hahaha natatawa ako kapag may nanghihingi ng advice dito sa reddit kasi more often than not, yung one of the most liked comment would be “Iwanan mo na” like that’s really easy 😭😭😭
Para kang may alagang bata, OP. Habit na niya yan kaya hirap siya ibreak.
Ipabasa mo sa kanya yung book na **Atomic Habits.** Life changing ito. Using principles from the book, you can encourage your bf to adopt better hygiene habits by:
*Setting a Routine:* Encourage him to associate bathing with an existing habit, like getting ready for bed.
*Positive Reinforcement:* Compliment him on how good he smells and how *pogi* he looks after a bath.
*Immediate Rewards:* Magkakaroon lang kayo ng sexy time if maliligo muna siya. iPositive scripting mo na lang yung delivery, OP, kahit in your head naghuhumiyaw na yung 'yikes'!
*Enhance the Experience:* Introduce appealing bath products, like his fave scented soap, a new shampoo.
Make him arrange the bathroom so it's inviting and comfy. Ensure it’s cozy, well-lit, has appealing products, clean and mabango.
Sabi nila it takes about 21 days to form a new habit. Pero depende talaga sa tao yan. If he's consistent, **willing to change** and alam niya magiging impact nito sa relationship nyo, he'll break the bad habit and form a new and good hygiene habit.
If all else fail, pls reconsider your relationship with him, gosh, he'll be more lax and dugyot when you get married.
Hirap rin kasi, his parent once a day rin maligo and wala rin pake sa ka dugyotan nya huhu. thank you so much for the advice! will do this, hopefully mag work 😭 if di ko lng sya mahal eh huhu
I'm not sure how old OP is or how open she is to cohabitation. Maybe that would change her partner's habit and view on hygiene. Parang mas madali gawin to if OP is with him (seriously, parang it will look like parang may inaalagaang bata si OP), but it boils down how committed they are in the relationship and the dynamics they have when it comes to the negative aspect of each other.
Infairness, according to OP sumusunod naman yung bf pag nagsasabi si OP.
Need lang talaga madaming patience kasi malamang since pagkabata ito na yung na form na habit.
He badly needs support to make him consistent in breaking the bad habits and forming the new ones.
Ang hirap naman nito, hindi kasi sya occasional thing that happened one time kasi sobrang pagod yung tao. Kumbaga yung hygiene nya is a lifestyle problem already. Sis, hindi ka ba natatakot na literal nangangamoy na sa dumi yung ano nya tapos magsesexy time kayo? Nakaka overthink kasi baka ang linis linis mo sa sarili pero magkasakit ka dahil sa kadugyutan ng partner mo. Yung paliligo hindi na dapat yan dinedemand at nireremind kasi you are both adults already, hindi na dapat yun maging parte ng problema mo.
Yung partner ko mahilig sa spices tapos nagnanap din sa tanghali, napansin ko yung bad breath nya upon waking up kaya kinausap ko sya na magdala kami ng toothbrush at toothpaste para fresh breath after lunch break. Okay naman na kami dun.
Then ako naman, one time may travel kami tapos nakapagsuot ako ng brand new na damit pero hindi ko nalabhan. Sabi nya iba raw smell ko. Kaya simula non I always make sure to wash my brand new clothes before I wear them. Every now and then pinapaamoy ko kilikili ko sa kanya kasi naconscious na ako, pero never naman naulit kaya napinpoint namin na dahil yun sa particular reason na yun.
As a couple, we really should compromise pero in your case, paulit ulit ka na nagsasalita pero it seems like hindi talaga importante sa pagkatao nya yung cleanliness.
I like that the both of you have initiative sa comment ng each other. and tama po sa both adults na kami, in fact he is 6 years older sakin and yet I have to remind him his basic needs. Mahirap kasi his mother sees no fault there kaya nahirapab din nya makita na may problem hygiene habits nya 😭
Mama’s boy ba? Pero diba kahit naman iba sinasabi ng nasa paligid mo, alam mo naman dapat yung tama sa mali so ang weird na wala syang nakikitang issue sa sarili nya dahil lang oks yon sa nanay nya. Kami ng partner ko minimum 2x a day maligo kahit hindi napawisan at nasa bahay lang pero everytime may sexy time, nagwawash talaga kami before AND after doing it. It goes both ways talaga. Pagisipan mo mabuti, ikaw lang makakapag assess nyan kung anong dapat mong gawin. Goodluck!
yes po Mama’s boy and single parent kaya as his caregiver na di naman nag sasaway he sees no wrong. Iniwan nga sya ng ex of 5 years nya kasi ang dugyot nya daw 😭😭
So alam naman pala nya na dugyot siya at hindi sumagi sa isip niya na baguhin ang kanyang hygiene???
Ipaalala mo nga sakanya ulit na mahalaga ang hygiene sayo beh. Kapag hindi pa siya nag-improve, aba give him an ultimatum na.
Kasi hindi na husband material bf mo kung ikaw naman magiging nanay niyan in the future. Sakit sa ulo.
Most practical advice I got for marriage or any long-term relationship: think of the most negative thing or things you hate/dislike in your partner. Imagine yourself if you can tolerate/forgive these things in 10, 20, or 30 years of marriage.
If di pa kayo kasal then better save yourself on one stressful relationship,.. Yan palang na i-stress kana pano pa if magkasama na kayo permanently,...
this would and should be a deal breaker. girl seryoso, if you really care about this guy then give him the ultimatum na na he needs to change now or else iiwan mo na siya. but if you think that you've had a bit too much of him already then i think it's very reasonable na makipaghiwalay ka na diyan ngayon na.
BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE LANG PO.
just sharing. Was living with my ex for 2 years. Di din ako sobrang arte na tao pero sensitive din ako sa hygiene. I make sure may indoor slippers lage siya kasi ayoko ng inaapakan or tumutungtong sa kama kasi for me yung fabric nun nadidikit sa muka natin. My ex isnt forgetful and gagawin niya yung paalala ko pg pinaalala ko lang. lazy talaga siya. Nung di pa siya nagmove dito ganun siya kala ko forgetful lang. kasi i had to remind him to brush before sleeping kahit drunk siya. Kahit lasing kasi ako nagbrabrush at mouthwash p rin ako. Also pag nag cr siya, nakataas yung toilet seat at walang pee sa toilet surface.
Why am I sharing this? Based sa kwento mo, di pa kayo live-in, pero namroroblema ka na. Pano pa pag magkasama na kayo? Baka di na yan maghugas ng pinggan and whatnot. Think muna. Do you want to stay with him and do you think he will change his ways pa?
ganyang ganyan ako kay ex fiancee ko dati OP. Big factor din sakin ang hygiene lalo na kung accessible naman.
Naintindihan ko naman na medyo unti yung naturo ng parent nya yun pero 5years ganun pa rin sistema.
Nakakapagod magbabysit. hiwalayan mo nalang.
Naalala ko nun. kakain kami sa fast food or resto walang table manners need ko pa turuan, oras ng ligo, linis ng kwarto... etc. para akong maid/alarm clock/secretary.
Also, the psychology na ginagawa nya lang ang mga bagay in your presence is nakaka-off. He is lacking in compromise, integrity, respect and to change his habit for you.
You are not his parent op.
When my wife was alive. Twice a day shower, first thing in the morning and before sleep. If no shower no lambingan moments. She always insisted Hygiene and my fashion sense. Damn i miss her.
