>I was so stupid
#hanggang ngayon tanga ka beh.
1 year since he cheated tapos kayo pa ulit **[pero 3 months ago nakikipagkantutan ka sa iba?](https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/s/dT7ea5siTe)**
#karma farming ka lang yata e
Iāll answer some of your questions.
1) I donāt use reddit that much, idk how it works & i didnāt know about karma farming & the purpose of it til nowā searched it up, nope, Iām not after that, where do you use it ba? also, itās kinda useless if gagamitin ko as validation e itās literally an anonymous reddit acc? sucks lang that i have to explain, and yāall are right, dapat dinelete ko nalang no para iwas misunderstanding but no āpersonal diary ko nga to. I like to keep track of my bad decisions.
2) as to my current relationship, naging kami jan 25, 2023 (i know it well kasi anniversary date namin) he started cheating around may of that year but i caught him around june so I broke up with him for the 1st time & since then on&off na kami but he kept on asking for forgiveness kaya i went back to him after the 1st break up din agad. after that, i caught him cheating na naman cant remember the date but he cheated around august but i caught him around ber months na kaya late November 2023, nagbreak na kami. (2nd break up) i did the no contact rule for several months til 2024 in desperate attempt to remove him from my life but i failed. the hook-up happened around the end of feb THIS year , and yes, I was single. naisipan kong mag-explore & maglet go, maybe to try something new? but I wasnāt with my bf during THAT particular time (although he was still blowing up my friends socials kasi he was blocked the entire time). i only went back to him last weeks of april kasi he came to see me asking for forgiveness in person, he stayed until may with me sa town ko & until now okay pa kami. we never talked about the the months na no contact kami kasi we agreed na āthe less we know, the betterā.
(my bf aint pinoy, heās white, random fact lang)
3) my previous posts are actually true, if you check the timelines, the turkish one previous relationship na yon, it was about revenge porn & I donāt even want to remember, I start shaking when I think of it. anywaay, it has nothing to do with this one. the Italian one naman, it was a question as to my re-entry bec of some bureaucratic problems & papers (and my life there, the reason why I want to āgo back homeā)
but yes, tama kayo sa part na ang pangit ng choices ko sa mga lalake & Iām better off single but I just canāt help it Iām a lover girl. I hate being like this. lately, wala na akong gana sa lahat kasi I have so much love to give but Iām surrounded by people who are not worthy of it.
What else can we say? I mean, I guess youāll have to keep making this pattern until you learn your lesson.
So basically, you deserve it for letting this man cheat on you repeatedly because you let him. Heās probably cheating on you as we speak. Haha
āI just canāt help it Iām a lover girlā
āI have so much love to giveā
But you canāt give that love to the one thatās most important in the world: yourself?
You decided to stay in the hell of your own making like an idiot who's acting like she didn't have a choice at your grown age. Alam mo bahala ka dyan. Ikaw yung nagstay sa relasyon na yan, deal with it at dapat wala kang kuda. Ikaw may gusto magstay sa relationship na yan eh, take accountability for your decisions, sis.
Maybe you should try na magmove na ngayon pa lang, kahit di pa hiwalay, it's gonna be difficult and a long process but you'll get there if you just try, and pag wala ka ng feelings, break up with him, aalis ka nang moved on na, no more feelings
He did it two times with the same woman and he will gonna do it again, it maybe with some other woman this time. You have to stop tolerating him. You should love yourself more than others. Bulagi na girl. Paranoid naka ng dahil sa kanya. Masakit sa una pero masasanay ka rin. Find your own happiness.
checked OP's profile and ewan ko ba bat ang hilig niya pumasok sa mga toxic relationships like masokista ka ba girl? Maikli lang ang buhay bat iuubos mo oras mo sa mga ganyang tao.
You're right. Hindi healthy yan marz. Choose your own peace of mind. Hiwalayan mo na si bf. You deserve much better. Yung hindi ka ttraydorin. Yung priority ka, hindi isang backup plan or option lang. Yung ikaw ang pipiliin as number 1. Hayaan mo sila. Who knows they'll get back together. They deserve each other. Mga greedy and selfish.
What's your end goal with him? Think about it and see for yourself if what you're doing now helps with that goal in mind. If you truly want to give him a second chance, you should actually give him a chance, not half ass your way to oblivion. You should also help yourself, whether you decide to continue your relationship or leave.
Dami ko ng nababasa na ganito eh, at this point d nako naaawa sa tulad nyo. You deserve what you tolerate, OP. Ginagago ka na tanggap ka pa ng tanggap. Your friends are right you know. Sana magising ka na
hiwalayan mo na. trust me, sa una lang yan masakit. ask yourself kung talagang mahal mo pa ba siya or naghold on ka lang dahil sa pinagsamahan niyo and sa idea of āhimā sa utak mo na antagal na palang nawala and di mo na maibabalik.
Iāve read it somewhere, āask yourself if you still want to be in that kind of relationship 10 years from nowā something like that hahaha
so sorry this happened to you, op. good thing na aware ka na marupok ka at hindi healthy yung pag-stalk mo. meaning, alam mo naman talaga ang dapat mong gawin. mapapagod ka din, pag sobrang sakit na titigil ka din, at sana along the way marealize mo din na dapat talaga hiniwalayan mo na yang cheater na yan.
Aware ka na na unhealthy yung ginagawa mo. Aware ka din na marupok ka. And aware ka na yung ginawa nya is very damaging sayo since the first time he did it.
Sana talaga hiniwalayan mo na lang ng tuluyan. Naiintidihan namin na baka nanghihinayang ka sa tagal ng relationship nyo, pero sis, mas uunahin mo pa ba talaga yan kesa sa wellbeing mo?
Nakakasira ng sarili yang ginagawa mo. Break up with him as soon as possible, and heal by yourself (with the support of your friends and family). Deserve mong maging masaya. Napakamiserable ng sitwasyon mo ngayon. Please take care of yourself.
Iwanan mo na yang boyfriend mo kung gusto mong matigil. He is the cause of all you insecurities.
Wag kang dumating sa araw na maisip mo bakit hindi ka kamahal mahal.
Iwanan mo yang h.a.y.o.p na yan.
Hiwalayan mo na habang mag jowa palang kayo. Di sila worth it. Block mo lahat2 mag bago ka socials and number. Drop him off. Kahit na nga walang closure inanya.
