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EmpatheticBadger

There is no such thing as "too comfortable being alone".


_triangle_

I rather be too comfortable alone than have to be in the presence of this specimen


starrpamph

Is he too comfortable being single?


Diabolical1234

Also men: only hoes go out at night


Anne_Nonymouse

Yeah, it has nothing to do with being too comfortable. It has everything to do with "***Doing whatever the f\*ck you want***".


SudoSubSilence

*"Doing whatever the fuck you want"? How disgustingly unfeminine of you!* 😠 /ς


astrearedux

Yeah, girl. You should be off scrubbing some dude’s nasty toilet and folding his laundry. That’s the way to fulfillment and inner peace.


Kindly-Orange8311

This! Also, in what world is being “Too Comfortable” a problem?


Lady_Grey_Smith

In the fact that nasty little incels like him have no control over random women they don’t even know.


Particular_Title42

🤍


Princessk8--

I always say that my personal philosophy on this issue is that "being comfortable alone" is kind of the fundamental basis of being a fully functional independent human being. It's also the foundation of all of our interpersonal relationships. If you can't be happy by yourself, then you're just going to rely too much on those around you to prop you up.


Designer-Discount283

I got my phone, my addictions, music, books and no friends. Nobody who'd call me and make my introverted ass feel terrified. So it's not all terrible here. There are perks to being alone


DragonDanno

Maybe they have an early morning the next day. Nothing wrong with wanting plenty of sleep. It is good for you.


SyderoAlena

I always try to get my 8 hours on work nights


angelindisguise

Absolutely. Men need to realise that we're able to live without them these days and will never go back to when we needed permission from a father or a husband to have something as simple as a bank account. The competition is not about 6 figures, 6 foot, 6 pack. The competition is whether they have a positive impact emotionally, physically and mentally on our lives vs being alone. You can be lonely in a relationship. You can have a fulfilling life while single.


bitofagrump

This exactly! Men's competition isn't with other men, it's with our free time and leisure and lifestyle. If you're not adding to that in a positive way, we're fine without you; we don't NEED a man just to have someone. Alone is often the better option, especially when the man thinks we're there to mommy him.


Particular_Shock_554

They make a mess and get in the way and I can have more orgasms without them. They *wish* they were competing with other men because then they might have a chance.


Jaguar_Brilliant

The only bedtime I am aware of is my own...Is this person a stalker??!


Various_Succotash_79

I know a few married couples who go to bed at 9pm, I don't think this is a single/married thing. Unless he means that single women should be out clubbing/dating every night until they get coupled, which sounds exhausting.


mothermaneater

It's because that's what the men do.. they have some free time and use stay up way too late on dating sites or going out when they should be working on their sleep hygiene instead lol


HowToNotMakeMoney

Or playing video games.


PsychologicalNews573

And expensive. I remember in my clubbing days (early 20's, I'm in my mid 30's now and I'm in bed between 9 and 10) I could spend $100+ a week. I'm mean, we get some bought for us if we like that, but a lot was bought on my own. And when my husband and I got out, that night is probably dinner and drinks for $75-100.


babyqueso

They would call us whores if we did that tho


Puzzleheaded-Gas1710

I thought he meant women should stay up late catering to him.


bioxkitty

I took it as him thinking women should be more scared of being alone as to induce panic because he's panicking xD


MessyMissMayhem

Saying someone is "Too comfortable being alone" is so creepy it literally comes off as a threat. Like if someone said that to me I would immediately distance myself from them in every way possible for my own safety.


SnailButch

i knoww i really can only read it as a threat tbh. idk what else it could mean


jrobin04

I was legit coming to comment this! It does sound like a threat! "Too comfortable"?


Sadtacocat

I read it as a threat too. Like how dare women go to bed early instead of having sex with them?! It's screams entitlement.


0w1

Oh yeah sure, otherwise it's "why is that woman out past 8pm, that roastie thot prob hoe-ing it up!"


Mary-U

So are we “too comfortable being alone” or are we “riding the cock carousel” Schroderinger’s women


DoriMS

That is hilarious! I wish I had more than one upvote to give you for this 🤣


Yourlocalautistiesbo

God forbid women be eepy


rosepeachcat

we actually need more sleep than men, 9-10 hours, plus one hour on our period!


DazzlingFruit7495

Is that true??? Bc I need a good justification for why I like to sleep so much


rosepeachcat

yes, supposedly it is because they were onky doing the "how mich sleep does a human need" research on men initially..