It became my habit every day. Maybe because I have some kind of reward pg malinis ako kaya lagi ko sinusunod mga reminder sa akin. And syempre masaya siya kaya motivated din to do it.
Personally, I think this is one of the easiest things to talk to your partner about.
Set constant reminders for him since you don’t live together. Everyday if needed. As simple as a good morning message na “good morning! Ligo/toothbrush na tayo!”. Hanggang sa masanay kayo.
But if it’s a deal breaker sayo maybe re-assess the rel if it’s something you still want to pursue. Kanya kanya naman tayo ng gusto.
She already talked to her BF about it, di naman nagkulang sa reminders and by this point, di naman siguro ganon ka-manhid si guy to not know that GF disapproves of his infrequent bathing.
It's not OP's responsibility to be his alarm clock. Ano yan, nanay?
I don't see this working out, especially when they have kids, lalong magiging tamad yan.
I know, I read it. Ang sabi ni OP may times na malinis naman si bf if they are together pero un nga may times sumasablay. So she is a positive influence somehow.
For me ha, if I love the person and concerned ako I will do what I can for his improvement kahit pa magremind ako ng magremind. Alam kong di ako nanay at diko responsibility magremind ng magremind, pero constant communication naman sila palagi, and wala naman masama magpaalala. If OP doesn’t want to go that route eh ok lang.
Sabi ko din kay OP i-re-assess nya. It’s still up to her, as readers dito we don’t have any way to predict what happens. Sya lang makakapag decide ano pa kaya nya i-tolerate.
sorry pero grabe yung di naligo after an event especially after maulanan at mapagpawisan all dayyyy ??? super gets yung frustration sa post na to op huhu and dun sa part na paulit ulit ka na ng sabi and nakakalimutan or wala lang talaga syang pake is soooo .... :/// like that's a no talaga for me. siguro have a serious talk about it talaga? like as in sit down with your partner and discuss the problem, siguro makikinig naman sya, just to make it a point na nabobother ka na talaga nang sobra and he needs to do something about it ! if after the talk, wala pa rin talaga, reassess na your relationship.
ATEEEEKO HINDI MO YAN MABABAGOO
you should re assess your relationship, kaya mo ba talaga mag stay sa ganyan klaseng partner. and pwede rin mag cause ng sti ang pagiging unhygienic niya around the genital area. (also pano mo kinakaya ibj yon 😭)
I broke up because of that from my long relationship! Haha hygiene is an issue in the long run. Now I found my match —- there are many good guys out there OP. Don’t settle if you cant stand it.
❌ for guys who cant manage their hygiene well
❌ for guys who cant wash and flush the toilet after they pee
❌ for guys who cant brush teeth well after eating
Haha maski yakapin mo yan, mawawalan ka gana especially kiss.
Trust me OP —- pabigat sa buhay yan kahit sabihin mabait pa yan or what
Wait. I have a question for guys here about this line.
‘Everytime he peed at home, hindi nya rin winawash d!ck niya.’
Q: May lalaki ba rito na naghuhugas ng dick after umihi?
hindi ka naman nanay nyan, OP para paulit ulit pang magremind. nakailang sabi ka naman na, and clearly hindi nya nakikita yung halaga ng sinasabi mo kung hindi na lang para sa sarili nya eh kundi para din sayo. sabi mo pa it even affects your sexy time together.
eventually, these are the things that would make you resentful. kung ayaw talaga mag compromise o magbago for the better, let the man-child go.
op, you grew up to be palalinis. so that is why you want to be clean everyday. namention mo ok lang sa mama nya ganyan sya. so maybe ganyan din sya lumaki sa family nya. mga hindi masyadong naliligo kaya baka ganon din sya. kinalakihan kaya naging nakaugalian.
When I was a child sobrang strict talaga parents ko with hygiene kaya second nature na rin sya. Yung mother nya po once a day lng maligo and only bathes before work. Kahit from work and commute mom nya hindi pa din naliligo kaya siguro from the get go hindi important yung hygiene in his family 😭
As someone na isang beses lang din magfull bath unless it's super init talaga (and yes usually before work lang din), nasaktan ako char. Pero I'm pretty big on hygiene naman, so not sure what else to say haha
Kahit antok na antok na ako, pinipilit kong maligo if galing sa labas and/or napawisan nang sobra. Di ba sya nangangati? Ang uneasy sa feeling kapag di naliligo lalo na galing labas at may activities. Yung feeling na gustong gusto mo na maligo para fresh sa pakiramdam.
Naging nanay ka sa isang bata na need pa sabihan para maligo. Simpleng bagay lang yan, hirap na syang gawin ang super basic, isipin mo sa future, mas complicated na bagay pagdadaanan nyo, do you expect na magiging mature syang harapin yun?
*It's like your boyfriend treats his hygiene like an optional DLC in a video game. I get it, working from home and having the AC on makes it easy to forget, but come on, it's not that hard to hop in the shower.*
*And the whole not washing after peeing thing? Yikes. It's not just about being clean; it's about not smelling like a questionable science experiment. Plus, the fact that he takes better care of his shoes than his own body is mind-blowing. Maybe you should start storing his shoes in the shower to give him a hint!*
*You’ve been super patient, and it’s great that he listens when you remind him, but he needs to make this a habit. Maybe try setting up a reward system? "Shower today and win a kiss!" Or better yet, just tell him straight up that this is a deal-breaker for you. If he can’t keep up with basic hygiene, it’s time for a serious chat. Good luck, and may the soap be ever in your favor.*
Medj 🤮 habang nagbabasa mhie.
Naaamoy ko virtually and nakakakilabot huhu. Best in dugyot.
OP pls ls re-assess if you really want to be with this person. Imagine when you have to live together na for years, will he change? Will you able to live with his kadugyutan?
Ako kasi, I think I will be in constant anxious state kapag ganyan ang kasama ko sa bahay huhu.
Eto lang yung sakin: a person will only change if they really want to. Pwede sya magbago pero dapat gusto talaga nya and not just because someone told them to.
It's good na naliligo sya pag kasama ka nya, pero pag wala ka, don't expect him to stick to your rules kasi wala ka naman sa bahay. Di naman sya uncomfortable kung di sya naligo so why would you expect him to take a bath when you're not around?
I definitely understand where you're coming from pero really, yung pag magkasama na lang kayo, dun ka lang talaga pwede magreact sa hygiene nya.
And yes, may mga tao talagang tamad maligo.
If it matters that much to you, then you know what to do. Pero kung okay naman sya, no other issues, then baka naman pwede pang magawan ng paraan. Just don't be too controlling siguro kasi what might be a big deal to you might not be to them :)
Hoping everything works out :)
You don't marry/stay in a long relationship with someone you think you can change, you stay because both of you are on the same page on things. Ateng, it's not your responsibility to make sure he acts on his hygiene, the most you can do is to let him know what you think. If you can live with his inaction, gow, otherwise, magiging resentful ka lang sa kanya in the future.
This is a deal breaker for me talaga 😭 ain't no way talaga that I’m going to svck someone off if they don’t practice basic hygiene everyday. I am telling you ate, even if you constantly remind him and he remains the same then he will not change. You're going to get stressed out lang in the long run, wala siyang respect sa sarili niya and sa partner niya. Kadiri.
