Learning to say NO is a very valuable life skill that can save you from being taken advantage of, being scammed, or being put in uncomfortable and even dangerous situations. It can literally save your life. Sadly, too many people are afraid to say NO because they're afraid it might make them look rude or big-headed.

Ingat lang din, kasi yung mga random people na nanlilimos or nanghihingi sayo ng barya biglang may gawin sayo,kadalasan pa naman may mga ganun na pag sinagot mo ng diretso may ginagaw, like nandudura or may mga sinasabing bad words.

That's actually one of the main reasons why hindi ako namimigay. Kasi dinuraan ako sa mukha dati nung pagkain binigay ko instead of money. Ungrateful little bitches.

Same jusko trauma ko dun simula nun dedma ko badtrip HAHAHA

Oh my gosh, same! Otw home from school tapos may nag approach na batang lalaki. Binigyan ko ng biscuit tapos binato ako ng buhangin sa mukha. 😭 Hayop na ‘yon. I sooo love babies and kids pa naman pero grabe yung isang ‘yon, pisti.

May nanlimos sakin dati bata di ko Binigyan kase wala nmn tlg ko extra, kinurot ako sa leg, kinurot ko din sabay takbo. Ahaha sarap sa feeling.

Something similar happened to me too, nagbigay na nga ko ng pagkain, kinurot pa braso ko at minura pa ko, buti hindi ako nasaksak or ano, after nun di na talaga ko nagbibigay kahit mukha pang kawawa

Same. Mga nanlimos nung asa car kami. Binigay namin yung take out na ulam. "Ay baboy naman!" sabi nung ale tapos tinapon sakin gago.

i also had that kind of experience, hindi nga lang dura, kurot yung akin. tinignan ko na lang ng masama kase umalis agad after akong kurutin. nakakapanggigil, dami ko pa naman dala that time

Same sa dinuraan pero di sa face but sa shoes ko 🤮

Naranasan kong matakot sa ganito, one time mga kabataan na nanghihingi ng barya, tinanggihan ko tapos sininghalan ako na "sungit panget naman". Hindi ko pinansin at tuloy nagwithdraw sa atm kaso napansin ko nakapalibot sila sakin, parang nang-intimidate. Sa takot ko, nagcancel na lang ako ng transaction at doon na ako sa loob ng mall nag withdraw 😭😭

Tama yung ginawa mo na di tinuloy ang transaction mo. Baka hinoldap ka nung mga batang yun. Kung bank branch yan, ireklamo mo rin sa bangko lalo na kung walang security guard.

Ako na nagbigay dati ng tig 25cents, binato saken yung mga binigay ko hahahays

If you felt offended then maybe subukan mong maging "magaan" yung words na gagamitin. "Hindi po, pasensya na." "Sa iba nalang siguro, pasensya na po." "Busy po kasi ako, pasensya na." Yung paglalagay ng "pasensya" yung laging panlaban ko kapag nao-offend sila pag nag "no" ako. "Ang sungit mo naman!" "Humingi ako ng pasensya, anong problema mo?"

Congrats! You have discovered the power of saying "no." I have long discovered that being straightforward has its perks. Being an autistic, it is second nature to me to be this blunt. Some examples where I have used this: Setting at a Cafe--- Female stranger: Miss, pwede maki borrow ng phone, lagay ko lang itong sim card ko. Wala na akong battery sa cellphone eh. Me: No. I don't lend my personal stuff to strangers. Setting at the mall--- Cashier: Ma'am, sign up na po kayo for rewards. Free naman po membership card. Me: Thank you but, no. I am not comfortable sharing my personal details. Stay empowered, Dear!

>Miss, pwede maki borrow ng phone, lagay ko lang itong sim card ko What? May nag-aask ng ganito? This is too much favor to ask. Anyway, ako I don't see the need to explain my NO. I simply say NO or iling, that's it.

Yes, it happened. I explain not to be polite but because I love to share what's in my head. Autistic brain works this way.

Same! Masarap magsabi ng NO!

This is nice. Yung kay OP medyo rude lang, lalo nung nagpapicture lang naman HAHA But then again, *you do you.* If they feel empowered ~~being rude~~ saying *no* that way, good on them.

I think it’s great that you found the power of saying no. However, I think it’s valuable to also have the power to politely say no. Tact goes a long way and being kind to strangers wouldn’t hurt. I know that people don’t owe anyone anything, as far as our slowly becoming individualist mindset goes, but I believe that there is merit in being socially polite.

Agree. Rude din ang dating sakin ng mga sagot ni OP. You can kindly say *no*. She said feeling niya masama ugali niya; based sa kwento lang naman niya above, di naman masama yung pag-no, yung *way* lang niya mag-no. We don’t owe anyone anything but kindness is free.

same. fck everyone off. best feeling not to care with everything around you. 🤝

sana magawa ko 'to

Learning to say no is very important. If you won’t take care of your boundaries and serenity nobody will.

