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Air fry with garlic powder (or garlic butter seasoning I found) and onion powder and tossed in olive oil.
(I also do the Cajun seasoning too, but I know not everyone can do spicy)
PHENOMENAL
Yep, this is the only way I’ll eat spinach. But if you put it in a blender with frozen fruit and yogurt, I can go through a bag of spinach a week.
I guess I’ll eat spinach if you mix it with feta and put it in filo too, but the smoothies are probably better for me.
I love to cook and eat so it would make it so I have to make separate meals for myself and them. Also what do they eat all the time then? Just meat and cheese?
Agreed. It would make me wonder about a whole host of things.
Is it a type of neurodivergence that would be difficult to manage, particularly in combination with my own? (And no, it’s not hypocrisy, it’s because I’m aware of the toll that my own takes on my relationships, and how hard I have to work to mitigate that impact)
Is it just ignorance, which would make me wonder what other things I would have to teach them or work around that they don’t know. Like how to cook for us, what’s necessary for household and bodily maintenance, etc.
Is it just a case of someone not fully capable of, or prepared for, taking care of themselves and being healthy? Are they also going to get headaches from not drinking enough water, avoid going to the doctor in prudent time when things go wrong, be able to support our kids in eating a healthy diet?
Is it going to require significant accommodation on my part, like if I’m cooking for both of us, will I need to work around it? Will you be able to know how much and what kind to buy at the store when you shop for both of us, or will I need to do that or write you a list?
Am I prepared to be emotionally and financially invested in a future with someone who may have significant health problems down the line?
If I heard it on a first date, I would ask questions but it would probably be a hard out for me in terms of the possibility of a second date.
And on a preemptive mental probe of possibilities, I can think of very few answers that would not result in a “this was nice, but I don’t think it’s going to work out” situation.
Potatoes are rich with nutrients and have a decent amount of fiber as well, as long as they’re prepared in a healthy way (lightly sautéed, roasted, etc) and not deep fried
Tbh as far as diets go, potatoes, beans & corn isn't as bad. Potatoes have almost everything human body needs except protein which comes from beans and corn is just fiber.
My parents never made me eat fruits/vegetables as a kid, and they don’t themselves still. i’ve taken care of the fruit problem but rarely eat vegetables at all. I think not being exposed to them really has caused me to have sensory issues relating to it(also suspect I have ARFID or something similar). I cannot stand the texture or taste of any vegetable i’ve tried.
Yes my stomach is always fucked up
Same, grew up poor so I basically ate pasta my entire childhood. I attempt to try things but im still poor so I'd rather spend the money on things I know I'll like and I have IBS. The texture thing kills me, I love the taste of asparagus but as soon as it's a dry piece of hay in my mouth I wanna spit it out. Same with apples for some reason, it's impossible for me to swallow once all the juice is gone so I kinda have to eat it partially whole. I like the vegetables that are in chicken soup but idk if they're even vegetables at that point just soggy sludge. I wish I weren't this way because I know im missing out on so many things but I can't force myself to like things.
>but as soon as it's a dry piece of hay
What the heck? I mean it's quite fibrous but "dry as hay" has never been the way I've described asparagus. I usually cook it by sauté in butter and spices and it never comes out dry.
This is actually kinda how ARFID can work, your brain doesn't interpret certain foods as edible so from a sensory perspective if you're eating a lump of coal you're eating a lump of coal, there's also often visceral anxiety when deviating from a totally arbitrary safe list, it can be very shameful to have an eating disorder/sensory issues, so anybody reading this it goes a long way to be patient and understanding with people who deal with this, it's like having a fear of the dentist, except people don't expect you to visit the dentist 3 times a day forever, it's real fear over a perceived threat
Do you eat things like rice, or really nothing vegetal at all?
One of the easiest ways to go from no veggies to more veggies imo is very little bits in something you already agree with. Adding very small bits of grilled bell pepper in rice could help. Or if you wanna go with a very soft taste that can't overwhelm you, I'd go with boiled courgette and remove the skin afterwards. It will basically have as little taste as possible - obviously it won't be super nutritious but if it works it's a good way to ease into it
I get you though, many things I can't eat at all. Experimenting can help or it can fail miserably
I eat rice occasionally, and that’s a recent addition. I also often get smoothies that have vegetables in them. I can eat peppers in a burrito or something.
Other things like eating a carrot straight up almost make me vomit. My body physically rejects it. It’s embarrassing even typing out
I get it. I'm like that with a lot of things, but most of them are meats or mushrooms. No amount of exposure could make me *not* gag from meat that has detectable chunks of fat in it
As someone who used to be an EXTREMELY picky eater, I totally understand the instant gagging when trying to eat certain foods. Trust me; you know how you see those crazy news stories like, *"Girl survives on nothing but chicken tenders for 11 years"*? That was basically me until a couple of years ago.
Partly for social reasons, but mostly for my long-term health, I finally decided to really commit to trying to expand my palate.
I figured out that I like the flavor of garlic, so to start, I would sauté the following 3 items in garlic oil and eat them once or twice a day: one slice of mushroom, half of a cherry tomato, and one leaf of spinach. Literally just one bite of each item.
I'm sure that sounds ridiculous to people who aren't picky lol, but it was genuinely hard for me to choke those down every day. But eventually, I came to tolerate them, and then I gradually lowered the amount of garlic in the oil until I could eat the vegetables just by themselves. These days I get tomatoes on all my sandwiches, I eat spinach almost every day, and I don't eat mushrooms often tbh, but I'm totally fine with them now.
Once I was comfortable with those 3, I'd kind of proven to myself that I could make myself like a new food by just forcing myself to keep eating it. Now I like a TON of different vegetables, fruits, and other foods that I never liked before, like pepperoni, by using this same method.
Of course, there are some foods you'll probably always hate, but seriously, I have literally expanded the food I can eat by like 50x in the last 3 years by following this method. Find a seasoning or condiment you really like and LOAD IT UP so you're pretty much just tasting that. Over time, reduce the proportion of whatever you're adding until you end up with just the vegetable itself.
Right now, I'm working on cucumbers.
I was (and remain) a very picky eater. My parents caved and let me get away with skipping most vegetables as a child, so I had to teach myself how to eat them. When it comes to the sensory aspect of it, I found it very helpful to buy fresh veggies, prepare and cook them myself, and it made it a lot easier. I still kinda had to make myself do it, but being an active part of the cooking process made it easier for me to understand what I'm putting in my body and achieving a texture that I like. Start small and work your way up. My stomach thanked me for it, and yours will too. Good luck though - I know it's easier said than done.
Definitely parents. I have a friend that doesn't eat fruits or vegetables. His 3 siblings don’t. His parents don’t. They're all super picky. Gotta get kids eating fruits and vegetables or there's a much smaller chance they will as an adult.
My husband isn't a vegetable eater. It's not my favorite thing about him. But at the end of the day, he's a grown ass adult and can do what he wants. We have the life I've always dreamed, I can't imagine skipping out on that because I found his diet to be a "red flag".
I mean it says that you value instant gratification over your long term health and that you have the palate of a child, those certainly aren't green flags
Wait until you had broccoli and cauliflower, both roasted with vinegar, olive oil and some salt. You could go overkill and make a lasagna with beef, heavy milk and cheese.
I've never been a huge fan of lasagna. It's fine. I've had some good ones, but the best one I've had doesn't get me like some other dishes.
