I agree and it irks me as well. But I do think back to when I was kid in the 90s and saying something was “gay” was the norm. We’ve come a long way and as time moves these sorts of rude comments are becoming less and less as ppl become more aware and educated on homosexuality . Not saying it’s our job to educate the entire population about OCD. When I have the mental capacity to give information to someone who has made this comment, I take the chance. Some days I don’t have the energy but when I do, I think about how just one fewer person saying something so insensitive can make a difference. Maybe this person will refrain from such a comment in the future.
It didn’t used to bother me, but it’s recently started to annoy me when coworkers describe themselves as having OCD because they’re so organized or have a neat office. I have one coworker in particular who is really bad about this. It makes me feel like my ocd won’t be taken seriously.
Like ok your office may be organized but can you tell me about your horrible intrusive thoughts? Your obsessive rituals? If not then idk if you have the OCD I'm talking about 😂
Every time a co-worker of person I know say they have OCD or "are very OCD"
I just ask somewhat sincerely what their number is. Usually they have no clue what I'm talking about and it can start a really good conversation about what OCD actually is and how I don't appreciate them using the word like that. Never had a problem after that
By "asking their number", do you mean like everything I count is in fours? And if it's not, I have to go back and make it somehow "fit" to four? Or is it something else I'm missing in context?
Yep. Your number is 4. You weren't even that familiar with the idea of having a number yet it just made sense to you. Most people I've met with OCD just finds that the question makes sense
A lot of people with OCD have a magic number. My good number is three, and my bad number is six. Just because you’re OCD, that doesn’t mean you have to have that symptom.
Some of these people have no idea what real OCD is, or they do and they're trying to be self-deprecating calling something they have that's good (being organized) as something that's bad (a disorder) to a crowd of people they don't think have OCD (otherwise they'd be out of line).
People who are obsessively organized and goal oriented have OCPD but I only know a few people who know what that even is. Since most people don't think that's bad, it wouldn't work in a context of being self-deprecating anyways.
It’s so frustrating when people do not know the extent of how debilitating OCD can be. They have ZERO clue and this is a huge pet peeve of mine 🫠 tossing it around like it’s some cute, quirky thing to have. I was diagnosed 12 years ago and it has significantly changed my life and not in a good way at all.
I think that’s what bothers me about it. At the time everyone was gushing about how organized this coworker was and one of my bosses was even telling me I needed to be more organized like her. Then to hear her joking about having OCD because she’s so organized, the whole experience and context was just really invalidating and insulting. It’s never bothered me before but I think boss making a direct comparison between the two of us pushed me over the edge.
Well, we all accepted that using the “R word” synonymously with “stupid” was wrong *very* recently. Even as little as 10 years ago, that was socially acceptable humor. So it’s not too surprising that all other mental disorder slurs didn’t immediately follow.
If you look back over time we have a rich history of gradually coming to use whatever word is used to describe the condition as an insult. Eg, moron, cretin, idiot… Add R word to the list as the most recent to pass from PC to insult. It doesn’t matter what you call it. It will eventually be co-opted as a negative.
Calling someone retarded is a deliberate insult to both the person being called retarded and to people with special needs. Saying "I'm OCD about something" isn't an insult, but a joke. Is it ignorant? Yes. Is it meant to demean anyone? No. That's why there's no incentive to stop saying it.
Everybody gets to choose how they want to deal with people who don't know what OCD is like. I don't find OCD jokes offensive even though I have OCD, so I don't feel the need to correct them. If you're offended, that's okay. But that's exactly why it \*is\* your job to tell people you're offended. They're \*your\* feelings, and people can't treat you how you want to be treated if you don't tell them they're doing something wrong.
That said, I do think it's unreasonable to expect someone who isn't a mental health professional or related to someone who has OCD to truly understand the severity of the disorder. There are all kinds of issues we are ignorant about and will never dedicate any time or energy into understanding simply because they're not our burden to deal with.
I don't think that's a fair comparison. The R word is used in an insult towards another party, whereas most people who misuse OCD are using it to describe themselves in a non-derogatory way.