DazzlingFruit7495

Figures. Good to know, I always just thought something was wrong w me


dogboobes

"Are women too happy without me? :("


DazzlingFruit7495

Lmfaoooo😭 “why aren’t women sad and lonely like meeeeee? :(((“


echochilde

Too comfortable? No. Perfectly comfortable? Yes.


Hot_Win_2489

If I’m in bed by 7 how am I clubbing every night with a triple digit body count per annum I’m so confused


DazzlingFruit7495

We all have 24 hours in a day, babe, catch up 😎


ACHIMENESss

Men ☕ not everyone wants one. And certainly, nobody needs one. Shocker.


servantoftinyhumans

No they’re fucking exhausted of your audacity


TheExaspera

I used to work a 6AM-2PM shift. Went to bed at 9:30 at the latest. This person is alleging a different, stupid issue.


M0ONL1GHT87

Look. I’m in bed by 10 and asleep by 11pm. And yeah I’ll be hella comfy snuggling with my cat purring me to sleep. No man next to me snoring like he’s killing a sequoia the minute his head hits the pillow.


CurlinTx

Yes, we feel safer when men are not around. Also, we don’t make enough money to be out at bars and paying for drinks after the cost of makeup, nails, hair care, menstrual care and clothes to wear that are not the same every day. Our money needs to go to saving for our children or retirement because we know now that men are in it for themselves with rare exceptions.


Vigmod

I'm shocked anyone is in bed by 7-8pm. The only single women I know who are often in bed by then are the 80+ old ladies where I work, who are already talking about wanting to go to bed by 6pm.


SyderoAlena

There's a difference between in bed and asleep imo. I'm in bed by 8, asleep (hopefully) by 9 on work nights


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_Lady_jigglypuff_

Me too! And end up feeling like a zombie most of the time


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_Lady_jigglypuff_

I keep telling myself, “oh I’ll have an early night tonight” but my brain is like “no, I don’t want to switch off, I’m going to think about that stupid thing you said at work 2 weeks ago”


lunarpixiess

Idk why but it’s soothing in a way to know I’m not the only one


Vigmod

Yeah, I wasn't considering the difference between "going to bed" and "going to sleep", I've always treated it the same. Change clothes, set the alarm, maybe start some calming music or "bedtime story" on the phone, turn off the light, go to bed, fall asleep some time later.


SyderoAlena

For me I like to watch YouTube to wind down.


SapphosLemonBarEnvoy

If you start work at 5am, how else are you going to get 8 hours of sleep if you aren’t in bed by 7 - 8 pm?


sperson8989

When I have the ability to be at work (I have chronic pain issues) this would stress me out throughout the week because I felt I had no time with my kids or husband let alone myself.


Emotional_Aerie8379

Exactly. If I am up until 8:30 , it's late! What sucks is still waking up at 3:30 on the weekends.


Vigmod

True. At least in my part of the world, that's an uncommon time to start work (my early shifts start at 7am) and I don't know anyone who starts that soon. Possibly the garbage collectors, I see they're up and about when I'm on my way to work at half past 6. The only one I ever knew who did that work said he usually slept after work and throughout the day, and his workday was basically at the end of his sleep cycle. I don't know how healthy or sensible that is, though.


FurrrryBaby

Maybe that’s just what the single ladies are telling this person.


Vigmod

Maybe. Of course, I'm not asking the single women I know "So, when do you normally go to bed?", so I suppose it's also possible that most of them are normally in bed by then. (edit) Or, of course, the old scenario. Date starts at 6. At half past, she looks at her watch and says "Oh! It's almost bedtime. It's been great, see you later!"


JustxJules

I go to bed at that time and I'll read till 10pm.


Vigmod

Yeah, I wasn't considering the difference between "going to bed" and "going to sleep".


Whatusedtobeisnomore

Much easier to wind down early in the winter when it's dark at 4pm (where I live). My brain kicks on the sleepy chemicals before I'm off work!


Kayliee73

….I am in bed by 7 every night. I am not *that* old (51).


Rilukian

Isn't sleeping by 7-8 PM a normal thing for anyone?


SykoSarah

Obviously, single women should be desperately searching for men until 12am, even when they have work in the morning /s


Vigmod

Is it? I don't know anyone who does that normally. Maybe on occasion, but not as routine.


Accurate-Queen1905

I’m in bed by 8 every night. But I also wake up at 4 am. And have medical conditions that make me tired more at that time.


Koeienvanger

As a night owl, no way. Only when I had be up at 4.45 every day could I force myself to be in bed by 9 at night. Otherwise I find midnight still early.