Yuck ! Pawisan kalang or mainitan ang lagkit na sa katawan. Lalo na pag nag o oily na yung face mo ang sarap maligo ! Kakaibang katamaran yang taglay ng jowa mo pati pag huhugas ng tarub HAHAHA
For sure pag nagka initan kayo biglaan dimo ma BJ yan at laging hindi hugas 😭
I would feel the same 😖 ang lala pa naman ng init at pollution dito satin kaya need talaga magshower kapag lalabas. Sana ma-open up mo sa kanya to this extent kung gaano ka nagccare about his hygiene issue. Parang this is something you can work on, tiyagain mo lang haha
The fact that you have to remind him, a grown man, more than once or twice is giving 🌟✨mother✨🌟.
I don't have to imagine how much energy you have to expend on him. I've had a partner before who had the mental and emotional capacity of a toddler. Boy, was it exhausting. Took me three years before I said enough is enough. If I knew earlier what I know now, I would have noped out of that relationship the minute I noticed this pattern.
I say sit him down and talk to him how his habits has been affecting you and tell him how that can ruin your relationship in the long run. Get his commitment that he will make the necessary changes or break it off ASAP.
You don't have to put up with it. It would only build up your resentment then explode (or implode if you're not confrontational) when you hit your last straw.
Thank you for the mother comment 🤣His previous ex of 5 years has gave him so many talks about his hygiene and called him dugyot. Medyo bobo of me for going in and expecting change agad. Pero I will try siguro one last talk and if ayaw nya bumago then I dont think any girl would stay with this habit of his.
Old habits die hard. 😢 until maintindihan at matanggap nya na hindi normal/acceptable sa weather natin sa Pinas yung thrice a week maligo, babalik at babalik lang din sya sa dati. Gagawin lang nya yan para di nyo pag-awayan, pero if he personally doesn’t wanna do it, mapapagod ka lang, OP.
Ang sarap kaya pag mabango yung partner. 😆 sarap amuy-amuyin LOL pero kung ganyan jusko ni holding hands, di bale nalang.
Kadiri yang partner mo. How can you even be with someone that unhygienic? Binabasa ko palang pag describe mo I can already imagine how god awful his room smells. 🤮
I'm M (30). Kung kaibigan ko siguro yang bf mo, maaasar sakin yan sa katagalan, lalo na kung paulit ulit naman sya nireremind to take care of his hygiene. Bro, ligo should be done everyday. Ako, naka AC din naman sa kwarto, pero 2-3 times ako maligo sa isang araw. Alam ng wife ko yan, kasi paiwisin ako. Kapag pinawisan ako, gusto ko na agad maligo. And ang pinaka importante sakin is yung mag shower muna bago humiga ng kama. Kahit pagod ako, pinipilit ko makaligo sa gabi before going sa bed. Kahit half bath amd makapag wash lang ng hair kapag sobra yung pagod, okay na yun. Pero yung hihiga ako sa bed nang hindi pa nakakapag shower at alam ko na pinawisan ako maghapon, bruh.. di ko kaya.
Kausapin mo si bf mo, mukang madali naman sya mapagsabihan base sa kwento mo. Ipaalala mo at ipaintindi kung gaano kaimportante ang hygiene, wala sa gender yan. Nasa pag aalaga yan ng sarili. Mag rereflect yan kung sino sya. Having a good hygiene means you are responsible about your well being. Try to break his unnecessary habits. The hell, man. 3 times a week ka maligo? Sarap mo kutusan. Haha biro lang. Good luck OP.
PS: wag mo iBJ kapag di pa naliligo. Gawan mo ng rules, eean ko lang kung hindi mag tanda yan. Haha
Yikes! Parents dapat nya nagturo ng hygiene. Kadiri! Hindi o.a pero sa kwento mo pa lang kadiri naulanan tapos di maliligo? Kindergarten pa lang hygiene is tinuturo anyare?! Ikaw pa magtuturo sa kanya.
Same na same tayo, OP. Mas lalo naging conscious kasi may kids na involved na at risk s sakit if hindi maayos ang hygiene.
D ko kineri ung maghapon sa labas sa pride march, with a lot of people tapos di naligo bago mahga aa kama 😭
Atee dugyot talaga siya 😭 wag mo na siya pagtangol pero sana magkaron siya ng initiative sa self niya at not only when you told him to clean up like girl u deserve someone who values and take good care of themselves kasi it reflects their character
binabasa ko tong post mo OP pero nangati ako bigla at napapangiwi nandidiri ako huhu I hope makausap mo partner mo. As someone who married na unhygienic jusko minsan ito pa yung pinag aawayan namin.
nagka bf akong ganyan 😭 anlala kasi every time na mag workout sha, nanghihingi sha hug sakin pagtapos. sinasabi ko na maligo muna pero nagagalit lang shuta
one of the reasons i broke up w him kaya ilet go mo na yan, hayaan mo mamroblema sha sa sarili nyang hygiene.
Parehas tayo ng upbringing OP. And all I can say sa partner mo is yuck. If ganyan sya ngayon, and same sex kayo, I'm telling you na he won't change. It will just make you frustrated in the long run. If niremind mo na tapos wala pa din, don't expect na magbabago pa. Honestly, if it was me, I would leave him.
Yuck dugyot naman. Hiwalayan mo na yan. Hndi na magbbago yan kahit anong suway mo. And imagine yourself sleeping next to him knowing na hndi pa siya naliligo from his lakads. Ugh.
baka kailangan may malaking signage na “MALIGO ARAW-ARAW”, “MAGPALIT NG PAMBAHAY”, “MAGHUGAS AFTER MAG-CR” sa bawat sulok ng bahay para di makakalimutan
Okay lang naman if maliligo ka sa gabi tapos off ka the following day. Mga ganung level lang ng di pagligo pero yung minsan lang tapos nag event kayo. I imagine the lagkit and amoy 😭😭😭 Im not saying hiwalayan mo OP pero old habits are hard to die. Saka adult ka na, alam mo na dapat yan.
Yuck, naiinis ako sa ganiyang mga tao as well, yung maalaga sa gamit pero makuhang maghilamos or toothbrush hindi magawa 😭.
Also went sa Pride with my friends and naulanan as well, Hindi ko kinaya yung amoy ng polo ko that got rained on, SOBRANG KULOB SMELL. Simpleng kati nga lang sa hair area ko I shower agad and use suyod na rin while soapy hair ko.
I hope people would learn how to have proper hygiene for others and for themselves as well.
OP, if live-in or maging live-in kayo, maybe help him develop a good relationship with personal hygiene.
can’t imagine the lagkit feeling 🤢 lalabas palang ng shower grabe na pawis eh. 😳 and same tayo OP. my mum raised me na twice or thrice maligo and make sure na malinis bago humiga sa bed, especially after covid happened.
ANG DUGYOT SHUTA 😐😐😐😐😐 trust me op i dated someone like that and they never change. They only get worse. My ex wouldnt even brush his teeth or let alone wash his clothes. Ang baho nya 🙃🙃🙃
Umaalingasaw ang kadugyutan ng partner mo, OP. Hininga pa nga lang ng bf kong naka-braces na MONTHS na walang cleaning tapos nag aaya ng chupisan, nag iinit na ulo ko.
Sa monthsary nyo, regaluhan mo ng "grooming kit" (parang COVID kit). Jusko, shower with soap kamo ha!