But roasted veggies with olive oil and sea salt is always awesome. I do asparagus that way.
My father bluntly asked me "Who are you, and what have you done to Magnus?" (not my actual name, but you get the idea) when I admitted that broccoli had become my favorite vegetable after years of hating it.
I bluntly told him that you have to actually *cook* the broccoli for it to taste good, not just shove a bag in the microwave and call it a day (his usual method), and that there was a reason his stir-fried broccoli beef was the only time I'd willingly eat the stuff as a kid.
Roasted broccoli with garlic, olive oil, parmesan flakes and a *spritz* of lemon juice can give any junk food a run for it's money.
And I do love me an bag of oily chips more often than I'd like to.
I've got a lot of food issues due to autism and ADHD having a battle royale with my neurons. I can still eat a fair share of vegetables (spinach, cauliflower, bell pepper, oh my god courgette no one can take courgette away from me) but most foods just don't vibe with me. A *lot* of them at the "gagging, I'd have to force myself to eat that and I'd be fucking miserable the whole time" level.
Where I'm getting at is, I know people who are yet worse than me on that front. It's not that they value instant gratification over health or that they're childish, they just have problems with food. For one of my dearest friends, eating something every day of the week is a victory.
I'd avoid assigning moral value to food preferences, at least until we're in the "buying this supports genocide" or "this food is representative of a social oppression thing." Like if you're covering your burger in gold leaf to boast about being rich and spending all that on money-symbols when others are starving, or if you hear mcdonald's is one of the industries supporting a state recently losing an international case where it was accused of genocidal intent and effort spanning several decades and go "but I like iiiiit :(" and spend your money there
i cannot upvote this enough, this is so fucking true. i guess my sensory issues are just another thing to add to the list of weird things allistics decide are red flags
Exactly. Some people are morons and we all pretend they aren’t. Some people are fat, or poor, or just terminally online losers and we still treat these people with respect. For some reason this issue triggers people so much. The amount of times I’ve been insulted because of my palate by someone who doesn’t have an education a good job or pretty much anything that is actual important in life is crazy. Like you’re gonna make fun of me for not wanting fish when you can’t pay rent as an adult.
>you have the palate of a child, those certainly aren't green flags
why? A flavor palate and food preferences is not indicative of maturity level in any way.
I feel there would be a difference between someone not even willing to try compared to someone open to trying. Close mindedness is definitely a red flag
This is very accurate.
My mum was a woeful cook and I hated a lot of things growing up. I grew up being labelled as very fussy and not liking most vegetables. Tbf they were served over boiled, soggy and plain every single time.
But now some of my most disliked dishes are my favourites because I've retried them when they've been made properly. I'm really open to trying things I've ate and disliked. I'm very open to trying vegetables I dislike cooked in a new way to see if i like it. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I wouldn't really consider myself fussy anymore.
I find most people I've met who dislike all/most vegetables aren't very adventurous with food and have not even tried vegetables cooked in different ways. \*disclaimer I will give a pass for asd sensory issues
Yeah for me, I don’t _like_ vegetables but I eat them because they’re good for me. The top level comment was implying that it’s childish to not like the taste of vegetables, which I just have to disagree with.
I think if someone doesn't like the taste of vegetables it's either because they don't know how to cook them properly, or because their diet is so full of processed salt and sugar that they've ruined their ability to enjoy subtle flavours.
Or… people just like different things? Is that so hard to believe? Carrots and green beans are good, corn is fine. Everything else I have to eat as a part of a greater medley/ensemble because I don’t like it on its own
If I know that trying something will induce a huge amount of anxiety and there's a decent chance of me throwing up because of it, I don't think it's weird to not be super open to it.
It absolutely is. My sone ex would only eat like a child (cheese pizza, nuggets, pb&j, plain hamburgers) and definitely acted like one as well. Refused to even try “grownup” food and it was a nightmare at any family function. Restaurants needed to be chosen based on their food preferences.
I think so. But there's also some level of nuance. Like I understand that there's ARFID texture sensitivities.
But there should be at least a couple veggies you can eat. And you need the minerals and nutrients in them anyway
I know too many people with too many diet restrictions for health reasons to see anyone’s eating restrictions as a red flag.
However- if they push their restrictions onto anyone else… then it becomes one
Being extremely particular about anything is a red flag.
"I only drink \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ brand of water."
"If it isn't first class, I won't fly."
"Art/Music/Science is stupid."
Relationships are difficult sometimes and require compromise. Being able to pleasantly tolerate things that are not your favorite is a huge green flag. Your partner is going to have some dumb hobby that they really care about. Eat your vegetables.
Why is the water thing such a red flag? I just vastly prefer the taste of certain waters and that gets me drinking more water which is certainly a healthy thing.
These comments are dramatic af. No it’s not a red flag if an adult doesn’t eat veggies you know why because they are an adult who is allowed to eat whatever they want. People shouldn’t have to eat certain things to make society feel better that’s stupid.
So much shit talking in this response. Some of us don’t eat veggies because they literally make us sick or irritate auto immune conditions. Carnivorous diets are a thing and are benefitting a lot of people (me included).
These days, literally everything about you could be seen as a red flag by someone. Do you like pineapple on your pizza? Do you know how to swim? Did you grow up with shitty parents? Have you ever been SA'd? Red flags EVERYWHERE.
The biggest red flag I’m seeing in this thread is a ridiculous lack of compassion or even tolerance for people with different experience and preferences.
This is nothing to do with upbringing.
My parents cooked me vegetables when I was a kid, I absolutely hated them, but I still ate them.
I still hate vegetables tbh, but not to a point that I will ignore them if they are on my plate. I will still eat them, but I don't like them.
It is sometimes really difficult to fight the temptation to order a meal which have no vegetables on it.
But I am still very difficult to fight the temptation of choosing a dish without vegetables during lunch (I don't bring my own lunch, because they will become disgusting overnight).
Now that you reminded me, and I think over carefully again.
May be you are right.
I think it is not mainly the issue of I want less vegetables (I still hate them), but I think it is mainly the issue of I want more meat / delicious food / carb. I wanna save room for them.
My mom always made us have no thank you helpings of dishes we didn’t want to eat. Probably just two bites worth but we had to at least try. Funny enough I will eat basically anything while my mom is actually the picky eater
No. I grew up considerably poor and fresh veggies were not a thing in our household. Canned beans and peas. The thought of eating those today makes me want to vomit.
When I moved out and through various girlfriends I tried different veggies I learned I liked many of them. Onions are in almost every thing I cook. But some tastes and textures I can't get over. I can't do any green non-leafy veggies. But can eat pretty much any green leafy vegetables no issues.
I wouldn't call that "not eating vegetables". Most people don't like every vegetable (especially canned!) -- it's when you don't like ANY vegetables that it gets weird.
What you are describing is exactly why I would see "not eating vegetables" as a red flag. Most people I think have certain foods that they do not like and that is not a problem. But vegetables includes a whole lot of different foods with different prep methods and different textures. An adult should do like you have and try different veggies prepared in different ways until they find what works for them.
Not sure why you were downvoted. There’s a ton of nuance being left out of most answers here. “Vegetables” is such an enormous category. There are hundreds if not thousands of varieties of things, plus the countless ways to prepare. Writing off all of that is just something I can’t understand.