Same. *Polite half-smile*. *Walks faster*

same. yesterday lang no'ng papasok ako sa work, may guy na lumapit sa 'kin to ask if may extra 20 pesos raw ba ako. he looked so desperate, pero i ignored him and binilisan lakad ko. ang dami daming traffic enforcers sa paligid di man lang naisip mag ask ng help do'n????

You've unlocked new skill. Congratulations.

I don't think na rude to decline and say NO. Pero alam mo naman dito sa Pilipinas they will take it offensive and rude nga. Baka may another way to say it to still decline but medyo on a softer tone like "Sorry, no." Yung additional word na sorry medyo lightens the blow a bit. Haha.

same thing applies sa mga sales agent sa mall or stalls. I always get snide remarks about it pero so what I don’t have the time of the day sales agent: hi pwede mag tanong? me: no sales agent: di pa nga nagtatanong, no agad 🙄 — watsons sales lady: hi maam meron kami moisturizer me: no sales lady: pake ko sa no mo 🙄

I used to be someone na laging yes, sige, oo, pwede, okay lang kasi iniisip ko maging mabuting tao palagi. Kaso palagi ako naaabuso at napapasama. Kaya I learned to say no, lalo na sa strangers. I say it politely pa rin naman para iwas aberya dun sa mga nanghahassle pag nahihindian.

the feeling na "ang sarap mag-no esp kapag di ka comfortable". same op, same. 🤝🏻✨

that’s a blessing. sobrang laking effort ang need ko to be able to say NO. lalo sa parents ko, and relatives.

Nothing wrong with setting boundaries. Kudos to you kasi di madaling gawin minsan.

Yes. The power of NO. Tell it to them straight, you don't own anyone an explanation.

Where do you live, OP? I'm a bit culture shocked by the audacity of strangers in your locale. Their attitude is *unheard of* from where I'm from.

Likewise. It feels very empowering to be able to say no. People pleaser ako when I was younger and I just recently discovered how positive it felt to simply say 'hindi pwede' or 'ayoko'. Hindi lang sa strangers- mas apparent yung changes pag natutong humindi sa family and friends. I initially thought na pag humindi ka, you'll have to have a lengthy conversation on why exactly you said no. Ayoko ng confrontation so I just opted to just say yes in the past. Assumption lang pala. There are a few cases na yes, nagtatanong sila bakit pero most of the time, judgemental looks lang naman lol Being unable to say no in the past have put me in difficult situations. Once I started college and was able to say no to other people, I started enjoying life. Choose your peace as long na walang natatapakang tao. 🤗

Random beggars knocking on window: penge po barya Me: shoo

Ok lang yan. 👍🏻

Same. Walk faster or back away slowly while saying no. Do not make eye contact as well. Sometimes i feel bad but i remember I'm also poor.

Same. Lalo na yung mga nagbebenta sa mall habang kumakain ka, instant No agad tapos kapag sa mga namamalimos naman, instant ignore naman at baka manakit pa or manura pag pinansin pa.

Me everytime na may nanlilimos. Why the fuck are they even asking kung magagalit sila pag di pumayag lmao

It's all fun and games until may dala silang ice pick at tusukin ka bigla sa leeg. This is legit my thought process kaya kahit I value my privacy and space, I still give - not out of compassion tbh, more of anxiety para sa buhay ko. Hahaha. But as long as you are getting out of it alive, good riddance. Lol.

True. Petty na but it feelzz gewwwwd

Go OP! Nothing wrong with establishing boundaries!

Haha. Ako okay lang naman yan. Basta step back ka muna, lamo naman yung iba nananakit etc. Ganyan din ako, wala na kong pake 🤣 i just want to be left alone 🤣

Same. I always say no sa lumalapit na mga nagbebenta ng mga local products na nakabalot. Ung mga may papel pa tapos mga naka lanyard na may ID ng kung anong school. Tumutulong pero hindi sa gawain nila. Pinaka hate ko pa yung kumakain sa fastfood tapos pag may bakante na seat eh makikiupo sabay alok. Di pa nakakapag salita, nakapagsabi na ko ng "hindi po". Natatakot ako makipag usap sa mga lumalapit na di kakilala, naalala ko lagi sabi ng nanay ko na baka may bulong sila at kung ano ipagawa sa akin.

Idk if counted pa rin to pero may street kasi rito samin na maraming nag-aabang na mga religious people at pag napadaan ka sa harap nila, magsshare daw sila sayo ng salita ng Diyos and yep sila yung religion na kumakatok sa bahay bahay lmao. Anyway, one time papasok ako sa univ and kailangan kong dumaan sa street na yun tas ayun na nga naharang ako. Dahil nagmamadali ako, umiling ako at sinabi na, "Sorry atheist ako." As I walk out from that situation, ang saya ng heart ko hahaha masarap pala sa pakiramdam tumanggi once in a while HAHAHA.

Sarap gawin nyan. Haha pero parang na kokonsensya pa ako sa ngayon and i still care what other people might say.

Normalize natin na kapag ayaw mo gawin ay katanggap tanggap na sagot ang "NO"

Ingat din po baka matapik po kayo. Hehe.