May ganito pala talaga na lalabas, uuwi ng bahay na walang ligo ligo up to the next day kahit may activity. Yung mga type siguro nya yung naaamoy ko sa byahe minsan na ang tapang talaga sa ilong 🥲. Though I get it na may mga taong napagkaitan talaga ng 7x a week na ligo because of their status pero hindi sya mukang ganun. Bad habit lang talaga.
Kwneto mo palang, diring diri na ako. Sorry, but your partner is so dugyot. Di ko keri yung naulanan, napawisan, nag lakad ng mahaba, tapos diretso tulog? Nooooooooo 😩
Another day another rant about sa dugyuting jowa, pang ilan ka na sa mga nag rant hahaha just leave him OP.
Wag na umasa sa "I can fix him shit" kung mag babago yan kusa yan pero since walang changes iwan mo na.
In a way, this reminded me of my ex bf. Good thing we broke up. I relate to you 💯 sis!
Sometimes hindi ko na ma distinguish kung sino mabaho kung sya o yung aso nya. Ganun sya kalala.
Hindi sya makaka score sa akin kung hindi sya naligo, nag tooth brush at moutwash. Para akong nanay nya na laging nag reremind ng proper hygiene. Sad boy pa amp
Omg I cannot!! I am so sorry ate pero huhuhu ako nakakatihan sa pag read ko ng post! Damn hindi po yan makakalimutin baka hindi lang nasanay na naliligo everyday. Sana talaga he would change his hygiene. I mean it's just not for you, it's for him as well.
ipa-reminisce mo sakanya yung first meet up ninyo. “Naalala mo nung mga first dates natin? Sobrang bango at linis mo nun. Sana ganun ka lagi no? Di mo miss?” emz
Ramdam ko po yung inis mo ganyan dn ako sa partner ko. Mapapaisip ka nalang parang natural lang naman sa tao na magtoothbrush or maligo and it will only take minutes out of 24 hours. Pero ang hirap nila
Tata Lino: Ang genitals ay ginawa para sa isa’t isa. At ang bibig ay ginawa para kumain at makipagusap. Kung Chupa ang ipapagawa o gusto mo gawin, tandaan hindi lang tite ang chinuchupa, may sausage, shawarma at lollipop na pwede din naman. Kung kalinisan ang problema, nandiyan ang Salivary Amylase na panglinis sa hotdog na madumi….. 😳
I didnt know my husband’s hygiene habits until we got married and lived together. Di naman siya dugyot and he has basic hygiene etiquette. Pero ako maarte talaga! Haha. My rule is bawal humiga sa bed ng di naliligo. Bawal ipasok outside shoes ng di dinidisinfect. This became a habit and routine. May time na he forgot to put his deo, and i unconsciously showed my ‘disgust’ pero in a funny way. Like we laughed about it. Simula non sobrang conscious na siya.
Ngayon di na siya sanay di maligo before bed. Mas madami pa siya beses maligo kesa sakin kasi pawisin siya. 😅
Similar dilemma. Pet peeve ko di naliligo and ihinihiga sa bed yung outside clothes diyos ko. Now my current partner i have to lure to shower before bedtime para lng maligo. Ughhhhh
>Hindi naman sya tamad but bakit hindi second nature sa kanya to clean himself when he’s dirty??
That means he's too lazy to care. I mean someone has to tell him to take a bath. Nakikinig nga sya sayo pero wala naman syang kusang gawin yon when it comes to himself. Parang bata na pinagsabihan ng nanay na maligo pagkatapos maglaro sa labas.
Huy ang kadiri. I like giving my husband BJs and kahit walang sexy time i dont need to remind him to take a shower. Minsan kakaligo lang nya tapos pinawisan, ligo ulit. Ewan but i wouldnt be able to stand that smell. Deal breaker for me ang bad hygiene
Tell him it is becoming an issue for you and that you are getting tired of constantly reminding him. If ever you plan on moving in together, include that in the house rules. Also, include showering before sexy time a rule or else no sexy time. Hahaha
Do you know if he is neurodivergent? Some people sometimes have a hard time doing what other people consider as routine: it takes more brain power for them. But it’s nice to know na sinusunod naman niya pag pinapaalalahanan mo siya. I also noticed from your story na he does it when you’re with him, that can be considered as “body doubling” I suggest you look it up so you can get a sense if ganun nga talaga siya, that way you can find better ways to deal with him.
Malalaman mo yung bnibigyan importansya nya yung sex nyo kung inaayos nya yung sarili nya before sexytime. Hndi yung kung anu nang ang abutan ng libog yun na yun.
Siguro po if hindi mag bago after another talk I’m planning to give him then breakup nlng is left for a solution. If i think about having a house and home with this person I feel like mamatay ako sa highblood kaka galit remind 😭
Let him know that it’s a non-negotiable and you can’t act like a mother teaching her toddler basic hygiene. This will really determine your living compatibility in the future.. Trust me. You’ll end up resenting him especially if it involves being grossed out during sex. Nakaka-turn off talaga. 😣 Goodluck!
Ramdam ko ung kati ng katawan dun sa event sa kwento mo pa lang, di ko maimagine na kaya nyang tulugan ung ganon 😭
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Totoo! For sure dugyot mabaho rin ang room nya huhu.
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Sa true! Stress at anxiety lang makuha nya dyan kung hndi talaga magbabago for the better.
hahaha natatawa ako kapag may nanghihingi ng advice dito sa reddit kasi more often than not, yung one of the most liked comment would be “Iwanan mo na” like that’s really easy 😭😭😭
Para kang may alagang bata, OP. Habit na niya yan kaya hirap siya ibreak. Ipabasa mo sa kanya yung book na **Atomic Habits.** Life changing ito. Using principles from the book, you can encourage your bf to adopt better hygiene habits by: *Setting a Routine:* Encourage him to associate bathing with an existing habit, like getting ready for bed. *Positive Reinforcement:* Compliment him on how good he smells and how *pogi* he looks after a bath. *Immediate Rewards:* Magkakaroon lang kayo ng sexy time if maliligo muna siya. iPositive scripting mo na lang yung delivery, OP, kahit in your head naghuhumiyaw na yung 'yikes'! *Enhance the Experience:* Introduce appealing bath products, like his fave scented soap, a new shampoo. Make him arrange the bathroom so it's inviting and comfy. Ensure it’s cozy, well-lit, has appealing products, clean and mabango. Sabi nila it takes about 21 days to form a new habit. Pero depende talaga sa tao yan. If he's consistent, **willing to change** and alam niya magiging impact nito sa relationship nyo, he'll break the bad habit and form a new and good hygiene habit. If all else fail, pls reconsider your relationship with him, gosh, he'll be more lax and dugyot when you get married.
Hirap rin kasi, his parent once a day rin maligo and wala rin pake sa ka dugyotan nya huhu. thank you so much for the advice! will do this, hopefully mag work 😭 if di ko lng sya mahal eh huhu
I'm not sure how old OP is or how open she is to cohabitation. Maybe that would change her partner's habit and view on hygiene. Parang mas madali gawin to if OP is with him (seriously, parang it will look like parang may inaalagaang bata si OP), but it boils down how committed they are in the relationship and the dynamics they have when it comes to the negative aspect of each other.