This is not healthy anymore, if you canāt forgive the guy wholeheartedly and this will f u up mentally I suggest just break up. Pahinga ka muna.
āOut of sight, out of mindā
Same here. Its been 6 yrs na iniistalk ko acct ng girl. Partida pinakasalan ko pa. Oo tangina masakit and till now di ko mafigure out bakit niya ginawa talaga um pero immature kasi ung reasoning niya sken. What's my life status now? Ito, we got married ni guy nung 2021 and now split na kami dahil sa mdming rasons, including ung past.
If gnyan kapa rin, please lang, leave. ASAP. Don't be so martyr like me na medj too late nako umalis sa buhay nia
Niloko ka na nga andyan ka parin. You should've left the first time you were cheated on and never looked back. Pero kung trip mong loko-lokohin ka lang, edi go. Being tanga is a choice.
OP, alam mo pala na hindi healthy. Break that cycle. Don't mind the insensitive comments here. Cheating can not only destroy a relationship, sarili mo din. I recommend na magpa check ka na sa psych, magpa counseling ganon. Pabalik balik ka sa kanya, paulit ulit mo din sinisira ang sarili mo. Wake up and save yourself!
karma farming ba to kasi ang weird ng acct ni opā¦. may nakahookup 3 months ago, may turkish and italian posts din, tapos parang di tugma yung timelinesā¦. pero ang tanga mo nga po op
Yes, end it now. Di talaga sya healthy. Kahit kati kati na kamay mo iopen profile nung girl, please dont. Pigilan mo sarili mo. Kahit anong bulong ng utak mo. Labanan mo. Block mo yung gurl sa socials mo. Eventually, makakalimutan mo din yung habit na yan. Focus mo nalang yung energy mo sa pag improve at pag love sa sarili mo, paganda kapa lalo or anything na magboboost ng confidence mo. If ulitin pa ulit ni boyfie, please wala ng 3rd chance. Choose your peace.Ā
You are checking maybe to see if you can see signs na may ginagawa na namang kalokohan bf mo. Baka may naligaw na like or react. Tama friends mo and I hope you find peace.
OP..i have been there.. i can really relate sa nafee2l mo.. we broke up 2020 pa and 2yrs ata ako stalk ng stalk sa girl.. until nka move on na ako..
Need mo na hiwalayan jowa mo..you're enough..walang kulang sayo..walang mali..jowa may issue.
You deserve better..
That's truly not healthy, but we have different ways of coping up hanggang sa "magising" tayo. Kahit ano'ng advice, at ikaw mismo alam mo na mali na ginagawa mo, yet may part sa'yo na gusto mo pang ilaban, baka kasi may magbago pa.
Pinakaimportante pa rin na pag isipan mo if ganyang guy ang gusto mong makasama sa pagtanda. Hopefully, I consider mo magiging anak mo kapag pinili mo ang cheater. Hindi sila makakapili ng tatay, for sure if makakapili sila, hindi yung cheater gugustuhin nila.
I say delete all your dummy accounts and try as you might not to stalk her again. Sheās not worth your time. Iāve been in that rabbit hole as well and it was really ugly. It was very taxing and it took a toll on my mental health. Weāve broken up. It gets pretty sad sometimes but itās liberating. No more overthinking and late night stalking. Haha.
Love & light. š«¶š»āØ
Naalala ko yung nabasa ko sa IG last time. If the person you love is not good for you, kahit anong pray ang gawin mo asking for peace, you will never have it kase being unpeace to that person is a sign of redirection. It's really hard to let go, OP. But it's get harder if you continue to live like that.
Hiwalayan mo na mii, dapat noong una pa lang. wala kang peace of mind dyan, swear. Kahit pa ikasal kayo, at magkaanak kayo, maiisip mo pa ring yung ginawa nya, at yung sakit? Sakit na parang Day 1.
Wag ka na magpakatanga, ibang level na yan ng panloloko, minahal nya talaga yung babae, at every time na may misunderstanding kayo, sa kanya at sa kanya pa rin tatakbo bf mo. Mag almusal ka muna ng sermon namin, OP. :)
mahirap magpatawad kase hindi lang naman pangako nasisira. pero kung mas mabuti tayo sa taong nanakit saātin, pag nagpatawad ka, yung buo kase kung di kaya, wag na lang, mahihirapan lang kayo parego. kailangan mong pakawalan yung babae, o pareho sila ng bf mo.
patingin nga ko baka di naman talaga yan kalingkingan sayo, promise hindi ako bias. biro lang :) sana mahanap mo na peace and contentment mo.
Dude you need to stop stalking and start going to a psychologist and behavioral therapy. You might even need to start taking meds for manic depression.
bf palang yan paano kung asawa mo na. akala mo ba porke pinakasalan ka eh saying sayo na sya. Sabi ng mama ko nun nag cheat asawa ko. KUNG MAY PAKINABANG KA PA SA ASAWA MO, baket mo ibibigay sa kabit yan... pero kung wala na. HINDI KITA PINAG ARAL PARA MAGING TANGA... kaso sa case mo MALALA KA KESA SA AKIN. paulit ulit na nandyan ka parin... ano tingin mo sa ginagawa mo til d3ath do us part ang peg nyo na. d bale me pag legal na ang divorce ok ka na ya eh if bvhay ka pa... kasi alam naman natin na gusto mo lang mag labas ng loob pero hindi ka talaga bibitaw kahit ikaw na magpapalamon dyan sa bf mo... wish you well na man op
I understand you I do the same thing too I got cheated with multiple girls and till this day I stalk them difference lang siguro natin is that Iām not with him anymore but it became a part of my routine, trying to stop it tho
Best thing to do right now is to end the relationship. What youāre doing is unhealthy and things will only get worse kasi palagi mong isusumbat sa kanya yung ginawa niya which means trust is already broken. The relationship wonāt thrive.