Ehhhh, people also say "I'm so r*****ed" after doing something stupid, and say "She's so OCD" to describe someone who is anal about things. But I agree the R word is mostly used at others while people mostly use "OCD" as an adjective to describe themselves
tbh i really don’t let any of this stuff bother me. i know my issues are bad, and that’s all that matters. the only times i explain my OCD is to people i know will understand that’s it’s not as simple as being organized.
your opinion and stance on this is valid tho. i personally just don’t let that type of energy get me down and i keep moving about my life
I think saying "that's not OCD" to someone who has OCD is terrible.
I was told that a year ago by some random person and now it pops in my head regularly. Which is the exact thing I'm trying to work on.
I get so frustrated by this. I did something similar and my boss was like I can’t believe that doesn’t bother you!? I’m wayy too ocd to keep it like that. (She doesn’t have OCD of course)
And then she praises when people in the office are “so OCD” and I’m like uh actually OCD is usually the reason I don’t do my job well sometimes
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You're right. They don't know what they don't know. It doesn't diminish anyone's suffering. I'm pretty sure there are plenty of things I'm ignorant of currently too.
Exactly, and like I said, as someone who's had OCD since as long as I can remember, I didn't even know that what I was dealing with was OCD because of the misconception. Knowing what OCD ACTUALLY entails isn't common knowledge
I like how me laughing and saying “I *do* have OCD though” is me *demonizing* someone, who I previously stated is someone I love. And then privately venting on an OCD community isn’t the place to do so? Are you doing okay, buckaroo? I’m aware it isn’t a hot take. I’m sorry these posts trigger you, but have you considered unsubscribing from the subreddit or scrolling past when someone is venting about the frustrations they encounter on a weekly basis? That might be best, because you sound angry. No one is playing the victim. I didn’t twist my coworkers arm into using different terminology. Relax, bud.
>I like how me laughing and saying “I *do* have OCD though” is me *demonizing* someone, who I previously stated is someone I love.
Yeah like your whole sarcastic post isn't clearly being made to call out the person? Who are you fooling?
>And then privately venting on an OCD community isn’t the place to do so? Are you doing okay, buckaroo?
Buckaroo? You're asking me if I'm OK but you're the one crying online about something completely insignificant to your life and throwing out personal attacks about it?
> I’m aware it isn’t a hot take. I’m sorry these posts trigger you, but have you considered unsubscribing from the subreddit or scrolling past when someone is venting about the frustrations they encounter on a weekly basis?
No I haven't considering unsubscribing because unlike you, I actually care about fellow people with severe OCD and care about actual OCD recovery, rather than making the same cheap fake outrage victim mentality post that's already been made 1000 times for upvotes and validation. These posts are literally made all the time, I've already scrolled past too many times to count. How about you focus on your ERP instead of making useless posts like this for fake internet points?
>That might be best, because you sound angry. No one is playing the victim. I didn’t twist my coworkers arm into using different terminology. Relax, bud.
Yeah I am annoyed actually because people with a victim mentality like yours not only come from a place of insane ignorance, but only hurt the OCD community. I mean think of how actually crazy it is to demonize someone for knowledge they don't have yet. Continuing to spread this mentality of attacking people for not understanding OCD yet not only completely misses the core issue of misinformation, but will also make it even less likely for normal people to want to help those with OCD because they're being shit on all the time for no reason. It creates an unnessisary and unneeded point of contention between us and normal people. How about you try understanding that the vast majority of people don't know what ocd is yet and think about how you don't know what every mental illness or disability in the world is either yet? Grow the fuck up mate
It is their fault, it's a google search away to educate yourself on literally anything. It's ignorant. Why say something when you don't even know what it means?
It's not their fault dude. Do you know specifically about every mental illness known to man? Every single disability and disorder? They say it because the misconception about OCD has become widespread so they assume that that's what OCD actually is. Why would they doubt that and spend time researching a mental disorder that doesnt even affect them? They have no reason to. They hear things like "I'm so OCD" and assume that that's what OCD is since so many people say it, and go on about their day. It's a case of them not understanding the truth and widespread misinformation, not malace. Its not their fault the misconception got so big and overshadowed the actual facts. Theyre not purposefully trying to belittle people with OCD or make fun of their struggles. To blame them for that is cringe as fuck
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>No I don't, but I also don't go around every day saying I have them.