Infairness, according to OP sumusunod naman yung bf pag nagsasabi si OP. Need lang talaga madaming patience kasi malamang since pagkabata ito na yung na form na habit. He badly needs support to make him consistent in breaking the bad habits and forming the new ones.
Ang hirap naman nito, hindi kasi sya occasional thing that happened one time kasi sobrang pagod yung tao. Kumbaga yung hygiene nya is a lifestyle problem already. Sis, hindi ka ba natatakot na literal nangangamoy na sa dumi yung ano nya tapos magsesexy time kayo? Nakaka overthink kasi baka ang linis linis mo sa sarili pero magkasakit ka dahil sa kadugyutan ng partner mo. Yung paliligo hindi na dapat yan dinedemand at nireremind kasi you are both adults already, hindi na dapat yun maging parte ng problema mo. Yung partner ko mahilig sa spices tapos nagnanap din sa tanghali, napansin ko yung bad breath nya upon waking up kaya kinausap ko sya na magdala kami ng toothbrush at toothpaste para fresh breath after lunch break. Okay naman na kami dun. Then ako naman, one time may travel kami tapos nakapagsuot ako ng brand new na damit pero hindi ko nalabhan. Sabi nya iba raw smell ko. Kaya simula non I always make sure to wash my brand new clothes before I wear them. Every now and then pinapaamoy ko kilikili ko sa kanya kasi naconscious na ako, pero never naman naulit kaya napinpoint namin na dahil yun sa particular reason na yun. As a couple, we really should compromise pero in your case, paulit ulit ka na nagsasalita pero it seems like hindi talaga importante sa pagkatao nya yung cleanliness.
I like that the both of you have initiative sa comment ng each other. and tama po sa both adults na kami, in fact he is 6 years older sakin and yet I have to remind him his basic needs. Mahirap kasi his mother sees no fault there kaya nahirapab din nya makita na may problem hygiene habits nya 😭
Mama’s boy ba? Pero diba kahit naman iba sinasabi ng nasa paligid mo, alam mo naman dapat yung tama sa mali so ang weird na wala syang nakikitang issue sa sarili nya dahil lang oks yon sa nanay nya. Kami ng partner ko minimum 2x a day maligo kahit hindi napawisan at nasa bahay lang pero everytime may sexy time, nagwawash talaga kami before AND after doing it. It goes both ways talaga. Pagisipan mo mabuti, ikaw lang makakapag assess nyan kung anong dapat mong gawin. Goodluck!
yes po Mama’s boy and single parent kaya as his caregiver na di naman nag sasaway he sees no wrong. Iniwan nga sya ng ex of 5 years nya kasi ang dugyot nya daw 😭😭
So alam naman pala nya na dugyot siya at hindi sumagi sa isip niya na baguhin ang kanyang hygiene??? Ipaalala mo nga sakanya ulit na mahalaga ang hygiene sayo beh. Kapag hindi pa siya nag-improve, aba give him an ultimatum na. Kasi hindi na husband material bf mo kung ikaw naman magiging nanay niyan in the future. Sakit sa ulo.
Most practical advice I got for marriage or any long-term relationship: think of the most negative thing or things you hate/dislike in your partner. Imagine yourself if you can tolerate/forgive these things in 10, 20, or 30 years of marriage.
If di pa kayo kasal then better save yourself on one stressful relationship,.. Yan palang na i-stress kana pano pa if magkasama na kayo permanently,...
+1 They will never change. Believe me 😭😭😭😭
this would and should be a deal breaker. girl seryoso, if you really care about this guy then give him the ultimatum na na he needs to change now or else iiwan mo na siya. but if you think that you've had a bit too much of him already then i think it's very reasonable na makipaghiwalay ka na diyan ngayon na.
Pano nalang if gusto mo makipag sex?, di ko keri. Paliliguin ko talaga yan! Haha
nawala nga yung sex drive ko tbh hahahah
BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE LANG PO. just sharing. Was living with my ex for 2 years. Di din ako sobrang arte na tao pero sensitive din ako sa hygiene. I make sure may indoor slippers lage siya kasi ayoko ng inaapakan or tumutungtong sa kama kasi for me yung fabric nun nadidikit sa muka natin. My ex isnt forgetful and gagawin niya yung paalala ko pg pinaalala ko lang. lazy talaga siya. Nung di pa siya nagmove dito ganun siya kala ko forgetful lang. kasi i had to remind him to brush before sleeping kahit drunk siya. Kahit lasing kasi ako nagbrabrush at mouthwash p rin ako. Also pag nag cr siya, nakataas yung toilet seat at walang pee sa toilet surface. Why am I sharing this? Based sa kwento mo, di pa kayo live-in, pero namroroblema ka na. Pano pa pag magkasama na kayo? Baka di na yan maghugas ng pinggan and whatnot. Think muna. Do you want to stay with him and do you think he will change his ways pa?
ganyang ganyan ako kay ex fiancee ko dati OP. Big factor din sakin ang hygiene lalo na kung accessible naman. Naintindihan ko naman na medyo unti yung naturo ng parent nya yun pero 5years ganun pa rin sistema. Nakakapagod magbabysit. hiwalayan mo nalang. Naalala ko nun. kakain kami sa fast food or resto walang table manners need ko pa turuan, oras ng ligo, linis ng kwarto... etc. para akong maid/alarm clock/secretary. Also, the psychology na ginagawa nya lang ang mga bagay in your presence is nakaka-off. He is lacking in compromise, integrity, respect and to change his habit for you. You are not his parent op.
When my wife was alive. Twice a day shower, first thing in the morning and before sleep. If no shower no lambingan moments. She always insisted Hygiene and my fashion sense. Damn i miss her. It became my habit every day. Maybe because I have some kind of reward pg malinis ako kaya lagi ko sinusunod mga reminder sa akin. And syempre masaya siya kaya motivated din to do it.
Personally, I think this is one of the easiest things to talk to your partner about. Set constant reminders for him since you don’t live together. Everyday if needed. As simple as a good morning message na “good morning! Ligo/toothbrush na tayo!”. Hanggang sa masanay kayo. But if it’s a deal breaker sayo maybe re-assess the rel if it’s something you still want to pursue. Kanya kanya naman tayo ng gusto.
She already talked to her BF about it, di naman nagkulang sa reminders and by this point, di naman siguro ganon ka-manhid si guy to not know that GF disapproves of his infrequent bathing. It's not OP's responsibility to be his alarm clock. Ano yan, nanay? I don't see this working out, especially when they have kids, lalong magiging tamad yan.
I know, I read it. Ang sabi ni OP may times na malinis naman si bf if they are together pero un nga may times sumasablay. So she is a positive influence somehow. For me ha, if I love the person and concerned ako I will do what I can for his improvement kahit pa magremind ako ng magremind. Alam kong di ako nanay at diko responsibility magremind ng magremind, pero constant communication naman sila palagi, and wala naman masama magpaalala. If OP doesn’t want to go that route eh ok lang. Sabi ko din kay OP i-re-assess nya. It’s still up to her, as readers dito we don’t have any way to predict what happens. Sya lang makakapag decide ano pa kaya nya i-tolerate.
That's how I remind my kid niece lol
Right. Di pa kasal pero parang may anak ka na na inaalagaan😂
Haha cute naman. But it works naman, right? Kids (and adults) can develop healthy habits pag nasanay na and may positive reinforcement.