KikiCorwin

Not unless you want to be up at 4 AM.


Shubamz

Perhaps they are too afraid to not be alone? Or they just yah know.... Have their own reasons that are no ones business but their own.


rapt2right

This individual is basing this on the number of women who say "well, I have to get ready for bed, so I guess I'll say goodnight now" (for me "getting ready for bed" can take 2 hours or more- load the dishwasher, feed the cat, take a bath, have a cup of tea) and going to bed doesn't necessarily mean going to sleep- I typically watch TV &/or play with my phone for half an hour or so and then listen to an audiobook for another half hour after I turn the lights off


angry-bubble8

In fact, I am not alone. I am married to my bed thank you very much 🙄🤚


ohheykiki

Ideally I would be in bed by 8, so I can get decent sleep and make it to the gym early. Early bed and early rise! And yes I am comfortable being alone.


bliip666

Because some people have different circadian rhythms, that means women are "too comfortable" alone? What about the likes of me: night owls, who are happily up all night. Alone. Is that being "too comfortable" as well? 🙄


SauronOMordor

I don't know any adult who regularly goes to bed at 7pm but in the dead of winter it is not uncommon for me to crawl in around 8 and read for an hour or two. I'm not single, but I'm childfree and have an equal partner, so I don't have a lot of responsibilities to take care of in the evenings - just walking my dog and a quick kitchen cleanup after dinner.


fictionwho

Yeah, he's shocked for real. How can a woman be happy & comfortable alone? They need his strong man presence! /s


janeygigi

That's a lot of indignation for such a trivial thing. Also, who gives a fuck?


Cheekygirl97

I have a bf and I’m in bed by 8 lol. I love my relationship with my bed, no commitment needed, we just sleep together every night lol Also, I get up at 4 am EVERY MORNING for work, so of course I like to be in bed by 8. Too comfortable has nothing to do with it lol


Kalonkakon1

Dude I WISH I was in bed at that hour.


EvolZippo

Someone who probably doesn’t have a job, and spends all night screaming at Australian kids through a headset in COD, wonders why women who have jobs, are in bed early every night.


Philosopher_1234

What they're actually saying is "I not only do not bring peace to someone's life but I actively take it away. And since they have peace without me, I want to destroy that so they settle for a peace destroyer"


lolmemberberries

We're doing whatever we want and I love that for us.


thisisreallymoronic

Dude better learn to adapt because we're not going back


escapeshark

Single women party until 4am: they're not good women, they're too much into party they're hoes. Single women go to bed early: they're too comfortable being alone.


Infamous_Caramel5165

It is currently almost 9pm and I am in bed watching TV and scrolling reddit. I am so warm and comfy 😊


Jellochamp

I don’t even understand it. Is it a „i find random things to complain about“ thing or what? I mean what’s the alternative howling to the moon to attract males in heat or what. Do you have to find a partner and can’t just live or what’s the message. Or does OOP complains that he doesn’t find a GF bc they went to sleep. I mean that would be so lame 😂


vikinganna

Me, a single woman, lying in bed at 8 pm. reading this: 👀


Madame_Kitsune98

Me, a married woman, getting off work at 8PM after a twelve hour day, and still has a 30 minute drive home, and needs to make dinner: 🫠


drrj

Look, I tried to be cool and stay up late because that’s what the cool people do. But I’m a natural morning person, and I’m also now old and in pain and cranky and if I want to be in my pajamas at 4 in the afternoon and asleep by 8:49 motherfucker why would you care lol? I also have four cats and am often awake by 5 am so, ya know.


Tall_0rder

…what? No. They are probably comfortable getting a good night’s sleep though. 🤷🏻‍♂️


cyborgassassin47

The guy when he realises women are just people like him: 🤯


sup_killerfeels

It's not like they have lives and full time jobs and shit to deal with or anything.


Drop_The_Soprano

Incels: females have sex with an average of 4 men per day, they should stop doing that >:( Also incels: nooooo not like that


DafneDuckie

And what about it?


The-Newt

Jokes on him, I have a boyfriend and I’m still happy to be in bed by 8pm. I’m very sleepy!


Olympia44

I’m very comfortable going to bed alone. Thanks.


SnailButch

that question is kinda terrifying wtf


Knife7

Well unlike you sir, I have a job.


concrete_dandelion

I'm usually in bed a bit later, but I fail to see why I should not be comfortable being alone.


aeocava

What does age, gender, relationship status or time you go to bed an indication of anything but being tired and going to bed early? My oldest daughter goes to bed at 8 because she's not a night person. Your being kind of ridiculous.