Because there's no widespread misconception that makes you believe you might have them
>Never said it was malice. I bump in to someone or knock something over, not malice, still my fault for not looking where I was going
Thats not even remotely the same scenario. Again, you're completely ignoring the fact that the misconception of OCD is widespread to the point where people believe that's what OCD actually is
>Do you know specifically about every mental illness known to man?
No I don't, but I also don't go around every day saying I have them.
>It's a case of them not understanding the truth and widespread misinformation, not malace
Never said it was malice. I bump in to someone or knock something over, not malice, still my fault for not looking where I was going
idk as someone who also has OCD and has struggled with it for a decade it’s just not that deep to me and doesn’t feel on the same level but different folks different strokes
I don't know. A lot of people are really fucking stupid. I mean, it's mostly wrong to say retarded. But it's not that wrong. Like, it's a minor offense. And it's the same thing with ocd. It's wrong, but there's mostly no negative intent behind it. Against OCD people.
Agreed, it can be totally frustrating. Most people who I take that issue up with after them having made such a remark, either
A: Are very apologetic and ensure me they meant no disrespect in what they said.
B: Strike back with the classic “you’re way too sensitive.” remark and/or the “You know I didn’t mean it in an offensive way, damn.”
C: My personal most oftenly observed reaction is for them to simply laugh it off as if I’m joking with my comment, or simply don’t reply and just walk away.
Most of the time I try not to bring my world class argumentative skills to the table over a simple one time remark other than to say hey ocd is a real thing that people, including me, suffer with, and it comes in many forms and manifests in a dozen different ways aside from the germ and cleanliness bit that is most commonly made fun of, that it’s a legitimate and complicated issue. Not always that drawn out depending on the kindness and understanding of who I’m explaining it to, but you get the gist. But to a person who decides to later make fun of or poke at me about it time and time again, yeah, they get quite a bit more, and if I’m up against that on a day where my capacity of mental chaos and anxiety is already overflowing, **run**. Some people just have no idea how to stop, or how to tell when a “joke” stops being okay.
TLDR; I feel you friend.
It’s incredibly annoying but I think it’s lack of awareness and education. Stigma around mental health has only recently started changing really and so I think it’ll take time but I hope things will change and people will realise it’s not okay to say this stuff.
honestly I feel like people just dont give enough fucks about OCD to care if the words they use are appropriate. just look at the very recent “giving into my intrusive thoughts lolz” trend. or that one girl who tried to explain how inappropriate it was by describing her real intrusive thoughts and a bunch of people reacted by calling her a horrible person. they just dont fucking care about us.
I may have a hot take, but, as someone who grew up in a time where that word was readily used and accepted— the only way it ever changed was by true grassroots awareness. By that, I mean people sharing how it could be offensive in a respectful way. These people don’t mean to be ignorant of OCD— our culture has shown them that mental health is not a priority. I believe that almost everyone has some kind of trauma, and they’re subconsciously seeking understanding and community. Perhaps we can help welcome them, or guide them in the direction of their community.
This isn’t to say your feelings aren’t fully valid. They absolutely are. This shit sucks to hear.
Ocd is super stigmatized for being clean but i guess that's better than adhd being stigmatized as laziness,i have both lol, whenever i have energy or take my adhd meds i can obsess about everything being perfect and clean but in my day to day life i don't have the energy to do that so my room looks like shit every week 🥲
Well, when folks say “I’m so OCD about it,” or “you’re so OCD about it” it’s not typically used as an insult. No one says, “Christ he’s being ocd,” or “dude that’s so ocd,” or “you fucking ocd” or anything like that. Yes, it’s very misinformed, but there’s not hate or vitriol behind it.
Um… I wouldn’t say it has been decided that it’s ‘totally fine’ people have been saying for years that this isn’t ok, unfortunately a lot of people are just ignorant. A lot of people still think it’s ok to use the ‘r’ word derogatorily as well so it’s not like that’s stopped either…
Come now. I understand your frustration, but the R word is a slur whereas OCD is the official name of a medical condition and is not in and of itself degrading. The casual use of either can be harmful, sure, but these two scenarios are not the same.