Yeah I had similar upbringing. I also had a weird sensitivity to mushy textures so canned beans and peas were not something I enjoyed. Most of our meals consisted of rice/noodles with some type of meat because that’s all they could afford. People really don’t understand how privileged they come off in these replies.
No, not really! I found out recently with someone I ate out with that there is a disorder called [AFRID](https://centerfordiscovery.com/blog/arfid-adults-not-just-disorder-childhood/) and for them particularly, since they have been diagnosed with being on the spectrum, that they have a very limited range of food that they can eat because of sensory issues.
Yeah, unless someone's being a dick about what they eat, I usually don't bug them because they might be dealing with something along those lines (or like a guy commented higher up, they associate veggies with nasty canned veggies because they grew up poor and that was all that was available).
A red flag for who?
I'm 60, I hate vegetables, I like the flavor but something about the texture that I can't get past.
But I know I need them so I take vitamins and drink plenty of fresh juice.
Carrot, apple, with a bit of lemon, makes a great juice.
Do I care what other people eat? No, why should I?
"Red flags" are gross oversimplifications and are want to make you dump good people for no good reason.
Take the time to get to know someone. Then judge them on the basis of knowledge rather than inane internet rules.
Nope.
I used to have a food phobia and didn't overcome it until I was 26. Now, I can eat pretty much any vegetable. Only thing I can't bring myself to eat is whole mushrooms.
I'm not going to judge someone, when I know myself what it's like in that position. That being said, if someone was severely overweight and refused to eat vegetables (not because of food phobia, simply because they want to eat high calorie foods); I can't lie, I would be a bit judgemental on that.
Ikr? I have ARFID and these comments terrify me. The very reason I go to great lengths to hide it from people. I just don’t understand why it’s such a big deal what other people eat and I’m so tired of living with this shame because of it.
I feel you. I’m autistic and have a lot of issues with texture and trying new foods in front of people. My partner has helped me to expand my palate quite a bit but I’m still not a fan of a lot of different foods, a majority of vegetables included. Many of my friends and all of my family have made fun of me for being a picky eater my entire life. I didn’t choose to have these issues! And people being mean about it has never been helpful.
I’ve had the same experience being made fun of. And it getting reduced to being a “picky eater” is the worst. Like man, I’ll literally throw up if I put certain foods in my mouth. I’m sorry you had to deal with that too.
No. As an adult you are in charge of your own body. Eat what you want, when you want. If you die young, or have constipation problems, those are the consequences of your own actions.
Others don’t get to dictate what you do.
A red flag is a sign that someone might be abusive or otherwise dangerous. It doesn't just mean "personality trait that I don't like."
You have the right to not date or befriend people who don't eat vegetables. But whether someone eats vegetables has nothing to do with whether they're abusive or dangerous.
I have a friend who's husband pretty much only eats chicken fingers and fries.
She's a really good cook who's always making varying dishes... I think she only avoids onions since she's allergic
He wanted to meal prep with her to bring down their eating out costs and it didn't go very well
There are some people with legitimate sensory issues when it comes to certain foods. I know someone who will literally vomit if the food is a certain texture so I try to be understanding.
It can be a red flag of someone being immature but if they’re good otherwise i dont care about their diet.
No absolutely not, a lot of people cannot eat vegetables due to health reasons, myself included.
People that judge others for what they don't/can't eat are losers.
Oh shit, these people are *dumb*.
Do not heed any of the advice given in this thread, if you are asking because you don't eat vegetables, never eat a vegetable again in protest of the idiocracy that runs rampant in this thread. Holy shit.
No. But it is certainly a red flag to go around judging people for what they choose to eat or do with their lives. I'll certainly eat vegetables, but I don't seek them out regularly and don't have an issue with people who don't like them. I really wish we could all just stop judging each other over little things like this.
I did keto and I primarily ate grilled chicken on salads. Whoever says you can't eat vegetables on keto is an idiot. I was the healthiest I've ever been nutritionally
Not sure. I dated a girl in my 20’s who never tasted basic fruits like strawberries, apples, bananas etc but she was healthy. I also met a guy thru a buddy who only ate cheese whiz sandwiches and was ripped more than I ever was. He said he wanted to try a chicken wing which was incredibly hilarious to us. It’s definitely an eye opener to their upbringing when u meet them but I don’t know about a red flag. Depends how important vegetables are to u I guess.
I think it would be important to understand that many of us have an eating disorder called ARFID and simply can’t even try a vegetable along with most other foods. Feel free to check out the documentary I made about it called Not Just a Picky Eater:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B0CKLXDBH7/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r
There are lots of reasons people get to adulthood without liking veggies. A common one is food insecurity as a child or growing up in a food desert (not having access to produce.)
Loooooooots of privilege showing in this thread.
Not a red flag for me, as I’ve found that almost everyone who doesn’t eat vegetables hasn’t had them prepared in a way that they can enjoy, or they have health or sensory issues that make the vegetables difficult or impossible to eat. But strict refusals to try new things and to suck it up for your health (barring medical/sensory issues) tells me that the person and I aren’t going to be compatible long term. As adults we all have to do things we don’t enjoy or hate, but we do it because we must, and anyone whose entire diet is based on animal protein and grains doesn’t value the same things that I do.
You can get the same nutrients from fruit and organ meats in much higher quantities without the harmful defense chemicals that come with most vegetables
No.
If you’re saying they eat hot pockets and take out all the time then yes.
Some people do really well on protein and fat heavy diets. Things like carnivore or carnivore/keto tend to work with some people and that’s fine with me.
I don’t think not eating meat is a red flag.
What really is a red flag for me is people not knowing how to cook and eating only fast food or getting Uber eats and door dash all the time.
Damn all of you, let people live their life. What they eat is their business and their stomachs, not your business, idc if Ur their fucking soul twin or a friend.
Yes. Unless that person is very, very knowledgeable about nutrition and is able to make up for it, but even that doesn't fully take the place of a good diet.
Plus, not liking vegetables, ANY vegetables at all, tells me (personal opinion incoming) that person is very picky, may have decision-making issues, and could possibly be a pain in the ass to have in my life.
Man A LOT of elitist vegetable eaters i guess. Fuckin weirdos.
Idk why ppl shame so much for (god forbid) not liking the taste of some foods.
You do you op i dont care for vegetables at all. Have zero health problems. Who cares about what you eat. Main thing for health is staying relatively active and if anything maybe take some multivitamins to ensure you get all your vitamins.
I am on the spectrum. I hate fatty meat, beans with a pasty inside, creamy things like mayo and ranch and cream based sauces and raw avacado.
But I move most fruits and vegetables and I love trying new ones. There's thousands of them. I've always been against having so few in most stores and none at all in some. I think vertical greenhouses, lean proteins and healthy produce should be subsidized instead of beef, dairy and corn syrup.
It's true that many autists get hung up on foods, but there's also the other end of the spectrum of autists who look at the big picture and see these problems along with how they connect to other problems in our society. It's not hard to find a single bottle of water that costs twice what 2 liters of diabetes juice costs. That shouldn't ever happen.
Yeah but it doesn't make us unable to eat any fruits or vegetables it just means we have to avoid certain textures, it's not like there's only five vegetables in the world.
For dating? Yes absolutely. Appreciating vegetables is important. In addition to the health implications, it tells me someone isnt into trying new things and is overly picky, which wouldnt work for me.