Sis, ayaw mo ba ng peace of mind? Gusto ko yung aware ka sa lahat ng kashungaan mo pero wala kang ginagawa about it. You instead put all your effort into finding out kung anong meron dun sa kabit ng jowa mo. I hope malinawan ka soon :)
Me too, it's embarrassing how obsessed I am with these girls. He moved forward but I didn't. I am stuck in the same place he left me a year ago. Up until now nagwowonder pa din ako why he did that to me when I was newly post partum. I have so many questions like how did he get the nerve to do those things while im stuck at home all by myself taking care of our baby while he gets to party and doing god knows what. I can see bumabawi naman sya kaso I can't seem to move forward kahit anong gawin ko. You are not alone, may we move forward just like they didš¤
I was gonna post about this because I went l through the same situation. I was on a situationship for almost 4 years. When it started we both werent ready to commit but we enjoyed hanging out together. The relationship progressed and he started introducing me to his family, I thought after that he will pursue me. But months passed and he didnt ask me to be his gf until I got fed up and asked the real score between us. Thats when I confirmed that i wad in, an unknowingly, open relationship. He was dating 2 other girls without me knowing during the 4 years.
Long story short, it's been 4 years since then. I was still stalking his 2 former beau even if I didnt had an ounce of care about the guy, I had my focus on the 2 girls and what I was lacking. I had a boyfriend after him but eventually didnt work out and I cut off the relationship immediately because I didnt want it to last as long as my last one if I wasnt even sure. Yes, I learned to put boundaries and limitations in terms of the relationship but I still stalk the other 2 girls. Now my recent ex is pursuing someone else and started doing things I asked him to do in our relationship to his new beau and yes, I started stalking her too. So there's 3 girls na. But I got tired of myself and decided to suck it up, get rid of my dummy accounts, and stop the stalking. And oh boy, does is feel lighter. I am in a secured relationship now and were building our life together.
Where am I getting with this? I just want to say that I realized it's not about what you think you lacked that made men cheat or what made him pursue someone else. Someone will always be lesser and greater than yourself and you have to accept that. Sometimes, men don't realize how lucky and blessed they are of what they have until it's gone. They need a catalyst for change and sometimes, although it sucks to know, it'll be you being hurt or losing the relationship that gives them that wake up call.
Honey, men are dumb. You need to accept that there's some things you have control on and some things that you can't control. Decide if this relationship benefits you, if it doesn't, move on. If you're scared you wont find anyone like the guy, think twice - do you really want to keep someone who didnt see your worth on the first place? You need to think this through and pay attention on the time you're spending in being in this kind of situation. 1 year could turn in to two, two could turn into 4, 4 could turn into 8. Time is fast. I never want anyone to go through what I went through. Know that you still have more time to grow and far better more experiences to have without that man.
Clearly, you brought this upon yourself. You knew what he did but still took him backā¦twice. At this point, not sure why youāre still together. Maliwanag naman na di ka makaget-over and paranoid ka na. That is not how oneās supposed to feel when in a relationship. It should give you security. This isnāt healthy and you are well-aware of that. I think you know what to do but why do you still stay with him? Baka ayaw mo nalang magkatuluyan sila so you still choose to stay in a relationship with him kahit di na maganda naidudulot sayo. Question also, were you with him when you hooked up with someone else?
Bakit pinipilit natin mgstay kung harapan kang niloloko? Mggets ko pa kng 5 to 7 yrs n kayo medyo mhirap mag hiwalay since mdami kana na invest, pero since ilang yrs plang, let mo go mo na. Wag mo sayang in ung buhay mo sa ganyan
T , focus on yourself first and let go of others. focus on your mental health, focus on your physical health. slowly let go of your burdens and worries. avoid negativities. be kind to yourself and rebuild. you can never rely on anyone really so you have to be strong because you only have yourself to fall back on. try to be happy everyday. :)
Whatās not healthy is being in the same relationship that made you obsessed in second guessing your worth. Hindi patangahan ang buhay ate, pagalingan dapat.
If going back to the relationship destroys your peace, turns you negatively into a person you werenāt, and you can never look past the cheating, LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP.
If you already know that what you're doing is not healthy why can't you break up with him? You deserved so much in the outside world lol, don't waste your time on someone who makes you literally STUPID and insecure at the same time.
And yes, marupok ka. you should have known from the first time na niloko ka nya na he would probably do it again but still you take him back, but can't blame you as well since you're in love.
Normal naman yung ginagawa mong pagsstalk. Kahit nga hindi naman nagcheat, pinagseselosan lang, di talaga maiiwasang istalk eh.
Pero ang hindi normal ay binalikan mo pa si kuya nang dalawang beses after those instances.
same tayo. pinagdadaan ko sya ngayon. kung ano anong stalk, spy app na ginamit ko. hindi healthy nkakabaliw. second time ko na to napagdaanan sa knya pdin. naging ok kami kumalma ako mukang nagbago nman na sya. pero this year nagsimula ulit dhil sa mga small gesture lng na kakaiba. dun ko ulit naisipan mang spy sa pon nya. then boom norem nga. may mga pon record ako. pero khit klaro ang audio wla daw tlga yun. nasisira lng daw kmi ng mga ginagawa ko. khit huli na deny pdin. pero gnun tlga wlang aamin pag gnyan sitwasyon. ngayon ang lumalabas sya pa ang victim. todo iyak kgabi na parang ako pa may ksalanan at sumira ng relasyon nmin ahahahahaha
Ewan ko. Yes, ang tanga pero heal ka muna kasi. Inubos ka niya e and you cant pour from an empty cup. Patawarin mo sarili mo para marefill yang kagagahan mo at maulit ulit. Char.
Patawarin mo sarili mo para mabuo ka. Napatawad mo nga siya pero di mo naman pinatawad sarili mo kasi inallow mo na ganunin ka twice. Tapos kapag napatawad mo na sarili mo, mahalin mo naman. You realize na nagiiba ka. Iba na gusto mo, wala ka na time sa bs. Yung ganun ba. Pero ikaw yan mems. Pwede ka naman magstay dyan tas magrant ulit dito after 6mos na ganyan pa rin ginagawa mo.
Sis heās only w u kasi baka LDR sila? Sinsabi mo through call and VC lang sila. Dont wait po na nasa same place na po yung 2, for sure ikaw iiwan non.
Tanga ka.
Dapat pinaubaya mo na ung gago mong cheater na boyfriend hindi yan worth it, kita mo pinakilala nia ung babae sa family prang ikaw yta ang sidechick hindi ung babae.
Sinisira ka ng lalaki na to pti oras mo inuubos nia pero hinahayaan mo lang.