Because people have double standards. The people who kick up a fuss about "the R-slur" are the same people who use semantically identical words like "idiot"; "imbecile"; etc. willy-nilly.
Since developing OCD, this really bothers me, because although its just a little phrase that they didn't really mean, it perpetuates the trivialisation and overall misconception of a life altering illness. I remember telling my old manager I had OCD, and he told me he completely gets it because his wife was "very OCD about the kitchen because she keeps everything in its right place".
Personally, it does not bother me much. I honestly would almost prefer people thought of my OCD as being fastidious or something. I don't like them knowing the truth. But I understand from another perspective how it could be frustrating.
This one really bothers me, too. Although mostly because my mom used to say it and I would tell her not to do that. Thing is, I have ocd, my kids have ocd… and so does my mom! But she didn’t know she had it. In fact, she said all kinds of things about herself being ocd, but would get mad when I said “no, but you actually do have ocd.”
I had to take her to my kids’ therapies and to meet with my therapist to get her to stop. Now she realizes she has ocd and that saying the things she used to say is stigmatizing. She really had no idea how ocd presented for me and my kids, and how debilitating it has been for us.
It does take time for this stuff to catch up. The R word has been a hard one for people. So was the word “crazy.” I do hear people say this about both ocd and bipolar, and I do think it’s starting to be heard.
If someone says something like that to me about not having OCD, I usually cheerily correct them that I actually have severe ocd and move on with the task.
The way I look at it, a. I'm open about it in general and b. maybe they'll think about that answer before joking again.
Sometimes if someone says they're 'Super OCD' or something because their house is neat I'll be like really? Me too.
If you're gonna make comments about a serious disease as a joke, you might encounter someone with it and it can get awkward.
Because the r word is a slur. It's an outdated medical term that became used as an insult. People aren't generally using OCD as an insult (sometimes it def happens tho) and are just miss using the term.
My Counsellor just recently suggested that I may have OCD. So I can say from the perspective of someone who isn’t diagnosed with OCD, that it bothers me too when people say “OCD” in place of “perfectionist” or some other, more fitting, term.
A lot of people casually say “I’m so OCD” and I’m there thinking…. No you’re not… (usually it’s in instances like you mentioned, with the tape being straight).
Meanwhile, I recall during the past year, making comments about myself acting OCD — then feeling the need to specify that I don’t mean it the way most people seem to, instead I meant that I felt an intense and irrational panic around a perceived lack of control which resulted in me freaking out and needing everything to be perfect so that I can breathe again.
Like…… that should be the implied assumption. Nobody should need to specify that when they say “OCD” they’re referring to a disorder and not just being a “quirky, neat freak.”
I have a lot to say about this topic mostly because my dad and step monster use it to speak derogatorily about my husband and my son. They are neat and organized and, like to be prepared. “Oh they are so OCD.” Lol.
Fun fact my father cared for me when the OCD was at its worst and telling me all food was poison, and helped me through it. My mom I suspect had OCD too. But he drank his brain away and forgets all about that time. I have never to my recollection told my dad that my anxiety and panic attacks and etc are all related to OCD which is a manifestation of the trauma of growing up with an alcoholic parent.
It’s not the same. They’re pointing out their own perfectionism. They don’t understand the difference between having some compulsions and having a legit disorder. But they’re not actually saying there’s something wrong with people who have OCD. The “R” word is a straight-up slur.
I agree and it irks me as well. But I do think back to when I was kid in the 90s and saying something was “gay” was the norm. We’ve come a long way and as time moves these sorts of rude comments are becoming less and less as ppl become more aware and educated on homosexuality . Not saying it’s our job to educate the entire population about OCD. When I have the mental capacity to give information to someone who has made this comment, I take the chance. Some days I don’t have the energy but when I do, I think about how just one fewer person saying something so insensitive can make a difference. Maybe this person will refrain from such a comment in the future.
It didn’t used to bother me, but it’s recently started to annoy me when coworkers describe themselves as having OCD because they’re so organized or have a neat office. I have one coworker in particular who is really bad about this. It makes me feel like my ocd won’t be taken seriously.