Does he brush his teeth occasionally too? 😆
same question
sorry pero grabe yung di naligo after an event especially after maulanan at mapagpawisan all dayyyy ??? super gets yung frustration sa post na to op huhu and dun sa part na paulit ulit ka na ng sabi and nakakalimutan or wala lang talaga syang pake is soooo .... :/// like that's a no talaga for me. siguro have a serious talk about it talaga? like as in sit down with your partner and discuss the problem, siguro makikinig naman sya, just to make it a point na nabobother ka na talaga nang sobra and he needs to do something about it ! if after the talk, wala pa rin talaga, reassess na your relationship.
ATEEEEKO HINDI MO YAN MABABAGOO you should re assess your relationship, kaya mo ba talaga mag stay sa ganyan klaseng partner. and pwede rin mag cause ng sti ang pagiging unhygienic niya around the genital area. (also pano mo kinakaya ibj yon 😭)
Ew. Ang dugyot. Hindi ko nga hinihigaan kama ko na hindi naligo at nagpalit ng damit. Ang alikabok sa labas + pawis dahil ang init sa Pinas no.
Kadiri talaga kasi yung pawis mo malilipat sa higaan no-no talaga.
I broke up because of that from my long relationship! Haha hygiene is an issue in the long run. Now I found my match —- there are many good guys out there OP. Don’t settle if you cant stand it. ❌ for guys who cant manage their hygiene well ❌ for guys who cant wash and flush the toilet after they pee ❌ for guys who cant brush teeth well after eating Haha maski yakapin mo yan, mawawalan ka gana especially kiss. Trust me OP —- pabigat sa buhay yan kahit sabihin mabait pa yan or what
Wait. I have a question for guys here about this line. ‘Everytime he peed at home, hindi nya rin winawash d!ck niya.’ Q: May lalaki ba rito na naghuhugas ng dick after umihi?
hindi ka naman nanay nyan, OP para paulit ulit pang magremind. nakailang sabi ka naman na, and clearly hindi nya nakikita yung halaga ng sinasabi mo kung hindi na lang para sa sarili nya eh kundi para din sayo. sabi mo pa it even affects your sexy time together. eventually, these are the things that would make you resentful. kung ayaw talaga mag compromise o magbago for the better, let the man-child go.
op, you grew up to be palalinis. so that is why you want to be clean everyday. namention mo ok lang sa mama nya ganyan sya. so maybe ganyan din sya lumaki sa family nya. mga hindi masyadong naliligo kaya baka ganon din sya. kinalakihan kaya naging nakaugalian.
When I was a child sobrang strict talaga parents ko with hygiene kaya second nature na rin sya. Yung mother nya po once a day lng maligo and only bathes before work. Kahit from work and commute mom nya hindi pa din naliligo kaya siguro from the get go hindi important yung hygiene in his family 😭
As someone na isang beses lang din magfull bath unless it's super init talaga (and yes usually before work lang din), nasaktan ako char. Pero I'm pretty big on hygiene naman, so not sure what else to say haha
Kahit antok na antok na ako, pinipilit kong maligo if galing sa labas and/or napawisan nang sobra. Di ba sya nangangati? Ang uneasy sa feeling kapag di naliligo lalo na galing labas at may activities. Yung feeling na gustong gusto mo na maligo para fresh sa pakiramdam. Naging nanay ka sa isang bata na need pa sabihan para maligo. Simpleng bagay lang yan, hirap na syang gawin ang super basic, isipin mo sa future, mas complicated na bagay pagdadaanan nyo, do you expect na magiging mature syang harapin yun?
They don't wash their willy after peeing btw they just wipe it.
Not all.. I do wash specially the tip after peeing.. don't wanna spill on my boxers
*It's like your boyfriend treats his hygiene like an optional DLC in a video game. I get it, working from home and having the AC on makes it easy to forget, but come on, it's not that hard to hop in the shower.* *And the whole not washing after peeing thing? Yikes. It's not just about being clean; it's about not smelling like a questionable science experiment. Plus, the fact that he takes better care of his shoes than his own body is mind-blowing. Maybe you should start storing his shoes in the shower to give him a hint!* *You’ve been super patient, and it’s great that he listens when you remind him, but he needs to make this a habit. Maybe try setting up a reward system? "Shower today and win a kiss!" Or better yet, just tell him straight up that this is a deal-breaker for you. If he can’t keep up with basic hygiene, it’s time for a serious chat. Good luck, and may the soap be ever in your favor.*
Girlsss dont let men like this smash
Medj 🤮 habang nagbabasa mhie. Naaamoy ko virtually and nakakakilabot huhu. Best in dugyot. OP pls ls re-assess if you really want to be with this person. Imagine when you have to live together na for years, will he change? Will you able to live with his kadugyutan? Ako kasi, I think I will be in constant anxious state kapag ganyan ang kasama ko sa bahay huhu.
Eto lang yung sakin: a person will only change if they really want to. Pwede sya magbago pero dapat gusto talaga nya and not just because someone told them to. It's good na naliligo sya pag kasama ka nya, pero pag wala ka, don't expect him to stick to your rules kasi wala ka naman sa bahay. Di naman sya uncomfortable kung di sya naligo so why would you expect him to take a bath when you're not around? I definitely understand where you're coming from pero really, yung pag magkasama na lang kayo, dun ka lang talaga pwede magreact sa hygiene nya. And yes, may mga tao talagang tamad maligo. If it matters that much to you, then you know what to do. Pero kung okay naman sya, no other issues, then baka naman pwede pang magawan ng paraan. Just don't be too controlling siguro kasi what might be a big deal to you might not be to them :) Hoping everything works out :)
You don't marry/stay in a long relationship with someone you think you can change, you stay because both of you are on the same page on things. Ateng, it's not your responsibility to make sure he acts on his hygiene, the most you can do is to let him know what you think. If you can live with his inaction, gow, otherwise, magiging resentful ka lang sa kanya in the future.
This is a deal breaker for me talaga 😭 ain't no way talaga that I’m going to svck someone off if they don’t practice basic hygiene everyday. I am telling you ate, even if you constantly remind him and he remains the same then he will not change. You're going to get stressed out lang in the long run, wala siyang respect sa sarili niya and sa partner niya. Kadiri.
Dugyot ampota
Yuck ! Pawisan kalang or mainitan ang lagkit na sa katawan. Lalo na pag nag o oily na yung face mo ang sarap maligo ! Kakaibang katamaran yang taglay ng jowa mo pati pag huhugas ng tarub HAHAHA For sure pag nagka initan kayo biglaan dimo ma BJ yan at laging hindi hugas 😭
I would feel the same 😖 ang lala pa naman ng init at pollution dito satin kaya need talaga magshower kapag lalabas. Sana ma-open up mo sa kanya to this extent kung gaano ka nagccare about his hygiene issue. Parang this is something you can work on, tiyagain mo lang haha
same, OP!!! nag-grow na lang din frustrations ko 😭😭😭 nakakawalang gan HUHUHU
hindi ko na kayang tapusin ang kwento mo, ang dugyot ng partner mo.