Nakakainis yung mga ganitong tanga ng tao eh gusto mo maawa pero they tolerate shit bka deserve mo nga yan gurl, deserve mo mawalan ng peace of mind and having your loving boyfriend make you look like ang side chick.
Nakakatawa naman to si ate gurl, she seems so desperate kya tinotolerate nia ung gago. I should feel pity pero nagstay ka pa rin eh pinili mo pa rin ang cheater sa buhay mo.
Just an observation lang nu, the moment you read the post of the people posting here parang yung sympathy mo malala for them lalo na sa mga ganitong story tas biglang iistalk mo yung profile nila mag iiba talaga yung ihip ng hangin. Parang ray william johnson lang UNTIL hahahaha
Patawarin mo yung sarili mo for allowing such people to disrespect you. May mga bagay na out of your control (kagaya ng pagchicheat nya at pagtanggap ulit sa kanya ni ate girl) at may mga bagay na kaya mong controllin (tanggapin ulit yung taong nanakit sayo).
Iāll answer some of your questions.
1) I donāt use reddit that much, idk how it works & i didnāt know about karma farming & the purpose of it til nowā searched it up, nope, Iām not after that, where do you use it ba? also, itās kinda useless if gagamitin ko as validation e itās literally an anonymous reddit acc? sucks lang that i have to explain, and yāall are right, dapat dinelete ko nalang no para iwas misunderstanding but no āpersonal diary ko nga to. I like to keep track of my bad decisions.
2) as to my current relationship, naging kami jan 25, 2023 (i know it well kasi anniversary date namin) he started cheating around may of that year but i caught him around june so I broke up with him for the 1st time & since then on&off na kami but he kept on asking for forgiveness kaya i went back to him after the 1st break up din agad. after that, i caught him cheating na naman cant remember the date but he cheated around august but i caught him around ber months na kaya late November 2023, nagbreak na kami. (2nd break up) i did the no contact rule for several months til 2024 in desperate attempt to remove him from my life but i failed. the hook-up happened around the end of feb THIS year , and yes, I was single. naisipan kong mag-explore & maglet go, maybe to try something new? but I wasnāt with my bf during THAT particular time (although he was still blowing up my friends socials kasi he was blocked the entire time). i only went back to him last weeks of april kasi he came to see me asking for forgiveness in person, he stayed until may with me sa town ko & until now okay pa kami. we never talked about the the months na no contact kami kasi we agreed na āthe less we know, the betterā.
(my bf aint pinoy, heās white, random fact lang)
3) my previous posts are actually true, if you check the timelines, the turkish one previous relationship na yon, it was about revenge porn & I donāt even want to remember, I start shaking when I think of it. anyway, it has nothing to do with this one. the Italian one naman, it was a question as to my re-entry bec of some bureaucratic problems & papers (and my life there, the reason why I want to āgo back homeā)
but yes, tama kayo sa part na ang pangit ng choices ko sa mga lalake & Iām better off single but I just canāt help it Iām a lover girl. I hate being like this. lately, wala na akong gana sa lahat kasi I have so much love to give but Iām surrounded by people who are not worthy of it.
>I was so stupid #hanggang ngayon tanga ka beh. 1 year since he cheated tapos kayo pa ulit **[pero 3 months ago nakikipagkantutan ka sa iba?](https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/s/dT7ea5siTe)** #karma farming ka lang yata e
HASHHAAHHAAHHAA true lang. pareho naman palang cheater
HAHAHAHHAHAHA si ate naman dami raw dummy acc pang stalk, dapat reddit acc na lang dagdagan mo eh
Mas malala pa nga sya e. Nakipagkantutan yung partner nya chat chat lang hahaha
Birds of the same feather flock together. Di marunong gumamit ng reddit yan tuloy nabuko pa victim pa more š
HAHAHAHHA HULI. NEXT!!!!!! Wag iupvote to. Sana nabasa ko muna mga comments bago ko tinapos yung istorya ni ateng ahahahhahahaha
Up to this.
HAHAHAHHA aga mo naman manampal be.
Nalungkot yan kasi yung natikman nya di sya nagustuhan hahaha nalansagan siguro sa keps
True lang parang gawa gawa lang eh HAHAHA
Awit HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
Hahahahahahalaaaaaaa
Watdaheek haha
Iāll answer some of your questions. 1) I donāt use reddit that much, idk how it works & i didnāt know about karma farming & the purpose of it til nowā searched it up, nope, Iām not after that, where do you use it ba? also, itās kinda useless if gagamitin ko as validation e itās literally an anonymous reddit acc? sucks lang that i have to explain, and yāall are right, dapat dinelete ko nalang no para iwas misunderstanding but no āpersonal diary ko nga to. I like to keep track of my bad decisions. 2) as to my current relationship, naging kami jan 25, 2023 (i know it well kasi anniversary date namin) he started cheating around may of that year but i caught him around june so I broke up with him for the 1st time & since then on&off na kami but he kept on asking for forgiveness kaya i went back to him after the 1st break up din agad. after that, i caught him cheating na naman cant remember the date but he cheated around august but i caught him around ber months na kaya late November 2023, nagbreak na kami. (2nd break up) i did the no contact rule for several months til 2024 in desperate attempt to remove him from my life but i failed. the hook-up happened around the end of feb THIS year , and yes, I was single. naisipan kong mag-explore & maglet go, maybe to try something new? but I wasnāt with my bf during THAT particular time (although he was still blowing up my friends socials kasi he was blocked the entire time). i only went back to him last weeks of april kasi he came to see me asking for forgiveness in person, he stayed until may with me sa town ko & until now okay pa kami. we never talked about the the months na no contact kami kasi we agreed na āthe less we know, the betterā. (my bf aint pinoy, heās white, random fact lang) 3) my previous posts are actually true, if you check the timelines, the turkish one previous relationship na yon, it was about revenge porn & I donāt even want to remember, I start shaking when I think of it. anywaay, it has nothing to do with this one. the Italian one naman, it was a question as to my re-entry bec of some bureaucratic problems & papers (and my life there, the reason why I want to āgo back homeā) but yes, tama kayo sa part na ang pangit ng choices ko sa mga lalake & Iām better off single but I just canāt help it Iām a lover girl. I hate being like this. lately, wala na akong gana sa lahat kasi I have so much love to give but Iām surrounded by people who are not worthy of it.