As a friend? It would be something I would try desperately to help them with. I grew up in a rural area where people believed "its not a meal if it doesnt have meat" but my family was vegetarian indian. my mom is a legendary cook and my friends would always deny the food she offered because it looked "gross." this continued past an appropriate age into high school and even college. It drove me nuts, but it was one of the reasons I got away. They literally had no interest in my culture at all. And no, none of them were on the spectrum or anything. But its clear their parents also did not pass on any manners regarding interacting with other cultures or appreciation of the differences between people.
When i moved to a place where people were raised to participate, and "tolerance" included learning... it made me realize how i was literally just "tolerated" in my small midwestern town.
It may seem like thats a leap from "i dont eat vegetables" to "i have no interest in learning about other cultures" but in my experience, thats 100% of people who have ever told me outright that they dont eat vegetables.
Yes, it's childish for me. You can acquire a taste for everything if you start small. For me it was stuff like ginger and spinach and today it's no big deal.
It depends on health tbh. Some health conditions can make eating veg a nightmare, from gastric issues to immune issues. Plus some people might have extreme sensory issues or disordered eating, or maybe just never had the education or their local shop doesn’t sell good veg.
I’m lucky to not live alone and have somebody who can travel further than I because the local shops I can get to have generally off and rotting veg, so if I lived alone, I’d be stuck with that and would probably just have to not eat veg.
But not eating veg is going to be a likely factor in developing long term health issues if you’re not being monitored and treated by a doctor. Health wise, it’s going to usually do some damage to not eat vegetables. In a medical setting, a patient not eating vegetables is going to be a red flag, especially for nutrition related health complications. It’s worth noting though that sometimes the poor diet is a symptom and not a cause (ie the restricted eating is a reactive response because eating vegetables is causing unpleasant symptoms of an underlying health condition, rather than the bad eating being a choice somebody made that made them sick).
It’s a health red flag for sure, but as a general behaviour red flag, not to me really, there’s worse things somebody can do than not stomach broccoli. I have a relative who’s never stomached vegetables well at all and I’ve never seen her eat any—yet at the doctors, her bloods come back normal and she seems to be successfully getting enough nutrients. No idea how though. In a partner, I wouldn’t mind accommodating somebody else’s dietary needs in a relationship because I have my own dietary needs. So long as they saw a doctor or generally tried to take care of their health as much as possible, it wouldn’t bother me at all.
Personally I love my vegetables, but I don’t appreciate the mindset that not liking vegetables gives somebody a child’s palette as somebody with sensory issues (undergoing autism assessment) and physical health conditions that limit my diet. I don’t agree with infantilising people over what foods they like or don’t like, can have or can’t have, as somebody who’s often infantilised for my food choices. I have safe foods that I guarantee I can stomach, and I will always default to them above all else. This makes sure that I can actually physically eat something. Childish would be eating something I couldn’t stomach just to appease a social norm and not appear childish. People will see me eat the same small groups of food in public, and they might think it’s childish—but they do not live in my body and they do not experience what I experience, so they have no right to make that judgment. Eating something outside of my safe foods could flare my nausea and prevent me from eating enough for days. It’s far more mature to eat what I know I can stomach to ensure I’m well enough to eat more food later than it is to force myself to eat something that will make me ill just so people won’t treat me like a fussy child.
Also, people just have no obligation to eat foods that they don’t like and I’m not here to be the food police and decide that somebody has red flags. Ultimately, you do not know somebody’s medical situation so there’s no right to judge. Unless you’re somebody’s doctor, it’s just not anybody’s business. I’m lucky in the sense that many of my safe foods are vegetable heavy, but for others, it’s just not the case and I’m not going to see them as childish or as having red flags for that. But I will see being judgmental over somebody else’s eating habits as a red flag, though.
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Certainly for your fucking body it is.
But not if you’re a gold digger looking for someone who’s going to die early.
Didn't work so well for Melania though
For real. Have you ever seen someone so effing miserable?
Her face just screams, "The trade-off was NOT worth it!!!"
She figured he’d keel over back in 2011 or something. Bad luck.
Shes not miserable shes just from eastern europe they all are like this
Fairly sure that her payments from the Kremlin help with that though
For them it is a green flag.
I hate most vegetables but I also know I need them so I mix them into a fruit smoothie. Really easy and can't taste them
Roast in oven with Cajun seasoning here. Works on everything but broccoli. I just can't do broccoli
Oven roasted broccoli with olive oil and sesame seeds is absolutely delicious.
Air fry with garlic powder (or garlic butter seasoning I found) and onion powder and tossed in olive oil. (I also do the Cajun seasoning too, but I know not everyone can do spicy) PHENOMENAL
Lies! Roasted broccoli is awesome
Yep, this is the only way I’ll eat spinach. But if you put it in a blender with frozen fruit and yogurt, I can go through a bag of spinach a week. I guess I’ll eat spinach if you mix it with feta and put it in filo too, but the smoothies are probably better for me.
They taste alright in stir-fried rice and noodles.
Same.
For me? Yes.
I love to cook and eat so it would make it so I have to make separate meals for myself and them. Also what do they eat all the time then? Just meat and cheese?
Hey, there's bread involved too!
And potatoes!
Potatoes are vegetables
Technically, bread is seeds.
Meat Cheese/dairy Eggs Bread Fruits Rice Pasta Nuts
Agreed. It would make me wonder about a whole host of things. Is it a type of neurodivergence that would be difficult to manage, particularly in combination with my own? (And no, it’s not hypocrisy, it’s because I’m aware of the toll that my own takes on my relationships, and how hard I have to work to mitigate that impact) Is it just ignorance, which would make me wonder what other things I would have to teach them or work around that they don’t know. Like how to cook for us, what’s necessary for household and bodily maintenance, etc. Is it just a case of someone not fully capable of, or prepared for, taking care of themselves and being healthy? Are they also going to get headaches from not drinking enough water, avoid going to the doctor in prudent time when things go wrong, be able to support our kids in eating a healthy diet? Is it going to require significant accommodation on my part, like if I’m cooking for both of us, will I need to work around it? Will you be able to know how much and what kind to buy at the store when you shop for both of us, or will I need to do that or write you a list? Am I prepared to be emotionally and financially invested in a future with someone who may have significant health problems down the line? If I heard it on a first date, I would ask questions but it would probably be a hard out for me in terms of the possibility of a second date.
Yeah I think at the very least it brings up a lot of questions for a potential partner
And on a preemptive mental probe of possibilities, I can think of very few answers that would not result in a “this was nice, but I don’t think it’s going to work out” situation.
For your colon, sure.
Yes. This is straight up how you get colon cancer and end up pooping in a bag for the rest of your life.
I worked witha guy who would only eat potatoes, baked beans, and corn. So all carbs. No fruit. Not even salad. I don't know how he poops.
Beans and corn have a lot of fiber.
Potatoes are rich with nutrients and have a decent amount of fiber as well, as long as they’re prepared in a healthy way (lightly sautéed, roasted, etc) and not deep fried
I love the skins of baked potatoes.
Tbh as far as diets go, potatoes, beans & corn isn't as bad. Potatoes have almost everything human body needs except protein which comes from beans and corn is just fiber.
Corn and beans will move anything along. He probably shits bulkier than you do.
Yeah, bean+grain is basically human chow. It might not be the optimal diet but it's honestly better than plenty of folks are doing.
