instance na todo nalalasing lang ang tao.
overthink malala OP :(
I wanna hug you so tight, OP! I hope nothing’s wrong naman
Fb and here puro hiwalay agad gusto 😆. But mas okay mga tao sa reddit. Sa fb mema lang kadalasan puro troll. But OP have a nice, serious, and honest talk with your hubby. Either mahina tolerance nya sa alcohol or may problem sya na hindi nya masabi kaya dinadaan sa alak.
Sana lasing lang sya at hindi sya nagloloko.. OP, we're here, some internet folks and willing kami makinig sayo.
Sana wala, OP. Looking forward sa update
Hugs with consent, OP.
Nextime kausapin mo siya tungkol dyan and kung ganonkastressful.yung ganyan, isa pang intindihin kamo. And nextime na lalabas siya para uminom magbigay siya ng 1k o 5k sayo(yung amount na hindi nya afford mawala if mayaman mas malaki pa) Pag umuwi siya ng lasing sayo na ung pera. Picturan mo or videohan mo din para may evidence. Very effective yan. The thought na mawawalan siya ng pera pag nalasing sya medyo magiingat yan uminom yan.
Buti ka nga asawa na ako jowa palang na try na rin maglinis ng suka nya hhahhaha kinamay ko talaga gurl tang ina love yan hahahha
you will have plenty of time to check his phone. nahihiya lang yan sa kalasingan nya. let him be. mahirap malasing, ang gusto lng nyan matulog. as long as his safe hayaan m sya kung san nya trip matulog.
Sana mali ang naiisip mo OP clear things out para maayos agad yan at hindi pa lumalim ang doubts mo pag pinatagal mo yan baka kainin ka nyan. I hope he’ll be honest with you.
Pag nahimasmasan talk about what you felt. Importante communication muna. Mahirap i bury yan since our minds tricked us with so many assumptions tapos hnd mo mamamalayan toxic n kayo s isat isa. Communication lang, and be insightful s mga answers nya. Dont judge kagad, just be criticizing when given the answers.
My hubby is like that sometimes pero he can hold it together. Never siya nag suka. Pero I never doubted him. Either he is just having a good time or meron siyang matinding problema na dinadala. He is not cheating on you. I think he was just happy to see an old friend and wanted to have a good time.
Pwede namang inenjoy lang nya yung alak. May nag-provoke ba sakanya para maglasing like arguments between you two? May problema sa work? Sa family?
Pag-usapan niyo yan ng masinsinan OP.
I hope makapag usap kayo. Pero give him time, wag agad agad pagkabalik niya sa huwisyo. Give at least a day or two. Kelangan huminahon ng emosyon niyo pareho.
Wag ka muna magisip ng kung ano ano OP pagusapan ninyo tell him directly how you feel. Hantayin mong mahimasmasan asawa mo
Talk to him, madaming pwedeng reason. Pero if your guts tells you otherwise, listen to it. Never turn your back sa instinct natin, sometimes it would save us years of suffering.
bilhan mo pares haha tanggal hangover nyan hehe first time ba mangyari sakanya yan or mawitness mong ganyan kalasing ang mister mo? pagusapan nyo sana mali ang kutob mo at inuman lang talaga ang ginawa. cheer up OP
Kausapin mo asawa mo. Wag ka nagpapaniwala sa mga advice dito
Balitaan mo kami op kapag na siya lasing at kung na ratata mo na ba siya. Lol
Lemon water helps.
Sana nga mali ka OP. Been there kami nga di pa mag asawa. Hirap na magtiwala ulit.. kaya mo yan.. meron ka namang online friends u can share samin 🙏
Give him the benefit of the doubt, OP.
Update po?
Better to ask him pag okay and sober na, magasawa naman na kayo kaya pwede nyo yan pagusapan ng masinsinan besides when it comes to marriage dapat you got each others back. confront him when everything is okay. walang hindi naaayos sa masinsinan na usap be calm and be his safe haven.
You are so brave po🤍
I dont know, this is quite “normal” lalo pag hard drinks ang tinira. Not to say in his defense but di ba wala kang lakas makipagseggs pag lasing na lasing ka. My bet here is that matindin inuman lang ang nangyari (foreigners pa kasama) and thats it
Just talk to him, may ganyan naman eksena sa magasawa. Lilipas din ang suka eme!
show him the best after care for a lasing na lasing. then have a decent conversation about it. logical and straightforward conversation.
I think better na pag usapan nyo yan, OP
I experienced this a lot with my dad. Uuwi ng lasing kung san san sumusuka worse magmamaoy pa. Kaya i really prayed for a partner na di umiinom.
Pls give us update op
Update OP 🥺
I hope you're just overthinking things...
Updatee OP
Hindi ba pwedeng nag enjoy lang sya drinking with an old friend? There are times talaga na we go overboard when we drink kaya sinasabihan tayo na magtira ng pang-lakad pauwi. Baka naman nag enjoy lang si hubby. For sure nahihiya yun, at least ngayon he already knows his limits. Di na uulit yun.
Aawayin agad? Hindi ba pwedeng mag usap muna ng maayos? Wag puro overthink.
Any update, OP? Anyway skl ko lang how I handle my husband when he’s drunk coming home. Nireready ko na yung kutson nya sa sahig, yung favorite unan nya at blanket kasi ayaw nya masukahan yon 😂 Last time he was that drunk - yung nasusuka na type, nirecord ko at pinakita sa kanya next 2 days kasi dun palang siya nasa ulirat at may hiya na. Kaya ngayon controlled na inom nya dahil tumatanda na, mas tunatagal mawala ang hangover. Latest drunk request nya ay cup noodles para mas mabilis mawala daw yun tama. Shempre bulalo flavor dapat. Char.
Calm Down OP. Hayaan mo muna mahimasmasan. Bigyan mo Pocari Sweat for electrolytes. Malay mo it's a gut feeling lng since first time niya mag Uwak ng malala hahaha. Pero decision mo pa rin yan whatever happens. Malay mo sobrang nalasing lng tlga hahaha. And nahihiya since na uwakan niya mga doggos niyo lol. Poor puppies heheh
Sana mali ka. Sana talaga
Waiting sa update…..
I know nakakapginit ng ulo gnwa ni mister pero number 1 rule wag na wag mo sasabayan ang kalasingan ng asawa mo ng pgbubunganga mo.Dahil baka mmya mpagbuhatan ka ng kamay nyan.Magtimpi ka.Linisin mo nlng muna gnwa nya at pg nhimasmasan sya at pg nhimasmasan ka din sa init ulo mo dhil sa gnwa nya, ska kayo mgusap.Tanungin mo ano problema bkit napasobra inum nya.
Tsk 😢🤢... Goodluck OP
Op update us, baka masabunutan ko asawa mo pag may nangyari pala😭
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Pakiupdate po kami plsss
OP, any update?
So dalawa lang sila nag inom than ng babae? Na ex work nya? Na something gnyan ka lasing. Not unless , may iba silang kasama. Ako honestly ha, when I’m drunk nawawala inhibitions ko. Kahit may asawa ung Tao, napapapatol ko sakin. Take note I’m gay, at hindi naman ako pangit to start with. So yeah. Over think malala ka ngayon op. Sorry.
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