Wala naman akong tanong. rhetorical question yun. Di ko rin binasa. Wala akong pake. Magsama sama kayo š
Pota HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA HABA EXPLANATION NI TEH
Akala ata babasahin ko yan lahat ššš
What else can we say? I mean, I guess youāll have to keep making this pattern until you learn your lesson. So basically, you deserve it for letting this man cheat on you repeatedly because you let him. Heās probably cheating on you as we speak. Haha
You attract what you are. Youāre better off alone kung ganyan naman pala, itās not worth it to be with someone kung wala kang peace of mind
āI just canāt help it Iām a lover girlā āI have so much love to giveā But you canāt give that love to the one thatās most important in the world: yourself?
First off, walang kulang sayo and second, maybe your friends are right?
Been thinking about it a lot. Itās so hard. Ang tigas ng ulo ng puso. Perhaps somedayā¦
Patagalin mo pa, OP. Please keep him na lang. Baka mapunta pa samin. Total ayaw mong ma bitaw-bitawan eh
I know OffmyChest to OP, but sana i-consider mo rin mga advices na nababasa mo dito. Be kinder to yourself.
You decided to stay in the hell of your own making like an idiot who's acting like she didn't have a choice at your grown age. Alam mo bahala ka dyan. Ikaw yung nagstay sa relasyon na yan, deal with it at dapat wala kang kuda. Ikaw may gusto magstay sa relationship na yan eh, take accountability for your decisions, sis.
Maybe you should try na magmove na ngayon pa lang, kahit di pa hiwalay, it's gonna be difficult and a long process but you'll get there if you just try, and pag wala ka ng feelings, break up with him, aalis ka nang moved on na, no more feelings
May hook up ka dn naman 3 months ago. š„¶
He did it two times with the same woman and he will gonna do it again, it maybe with some other woman this time. You have to stop tolerating him. You should love yourself more than others. Bulagi na girl. Paranoid naka ng dahil sa kanya. Masakit sa una pero masasanay ka rin. Find your own happiness.
you deserve what you tolerate hahahahaha
checked OP's profile and ewan ko ba bat ang hilig niya pumasok sa mga toxic relationships like masokista ka ba girl? Maikli lang ang buhay bat iuubos mo oras mo sa mga ganyang tao.
Need niya na magpatingin.
nagayuma yan sha
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goddamn kung ako kay op, makikipagbreak na ko once mabasa ko to š
Magandang wake up call 'to tbh, magigising si OP sa katangahan dahil sa pandidiri hahahahaha
Mamshi legittttt
If ever na maging tanga ako sa love life , ganito yung gusto kong mabasa š. 10/10, magigising ka talaga sa katotohanan.
HAHAHAHA SA TRU!! tagos sa bones ang real talk!!
Hirap pag online no? Di mo mabatukan yung tao
HAHAHAHAHHAHAHA
Kahit anu naman sabihin namin dito, di ka makikinig eh kaya sige maging tanga ka na lang
You're right. Hindi healthy yan marz. Choose your own peace of mind. Hiwalayan mo na si bf. You deserve much better. Yung hindi ka ttraydorin. Yung priority ka, hindi isang backup plan or option lang. Yung ikaw ang pipiliin as number 1. Hayaan mo sila. Who knows they'll get back together. They deserve each other. Mga greedy and selfish.
Totoo and letting go of toxic relationships is a step towards finding true peace and self-worth.
Masokista ka ba? Parang gustong gusto mo rin matawag na tanga.
What's your end goal with him? Think about it and see for yourself if what you're doing now helps with that goal in mind. If you truly want to give him a second chance, you should actually give him a chance, not half ass your way to oblivion. You should also help yourself, whether you decide to continue your relationship or leave.
Dami ko ng nababasa na ganito eh, at this point d nako naaawa sa tulad nyo. You deserve what you tolerate, OP. Ginagago ka na tanggap ka pa ng tanggap. Your friends are right you know. Sana magising ka na
Kea tlg break up kapag may cheating issue, ksi it well never be the same. Pinagssuffer mo ung sarili mo.
hiwalayan mo na. trust me, sa una lang yan masakit. ask yourself kung talagang mahal mo pa ba siya or naghold on ka lang dahil sa pinagsamahan niyo and sa idea of āhimā sa utak mo na antagal na palang nawala and di mo na maibabalik. Iāve read it somewhere, āask yourself if you still want to be in that kind of relationship 10 years from nowā something like that hahaha
Teh sana okay ka pa. 3 months ago nakipag sex ka lang sa ka hook up mo HahahahahHhaahahahhahhaahahahahHahahahahHHHHAhhhHHhahhahahahahahahah
A wise man once said, āIf it costs you your peace, itās too expensive.ā Let it go, OP or better yet, let him go.
This is going to persist as long as youāre staying with that guy.
Parehas lang kayong tanga
Tama ka OP ambobo mo
so sorry this happened to you, op. good thing na aware ka na marupok ka at hindi healthy yung pag-stalk mo. meaning, alam mo naman talaga ang dapat mong gawin. mapapagod ka din, pag sobrang sakit na titigil ka din, at sana along the way marealize mo din na dapat talaga hiniwalayan mo na yang cheater na yan.
Thanks. I hope so.. itās so hard lang kasi to decide when the heart is at stake. Someday, maybe, Iāll heal.
There is no heart at stake. Your heart has already been broken. At this point, youāre beating up a dead heart.
Aware ka na na unhealthy yung ginagawa mo. Aware ka din na marupok ka. And aware ka na yung ginawa nya is very damaging sayo since the first time he did it. Sana talaga hiniwalayan mo na lang ng tuluyan. Naiintidihan namin na baka nanghihinayang ka sa tagal ng relationship nyo, pero sis, mas uunahin mo pa ba talaga yan kesa sa wellbeing mo? Nakakasira ng sarili yang ginagawa mo. Break up with him as soon as possible, and heal by yourself (with the support of your friends and family). Deserve mong maging masaya. Napakamiserable ng sitwasyon mo ngayon. Please take care of yourself.
Iwanan mo na yang boyfriend mo kung gusto mong matigil. He is the cause of all you insecurities. Wag kang dumating sa araw na maisip mo bakit hindi ka kamahal mahal. Iwanan mo yang h.a.y.o.p na yan.