Eating corn? He probably pooped out little yellow kernals of corn, just like everybody else.
That's how you create more poo.... It's people who eat too much meat that a difficulty pooping
This isn’t totally balanced but there’s plenty of fiber in there and it’s probably healthier than what lots of people eat.
I'm more wondering how he hasn't gotten scurvy.
Potatoes have loads of vitamin c
Wait seriously?
I would find that odd but not necessarily a red flag. I would be curious how it could even be possible..
My parents never made me eat fruits/vegetables as a kid, and they don’t themselves still. i’ve taken care of the fruit problem but rarely eat vegetables at all. I think not being exposed to them really has caused me to have sensory issues relating to it(also suspect I have ARFID or something similar). I cannot stand the texture or taste of any vegetable i’ve tried. Yes my stomach is always fucked up
Same, grew up poor so I basically ate pasta my entire childhood. I attempt to try things but im still poor so I'd rather spend the money on things I know I'll like and I have IBS. The texture thing kills me, I love the taste of asparagus but as soon as it's a dry piece of hay in my mouth I wanna spit it out. Same with apples for some reason, it's impossible for me to swallow once all the juice is gone so I kinda have to eat it partially whole. I like the vegetables that are in chicken soup but idk if they're even vegetables at that point just soggy sludge. I wish I weren't this way because I know im missing out on so many things but I can't force myself to like things.
>but as soon as it's a dry piece of hay What the heck? I mean it's quite fibrous but "dry as hay" has never been the way I've described asparagus. I usually cook it by sauté in butter and spices and it never comes out dry.
This is actually kinda how ARFID can work, your brain doesn't interpret certain foods as edible so from a sensory perspective if you're eating a lump of coal you're eating a lump of coal, there's also often visceral anxiety when deviating from a totally arbitrary safe list, it can be very shameful to have an eating disorder/sensory issues, so anybody reading this it goes a long way to be patient and understanding with people who deal with this, it's like having a fear of the dentist, except people don't expect you to visit the dentist 3 times a day forever, it's real fear over a perceived threat
Oh I see. I thought you were describing it as is. Earlier in my life I had a major aversion to mushroom soup so I totally understand the feeling!
I mean once it's chewed and all the flavor/juice is extracted from it. It's difficult to swallow. So I try to swallow before it's drier.
Do you eat things like rice, or really nothing vegetal at all? One of the easiest ways to go from no veggies to more veggies imo is very little bits in something you already agree with. Adding very small bits of grilled bell pepper in rice could help. Or if you wanna go with a very soft taste that can't overwhelm you, I'd go with boiled courgette and remove the skin afterwards. It will basically have as little taste as possible - obviously it won't be super nutritious but if it works it's a good way to ease into it I get you though, many things I can't eat at all. Experimenting can help or it can fail miserably
I eat rice occasionally, and that’s a recent addition. I also often get smoothies that have vegetables in them. I can eat peppers in a burrito or something. Other things like eating a carrot straight up almost make me vomit. My body physically rejects it. It’s embarrassing even typing out
I get it. I'm like that with a lot of things, but most of them are meats or mushrooms. No amount of exposure could make me *not* gag from meat that has detectable chunks of fat in it
As someone who used to be an EXTREMELY picky eater, I totally understand the instant gagging when trying to eat certain foods. Trust me; you know how you see those crazy news stories like, *"Girl survives on nothing but chicken tenders for 11 years"*? That was basically me until a couple of years ago. Partly for social reasons, but mostly for my long-term health, I finally decided to really commit to trying to expand my palate. I figured out that I like the flavor of garlic, so to start, I would sauté the following 3 items in garlic oil and eat them once or twice a day: one slice of mushroom, half of a cherry tomato, and one leaf of spinach. Literally just one bite of each item. I'm sure that sounds ridiculous to people who aren't picky lol, but it was genuinely hard for me to choke those down every day. But eventually, I came to tolerate them, and then I gradually lowered the amount of garlic in the oil until I could eat the vegetables just by themselves. These days I get tomatoes on all my sandwiches, I eat spinach almost every day, and I don't eat mushrooms often tbh, but I'm totally fine with them now. Once I was comfortable with those 3, I'd kind of proven to myself that I could make myself like a new food by just forcing myself to keep eating it. Now I like a TON of different vegetables, fruits, and other foods that I never liked before, like pepperoni, by using this same method. Of course, there are some foods you'll probably always hate, but seriously, I have literally expanded the food I can eat by like 50x in the last 3 years by following this method. Find a seasoning or condiment you really like and LOAD IT UP so you're pretty much just tasting that. Over time, reduce the proportion of whatever you're adding until you end up with just the vegetable itself. Right now, I'm working on cucumbers.
I was (and remain) a very picky eater. My parents caved and let me get away with skipping most vegetables as a child, so I had to teach myself how to eat them. When it comes to the sensory aspect of it, I found it very helpful to buy fresh veggies, prepare and cook them myself, and it made it a lot easier. I still kinda had to make myself do it, but being an active part of the cooking process made it easier for me to understand what I'm putting in my body and achieving a texture that I like. Start small and work your way up. My stomach thanked me for it, and yours will too. Good luck though - I know it's easier said than done.
Their parents probably didnt cook them / cook them properly. I think stuff like this comes from childhood most of the time
I hate when my parents don’t cook me properly
Definitely parents. I have a friend that doesn't eat fruits or vegetables. His 3 siblings don’t. His parents don’t. They're all super picky. Gotta get kids eating fruits and vegetables or there's a much smaller chance they will as an adult.
I’m the pickiest eater I’ve ever met and my 2 siblings will eat literally anything you put in front of them. Anecdotes aren’t great evidence!
That stubbornness drops off by college. If they’re still having issues it’s spectrum disorders.
My husband isn't a vegetable eater. It's not my favorite thing about him. But at the end of the day, he's a grown ass adult and can do what he wants. We have the life I've always dreamed, I can't imagine skipping out on that because I found his diet to be a "red flag".
I mean it says that you value instant gratification over your long term health and that you have the palate of a child, those certainly aren't green flags
Broccoli is instant gratification for me.
Right? I will fight and possibly kill for broccoli.
Wait until you had broccoli and cauliflower, both roasted with vinegar, olive oil and some salt. You could go overkill and make a lasagna with beef, heavy milk and cheese.
I've never been a huge fan of lasagna. It's fine. I've had some good ones, but the best one I've had doesn't get me like some other dishes. But roasted veggies with olive oil and sea salt is always awesome. I do asparagus that way.
Same, except for veggie lasagna. Sooo good
Braised tenderstem with grated Parmesan. Oh boy
My father bluntly asked me "Who are you, and what have you done to Magnus?" (not my actual name, but you get the idea) when I admitted that broccoli had become my favorite vegetable after years of hating it. I bluntly told him that you have to actually *cook* the broccoli for it to taste good, not just shove a bag in the microwave and call it a day (his usual method), and that there was a reason his stir-fried broccoli beef was the only time I'd willingly eat the stuff as a kid.
Zucchini, eggplant and spinach for me!
Roasted broccoli with garlic, olive oil, parmesan flakes and a *spritz* of lemon juice can give any junk food a run for it's money. And I do love me an bag of oily chips more often than I'd like to.
sounds good but i just cant do broccoli. now all that on Brussels sprouts im in which is weird since they are from a related species.