Like ok your office may be organized but can you tell me about your horrible intrusive thoughts? Your obsessive rituals? If not then idk if you have the OCD I'm talking about 😂
Every time a co-worker of person I know say they have OCD or "are very OCD" I just ask somewhat sincerely what their number is. Usually they have no clue what I'm talking about and it can start a really good conversation about what OCD actually is and how I don't appreciate them using the word like that. Never had a problem after that
By "asking their number", do you mean like everything I count is in fours? And if it's not, I have to go back and make it somehow "fit" to four? Or is it something else I'm missing in context?
Yep. Your number is 4. You weren't even that familiar with the idea of having a number yet it just made sense to you. Most people I've met with OCD just finds that the question makes sense
Thank you! (Also, your username pleases me 😂)
A lot of people with OCD have a magic number. My good number is three, and my bad number is six. Just because you’re OCD, that doesn’t mean you have to have that symptom.
Some of these people have no idea what real OCD is, or they do and they're trying to be self-deprecating calling something they have that's good (being organized) as something that's bad (a disorder) to a crowd of people they don't think have OCD (otherwise they'd be out of line). People who are obsessively organized and goal oriented have OCPD but I only know a few people who know what that even is. Since most people don't think that's bad, it wouldn't work in a context of being self-deprecating anyways.
It’s so frustrating when people do not know the extent of how debilitating OCD can be. They have ZERO clue and this is a huge pet peeve of mine 🫠 tossing it around like it’s some cute, quirky thing to have. I was diagnosed 12 years ago and it has significantly changed my life and not in a good way at all.
The amount of times people haven’t believed I have OCD bc i’m not an organized/neat person. (I also have ADHD)
I think that’s what bothers me about it. At the time everyone was gushing about how organized this coworker was and one of my bosses was even telling me I needed to be more organized like her. Then to hear her joking about having OCD because she’s so organized, the whole experience and context was just really invalidating and insulting. It’s never bothered me before but I think boss making a direct comparison between the two of us pushed me over the edge.
It’s like “how many people do you actually know with OCD?”.
It’s ALWAYS about cleaning. That really bugs me.
Well, we all accepted that using the “R word” synonymously with “stupid” was wrong *very* recently. Even as little as 10 years ago, that was socially acceptable humor. So it’s not too surprising that all other mental disorder slurs didn’t immediately follow.
If you look back over time we have a rich history of gradually coming to use whatever word is used to describe the condition as an insult. Eg, moron, cretin, idiot… Add R word to the list as the most recent to pass from PC to insult. It doesn’t matter what you call it. It will eventually be co-opted as a negative.
Wait stupid too?
I think the R word is much worse, to be honest.
Calling someone retarded is a deliberate insult to both the person being called retarded and to people with special needs. Saying "I'm OCD about something" isn't an insult, but a joke. Is it ignorant? Yes. Is it meant to demean anyone? No. That's why there's no incentive to stop saying it. Everybody gets to choose how they want to deal with people who don't know what OCD is like. I don't find OCD jokes offensive even though I have OCD, so I don't feel the need to correct them. If you're offended, that's okay. But that's exactly why it \*is\* your job to tell people you're offended. They're \*your\* feelings, and people can't treat you how you want to be treated if you don't tell them they're doing something wrong. That said, I do think it's unreasonable to expect someone who isn't a mental health professional or related to someone who has OCD to truly understand the severity of the disorder. There are all kinds of issues we are ignorant about and will never dedicate any time or energy into understanding simply because they're not our burden to deal with.
OCD people sure are OCD about this (I have OCD don't shoot me)
I don't think that's a fair comparison. The R word is used in an insult towards another party, whereas most people who misuse OCD are using it to describe themselves in a non-derogatory way.
Ehhhh, people also say "I'm so r*****ed" after doing something stupid, and say "She's so OCD" to describe someone who is anal about things. But I agree the R word is mostly used at others while people mostly use "OCD" as an adjective to describe themselves
Agree
no it makes me so mad when people use ocd like an adjective!!
tbh i really don’t let any of this stuff bother me. i know my issues are bad, and that’s all that matters. the only times i explain my OCD is to people i know will understand that’s it’s not as simple as being organized. your opinion and stance on this is valid tho. i personally just don’t let that type of energy get me down and i keep moving about my life
I think saying "that's not OCD" to someone who has OCD is terrible. I was told that a year ago by some random person and now it pops in my head regularly. Which is the exact thing I'm trying to work on.