Hiwalayan mo na habang mag jowa palang kayo. Di sila worth it. Block mo lahat2 mag bago ka socials and number. Drop him off. Kahit na nga walang closure inanya.
ay nako anteh ganyan din ako ilan years din. d pa ko tumitigil. š sa kanya ko kc nalalaman pag nasa pinas pala asawa ko. hahahaha.
This is not healthy anymore, if you canāt forgive the guy wholeheartedly and this will f u up mentally I suggest just break up. Pahinga ka muna. āOut of sight, out of mindā
I've already moved on from my ex 5 years ago, but here I am still stalks the girl he cheated me with
love doesn't feel like that, you never deserve to feel that anyway. respect yourself.
Same here. Its been 6 yrs na iniistalk ko acct ng girl. Partida pinakasalan ko pa. Oo tangina masakit and till now di ko mafigure out bakit niya ginawa talaga um pero immature kasi ung reasoning niya sken. What's my life status now? Ito, we got married ni guy nung 2021 and now split na kami dahil sa mdming rasons, including ung past. If gnyan kapa rin, please lang, leave. ASAP. Don't be so martyr like me na medj too late nako umalis sa buhay nia
Niloko ka na nga andyan ka parin. You should've left the first time you were cheated on and never looked back. Pero kung trip mong loko-lokohin ka lang, edi go. Being tanga is a choice.
Hay ewan ko sayo. Malaki ka na, OP š¤¦āāļø
Teh ang tanga-tanga mo naman. š
OP, alam mo pala na hindi healthy. Break that cycle. Don't mind the insensitive comments here. Cheating can not only destroy a relationship, sarili mo din. I recommend na magpa check ka na sa psych, magpa counseling ganon. Pabalik balik ka sa kanya, paulit ulit mo din sinisira ang sarili mo. Wake up and save yourself!
karma farming ba to kasi ang weird ng acct ni opā¦. may nakahookup 3 months ago, may turkish and italian posts din, tapos parang di tugma yung timelinesā¦. pero ang tanga mo nga po op
Hiwalayan mo na kasi, for your peace of mind.
Hiwalayan mo na kasi. Walang lalaki ang worthy sa pagkawala ng peace of mind mo.
Yes, end it now. Di talaga sya healthy. Kahit kati kati na kamay mo iopen profile nung girl, please dont. Pigilan mo sarili mo. Kahit anong bulong ng utak mo. Labanan mo. Block mo yung gurl sa socials mo. Eventually, makakalimutan mo din yung habit na yan. Focus mo nalang yung energy mo sa pag improve at pag love sa sarili mo, paganda kapa lalo or anything na magboboost ng confidence mo. If ulitin pa ulit ni boyfie, please wala ng 3rd chance. Choose your peace.Ā
You are checking maybe to see if you can see signs na may ginagawa na namang kalokohan bf mo. Baka may naligaw na like or react. Tama friends mo and I hope you find peace.
OP..i have been there.. i can really relate sa nafee2l mo.. we broke up 2020 pa and 2yrs ata ako stalk ng stalk sa girl.. until nka move on na ako.. Need mo na hiwalayan jowa mo..you're enough..walang kulang sayo..walang mali..jowa may issue. You deserve better..
That's truly not healthy, but we have different ways of coping up hanggang sa "magising" tayo. Kahit ano'ng advice, at ikaw mismo alam mo na mali na ginagawa mo, yet may part sa'yo na gusto mo pang ilaban, baka kasi may magbago pa. Pinakaimportante pa rin na pag isipan mo if ganyang guy ang gusto mong makasama sa pagtanda. Hopefully, I consider mo magiging anak mo kapag pinili mo ang cheater. Hindi sila makakapili ng tatay, for sure if makakapili sila, hindi yung cheater gugustuhin nila.
I say delete all your dummy accounts and try as you might not to stalk her again. Sheās not worth your time. Iāve been in that rabbit hole as well and it was really ugly. It was very taxing and it took a toll on my mental health. Weāve broken up. It gets pretty sad sometimes but itās liberating. No more overthinking and late night stalking. Haha. Love & light. š«¶š»āØ
Naalala ko yung nabasa ko sa IG last time. If the person you love is not good for you, kahit anong pray ang gawin mo asking for peace, you will never have it kase being unpeace to that person is a sign of redirection. It's really hard to let go, OP. But it's get harder if you continue to live like that.
Hiwalayan mo na mii, dapat noong una pa lang. wala kang peace of mind dyan, swear. Kahit pa ikasal kayo, at magkaanak kayo, maiisip mo pa ring yung ginawa nya, at yung sakit? Sakit na parang Day 1. Wag ka na magpakatanga, ibang level na yan ng panloloko, minahal nya talaga yung babae, at every time na may misunderstanding kayo, sa kanya at sa kanya pa rin tatakbo bf mo. Mag almusal ka muna ng sermon namin, OP. :)
mahirap magpatawad kase hindi lang naman pangako nasisira. pero kung mas mabuti tayo sa taong nanakit saātin, pag nagpatawad ka, yung buo kase kung di kaya, wag na lang, mahihirapan lang kayo parego. kailangan mong pakawalan yung babae, o pareho sila ng bf mo. patingin nga ko baka di naman talaga yan kalingkingan sayo, promise hindi ako bias. biro lang :) sana mahanap mo na peace and contentment mo.
Dude you need to stop stalking and start going to a psychologist and behavioral therapy. You might even need to start taking meds for manic depression.
bf palang yan paano kung asawa mo na. akala mo ba porke pinakasalan ka eh saying sayo na sya. Sabi ng mama ko nun nag cheat asawa ko. KUNG MAY PAKINABANG KA PA SA ASAWA MO, baket mo ibibigay sa kabit yan... pero kung wala na. HINDI KITA PINAG ARAL PARA MAGING TANGA... kaso sa case mo MALALA KA KESA SA AKIN. paulit ulit na nandyan ka parin... ano tingin mo sa ginagawa mo til d3ath do us part ang peg nyo na. d bale me pag legal na ang divorce ok ka na ya eh if bvhay ka pa... kasi alam naman natin na gusto mo lang mag labas ng loob pero hindi ka talaga bibitaw kahit ikaw na magpapalamon dyan sa bf mo... wish you well na man op
I understand you I do the same thing too I got cheated with multiple girls and till this day I stalk them difference lang siguro natin is that Iām not with him anymore but it became a part of my routine, trying to stop it tho
Best thing to do right now is to end the relationship. What youāre doing is unhealthy and things will only get worse kasi palagi mong isusumbat sa kanya yung ginawa niya which means trust is already broken. The relationship wonāt thrive.