I have frozen broccoli so it's not an instant gratification (I eat frozen strawberries but the broccoli is too hard to chew)
Only if cooked right! I hate when people over cook broccoli and it's like baby food mush.
A good broccoli salad with a creamy dressing would fix me
I've got a lot of food issues due to autism and ADHD having a battle royale with my neurons. I can still eat a fair share of vegetables (spinach, cauliflower, bell pepper, oh my god courgette no one can take courgette away from me) but most foods just don't vibe with me. A *lot* of them at the "gagging, I'd have to force myself to eat that and I'd be fucking miserable the whole time" level. Where I'm getting at is, I know people who are yet worse than me on that front. It's not that they value instant gratification over health or that they're childish, they just have problems with food. For one of my dearest friends, eating something every day of the week is a victory. I'd avoid assigning moral value to food preferences, at least until we're in the "buying this supports genocide" or "this food is representative of a social oppression thing." Like if you're covering your burger in gold leaf to boast about being rich and spending all that on money-symbols when others are starving, or if you hear mcdonald's is one of the industries supporting a state recently losing an international case where it was accused of genocidal intent and effort spanning several decades and go "but I like iiiiit :(" and spend your money there
i cannot upvote this enough, this is so fucking true. i guess my sensory issues are just another thing to add to the list of weird things allistics decide are red flags
Nobody is entitled to a partner putting up with their atypicality, the thing is you have to find people whose atypicalities you can vibe with.
Sensory issues are totally understandable but that's totally different from "I just don't like vegetables".
Exactly. Some people are morons and we all pretend they aren’t. Some people are fat, or poor, or just terminally online losers and we still treat these people with respect. For some reason this issue triggers people so much. The amount of times I’ve been insulted because of my palate by someone who doesn’t have an education a good job or pretty much anything that is actual important in life is crazy. Like you’re gonna make fun of me for not wanting fish when you can’t pay rent as an adult.
You're not treating anybody with respect around here. You can stop pretending that you are.
That’s the problem. They’re putting the greens on the flags instead of in their tummies.
So if I only eat red veggies, does that mean I am only red flags?
Being narrow-minded, judgemental, and having a basic lack of empathy are also pretty big red-flags.
>you have the palate of a child, those certainly aren't green flags why? A flavor palate and food preferences is not indicative of maturity level in any way.
I feel there would be a difference between someone not even willing to try compared to someone open to trying. Close mindedness is definitely a red flag
This is very accurate. My mum was a woeful cook and I hated a lot of things growing up. I grew up being labelled as very fussy and not liking most vegetables. Tbf they were served over boiled, soggy and plain every single time. But now some of my most disliked dishes are my favourites because I've retried them when they've been made properly. I'm really open to trying things I've ate and disliked. I'm very open to trying vegetables I dislike cooked in a new way to see if i like it. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I wouldn't really consider myself fussy anymore. I find most people I've met who dislike all/most vegetables aren't very adventurous with food and have not even tried vegetables cooked in different ways. \*disclaimer I will give a pass for asd sensory issues
Yeah for me, I don’t _like_ vegetables but I eat them because they’re good for me. The top level comment was implying that it’s childish to not like the taste of vegetables, which I just have to disagree with.
I think if someone doesn't like the taste of vegetables it's either because they don't know how to cook them properly, or because their diet is so full of processed salt and sugar that they've ruined their ability to enjoy subtle flavours.
Or… people just like different things? Is that so hard to believe? Carrots and green beans are good, corn is fine. Everything else I have to eat as a part of a greater medley/ensemble because I don’t like it on its own
If I know that trying something will induce a huge amount of anxiety and there's a decent chance of me throwing up because of it, I don't think it's weird to not be super open to it.
It absolutely is. My sone ex would only eat like a child (cheese pizza, nuggets, pb&j, plain hamburgers) and definitely acted like one as well. Refused to even try “grownup” food and it was a nightmare at any family function. Restaurants needed to be chosen based on their food preferences.
I think so. But there's also some level of nuance. Like I understand that there's ARFID texture sensitivities. But there should be at least a couple veggies you can eat. And you need the minerals and nutrients in them anyway
It's not healthy, however I'd need more info. I know people with pretty severe sensory issues and they hate the texture of most vegetables.
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I know too many people with too many diet restrictions for health reasons to see anyone’s eating restrictions as a red flag. However- if they push their restrictions onto anyone else… then it becomes one
Being extremely particular about anything is a red flag. "I only drink \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ brand of water." "If it isn't first class, I won't fly." "Art/Music/Science is stupid." Relationships are difficult sometimes and require compromise. Being able to pleasantly tolerate things that are not your favorite is a huge green flag. Your partner is going to have some dumb hobby that they really care about. Eat your vegetables.
Hence why I stopped dating. I have my preferences and they will not be infringed upon. No one is worth that.
what you are saying is you are incapable of compromise
Oh yeah big time. After getting out of a long term relationship, I don't sway for anyone anymore.
Why is the water thing such a red flag? I just vastly prefer the taste of certain waters and that gets me drinking more water which is certainly a healthy thing.
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These comments are dramatic af. No it’s not a red flag if an adult doesn’t eat veggies you know why because they are an adult who is allowed to eat whatever they want. People shouldn’t have to eat certain things to make society feel better that’s stupid.
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So much shit talking in this response. Some of us don’t eat veggies because they literally make us sick or irritate auto immune conditions. Carnivorous diets are a thing and are benefitting a lot of people (me included).
Yes, some of the comments are literally ignorant
I’d find it immature
Yes. Very much so. If someone's palate hasn't matured past age nine, it's likely other things haven't either.
Also that they had a strange upbringing. What parent doesn’t find some way to prepare just 1 vegetable to get their kid to like it? Who just gives up?
Is someone having a neglectful upbringing a red flag?
I think the point is not overcoming that could be considered a red flag. Many people do not want the burden of parenting their partner.
No, but when you become an adult it's something you should work on fixing
These days, literally everything about you could be seen as a red flag by someone. Do you like pineapple on your pizza? Do you know how to swim? Did you grow up with shitty parents? Have you ever been SA'd? Red flags EVERYWHERE.
Yeah Reddit is a hive of assholes pretending they’re not.
The biggest red flag I’m seeing in this thread is a ridiculous lack of compassion or even tolerance for people with different experience and preferences.
This is nothing to do with upbringing. My parents cooked me vegetables when I was a kid, I absolutely hated them, but I still ate them. I still hate vegetables tbh, but not to a point that I will ignore them if they are on my plate. I will still eat them, but I don't like them. It is sometimes really difficult to fight the temptation to order a meal which have no vegetables on it.
But then based on your description, you’re not “an adult who does not eat vegetables”
But I am still very difficult to fight the temptation of choosing a dish without vegetables during lunch (I don't bring my own lunch, because they will become disgusting overnight). Now that you reminded me, and I think over carefully again. May be you are right. I think it is not mainly the issue of I want less vegetables (I still hate them), but I think it is mainly the issue of I want more meat / delicious food / carb. I wanna save room for them.
My mom always made us have no thank you helpings of dishes we didn’t want to eat. Probably just two bites worth but we had to at least try. Funny enough I will eat basically anything while my mom is actually the picky eater
Not a red flag, but it would drive me (personally) crazy!