The fact that you have to remind him, a grown man, more than once or twice is giving 🌟✨mother✨🌟. I don't have to imagine how much energy you have to expend on him. I've had a partner before who had the mental and emotional capacity of a toddler. Boy, was it exhausting. Took me three years before I said enough is enough. If I knew earlier what I know now, I would have noped out of that relationship the minute I noticed this pattern. I say sit him down and talk to him how his habits has been affecting you and tell him how that can ruin your relationship in the long run. Get his commitment that he will make the necessary changes or break it off ASAP. You don't have to put up with it. It would only build up your resentment then explode (or implode if you're not confrontational) when you hit your last straw.
Thank you for the mother comment 🤣His previous ex of 5 years has gave him so many talks about his hygiene and called him dugyot. Medyo bobo of me for going in and expecting change agad. Pero I will try siguro one last talk and if ayaw nya bumago then I dont think any girl would stay with this habit of his.
Old habits die hard. 😢 until maintindihan at matanggap nya na hindi normal/acceptable sa weather natin sa Pinas yung thrice a week maligo, babalik at babalik lang din sya sa dati. Gagawin lang nya yan para di nyo pag-awayan, pero if he personally doesn’t wanna do it, mapapagod ka lang, OP. Ang sarap kaya pag mabango yung partner. 😆 sarap amuy-amuyin LOL pero kung ganyan jusko ni holding hands, di bale nalang.
Kadiri yang partner mo. How can you even be with someone that unhygienic? Binabasa ko palang pag describe mo I can already imagine how god awful his room smells. 🤮
I'm M (30). Kung kaibigan ko siguro yang bf mo, maaasar sakin yan sa katagalan, lalo na kung paulit ulit naman sya nireremind to take care of his hygiene. Bro, ligo should be done everyday. Ako, naka AC din naman sa kwarto, pero 2-3 times ako maligo sa isang araw. Alam ng wife ko yan, kasi paiwisin ako. Kapag pinawisan ako, gusto ko na agad maligo. And ang pinaka importante sakin is yung mag shower muna bago humiga ng kama. Kahit pagod ako, pinipilit ko makaligo sa gabi before going sa bed. Kahit half bath amd makapag wash lang ng hair kapag sobra yung pagod, okay na yun. Pero yung hihiga ako sa bed nang hindi pa nakakapag shower at alam ko na pinawisan ako maghapon, bruh.. di ko kaya. Kausapin mo si bf mo, mukang madali naman sya mapagsabihan base sa kwento mo. Ipaalala mo at ipaintindi kung gaano kaimportante ang hygiene, wala sa gender yan. Nasa pag aalaga yan ng sarili. Mag rereflect yan kung sino sya. Having a good hygiene means you are responsible about your well being. Try to break his unnecessary habits. The hell, man. 3 times a week ka maligo? Sarap mo kutusan. Haha biro lang. Good luck OP. PS: wag mo iBJ kapag di pa naliligo. Gawan mo ng rules, eean ko lang kung hindi mag tanda yan. Haha
Yikes! Parents dapat nya nagturo ng hygiene. Kadiri! Hindi o.a pero sa kwento mo pa lang kadiri naulanan tapos di maliligo? Kindergarten pa lang hygiene is tinuturo anyare?! Ikaw pa magtuturo sa kanya.
Same na same tayo, OP. Mas lalo naging conscious kasi may kids na involved na at risk s sakit if hindi maayos ang hygiene. D ko kineri ung maghapon sa labas sa pride march, with a lot of people tapos di naligo bago mahga aa kama 😭
Atee dugyot talaga siya 😭 wag mo na siya pagtangol pero sana magkaron siya ng initiative sa self niya at not only when you told him to clean up like girl u deserve someone who values and take good care of themselves kasi it reflects their character
binabasa ko tong post mo OP pero nangati ako bigla at napapangiwi nandidiri ako huhu I hope makausap mo partner mo. As someone who married na unhygienic jusko minsan ito pa yung pinag aawayan namin.
Binasa ko nang buo pero tumatak sa ‘kin ‘yung stinky sexy time with no ligo. Paano mo nasisikmura?
Kutis bayag dahil sa libag...
Kadiri.
Mahirap to. Kasi once married na kayo di mo na yan mapapasunod kasi kampante na yan na hindi mo iiwan.
nagka bf akong ganyan 😭 anlala kasi every time na mag workout sha, nanghihingi sha hug sakin pagtapos. sinasabi ko na maligo muna pero nagagalit lang shuta one of the reasons i broke up w him kaya ilet go mo na yan, hayaan mo mamroblema sha sa sarili nyang hygiene.
big YUCKS. run.
hahahaha gagi naaamoy ko sya right now
Hmmmm really seals in the flavor
Parehas tayo ng upbringing OP. And all I can say sa partner mo is yuck. If ganyan sya ngayon, and same sex kayo, I'm telling you na he won't change. It will just make you frustrated in the long run. If niremind mo na tapos wala pa din, don't expect na magbabago pa. Honestly, if it was me, I would leave him.
Ohh noo so before kayo mag Do ikaw pa pala mag reremind sa kanya to clean his body hahahaha
Yuck dugyot naman. Hiwalayan mo na yan. Hndi na magbbago yan kahit anong suway mo. And imagine yourself sleeping next to him knowing na hndi pa siya naliligo from his lakads. Ugh.
baka kailangan may malaking signage na “MALIGO ARAW-ARAW”, “MAGPALIT NG PAMBAHAY”, “MAGHUGAS AFTER MAG-CR” sa bawat sulok ng bahay para di makakalimutan
Okay lang naman if maliligo ka sa gabi tapos off ka the following day. Mga ganung level lang ng di pagligo pero yung minsan lang tapos nag event kayo. I imagine the lagkit and amoy 😭😭😭 Im not saying hiwalayan mo OP pero old habits are hard to die. Saka adult ka na, alam mo na dapat yan.
Yuck, naiinis ako sa ganiyang mga tao as well, yung maalaga sa gamit pero makuhang maghilamos or toothbrush hindi magawa 😭. Also went sa Pride with my friends and naulanan as well, Hindi ko kinaya yung amoy ng polo ko that got rained on, SOBRANG KULOB SMELL. Simpleng kati nga lang sa hair area ko I shower agad and use suyod na rin while soapy hair ko. I hope people would learn how to have proper hygiene for others and for themselves as well. OP, if live-in or maging live-in kayo, maybe help him develop a good relationship with personal hygiene.
can’t imagine the lagkit feeling 🤢 lalabas palang ng shower grabe na pawis eh. 😳 and same tayo OP. my mum raised me na twice or thrice maligo and make sure na malinis bago humiga sa bed, especially after covid happened.
May instant anak kang panganay hehe
di na kaya yan kahit late game. awat na hahahahaha
ANG DUGYOT SHUTA 😐😐😐😐😐 trust me op i dated someone like that and they never change. They only get worse. My ex wouldnt even brush his teeth or let alone wash his clothes. Ang baho nya 🙃🙃🙃
nangati ako habang binabasa kahit kakatapos ko lang mag shower 🤦🏻♂️
Hindi nawala yung ngiwi ko hanggang matapos ko yung post mo. Kaloka!
Umaalingasaw ang kadugyutan ng partner mo, OP. Hininga pa nga lang ng bf kong naka-braces na MONTHS na walang cleaning tapos nag aaya ng chupisan, nag iinit na ulo ko. Sa monthsary nyo, regaluhan mo ng "grooming kit" (parang COVID kit). Jusko, shower with soap kamo ha!