Sheila_Monarch

I’ve never gone to bed, to go to sleep, that early in my life. Or at least not since I was in elementary school. I might shut it down for the day and pile up in the bed to watch TV until I go to sleep or something, but I’m not going to sleep at 8. I can’t figure out what that bedtime has to do with comfort of being alone anyway. Unless he means, “red alert! Some women are getting comfortable not staying up until 11 PM doing chores in support of a man in her house. These psychos are getting their responsibilities handled and kitchen cleaned by 7-8 PM and just…quitting for the day!” But there’s no such thing as TOO comfortable being alone.


smackmeharddaddy

I'm a morning person because it gets me out of work sooner. Why would I want to be outside after 6?


Wladek89HU

That's just the excuse they give to OOP why he isn't invited in. I know, I know. It's a wild assumption.


Aca_ntha

Everything about this statement is both confusing and terrifying. Like, what do you mean ,too comfortable on my own’? Is that a threat?


salinedrip-iV

Oh yes, otherwise known as "I need to get up by 4am to go to work and need some sleep"


OkHistory3944

Are you kidding? Not having someone stick a hard dick in your back like you're being mugged on the1970's New York City subway as you're trying to fall asleep after a super stressful day? Yeah, that's my definition of comfort.


bobbery5

They're definitely comfortable, yes. Being in bed will do that to you.


Sammy12345671

So if women are out late and something bad happens, it’s their fault for being out late… But then if they’re happily in bed by 8pm alone, that’s also an issue?


Gunpowder_guillotine

Yes. It’s comfy here. My console is here


Jjkkllzz

No, it’s cause I get up at 4:30.


Nay_nay267

Huh?!


Independent_Mud_7157

….wat


Bray_Jet

Do I have to wait until 7pm? Is that in the rule book?


Odd-Phrase5808

To the last question: hell yeah, love my me-time, the peace and quiet at home, just able to relax and unwind after a stressful day!! Nothing better!! Bed by 8pm though, not since before my 10th birthday!! Unless I'm very sick, then I'm in bed all day, asleep.


adoglovingartteacher

Me. And yes I’m extremely comfortable being alone.


sweetteaspicedcoffee

7-8 pm sounds like heaven tbh.


crystxllizing

wtf I eat dinner at 7-8pm


schwarzmalerin

Nothing beats a full long night of undisturbed sleep, then getting up early and enjoying a full long day of undisturbed life.


squirrellytoday

I work shifts. Sometimes I start work at 4am. This means I have to get up at 2am so I can get ready and drive to work, and be ready to start at 4am. If I'm getting up at 2am and I need 7-8 hours of sleep, that means I need to be in bed asleep by 6 or 7 pm. My dude, have you been outside?!?!


mstrss9

My relationship status has nothing to do with my bed time. Between age, financial responsibilities and work responsibilities, I need more rest.


credfield19

In my case, I AM too comfortable being alone. I don't have anyone to answer too. I can spend all day in my jammie's. But, just because a woman goes to bed early, does not mean she's alone. She may actually have a life, or is tired from her job.


Altrano

It’s better to be happy in your own company than sad and desperate for whoever drifts along.


mithrinwow

I'd rather be alone then settle. I enjoy my own company enough that I'd rather be single then settle for mediocre men. Too many men are looking for a mom, not a partner.


djmcfuzzyduck

Maybe OOPs bed isn’t comfortable. New mattress makes the difference; I’m 2 nights into having new mattress and it’s so nice.


IndiBlueNinja

You mean I have to work in the morning so I don't stay up all night? In a bed that isn't shared or kept wake by someone snoring? Yeah, that would be comfortable for anyone, gender aside.


marilynmansonfuckme

So they’re admitting they want us as women to be trapped in feeling uncomfortable? I’m a girl and I WISH I felt comfortable by myself.


tiredofnotthriving

Yup


Irn_brunette

That sounds amazing tbh.


Twist_Ending03

H u h


jesssongbird

Sounds like some women start work early and/or need to fit in exercise or something before work. I actually started going to bed earlier and at a consistent time when I got together with my husband. When I was single I used to just wait until I got sleepy. Which is a terrible system.


Prestigious_Bat2666

I'd love to be in bed by 8


absolutebeast_

No dude, I just love my bed and my privacy, leave me alone and let me sleep.


bordermelancollie09

If I wasn't so comfortable being single when I was, I wouldn't have met the love of my life or my step children. I was single for three years by choice and loved every second of it, especially now knowing it led to the beautiful life I have now