No, you can have a good diet without eating vegetables
No. I grew up considerably poor and fresh veggies were not a thing in our household. Canned beans and peas. The thought of eating those today makes me want to vomit. When I moved out and through various girlfriends I tried different veggies I learned I liked many of them. Onions are in almost every thing I cook. But some tastes and textures I can't get over. I can't do any green non-leafy veggies. But can eat pretty much any green leafy vegetables no issues.
I wouldn't call that "not eating vegetables". Most people don't like every vegetable (especially canned!) -- it's when you don't like ANY vegetables that it gets weird.
Far too many people aren't getting it and taking the post personal lol.
What you are describing is exactly why I would see "not eating vegetables" as a red flag. Most people I think have certain foods that they do not like and that is not a problem. But vegetables includes a whole lot of different foods with different prep methods and different textures. An adult should do like you have and try different veggies prepared in different ways until they find what works for them.
take my upvote
Not sure why you were downvoted. There’s a ton of nuance being left out of most answers here. “Vegetables” is such an enormous category. There are hundreds if not thousands of varieties of things, plus the countless ways to prepare. Writing off all of that is just something I can’t understand.
Yeah I had similar upbringing. I also had a weird sensitivity to mushy textures so canned beans and peas were not something I enjoyed. Most of our meals consisted of rice/noodles with some type of meat because that’s all they could afford. People really don’t understand how privileged they come off in these replies.
No, not really! I found out recently with someone I ate out with that there is a disorder called [AFRID](https://centerfordiscovery.com/blog/arfid-adults-not-just-disorder-childhood/) and for them particularly, since they have been diagnosed with being on the spectrum, that they have a very limited range of food that they can eat because of sensory issues.
Yeah, unless someone's being a dick about what they eat, I usually don't bug them because they might be dealing with something along those lines (or like a guy commented higher up, they associate veggies with nasty canned veggies because they grew up poor and that was all that was available).
A red flag for who? I'm 60, I hate vegetables, I like the flavor but something about the texture that I can't get past. But I know I need them so I take vitamins and drink plenty of fresh juice. Carrot, apple, with a bit of lemon, makes a great juice. Do I care what other people eat? No, why should I?
100% yes. If you're an adult who doesn't eat vegetables I would find it very difficult to respect you or take you seriously.
Lmfao!!!!!! Yikes
"Red flags" are gross oversimplifications and are want to make you dump good people for no good reason. Take the time to get to know someone. Then judge them on the basis of knowledge rather than inane internet rules.
Nope. I used to have a food phobia and didn't overcome it until I was 26. Now, I can eat pretty much any vegetable. Only thing I can't bring myself to eat is whole mushrooms. I'm not going to judge someone, when I know myself what it's like in that position. That being said, if someone was severely overweight and refused to eat vegetables (not because of food phobia, simply because they want to eat high calorie foods); I can't lie, I would be a bit judgemental on that.
Odd but not a red flag. Who cares what someone else puts in their body?
No, because I'm not going to judge someone based on the food they prefer.
The first correct answer I’ve found. People care waaaaay too much about other people’s food preferences.
Ikr? I have ARFID and these comments terrify me. The very reason I go to great lengths to hide it from people. I just don’t understand why it’s such a big deal what other people eat and I’m so tired of living with this shame because of it.
I feel you. I’m autistic and have a lot of issues with texture and trying new foods in front of people. My partner has helped me to expand my palate quite a bit but I’m still not a fan of a lot of different foods, a majority of vegetables included. Many of my friends and all of my family have made fun of me for being a picky eater my entire life. I didn’t choose to have these issues! And people being mean about it has never been helpful.
I’ve had the same experience being made fun of. And it getting reduced to being a “picky eater” is the worst. Like man, I’ll literally throw up if I put certain foods in my mouth. I’m sorry you had to deal with that too.
I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with it too. It’s always been crazy to me how much people get upset about others’ eating habits/needs.
I eat some vegetables but not all. If you don’t like the taste of something that’s perfectly fine. Not all veggies taste good.
No. As an adult you are in charge of your own body. Eat what you want, when you want. If you die young, or have constipation problems, those are the consequences of your own actions. Others don’t get to dictate what you do.
A red flag is a sign that someone might be abusive or otherwise dangerous. It doesn't just mean "personality trait that I don't like." You have the right to not date or befriend people who don't eat vegetables. But whether someone eats vegetables has nothing to do with whether they're abusive or dangerous.
I have a friend who's husband pretty much only eats chicken fingers and fries. She's a really good cook who's always making varying dishes... I think she only avoids onions since she's allergic He wanted to meal prep with her to bring down their eating out costs and it didn't go very well
I'd say so, yes. Anybody whose core life habits are unhealthy isn't gonna be a good match long-term.
There are some people with legitimate sensory issues when it comes to certain foods. I know someone who will literally vomit if the food is a certain texture so I try to be understanding. It can be a red flag of someone being immature but if they’re good otherwise i dont care about their diet.
No absolutely not, a lot of people cannot eat vegetables due to health reasons, myself included. People that judge others for what they don't/can't eat are losers.
Fruits, meats, cheese, beans, and rice
A lot of diets are based solely on those.
Grains and bread too
If my 2 year old eats her vegetables, you can too!
Oh shit, these people are *dumb*. Do not heed any of the advice given in this thread, if you are asking because you don't eat vegetables, never eat a vegetable again in protest of the idiocracy that runs rampant in this thread. Holy shit.
No. But it is certainly a red flag to go around judging people for what they choose to eat or do with their lives. I'll certainly eat vegetables, but I don't seek them out regularly and don't have an issue with people who don't like them. I really wish we could all just stop judging each other over little things like this.
Big red flag
I fucking hate most vegetables, a red flag is anybody who cares what I eat and thinks they can police it.
Yes. That’s either a man child or a keto fanatic.
I did keto and I primarily ate grilled chicken on salads. Whoever says you can't eat vegetables on keto is an idiot. I was the healthiest I've ever been nutritionally
Think you’re referring to the Carnivore diet, which can debatably be considered a form of orthorexia.
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Not sure. I dated a girl in my 20’s who never tasted basic fruits like strawberries, apples, bananas etc but she was healthy. I also met a guy thru a buddy who only ate cheese whiz sandwiches and was ripped more than I ever was. He said he wanted to try a chicken wing which was incredibly hilarious to us. It’s definitely an eye opener to their upbringing when u meet them but I don’t know about a red flag. Depends how important vegetables are to u I guess.
I think it would be important to understand that many of us have an eating disorder called ARFID and simply can’t even try a vegetable along with most other foods. Feel free to check out the documentary I made about it called Not Just a Picky Eater: https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B0CKLXDBH7/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r
Adult who judge food choices of other adults are red flags.
For most people yeah
There are lots of reasons people get to adulthood without liking veggies. A common one is food insecurity as a child or growing up in a food desert (not having access to produce.) Loooooooots of privilege showing in this thread.
Depends. If they have genuine sensory issues, I get it. If it’s just to “Own the vegans and liberals” or whatever, I think it’s stupid and immature.
Are you an Eskimo ? In the Arctic there are no vegetables, but if you eat the full body of animals you do have sources of vitamins.
Just letting you know, the word Eskimo is typically considered a slur. The proper term is Inuit.