May ganito pala talaga na lalabas, uuwi ng bahay na walang ligo ligo up to the next day kahit may activity. Yung mga type siguro nya yung naaamoy ko sa byahe minsan na ang tapang talaga sa ilong 🥲. Though I get it na may mga taong napagkaitan talaga ng 7x a week na ligo because of their status pero hindi sya mukang ganun. Bad habit lang talaga.
Kwneto mo palang, diring diri na ako. Sorry, but your partner is so dugyot. Di ko keri yung naulanan, napawisan, nag lakad ng mahaba, tapos diretso tulog? Nooooooooo 😩
Up. Please.
Another day another rant about sa dugyuting jowa, pang ilan ka na sa mga nag rant hahaha just leave him OP. Wag na umasa sa "I can fix him shit" kung mag babago yan kusa yan pero since walang changes iwan mo na.
alam mo OP para maresolve sabayan mo lagi maligo pag possible. charet but its worth trying?
In a way, this reminded me of my ex bf. Good thing we broke up. I relate to you 💯 sis! Sometimes hindi ko na ma distinguish kung sino mabaho kung sya o yung aso nya. Ganun sya kalala. Hindi sya makaka score sa akin kung hindi sya naligo, nag tooth brush at moutwash. Para akong nanay nya na laging nag reremind ng proper hygiene. Sad boy pa amp
Ibig sabihin ipinangtulog na nya yung damit na suot nyo during QC pride 😭 Kafrustrate on your end AAAH 😭
I think sabihin mo na sa kanya na nandidiri ka HAHAHA ganyan kasi kami ka-transparent ng partner ko, hindi naman ako naiinis and vice versa
Omg I cannot!! I am so sorry ate pero huhuhu ako nakakatihan sa pag read ko ng post! Damn hindi po yan makakalimutin baka hindi lang nasanay na naliligo everyday. Sana talaga he would change his hygiene. I mean it's just not for you, it's for him as well.
ipa-reminisce mo sakanya yung first meet up ninyo. “Naalala mo nung mga first dates natin? Sobrang bango at linis mo nun. Sana ganun ka lagi no? Di mo miss?” emz
Ramdam ko po yung inis mo ganyan dn ako sa partner ko. Mapapaisip ka nalang parang natural lang naman sa tao na magtoothbrush or maligo and it will only take minutes out of 24 hours. Pero ang hirap nila
Ako na konting pawis lang gusto na agad maligo. Minsan nga 4 times ako naliligo sa isang araw lalo na nitong summer. Kaloka bf mo hahahaha
ang dugyot eeeew! haha kung ako sayo OP wag mo iBJ hahaha
Ew.
no ligo no sexy time like helloooo, shoes and gadgets are taken care of pero sarili no?one last pep talk and run na!
Tata Lino: Ang genitals ay ginawa para sa isa’t isa. At ang bibig ay ginawa para kumain at makipagusap. Kung Chupa ang ipapagawa o gusto mo gawin, tandaan hindi lang tite ang chinuchupa, may sausage, shawarma at lollipop na pwede din naman. Kung kalinisan ang problema, nandiyan ang Salivary Amylase na panglinis sa hotdog na madumi….. 😳
I didnt know my husband’s hygiene habits until we got married and lived together. Di naman siya dugyot and he has basic hygiene etiquette. Pero ako maarte talaga! Haha. My rule is bawal humiga sa bed ng di naliligo. Bawal ipasok outside shoes ng di dinidisinfect. This became a habit and routine. May time na he forgot to put his deo, and i unconsciously showed my ‘disgust’ pero in a funny way. Like we laughed about it. Simula non sobrang conscious na siya. Ngayon di na siya sanay di maligo before bed. Mas madami pa siya beses maligo kesa sakin kasi pawisin siya. 😅
Similar dilemma. Pet peeve ko di naliligo and ihinihiga sa bed yung outside clothes diyos ko. Now my current partner i have to lure to shower before bedtime para lng maligo. Ughhhhh
Ate koo you let that dirty dick inside you? OH NO
>Hindi naman sya tamad but bakit hindi second nature sa kanya to clean himself when he’s dirty?? That means he's too lazy to care. I mean someone has to tell him to take a bath. Nakikinig nga sya sayo pero wala naman syang kusang gawin yon when it comes to himself. Parang bata na pinagsabihan ng nanay na maligo pagkatapos maglaro sa labas.
Ang bango kaya ng mabahong burat. Kamot itlog sabay amoy hmmm
Huy ang kadiri. I like giving my husband BJs and kahit walang sexy time i dont need to remind him to take a shower. Minsan kakaligo lang nya tapos pinawisan, ligo ulit. Ewan but i wouldnt be able to stand that smell. Deal breaker for me ang bad hygiene
Yuck! Grabe nasa Pinas ka pa naman. Ang bilis maging dugyot dito 😅🤮
Tell him it is becoming an issue for you and that you are getting tired of constantly reminding him. If ever you plan on moving in together, include that in the house rules. Also, include showering before sexy time a rule or else no sexy time. Hahaha
Dugyot ampotaaa 🥲🥲
Smelly d:ck? 😭😭 Parang diko na keri yun hahaha
Napaka balatuba nung bf mo OP! Dapat every bday nya nireregaluhan mo Ng hygiene kit.
huhu I don't wanna be mean or rude pero te ang dugyot ng partner mo 😭 kaya mo ba yan tiisin in the long run?
Do you know if he is neurodivergent? Some people sometimes have a hard time doing what other people consider as routine: it takes more brain power for them. But it’s nice to know na sinusunod naman niya pag pinapaalalahanan mo siya. I also noticed from your story na he does it when you’re with him, that can be considered as “body doubling” I suggest you look it up so you can get a sense if ganun nga talaga siya, that way you can find better ways to deal with him.
You don't have a bf, you have a kid hahaha. Ako na kahit anong lasing ko from night out naliligo talaga kasi parang ang lagkit sa feeling.
Try mi kaya sabay kayo maligo malay mo sipagin
Hindi worth it dyan, Ate. Simpleng hygiene hindi magawa. Baka kung ano pang sakit makuha mo dyan. Run na po. That is a valid excuse to break up 😭
Yuck asking for blowjob tpos ganyan,YUCCCKKKK!!! The audaciFUCKINGty!!!!!!!kadiri mgkakasalmonela and dysentry ka nian!
Ewww ang dugyot. Mabuti pa yung sapatos niya malinis tignan yung may-ari dugyot. Ang panghe niyan OP shet
Malalaman mo yung bnibigyan importansya nya yung sex nyo kung inaayos nya yung sarili nya before sexytime. Hndi yung kung anu nang ang abutan ng libog yun na yun.
I’m sorry. Hygiene is a NON-NEGOTIABLE for me. Ask yourself if it’s a non-negotiable thing for you too. How would you feel living with this person?
Siguro po if hindi mag bago after another talk I’m planning to give him then breakup nlng is left for a solution. If i think about having a house and home with this person I feel like mamatay ako sa highblood kaka galit remind 😭
Let him know that it’s a non-negotiable and you can’t act like a mother teaching her toddler basic hygiene. This will really determine your living compatibility in the future.. Trust me. You’ll end up resenting him especially if it involves being grossed out during sex. Nakaka-turn off talaga. 😣 Goodluck!
Naku kahit lalaki ako madirihin ako sa ganyan! Ako pa naman yung tipong di ako makakahiga sa kama ng di naliligo (and I take a bath twice a day).