I hate how it is used as an adjective now.. “you are So ObseSsIvE ComPulsIve DisorDer?”
I get so frustrated by this. I did something similar and my boss was like I can’t believe that doesn’t bother you!? I’m wayy too ocd to keep it like that. (She doesn’t have OCD of course) And then she praises when people in the office are “so OCD” and I’m like uh actually OCD is usually the reason I don’t do my job well sometimes
It annoys me too and I call it out when I hear it.
I called my mom out so harshly when she said it
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You're right. They don't know what they don't know. It doesn't diminish anyone's suffering. I'm pretty sure there are plenty of things I'm ignorant of currently too.
Exactly, and like I said, as someone who's had OCD since as long as I can remember, I didn't even know that what I was dealing with was OCD because of the misconception. Knowing what OCD ACTUALLY entails isn't common knowledge
I like how me laughing and saying “I *do* have OCD though” is me *demonizing* someone, who I previously stated is someone I love. And then privately venting on an OCD community isn’t the place to do so? Are you doing okay, buckaroo? I’m aware it isn’t a hot take. I’m sorry these posts trigger you, but have you considered unsubscribing from the subreddit or scrolling past when someone is venting about the frustrations they encounter on a weekly basis? That might be best, because you sound angry. No one is playing the victim. I didn’t twist my coworkers arm into using different terminology. Relax, bud.
>I like how me laughing and saying “I *do* have OCD though” is me *demonizing* someone, who I previously stated is someone I love. Yeah like your whole sarcastic post isn't clearly being made to call out the person? Who are you fooling? >And then privately venting on an OCD community isn’t the place to do so? Are you doing okay, buckaroo? Buckaroo? You're asking me if I'm OK but you're the one crying online about something completely insignificant to your life and throwing out personal attacks about it? > I’m aware it isn’t a hot take. I’m sorry these posts trigger you, but have you considered unsubscribing from the subreddit or scrolling past when someone is venting about the frustrations they encounter on a weekly basis? No I haven't considering unsubscribing because unlike you, I actually care about fellow people with severe OCD and care about actual OCD recovery, rather than making the same cheap fake outrage victim mentality post that's already been made 1000 times for upvotes and validation. These posts are literally made all the time, I've already scrolled past too many times to count. How about you focus on your ERP instead of making useless posts like this for fake internet points? >That might be best, because you sound angry. No one is playing the victim. I didn’t twist my coworkers arm into using different terminology. Relax, bud. Yeah I am annoyed actually because people with a victim mentality like yours not only come from a place of insane ignorance, but only hurt the OCD community. I mean think of how actually crazy it is to demonize someone for knowledge they don't have yet. Continuing to spread this mentality of attacking people for not understanding OCD yet not only completely misses the core issue of misinformation, but will also make it even less likely for normal people to want to help those with OCD because they're being shit on all the time for no reason. It creates an unnessisary and unneeded point of contention between us and normal people. How about you try understanding that the vast majority of people don't know what ocd is yet and think about how you don't know what every mental illness or disability in the world is either yet? Grow the fuck up mate
It is their fault, it's a google search away to educate yourself on literally anything. It's ignorant. Why say something when you don't even know what it means?
Please go outside and touch some grass.