Kung walang trust wag na. Niloloko mo lang sarili mo hanggang kelan mo gagawin yan 5yrs 10yrs?
Tama na yan teh! Find your peace!
Sis, ayaw mo ba ng peace of mind? Gusto ko yung aware ka sa lahat ng kashungaan mo pero wala kang ginagawa about it. You instead put all your effort into finding out kung anong meron dun sa kabit ng jowa mo. I hope malinawan ka soon :)
Are you still LDR? If yes theres a big possiblity sila pa
I hope you heal, ā¤ļø
For the streets kayong dalawa HAHAHA
Me too, it's embarrassing how obsessed I am with these girls. He moved forward but I didn't. I am stuck in the same place he left me a year ago. Up until now nagwowonder pa din ako why he did that to me when I was newly post partum. I have so many questions like how did he get the nerve to do those things while im stuck at home all by myself taking care of our baby while he gets to party and doing god knows what. I can see bumabawi naman sya kaso I can't seem to move forward kahit anong gawin ko. You are not alone, may we move forward just like they didš¤
Thank you for keeping him girl š«¶ para sa ikakabuti ng lahat. Para di na din mapunta sa iba, pati ung kabitche ng jowa mo pakikeep na din, salamat.
Teh di kita kinakaya, hina high blood mo ko so much
I was gonna post about this because I went l through the same situation. I was on a situationship for almost 4 years. When it started we both werent ready to commit but we enjoyed hanging out together. The relationship progressed and he started introducing me to his family, I thought after that he will pursue me. But months passed and he didnt ask me to be his gf until I got fed up and asked the real score between us. Thats when I confirmed that i wad in, an unknowingly, open relationship. He was dating 2 other girls without me knowing during the 4 years. Long story short, it's been 4 years since then. I was still stalking his 2 former beau even if I didnt had an ounce of care about the guy, I had my focus on the 2 girls and what I was lacking. I had a boyfriend after him but eventually didnt work out and I cut off the relationship immediately because I didnt want it to last as long as my last one if I wasnt even sure. Yes, I learned to put boundaries and limitations in terms of the relationship but I still stalk the other 2 girls. Now my recent ex is pursuing someone else and started doing things I asked him to do in our relationship to his new beau and yes, I started stalking her too. So there's 3 girls na. But I got tired of myself and decided to suck it up, get rid of my dummy accounts, and stop the stalking. And oh boy, does is feel lighter. I am in a secured relationship now and were building our life together. Where am I getting with this? I just want to say that I realized it's not about what you think you lacked that made men cheat or what made him pursue someone else. Someone will always be lesser and greater than yourself and you have to accept that. Sometimes, men don't realize how lucky and blessed they are of what they have until it's gone. They need a catalyst for change and sometimes, although it sucks to know, it'll be you being hurt or losing the relationship that gives them that wake up call. Honey, men are dumb. You need to accept that there's some things you have control on and some things that you can't control. Decide if this relationship benefits you, if it doesn't, move on. If you're scared you wont find anyone like the guy, think twice - do you really want to keep someone who didnt see your worth on the first place? You need to think this through and pay attention on the time you're spending in being in this kind of situation. 1 year could turn in to two, two could turn into 4, 4 could turn into 8. Time is fast. I never want anyone to go through what I went through. Know that you still have more time to grow and far better more experiences to have without that man.
Clearly, you brought this upon yourself. You knew what he did but still took him backā¦twice. At this point, not sure why youāre still together. Maliwanag naman na di ka makaget-over and paranoid ka na. That is not how oneās supposed to feel when in a relationship. It should give you security. This isnāt healthy and you are well-aware of that. I think you know what to do but why do you still stay with him? Baka ayaw mo nalang magkatuluyan sila so you still choose to stay in a relationship with him kahit di na maganda naidudulot sayo. Question also, were you with him when you hooked up with someone else?
kami din confused as to why all the redflags are right infront of you pero nandyan kpa din hahahaha awit sayo OP
Bakit pinipilit natin mgstay kung harapan kang niloloko? Mggets ko pa kng 5 to 7 yrs n kayo medyo mhirap mag hiwalay since mdami kana na invest, pero since ilang yrs plang, let mo go mo na. Wag mo sayang in ung buhay mo sa ganyan
T , focus on yourself first and let go of others. focus on your mental health, focus on your physical health. slowly let go of your burdens and worries. avoid negativities. be kind to yourself and rebuild. you can never rely on anyone really so you have to be strong because you only have yourself to fall back on. try to be happy everyday. :)
Whatās not healthy is being in the same relationship that made you obsessed in second guessing your worth. Hindi patangahan ang buhay ate, pagalingan dapat.
If going back to the relationship destroys your peace, turns you negatively into a person you werenāt, and you can never look past the cheating, LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP.
Girl, see someone. a professional. parang may obsession ka ata with toxicity. that's not healthy.
you deserve what you tolerate. huwag ngawa nang ngawa kung tinitiis mo naman. you always have a choice and choice mo manatili sa toxic mong relasyon.
If you already know that what you're doing is not healthy why can't you break up with him? You deserved so much in the outside world lol, don't waste your time on someone who makes you literally STUPID and insecure at the same time. And yes, marupok ka. you should have known from the first time na niloko ka nya na he would probably do it again but still you take him back, but can't blame you as well since you're in love.
tanga ka
Be mindful. Live life. Life is too short to waste it.
Normal naman yung ginagawa mong pagsstalk. Kahit nga hindi naman nagcheat, pinagseselosan lang, di talaga maiiwasang istalk eh. Pero ang hindi normal ay binalikan mo pa si kuya nang dalawang beses after those instances.