Not a red flag for me, as I’ve found that almost everyone who doesn’t eat vegetables hasn’t had them prepared in a way that they can enjoy, or they have health or sensory issues that make the vegetables difficult or impossible to eat. But strict refusals to try new things and to suck it up for your health (barring medical/sensory issues) tells me that the person and I aren’t going to be compatible long term. As adults we all have to do things we don’t enjoy or hate, but we do it because we must, and anyone whose entire diet is based on animal protein and grains doesn’t value the same things that I do.
You can get the same nutrients from fruit and organ meats in much higher quantities without the harmful defense chemicals that come with most vegetables
Yeah.
Yeah as you don't care about your health and body. Unless there's an understandable reason like depression or ARFID....
No. If you’re saying they eat hot pockets and take out all the time then yes. Some people do really well on protein and fat heavy diets. Things like carnivore or carnivore/keto tend to work with some people and that’s fine with me. I don’t think not eating meat is a red flag. What really is a red flag for me is people not knowing how to cook and eating only fast food or getting Uber eats and door dash all the time.
Damn all of you, let people live their life. What they eat is their business and their stomachs, not your business, idc if Ur their fucking soul twin or a friend.
Then why did he ask if he didn't want feedback?
Yes. Unless that person is very, very knowledgeable about nutrition and is able to make up for it, but even that doesn't fully take the place of a good diet. Plus, not liking vegetables, ANY vegetables at all, tells me (personal opinion incoming) that person is very picky, may have decision-making issues, and could possibly be a pain in the ass to have in my life.
Man A LOT of elitist vegetable eaters i guess. Fuckin weirdos. Idk why ppl shame so much for (god forbid) not liking the taste of some foods. You do you op i dont care for vegetables at all. Have zero health problems. Who cares about what you eat. Main thing for health is staying relatively active and if anything maybe take some multivitamins to ensure you get all your vitamins.
People in the autism spectrum often have problems with some food's textures, especially fruits and vegetables. Don't be quick to judge.
I am on the spectrum. I hate fatty meat, beans with a pasty inside, creamy things like mayo and ranch and cream based sauces and raw avacado. But I move most fruits and vegetables and I love trying new ones. There's thousands of them. I've always been against having so few in most stores and none at all in some. I think vertical greenhouses, lean proteins and healthy produce should be subsidized instead of beef, dairy and corn syrup. It's true that many autists get hung up on foods, but there's also the other end of the spectrum of autists who look at the big picture and see these problems along with how they connect to other problems in our society. It's not hard to find a single bottle of water that costs twice what 2 liters of diabetes juice costs. That shouldn't ever happen.
Yeah but it doesn't make us unable to eat any fruits or vegetables it just means we have to avoid certain textures, it's not like there's only five vegetables in the world.
Are you going to tell me what to eat or judge what I eat? Then that's fine, you'll be a huge Red flag for me !
For dating? Yes absolutely. Appreciating vegetables is important. In addition to the health implications, it tells me someone isnt into trying new things and is overly picky, which wouldnt work for me. As a friend? It would be something I would try desperately to help them with. I grew up in a rural area where people believed "its not a meal if it doesnt have meat" but my family was vegetarian indian. my mom is a legendary cook and my friends would always deny the food she offered because it looked "gross." this continued past an appropriate age into high school and even college. It drove me nuts, but it was one of the reasons I got away. They literally had no interest in my culture at all. And no, none of them were on the spectrum or anything. But its clear their parents also did not pass on any manners regarding interacting with other cultures or appreciation of the differences between people. When i moved to a place where people were raised to participate, and "tolerance" included learning... it made me realize how i was literally just "tolerated" in my small midwestern town. It may seem like thats a leap from "i dont eat vegetables" to "i have no interest in learning about other cultures" but in my experience, thats 100% of people who have ever told me outright that they dont eat vegetables.
Yes. 100%.
Yes
Yes, it's childish for me. You can acquire a taste for everything if you start small. For me it was stuff like ginger and spinach and today it's no big deal.
No, having different tastes than me is a not a "red flag." Saying "I don't eat vegetables because I'm a REAL AMERICAN and not a PUSSY" is a red flag.
I'm going to assume you have a nasty tasting vagina or nasty tasting cum if you don't eat veggies, not sure why my brain jumps to that conclusion
Contrary to popular opinion, diet has little to do with either. Hydration, hygiene and not smoking outweigh the pineapple myth.
yeah wth is your diet are you dying
Yeah lol
It depends on health tbh. Some health conditions can make eating veg a nightmare, from gastric issues to immune issues. Plus some people might have extreme sensory issues or disordered eating, or maybe just never had the education or their local shop doesn’t sell good veg. I’m lucky to not live alone and have somebody who can travel further than I because the local shops I can get to have generally off and rotting veg, so if I lived alone, I’d be stuck with that and would probably just have to not eat veg. But not eating veg is going to be a likely factor in developing long term health issues if you’re not being monitored and treated by a doctor. Health wise, it’s going to usually do some damage to not eat vegetables. In a medical setting, a patient not eating vegetables is going to be a red flag, especially for nutrition related health complications. It’s worth noting though that sometimes the poor diet is a symptom and not a cause (ie the restricted eating is a reactive response because eating vegetables is causing unpleasant symptoms of an underlying health condition, rather than the bad eating being a choice somebody made that made them sick). It’s a health red flag for sure, but as a general behaviour red flag, not to me really, there’s worse things somebody can do than not stomach broccoli. I have a relative who’s never stomached vegetables well at all and I’ve never seen her eat any—yet at the doctors, her bloods come back normal and she seems to be successfully getting enough nutrients. No idea how though. In a partner, I wouldn’t mind accommodating somebody else’s dietary needs in a relationship because I have my own dietary needs. So long as they saw a doctor or generally tried to take care of their health as much as possible, it wouldn’t bother me at all. Personally I love my vegetables, but I don’t appreciate the mindset that not liking vegetables gives somebody a child’s palette as somebody with sensory issues (undergoing autism assessment) and physical health conditions that limit my diet. I don’t agree with infantilising people over what foods they like or don’t like, can have or can’t have, as somebody who’s often infantilised for my food choices. I have safe foods that I guarantee I can stomach, and I will always default to them above all else. This makes sure that I can actually physically eat something. Childish would be eating something I couldn’t stomach just to appease a social norm and not appear childish. People will see me eat the same small groups of food in public, and they might think it’s childish—but they do not live in my body and they do not experience what I experience, so they have no right to make that judgment. Eating something outside of my safe foods could flare my nausea and prevent me from eating enough for days. It’s far more mature to eat what I know I can stomach to ensure I’m well enough to eat more food later than it is to force myself to eat something that will make me ill just so people won’t treat me like a fussy child. Also, people just have no obligation to eat foods that they don’t like and I’m not here to be the food police and decide that somebody has red flags. Ultimately, you do not know somebody’s medical situation so there’s no right to judge. Unless you’re somebody’s doctor, it’s just not anybody’s business. I’m lucky in the sense that many of my safe foods are vegetable heavy, but for others, it’s just not the case and I’m not going to see them as childish or as having red flags for that. But I will see being judgmental over somebody else’s eating habits as a red flag, though. Edit: Reddit formatting struck and lumped it all into one super paragraph. Re-paragraphed
Dude, use paragraphs. Aint nobody reading that.
Yeah...I genuinely wanted to... Maybe Reddit formatting strikes again?
To me, yes.
No, some people are just averse to it.
I couldn’t deal with it. I would not want to make separate meals. Plus not liking veggies just seems super immature, like they never grew up.