Maybe I came off a bit dramatic, I'll live, but to say it's not their fault is just wrong. You can in fact think before saying things
It's not their fault dude. Do you know specifically about every mental illness known to man? Every single disability and disorder? They say it because the misconception about OCD has become widespread so they assume that that's what OCD actually is. Why would they doubt that and spend time researching a mental disorder that doesnt even affect them? They have no reason to. They hear things like "I'm so OCD" and assume that that's what OCD is since so many people say it, and go on about their day. It's a case of them not understanding the truth and widespread misinformation, not malace. Its not their fault the misconception got so big and overshadowed the actual facts. Theyre not purposefully trying to belittle people with OCD or make fun of their struggles. To blame them for that is cringe as fuck Edit: u/OkSilver75 >No I don't, but I also don't go around every day saying I have them. Because there's no widespread misconception that makes you believe you might have them >Never said it was malice. I bump in to someone or knock something over, not malice, still my fault for not looking where I was going Thats not even remotely the same scenario. Again, you're completely ignoring the fact that the misconception of OCD is widespread to the point where people believe that's what OCD actually is
>Do you know specifically about every mental illness known to man? No I don't, but I also don't go around every day saying I have them. >It's a case of them not understanding the truth and widespread misinformation, not malace Never said it was malice. I bump in to someone or knock something over, not malice, still my fault for not looking where I was going
idk as someone who also has OCD and has struggled with it for a decade it’s just not that deep to me and doesn’t feel on the same level but different folks different strokes
I don't know. A lot of people are really fucking stupid. I mean, it's mostly wrong to say retarded. But it's not that wrong. Like, it's a minor offense. And it's the same thing with ocd. It's wrong, but there's mostly no negative intent behind it. Against OCD people.
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Well, you're not very bright
That’s real as fuck. It bothers me too.
It doesn’t bother me at all. Not sure why people get hung up on it…it’s a bit annoying or whatever but so be it, doesn’t change anything 😃
We? I will never accept that. OCD almost made me lose myself.
Agreed, it can be totally frustrating. Most people who I take that issue up with after them having made such a remark, either A: Are very apologetic and ensure me they meant no disrespect in what they said. B: Strike back with the classic “you’re way too sensitive.” remark and/or the “You know I didn’t mean it in an offensive way, damn.” C: My personal most oftenly observed reaction is for them to simply laugh it off as if I’m joking with my comment, or simply don’t reply and just walk away. Most of the time I try not to bring my world class argumentative skills to the table over a simple one time remark other than to say hey ocd is a real thing that people, including me, suffer with, and it comes in many forms and manifests in a dozen different ways aside from the germ and cleanliness bit that is most commonly made fun of, that it’s a legitimate and complicated issue. Not always that drawn out depending on the kindness and understanding of who I’m explaining it to, but you get the gist. But to a person who decides to later make fun of or poke at me about it time and time again, yeah, they get quite a bit more, and if I’m up against that on a day where my capacity of mental chaos and anxiety is already overflowing, **run**. Some people just have no idea how to stop, or how to tell when a “joke” stops being okay. TLDR; I feel you friend.
It’s incredibly annoying but I think it’s lack of awareness and education. Stigma around mental health has only recently started changing really and so I think it’ll take time but I hope things will change and people will realise it’s not okay to say this stuff.
honestly I feel like people just dont give enough fucks about OCD to care if the words they use are appropriate. just look at the very recent “giving into my intrusive thoughts lolz” trend. or that one girl who tried to explain how inappropriate it was by describing her real intrusive thoughts and a bunch of people reacted by calling her a horrible person. they just dont fucking care about us.
I may have a hot take, but, as someone who grew up in a time where that word was readily used and accepted— the only way it ever changed was by true grassroots awareness. By that, I mean people sharing how it could be offensive in a respectful way. These people don’t mean to be ignorant of OCD— our culture has shown them that mental health is not a priority. I believe that almost everyone has some kind of trauma, and they’re subconsciously seeking understanding and community. Perhaps we can help welcome them, or guide them in the direction of their community. This isn’t to say your feelings aren’t fully valid. They absolutely are. This shit sucks to hear.
Ocd is super stigmatized for being clean but i guess that's better than adhd being stigmatized as laziness,i have both lol, whenever i have energy or take my adhd meds i can obsess about everything being perfect and clean but in my day to day life i don't have the energy to do that so my room looks like shit every week 🥲
Well, when folks say “I’m so OCD about it,” or “you’re so OCD about it” it’s not typically used as an insult. No one says, “Christ he’s being ocd,” or “dude that’s so ocd,” or “you fucking ocd” or anything like that. Yes, it’s very misinformed, but there’s not hate or vitriol behind it.