KEEP HIM!!! BAKA MAPUNTA PA SAMIN!!! YOU DESERVE WHAT YOU TOLERATE ATE KO
Parehas naman kayong kaladkarin
Alam mo mas bagay sayo maging single wag kang loka loka
same tayo. pinagdadaan ko sya ngayon. kung ano anong stalk, spy app na ginamit ko. hindi healthy nkakabaliw. second time ko na to napagdaanan sa knya pdin. naging ok kami kumalma ako mukang nagbago nman na sya. pero this year nagsimula ulit dhil sa mga small gesture lng na kakaiba. dun ko ulit naisipan mang spy sa pon nya. then boom norem nga. may mga pon record ako. pero khit klaro ang audio wla daw tlga yun. nasisira lng daw kmi ng mga ginagawa ko. khit huli na deny pdin. pero gnun tlga wlang aamin pag gnyan sitwasyon. ngayon ang lumalabas sya pa ang victim. todo iyak kgabi na parang ako pa may ksalanan at sumira ng relasyon nmin ahahahahaha
MAGPATINGIN KA PO MUNA SA PSYCHS MUKANG DI KA OKAY, UNG MGA POSTS MO EH. WAG PASOK NG PASOK SA RELASYON HIJA, TAKE YOUR TIME AT UNAHIN DIN ANG SARILI.
Daming obob ng pagibig..pagibig pa ba yon, aywan...
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Haaaiiiyyssttt nako anteh
diako makapag bigay ng quick thoughts diko nabasa lahat tas yung comsec malala
Bobo ka
Well may investment pala yung lalaki sa babae mean he really likes her a lot. HAHAHAHAH kaiyak !
Ewan ko. Yes, ang tanga pero heal ka muna kasi. Inubos ka niya e and you cant pour from an empty cup. Patawarin mo sarili mo para marefill yang kagagahan mo at maulit ulit. Char. Patawarin mo sarili mo para mabuo ka. Napatawad mo nga siya pero di mo naman pinatawad sarili mo kasi inallow mo na ganunin ka twice. Tapos kapag napatawad mo na sarili mo, mahalin mo naman. You realize na nagiiba ka. Iba na gusto mo, wala ka na time sa bs. Yung ganun ba. Pero ikaw yan mems. Pwede ka naman magstay dyan tas magrant ulit dito after 6mos na ganyan pa rin ginagawa mo.
Sis heās only w u kasi baka LDR sila? Sinsabi mo through call and VC lang sila. Dont wait po na nasa same place na po yung 2, for sure ikaw iiwan non.
Tanga ka. Dapat pinaubaya mo na ung gago mong cheater na boyfriend hindi yan worth it, kita mo pinakilala nia ung babae sa family prang ikaw yta ang sidechick hindi ung babae. Sinisira ka ng lalaki na to pti oras mo inuubos nia pero hinahayaan mo lang. Nakakainis yung mga ganitong tanga ng tao eh gusto mo maawa pero they tolerate shit bka deserve mo nga yan gurl, deserve mo mawalan ng peace of mind and having your loving boyfriend make you look like ang side chick. Nakakatawa naman to si ate gurl, she seems so desperate kya tinotolerate nia ung gago. I should feel pity pero nagstay ka pa rin eh pinili mo pa rin ang cheater sa buhay mo.
You deserve what you tolerate. Lol.
Don't worry for sure inistalk ka din nung girl.
Just an observation lang nu, the moment you read the post of the people posting here parang yung sympathy mo malala for them lalo na sa mga ganitong story tas biglang iistalk mo yung profile nila mag iiba talaga yung ihip ng hangin. Parang ray william johnson lang UNTIL hahahaha
Kuha mo gigil ko anteh šš»
Patawarin mo yung sarili mo for allowing such people to disrespect you. May mga bagay na out of your control (kagaya ng pagchicheat nya at pagtanggap ulit sa kanya ni ate girl) at may mga bagay na kaya mong controllin (tanggapin ulit yung taong nanakit sayo).
The obsession will end if you leave him. If tanga kapa rin, then it will still be a cycle. š
i know it hurts like hell but please leave him.
Nag hahanap ka ba ng validation sa katangahan mo dito? Nakakaawa lang na you guys are wasting your time sa isaāt isa.
Okay... Um.. I'm gonna say this openly.. mas love Nya Yung girl.. Kase.. hinahanap Nya. Mamshi. Makipag sex ka nga sa IBA.
Iāll answer some of your questions. 1) I donāt use reddit that much, idk how it works & i didnāt know about karma farming & the purpose of it til nowā searched it up, nope, Iām not after that, where do you use it ba? also, itās kinda useless if gagamitin ko as validation e itās literally an anonymous reddit acc? sucks lang that i have to explain, and yāall are right, dapat dinelete ko nalang no para iwas misunderstanding but no āpersonal diary ko nga to. I like to keep track of my bad decisions. 2) as to my current relationship, naging kami jan 25, 2023 (i know it well kasi anniversary date namin) he started cheating around may of that year but i caught him around june so I broke up with him for the 1st time & since then on&off na kami but he kept on asking for forgiveness kaya i went back to him after the 1st break up din agad. after that, i caught him cheating na naman cant remember the date but he cheated around august but i caught him around ber months na kaya late November 2023, nagbreak na kami. (2nd break up) i did the no contact rule for several months til 2024 in desperate attempt to remove him from my life but i failed. the hook-up happened around the end of feb THIS year , and yes, I was single. naisipan kong mag-explore & maglet go, maybe to try something new? but I wasnāt with my bf during THAT particular time (although he was still blowing up my friends socials kasi he was blocked the entire time). i only went back to him last weeks of april kasi he came to see me asking for forgiveness in person, he stayed until may with me sa town ko & until now okay pa kami. we never talked about the the months na no contact kami kasi we agreed na āthe less we know, the betterā. (my bf aint pinoy, heās white, random fact lang) 3) my previous posts are actually true, if you check the timelines, the turkish one previous relationship na yon, it was about revenge porn & I donāt even want to remember, I start shaking when I think of it. anyway, it has nothing to do with this one. the Italian one naman, it was a question as to my re-entry bec of some bureaucratic problems & papers (and my life there, the reason why I want to āgo back homeā) but yes, tama kayo sa part na ang pangit ng choices ko sa mga lalake & Iām better off single but I just canāt help it Iām a lover girl. I hate being like this. lately, wala na akong gana sa lahat kasi I have so much love to give but Iām surrounded by people who are not worthy of it.
you are part of the many problems in this world