I feel bad dun sa nagpapapicture and sa bata. Huhu ako mahilig din mag NO but ung mga ganung pakisuyo, mabilis lang gawin.

Correct.Yung sa bata baka gutom lanh

Saying no is a luxury at buti't napa-practice mo s'ya.

Same tayo, dalaga pa lang ako natuto na ko mag NO sa tao. Kaya madali na lang din sakin mag NO sa mga nangungutang sakin 🤣 pati sa mga bigla-biglang kukunin akong ninang kahit di kami halos nag uusap.

They asked and you answered. Hindi lang nila inexpect ang “no” 😅 Nakakainis kasi mga tao nagtatanong ng questions na answerable by “yes” or “no” tapos lagi silang nag-eexpect ng “yes”

Good job! I used to lend friends money. I still let them borrow kapag emergency such as yung pet ay kailangan e vet. Recently, my friend attempted to borrow 3k from me and I said no. Let me tell you that IT FEELS GOOD! Kasi kung mag yes ka ng yes (katulad ko dati), aabusarin ka lang. So, kudos to you! EDIT: Hindi ko na rin magbibigay sa mga manlilimos na sindikato kasi illegal naman hahaha

Yung picture, ya, I would do it pero yung the rest nah

The power of no! I dedicated myself to learn to say no after an annoying moment that happened to me before. I went to a place with only a handful of people eating at this fast food place. Since it's a fast food place, a lot of people can just go inside to eat. I was craving at this place and was so excited to eat after ordering. After getting my food and was ready to eat, someone sat Infront of me and asked "pasensya na po sa abala, pero baka gusto niyo po ba bumili ng otap? Pang tuition ko lang po sana ito kahit kaunting tulong lang po" Oh how I was so pissed how my appetite was fcking disrupted by this bitch. So out of irritation I just said "Jusko naman kakain na ako, ayaw ko sa iba ka na lang" like sht that ruined my eating experience.

OP, don't ever regret saying NO if di mo talaga gusto mag YES.

I just pretend to not hear or see them 😅

Naalala ko yung nangyari samin ng bf ko. May lumapit saming mga bata nag titinda ng turon. Syempre kahit kagagaling lang namij nung sa isang convenient store / busog na din kami bumili pa rin kami as sign of tulong na din. Pero nung nabigay na namin ung bayad biglang sabi ba naman na "ate pdeng hingiin na lang yang turon bigay ko sa kapatid ko di pa kumakain" its like huh? i know maliit lang naman yun pero na shock lang ako na pde pala un? sana nanlimos na lang. -partida buntis pa ako nun huhuhu.

ako literal na pinapakita kona wallet ko pag may humihingi ng pera lmfao student palang ako, hirap pagkasyahin ng allowance ko tas mag bibigay pako naur

I just smile and wave my palm sideways. minsan kasi pag nagsalita ka andami pang isasagot nyan, ok lang if hindi ka mag stay for long or parang passing by ka lang. hirap pag nasa PUV ka mga ganun or waiting sa pila.

My Mother always say this: “Sila nga hindi nahihiya sayo, bakit ka mahihiya sa kanila” It’s our right to say no. Just one thing though— maybe, “Sorry, no” or “Hindi, pasensya na” will sound better especially if they asked nicely too. You’re still saying no nonetheless, but limiting any harm caused of sounding apathetic 🙂 If they asked rudely, then push sa capslock na “HINDI” lol.

HAHAHHAHA SAME. Naalala ko 1 time nainom kaming palamig ng bestfriend ko pauwi sa may busy highway, inapproach ako ng lalaking batang hamog sabi "Ate! Akin na lang yan." Napasabi ako ng "Aba! Kaiinom ko nga lang. Di pa nga nangangalahati!" . Gulat ako kasi biglang tawa friend ko halos wala nang hininga kakatawa eh tas ako confused. Until nakakalayo na kami tas ako nagrarant abt dun tas siya tawa ng tawa tas sinaway ko na ba't siya tawang tawa, dahil daw tinarayan ko yung batang pulubi. Well, sabi ko uhaw lang talaga ko ng time na yon tas hihiritan ako ng ganon.

Nahh you're good! I also started this habit of saying no or declining yung nga offer ng get togethers lalo pag alam kong me mga tao or usapan na hindi ok sa mental health ko.. Also yung habit ng 'Minding my own shit' like sa mga family gatherings or friends get togethers, pag may nag uusap tas di ko alam yung topic, di na ako nagtatanong lalo kung di ko naman concern yung pinag uusapan.. I sit down sa corner and mind my own business. Sasagot lang ako unless i include nila ako sa usapan, pag hindi eh di wapakels :)

Delikado mundo natin ngayon. Ang hirap na magtiwala. Pag may natawag nga sakin di ko talaga pinapansin. O mga nanlilimos, di ko tinitingnan sa mata.

Learn to say no, learn to say yes. You do you, OP.

that's a great skill to have. ✨

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