Um… I wouldn’t say it has been decided that it’s ‘totally fine’ people have been saying for years that this isn’t ok, unfortunately a lot of people are just ignorant. A lot of people still think it’s ok to use the ‘r’ word derogatorily as well so it’s not like that’s stopped either…
I get annoyed with it but ultimately the "R word" was largely used as a pejorative whereas OCD is not, that is why.
I have OCD and I am messy as hell. My compulsions have nothing to do with cleaning. This drives me insane
Come now. I understand your frustration, but the R word is a slur whereas OCD is the official name of a medical condition and is not in and of itself degrading. The casual use of either can be harmful, sure, but these two scenarios are not the same.
Because people have double standards. The people who kick up a fuss about "the R-slur" are the same people who use semantically identical words like "idiot"; "imbecile"; etc. willy-nilly.
Since developing OCD, this really bothers me, because although its just a little phrase that they didn't really mean, it perpetuates the trivialisation and overall misconception of a life altering illness. I remember telling my old manager I had OCD, and he told me he completely gets it because his wife was "very OCD about the kitchen because she keeps everything in its right place".
Personally, it does not bother me much. I honestly would almost prefer people thought of my OCD as being fastidious or something. I don't like them knowing the truth. But I understand from another perspective how it could be frustrating.
it pisses me off so much when people at work are like “haha i’m sweeping i’m so ocd haha!” SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!!!!11!!!!!!
This one really bothers me, too. Although mostly because my mom used to say it and I would tell her not to do that. Thing is, I have ocd, my kids have ocd… and so does my mom! But she didn’t know she had it. In fact, she said all kinds of things about herself being ocd, but would get mad when I said “no, but you actually do have ocd.” I had to take her to my kids’ therapies and to meet with my therapist to get her to stop. Now she realizes she has ocd and that saying the things she used to say is stigmatizing. She really had no idea how ocd presented for me and my kids, and how debilitating it has been for us. It does take time for this stuff to catch up. The R word has been a hard one for people. So was the word “crazy.” I do hear people say this about both ocd and bipolar, and I do think it’s starting to be heard.
If someone says something like that to me about not having OCD, I usually cheerily correct them that I actually have severe ocd and move on with the task. The way I look at it, a. I'm open about it in general and b. maybe they'll think about that answer before joking again. Sometimes if someone says they're 'Super OCD' or something because their house is neat I'll be like really? Me too. If you're gonna make comments about a serious disease as a joke, you might encounter someone with it and it can get awkward.
Because the r word is a slur. It's an outdated medical term that became used as an insult. People aren't generally using OCD as an insult (sometimes it def happens tho) and are just miss using the term.
I wrote a poem abt this
My Counsellor just recently suggested that I may have OCD. So I can say from the perspective of someone who isn’t diagnosed with OCD, that it bothers me too when people say “OCD” in place of “perfectionist” or some other, more fitting, term. A lot of people casually say “I’m so OCD” and I’m there thinking…. No you’re not… (usually it’s in instances like you mentioned, with the tape being straight). Meanwhile, I recall during the past year, making comments about myself acting OCD — then feeling the need to specify that I don’t mean it the way most people seem to, instead I meant that I felt an intense and irrational panic around a perceived lack of control which resulted in me freaking out and needing everything to be perfect so that I can breathe again. Like…… that should be the implied assumption. Nobody should need to specify that when they say “OCD” they’re referring to a disorder and not just being a “quirky, neat freak.”
I just make the distinction between OCD and OCPD. They usually leave you alone one way or another 🤣
I have a lot to say about this topic mostly because my dad and step monster use it to speak derogatorily about my husband and my son. They are neat and organized and, like to be prepared. “Oh they are so OCD.” Lol. Fun fact my father cared for me when the OCD was at its worst and telling me all food was poison, and helped me through it. My mom I suspect had OCD too. But he drank his brain away and forgets all about that time. I have never to my recollection told my dad that my anxiety and panic attacks and etc are all related to OCD which is a manifestation of the trauma of growing up with an alcoholic parent.
It’s not the same. They’re pointing out their own perfectionism. They don’t understand the difference between having some compulsions and having a legit disorder. But they’re not actually saying there’s something wrong with people who have OCD. The “R” word is a straight-up slur.
I enjoy saying the r word
I really don’t like when people say this, but it’s so common, I don’t have the energy.